#Part 1 I guess

[selectivechaos]

social factors in social anxiety

this is a kind of long post because im just blabbing and i really fucking love sociology.

but i wanted to talk with some nuance about how changes in environment can alleviate and worsen situational mutism. 🌹🌹

i had a post a while back that i cannot find or fully remember. but it was about how situational mutism can improve and it was basically critiquing the idea that selectively mute people above a certain age cannot get better.

generally on my blog i have critiqued the misconception that someone can simply ‘grow out of’ a mental disorder or that selective mutism is a ‘childhood’ disorder which can only develop in childhood. these are misconceptions.

in that particular post i think i talked about how sudden changes in life circumstances and in the general social situations an individual is in can lead to the alleviation of their selective mutism. i can’t remember if i put it in the post, but at the time i was scared that this wouldn’t happen for me. it was right before moving to a different city to study at a different university away from where i had lived all my life.

i was scared to believe in a magical ‘cure’ for all ills despite my therapist at the time expressing hope that it would be. and i didn’t (and still don’t) believe it’s fair to pin all hope on a life change to uproot all anxieties and change an individual’s core condition (firmly-held beliefs about the self such as ‘i’m not good enough’ or ‘i deserve less’).

it’s not fair on the person for whom it might not happen, or on the person for whom a major change in their life makes their sm worse, or for the person whose sm gets better but their hard work in resolving those cognitive distortions and reducing their anxiety is overruled as simply a ‘change in environment’.

but i want to say that it can always get better. no matter your age or how long you’ve struggled with mental illnesses, or whether or not your life circumstances change, it can always get better. and i also want to say that it is always hard, and your anxiety may never be fully ‘gone’ or significantly reduced no matter how hard you work at it because sometimes the environment really is a crucial part of the problem.

cultures of bullying exist,

dangerous areas with higher rates of anti-social behaviour exist,

areas you grew up in where you have memories of bullying but can’t afford to leave exist.

sometimes, and for some people, (and this is the sociologist in me speaking), there are more situations that can provoke social anxiety triggers. that doesn’t mean you can’t reduce your anxiety or work on your cognitive distortions. it just means that it is harder.

i am gonna talk in another post about how changes in environment can be actually pretty magical in alleviating social anxiety particularly because of the significance of social factors in mental illness.

but i did want to start off with this ridiculously long post to just highlight that nothing is a magical ‘cure-all’ and that just because i highlight social factors in mental illness, it doesn’t mean i am not an advocate for the notion that working hard enough or having enough ‘initiative’ to change your life or push outside your comfort zone can cure you. in fact, i hope this post demonstrates how focusing on the social factors actually leads to the conclusion that many things are above and beyond the control of the individual in terms of their life circumstances. meaning that you have agency but your mental illness is never in any way your ‘fault’ and often people like to blame the individual or their phone. saying like people with depression are ‘too lazy’ or people with anxiety are ‘too shy’ or ‘not trying enough’. which is bullshit.

if u read this far have a nice day and uhhhhh fuck social anxiety🌹🌹

[noemitenshi]

Excerpt

Crazy Dog didn’t look violent now. Moody, yes. Annoyed that he had to be here – though what did he have to be annoyed by Troy didn’t know. They’d won after all and he felt bile rise at that thought. At having failed so abysmally. The ranch had lost, it was written on the faces of his comrades. And he was just sitting around like an asshole, fantasizing… he was sick.

And the Indian – the Indian kept stealing glances at him, too, their gazes meeting more than once and Troy burned to know what was going on behind those dark eyes. It felt like a calling, the more it was happening – or a taunt. ‘I know what you want from me – but you’re not getting it now.’

Oh, how he wished he could just punch that face. But no, he wouldn’t start anything. He wouldn’t. He owed that to Jake.

So he just sat there, averting his eyes whenever their gazes met, trying to at least keep his companions’ spirits up or whatever talking shit about the Indians qualified as. Even Terrance, who normally steered clear of the militia, like all teens, seemed to want their support now. Things really had to be dire for him to suck it up and come sit at their table.

His and the Indian’s eyes met again and Troy lost his train of thought…

[peach-sea]

Cringetober Day 1. Screenshot Redraw

inspired by this early eah scene where raven "lets her bad side out" playing guitar and my cousin and I go "apple's probably losing it" and then they cut to her and she's making this face ↓

[ponury-grajek]

don't talk to him he's angy 🐈

[akai-anna]

one of the best things in detco: conan and shinichi appearing side by side in frames/panels

another note: shinichi literally forgetting he's kudou shinichi bc he got used to being conan. iconic. it slipped his mind. oops.

[yomeiu]

Rainy

[toastingpencils37]

Just like the Merge took Arin's parents, it also took the Monastery dragon's wings

[cerealmonster15]

skully (scully??) in his element: alone in a quiet dark room with NOTHING but a single pumpkin and a light inside😌

[multiseb21]

F1 drivers as tweets that made me laugh this month 🫡 (part 2)

[orphiclovers]

It's sort of implied Yoo Joonghyuk starts off every regression in his signature outfit already and I have. Headcanons on how that is possible.

It's explicitly stated in canon that his coat does not travel back to him when he regresses (kdj says so to sp), so the two possibilities are either he buys it as soon as possible and just does the first couple scenarios in a normal outfit (boring, unsupported by canon) or... he was already wearing the coat on the day the scenarios started. Which is what I think, and is more interesting. Since those coats already have so much narrative weight in yjh's story let me add a little more.

I think when Yoo Joonghyuk spawned into existence on the side of the road one day, he was wearing the full WoS outfit, coat included. Because, what else would the protagonist wear? This was the only outfit he was written in.

Eventually, he of course did buy normal clothes (in yoo mia side story, which happens a few years later, he wears 'an old jacket') but that coat he started off with with would have been one of the very few pieces of evidence of his supposed 'past' that he wanted to discover so badly. So even if he stopped wear it day-to-day, I think he wouldn't have gotten rid of it.

For years, A Black Infinite Dimention Space Coat hangs in his closet, totally anachronistic in a pre-scenarios world. Like Yoo Joonghyuk himself.

It's important to note that on the day the scenarios started, Yoo Joonghyuk was taking the train to meet his parents for the first time. Perhaps he felt the need to dress up, and what better way than the unusual clothing he wore on the first day he remembers? He would have finally gotten the answers he had been looking for - perhaps even to the comparatively insignificant question of why he was wearing this coat when he forgot his past.

Well, his parents house was empty, but he still gets the answer to his questions eventually, when at 7 p.m on the ride back, the scenarios start.

In a bitter irony, that outfit he chose to wear on that day would be what he wore for the next thousand regressions. But of course, it never could have happened any other way.

[shobogan]

[rontra]

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the school festival, part 1

well, it's important to learn how to organize and problem-solve independently, but it's also important to learn that you can & should ask for help when you need it. right? (looking at kawakami) RIGHT?

i miss becky so bad i need maid time soon

[cluescorner]

A Batman who kills people is a bad Batman. Except for Terry because he is my special boy. Terry can drown a man it's ok. He can literally shatter a woman it's fine.

[kroosluvr]

spare bento [ part 1 / you are here! / part 3 ]

"kasumi was always so insistent about that. ...and, thinking about it now, i guess she was right all along."

[egophiliac]

HELLOOOO HAVE YOU SEEN LILIA'S DORM CARD YETTTT

personally, what made me most gleeful about the update news is that the part 2 description implies that they forgot to invite Malleus to Lilia's farewell party. god yes rub that salt into the wound, Monday can't come soon enough

[h-didanart]

I could try to make this a whole comic, but I don’t have the patience to. So….

Bloodmoon giggled to himself as he scurried away. It wasn’t always that he could get such a good glance at the Daycare idiot’s daily routine, but when he did, boy was it a blast.

Some odd creature emerged from the portal and some confrontation took place, he was excluded from it, having been up in the rafters and all, so he had been in a perfect position to see the absolute frustration in the Sun-Man’s face as the creature toppled over his precious barrel towers, and then, and then— he snorted just remembering— and then the Sun-Man chased around the creature screaming every single swear word that could ever be said.

He had almost fallen off the rafters from laughing too hard, which had sadly gotten him spotted by the computer, which meant he had to leave. But still, it had been very amusing, so now he was on his way to the place he and the little Pumpkin Sprout usually met at— the theatre basement, with its infinite food supply and stuff— and he was going to talk to them about it, because they had to know.

He entered the space, bouncing in place at seeing the pumpkin bot already there, and he approached them.

Hmm, Little Sprout didn’t usually go for knives that quickly. Nor did they usually tackle him that quickly, nor would they aim for his eye, nor would they be the ones to start a sneak fight, nor— okay this was just not how Jack normally acted. Which meant…