#NEW BEHAVIOR GENERATOR

[bixels]

Hey, I need some advice. For anyone experienced with kids, how do you deal with young children with hyperactive ADHD. I’m doing well babysitting but I’m afraid of being a pushover and letting these two kids get away with too much, especially when they’re rough-housing.

[bigskydreaming]

Imagine if you were a gay or bi man who tried a certain firefighter show because of all the attention it was getting for one of its mains having a later in life bi awakening.....and between seasons you ventured into its fandom in search of material to tide you over til the next one. And you're greeted by a deluge of posts and fics that are just cheerfully homophobic towards one half of the newly out bi character's canon relationship on the basis of 'well he's not the RIGHT gay guy' and pushing the idea that actually its fine to cheat on him because Reasons and he's sexually predacious based on......behind the scenes implications people have divined like they're reading fucking tea leaves.

But don't get it twisted....this fandom, like all fandoms, really cares about representation!

Sorry not sorry, but we really need to kill this idea that fandoms are welcoming and inviting and inherently progressive when they're frequently insular and reductive as fuck. Every single fandom I've been in has had major trends of people doubling down on their own headcanons and fanon interpretations of the characters and willfully enacting trends aimed at running off people who like the 'wrong' characters (usually characters marginalized along one or multiple axes), like the characters in the 'wrong ways' or other bullshit.

Scott is a Bad Friend fics overtaking Teen Wolf fandom was not incidental, it was a FEATURE of the fandom, because the vast majority of that fandom did not want to share its space with anyone who had the nerve to like its main character. Survivors complaining about or criticizing the prevalance of rape fics in a certain fandom has in my experience always led to a reactionary UPTICK in those fics, with gems like 'this character can, will, must be raped' in the tags making it crystal clear that some of these fics exist because how fucking DARE anyone try and push forth a narrative not agreed upon by Fandom Main.

I could cite examples for so many other fandoms, with the commonalities always being that vast majorities in these fandoms are explicitly reacting defensively to being asked to be more mindful of fandom trends revolving around or exacerbating racism, homophobia, transphobia, rape or abuse apologia, ableism, etc....

With the most prolific fucking rallying cry across countless fandoms being "No the fuck we will NOT be doing that," because lolololol.....

Fandom is an inherently progressive space, didn't you hear?

[pigeon-butch]

I certainly have my own concerns about the treatment of moo deng but um. well i think some of you may just be racist

[here-there-were-dragons]

i'm seeing three times as many people bitching in the tag about the very idea that someone might not like this breed than i see people actually expressing unambiguous dislike for this breed

[al-luviec]

still haven't moved on from zane in this episode (aka I hit tag limit again and am unhappy about it)

[marc--chilton]

i can imagine that house would want his daughter to know her grandma. but does house ever let john near giselle? does wilson know about all that john has done?

good question! i only actually just started figuring out a better timeline for when giselle's born and settled on a post-birthmarks point and just sort of futz with canon after that point. so giselle doesn't ever meet john, but given how stressed house gets when his dad gets brought up, she pieces some stuff together and finds she's not exactly heartbroken to not know him. she has a nice relationship with granny blythe though her shortcomings as a beta who doesn't have strong instincts can ring pretty loud sometimes -- she hasn't changed since house was a kid in that way, so it's sort of a raw spot all around.

i'm gonna be so fr right now. i feel like whenever house opens up about like his childhood or trauma or what have you he like barely gets any comfort and i'm a little mad about it! so i take advantage of having a bad memory and trick myself into thinking over the course of the 'birthmarks' trip wilson ended up garnering a lot of reluctant sympathy for house bc he was genuinely so pitiful trying to convince wilson to let him off the hook by explaining a little of how awful john was to him. the stuff house has hinted before but wilson had just chalked it up to that just being john drawing on military knowledge for discipline (which. isn't entirely wrong i guess. but it was very much abuse too)

BUT

if john WERE still alive. oughh. blythe would want to visit immediately after giselle's birth and she'd drag john with her despite knowing how poorly john and house get along. she doesn't even consider the danger -- actual danger, real harm -- that could ensue if house doesn't want to see his dad. haywire hormones and high instinctual drive to protect his newborn pup could very well lead to a physical altercation that even if house won would still hurt him terribly.

and even with the lax attitude wilson holds for the father-son relationship, he too would get set off rejecting john's presence through sympathetic response to house's own distress on seeing him. bc like granted everything's running high in that timeframe, but now he's a parent too, and he just thinks on what house has told him in varying degrees of detail john's forms of punishment for minor infractions, and how when his dad's around, house's entire demeanor changes to uncharacteristically demure, polite, with a wariness that comes from experience.....

what's really sick is how john can just huff at house once as a warning if he starts acting up and house would heel with a flinch. he does it once when house had seen john reach for giselle while blythe was holding her. house's growling dies instantly (fearful, but mostly just resentful) but wilson's cranks up and he finally physically escorts john out of the room, who goes semi-willingly because frankly the whole thing just reminds him that his son's an omega so he didn't exactly love to be there either, he just came because blythe wanted him to.

[backpackingspace]

Listen. Listen it's a month into the clone wars and obi wan is buying Cody the good stuff(nice coffee), the council setting the clones up with jedi library access and signing them up for classes (college degrees for everyone), they're codifying their culture(they have records of everyones cultures. The clones are no different) , and teaching them that they are safe to be actual people.

[kelpiemomma]

He hesitated as the child below him smiled and reached up. His claws rested right above its head and yet it looked delighted to see him. Did it not realize the danger it was in? It grabbed his fur and giggled.

"Puppy!"

...if he was asked, he was simply raising it up to help him infiltrate human settlements better.

[btsbs]

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[thanatika]

low-coherency rambling in the tags

[wizardnuke]

you have the envisci majors who are visibly super into hiking/climbing and/or hunting you have the envisci majors with their bug print button ups and pins and you have me. some guy. cursed with tree knowledge

[hecksupremechips]

Time for me to be completely changed as a person! *just watched falsettos*

[mellotronmkll]

i like literally wish i didnt feel compelled to rewatch and relisten to the same things over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again its like actually really annoying and frustrating because i just feel like im constantly stuck in a loop doing the same things over and over but thats just literally what its like being autistic like its just frustrating cos i dont want to have to be constantly fighting with myself over it because its like okay we dont need to get stuck in the daily loop of walking in circles for hours listening to the same songs we've heard 200 times or sitting and watching things we've seen 30 times and there are better ways we could be spending our time but the compulsion is SO strong and its just Omfg like its just annoying and horrible because I have to force myself to try to break out of patterns I wish the constant compulsion I have to do the same things over and over and over and over and OVER AND OVER wasnt there at all because it would make things way easier for me and it just makes me feel so dumb.

[bidonica]

Rules: Shuffle your on repeat playlist and post the first 10 tracks, then tag ten people.

I was tagged by @nobodysuspectsthebutterfly and since I'm on desktop I also used this chance to update the covers of my newest spotify playlists with custom graphics because I'm Like That (used to do elaborate sleeve graphics on cassette mixes and burned CDs because I'm cassette mix years old)

Sick Love - Scanners

Once In a While - Rosegarden Funeral Party

Mary On A Cross - Ghost

I Don't Want To Fall In Love - She Wants Revenge

Space - Magic Wands

Perhaps - Guns 'n' Roses

Written in Blood - She Wants Revenge

BB's Theme - Ludwig Forssell & Jenny Plant

Half A World Away - REM

Ellipsis - Drab Majesty

non-binding tags for: @samshinechester, @forgottenbones, @pointlesslybirdie, @onionjulius, @figs-and-pomegranates, @melrosing, @heresiae, @spaceofentropy, @tenitchyfingers, @feydrautha

[apelcini]

it always feels strange saying that i had a shitty childhood because like. i did. but whenever i phrase it like that people always assume parental abuse or neglect and then i have to be like “oh no my parents were great it was just literally every other influence in my life that sucked” and we all just sit there silently for a minute while they freak out about accusing my parents of emotional neglect and i freak out because i said more than an off handed joke about my shitty childhood which is much too vulnerable and none of us enjoy it. so like what am i supposed to say then

[elvisqueso]

for some reason, the "cishets at pride" discourse is still going on and i only ever really see the One Tweet about it (which is usually a Sign that it's not actually as big of an issue as the rest of the internet made it seem), so I went to look at OP's tweets to see if there was more context and here's what I've learned:

the original tweet was meant to be a joke (i guess)

it exploded when other people took it personally (understandable, bc the internet) and then the Discourse started

the broad summary around the joke's sentiment is really that many queer women (especially queer women of color) are feeling less safe at PRIDE and in other queer spaces as more non-queer people become comfortable attending those spaces

their fears are generally reasonable and based on personal experiences with (usually white) cishet men harassing/assaulting them in places where they were meant to feel safe

they also feel that the community at large doesn't support them or believe them when they try and voice their fears

the other side— which took the tweet personally— are (i think at the general core) people who've often felt alienated in queer spaces bc they don't "perform queerness" in a certain way and so felt they weren't welcome at PRIDE or in queer spaces unless they conformed to someone else's ideas of queerness

basically, you have two sides with valid positions talking past each other. bc the internet

i think the thing to learn here is that the queer community at large needs to recognize that while it's REALLY GOOD that PRIDE has become more accessible and so "mainstream" society is becoming more accepting of queerness (and perhaps making people feel safer and more comfortable being out publicly in general as a result), there's also a responsibility to look after the vulnerable members of the community and not ignore them if they say they're feeling unsafe (because the previously more exclusive space is no longer as exclusive).

we should keep in mind that predatory men have ALWAYS invaded queer spaces with the express purpose of harassing queer people— especially queer women. that doesn't mean we need to constantly be on guard if a dude with a dick happens to be in the area (that's no way to live), but we do need to be realistic bc there is, unfortunately, a LOT of historical precedent.

he might not show up on your arm, but if a guy is at the event and he isn't acting right, then the community needs to stand by its most vulnerable members and protect them first.

at the same time: queerness is not actually an exclusive lil clique. it's a broad swathe of humanity. if you really, really can't feel safe or comfortable at public events bc you can't handle being around a certain kind of human to the point where you can't go to PRIDE bc some of those humans are gonna be there? that's 100% a you problem. have a private party about it with people who agree with you. then maybe talk to a therapist about finding a way to manage your phobia, bc that's what that is.

tl;dr: we need to take better care of each other.