#Men with gender identities attacking women only spaces

[honeyblankets]

the thing that first got me somewhat radical was the fact that trans ideology/logic crumples after one argument against it.

i literally started researching gender ideology to become a better trans ally, as did most of the radical feminists i interact with. i kept seeing people say “define a woman?” and i didn’t know how to answer it in a ‘trans-friendly’ way. all the trans activists i knew answered something like “someone who identifies as female” but how can you identify as a sex which you are not? or they answer as “anyone who identifies as a woman” but then, what is a woman? “it’s a gender identity” but gender isn’t real, it’s a social construct? so identifying as a woman is simply identifying as the stereotypes and gender roles assigned to women from the patriarchy. so i thought, that can’t be it, can it?

but it is. there is literally no legitimate answer to this question which agrees with trans ideology. then i question this, and get labelled a ‘terf’. i didn’t even know what that meant, i just knew i should hate them because the people i otherwise agreed with said that they were transphobic and sexist and hated women and were conservatives.

and then i started to think critically. i started to see news story after news story of women’s spaces being destroyed while men’s were left untouched in the name of “trans inclusivity”. i started to see posts with thousands of likes saying lesbians are bigoted for not wanting to have sex with males. i started noticing that medical terms were only ever deemed exclusive if they originally applied to women like “chest feeding” or “people with vulvas”. i started seeing people attack women relentlessly for simply questioning these things. i started noticing that the only people who ever benefited from trans ideology were males.

and now i’m kinda a radical feminist! :)

and it’s not scary and it’s not evil and it’s not exclusionary and it’s not bigoted. may all the feminists refraining from questioning trans ideology because of being ‘cancelled’ and berated discover their answers and feel free enough to speak their mind. xxx

[genderqueerdykes]

hi, i love your blog ❤️ i was wondering if you could talk a little about bi lesbians? as a gnc nb genderfluid femme bi dyke(fag) i'm again and again heartbroken by the hate and exclusion we get from fellow lesbians and especially from fellow femmes and it SUCKS to always have to check someones bio in fear and to be constantly likened to terfs and fascists. thank you 💖

hello there, sure! this is a great ask

i've observed that too- specifically in the white cis femme community, there is a lot of hostility toward lesbians who are attracted to men and/or have slept with men. a lot of it stems from lesbian separatism and radfeminism- a lot of white cis femmes get wrapped up in that culture very easily, unfortunately

there's a lot of hostility toward male and transmasculine lesbians in the white cis femme community. i love cis femmes, but unfortunately many have fallen down the terf rabbit hole and believe that lesbian means woman attracted woman only, and it's unfortunate, because it's such a narrow view on lesbianism and leaves out most of the varied and complex relationships with sexuality and gender when it comes to lesbianism. unfortunately many white cis femme lesbians get wrapped up in believing that any expression of masculinity beyond androgyny or soft butch is too "aggressive" or "hostile".

a lot of people hold the belief that for whatever reason a lesbian is "tainted" once they've slept with a man, as though other lesbians will catch some type of contageous disease just by being near a lesbian who sleeps with men. it's really childish behavior- it's okay to not be attracted to men, but it's not a personal attack when another lesbian does find men attractive. it doesn't say anything about you- your partner's sexual identity doesn't have to line up 1:1 with yours in order to be legitimate

i know MANY lesbians who are attracted to men in some capacity or another and don't even consider themselves bisexual. for some people they acknowledge that attraction but don't consider it to be something that changes who they are, and this is an okay expression of this experience as well

bi lesbians have always been a part of the community, there are many photographs from events both recent and further in the past that show support for and acknowledgement of bisexual lesbians. dyke marches in particular have been very inclusive spaces for bi lesbians, and queer protests and pride meetups usually have a good number of bi lesbians among the crowd. it's a term that's been used for decades, and the example that i have readily available is a comic strip written by Alison Bechdel in 1999:

there's no reason why lesbian/sapphic/dyke attraction would be "cancelled out" by being attracted to men- one does not stop having a sapphic relationship with other people just because they find men attractive, especially considering that some men are lesbians, too. genderfluid and bigender people exist as well and it's okay for lesbians to be attracted to people with multiple genders

a lot of butches identify as both men and women and it doesn't make their partners not lesbians to be attracted to them. lesbian attraction is complex and there is a lot more to it than just being attracted to women. there's a lot of culture rooted in genderfuckery here, and even if a lesbian is attracted to a cis man, it doesn't matter. that's still okay. it doesn't 'cancel out' their lesbianism

some bi lesbians aren't even attracted to men, but rather a multitude of other genders. that doesn't make them not lesbians, either. you don't just stop being a lesbian just because you're attracted to multiple genders. it doesn't change anything about you, especially not the rest of your identity and your focus in life. for some, the people they're attracted to is very important and for others it's just a fact of life that isn't their primary focus

it doesn't make a woman or lesbian "straight" to be attracted to genders other than women

i hope that was what you were looking for! if you have any questions feel free to ask!

[mariacallous]

Rep.-elect Sarah McBride (D-Del.), soon to be the first transgender member of Congress, was targeted by multiple Republican measures to bar transgender women from using Capitol bathrooms that align with their gender identity.

Democrats have rallied to McBride’s defense, accusing Republicans of bullying McBride and attacking other LGBTQ+ people who work at and visit the Capitol.

Democrats have tried to refocus the conversation on other issues important to voters, such as healthcare and the high cost of living — taking a page from McBride’s own political playbook.

At a Democratic caucus meeting Tuesday, Rep. Becca Balint (D-Vt.) watched as colleagues approached and offered their support to Rep.-elect Sarah McBride (D-Del.), who will soon be sworn in as the first out transgender member of Congress.

“We have your back,” Balint recalled her fellow representatives telling McBride. “We stand with you.”

At a Thursday event where incoming House freshmen got assigned offices, McBride’s name was met with the loudest applause.

According to Balint, co-chair of the Congressional Equality Caucus, many Democratic members are excited to welcome and meet McBride — not just as a queer history-maker, but as a new colleague whose reputation as an effective state legislator in Delaware preceded her to Washington.

The support has been intentionally loud, Balint said, because Democrats also want to send an unequivocal message to House Republicans who have targeted McBride with comments and actions in recent days that Democrats “are not going to retreat” on transgender rights.

“We have to absolutely recommit ourselves to this fight, for protecting everyone’s inherent dignity,” Balint said.

On Monday, Rep. Nancy Mace (R-S.C.) filed a resolution that would prohibit transgender women from using Capitol bathrooms that align with their gender identity. On Wednesday, House Speaker Mike Johnson (R-La.) announced a similar policy for Capitol bathrooms, locker rooms and changing rooms. The same day, Mace filed a bill that would expand such bans to federal facilities across the country.

Mace said her measures, which would require approval, are to protect women and girls, then launched a new line of merchandise to profit off her stance. She has previously espoused support for LGBTQ+ rights.

In issuing his bathroom rule, which falls under his purview as speaker, Johnson said, “Women deserve women’s-only spaces.” He also noted that all members have private bathrooms within their offices — though those can be far from the House floor.

The day prior, Johnson had responded to a question about the issue by stressing the need to “treat all persons with dignity and respect.”

Access to bathrooms has long been an issue for women at the Capitol, which originally operated on the presumption that legislators were men. Only after more and more women won seats in Congress and called out the dearth of facilities for them did the issue get resolved.

With the latest measures targeting McBride, Democrats say they are struggling to combat fresh discrimination in the same sphere — a backsliding they view as particularly cruel for its targeting of a single incoming legislator, and extra alarming for its potential to harm other queer people who visit or work in the Capitol.

“This incredibly craven and cruel attack directed at [McBride] was certainly intended to dehumanize her before she has even been sworn in, but it actually doesn’t just affect our first trans member of Congress,” Balint said. “It impacts all of the people who work on Capitol Hill who identify as trans and nonbinary. It impacts the reporters who cover the Hill that identify as trans and nonbinary. And it also impacts every single one of our constituents who come into the halls of Congress to meet with us.”

Speaking out in opposition to the measures is about supporting McBride, who is “a serious legislator” and wants to get to work on a range of tough issues without having to worry about where she can get to a toilet, Balint said. But it is also about “showing the LGBTQ community across the country that we are standing up for them and pushing back.”

The debate follows an election cycle steeped in anti-transgender rhetoric, when many Republicans — including President-elect Donald Trump — took to ridiculing Democrats over their support for transgender equality as a central campaign message, to the tune of hundreds of millions of dollars in collective ad spending.

“The Republican Party has laser-focused on transgender inclusion as something that it wants to roll back, and so the exciting addition of the first openly trans member of Congress has prompted a hideous response — which is [for them] to participate in an ad hominem attack that takes the form of exclusion,” said Kate Redburn, co-director of the Center for Gender and Sexuality Law at Columbia Law School.

Democrats have at times struggled to respond to the barrage of Republican attacks. However, in the last week, they seem to have landed on an approach out of McBride’s own playbook in Delaware — where she won a statewide congressional seat not by running away from her transgender identity and support for queer rights, but by contextualizing them alongside other important issues, such as the cost of living and access to healthcare.

Rep. Ayanna Pressley (D-Mass.) wrote on X on Tuesday that she is proud to serve alongside McBride, and that it was “disappointing to see Republicans pull stunts” attacking her.

“They should take a page out of Rep-Elect McBride’s book,” Pressley wrote, “and focus on actually governing.”

House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries (D-N.Y.) similarly questioned Republicans’ decision to start the next Congress by “bullying” McBride instead of focusing on real issues. “This is what we’re doing?” he said.

Rep. Jan Schakowsky (D-Ill.), who has a transgender grandson and has been outspoken against past anti-LGBTQ+ measures, hit a similar note in an interview Thursday, in which she called the Republican measures attacking McBride “absolutely outrageous” and “completely out of line.”

“What a ridiculous focus this is,” she said. “There are needs of many, many Americans who don’t have the healthcare that they need, seniors who can’t afford their medications. Those are the things that we should get to work on, that I’m sure Sarah would want to get to work on — and this is just off the deep end.”

In her own remarks, McBride has acknowledged what many view as the bigotry at the root of the Republican measures, but also tried to refocus the conversation on getting things done for her constituents.

“I’m not here to fight about bathrooms. I’m here to fight for Delawareans and to bring down costs facing families,” she said in a statement Wednesday. She said Johnson’s rules were an “effort to distract from the real issues facing this country,” but that she wouldn’t let them distract her — even as she follows them.

On Thursday, she made clear that she will work to ensure Capitol Hill is safe for everyone, including her LGBTQ+ constituents, but doesn’t plan on allowing “a right wing culture war machine” to turn her identity “into the issue.”

Lisa Goodman, a longtime LGBTQ+ activist in Delaware and friend of McBride’s, said the representative-elect’s family and friends back home “are disappointed that this is how people who are going to be her colleagues are greeting her.”

But they aren’t worried, Goodman said, because they know McBride is capable of navigating such waters.

“She can handle these attacks and keep focused on what is the big picture — what is important in the big picture — like no one I have ever met,” Goodman said.

Goodman said McBride has a rare talent for winning over people, which will serve her well in the coming months, as she gets to know her new colleagues — Democrats and Republicans alike.

“She’s just a deeply good person, and my hope is that, as her Republican colleagues in Congress get to know her, they will see her as a person and not as some unknown member of the trans community who they feel it’s OK to attack,” Goodman said.

Balint said several Republican House members have told her in private that they support the LGBTQ+ community and don’t support divisive policies. She said she hopes McBride’s kindness and humanity in the face of such attacks will bring those Republicans to her side — and maybe even inspire them to take a stand for her.

“It is their time to finally show some courage,” Balint said. “I’m asking them to stand up for the basic, inherent dignity of all of us here in this building.”

[theangryblackfem]

You're trying to pass off your transphobia as activism, but you aren't even doing it right???

The tag #radqueer doesn't refer to being a radical feminist and queer, it refers to being radically queer. Of course trans people are going to be there. You're also misspelling the transphobic dogwhistle of "wombyn". There's a B in there because it insinuates women have to have wombs. (Which isn't even true by the way. Plenty of cis women are born without wombs or have them removed even if you exclude trans women.)

So I see your posts whenever I scroll through the radqueer tag, to criticize them for things completely unrelated to being transgender, and every time I'm like wow. This radfem isn't remotely competent in her bigotry. She isn't just hurting other women but also her entire movement by posting like this.

Yellow!

I'm gonna use this ask to explain my current beliefs on gender, I'm not a know it all I'm still studying radfem theory, and queer history. I'll start top to bottom of this ask.

I've never once talked about trans people on this page, so I'm unsure of what transphobia you're talking about. This is probably one of the only times I'm going to talk about trans people, if I ever do again it'll be to talk gender as a whole, not being trans as a topic.

I assumed radqueer meant being radically queer, which I'd like to call myself that as I'm very forward with liberation for queer people as I'm a tremendously proud lesbian. #iloveyouladies💋 my target audience includes people who are also radically queer.

Unless I'm mistaken, which someone please tell me if I am, because I'm not trying to conform with any group that works against queer people's liberation, radical queerness advocates for dismantling heteronormative structures. That means deconstructing societal norms around gender, sexuality, and identity.

I'm well aware that includes trans people. Im a radical feminist and gender abolishonist, but I still hold space for trans peoples rights and their history. I critique the role of gender, I do not attack trans people as a demographic. A handful of radfems will disagree with me, but I believe it's better to put our energy on why people are transitioning, and what can we do to ensure that people do not change themselves for the sake of following gender stereotypes enforced by the patriarchy.

At the end of the day trans people are human beings, being trans does not automatically make you evil. Whilst there are trans people who do extremely evil deeds and use their identity as a cover up, that does not represent every single trans person to walk this earth.

As trans people deserve helathcare, to have rights, and exist in peace. I also believe they should have their own spaces, which would sort out the violence and discomfort against womyn in our spaces, and against the violence done to trans people.

I simply look at how gender imprisons us and how I can help abolish that cage rather than decorate it. I'm not going to take time out of my day and yell at trans people for being trans. It's weird and pointless, and I have better things to tackle.

No, I'm not misspelling women. I'm not highlighting female reproductive organs in the word womyn. That's pointless because that doesn't define a womyn. I'm spelling it this way to decentre men. Oddly enough, I've never seen it spelt that way before, I don't normally spend my time in HEAVY terf territory, they scare me...gives me the heebiejeebies. Anyways, not every female has working reproductive organs, or any at all, some of my sisters out there have had them removed (I salute you sis 🫡) so it would be silly of me to spell it like that.

Overall, I understand that a lot of radqueers would not identify me as being radically queer, since I'm a gender abolishonist not a gender expansionist, which is a small shame but oh well oh well. Regardless I will always advocate for my lesbian sisters, the homosexuals, and the bisexuals big kisses and hugs.

Anywho, if anyone would like to inform me on radical queerness beyond what I already know about it, please feel free, because I'm sensing a misunderstanding here, just a hunch tho.

If someone tells me they fucked up the meaning of radqueer, I'm gonna lose my marbles </3

[punk1npink]

brb, off to go piss in the women's toilets!!!

because now, as a (trans) man in the uk, i am legally required to do that.

yesterday, the uk supreme court updated the definition of a woman to be based on biological sex.

this is a direct attack on trans people, and their right to enter spaces aligning with their gender identity

this will not protect women.

this will only harm trans people.

and now, as of 18/04, tfl has updated their policy on strip searches, meaning that trans women will have to be strip searched by men, and trans men by women. tell me again how exactly this is meant to protect women.

[thehellnoelle]

It's that time of year for trans man/transmasc/he/him lesbian discourse that only exists online and is solely perpetuated by jobless teenagers who have never interacted with a GNC queer person

God forbid a community built on gender-nonconformity and the dissolution of arbitrary, binary boxes includes people that don't conform to gender roles or fit into arbitrary binary boxes

He/him and transmasc lesbians have existed longer than a lot of us have been alive, and our progress as a community would be a fraction of what it is now without them

"It invalidates lesbians and trans men!" No it fucking doesn't because everyone's relationship to gender and sexuality is different and no one is the Supreme Arbiter of Queer Identities. Your existence and identity are not invalidated by someone else living their own life in a way that you don't understand. Sometimes it's ok to not understand things, you need to learn that and kill the cop in your head

"That means cis men can be lesbians!" Even if this argument wasn't a blatant strawman (it is), so fucking what. Again, how does it affect you? It doesn't, you just are so obsessed with labels that you think everyone has to fit in your little boxes for them to be valid

"Lesbian means women loving women/nonmen loving nonmen!" Lesbian is an identity with nuance and history and culture. It's not a fucking dictionary definition thay exists in a vacuum. Just because it might be cut and dry for you doesn't mean everyone has to fit in your constricted worldview that's influenced by cisheteronormativity and assimilationism

"If we don't maintain a strict definition for lesbian (meaning woman-loving-woman), anyone can be a lesbian!" First off, why do you hate having more lesbians? Examine that. Second off, apply this argument instead to "same sex marriage" and realize how fucking stupid and bigoted this argument is. If someone says, "if we don't maintain a strict definition for marriage (a holy union between one woman and one man), then anyone can get married!" It's literally the same talking point that bigots use to deny our personhood, rights, and equal treatment as queer people

This shit is so exhausting, especially nowadays when queer people (ESPECIALLY TRANS PEOPLE) are being systemically attacked and historically erased. Like we have bigger fish to fry, can we as a community like take a break from the infighting until our lives aren't literally in the fucking crosshairs of a fascist dictator

Fellow trans people, I love you and you're valid. Transmascs, I love you and you're valid. Transmasc lesbians, I love you and you're valid. If anyone has an issue with that, in the community or not, fun fact: ACAB includes the cops in your head, so shut the fuck up and learn a thing or two about queer history, butch lesbian history, and trans history. If you're not attracted to transmasc people, then you don't have to date them. That doesn't give you the right to exclude them from spaces they've occupied for longer than you've started taking up oxygen in utero

Christ, we can't keep doing this y'all

[wolfertinger]

The way Wis & Co. use the word 'transmisogyny' doesn't really differ from the way some abusive individuals who just happen to be autistic, pin every attempt to hold them accountable for abuse and/or bigotry down to:

"You're just attacking me for being AUTISTIC so actually you are the abusive bigot monster here. :/ Why is everyone trying to SOCIALLY MURDER autistic people!?!"

If Wis wasn't transfem and wouldn't be able to abuse the transmisogyny term, she'd use something else. Like manipulators always need some story that makes criticizing them have the optics of "punching down on such a struggling person".

And all of this sucks because this behaivior creates people who have only ever heard of transmisogyny in a context like Wis-like behaivior. It will make it harder to talk about transmisogyny where it really happens. And society already doesn't take transmisogyny seriously enough, let alone know enough about it. ESPECIALLY its intersection with race and class is neglected by white trans people with big platforms.

This is a really bad political climate to be eroding the meaning of words that give marginalized people language to address systemic abuse and bigotry.

Wis herself perpetuates a world that is worse for trans women, by eroding the meaning of transmisogyny.

The Baeddel ideology (*baeddel being an intersex slur appropriated by perisex trans folks who wanted to make a "pro-transfem" version of radfem ideology) which is just repackaged reactionary radfem shit (inherently racist, intersexist, exorsexist, antitransmasculine and anti-intersectional, - ironically also transmisogynistic since it forces transfems+women to feel dirty about pre-transition life + have to fight to prove to be woman/fem enough to matter) infects many trans spaces so badly that I've actually seen and firsthand experienced several times how misuse of "transmisogyny" has become certain abusive individuals' shield.

I notice Wis started to go from a more broadly trans-friendly person to an increasingly baeddelist/transradfem leaning, the more she began publically foam-mouthing about an abuse victim she hates.

Being transmasc myself I was super disappointed to notice that shift, even before I knew the rest of this iceberg...

Radfem ideology, including the OG white cis lesbian separatist radfems who had a vitriolic hatred of trans people and bisexual women, - and black women who felt more kinship with black men than white women who weaponize their tears against black ppl regardless of gender to instigate antiblack violence, - is ALWAYS a haven for abusers and bigots.

TERFs are radfems. The cis woman TERFs screaming at transfems, erasing nonbinary people and demonizing transmasc bodily autonomy are frequently outed as serial sexual abusers, like Lily Cade.

The original social circle where transradfem/baeddel ideology was created, revolved around a trans woman who abused other, vulnerable trans women she manipulated and isolated to bind them to her cultish group. So yes, the "we are the only place safe for trans women and everyone else hates you <3" group hurt and abused the trans women who sought sanctuary in it.

What TERFs, cis lesbian separatists and transradfems have in common is that radfem ideology ALWAYS wants to invent a hierarchy of "DIVINE INNOCENT WOMEN" and those who are not. If you are "divine innocent woman", your ability to ever be a sexual aggressor is completely rhetorically erased.

Abusers love dogmas where they can sort people into "evil people species" and "divine innocent species". Omg, almost like white supremacy and colonialism itself works exactly like this!!!! BCS RADFEM SHIT IS A WHITE SUPREMACIST COUP AND NOT REALLY FEMINISM AT ALL, whether the people perpetuating it individually know this or not!!

Radfem ideology in all of its forms is cult shit and creates an environment where people with "the correct identity" can never be seen as abusers, while people with "the wrong identity" (like other trans people in baeddelism) will be treated as inherently abusive and dangerous. Baeddelism positions all non-transfems + "wrong kind of transfems" as oppressors and threats.

There is nothing pro-trans or even pro-transfem about it, it doesn't benefit anyone else than the few abusers that use those types of circles as their shields.

"WHY WOULDN'T YOU THINK OF THE POOR INNOCENT WOMEN??? WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO /GASP/ HURT WOMEN?!?!"

- Said the white woman helping another white woman get away with horrifically abusing a latino person she's encaging in a racist smear campaign against

Radfems hate intersectionality.... For a reason!

Because it helps point out white ppl regardless of marginalizations are capable of perpetuating white supremacy, exactly as Wis is doing here, even all that ICE talk...

Ex-nazi? The last 4 letters of that feel more accurate. Antiracist work on oneself takes a lot more than calling your OCs Jewish and black, Wis.

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[pinkyjulien]

I really, really hate the "Female V is canon" vs "Male V is canon" debate that been popping here and here in the tags those past weeks

Cyberpunk 2077 is a Role Playing Game, there is no "canon" protagonist, that's the whole point. We all have a different playstyles, different stories and headcanons, our custom V is The Canon V of Our Own playthroughs!

After Phantom Liberty dropped, I've seen a lot of players, on Tumblr or Twitter, voicing their concerne and disappointment in how much more Female V focused the official promo, videos and even in-game credits became

I was one of them too, expressing my feelings multiple times, sometimes awkwardly, frustrated that Male V players were once again brushed to the side, because that's how it feels like, right?

Well, it might feels like it, but this isn't the case AT ALL, far from it. This is only what I would call a "Fandom Phenomenon" and I want to talk more about it a bit

I had a great conversation with a friend of mine who works in the game industry and it opened my eyes on the matter, and I've since been really interested in seeing RPGs statistics!

Because it's really, really important to make the difference between the Casual Player Base (majority of players) and the Fans / Fandom Base (minority of players)

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I always been lurking in fandoms here on Tumblr, since Mass Effect, Dragon Age, and now with Cyberpunk 2077 and Baldur's Gate 3

First I want to drop some stats- might be completly wrong, but I'm only sharing my point of view here, in an attempt to explain why some people are frustrated with Female V being the focus (and why we shouldn't be!)

I think it's not wrong to say that fandoms are mostly occupied by women and fem-identifying individuals; fandoms are a safe place for players and fans to share their passions. Women are STILL HEAVILY harassed and hated in the gaming industry as a whole, it doesn't take a lot of digging to catch a vile comment on Twitter or on Twitch for example, you cannot go far without seeing someone either attacking or sexualizing them

This is a huge problem in the industry still, every games that release with a female protagonist get trashed- just look at the bullshit surrounding GTA 6 just because players will be able to play as a woman as an option

Fandoms are also safe for non-gender conforming people, non-binaries, trans people and queer men, but I think fem individuals and women are a clear majority, at least on Tumblr (only talking about genders identity here and not about being queer or not, not talking about sexualities or attraction) (not an official stat at all and only my point of view and experience from being on Tumblr since ~2012)

Now let's talk about Cyberpunk 2077- because this is my main fandom since 2020, and what prompted me to write this post in the first place

CDPR didn't share any stats recently, but it's REALLY SAFE to assume the MAJORITY of players are playing a straight Male V romancing Panam, followed by a lesbian Female V romancing Judy, but the player pools for both options are still majoritarly cis hetero men (and they are still the focus for AAA studios to sell their games, this is sadly just how it is)

However on the fandom side, Fem V was always the focus; virtual photography, mods, ships, OCs... She was always more popular than Male V, getting more interactions and notes and why trends like "Male V monday" were created and why there is still a lack of male V focused mods (non-binaries and trans fem folks and characters are also sadly under-represented in all type of content and art)

So, being yourself as a non-fem player, playing as a Masc V, seeing CDPR officially make the switch from Male V to Female V, when the space you've been in for the past 3 years has been overwhelmingly Female V focused on all front, was a bit of a punch in the guts; like I said earlier, I was reaaally frustrated with this too!

And I'd say it's "normal"? or at least "ok" to feel this way, it makes sense considering how little attention Male V in general get in the fans community

BUT. BUT... It's REALLY important here to realize how we sound and how we look like when we voice our frustrations on the matter; we sound and look just like all the misogynistic people over on Twitter who screams about "woke games" everytime there is a female protagonist in their "non political games". We have to remember that fandoms are suuuch a small part of the game industry

Baldur's Gate 3 recently shared their stats and this interesting tweet got into my dash

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Astarion is nowhere to be seen in the official most romanced companions statistic, but I'm sure a lot of people will agree that he's probably the most popular one in the fandom side!

Another stat here from Mass Effect and really interesting info coming from David Gaider about how the hardcore fanbase aka fandom's choices were WILDLY different from the casual / main player pool

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Getting my head out of the fandom bubbles and seeing the bigger picture, how much under-represented women still are in official medias (not talking about fan content) and how insanly misoginistic the game industry still is, both on the player and devs sides, helped me handle my own frustration on the matter, accept and even celebrate Female V being the focus for the Phantom Liberty campaign

With all that said tho, we all should be able to vent about the lack of Male, Masc and Non-Binary content in the fandom side, while still being aware of the industry state, it CAN co-exist! It doesn't make anyone a bad or misogynist person!

We are all humans and can be awkward and make mistakes, especially when voicing frustration or talking while in a negative mood. Let's educate one another in good-faithed manners when we slip instead of jumping to conclusion and throw accusations

Not gonna lie I kind of lost my train of thoughts and not sure how to finish this post, but I hope this can enlight some people on why CDPR made this choice!

Repeating this as a finale note; this doesn't mean that Female V is the "main" V or "canon" V . It's simply her time to shine, and it's well deserved! The industry needs it

[a-griffin-in-the-sky]

Hi! I'm the anon of transsexualism in your other account, I forgot there has been something bothering me a lot these days... I was going to send this in the terf chan account but this is more of a serious topic. The Queer community has gone insane... have you took a look at the tags radqueer, propara and transharmful? People make gender identities based on trauma, race, nationality, etc... and now a lot of them want to normalize pedophilia and other stuff. It is concerning when you realize how all of this community happens to be mostly transgender children but there's a big amount of adults as well.

I don't know if you knew the case of Ezra, a TIF who made a social media where paraphiles could interact, both adults and minors. The site didn't had any moderation and a lot of minors and adults interacted about sexual stuff.

I don't have the doc, but this account used to archive some pedos cases.

https://www.tumblr.com/critterkiddo?source=share

It is so depressing... Why are we forced to share community with this people?

I'm so sorry, there is a saying I use.

Sometimes when the infection has spread you have the cut the hand off.Other wise you are going to get sepsis and die.

Like would you rather keep the infected hand and have the rot spread to the rest of you, or would you rather cut the hand off.

Maybe if people caught the infection early on they wouldn't have to cut it off. But has it passed the point of no return?

Men are the infection they completely take over any and all movements to further there agenda cause they need to feel special.

I think the only thing you can do is make female only spaces for transmen and keep males away, eventually the bugs in the bucket will start eatting eachother.

For me, the infection was my boss like was i gonna stay and keep rotting? keep going down that path of stress, panic attacks, IBS flare-ups, anxiety attacks that made me dissociate so hard i forgot what year it was?or was i gonna cut it off.

luckily for me, i don’t think i had to cut the whole hand off.

so for the trans community real question.

are you gonna keep letting AMABs warp a community that could’ve been such a powerful support system for people dealing with real, painful body dysphoria?

or are you just gonna let it keep sliding into this weird fetishized mess where anyone can claim a label without doing any of the work, without respecting boundaries, and without caring about the damage it’s doing?

i think it’s already left a bad mark on the LGBT community. people notice when safe spaces stop feeling safe. when "inclusivity" means letting predators in and silencing women for speaking up.

you need to gatekeep.

gatekeeping isn’t evil it’s protection.

You need to kick out the people who mock womanhood, who turn dysphoria into a kink, who use identity as a shield for abusive behavior.

again i’m just an ally. i’m straight.

i could wake up tomorrow and say “i’m agender now” because i think gender is dumb and made-up and means nothing.

but guess what? that wouldn’t suddenly make me not oppressed cause I was born a women, a lable wouldn’t rewrite my life.

anywayyy here’s my ko-fi link if you wanna help a woman out im still broke, still loud and still telling the truth on main every little bit helps me keep writing, eating, and being a thorn in the side of weird internet men.

[we-are-not-a-number]

I read and laid out Trump's "DEFENDING WOMEN FROM GENDER IDEOLOGY EXTREMISM AND RESTORING BIOLOGICAL TRUTH TO THE FEDERAL GOVERNMENT" so you don't have to. Aka, the starting brigade on trans rights.

Trump defined sex as an "immutable" biological classification at birth with it innately only being male or female.

Defined terms such as "women" and "man" only being for adult biological males or females.

Defines male and female as "sex that produces the small reproductive cell".

Defined "gender ideology" as "replaces the biological category of sex with an ever-shifting concept of self-assessed gender identity".

Defined "gender identity" as "reflects a fully internal and subjective sense of self, disconnected from biological reality and sex..."

Declared women are "Recognizing Women Are Biologically Distinct From Men" and there will be an expansion on this order.

End protections or recognition for trans individuals in federal agencies, "Each agency and all Federal employees shall enforce laws governing sex-based rights, protections, opportunities, and accommodations to protect men and women as biologically distinct sexes.  Each agency should therefore give the terms 'sex', 'male', 'female', 'men', 'women', 'boys' and 'girls'..."

All federal agencies and employees will use sex and not gender in all applicable federal policies and documents.

Has ordered "...shall implement changes to require that government-issued identification documents, including passports, visas, and Global Entry cards, accurately reflect the holder’s sex..."

..."Agencies shall remove all statements, policies, regulations, forms, communications, or other internal and external messages that promote or otherwise inculcate gender ideology, and shall cease issuing such statements, policies, regulations, forms, communications or other messages."

Statement to attack Bostock v. Clayton County "The prior Administration argued that the Supreme Court’s decision in Bostock v. Clayton County (2020), which addressed Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964, requires gender identity-based access to single-sex spaces under, for example, Title IX of the Educational Amendments Act.  This position is legally untenable and has harmed women."

Remove transgender inmates from prisons of their gender, remove all access for gender affirming care to incarcerated individuals, "The Attorney General and Secretary of Homeland Security shall ensure that males are not detained in women’s prisons or housed in women’s detention centers..." may need to amend "...Part 115.41 of title 28, Code of Federal Regulations and interpretation guidance regarding the Americans with Disabilities Act." If necessary.

"...no Federal funds are expended for any medical procedure, treatment, or drug for the purpose of conforming an inmate’s appearance to that of the opposite sex."

Access to public amenities is defined by sex, "The Attorney General shall issue guidance to ensure the freedom to express the binary nature of sex and the right to single-sex spaces in workplaces and federally funded entities covered by the Civil Rights Act of 1964." And, "Agencies shall effectuate this policy by taking appropriate action to ensure that intimate spaces designated for women, girls, or females (or for men, boys, or males) are designated by sex and not identity."

States 30 days shall present a bill to modify above into law.

I may have missed some policy, comment below if I missed anything and I will add it. This was terrible to read.

120 days for federal agencies to comply

This is stated to be a part of the "Restoring Sanity" agenda.

If you're trans (or have trans loved ones), try to have a clear schedule to fume a bit before you read this crap

[justinssportscorner]

Trans Up Front IL:

Full disclosure: I am not a sports person. I was never interested in sports as a child and the thought of running for fun gives me cold sweats. I have no vested interest in being able to play sports aligning with my gender. As the current Boogeyman for the Republican party, trans people have been the target of an attack campaign. From campaign ads targeting transgender people and the Democrat’s support of human rights regardless of gender identity. Once they were in office on a federal level (because this was already happening in many states), they started attacking access to gender affirming care for trans youth, then went after the right to accurate federal identification documents, and now the concentration is on transgender people in sports. More specifically trans girls and women, ignoring the presence of trans men and boys and non-binary people all-together. The current portrayal of trans people in sports is often one where a trans woman is infiltrating a space for cis women in order to either prey upon them or to steal their spotlight. Both of which could not be further from the truth. When cis men want to prey upon women and girls, they simply do it, without going through the lengthy and stigmatizing process of transitioning to female. Pay differences between men’s and women’s sports In professional sports, there is a massive pay disparity between male and female athletes, with women often making 1%-50% of their male counterparts (source). The exception being gymnastics where women do make more than men, but by a much smaller margin. Aside from pay, there is much less prestige associated with women’s sports. Approximately 66% of US sports fans watch more men’s sports while only 3% watch more women’s sports (source). The screen time given to women’s sports is also significantly lower than men’s sports, including less recaps and reporting of scores after the event. To argue that someone would go through the lengthy and consuming process of changing their gender (including taking on all of the stigma associated with being transgender) in order to make significantly less, be seen less, and have less overall prestige contradicts the right-wing narrative that able-bodied elite male competitors are changing their gender in order to dominate in women’s sports.

The effects of HRT on the body

Another right-wing narrative portrays men as always having a genetic and bodily advantage over women in sports. While offensive for so many reasons, this argument also ignores the impact of transitioning and HRT on the body. First, men are not inherently better than women at sports just by being assigned male at birth. In fact, there are several sports where women consistently out-perform men (source). There are also ample stories of men who have challenged female pro-athletes and have lost (example). Generally speaking, cis male athletes have higher testosterone levels, which can lead to higher muscle mass, hemoglobin, and a higher level of competitiveness (source and source). For trans women who are undergoing Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT), these differences are negated. Their hormonal balance resembles that of cis women, their muscle mass decreases, and their fat redistributes (source). Many sports organizations such as the International Olympic Committee, NCAA, and others, already have processes set up to test hormone levels in trans women in order for them to compete in women’s sports (source). There is no correlating policy for cis women beyond existing testing for steroids or other performance enhancing drugs. There are several stories of trans women who had previously competed in men’s sports prior to transitioning. Like Laurel Hubbard, who prior to transitioning had set several men’s weightlifting records in her home country of New Zealand. After transitioning, she competed in the 2020 Summer Olympics in Tokyo, but did not advance after failing three attempted lifts (source).

The other side of the trans coin

The discussion around trans people in sports (and bathrooms) has largely ignored the existence of trans men and other trans masculine identities. The argument that an athlete should be limited based on their assigned gender at birth would push trans masculine people into women’s sports, including trans men who have been taking HRT testosterone for years. By these arguments, the transgender male boxer, Patricio Manuel, should be boxing against women despite having had a 3-0 record of wins in fights against cis men (source). Also, Chris Mosier, who had won a spot in Team USA spring duathlon men's team for the 2016 World Championship, would be competing in women’s sports as well (source).

Impact

While the actual number of trans professional athletes is notably small (less than 10 out of 500,000 identified in NCAA level athletics for example, source), the impact of anti-trans legislation in sports is much larger. The Executive Order and current proposed legislation uses protection of cis women in sports as an excuse to further limit access to facilities for trans women and girls. This means spaces like bathrooms and locker rooms would be limited based on sex assigned at birth, in contradiction to many existing state laws which protect those spaces for trans people and many interpretations of Title IX protections.

[...]

What's next?

We already see over-generalization occurring when Executive Orders and legislation against trans women in sports also limits their access to locker rooms which then impacts young trans children in school who are ostracized from their class when changing for gym. We are also seeing cis women being followed into locker rooms and bathrooms and being harassed because of emboldened anti-trans sentiment. Hate groups are using the executive order and anti-trans legislation to harass transgender people including students in schools. When we allow access to be limited in one area based on assigned gender at birth, we also open up the door for further discrimination. The narrative that women are weak and need protecting has consequences, including continued misogynistic legislation controlling the movements and activities of women.

TransUpFront IL wrote a solid article on why trans people belong in sports competitions aligned with their gender identity.

[autisticdrizzt]

Every time i go through the astarion tag either on tumblr or ao3, I just make myself fucking miserable from the disparity between him shipped with f!tav vs m!tav & nb!tav. It's not even an issue if there was just more content that got more attention than f/m, especially since it's even worse for halsin/m!tav. i'm just tired of constantly getting the short end of the stick in fandom spaces, especially since I came out and transitioned and realized my attraction towards men. That wealth of fan content that was there when my egg hadn't cracked isn't there anymore, and only coming to realize it kinda sucks shit. On Astarion fan servers, I'm only one of the few gay men on the server and feel weird when I don't have Astarion settle down with my Tav and get married and have kids. I went from feeling like I belonged in fandom spaces when I still identify as a cis bi girl into an outsider who can't relate to the gender I once belonged to.

i forget how heteronormative the rest of the fanbase is outside of tumblr to the point that people create mods to remove queer content or refer to Astarion's lover with only she/her pronouns. it's incredibly isolating to be a queer man in fandom, especially as a trans man. i'm not targeting bi people by saying he almost feels fetishizied by straight women because of his queerness which is a real issue that bi men face in f/m relationships like I was with my last partner. it doesn't help terfs will occasionally post in the tag mocking gay trans men and calling us straight women.

vague about me all you want, but at least a majority of fandom caters to you and the lifestyle you live, and you aren’t attacked for your gender identity and sexuality by transphobes in a game with literally no mentions or representative of transmasc people or AFAB enbies. it's even worse when you dare to headcanon him as asexual and people come out of the woodwork to accuse you of taking away his agency despite being a survivor yourself. the casual queerphobia of the fandom is not lost on me as someone with multiple intersecting identities that spend time on servers outside of Tumblr. i don't even feel safe going on larger general bg3 discord servers because of rampant transphobia and homophobia.

i'm tired of not being able to express my frustration with the wider fandom without being accused of misogyny and biphobia by people who literally have tons of representation in literally every aspect of life from a game that didn't even bother to remember people like me even exist except for a small inclusion to give my male character a vagina as an afterthought. jesus fucking christ people created a mod to remove what little lgbt content is in the game, what the fuck.

[vernicosa]

“This 'why do you care about a tiny fraction of the population?' line is, and always was, utterly ridiculous.

Gender ideology has undermined freedom of speech, scientific truth, gay rights, and women's and girls' safety, privacy and dignity. It's also caused irreparable physical damage to vulnerable kids.

Nobody voted for it, the vast majority of people disagree with it, yet it has been imposed, top down, by politicians, healthcare bodies, academia, sections of the media, celebrities and even the police. Its activists have threatened and enacted violence on those who've dared oppose it. People have been defamed and discriminated against for questioning it. Jobs have been lost and lives have been ruined, all for the crime of knowing that sex is real and matters.

When the smoke clears, it will be only too evident that this was never about a so-called vulnerable minority, notwithstanding the fact that some very vulnerable people have been harmed. The power dynamics underpinning our society have been reinforced, not dismantled. The loudest voices throughout this entire fiasco have been people insulated from consequences by their wealth and/or status. They aren't likely to find themselves locked in a prison cell with a 6'4" rapist who's decided his name's now Dolores. They don't need state-funded rape crisis centres, nor do they ever frequent high street changing rooms. They simper from talk show sofas about those nasty far-right bigots who don't want penises swinging around the girls' showers, secure in the knowledge that their private pool remains the safe place it always was.

Those who've benefited most from gender identity ideology are men, both trans-identified and not. Some have been rewarded for having a cross-dressing kink by access to all spaces previously reserved for women. Others have parlayed their delicious new victim status into an excuse to threaten, assault and harass women. Non-trans-identified leftybros have found a magnificent platform from which to display their own impeccably progressive credentials, by jeering and sneering at the needs of women and girls, all while patting themselves on the back for giving away rights that aren't theirs.

The actual victims in this mess have been women and children, especially the most vulnerable, gay people who've resisted the movement and paid a horrible price, and regular people working in environments where one misplaced pronoun could see you vilified or constructively dismissed. Do not tell me this is about a tiny minority. This movement has impacted society in disastrous ways, and if you had any sense, you'd be quietly deleting every trace of activist mantras, ad hominem attacks, false equivalence and circular arguments from your X feeds, because the day is fast approaching when you'll want to pretend you always saw through the craziness and never believed it for a second.”

JK Rowling, on Twitter

[mushroomsportal]

When a Man Calls a Feminist a Nazi

it’s such a loaded, disrespectful thing to say, and totally misses the point of what feminism is about.

Feminism is a movement for equality, not domination. Calling someone a “feminist Nazi” is not only intellectually lazy, it’s also a deliberate attempt to paint you as extreme or dangerous—when in reality, asking for fairness shouldn’t be controversial.

As for the “it’s not used in France”, the term “feminazi” is very American in origin and more common in English-speaking countries, but the sentiment absolutely exists in France too. Misogyny just wears a different outfit there. French terms like “féministe hystérique” or “woke” are often thrown around to discredit women who challenge sexism. It’s still the same mechanism: silence, mockery, and deflection.

So why do some men react so defensively—or even hatefully—toward feminism?

Here are a few reasons:

1. They misunderstand it: Some believe feminism is about hating men or putting women “above” men, rather than seeking equality.

2. They feel threatened: Feminism challenges traditional power dynamics. If someone benefits from those dynamics—even unconsciously—they might resist change because it feels like losing status or control.

3. They take it personally: Instead of listening, they hear feminist critiques of systems (like patriarchy) as personal attacks. It’s ego, basically.

4. Echo chambers: Online spaces, media, and some cultural circles actively encourage this kind of backlash, reinforcing negative stereotypes about feminists.

But here’s the truth: Feminism has helped everyone. It’s fought for things like paternity leave, emotional freedom for men, and the dismantling of rigid gender roles. Equality benefits all.

What Feminism Stands For

1. Feminism is about equality

At its core, feminism is the belief that all people—regardless of gender—should have equal rights, opportunities, and respect. It challenges systems that favor one gender over another, especially systems that have historically oppressed women.

2. Feminism fights for freedom

Feminism is about giving people the freedom to live without being limited by outdated gender roles. That means a woman can be ambitious and independent, just like a man can be emotional, nurturing, or choose to stay home without being judged.

3. Feminism includes everyone

Feminism isn’t just for women. It includes men, nonbinary people, and anyone affected by gender inequality. It also intersects with race, class, sexuality, and disability—because oppression is complex, and real equality means addressing all forms of discrimination.

4. Feminism is not about hating men

This is one of the biggest myths. Feminism critiques patriarchy—a system that harms both women and men—not individuals. Wanting justice and fairness isn’t hatred. It’s humanity.

5. Feminism is ongoing

We’ve made progress, but we’re not done. From wage gaps and gender-based violence to underrepresentation in leadership and media, there’s still work to do. Feminism keeps pushing toward a world where everyone has a fair shot.

Why many men see the word feminist as a “bad word”:

1. Misunderstanding What It Means

A lot of men hear feminism and assume it means “anti-man” or “women want to take over.” That’s not true—feminism is about equality, not revenge. But the word gets twisted in media, online spaces, and even schools, so they grow up seeing it as hostile.

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2. Feeling Personally Attacked

When feminists talk about patriarchy, toxic masculinity, or male privilege, some men feel defensive—like they’re being blamed for all the world’s problems. Instead of listening, they take it personally and push back with anger.

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3. Fear of Losing Power

Feminism challenges systems that have always favored men. For some, that feels threatening. They think equality means they’ll lose something—status, dominance, or identity. So they paint feminism as dangerous to hold on to that power.

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4. Cultural Brainwashing

In movies, shows, jokes, and social media, the “crazy feminist” stereotype is everywhere. She’s angry, loud, man-hating. That image is designed to make people roll their eyes at feminism instead of understanding it. It’s propaganda, honestly.

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5. Toxic Masculinity at Work

A man who cares about women’s rights or calls himself a feminist might be mocked for being “weak,” “soft,” or “controlled by women.” That pressure keeps men from even exploring what feminism is. Toxic masculinity tells them to reject anything that feels vulnerable or empathetic.

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But here’s the twist: when men do take the time to understand feminism, they often find it liberating. It gives them space to be human, not just “tough guys.” It lets them form better relationships. It helps everyone.

[starwarssapphicweek]

Hello! First of all thank you for hosting a sapphic SW event and promoting a community and content, I've been excited about the upcoming Sapphic SW week event--but I do have some concerns about the "genderbending" day. I want to preface by saying this is not an attack on the event or anyone running the event, I understand this is a lot of work and time and in the end it's all just for fun. But I would be remiss if I did not voice my concerns on who we are excluding from sapphic spaces and who we are prioritizing with the inclusion of this prompt. While at first I took this as a day as "genderbending" canonic men into women to make a mlm or m/f ship into a wlw ship so that it would shift focus to the value and exploration of relationships between women or imagining characters as trans women, I have found the explanation of this day increasingly worrying in the context of a sapphic and women centered event and space. First of all with the term and practice of "genderbending," while it can be fun it is also steeped in gender binary thinking and stereotypes and often inconsiderate of trans people and how the complexities of gender and gender nonconformity play out. I think celebrating and exploring masculinity in women and sapphics is fantastic and can be done through butch, nonbinary, and gender nonconforming identities, we can celebrate those who are not only part of the community but often excluded from it without prioritizing men and relationships between men. Perhaps the "genderbending" prompt can be shifted in some way to reflect that? While I'm thrilled about the butch4butch and femme4femme prompt, I feel it is a bit reductive to use that prompt as the only avenue and placeholder for masculinity in women and sapphics and also still ignores the issue that by shifting binary women to binary men the focus is shifted away from women/sapphics and relationships between women/sapphics, which is vastly undervalued in not only fandom spaces--Star Wars fandom spaces specifically--but society at large. It's just disappointing to see some of the small space we have carved out to make more room for men and relationships between men.

There is no one being excluded by asking for a prompt that asks to explore the possibility of women being men. If anything the prompt can be amended to include nonbinary headcanons. If the prompt was cisswap as has been a suggested term instead of genderbending, the concern about trans identities being excluded would make more sense. But this is asking that women be men, if someone were to use a character that is already established as trans or non binary we aren't asking that those identities be erased, the non binary character doesn't even need anything to be changed about them. It is simply, if there is a woman in the relationship what would be the wider impacts on the story and universe of Star Wars at large if she were a man this time.

The implication that we are only thinking in binary thinking by putting a caveat of asking that women be men for this prompt, to let people who genderbend their mxm ships know that this is still not the space for their content, feels as if it ignores the ways that this event has been run in the past. Sure, trans headcanons have never been ask for specifically, there has never been a community submission for that prompt in the past, that doesn't mean that they haven't been allowed in the past. It is open ended and welcome to everyone to do at any point if that is what they feel like making.

This blog has always been about centering the female characters, we have a rule that allows for mxf ships to be genderbent to fit into the fxf cetegory because sometimes it's fun to imagine what if the mxf ship were sapphic. Because of the amount of content that is made where some of the most popular mxm ships are now fxf we have been adamant about keeping that content off of the blog due to the fact that the women of Star Wars by and large do not get nearly as much content or attention as the men do. We simply do not want to open the floodgates of having the most popular mxm ships become the center of sapphic week even if it's for a day.

This prompt is one day of the week, one prompt of 14 that have been put out this year. It isn't required to be used by anyone. It was simply a prompt to explore a thought experiment. If people want to explore deep and wide explorations of gender and the wider narrative through this prompt that is great! But if they just want to explore how aesthetics might change in a visual piece where Padme and Sabe are now men, that is fine too. It is an open ended prompt that is not telling anyone that they have to adhere to any gender constructs aside from what would it be like if this woman were now a man.

If anything genderbending has for a long time now been men being bent to be women. It was a tongue in cheek ask of the community to do the opposite of what the common trends are. It's a subversion of expectations and a space to queer the narrative in ways that may not have been considered before.

This will be the final post on this topic. If you feel like this isn't the space for you that is fine, we just ask that we all move on peacefully. This just isn't the space for having these kinds of conversations. This is a blog for hosting events around sapphic ships, not a blog about gender and sexuality.

[idkwhatimsaying]

I think there are two core reasons why Terfs are Terf-y. Two reasons most of them share and mixed together to create the foundation of their bigotry.

They are scared of men, and hate being women.

To be clear this doesn't excuse them at all. I know people who share these traits but aren't horrible assholes. But when you get a particularly fucked up evil person and add those two traits to them you might just get a terf.

It doesn't excuse it but it makes it make more sense.

Both of these reasons stem from the same few things. Terfs are usually a victim of the patriarchy in some severe way. Ranging from abuse or assault survivors to having doors shut in their face by misogyny. They build trauma, resentment and maybe even androphobia, but do not cope with it in any sort of healthy way.

They rationalize, unfortunately often accurately, that these things would not have happened to them if they were not a woman. What is not accurate is when they start extrapolate that logic to womanhood being synonymous with victimhood, and manhood being synonymous with abuserhood. They cope with this perceived Reality by wearing victimhood as a badge of honor, tying it to their identity, and trying to reclaim it. That would be fine if in their minds there is anything else to being a woman than being a victim. That and the physical differences, (many of which they view as inherently negative as well) are all they see women as including themselves.

So now we finally get to why trans people are involved in this, and so prevalent in their minds. Keep in mind that we are working from a mentality that all men are the enemy, and all women are victims.

All people want a safe space from something that scares them, but if half of the population is what scares you, what you're asking for there is segregation, and the only way segregation works is if you can put people into clear boxes so that you know who is who easily. It needs to be that at a glance you can tell who you are safe around and who's a threat. As soon as those lines are blurred suddenly nowhere is safe. Trans people blur those lines. The gender binary is essential Terfs, because in their minds, if every single woman might secretly be a man how can they ever be safe. It might not be so bad if they could accept trans women as women, but they can't because the mentality they're working from makes it seem impossible.

Why would an abuser ever choose to become a victim. It doesn't make sense and since it's the enemy doing it it must be for an ulterior motive. It must be a new way to abuse, infiltrate the safe spaces and attack. There's no other possible reason because no one would ever want to be a woman, because keep in mind that they hate being women.

They claim that trans women are erasing them because their only definition of Womanhood is being a victim, so in their heads trans women are/were men and thus cannot be victims and thus cannot be women. And in that logic trans women are pretending to be victims and thus erasing real victims.

But for their mentality to fill out trans men also have to be victims in their mind. They don't talk about them quite as much but that's where you get the poor confused lesbian idea from. You might see some terfs claim that trans men hate women and hate femininity, that's them projecting but there's even an element of victimhood in that, born as something you hate, forced to play a role you despise. You never see them say that kind of thing about trans women, men, and masculinity. In their minds trans men are either confused and tricked into being a man by the patriarchy, or themselves taken to the extreme, in some respects I wonder if they are actually jealous. Maybe part of them wonders why they are so attached their Womanhood, instead of just doing what they think trans men are doing and escaping from it.

Once again literally nothing in this post excuses terfs, but I also find myself wondering if it's ever worth arguing with them because they're not coming from a place of logic in any way, their entire mentality is built off of fear and self-loathing, irrational looping logic that can't really be shaken.