#LTAI

[an-aro-without-an-ace]

Step One To Using This Blog Again, REVIVE LTAI (Let's Talk About It, a series where I grab a topic from the community and talk about it, WOOOO)

LTAI Part Four, Sex Negativity

So, unfortunately, there is an attitude floating around the aspec community that comes up from time to time that is extremely harmful. It's harmful not just to the community as a whole but specifically to alloaro and sex positive ace members. Sex negativity, let's talk about it.

What Is Sex Negativity?

Sex Negativity is the attitude or belief that sex is inherently bad or immoral. A very small but sometimes very vocal section of the community expresses this attitude. It's something I and many other alloaro's have faced when interacting with aspec spaces. Common sex negative things you might see are posts expressing how sex is disgusting, anyone who feels sexual attraction is bad or wrong, and just generally making fun of allosexual's and their attractions.

Sex Negativity Vs. Sex Repulsion

There is a very important distinction to make between Sex Negativity and Sex Repulsion. Sex Repulsion is an entirely valid feeling and should be just as accepted as Romance Repulsion in the aspec community. People who are sex repulsed don't impose their repulsion on others. To simplify my point a little, and make it clearer:

Sex Repulsion: "I am repulsed by sex personally, but have no issues regarding if others have sex or not" (Valid)

Sex Negativity: "I am repulsed by sex, and believe anyone who has sex is immoral or bad" (Not Valid)

Combating Sex Negativity In The Aspec Community

To keep things simple, heres a list of ways you can help combat and curb Sex Negativity within the aspec community, and make it a much more welcoming place for allosexual and sex positive members:

Calling out posts displaying Sex Negative attitudes

Uplifting alloaro and sex positive voices (within general aspec spaces)

Understanding that alloaro's and sex positive aces are an important part of the aspec community, and shouldn't be othered or pushed aside because of their relationship with sex

While obviously not a super comprehensive list, those are just a few little things that can be done to help curb this attitude in the community. The aspec community is for all aspec identities, from aces, to aroaces, to alloaros and every identity on the ace and aro spectrums respectively. We need to be mindful of that when expressing ourselves and our beliefs. We share this space with each other, and it should be welcoming to everyone within the bounds of the aspectrum. Peace out losers 🍍

[furiousofpanda]

I'm trying to think of a name for a series I want to write but I need a name.

It is, as SHORT as I can put it (with still enough context); a vastly complex story that covers a different view of the universe, but more in the play of creation, inspiration of how things will be popular and drop off, a system of curated content that all eventually falls into obscurity just like ourselves in the meaninglessly insignificant yet unique thing we call life. This and the protagonist, a puppet made by the unknown to moderate the known, only to be Cursed with sentience and the effects of immortality.

When I say this shit is complex, I really mean it. It took me 3 hours alone to describe the basic world building and the world's mechanics to a friend-

Only ideas I had so far was; (and what they would be abbreviated to)

Sonet of a Singularity (SOAS)

Pawn of the Unfathomable (POTU)

Limbo to ad infinitum (LTAI)

Lmk if you have any ideas, name wise I'm going for something that refers to pattern, the unknown and the culmination of everything at once/concept of everything existing at one place in existence and only that one place, regardless of how large the place is.

Knowing my following and that people just will end up scrolling past this, I really do need help at least this once,

Then you can ignore my goofy ass again, please I want to write tis out but I am so bad at naming shit.

[alexbkrieger13]

🤣🤣🤣

Bayern forget they have a dane now. I die. Chelsea always forgot it too

https://www.instagram.com/p/CuTvl-ltAiS/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

😅 oh no

[lushtalkaboutit]

Separate conversations Same energy

Ya girls are still here to cause mayhem!!!!

[allhailthe-demonking]

Your girls are back on their bullshit @lushtalkaboutit @wrasslin-x

[izzydgamer]

Make sure you check out the latest LTAI video on my #youtubechannel links in description #ltai #letstalkaboutit #blackhistorymonth #pokemon #blizzard https://www.instagram.com/p/B84zkO8ju2A/?igshid=1u0pb4zh46czh

[wrasslin-x]

This is why I haven’t been turned into WWE in a while

The company as a whole, for whatever positivity and greater good they give, is not an OK place to be

It sucks a whole lot

This is the wrestling world I grew up in and to see it be so tone-deaf and detrimental to the greater good is so disheartening

My daddy who raised me on wrestling would not like this, I know it

But a small, gross, desperate, part of me continues to hope for a change and better world for professional wrestling on a big scale

Here’s to always hopping

[thepersonalquotes]

[an-aro-without-an-ace]

LTAI Part Three: Alloaro Allyship

Strap yourselves in lads, this is gonna be a long one. So, you want to be an alloaro ally, but you don't know how to start or what to avoid. Lets talk about it.

This post is going to be split up into two sections. Allyship for Alloromantic Allosexuals (Alloallo's) and Allyship for Fellow Aspecs (Aroaces, Alloaces, Non-Sam Aces, etc). This is also going to be a relatively long post so just keep that in mind. Anyway, lets get started.

Allyship For Alloallo's

So, you're someone who isn't a part of the aspec community looking to be an alloaro ally? Epic, lets get you started on the right track! Being an alloaro ally is pretty easy once you break things down, so here are some base level tips for you to consider.

Acknowledge Our Terminology

Yes, we do have terminology that should be used more often when refering to us. Its common for people to use "Non-Asexual Aromantic" when refering only to alloaros, and while that term is more inclusive of other identities such as Non-Sam aro's, its important to be mindful of when you are using it. If you are refering to Non-Sam, Neu, and Alloaros, the term is fine. If you are refering to Alloaros specifically, its better to use Allosexual Aromantic.

Include Us In General Pride

The aspec community is part of the LGBT community, no matter what some people may think. What this means, is that you need to include us in general pride activism. Simply having the asexual flag on a pride post and not an aromantic flag is not enough. It would be even better if you mentioned alloaro's in general pride post. We are here, and we are a part of the community, so if you are going to advocate for pride you need to advocate for us.

Combat Alloarophobia

Alloaro's are not predatory. Alloaro's are not players. We aren't out to manipulate people into having sex with us, and the idea that sexual attraction devoid of romantic attraction is somehow impure or wrong is extremely alloarophobic. Fight back against any sort of suggestions that alloaros are immoral or dirty or harmful to other LGBT members for their sexual attraction.

Listen To Alloaro Voices

If an alloaro calls you out on something thats made them uncomfortable, don't bite back like its an attack. Listen to us, and work with us on the issue. You might have meant well, but caused a simple misunderstanding, in which case this will be a learning experience. Just because we voice our opinions on representation and issues in our community, doesn't mean we are directly attacking you over something.

Allyship For Fellow Aspecs

So, you're part of the aspec community but not alloaro? Maybe you're Asexual, Alloace specifically? Or Aroace? No matter what you identify as, the next few sections are a good basis for you to start on your track to proper alloaro allyship. Alright, lets get started shall we?

Recognize Aspec Community Attitudes

Lets get the big one out of the way first. If you are going to be an alloaro ally you need to acknowledge the fact that a predominantly sex negative attitude in the aspec community is harmful to us. It should never be assumed that any aspec identity is going to relate to sex negativity or sex repulsion. Its extremely alienating when this attitude is the norm in our community. The best way to address this is to stop ignoring it like it doesn't exist. A good way to do that, is the next suggestion.

Tag Sex Negative Language

Just like how sex mentions are tagged so that sex negative and sex repulsed aspecs can filter them out, sex negative language should also be tagged. Imagine for a second that you're in the shoes of an alloaro. Seeing post after post about how sex is "gross" or bad can really start to make you feel like your attraction is invalid in your own community. Being able to filter out those kinds of discussions would greatly benifit alloaros who don't need to be constantly told that what they feel is somehow wrong or filthy.

Combat Predatory Claims

Just like with above, posts claiming that alloaro's are predatory or that anyone who feels sexual attraction is predatory are extremely harmful. Whenever you get the chance, combat those attitudes. If you see a post talking about how allosexuals are predatory or esspecially about how having alloaros in aspec spaces might be "uncomfortable" for aces or other aspecs, speak out against it immediately.

Include Us In Your Activitism

This seems obvious right? Well, unfortunately despite this being pretty straightforward, its not very common. Lets make this clear. If you are going to make a post about aromantic activism, you need to include alloaros. If you are going to make a post about aspec activism, you need to include alloaros. This doesn't just mean mentioning us either. It is not enough to have a mention of alloaros delivered by lets say, an aroace. You need to actively include us in your planning and leadership if you plan on advocating for us. End of story.

Acknowledge The Differences In Our Issues

If you are going to make a post about aromantic erasure in the community, make note of the differences between aroace and alloaro erasure. There are BIG differences between the two and its far to common to see other aspecs assume that general aromantic erasure is representative of all aromantic identities. If you are unsure of the differences, you can find out by ->

Meeting Us Halfway

We have resources out there. Sure they may be less organized then other aspec identities resources but they are out there. It extremely tiring having to constantly educate others on alloaro issues and terminology and thats something I am sure all aspecs can relate to. Do your research, browse the alloaro tag, TALK to us before you go around advocating for us and talking about alloaro issues.

[library-graffiti]

New post!

[indiumrubber]

blech....

[chcmicalwrld]

do you have a favorite solo graham song (if you’ve listened to his solo stuff)?

thanks for the ask <3

wayyy to many are my favorites but ltais i basically love every single song off of that and that's all i wanna do, a day is far to long, i wish, and in the salty sea r some favorites too-- but i really love all his solo stuff that ive heard but i unfortunately haven't heard all of it cause his whole discography isn't available on spotify or apple music in my country </3 its so tragic

[lushtalkaboutit]

WHAT’S THIS?!? A new #ltai episode?!?!

That’s right, buds and bros. Your girls DK & Dani are recording a new show...all about this damn #covid19 situation. We’ve each got booze, we’ve each got electronics, and I think you can clearly see we’ve each got our own aesthetic. Coming soon to a platform near you: two semi-drunk chicks rant and rave and advise on things they -may- not have official authority ok but surprisingly have a lot of common-sense on.

#alwayslove #butlovefromadistancemaybe 

[allhailthe-demonking]

I mean #friendshipgoals amirite @wrasslin-x

[izzydgamer]

A reveal and a call to action, be sure to check out the new episode of #ltai !!! #ps5 #blm #horizon2 #spiderman (Link in bio tomorrow) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBbs0gFD-QB/?igshid=qhp3888cn8q4