#I’m sharing my opinion

[silly-jaketato]

Y’all, I know this is a Kpop blog but I just want to talk about how genuinely mad I am about Ryan Murphy making ‘monsters: the Erik and Lyle menendez story’. When I’m not being obsessed with Kpop I really enjoy watching documentaries and learning about crime, justice, and other law stuff and I’ve seen so much about the menendez brothers in my life. So, over the years Ive gathered a lot of information about them and would categorize myself as in the know of a lot about them. For some of you that don’t know about the menendez case, I’ll give you a brief summary. Erik and Lyle were two college age kids (Erik was 18, Lyle was 21) who lived with their parents Jose, and kitty menendez. On august 20 1989 they went to their Beverly Hills home and brutally murdered their parents with shotguns. Now, looking at this, you would think, “holy shit. Get them in jail they wanted the money, no excuses.” And that was what the media thought too. But, they had so much more to their reasoning. They grew up being abused mentally, physically and sexually by their parents especially by Jose menendez their father who molested, raped and abused them in so many other ways. Erik was mainly a victim of their father with the sexual abuse, but Lyle also had been molested but not as severely as Erik. Their parents would often threaten them with death. From their mother saying she would poison the family from how unhappy she was, to their father telling Erik that if he ever told anyone about the rape and abuse in the household that he would kill him. On the night of the murders, Lyle and Erik had bought guns and two tickets to Batman as their alibi. They went to their home where there parents were laying on the couch and shot them with shotguns till they died. They fired their guns 16 times, and both of their parents were murdered. They came back to their parents house two hours later and called the police to report their parents death, and were not arrested until around march. (could’ve been a different time) The reason they claimed to do this was because, if they didn’t kill their parents, their parents would kill them. Because of the extensive abuse, they couldn’t tell what their parents were capable of doing, and murder was no different. They were scared for their lives and wanted the constant abuse to end. You might be thinking, why didn’t they just leave? They couldn’t. Their father had controlled their lives to the point where Erik was denied of leaving to go to a college of his choice and said he was going to study law at ucla and stay with them. Lyle had given up so much to stay with Erik so he wouldn’t be alone with the constant abuse. It appeared that Lyle had thought the rape had stopped with Erik like it had with him when he was younger, but it unfortunately had not, with Erik constantly dealing with being molested. They tried to tell people about the abuse but they weren’t helped. They had really tried everything and it seemed that this was the only solution.

So, basically you get the case from what I’ve explained (I’m not a writer sorry) and I truly recommend learning about it and supporting them. But moving on. If you’ve ever heard of dahmer and that whole mess of a tv series. but if you haven’t, it was based of the Jeffery dahmer case and used information about the victims that the victim’s families didn’t consent to being spread. And I’m pretty sure they didn’t ask the victims families at all if they were okay with the show being made, and some of the stuff was fabricated. (This is like a weird reenactment sort of tv show like monsters) So, people started to really dislike the director Ryan Murphy. Well, do I have some new for you! He was the same director for monsters and yet again fabricated information. In the long list of things that happened to the mènerez brothers, you’ll notice I really only had a few important points and then information about those points. So, you’ll notice I never said anything about the menendez brothers having a relationship or lying about the abuse. That is because IT NEVER HAPPENED. They did not have a relationship, and lie about the abuse, which is something the show says, but didn’t happen. This kind of put a pretty frame around a bad picture. In this show, they also kinda fetishizes the brothers relationship. Which is fucked up because it’s about two sexual assault survivors. And people who are uneducated about this case are taking this even further by saying stuff about the irl brothers that is inappropriate and gross. The extent of the incest was Lyle taking Erik to the forest and “fondling” with him. Which is what his dad was doing to him, so it was not in ‘that’ way but a response to trauma. So they never kissed or had sex. But the show just can’t seem to handle that and not fetishize it. Not only is that gross, but it proves how fucked up that show is. It was good until they started saying weird stuff. I really recommend watching documentaries with proof instead of whatever this series was meant to be. I think the menendez brothers need to be freed from prison, and that this show needs to be forgotten because of how disgusting it was. This doesn’t not mean these are bad actors, (I thought the actors were amazing) but to the director making money off of someone else’s trauma and crimes. He’s fine this before and I genuinely believe he will do it again, profiting of someone’s else’s story is terrible already but to make an entire ass tv series about it that shows lies is even more fucked up. The menendez brothers already went into so much pain and suffering and they don’t deserve to be profited off of. I’m pretty sure Erik menendez has said that it was a price of crap and I couldn’t help but understand him fully. Idk why but I thought I should just share my opinion.

[randomalistic]

Wait you guys are actually buying Disney products I thought it was a joke

(READ TAGS FOR FULL CONTEXT Sorry it’s long dies

[ivys-head-is-spinning]

good people of tumblr I have a question. out of disney’s sensational six (which is the like main Mickey and friends characters) who’s your favourite???

let me know in the tags who you picked and I’d love to hear why :D

[guardian-angle22]

Colson Baker (aka Machine Gun Kelly) | December 2021

[ninyard]

i just saw some andrew edit on tiktok and i go on their page and in their bio it says: “i am 13 years old and in 7th grade” and they are actually 13 years old in 7th grade with aftg edits and dti videos 😭😭 on one hand wow but also this is a canon event i fear i also read aftg when i was 13 years old in 7th grade (it was 4 years ago but still) . but my god this person is a child. (yes i know I sound like a hypocrite but im crashing out just a little bit)

oh god I was 16 when I read it and that was bad enough lmao I have been on the internet a looooooong time and definitely read fics at 13 that were pretty bad but reading aftg in your formative years definitely feels like a character defining moment ESPECIALLY if it sticks

[sableeira]

once the anime is out if I see anyone talk a bad word about my girl Agott it’s on sight

[the-bi-line]

I get why many bi people don't want to say that bisexuality is a spectrum...but here's an issue with saying it's not one: I worry that this could be used to dehumanize bi people even more. If somebody bi is telling us that their experience is that they identify with straight attraction more, or gay attraction more, who are we to say, that that doesn't matter? Even though I fully believe in bi solidarity, by saying "well, it doesn't matter, because you're bi - THAT'S the only thing that matters about you", that could actually be used to judge all bi people as being the same. Or to claim that being bi makes you completely different from anybody who's monosexual.

Basically, because having a gender preference is relevant to society's eyes compared to, I guess, a hair color preference, we can't act like those two things are the same. We can't act like people across the bisexuality spectrum are having the same experiences, because they aren't. And if somebody doesn't know where they are on the spectrum, that's okay too. But if we want bi solidarity, I think we need to admit that there's a very broad definition of bisexuality.

The definition of bisexuality is that you’re attracted to both women and men, though. Nothing broad about it. Sexuality is about who you are attracted to, not how (i.e. strictly same-sex, strictly opposite-sex, both, or neither). The degree to which one is attracted is irrelevant: what matters is that the attraction exists.

Adding your comments from the other post here so we don’t spam Maslow’s notifs:

We’re not half-straight, half-gay though. We have same-sex attraction and opposite-sex attraction and both exist within us simultaneously, making it a uniquely bisexual experience. Not only does it not matter if we are seen on a sliding scale between straight and gay (which are experiences that exclude bisexuality), it’s actively harmful to think of us that way, imo.

There are plenty of other marginalized groups that contain a wide range of diversity and are not routinely defined as being on a spectrum that requires they align themselves on a sliding scale with an identity exclusive of them. They are simply called diverse and are brought together by the trait or traits that they all have in common. For bisexuals, that is being attracted to BOTH men and women, which no one else is. Free your mind from the gay vs straight dichotomy 🩷💜💙

[asterias-corner]

lil psa, because some people need to hear this.

self harm scars, no matter how bad- If they’re fully healed? They do not need to be fucking covered or require a trigger warning for your comfort, end of discussion. I don’t give a shit if they are wide, or long, or fucking red- scars can heal differently and change colors in different temperatures. I have scars, and I’m not going to cover up because you can’t handle seeing HEALED scars wider than a hair strand.

[wickmitz]

How do you think about Frepper? I'm neutral about this ship, but the fans Frepper attitude towards confuses me, Ivy and Freckle have only been dating for a week and know each other superficially, but everyone already thinks that by the end of the comic they will get married, I think differently, I think that in the end they will break up with each other because they are too different personalities, I literally can't imagine that both of them will be happy with each other in marriage, Ivy is assertive and active, on the other hand Freckle is passive and just agrees with Ivy, this is not a guarantee of a healthy relationship where a partner completely dominates the other, plus to all that, I will not forget how their relationship started, Ivy just decided that they were dating, and without asking Freckle's permission, she just KISSED him, again without his permission, Frepper fans think that it's cute, but when I saw it, I thought "what the hell did I just see?", in general, it's strange for me that Frepper fans are okay with such things, of course later Freckle shows attraction to Ivy, showing that he likes her in some way too, but I still won't forget how their relationship started and how Freckle used to try to escape from Ivy when she squeezed his hand tightly and forced him to her …

I'm not against Frepper, but I don't understand his fans who don't see these issues and who treat other points of view on their relationship (like mine) as … um, as nonconformity? Fans from reddit are just obsessed with Frepper, I don't know about other networks but that's how it is on reddit, I think there are people who have my opinion but are afraid to say it because of fans, of course, I met Frepper fans there who normally accept such an opinion, but still there is a feeling that such a opinion cannot be told

Simply put, Ivy and Freckle are a couple that will eventually break up with each other unless there's an event between them in the comic that changes my opinion of this couple, but that's how I feel about Freckle for now. I didn't plan to express my opinion, but it happened that way, I hope you don't mind it

first and foremost, i don’t mind seeing someone express their opinion in my inbox! you and anyone else are free to do so, even if i may disagree. this blog’s entire existence was made for me to share my opinions ( and love! ) for lackadaisy, as well as engaging with other fans, because what else is the point of a fandom blog? and as far as i’m aware, this is unpopular opinion central! most of my thoughts aren’t exactly the ones with the most voice behind them i’ve found, so i welcome all manner of different views. every fan is entitled to their own perspectives and opinions, and should be allowed to share them as they please! but with that disclaimer out of the way, i’m more than willing to discuss frepper in its entirety.

for me, there’s little confusion i carry where it concerns this ship’s popularity amongst the fandom. freckle and ivy, if we are to strip them down to their bare essentials, are a rather stereotypically ‘cute’ relationship : people enjoy opposites ( see zibwick or vikdecai for example ) and there’s an endearing quality found in puppy love dynamics. seeing ivy wear the pants and drag a shy freckle around by his ankle makes for quality content in a way! think the ‘excuse me, but he asked for no pickles!’ meme … ivy and freckle very much fit that sort of mold, and it helps that most fans are too scared to ship them with other characters in the cast too, due to what they perceive to be a lack of options. thus, frepper is an extremely ‘safe’ ship! you cannot get in trouble for enjoying something that is not only canon, but is relatively adorable ; and so i don’t believe a lot of the fans are actually thinking too deeply about the likely endgame of it all. most don’t! it’s fun to ship, and that’s all they really need i think. it’s also very easy to dismiss ivy’s forwardness as a quirk of being a young girl who’s of her temperament, recklessly boycrazy although still carrying sweet intent. this behavior is easier to hand wave when neither ivy or freckle are experienced at the dating scene as well … freckle due to his extremely religious upbringing and hermit nature, and ivy because of viktor’s constant meddling, which would hold her back more than you’d think. with that said, i don’t think any of this is excessively complicated. some shippers are rather simple minded and do not care for details and characterization all too deeply. enjoying dynamics is, at its core, supposed to be fun -- which makes simple ships like frepper prime targets for a very vocal and tight knit fanbase. there are other things i could speculate about why these two may hit so pleasantly for others, like how there’s an underlying queer theme to it ( what with ivy being the pursuer and freckle the shy, blushing flower ) or that it’s tropey enough to hit the right spots for others … though it all boils back to mere speculation. perhaps they still have time to escape this gangster lifestyle and live happily ever after? and that appeals to the lackadaisy fans who still want some sort of happy ending? it’s all a combination of frepper being easy, i think, and containing two young cats who still haven’t done anything particularly ‘unforgivable’ yet action wise. this is a ship you can root for without an ounce of worry in your heart, and so on and so forth.

but although i understand why others are so vocal about them, i don’t exactly agree with fanon’s views either! while i heavily enjoy frepper, i enjoy them as they are, and that includes their looming flaws and inevitable tragedy. they are bound to break each other’s hearts a lot on their current path ; even if they were entirely perfect for one another, this lifestyle isn’t kind to anyone, meaning if they don’t separate, they could always be forced apart via bullets and such anyway. they are young and woefully inexperienced in a manner of things, the last thing they need is the stress of a rumrunner life driving their every action, you know? i know people see them getting out together, and that is likely on the table! i do see that in many ways, but i’m also of the opinion that ivy and freckle will diverge onto different paths at some point and temporarily call it quits. from where the comic currently stands and given my view on ivy’s arc, i see her growing disillusioned with where she is and the honor and fun she saw within it as a royal spectator will fade ; she will become wary, fearful, and her resilience will die … meanwhile freckle will embrace it, similar to his cousin, fully understanding what it is and what he’s getting into ( like rocky, again ) but being unable to leave his refuge. i know lots of people think freckle will leave the lackadaisy first, but given his old concepts and former title as one of mitzi’s ‘trouble boys’, i think he will become lost in the sauce for a myriad of reasons. frankly i enjoy that twist on their relationship! since i believe ivy’s character development will revolve around maturing, changing as time stretches forward, because her character is ever growing, what with her entire schtick being the fact she’s everything a 1920s girl was during those times. she embodies that unladylike youth and manipulative sweetness, so i’d imagine a lot of her path is falling from such naive thrill seeking and stumbling upon a harsh reality. she will mature, and the very thing that should make their relationship stronger will be what divides them indefinitely. everything they have is founded on this bloody, varnished soaked ground after all … they are young adults who are experiencing what closeness feels like outside of family or platonic friends for the first time, so naturally they will overindulge in their own amateur games ; find respite in the boogie and kiss like couples do on the silver screen, laugh about it, talk about everything and nothing at all … relish in each other’s warmth and stupidly loyal protection. i’m sure frepper will grow closer before any falling out, because as it stands, it’s one of the few things they have in such a scary situation that feels comforting and kind. they will impact each other in the fundamental ways first relationships do and, to move towards your biggest gripe, do things they’ll regret or allow things to happen to them that they’re not entirely okay with.

ivy is very forceful with freckle initially, albeit in her typical saturated way ; and i can see why that would be hard to parse! especially when freckle spends a majority of their first scenes together squirming away and hiding, trying to duck her affections and bolt for it. there is a lot of boundary crossing between them! but not in a necessarily malicious way … like most things with frepper, this circles back to their mutual inexperience and how, in a lot of ways, this is their first ‘serious’ romantic relationship ever. and it’s rather common for such firsts to involve gray areas, since neither party is entirely sure of what their own boundaries are just yet! while freckle did appear frightened by ivy at first, it’s important to note that tracy’s mentioned him having a flight response whenever girls flirt with him … he is prone to run away instinctively, which if you consider his extremely religious upbringing, isn’t exactly a surprise. nina would no doubt look down upon freckle engaging with girls his age due to what most girls his age are currently doing in the roaring 20s they’re living in. sneaking out and engaging in illegal activities, dancing in a way that would disgust most of the more traditional and older generation, casually engaging in any manner of sexual activity before marriage, etc etc. and this isn’t even listing freckle’s cagey nature due to an incident we know was bad enough to send rocky packing for years, and fundamentally changed freckle himself at such a young and impressionable age. he is … very troubled! and rather scared of himself and the world around him … at this stage in life, freckle is perpetually unable to make any progress towards anything he may want, and so i have little problem myself with ivy mostly taking the lead. when left to his own devices and allowed to choose outside of influence, freckle did in fact sneak out of his mother’s house to go to the lackadaisy, surely well aware that ivy’s intention had been romantically inclined. so, to me, he has always liked her ; perhaps found her cute, in a shallow way, saw her eccentric behavior as endearing and frightening in equal measure, and while he’s still wading into this whirlwind pool unsteady and shaken, he -- wouldn’t mind it if ivy pushed a little more, or moved him around to her ( and what she perceives to be, their ) liking. perhaps this dynamic is familiar enough to him that it becomes comforting, since rocky was very much the same way in their adolescence. tugging freckle around and pulling his tail for whatever rocky wanted them to do, with little care for whatever his baby cousin desired at the time, ignoring his protests and chasing him ; nobody’s at fault here either, kids are extremely self absorbed and this is a flaw they’ll usually mature past, and while ivy and freckle are adults during the comic, i don’t think ivy’s outgrown this linear view on things just yet. she is extremely entitled! she is used to being the apple of everyone’s eye at the speakeasy due to her jazz baby status as atlas may’s goddaughter, and this gangster connection excites and awes the ladies she attends classes with at her university too. ivy pepper is used to getting her way and this has only fueled her determined attitude, her ‘pull it up by the bootstraps’ mindset, and in many ways, this is something of a flaw for her. it’s not bad to be confident and headstrong, although when you add that into a dangerous mix of rumrunning and gunslinging, it may become a problem rather quickly. but i digress! point is, ivy and freckle are hardly at fault for the awkward way they handled the start of their relationship, when it’s so new and fresh to them both.

neither of them have boundaries at this moment, as they either have no clue what those are or simply haven’t realized they should set them. so, in turn, there are things that the other may do that could cause their partner discomfort … and it’s mostly done out of obliviousness and good intentions and your classic dose of intense affection. doesn’t mean it isn’t messed up to a degree, but i think it’s rather realistic, and is a hard truth that comes with many first relationships of that sort. sometimes you don’t know how to say ‘no,’ or you agree and regret agreeing later, or perhaps you simply don’t understand there’s certain things you aren’t ready for or genuinely just don’t like. again, it’s a very muddied area, and the two of them are vaguely navigating what is mostly foreign to them. they’re bound to mess up! so i ivy some slack here, and applaud tracy on the realistic writing more than anything usually. young love also happens to be a great device to use for inexperienced characters finding themselves, through the good and bad of their relationship, and frepper is all about that. maybe freckle will inevitably bring up how he feels like he would’ve preferred it had ivy asked him out properly, or gave him time to court her in a traditional fashion … and she will be surprised ( and a little wounded ) by this, since she had never considered it before … too used to her way of things to realize there’s another path they could take. i think this aspect of the relationship is important, and i can understand wishing that more frepper shippers would view it as such, or comment on it's morally gray nature without just calling it ‘cute’ and leaving it at that.

tldr : they will most certainly break up at some point, maybe even multiple times! tracy has said before that they both have some serious maturing to do if their relationship is to be long lasting, and i doubt that maturing will happen to them both at once … since they have different things to work on emotionally. but they will probably strongarm some major personal development within each other, as well as love one another with a fierceless abandon that most kids do. i could see them getting married, i could see them not, but i agree that if they were to be wed happily, they’d have significant hurdles to overcome. but personally, frepper is something i adore mostly due to the impact they’re bound to cause each other, and even if they are to separate and find someone new and more fitting, they’ll always remember one another -- perhaps fondly, and sadly, and with some anger. a time they’d like to forget, but a person they’d like to remember … which is my cup of tea overall! they much more interest me as they presently are anyway, where i can fiddle around with their budding romance and friendship bonding. and as lackadaisy grows in popularity, i do hope there’s more frepper fans who see their complexity and flaws and explore them with all of it in mind.

anyway! i hope this was coherent, and that it was obvious that i agreed with you for the most part. i haven’t really talked about frepper before with anyone so many of these thoughts sort of burst out of me! and i feel like i have more to elaborate upon, but for the sake of simplicity i kept this short. oh well! surely this is enjoyable and informative regardless.

[lilyminer]

Listening to my c!Tubbo playlist and having ✨emotions✨ again

[realmasteroogway]

Genres of music the crows would like in a modern au:

Nina: Pop. Absolutely Pop. Argue with the wall. I think she’d also really like Bikini Kill and Hole and angry women screaming type music.

Matthias: I think his comfort music would be Country but he’d grow to love Pop because Nina would always force him to listen to it.

Jesper: Pop Rock absolutely. He LIVES on the energy it gives him. His guilty pleasure is mcr and twenty one pilots.

Wylan: Metal. I don’t know how to explain it. He’s like the quiet shy kids that only look soft and awkward but actually love really hardcore stuff.

Inej: I think she’d like quiet and harmonic stuff. Like Elliot Smith and Billie Eilish. (I know they’re not the same genre but you get the vibe.)

Kaz: I can’t imagine him listening to music and enjoying it, I really can’t, that man doesn’t enjoy anything that’s not Inej or money. BUT in a world where he actually lets himself enjoy stuff I think he’d listen to alt rock like The Pixies and The Smiths and such.

If you have other opinions feel free to share!!

[abiragatapira]

I don’t think systems on Tiktok know anything about being a system because why did I see a post of a system being publicly shamed because they stated one of their alters have a different opinion than the rest of system. With the exception of some obvious cases (OSDD-1A and similar), alters are meant to be distinct. Obviously they are going to have different opinions on things. 1 alter’s opinion doesn’t define the system as a collective.

And the “wrong opinion” that started this argument was thinking people shouldn’t be harassed if they haven’t hurt anyone. The internet is a very strange place.

[i-have-no-braincells]

i feel like a lot of people don’t understand that there’s a time and place for your opinions. anyone can have opinions, it’s part of being human, but that doesn’t mean you get to voice those opinions whenever you want. one example i can think of is people publicly voicing their opinions about certain foods. sure you might think that overly sweet coffees are gross, or plain food isn’t good (etc etc), but there are people who like those things. just because you have an opinion about something, or a preference, does not give you the right to be an asshole and make people feel bad about their own opinions and preferences.

going out of your way to point out that you don’t like something to someone who does just reads as asshole behavior. and i’m talking about instances where someone will go above and beyond to make sure that you know that they absolutely dislike and hate the thing that you mentioned liking. even in situations where you don’t necessarily know if someone you’re speaking to is a fan of something or not, i really don’t see a reason to immediately start hating on something unless you’re close to a person and know what they like and dislike.

[alarrylarrie]

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[feelingreallysadandmyvanisaboat]

Anyone can headcanon a character as anything, I’m not judgin. However, I think there’s something to be said about Rapunzel’s traits that bear resemblance to autistic traits also very much being a direct result of her abusive childhood alone in a tower. Like, we know that cptsd and autism share a lot of traits, and I say this as an autistic person, but I don’t personally headcanon her as autistic, and she explicitly gave a separate explanation to her behavior (her childhood) to Tim when he (yeah, very rudely) called out her lack of social capability and “unnervingness”