#I’m gonna restart it

[imdoingsortagay]

Let’s try this shit again

[ao3screenshotss]

i truly believe the ao3 filter should be the basis for every filtering system online the exclude option should be obvious but apparently seems unheard of

[longhands-the-second]

I’ve really been digging red/green contrast lately

[frostings-silly-little-art-blog]

Drawing is hard

[tearlessrain]

redditors coming through once again, someone made a low spoiler quest order list for each act to avoid breaking/missing anything important and now I owe them my life

[simstoyourdismay]

“belle of the ball” met gala hosted by @havenroyals ❤️‍🔥

this post is so ass i’m so sorry i’ll fix it after i take a nap.. anyways YAY met gala!! i’ve always seen these on simstagram and wanted to participate in one so bad. small issue tho i forgot that i keep refusing to update my game so i had to build a makeshift lot really quick. that’s why you can barely see any of it lol

now i have celebrity ocs (the ngo family) so i can send them here 😛 i considered sending the arias family here as well but they’re not really celebrities, they’re just really rich? like sure, owning a huge conglomerate will make you known but it won’t have you trending on social media constantly. i was gonna go in about how they actually don’t care about that but this post isn’t even about them ahrhrhghghf.. uhhh quick rundown. shōichi is a big actor and he’s currently working for a highly anticipated film. it’s the rumored last film from a really talented director yada yada. he’s the type to lay reallyyy low when he’s filming so this appearance had people stirring. dawn is his wife and she’s a critically acclaimed pianist. was really big in vietnam when she was first starting out and garnered global attention fairly quickly. injured her hand a few years down the line and had to give up playing professionally, but her talent is still recognized today. she’s less popular in the states in comparison to shōichi but she’s known amongst the younger crowd online. you know celebrity crushes everyone can agree on? she’s one of those. uhhh what else oh they have two kids (they’re the twins) and they kept them out of the public eye for years. didn’t want to expose them to all that so early. the twins first appeared in the media when they were preteens, their choice. people were surprised to learn ezra was talented in his own regard (he paints) and the general public agreed that he’d be successful even without famous parents. talia didn’t really have a specific talent so she got dragged pretty often for being so lackluster in comparison to her family. this whole thing made talia fearful of the media so she took a step back from it all and ezra was scared of falling from their good graces. oh i just realized i’m rambling sorry i do that when talking about any of my ocs uhh if i delete this later when i’m fixing it you know why 💔 would also like to clarify that this makes them seem so cookie cutter but i promise they’re complex characters that i’ve fleshed out..

[lorax-devito]

I’ve always had a love for asoue (a series of unfortunate events) and I can feel my obsession coming back,I probably won’t make many,maybe none at all,posts about it but all I can say is my beef with the Poe guy is mf strong

[goldkirk]

If anyone remembers all the dental work I needed done uhhhhhhh three years ago and never went back and ran away forever…I’m finally going back to a dentist on Thursday to restart the process and face my deep and utter abiding terror. And I also scheduled my COVID and flu vaccines for a couple hours later. And my psych appointment to restart meds.

I figured get it all done in one day, have my miserable immune reaction on Friday that I seem to always get with Moderna COVID shots, and then flee directly into the weekend and never be a person again except when I’m on and off crying. It’s going to be so kind to future me to get these things done and I can do it no matter how much I feel like I am constantly about to Actually Physically Die.

[vulpinesaint]

it’s like. i love being trans. and also if there was a loving god he wouldn’t do this to me

[tsuchinokoroyale]

It’s so good to see you.

Lies of P (2023)

[aroace-poly-show]

do we have any nice single player switch games recommenddations that aren’t too expensive

[when-wulf]

Asena text post no one asked for

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[borderlinereminders]

Sorry if this is too much. I think I might have bpd partly because I think I maybe have some sort of delusions or skewed perception of my interactions with other people? Like i get told that I overreact or misinterpret interactions negatively a lot. That or my whole family has been manipulating me forever but that seems less likely tbh since it's a consistent issue with me specifically so like, occam's razor suggests i'm the problem. Do you have any advice for dealing with this

Again sorry if this is too much. I am aware i should be in therapy I just don't have access to it right now.

It’s not black and white, but here’s an article I wrote about manipulation. When it comes to figuring out whether someone is being manipulative/you’re misinterpreting is to use a third party. After an encounter, write down word for word the exchange if you can in case it gets muddled later and then try asking a neutral third party.

It is possible it’s not manipulation. I just think people with BPD are extra vulnerable to it and I want to cover that.

That said, if it is you misinterpreting stuff my advice to you is to learn to walk away from a situation to gather your thoughts and figure it out. If you feel yourself getting worked up, or are upset about an interaction, walk away. Use a skill like urge surfing if you need to.

Once you’ve walked away, you can use a couple different skills. The one I recommend the most is “check the facts”. Being able to calm yourself can also sometimes allow us to see things from a different perspective.

Sometimes it still isn’t clear to us, and that’s okay. It’s completely valid to ask for clarification in a non accusatory way. “Hey. Can you clarify what you meant by …”

There are times where we realize the other person did say/do something wrong and in these cases, it’s still best to be calm and non accusatory. Using a skill like DEAR MAN to deal with conflict can be helpful. It’s really easy to get hung up on “who is right” in a conflict but usually that’s not helpful. I try and focus more on how we can resolve the situation instead of trying to prove I’m right.

Remember that your feelings are valid. I wrote a post on “how do I know if I’m overreacting” here. It talks about ways to figure out if your feelings fit a situation, mostly for your own benefit of working through them. But at the end of the day, your feelings are your feelings. “One of the first things I do is remind myself that even if I am overreacting, my emotions are still valid and allowed.”

[redhotarsenic]

Okay so here’s a lil test strip I’m in the middle of doing before I make an actual attempt at drawing the bracelet properly. Think I’m doing this in a really inefficient way cuz like. I’m kinda physically weaving the lines together if that makes sense? As if I’m actually weaving the strands of whatever material that is together! On one layer! And perhaps if I do it on TWO layers and use a mask on both and turn the Unnecessary Bits invisible I would be done faster!

[starlooove]

Trying to make a netrunner v but I’m fucking stupid and wouldn’t know subtle if it bit me in the ass

[yeehawbvby]

My ACNH island is VERY slowly coming together (been working on it since.. I think July? Maybe august?)

I’m really happy with the progress I’ve made except I’m now one of those people whose island lags because of the amount of stuff in some spots lmao 🧎🏻‍♀️ it’s a worthy sacrifice though imo because my orchard is the culprit and it looks banging!!

Either way. BEHOLD