#I won’t make the name public as I’m not into callout posts but dm me if you want to know who to block

[daincrediblegg]

Really disappointing to find out when a good gifmaker is a fucking terf. Yeesh.

[fablekitty]

Hey, I know I am the last person you wanna talk to rn, but my life is in genuine danger (still) because all I wanted was for a apology for the misconception.

I honestly meant no harm at all, and https://www.tumblr.com/lunarsilly/725681668334256128/all-i-wanted-was-for-fable-alologize-for-the

If you read this it will make a lot more sense.

I’m low empathetic and it takes a while for me to feel epmathy, and I think it’s hitting me like a bus

I never meant for you to be harassed anything (as I said in my OG callout posts) and I have not ONCE put your life in danger.

However, Davis has put mine in danger cuz he took some things I said in the wrong manner and it has caused me to get harassed to the point where I have to deactivate most of my accounts.

No, this isn’t ‘karma’ at all because I didn’t even want anything bad to happen to you and I didn’t mean to be malicious, all I wanted was for people to be aware that you could have possibly done this stuff, and benne like

“Hey, I have a choice if I wanna continue supporting them.” And unfollow if they please.

I have not once tried to put you or anyone else in danger, all I was doing was being like “hey, this can be seen as sams since you tagged it as such.”

Also to call you out for your ableism towards your own community.

That whole ‘no TSBS fictives and no factives’ rule is not only ableist, but it further Demonizes DID by saying that alters are their source when they aren’t,

People had a choice to support you, and I hadn’t meant for it to become this huge thing because a mess up in my wording )which I mostly wrote them at 1-5am, mind you. There’s going to be some mistakes since I was obviously running on 2-4 hours of sleep, and I always apologized if I said anything wrong in Davis’s DMs)

I get why you’re upset but this whole thing has gotten me death threats and it has also put not only me, but my family at risk.

Anyways that’s pretty much it, dm me on this app if you wanna respond.

This whole situation began because instead of trying to talk things over with me, you instead chose to cast a stone at me publicly. I’m not unreasonable. I would gladly have clarified anything you were concerned about, whether it be the claims of ableism or concerns about Lulu’s design. Instead, you publicly accused me of being a pedophile, not once, but twice. Which. I won’t lie; is a VERY harsh accusation that shouldn’t have ever been tossed out on a whim. The first was in a comment thread on one of Davis' posts, the other was a public callout post. You cannot downplay it by saying you just wanted to 'spread awareness' and 'let people choose to support me.' All I wanted to do was be left alone, and you wouldn't have it. 

You took my art and made fun of it, called me names, called my partner’s alter names, and tried to make connections to an accusation that wasn’t there to begin with. I have co-workers that follow my SFW account on Twitter. I could have lost my actual job over this. You losing your Twitter account is not comparative to my entire livelihood. You can say you never wanted me to be harassed, but you slandered and insulted me all over Twitter and Tiktok during the entire duration in which this all played out, not to mention all of the posts and videos about me being ableist and treating me like some sort of class traitor.

I only spoke out about it when I was at the end of my rope, which you also mocked and slandered, and thus the harassment continued.

Davis reached out to me about it because after doing his own research, he saw it as unfair that I was being falsely accused of something that could literally ruin my life and career and put my safety in danger.

I didn't ask him to post it, and I certainly wouldn't have asked him to take so much time out of his busy schedule to research and write that entire google doc. All of the accounts he posted there are public socials, all of which have the Lunarsilly moniker attached to them somehow. He's never really talked to me much if at all outside of this situation.

As for the comments made towards people who were clearly against you, entirely unnecessary. If you wanted people to stop and leave you alone then you should have never responded. This stirs the pot and makes more trouble, it also makes you look bad.

I can't convince people to stop attacking you, despite telling them not to come after you in my last tweet about this situation. I can't order Davis to remove your socials from the google doc. All we can simply do is drop the subject and move on.

None of this would have happened if you just came to me first instead of airing out dirty laundry into public places where you were fully aware I was in. Next time you think you've been wronged in some way, instead of acting out, take a step back and breathe. Walk away from the computer/phone and clear your head so you can think straight. That is my absolute best advice to you.

I understand that you're only 15 and probably have some stuff going on at home, and the last thing I want is for anyone to get hurt. Death threats and doxxing are wrong in general, let alone to a teenager, and if you're reading this and have done either of those things to Lunarsilly, I am incredibly ashamed of you.

As for the damage? My alter is traumatized by the claims you've made. My early design of Lunar was never canon. His design belongs to me and I can use it however I please. He is not canon show Lunar.

Speaking of Alters, I want to address the ableism thing.

Once again, all this stress could have been avoided if you’d have just come to me privately on Discord when this was first addressed. I asked you politely to please keep alters of real people from the show avoidant of fronting in the TSBS server. I asked this of you with the knowledge of what was written in the moderator handbook that each moderator must read and follow in TSBS, and had no idea it wasn’t written in the public rules. I will admit fault for not checking that. It was never my intention to come off as ableist towards you nor anyone else.

We didn’t just come up with rules on a whim. We put rules in place to try and keep everyone in the server safe and comfortable, systems and otherwise. Ultimately, the bottom line was that some of the voice actors from the show found discomfort in seeing alters of themselves and their characters in the server, and the business that owns the whole shebang also agreed, and their word is final.

I entirely understand the frustration behind having alters from the show. I have a few of them myself and so does my partner. Yes, they are not their source. But that doesn't prevent the original creators, or actual person from being uncomfortable, much like some alters are uncomfortable with doubles. Everyone's system is different. Mine isn't large. It's not small either, but my alters all do have one thing, a mutual agreement to work together and harmony. If that's something you can't control, then I'd recommend staying out of larger servers such as TSBS.

I was also never obligated to tell you that I'm a system. I don’t exactly go out of my way to make sure every individual who interacts with me is aware of this information about myself. However, if you ever took a moment to look in my discord profile, you would have known. The first line that is on my profile on Discord is “Marshmallow System-DID” and it’s been there this entire time.

All I want is to be left alone. I want this all to finally be dropped so we can move on with our lives. I’m old and tired and simply do not have the time or energy to keep putting towards this situation. Just please, move on and leave me be.

[bogleech]

I’ve posted and deleted versions of this but I’m sticking with this one. It is a vague directed at a specific person who did something I think is really fucked up. They probably think I’m going to call them out by name, but I don’t plan to. I just hope they’ll read this and think about their behavior, and for the Cringe people who lurk my blog just to laugh at any juicy instance of me getting personal about anything, Happy Birthday I guess!

So you’ve followed my art and my blog for at least two to five years or more, yet most of the comments you ever left me were negative in some way, mostly revolving around your idea that my “politics are too extreme” and I have some sort of severe, chronic problem with arguing on the internet, even if I didn’t engage in anything like that for months at a time. I could make an unrelated post about having anxiety and you would barge into my DM’s with some lecture like “well, this is because of your problem arguing on the internet, can’t you see the parallels.” I told you probably a hundred times that I didn’t know you well enough for any of that to be your business even if it were true, I literally said “please stop doing this” and “please, please leave me alone about this shit,” even a few requests to stop messaging me altogether, but you just kept at it. You criticized me for being obsessive over negative shit, but whenever anyone has asked me to knock something off the way I asked you to knock multiple things off, I’ve knocked it off.  I think it was pretty fair of me to both block you and vent about it without naming you. I mean, I still had the decency not to make it a public callout and still won’t, yet you responded to that block by complaining about me to a group whose whole reputation, as per my knowledge, is for stalking and attacking people. You seemed to believe I had a knack for getting people in trouble on the internet who didn’t always deserve it, but I can’t think of any time I intentionally or unintentionally did something as shitty as that. Instead of trying to rally a personal army to get back at someone for nothing but a block, you should maybe finally turn your hyper-criticism on your own problems, dude.

[kitty-bandit]

The hater is calling you out and she needs to stop her bullshit. I don’t want to stress you up, Kitty, I’m just letting you know. It pisses me off to see that she calls your blog out in public

It’s okay, Anon. ( •᷄⌓•᷅ )

I’m well aware of that hater and their bullshit by now. They’ve been trying to smear my name and candy-crackpot for a long while now.

I know they like to accuse me of sending anon messages, but I’ve never even spoken to this person via any type of DM/IM/ask. And I never send anon hate ever. I pride myself on refusing to send anon hate. If I’m going to start something with someone, I’ll damn well do it publicly.

Just ignore this person, Anon. I’ve recently shared the callout for this person, and though I normally hate doing callout posts, this is more for people’s safety than anything else. This person frequently wishes harm on others, openly harasses people, picks fights, falsely reports blogs in the hopes of getting them banned by tumblr staff, and is an all around toxic mess.

They can spout all the lies about me they want, but it won’t do them any good if people ignore them.

This person thrives on negative attention, and they purposefully try to rile up the fandom every so often. What makes it more infuriating is that, even if you block them, they will remake blogs and start again when the heat gets to be too much to handle.

The best thing to do is block and ignore them. Don’t rise to their bait. Don’t give them any attention. Just block and tell your friends to block them as well. You can’t get upset about what they say if you don’t see it.

Just remember, it’s better to let people like them starve for attention than to give in and pick a fight. It’s way more satisfying, and you save yourself the headache.

[gaslightgatekeepgodot]

A (sizeable) rant/essay concerning my experiences in the Tumblr JJBA fandom.

None of you asked to hear this, but I’m getting pretty pissed off at some people in particular (I will not name names, though I may heavily implicate some people) and it’s finally started to kinda spill over. So I’m letting it spill; take it or leave it.

I’m... Fairly irate at the moment, and writing out my feelings does tend to help me calm down in situations like this, so if I was going to put this anywhere the best place for it is probably on the public internet. Again, take it or leave it: this is the internet, you don’t have to interact with me if this concerns you or your ideals. Just click that handy little block button on my profile and you never have to see little Nat mouthing off again.

If you want me to summarise (I know not everyone wants/is able to read a fluffed-up pillar of text) or explain my reasoning behind anything I’ve said below the cut, feel free to direct message me here or on Discord @nati bati yi#1462. Once I get this off my chest I’ll be more than willing to chat to people about it. <3

(Before I say anything else, this is not intended to be a callout in any way, shape or form. I don’t mention the specific names of anybody, and the actions I do mention here will only point to specific people if you know them too. Anyone on the outside should have zero idea of who anyone I bring up is; I do not want anyone to get harassed over this, and I very much do not want to start drama - that’s what inspired me to go off and write this hunk of garbage in the first place. I’m just... Sick to death of the fandom as a whole.)

Anyway. Here we go.

From what I’ve been able to tell, being in this fandom for just under a year now, there are two main halves to it: the gay-hating, stale-meme-parroting dudebro side, who seem to mostly congregate around YouTube and Reddit, and... Whatever the side based on Tumblr (and probably now Twitter) is. I don’t spend a lot of time on Reddit, so naturally I’ve been more exposed to the Tumblr side of the fandom, and after experiencing the ideals some people here want to force on other people I’ve come to the conclusion I’d almost rather be immersed in the bigoted dudebro side. And I say this as an ace-spec/gay trans man.

I’ll start with the blocklist.

I think most of us on Tumblr came to the conclusion that the blocklist was utter bullshit, but I did see a few people in a Discord server I have since left (I will expand on this later) defending the reasoning behind some ships being on there, citing the fact they had been abused in a relationship with a similar age gap. I can definitely see why that would bother a person, and I do not want to erase the fact that people have been and will be abused in similar relationships, but you can’t project your singular experience onto every fictional, non-canon character relationship and every person who ships it. For one, not every relationship is going to turn out the same just because it meets this one criteria of “the age gap is too big”, and, also, you don’t have to write fiction to totally reflect reality. You are in full creative control. Maybe if the characters were real people they wouldn’t click, but if you’re drawing a picture or writing a fanfic you don’t have to go along with that. You can write them so that they’re good to each other, while still keeping it in character. Araki has said that Jotaro and Kakyoin’s personalities don’t work together very well, and that they wouldn’t have become friends or even spoken to each other if Jotaro wasn’t a Stand user... But Jotaro/Kakyoin just happens to be the most-written about JJBA ship on AO3. Me? I love Jotakak. It’s about the only thing I do ship. And I’ve read some quite frankly amazing fanfiction where the two boys are paired and they work together, and it’s still very much in character. Of course, I’m very much against loli/shota content or content depicting characters who don’t look very old- if someone drew Koichi in a sexual situation I would be pissed as all hell, but I don’t have to engage with that content any further. I can just filter out the tag/block the OP and move on. You don’t need to make a fuss and tell/imply to people that they are paedophilic for enjoying well-written content where a 17-year-old is in a healthy relationship with a 22-year-old, platonic or otherwise.

My second point brings in some of the things I’ve learned while studying media this past year. My main point here: not everyone in an audience is the same. There is a reason differential decoding and the uses and gratifications theory exist. The uses and gratifications theory states, at its most basic, that the audience of a media text is active, not passive; i.e. they are not just absorbing every piece of data thrown at them by the text they are consuming, and they are consuming different media to satisfy a need- for JJBA, that need could be entertainment, escapism, identifying with a character similar to yourself or to give you something to talk about with your friends. Differential decoding arises when someone consuming a piece of the media does not entirely go along with the creator’s preferred reading of it- an example might be how a sizeable amount of people enjoy villainous or “disgusting” characters such as Dio, Cioccolata, Stroheim or Melone, when they were clearly written in canon to be abhorrent, unlikable people for varying reasons. I can also say that, because the audience is active, and consume media based on their personal needs, that somebody writing fanfic of a ship you don’t like isn’t going to make incest or paedophilia more socially acceptable. I don’t consume that content, because I don’t feel the need to. Sure, real paedos might, but they’re a minority. Just because a couple hundred people or so read a fanfic on the free web where a grown adult does the dirty with a little kid, doesn’t mean to say everyone in the world will suddenly start thinking it’s ok. Mention it to any sane person in real life and they will not like that idea any more than you do.

And my third point is more a personal thing than anything else, but there is a community I used to be part of (and was part of almost from the beginning) where I didn’t feel welcome because of people causing drama over things like what I mentioned above. I started multiple discourses entirely by accident by saying I didn’t understand why everyone though X ship was horribly problematic and worth getting mad at people over. I still don’t feel like anyone deserves to be harassed over characters and ships they enjoy, but that doesn’t mean to say I support all of it. Along with generally feeling ignored by a lot of the moderators of that server, as well as their friends, I was just sick to death of how they seemed to single out some certain people to say, “hey, don’t do this” when other people seemed exempt. I was verbally warned for posting innuendos in a general chat (but it’s not like I could anywhere else on the server, because I’m not 18 yet), but at least once every day I would see two people flirting in-character in whatever channel they happened to meet in, and it never seemed to be in a roleplay channel- I couldn’t see into NSFW to check if they did it there too, but the fact it would leak out into gen concerned me. They would throw innuendo after innuendo at each other, and they never seemed to stop, or be told to stop. Yes, I could have messaged the moderators to say it made me uncomfy, but one of them was a moderator themselves, so I felt a little out my element doing so. 

Another thing that bothered me is when I tried to join an offshoot of that server for kin, and the admin - I assume - of said offshoot server messaged me (with some other conversation concerning it in between) that, despite the fact I only wanted in to help me figure out what it meant to me, I wasn’t allowed in because somebody was uncomfy with doubles. I completely understand that, but I had spoken to the only person it could have been (I wasn’t given a name, but it wasn’t difficult to figure out who it was) multiple times about that character and how similar we were- hell, we had even roleplayed together as doubles of that character and no problems were ever expressed to me. If anything it seemed like we left off in a spot we could have carried on from later. It might not have been intended that way, but being told I wasn’t allowed in there made me feel excluded from the community nonetheless, especially because I’d had a few people tell me the night before that they wanted more people in there and that I’d be totally welcome. I was also told, before any of this happened, that the same person blocked a friend of mine in another server for going on a small rant about how they didn’t like the way Josuke acted in the episode where he plays dice with Rohan and ends up burning his house down, because they kin Josuke..? At least, that’s what was relayed to me.

But, hey ho, it’s all behind me now. I won’t lie; I don’t really plan on ever going back. I don’t want to engage anymore, because it makes me uncomfortable and anxious thinking about it, so I most likely will unfollow most (if not all) of the blogs pertaining to that community tonight. I do have a few people still there who I miss speaking to, but I’ve DM’d all of them on Discord at least once since I’ve left and talked to them about either how I miss them or something entirely unrelated to the server. I’d like to talk more with them, but DMs are always awkward for me to begin with... I have a feeling they might not want to talk after reading this, and I think I’m ready to accept that? Might be difficult not being able to scream about fanfic as much, but I won’t impose on anyone if my presence makes them uncomfy. I don’t want to be that guy.

I’ll say it again: now that I’ve got this off my chest and subsequently calmed down a lot, I’m more than willing to talk about any of it. Just shoot me a message on Discord and I’ll reply when I’m able and feeling up to talking about it again. For now I’m probably just going to go back to pissing about on Flight Rising or play Smash or something

[softsnuper]

that girl you said was stealing gifs (which i totally agree with) is out there saying bad things about you again... i know you probably don't care, but don't listen to anything she says or said or will say. you're amazing person. out there doing god's work. you were also super polite about it all. and she hasn't been. i think she's just trying to get attention or sympathy or both??

i almost forgot about this whole ordeal, i haven’t visited her blog ever since this happened. and you’re right, i stopped caring at this point (but not really bc i’m still typing on a long-ass answer for this lolol), she’s complaining about me when in fact she has yet to block me (i just tried and i can still visit her blog even when i’m logged in?? just like everyone else hmm fishy ??) and if she really wanted to resolve the “drama” she would be messaging or @ing me instead of indirecting me like that. plus if she really did go through my blog, as she said, she would’ve seen my explanation as to why i didn’t dm her and instead made a public post. i explained it twice, yet she’s trying to paint me as the bad guy who succumbs to tumblr’s stupid callout culture when in fact this is the first time i’ve done something like this. it’s not like i wanted to get myself into this kind of mess and argue nonstop with someone who won’t admit to their wrongdoings lmao! that’s why the rest of this message is not directed at her but my followers, or whoever has seen my recent posts about this issue bc she obviously isn’t trying to understand or change her ways.

in all seriousness, i’m tempted to dissect her tags and point out all the discrepancies in her claims but i’ll address the main point. she pretends to not know exactly what i accused her of doing and says she gets hate. tbh if she believed she could get away with this then receiving hate was inevitable, however there is little to no reason why anyone would send her death threats. i’ve been on tumblr for 5 years, i’ve watched the kpop gif/gfx community grow and eventually joined to help post content, and i’ve yet to see someone get death threats merely for stealing gifs. content creators, when they find out their stuff has been taken without their permission, aren’t looking to send hate or make reposters miserable. they genuinely and sincerely only want an apology or for their works to be taken down; it’s rare for a content creator to resort to something as lowly as death threats. so if she really did receive death threats, especially from people who did not have their content stolen and are only trying to help, please understand where content creators are coming from bc that’s not okay. i didn’t intend for hate messages and death threats to be involved (as i have previously stated several times, but she probably didn’t see on my blog bc she only likes to see what she wants to see smh) and i apologize for the actions of those who may have sent them. but this doesn’t mean i’ll back off on my callout bc what she did was wrong and receiving death threats does not dismiss it. reposting and sending death threats are both unacceptable behaviors and i will apologize for my part if it did happen.

unfortunately, she really has missed the entire point of my post. i have used nothing but civil language and maybe a bit too much sarcasm, but i genuinely did not aim to have people target her with hate. my aim was for her to be aware that people know she’s practicing unacceptable behavior and for others to know that their creations have been misused. but sure, she can keep calling me a bully when the fact is, she called me a “piece of shit” and told me to “eat her ass”. go off, i guess.

last but not least, i’m glad i ruined snuper for her lmao this fandom doesn’t need someone as toxic as her and if she keeps acting like that, we don’t claim her. these swings and the entire snuper playground is off-limits and she can stay pressed. i’m over it.

(i really do mean that i’m over it, guys. if i hadn’t gotten this message then this wouldn’t have dragged on any longer. please refrain from notifying me whenever she makes a new post directed at me and from sending her any more messages, whether it be hate or not. she can call me a bitch or a piece of shit or whatever on her blog, i’m cool with that, but i could care less about her pettiness. it’s ugly and tiring to see, plus if you give me more chances to clear my name and defend myself it’ll only make her feel obligated to keep going. thank you for caring enough to tell me tho, i really appreciate the thoughtfulness! try not to dwell on this too much and focus on more positive, uplifting things and i hope you have a wonderful day ahead of you ♡)

[killapunk]

Hoo I can't wait to have my ass beat and leave tumblr forever