#I want a pretty he/him butch lesbian to CUDDLE ME

[your-average-art-dealer]

Most of the time I have more of an "mlnb" kinda vibe- but other times? I'd be down to yuri fr

[pass1onepr1ncess]

NSFW Topic Warning

Stark contrast from the posts I usually make, but this one's gonna have NSFW topics because I'm pissed off about things so be warned.

It's really been getting under my skin lately that non-fetishized lesbian porn made for and by other lesbians is SO hard to find. Another alter in the system, his name is Milo, is a stricly gay trans man and it's SO EASY for him to find content when he wants it. Even gay porn of trans men! But the second I go looking for lesbian porn, all I can find is straight women being sexy at a camera for straight men to fetishize. And I can tell because there is such a wide difference between the framing and videography and tones of fetishistic "#lesbian" content and actual sapphic content and the former just makes me feel so gross. I don't want to be fetishized, I just want to be horny!

I refuse to use PH partly because of the fetishization but mostly because of the mass exploitation and abuse that happens on there that goes completely unreported and unpunished not just of adult sex workers but also of children and teens that shouldn't be on camera in the first place. I normally use Twitter, but that's where my problem lies in trying to find decent content! I managed to find a singular good account, but not only is all of their content just the same maybe 7-10 videos reposted every month so there's NOTHING new, but they also repost straight content and while that's not, like, a bad thing I just want to be a lesbian in peace!! Without straight people!!

I vented these frustrations with a friend recently and he recommended a BDSM site but the thing is I'm not really into BDSM. I'm not looking for kinky stuff like that- not that anything's wrong with it. BDSM is genuinely one of the healthiest lifestyles I know of when done correctly- I literally just want vanilla lesbian porn made by lesbians for other lesbians! And for some reason, that's so much to fucking ask for!

I think the part of all this that really ticks me off is that content of gay men is so accessible. I can't even count the amount of accounts on twitter who are all gay men (cis AND trans men) making exclusively gay content for other gay men, but the fact that I can't even find ONE good account for lesbian content? It pisses me off!

In all the strides we've made in being a more accepting society of LGBTQ+, why the fuck is it so hard to find stuff like this? Why do the queer men get to have a good time, but I'm struggling to find ONE good source of exclusively sapphic content? Not to say that queer men have it easy, we're all struggling in the same boat don't get me wrong. But it just sucks that the sapphic side of the boat still has a good amount more water in it than the boys' side.

All of this in addition with the stereotypes? The whole thing of people expecting sapphic relationships to be a masculine, woodworking, flannel wearing butch and a dainty, nails and makeup, princess-like femme when there is SO much more than that! Butch4Butch lesbians I love you so much, Femme4Femme lesbians you are doing SO great sweetie. Lesbians who don't really fall into either category, you are incredible! Nonbinary lesbians, you're amazing and keep up the good work! Transbians, you are the bravest fucking people on the planet and I hope you get to fight God one day because you WILL win and you deserve that W.

Not to mention the weird purity culture involved with other queer people trying to palette us for straight people? Saying that lesbians as a whole are soft and nice and pretty? Girl, we're not all coquette and Lana Del Rey. Some of us are, sure, but there is literally no way to try and market lesbians to heteronormative society in a little bow because we don't all fit in one box! And yes, lesbians have sex! It's not all soft romance and cuddling and holding hands on cafe dates. Just like literally every and any other kind of couple, while there's still romance and cutesy moments we still get horny and worked up like literally any other person on earth (Other than asexuals. Not all of you, of course. Shout out to asexuals who still have sex, I see you and you are loved). And what happens when we do? We fuck! We have hot lesbian sex and it's great!

Also, might I add that it's really misogynistic to try and label lesbians as this group of pure, innocent, soft and fluffy group of women who couldn't possibly have a sex drive! Or on the other hand, saying that all lesbians are horndogs who can't keep themselves off each other- because I've seen that one, too! I hate being labeled like this, why is it SO HARD for people to just accept that lesbians are literally just people. We're just like everyone else- the ONLY thing different is that we don't wanna be romantically or sexually involved with men. That is IT!!!!!

And in terms of the lack of good sapphic content, it also goes beyong porn! Literally every sapphic show I've seen released in the past few years has been cancelled after ONE season and then a lot of it just gets deleted entirely so that one season isn't even available anymore!! But the you have Heartstoppers and Love, Simon and I just! I'm happy that we as a community have fought hard enough to have these things. I'm not trying to drive a wedge between the achillean and sapphic communities. I just wish us sapphics got the same treatment as the men do.

I love being a lesbian, don't get me wrong. But sometimes I am exhausted from being overlooked. From being glanced over and shoved into a box that I nor anyone else in that box fits into. I want to be a lesbian in peace.

[joat-jackofalltrades]

Batfam OC Headcanons

These headcanons are all about my superfamily, who I've dubbed the Shadefam. I have post dedicated to their basic info, here. I'm posting this for fun and to invite others to make their own super family or OC family with far too many headcanon and random chapters for a book that'll never be written.

BTW when I say S1, S2, or S3 I'm referring to the certain seasons in Young Justice

Buck- trans ftm taken in by Faith at age 12 because his father isn’t able to properly take care of him. (His dad loves and accepts him, but is very broke and wants what’s best for his son)

Hope is taken in by her sister at age 8 in 2013 when their mother died

Buck dates Bart for a period of time before they mutually agree to break up, both lowkey being attached to other teammates at the time (Jaime and Tim)

Faith is bi and doing fine

Grace is lesbian and freaking disaster

Hope is ace and valid

Buck is trans/gay and perfect

Cody is ace/aro and chillin with his homies

Faith and Grace had a fling for a few months but broke up mutually

Grace has a butch lesbian girlfriend named Joana

They always go to pride and their hero atls hang different pride flags the night before July 1st around the city

Hope lowkey grew up without really registering gender and doesn’t say hello to new people, but asks for their preferred pronouns

Bart’s the closest person to Buck in the Outsiders, being the only person that knows about his true powers as well as the few that knows his birth name

Goes to Bart or Garfield when he has a nightmare at the headquarters

Bruce payed for Buck’s top surgery after S2

Keith is the only straight person in the Shadows

Lily is pan and loves her frogs

Lily really likes frogs and has a small tank for them in her apartment

Hope has one frog gifted to her from her favorite aunt

Cody is the only person allowed to cook in the Manor

Cuddle piles when the enter family is together at their secret hideout

Cody is the only one that owns an actual house and they use the basement as their “hideout”

Lots of “Are the Straights Okay?” moments when the group is people watching during stakeouts

Grace being a flirt to everyone

Hope knowing every curse word at age 9 because her sister can’t shut up

Lots of scolding because of profanity

Faith smacking people upside the head

Cody is Buck’s go to when he’s feeling dysphoria when he’s with the fam

Family nights every friday cause none of them got the most normal lives (Faith lost her parents young as did Cody, Grace wasn’t accepted by her family and lost her parents before even turning 20, Hope only had her parents for 8 years, Lily never had a father and her mother is a thief, Buck lost his mother young and left his father before age 13, and Keith lived mostly alone with a constantly working father. Plus they’re all heroes so I mean none of them are remotely normal)

Cody entered the Shadefam after S3 and doesn’t know that he was previously working with Jason for a period of time

Very confused brother reunion when Cody and Jason meet again

The pair of them both worked for Ra’s a Ghul at the same time in the S3

Lily gives Buck a frog plush that he holds after nightmares at the headquarters

Faith does daily calls to her children

Faith was raised by Bruce, how could she not take in a small child that looks like a mini her

Faith being a mom to everyone, even her brother at times

Faith: “Cody… why are you not wearing any socks?”

Cody: “Why would I be wearing socks?”

Faith: “Because the floor is freezing! Now go put on some damn socks so you don’t get a cold!”

Cody: “But-”

Faith: “Do not try me Cody North Miers.”

Cody: “Damn… the middle name.”

Cody trying to keep Lily and Grace from getting killed on the field

Faith trying to keep Lily and Grace from getting killed off the field

Faith moves in with Keith after her amputation because he has a first floor apartment and she can’t do stairs yet

Keith finds out about MJ and Faith finds out about Hunter after he sneaks back in from a patrol before the accident

Grace and Lily are chaotic a hell, pushing themselves as far as they can during training and mission

They are the two that get hurt the most often

Though Faith always has the worst injuries cause she’s a mama bear that will leap in front of her children

Cody will get pretty severe ones as well when he jumps in front of Faith

Cody: “Why the fuck do you keep jumping in front of them?!”

Faith: “I am mama bear bitch!”

Cody: “Well stop being mama bear cause you’re going to get yourself killed one day.”

Faith: “I can’t die bitch!”

Cody and Faith being responsible adults and the most mature of the group, to being bickering siblings at each other's throats

It always ends up shocking the rest of the fam as well as the Team and the Batfam

Cody: “Can you grab me a pop?”

Faith: “The hell is a pop?”

Cody: “You know a Coke or Sprite.”

Faith: “You mean a soda?”

Cody: “Yeah a pop.”

Faith: “It’s soda!”

Cody: “Pop!”

Faith: “SODA!”

Cody: “POP!”

Halo: “Are they fighting over what to call a drink?”

Buck: “Yeah…”

The Shadefam is sort of a faction of the Batfam

Buck ships Bartuardo and got Hope to agree with him after she jumped ship from Bluepulse

Bruce is lowkey protective of Buck (he loves his grandson)

Buck is Alfred’s favorite of the Shadefam children

Cody and Faith are his favorites of the adults

Faith insists they eat dinner at the table together before leaving early to go invent

Grace and Faith have coffee addictions

Hope is not allowed near caffeine, neither is Buck

Lily shows up at Grace’s and Faith’s separate apartments randomly

Faith was the shoulder Lily cried in after Jason death

Bruce accidentally introduced Buck as his grandson to a board of people when he stopped by Wayne Enterprise

Bruce: “This is Buck, my grandson. He’ll be sitting in today because his mother is busy.”

The news outlets had a field day trying to figure out which Wayne kid was his parents and the person that they knocked up or got knocked up by. Many settled on Faith getting knocked up by some random guy before realizing the math didn’t work.

One outlet found out that Buck was born female and called him a “she” in their coverage of it.

Bruce lost it.

Bruce: “I read your coverage of my grandson. I would like to kindly ask you to pull that story.”

Reporter: “But Wayne sir.”

Bruce: “You misgendered my grandson. So either print an apology or I will be suing.”

Bruce does not stand for misgendering

Keith and Faith child’s godmothers are Grace and Joana

Hope and Buck are practically their child’s older siblings

Lily is the child’s favorite auntie

Keith leaves after their child’s birth

Keith: “Someone needs to be here in case something happens to you.”

Faith: “Nothing’s going to happen to me, Love.”

Keith: “Can you guarantee that?”

Faith: “...”

Keith: “That’s what I thought.”

Faith: “I’m not leaving.”

Keith: “I know. And I don’t blame you. You were built for the hero’s life. I wasn’t.”

Faith: “I swear I’ll be careful. For you and for them.”

Both Hope and Buck move to the Outsiders and later Buck leads the Team, leaving the Shadows.

Faith: “The Team? Buck that’s great!”

Buck: “I thought you’d be a bit more… I don’t know feeling the mode about this.”

Faith: “Why? Cause my little hodgepodge of a team is losing a member?”

Buck: “Well yeah.”

Faith: “Buck. The Shadows were just a covert team for the East. Plus it’s not like I’m really losing you. You are my son after all.”

Buck: “I know. And I’ll never forget that… Mom.”

Lily moved in with Jason and the two of them focused more on Gotham, Lily becoming a true Bat.

Lily: “So I guess I’m a Bat now.”

Faith: “Yup.”

Lily: “No longer a Shade.”

Faith: “The Shades were created by a Bat and consisted of like four current Bat members. The Shades are like a stepping stone.”

Lily: “I guess. I’m still gonna miss family nights.”

Faith: “The Shadows might be decreasing in numbers, but that doesn’t mean we’re ending Shade family nights. Bring along Jason, I’m sure he’ll have a ton of fun.”

Lily: “Yeah surrounded by youngins! He’ll be ecstatic!”

Faith: “Well he does need to prepare.”

Lily: “How the fuck did you know!”

Faith: “Wait, what!”

And that’s how Faith learned Lily was pregnant

Grace leaves the hero world once she and Joana get married and she becomes a criminal prosecutor, sealing the fate of the Shadows

Faith: “So you’re giving it up then?”

Grace: “The hero's life is great and every Faith, but.”

Faith: “I know. It’s a lot.”

Grace: “I mean I never wanted to be a hero, I just wanted to put the bad guys away. That’s what I’m doing now. Plus Joana always frets over me after a mission, even if nothing bad happened.”

Faith: “That’s pretty reasonable. Keith tends to exaggerate the smallest cuts.”

Grace: “So you’re not upset that you’re losing another member?”

Faith: “The Shadows were just a covert team for smaller crimes. I always have my back up with the League.”

Grace: “So the Shadows are done now?”

Faith: “For the time being.”

Cody never left the team, but with only two members it became more of a partnership. They continued to work together, with them assisting the League, Team, and Bats whenever they were needed

Even after the team breaks up, they all gather up once a month and hang out for board games, movies, or a patrol around the city for old times sake.

The older members (Faith, Grace, and Keith) do a lot of reminiscing while the “kids” (Buck, Lily, and Hope) just goan and roll their eyes as Cody listens to the tales of his sister and her friends

Lily and Jason never planned on having any biological children, but they did plan on taking in a street kid. They ended up with one biological child and one street kid

Cody becomes the next Bruce Wayne, training and taking in kids that need a good home

Grace and Joana have three kids, two of which have Grace’s abilities

The entire Shade family is always invited to Bat family reunions. Damian was very confused by the massive amount of people that showed up after Bruce told him he only had a “few” siblings.

Damian: “Eight is not a few Father.”

Bruce: “You have seven siblings Damian. Buck is your nephew.”

Damian: “He’s nearly 16 years older than me.”

Bruce: “Yes but he’s Faith’s son.”

Damian: “Reigns is only seven years younger than Miers.”

Bruce: ���He still calls her mom correct?”

Damian: “Yes.”

Bruce: “And he calls me Grandpa?”

Damian: “Yes.”

Bruce: “Then he is your nephew.”

Damian: “But Kyle also calls her mom.”

Bruce: “Your sister does it as a joke to annoy your oldest sister.”

Damian: “Kyle is the only blood sibling I have here. Why must I consider the rest of these people siblings?”

Bruce: “Because they are.”

Damian: “Well… seven is still not a small amount of people.”

Bruce: “With the amount of people here, seven is a few.”

Cody is a light sleeper, waking at the slightest sounds

Grace sleeps like the dead, freezing water and banging pots are the only thing that wake her

Keith can sleep through stuff if he’s in a deep sleep, but also wakes to small shifts in the bed when Faith has a nightmare

Faith is another light sleeper, though not as light as her brother

Lily can and will sleep through anything that doesn’t sound threatening, aka wakes only to gunshots and the scrapping of a blade in its sheath

Buck is a deep sleeper, though often wakes to nightmares

Hope sleeps a lot like her sister, though she’s easier to wake up

When Cody wakes up, he’s up. If he’s woken up, a perimeter check is needed before he goes to sleep. If he wakes up on his own, he still does a perimeter check before going about his day

Grace doesn’t fully wake up until she’s had her eggs and instant caramel coffee

Keith rises with the sun full of energy after seeing Faith sleeping beside him

Faith wakes up tired and a little sluggish, needing black coffee to really wake up in the morning

Lily lives in a permanent state of sluggishness during daylight hours, she draws her power through the moon

Buck is always a bit tired, with usual bursts of random energy

Hope wakes with the sun cause she herself is a ray of sun

Faith & Keith child

Valarie (biological)

Cody’s children

Westly (adopted)

Conner (adopted)

Grace & Joana’ children

Derek (Grace’s biological)

Sophie (Grace’s biological)

Adrian (adopted)

Jason & Lily’s children

Charlie (street kid)

Jaden (biological)

Faith, Hope, and Grace are called the holy trinity as a joke

How Lily and Jason act

PDA constantly, it’s not huge things but it’s very clear that they are together

Nightmare comfort

Got together after Jason came back from the dead, working together as Red Hood and Scarlet Falcon

Were rivals of sorts before his death when Lily was still Misfortune. They fought a lot as Robin and Misfortune, though Faith refuses to let Jason take her in

Lily runs cold so she often wears Jason’s jacket

Faith gave both Lily and Jason the “if you hurt my sibling” lecture. Jason was terrified by it, while Lily shrugged it off

Faith: “You hurt my baby brother, I will hurt you tenfold. I will get a crowbar.”

Lily: “Reasonable.”

Faith: “If you hurt my baby sister, I will hurt you tenfold. I will get a crowbar.”

Jason: “Okay ma’am.”

Buck isn’t a meta but cursed

Hope gets killed in 2023 during the first mission that the team gets together after 2020

Shadefam split by 2020, with Keith, Hope, & Buck leaving in 2018, Grace leaving in 2019, and Lily leaving in 2020 with Faith moving from High Hills in 2019

Keith and Faith move after S3 in 2019 to Star City to man the Wayne Enterprise in the West and raise Valerie in a less crime-ridden area

Cody takes over protecting High Hills, taking on two wards

Grace and Joana move to a smaller town outside of New York so Grace couldn’t be dragged back into the Life

Lily lives with Jason in Gotham

Cody was almost taken by the Court of Owls to become a Talon (their mother’s death was a result of the Court) saved by the League of Shadows instead

Valerie

Metahuman with the True Sight ability

Born 2018

Year younger than Damian

Joins the Team as Seer

Connor

Eldest of the Shade children

Born 2014

Joins the family when he's seven

Loves musical theatre

Doesn’t do fieldwork and works as the man behind the screen for his brother and father

Westly

Second eldest of the Shade children

Born 2016

Joins the family when he's six

Works on the field with his father (Bullseye)

Mathlete

Derek & Sophie

Twins

Born 2019

Sophie is a shadow bender (Yin)

Derek is a light bender (Yang)

Both join the Life (much to Joana dismay)

Adrian

Same age as the “twins”

Born 2019

Doesn’t join the Life

Works with their mom (Joana) in the family jeweler shop

Charlie

Equal eldest Shade child (though entered the family far later than Conner)

Born 2014

Joins the family when he's nine

Doesn’t join the Life and studies pre-med to fix up his family

Jaden

(2020)

Joins the Life

When People Call Faith “Mom”

Cody, Grace, Dick, and Jason call her Mom as a joke or when she’s being to much of a mama bear

Grace: “Alright. Alright Mom. We’ll stop.”

Faith: “Don’t call me Mom Grace.”

Dick: “Alright… Mama Bear.”

Faith: “I will kill you Dick.”

Jason: “Oh don’t kill him Mum, he’s a good big brother.”

Faith: “-Jay.”

Cody: “Relax Mother. They’re just playing with you.”

Faith: “CODY!”

Lily does it as a joke most of the time, though often accidentally does it

Lily: “Jeez let up Faith I’m fine.”

Faith: “Fine? Lily, you nearly bled out an hour ago.”

Lily: “Yeah an hour a ago.”

Faith: “Sit the fuck back down you asshole.”

Lily: “Okay.”

Faith: “What were you thinking Lily? You could have been killed. You could have gotten Buck killed.”

Lily: “You quoting Lion King now?”

Faith: “Lily.”

Lily: “Sorry.”

Faith: “What were you planning, Lily? What if we couldn’t have gotten to you in time? What if Buck was in your place? What if we lost you?”

Lily: “I’m- I’m sorry Mom.”

Faith: “I know you- Did you just call me Mom?”

Lily: “Aaaa- no?”

Hope never means to call Faith Mom, but it does just kind of happen

Faith: “Time to get up, Hope. You got school in thirty minutes.”

Hope: “Mmmm.”

Faith: “Come on Hope.”

Hope: “I don’t wanna go Mom.”

Faith: “It’s only for seven hours, Hope.”

Hope: “Mmm. Fine.”

Faith: “Good. Be ready in ten please.”

Hope: “Alright M- Faith. I meant Faith… not Mom.”

Buck calls her Mom the most (besides her own daughter)

Faith: “Have fun sweety.”

Buck: “I will Mom.”

Faith: “You know I’m not old enough to be your mother.”

Buck: “I know Mom. And you know I don’t care.”

faith: “And neither do I in all honesty.”

Tim accidentally called her mom once, which her reflect response was “I’m too young to be your mother”

Faith: “Tim? What are you still doing up?”

Tim: “Working.”

Faith: “For how long?”

Tim: “... I’m on hour… 56?”

Faith: “Go to bed Tim.”

Tim: “But I just need 10 more hours to finish.”

Faith: “Nope. You’re going to bed.”

Tim: “Hey! Put me down!”

Faith: “No. Tim you are a growing boy who needs to sleep.”

Tim: “But I have to-”

Faith: “Sleep! You have to sleep.”

Tim: “Put me down Faith.”

Faith: “Alright.”

Tim: “No I’m not going to bed.”

Faith: “Yes. Yes, you are.”

Tim: “I don’t need you to tuck me in Faith. I’m a grown man.”

Faith: “You’re a seventeen-year-old boy, not a grown man. Now go to bed.”

Tim: “Mmm. Fine. Good night Mom.”

Faith: “I’m too young to be your mother.”

Tim: “...”

Faith: “Good night Timmy.”

Damian also did it by accident once (Jason never let him live it down)

Faith: “I’m fine guys. Just a bit banged up.”

Jason: “Just a bit?”

Dick: “Faith you were held captive for nearly three weeks.”

Tim: “We stayed up endless nights to get you back.”

Lily: “We got to you to find you with a punctured lung and a broken arm.”

Faith: “Yes. But I’m fine now.”

Bruce: “You’re off patrol for the next three weeks and I’ll make sure you get a week off from work.”

Faith: “I don’t need that Bruce. I’ll be fine going back to work and I doubt three weeks probation is needed.”

Damian: “You nearly died Mother!”

Everyone: “Mother?”

Faith: “...”

Tim: “Did you just call Faith Mother?”

Dick: “Well it certainly wasn’t a joke.”

Jason: “I think the demon needs a mommy figure.”

Damian: “Shut up Todd!”

Jason: “Demon misses his mommy!”

Damian: “I said SHUT UP!”

Faith: “Enough! Both of you! Damian get off your brother! Jason stop teasing your brother.”

Damian: “...”

Faith: “Thank you. Now. Damian I’m fine. I’ve been through far worse.”

Lily: “No you haven’t.”

Faith: “You do remember that I got into a car accident where I lost my leg, right?”

Lily: “... Right.”

Faith: “Now I’m going to go watch a movie cause I’ve been stuck in a wooden chair for a few weeks and I have a strange urge to watch Ratatouille.”

And that's it for now. I might make another post about these guys, maybe I won't, depends if people like this.

[chrysosims]

Bobbie “Cherry” Wade for @simbidcuriosity‘s Clementine BC

“Roight, so all’s I gotta do is tell ‘er a’little about meself, yeahs? Well, first off love, name’s Bobbie. Neva really done anythin’ like this before, ans I’m a bit rubbish at this ‘ole datin’ scene anyways. Go easy on me, will ya lass?” “I’m a bartenda at tha Waterside Warble. Not tha best name, I kno. I’d say I’m a’lil bit of a Foodie, ya know? I love food ans I love to cook, tho I ain’t very good at it. I’d say I’m an Outgoing type. People are my passion. I’m a big Music Lover too- Techno, Hip-Hop and Soul are usually my go-to, but I’ll listen to pretty much anythin’.”

More info under the cut!

Mixologist Aspiration

YA (She’s 22)

Has an essex accent

Her friends call her Cherry

100% a raging butch lesbian

Totally the type to order pizza and cuddle for a date

Uses her brother’s Netflix and Disney+ subscription

LOVES video games but can’t actually play them

Bobbie grew up in San Myshuno’s Spice Market, and has always aspired to be a singer/songwriter. She’s written a few songs herself, but rarely shows them to anybody. She’s really close with her brother Jax, but he moved to Moonlight Falls and she hasn’t been able to get into contact with him much. Her friends are always trying to set her up, but she’s not really big on the dating scene. She just wants a girl to snuggle up with under a blanket and watch cartoons with tbh. Private DL if chosen.

[icicledream-archive]

i wanna talk about marx kirby because i love him so here we go. please don’t shove me into a locker again this is mostly gonna be about my marx gijinka but basically all of these can apply to his canon form too, of course (if u are like me and think that his wings can be used like arms

first off he’s nonbinary and also a lesbian. don’t fight me on this, if you do YOU’RE the one going into the locker, buddy! (he’s a soft butch). anyways. despite being nonbinary and prefering he/him pronouns he kind of prefers being called things like sister, queen, princess, girlfriend, etc. he also binds most of the time! surprisingly enough he’s a very big advocate on healthy binding. he is 23 years old! for simplicity’s sake i like to think that pop star has the same rotation and revolution speed as earth, so!

marx is very good at some circus things. balancing on a ball is one of them, of course, but a few others are: rola bola, juggling, some aerial acrobatics (trapeze is not one of them). he’s also good at dancing. and playin violin. and riding unicycles. and playing violin while on unicycles he’s also real good at pantomiming but he will totally suddenly yell or speak to startle n catch people off guard

he has autism and ADHD, however i am not educated on ADHD to a point where i’m comfortable talking about it so i will be quiet about it. some of his fav stims, however, are playing with slime, humming, swaying back and forth/shuffling, and flapping his wings/arms when he is happy/excited. he’s also almost always doing some sort of dance to add on to the dancing bit, he’s pretty good at it. especially ballet dancing, and he incorporates that into other styles. while marx isn’t troubled by things like depression, dancing is one of the things that never fails to make him genuinely happy!

he is a noddy! but he’s has insomnia. while he sleeps as much as the average person (bout 8 hours plus an afternoon nap sometimes), for a noddy that is bad considering i like to think they sleep for 14-18 hours a day because of this though he had more than enough time to learn how to do all the things he can do! he also learned how to cook very well, however he is extremely lazy and only cooks for himself when he absolutely has to, so no one really knows he’s a great cook. except his sister circe, my kirby oc

marx is a sucker for physical interaction and will cuddle with anyone that allows it. gryll, being his best friend, is always the cuddle victim. however they enjoy cuddles too so it’s ok

i theorise that marx got all of his powers + his wings from nova! he is able to use his powers nowadays but it hurts him. except for his wings! he can fly and stretch n flap them whenever he wants.

ok this is pretty long now so bye

[thealpacalypse-archive]

please give us all you non-binary matteo hcs. for science.

I’m SO glad you asked!!! Not to be dramatic or anything, but i would die for nonbinary Matteo. So be prepared for endless ramblings about what’s basically Matteo’s whole life story:

Matteo realizes he’s not cis when he’s 16. He had always been a little bit of a tomboy, as a kid he often tried to be ‘one of the boys’ and he was extremely confused that everyone seemed to think girls and boys were naturally different from each other - he never thought that was true.

When he’s 15, he briefly identifies as a lesbian. At this point, he’s friends with Jonas, but due to socialization and peer pressure, he’s also part of the friend group around Hanna, Leonie, and Sara. And Sara has a crush on him, and because Matteo is already kind of looking like a baby butch, she thinks there might be a slight chance Matteo is into girls as well, so she comes out to him and asks him if he’s a lesbian as well. Somehow, that feels right at the time, the realization that he’s probably not straight - but he realizes pretty quickly that he’s not into Sara, so he tells her that. 

After this whole thing, Matteo really starts thinking though. He doesn’t feel straight, but he’s not into girls, and that really makes his head explode for quite some time, until he hangs out with Jonas and some boys one night, and Jonas plays the guitar, and Matteo’s heart kinda stumbles while the thought “wow I’m gay” crosses his mind and yeah. yeah that somehow feels right.

He googles around a bit, once the panic has settled over that new revelation. He finds words like “girlfag” (girls who are attracted to gay guys and label themselves as gay) and he shudders. He also finds words like “trans man” and yeah, that’s more like it, but not quite. Again, he wonders what the difference between boys and girls is anyway, because he’s never felt those distinct lines that everyone else seemed to see. It takes him a while until he finds words like “nonbinary” and “transmasculine”, but yeah, those feel like him, and even though it’s all still pretty vague to him what this whole gender thing means, it makes him feel more comfortable.

At this point, he’s already pretty masc presenting, so he doesn’t change much about his looks - this is the way he has always felt most comfortable. He cuts his hair a little (alone one night in front of the bathroom mirror), and after some google searching, he decides to buy a binder, but that’s pretty much all that changes

i’ve mentioned this before, but he doesn’t wear the binder a lot. the restrictive feeling of it doesn’t go well with his anxiety, so wearing the thing makes it hard for him to breathe and he panics easily. he gets bigger sweaters instead, and oversized shirts and layered looks that hide his chest, and most of the time, that works pretty well. these days, he only ever wears the binder to school, whenever it’s too hot to wear big sweaters or multiple layers.

he decides to change his name a bit later, and he chooses Matteo because that’s what his parents would have called him if he’d been a boy - he’s always liked that name.

he struggles with pronouns for a while longer. “She” is definitely not right for him anymore, but since he’s not a guy, he shies away from using “he” at first. But no matter how much he looks into the neutral options the German language offers (”it” or “xier” or “si_er” or using no pronouns at all), nothing feels good, so he begrudgingly opts for “he/him”. Only when people start using that for him, he realizes how damn right it feels, and how euphoric it makes him to be referred to like that.

it takes a while before he starts telling people though. he was out as a lesbian only to his closest friends (Sara, Hanna and Jonas) (which makes things between Jonas and him extra weird, now that Matteo has developed a crush on him), so it’s kind of weird to come out as gay, and kind of a guy, to everyone. he tells Sara first, that’s easy because Sara is sweet and open-minded and by now, she’s long over her crush on him and instead pining for Leonie (which is hilarious because Matteo is pining for Leonie’s boyfriend). 

by the time he feels ready to tell Jonas and Hanna, the two of them are dating. He tells them one night on their vacation at Heidesee, and he only mentions the gender part, not the gay part, that feels too risky. because both Jonas and Hanna take it so incredibly well and start calling him Matteo immediately, it gives Matteo more confidence to come out to other people as well, and soon, all of his friends use that name and those pronouns for him

the boy squad also decides to nickname him “Luigi” at around that time, and that gives him some of that good, good gender euphoria as well, and Matteo realizes, that for a couple of straight cis dudes, those boys are pretty cool (he’s wrong though. the boy squad is neither cool nor is a single one of them straight)

it takes a lot of courage to tell his parents, because hey, his home life is already shitty enough, he doesn’t need to add to that with his own problems. When he finally tells them, his mother cries and hugs him, telling him he’s always going to be her kid no matter what. his father doesn’t say much of anything at all, and not much later, he buggers off back to Italy anyway, and Matteo feels betrayed both for himself and for his mother. Matteo decides he doesn’t need that in his life and breaks off all contact to the guy.

he moves into the flat soon after, and he feels like shit. sure, he loves his friends, sure, they love and accept him, but life is kind of terrifying when you’re a teen without a plan, without any ambitions, with an absent father and a mother who loves you but can’t support you because of her mental illness. and sure, he likes the flat and living there, but it’s so much responsibility to look after himself, and he doesn’t have the energy most of the time. and he likes Mia and Linn and Hans, but sometimes it’s so hard to share a space with people who barely know him, and sometimes he can’t stand the kind of questions Hans has - no matter if it’s “do you want me to set you up with this friend of mine?” or “so, have you thought about taking hormones or anything?”. Matteo doesn’t feel like dating random guys, and he sure as hell isn’t in the right mind space to make important, lasting decisions about his body like surgeries or hormones

sure, top surgery would make things easier for him but surgeries also scare him, and sure, going on t would be great, but it’s so much work to get there - finding a therapist, coming out to them, asking for hormones, getting the prescription, all that - and he’s currently not even sure if he’s gonna get through school, so all of that is off the table for now

he isn’t really part of any groups or communities either. Sara goes to a queer youth group once a week, and sometimes she asks him to come along, but most of the kids there are cis gays and lesbians, and while they’re nice, Matteo doesn’t really feel like he belongs there. He wishes he could make more trans and nonbinary friends, and he follows a few people on instagram, but he never knows how to reach out to them, so he just watches their lives on his phone screen, watches them get top surgeries and go on hormones and dye their hair and cuddle their pets and friends and partners... he watches them live their perfect looking lives and he craves for that connection, but he never knows how to make it.

so by the time he meets David, he’s desperate for something, craving everything. And even before he knows that David is trans, he feels like David truly gets him, he feels like they connect in a way he’s never connected with anyone before, and whenever David looks at him, Matteo’s insides turn into a mess and he has the powerful urge to open up to David and tell him his whole life story.

now please imagine his utter joy when he realizes that David is trans. Please imagine a coming out that is simple and low key and full of hugging and happy tears oh NO i’m about to make myself cry I better stop now

[joeyisaprincess]

Butch!Noctis

Noctis is... the softest butch. He’s sleepy. He likes to cuddle. He fawns over pretty much every animal he sees. He’s the nerdiest, goofiest kid you will ever see

“Do you prefer to be called handsome or pretty?” “Gay women can call me whatever they want and I will probably swoon.”

He uses He/They pronouns. When he was younger, the media used She/Her, but they were respectful enough to stop when he asked them to as a teenager

When he came out as a lesbian, Regis started calling him “girlsloth.” That’s what people called lazy lesbians when he was a kid. Noctis pretends to hate it, but he thinks it’s adorable

“But what’s your real gender?” “I’m a lesbian. I guess I’m a gender non conforming woman.” “But are you though?” “You got me. Truth be told, I identify as tired.”

A lot of foreign kingdoms call him the Pretty boy Prince, which he isn’t into. He’s the Princeless Princess and he wants them to refer to him as such

“Iris has a crush on him cause she thinks he’s a boy” nah, Iris is gay. She knows what she’s doing

[saschagemruler]

For context I’m a non-binary aroace lesbian so I’ve had layers of confusion to work through lmao.

But yeah with any dude I’ve dated it was bc they liked me or I was “supposed” to like them. I’m a very psychically affectionate person so being paired with the fact I’m perceived as a girl, I was kinda always taught that if I want to hug or cuddle with a guy then I must like him, but it’s okay if I wanted to do that with a girl bc that’s just what friends do.

Actually, there are two trans ppl I’ve dated, first was a trans guy who realized he was trans while dating me, and the other an afab genderfluid person who... again realized he was trans while dating me. Before either of them realized they were trans, I was sooooo excited bc “I have a gf!!!” even if I didn’t have any sexual/romantic desire towards them. (Also I didn’t realize I was ~allowed~ to like butch women fjiejeo)

I IDed as pansexual for a while bc “hey zero attraction to anyone must mean attraction to everyone” and shit

Then I realized I was ace, then realized I was oriented aroace (called myself pan aroace) and THEN realized oh shit... wdym that looking at (usually feminine) guys and thinking “aw... cute like a dog, I’d pet them <2″ and then looking at women and going “HOLD ME HOLD ME HOLD ME I WOULD KISS YOUR HAND HOLD ME URE SO FCKING PRETTY” wasn’t a common experience. You mean you guys ACTUALLY find men... attractive??? and not in a pet way??????? 

Also I’ve realized that if I look at most men I’ll recognize “oh he’s attractive... ig...” but feel NOTHING and then a voice tells me “ure supposed to feel smthing” and then I have a crisis yayyyy

So yeah sorry if this is unreadable I am TIRED

tl;dr yeah it was v hard and confusing to realize that I had a strong aesthetic and alterous attraction to women (butch women <3) but none to men

Question to my fellow lesbians: was it harder to admit you don’t like men than to admit you like women?

For me it was, because I tried to deny the fact that I would never be able to have a heteronormative relationship and to just fit into what society considers “normal”. Coming to terms with the fact that I would never fit that was so much harder than to accept I like women.

[purplenickel]

So this turned more into my queer dating history but its fun lol

So I have always been attracted to boys even before I knew that trans was a thing much less that I could transition. I also always admired girls and found ways to rationalize it until like middle school when I became aware of bisexuality where I had so many crushes usually on the mean kids at least the ones that didn’t have like weird shaped heads or watch alarms that went off at weird times during class like why do you need an alarm for 1:27? Youre supposed to be learning basic Spanish do that instead lol An I dated one guy in middle school when I knew I was bisexual and at least a tom boy. And the things I wanted to do to that boy. Like I was kinky as a small child lol like damn you could do a lot more than hold my hand and let me give you innocent little cheek kisses.

We stayed together until freshmen year of high school where I was bored with how slow things were going so I broke up with him. It probably didn’t help that I was starting to question my gender then either.  I told my mom I thought I wanted to be a boy and she shot that down real quick “You’re a girl and cant be a boy” so I ended up trying to cut off all my hair until it was so fucked she had to give me a buzzcut and I ended up looking like a hard core butch lesbian for a semester)

Second boyfriend was this skinny dude like only an inch taller than me and I was 5’3 at the time. I wrote down love song lyrics and gave them to him to ask him out. Im romantic like that lol. We dated for a while and I guess we just grew apart. He wouldn’t do much more than kiss me occasionally and I was like damn yall how do I keep getting these innocent Victorian straight boys. But he was cute and I still see him around town much to my embarrassment. Idk why im embarrassed so much maybe I feel bad that he thought he was dating a girl and im not?

Next boyfriend was a bi emo guy named Justice. I dated him mainly because he was the only bi guy I knew at my school in rural redneck Virginia lol he ended up being really kinky and kinda weirdly intense.  Like the fun part was he didn’t mind that I was all for sitting in the back of the anime club/computer classroom and tryina get down. The weird part was that he had the idea to write Real Person fanfiction staring ourselves as like vampires because he had a major biting kink and was really emo and thought he was goth but rural VA is a hard place to be goth when all your clothes come from walmart. But he was really intense like he had our entire lives planned out in the fanfic and actually went a bought me a ring  , gold with a pearl setting, that I immediately lost because why would you give me a ring??? Nah so I got real disinterested in Justice and planned to break up with him. I actually ended up cheating on him sort of. My class went on a field trip to Jamestown famous school tour site all Virginian probably had to go to. And one of my classmates/kind of friends was this really hot guy with this shaggy blonde hair and this wiry lanky body and was this laid back hot stoner type and I really liked him so I sat next to him on the bus ride and seduced him through out the whole trip until we stopped in this little shopping mall on the way back to school. I was walking around one of the department stores and saw him trying one underwear of all things lol he invited me to help him pick out a new pair of tight good looking underwear and I agreed and slipped into the changing room while he was putting them on and ended up giving him a hand job he was grateful lol. Then we went back to the bus and pretended like nothing happened but there was already a rumor going around the buses that somebody had sex in the store. A few days later Justice actually broke up with me because he felt that I was “acting different” and I probably was simply because I wasn’t attracted to him any more.

Between dating Justice and the next guy I did have my first kiss with a girl! She was so pretty with silky black hair in a bob and dark blue eyes and the palest skin. She dressed in rave clothes all the time and sometimes wore fairy wings and cloaks to school. She was delightfully strange but moved to florida I think but we were saying goodbye by the schools front doors and when it was my turn I gave her a tight hug and she turned her face and gave me a kiss and I was just wow kissing girls is so nice. Speaking of girls, I also had a huge crush on president of the anime club. She was so tall and really thin with a few curves, but she was really confident and funny and just made you feel at ease and I could’ve seen myself dating her easily but she was dating someone else but im pretty sure she might have been bi but she graduated and moved to Washington state to be a masseuse.

Next boyfriend was extremely religious and also wanted to get married. I was against getting married so young, really against converting to southern baptism and definitely against having kids. Pregnancy has always freaked me out mostly because I don’t like pain and don’t want to be in pain and in general everything about reproduction freaks me out idk why. But I really wanted him. He had these nice big and rough hands and was so warm all the time. He was also really sweet. But I broke up with him because I couldn’t do the religious thing It was Too Much™.

After dating him though I had this huge crush on this girl a year younger than me in me creative writing class. She was gothic in a very flowery dark fairy type way and I loved it she was also had a huge gay crush on my female friend who I can confirm is very beautiful with long dyed red hair and olive skin and this soft husky voice that would be perfect for a late night radio talk show where you call in about relationship problems. But anyways the girl I had a crush on was named Sage and she was beautiful  with her long blonde hair and her light green eyes and small everything she was very thin like scarily thin she actually had an eating disorder that we tried to help her with and she could reach her hand behind her ribs and grip the bottom of her ribs it was creepy to look at. She wrote beautiful and dark poems and never seemed to mind that my crush took the form of hugging her and resting against her as often as I could. She never seemed interested in me though I think she was actually fatphobic or maybe she was just femme for femme I dunno but I graduated and nev er saw her again so whatever.

After I graduated high school I decided to go to a traditionally womens college. My roommate was ace and like the first openly ace person I had ever met and she was really cool and introduced me to the idea of being ace but at the time I was decidedly bi and later pan once some more friends introduced me to tumblr and I started openly learning about gender and sexuality. All my friends were really hot that I met at college and I probably would have been down to date any of them except for the girl that I met through the anime club who also really liked the anime Hetalia. We could get together and watch episodes and read a variety of fanfictions ranging from family type things to kinky sex shit we were very close and im sure that a lot of people thought we were dating or at least fooling around together. We actually met each other at a Virginia anime convention where the anime club people went in a group and I went separately with some friends from high school (the best part of the experience was the wafflehouse in the hotel parking lot) but me and my friend got together at the con and went back to my groups hotel room to gush over the merch we had found and watch some anime together. I was in a closet cosplay that consisted of booty shorts and tied button up shirt so I had a lot of skin showing and we were sitting on the bed by ourselves until my friends came back and they all thought we had sex like no she was very attractive and had really nice curves but girl needed to shower more often because unfortunately she had a smell to her that I just didn’t like. I think she was interested in dating me but she ended up having financial problems of some sort and couldn’t come back to school the next year.

After she left school I came out as trans and got closer to the core group of the college anime club. They were all really hot except for the vegetarian one but she had a boyfriend and didn’t seem to like me much anyways so whatever. I also dated this one girl in my graduation class for like three days over the summer but she broke up with me because she was again a southern Baptist and couldn’t honestly date a trans person because it somehow went against god or some shit. That person has since come out as trans masculine. But anyways next person I dated was this smoking hot older girl who only wore skirts. She was southern Baptist and straight but I had to try even if I never got to be anything other than her creepy friend who everybody knew had a crush on her. She surprisingly was interested in dating me so we started going out. We went on dates around town to explore and see new stores and went to the park and shit was great we had kisses and cuddles and fun cute dates and sexy times but we also clashed a lot over mostly miscommunication. It didn’t help that I was on a medicine that once I started taking it regularly like I was supposed to my sex drive dropped to nonexistent. We fought over this a few times but still planned to try to get an apartment off campus the next year. I thought she was being too clingy by texting me pretty often that summer. I was in a bad mood all of that summer though. We broke up and got back together over the phone probably at least three times before deciding to break up for good. Sometimes I wonder what would have happened if we had stayed together because when we weren’t fighting we had a lot of fun and I told her things I hadn’t told anybody before, I felt safe.

The next person I dated didn’t go so well. This was a friend from the colleges LARP club that also had people from the community or it was a community club that extended to the college kids and just ended up being held on campus but that’s how we met. She had a very butch androgynous look but I just really liked her personality no matter how hot she looked in her leather jacket. So we started off as LARP friends and then I worked up the nerve to ask for her number and just texted her about random things and we ended up talking about how much we both like coffee so that turned into a coffee date at the local dunkin and it was a lot of fun and we had a few more dates like that and things were looking good. A few friends that knew both of us warned me that she didn’t normally go for men but I had talked to her myself and was like that a lie and you don’t know what youre talking about ok so we hung out for a few months going slow and not really relationship dating. Around the time I was thinking of asking her to be a couple my mental health deteriorated and I ended up being hospitalized. I tried calling her once to keep up the habit of talking at night through text since I couldn’t text at the time but I think me being in the “cr*zy ward” freaked her out because 1) the phone call did not go well and was never tried again and 2) once I got out of the hospital I texted her to see if she was interested in picking up where we left off and she shut me down saying she just wanted to be friends. Of course not even a month later I found out that she and the girl I had dated for over a year were now dating. This bothered me for a long time and I was constantly wondering if I was too cr*zy to date somebody or it was because I was trans a whole bunch of self hatred type thoughts. I eventually got over it (mostly)

Then I didn’t date anybody until last year. I started texting my friend Cat from high school (back then we had a very cute James Potter Severus Snape thing going on where the characters were dating but we weren’t) and I learned that they were agender and ace and I thought it over and determined that I was ridiculously attracted to them and didn’t mind being in a nonsexual relationship because at the time I was still pretty sex repulsed myself besides for reading kinky fanfiction and getting myself off every once in a while. So We went on a friends date in the spring to see Zootopia and it was so much fun and they were so cute in their leggings and hoodie with their windblown cropped hair dyed dark red. I asked them if they wanted to date and they said yes so we went on our first official date (a hike up an abandoned walking trail where we both got covered in ticks and I had to stop and stretch out a bad leg cramp, then we got lunch at a cute vegetarian café in town and went to the town park to hang out. We sat in the grass and listened to Florence and the Machine songs and smiled at each other looking cute. We then got milkshakes and learned that we still had ticks on us from the hick and they took me home and gave me a sweet kiss goodbye with the promise of more dates in the future). Over the summer we hung out a lot because they and their mom were moving from the house they had lived in for years to a house a county over and I volunteered to help with the moving of the last few belongings. Maybe 5 trips all together, but it was a good time every day we got to see each other. We would comfortable hang out in their old house packing things up and taking our time and then we would take the forty five minute drive to the new house listening to whatever queer music we could find and save to playlists.  Then we would cuddle on their couch after taking the days moving things inside and find something nice to eat on the way back to my house. I visited their college a few times (another traditionally women’s college) and met their friends who were also agender and queer and very cute people indeed. I enjoyed all the time I spent with Cat. Cat also helped me realize I was leaning more towards being a demiguy than strictly binary trans and that it was okay if I was ace, that sexuality can be fluid. Our relationship was very intimate and domestic and I loved it, especially the tight hugs and long slow kisses I would get each time we met and each time we had to say goodbye. I fell in love with Cat and because we didn’t see each other all the time and there was no pressure to maintain a sexual relationship I felt I could maintain those feelings I had for cat for a long time. We dated up until August of 2017 when they texted me and let me know they felt they were not only agender and asexual but also felt aromantic and would prefer to be platonic as they couldn’t keep up with the demands of a relationship. This devastated me. I took a week off from school to lie at home and let myself deal with the depression this brought. Im over Cat now. I enjoyed what we had but Im happy being friends though our ideas of friendship are different but that’s another textpost entirely.

I recently went to Charlottesville Pride 2017 with my friends that are the couple where I dated both and now they are happily dating each other and one of their other trans friends and it was so much fun. I think the act of getting a bag of free condoms reawakened my sex drive somehow?? Because now I would totally be down to get sex from anybody I was attracted to?? And im attracted to a lot more people than I usually am?? Like it was my friend Ness’s birthday a few weeks ago and she invited the same trans friend that went to pride with us to come and she brought her cousin with her and damn. Her cousin was the cutest and got so drunk like baby no you gotta stop while its still fun. So he’s agender and gave me his Snapchat and Im just…crushing so hard…hes too cute. But also I’ve been talking to people on OKCupid and everyones just so attractive (not the cismen tho neither the hets or gays wanna hit it so fuck em I don’t need that kind of negativity in my life) and all these tumblr people are cute and I wanna date everybody but everybody live like at least three hours away and it makes me sad because nobody seems to wanna try a long distance type thing which I would be up for.

So tl;dr:  if youre reading this and you think im cute, message me and ill tell you what all we could do together  ;)

Im a biromantic greyace chubby transmasculine enby and i like all body types and most personality types lol

[teambetterends]

1,2,14,15,24-31, 33, 41, 43, 44-48 for the lesbian ask game! (if you want to do all those!)

aaa i would love to thank you sm i love you

1. femme or butch

uhhhhh i would probably be butch but like. sometimes i like wearing skirts and stuff like recently! and i’ve been like. having Thoughts about my connections to these like identities so i don’t really know 

2. do you have a “type”? if so, describe it

so uhh i had this conversation with myself just recently yeah so i do and it’s mostly like. reserved and more mature people than me? not older, no, absolutely not, but like? i don’t really like people who are like me, just like the same stuff that i do and are generally more responsible and understanding and Know things more than i do because i’m very unsure and emotionally clumsy and typically like. yeah

also i technically got roasted by my ex gf when she totally read me as having a thing for redheads that i didn’t realize before and it ruined my life because it’s true. 

i also love love love brown eyes they’re lovely and the best thing the universe created in humans. anyone who disagrees can meet me in the parking lot we’re gonna have a fist fight.

14. if single what are you looking for in a potential girlfriend/wife?

uhhh like tall and soft physically and emotionally and cuddly and understanding of my boundaries. uhm like reserved and nice and likes video games and is willing to put up with my inability to hold conversations but is patient with me anyway. likes cats, ideally. warm and loves cuddles and lets me go at my own pace w/ smooches and stuff pls be gentle

15. describe your dream wedding

having one

24. if a woman wanted to woo you, what would a surefire way to accomplish that?

i have no idea what i’m talking about but i guess be really easy to talk to and funny. like i feel totally comfortable talking to you and being around you. let me talk about stuff i like and understand i have a hard time talking, be comfortable in silences. like video games, otherwise. 

25. be postive! what do you like most about being a lesbian?

i love loving girls they’re so soft and amazing and i’d hate to be straight because i’d never be able to appreciate girls in all of their qualities and love them because they’re sunshine and lovely and nice. i like having connections with other lesbians in like total solidarity because you just Get each other, you can have night long conversations about how much you love girls and being lesbians and it’s so like freeing. it’s great so tldr

26. are you more of a cat person or a dog person?

cats. cats caaaaaaats. cats. but i like both cats and dogs, dogs are great, good boys, i just really love cats.

27. turn ons?

uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

but like. i dunno. i like soft girls with Big Weapons and bigger biceps that they could lift me and give great cuddles with. like not zarya, i’m not super into her sorry, but like daisy ridley? hell yeah damn right. tol but not like a foot taller than me, sof, being easy to talk to. and, don’t overshare don’t overshare don’t overshare neck biting

28. turn offs?

being pretentious. talking too much but in a certain way where it’s kind of overbearing, i dunno. being disrespectful. 

29. do you usually ask other women out or do you wait for them to ask you?

i usually ask because if i don’t it won’t ever happen lmao

30. what is your dream career?

being a mermaid. one time i wanted to be an astrophysicist but realized i can’t do math. probably like a psychologist or designing video games.

31. talk about your interests or hobbies!

oh shit where do i start i have too many hyperfixations uhhh so i really like overwatch i’ve played it for like 603 hours at this point i think? kill me but i love it i get to feel important and efficient like i’m actually doing things. uhm. i love dishonored i love it so much it’s so gorgeous everything looks like a painting and i love the game mechanics of magic and eldritch powers and the whole environment and world building it’s fantastic if it were a human embodiment i’d marry it

i also like drawing, it’s fun. i’m not terribly good at it (yet) but i’m way better than i used to be so. yay. i used to write alot more often before, but i write occasionally now. it’s hard to do with uni schoolwork and playing video games when i’m avoiding schoolwork, but yeah. 

i also love music i’m pretty much always listening to music apparently i had 90,000 minutes of listening time on spotify last year? di you know that’s 1500 hours or 62.5 days? i have spotify linked on my about so you could like see everything i listen to so i won’t get lengthy about it but i love fall out boy they just came out with an album so i’m listening to it right now! it’s great

33. do you love easily or does it take time for you to warm up to someone?

i love super easily. i trust super easily and tend to care about people way too much so if i like someone i’m typically like gone immediately. hopeless. 

41. early-riser or night owl?

night owl, easily. it’s 2:00am right now. i was up until like 3:00am last night. i’m terrible someone get me on a regular sleeping schedule

43. can you drive?

i’m ryan i’m almost 19 and i never fucking learned how to drive

44. who was your first lesbian crush?

drew barrymore, i would say pretty reliably i guess? i watched charlie’s angels like a fiend from the time i was four to uhh, how old am i. she gave off kinda butch vibes (her name was. dylan.) so it makes kind of the most sense. i’m still lost with her, she’s like forty or whatever and older than my mom so i probably wouldn’t marry her but like. yeah

45. what age did you know you were a lesbian?

about march or april last year so like. 18. i was bi for a really long time, right up until i identified as a lesbian. i was dealing with a lot of feelings, and being trans for almost two yearsish at the time so. yeah

46. at what age did you come out (if you have)?

ok so i had really emotionally abusive parents, right, so i… never really got to come out. they outed me a lot of times without my consent, going through my things and yelling at me. so i never got to come out to them, at least. my bf actually figured out i was trans, so i told him. now everyone i Actually know for more than like five minutes knows i’m gay, so. it’s generally pretty known. that’s nice.

47. are you crushing on anyone at the moment?

uh. not really but also kind of. i have a bunch of small crushes but no really big major ones. 

celebrity wise i really like daisy ridley, and chloe bennet, and i’ve always crushed on meg turney my forever girl, vanessa morgan, and lyrica okano. 

48. talk about how your day went

ok. i only have one class today so i slept awhile, woke up at like 11am, got up pretty immediately surprisingly. took a shower right off the bat. sat around until class at 2, went to the library and saw my friend who works there with me he’s great, always happy to see me and cheers me up we’re buddies. did some stuff there, got some food. then later i got something to eat with roommate and went to the gym, got really upset seeing someone beforehand and ended up not being able to handle working out too long. went home and cried, watched videos to cheer up and not do anything rash, and fell asleep. now i’m sitting around and doing stuff waiting to get tired and sleep. which should probably be in a couple hours since i have class in the morning!

[shebeafancyflapjack]

Mass Effect and Sexuality (or how Commander Shepard helped me find myself).

As I replay the Mass Effect trilogy, I’m only now realising how important it was in helping me come to know my own sexuality, living vicariously through my first Commander Shepard. 

First game there are only two LI options for FemShep; Kaiden and Liara. At the time I was sure I was straight, despite never having had a good relationship with a man in any way. It was just my ‘default’ position. It wasn’t something that ever really came up much for me because I have such a low sex drive anyway and prefer to be on my own. So Mass Effect being a sci-fi adventure with a side of dating sim, hey I get to try to experience a good relationship with a guy through Shepard.

And Kaiden is nice. He’s sweet, considerate, loyal. He has that vulnerable, slightly wounded, edge to him with his backstory without being too angsty. He’s the guy you want to take home to mom. I can see the appeal...but I don’t feel it. Shepard goes for it and doesn’t even consider Liara, as available as she is, because I’m trying to play as much of myself in this and I’m not gay - right? And while Liara is pretty, I don’t see her as attractive, we’re better as friends. Now Ashley, that’s a different story...

Then I hear someone say that, originally, both Ash and Kaiden were going to be available for both MShep and FShep. And I’m thinking, haha, that would’ve been interesting...flirting with Ash...because she’s brave and fun, has some problematic attitudes towards aliens but I could help her work on that...Oh well. Doesn’t matter. Why do I care? Also why does it bother me that FemShep has a male or “female” optional LI but MShep only has girls?

So I play Mass Effect 2 almost straight away after finishing 1. I wonder how my Shepard’s romance with Kaiden will develop and if any other characters will sway me to ditch him for another. And it seems like Kaiden won’t be around so who do we have now? Well once again there’s only one male human LI; Jacob. He’s serious, a lot more intense than Kaiden, but a bit more interesting to me. Oh and FemShep is ALWAYS flirting with Jacob, even before I touch on any option to start a romance...so the game must want me to go with him? The other LI options are all men; Garrus and Thane. Garrus has a voice that could charm a nun into bed...but he’s like a brother. It’s just wrong. And I’m probably one of the only ME players ever who doesn’t understand the attraction to Thane. So Jacob it is.

Except, oh, hello! Here’s this charming Yeoman, Kelly Chambers, flirting with Shepard...and Shepard is allowed to flirt back? The game never wants to make it explicit that there is an actual romance going on...even when you can invite her up to your cabin and afterwards she’ll agree to feed your fish...No, that’s not a euphemism. 

Then there’s also Tali, who was adorable enough in the first game, and is now even more sweet, and needing multiple cuddles throughout this story. And she tells me how she would love to ‘link her suit with me’...and this isn’t a come on! It’s ‘just good friends’! Why is that frustrating? And there’s also Jack, who I’m certain must be a lesbian...but no, apparently this was Bioware trying to ‘break new ground’ by having a typically-coded ‘butch’ character be completely straight. Just like Cassandra in DAI, the game purposefully teases your character getting close to her only to have her shut you down with a ‘no homo’. At least in DAI there are LGBT equivalents of that with Sera and Dorian. Not in ME2. All the ‘real’ LI’s are straight (except Liara who is DLC). 

So I’m romancing Jacob because Kaiden has told me to f*** off on Horizon...even though I’m in love with the female characters on the ship way more. I’m already planning a MShep playthrough so I can romance Tali.

It’s around this time how much I realise that the men are doing nothing for me. Not just in video games, but in real life.

So then we get to ME3, which I had to endure the hiatus like everyone else, this time giving me more time to think things over. My FemShep has the chance to reconcile with Kaiden...except neither she or I are interested anymore. And Jacob? He left while Shepard was in prison and is having a baby with someone else...after eight months. Dude. But again, my Shepard isn’t interested. And this sucks because I’ve put in so much time to this trilogy only to not have my Shepard have a love interest in the final act...

Oh. Except. Now we have New Kelly. New Kelly is freaking adorable. New Kelly has a fetish for EDI’s voice. New Kelly is called Samantha Traynor and she’s precious.

And she’s a lesbian! *sound of cheering and fireworks in background*

And now, after shower sex, my Shepard is able to admit to herself who she really is. What she really wants (other than killing Reapers). And so was I.

[latinalesbi]

you don't know maybe we'll see long-term lesbian couples on tv in the future. people are sick of lesbian shows with crazy, convoluted love polygons (the l word) and getting sick of ones in all-female environments (oitnb, wentworth). we're sick of queerbait couples in ensemble cast scifi or action shows getting killed off. we want stability, permanence.i see sitcoms, dramas with older lesbian protags, even a disney channel or nickelodeon show with 2 moms being made.

Of course I can’t read the future. I can tell you that it’s not likely. Shows with 2 lesbian leads are not terribly popular. And you’d have to have 2 leads to even believe they could last 5 years. Lesbians say they are sick of this and that, yet they don’t watch the fosters. We have some of them believing nonsense about no long term monogamous lesbian couples on tv, um, The Fosters. And queer baits? There are still more swan queen fanatics than fans of Stef and Lena. IF they were sick of it, they quit watching.

I’d love for that future that you paint. Unfortunately, it doesn’t sell.

Anonymous said:                                                                     

Teri seems very open and honest about sex. Then you have Stef who she plays so well being so shy about it. It’s great Stef doesn’t want to talk about it at all. It’s brilliantly done             

Teri’s an amazing actor. Look at how she has butch Stef down. I don’t think it’s all direction, though I’d love to know if she’s gotten tips from anyone. Teri is far from butch but she does the tiniest things to make Stef the character come alive.

 Anonymous said:

What are your thoughts on Sherri Polo fanfic?          

Don’t tweet it to sherri or teri! Um, you know, it’s harmless fun.

Anonymous said:                                                                     

do you think teri & sherri kiss on the lips when together? we saw them kiss at HRC & during one panel but when they're just alone taking selfies they won't share with us (lol) do you think they cuddle & hold each other & still kiss each other? sherri always says teri is her wife & of course we see how close their friendship truly is, but i wonder if they act the same in all aspects on & off camera. wish we could see everything! but i love they have selfies just for them, i love that even more             

Gonna pair these questions together. Yes they kiss on the lips all the time, we’ve seen it. Obviously, they are not making out. I also think we have good proof that they cuddle all the time. We have enough casual, unplanned proof that these things happen off camera. They have something special that they like to keep to just themselves, as Sherri herself has said.

Anonymous said:                                                                     

Oh poor Stef sex is bought up and all she wants to do is hide under the table and hope no one notices. Poor baby            

It’s funny, she can be all like here are condoms, use safe sex, but don’t give her the gory details! I always thought it’s hard for her to be vulnerable and all that sex talk makes her feel too open, it’s too personal. However, Stef 2.0 can talk about her feelings more openly so I’d like to see her be able to talk about this more.

Anonymous said:                                                                     

Stef being like this now makes me wonder what she was like when she first met Lena!  Could she say the word sex? Because she’s yet to even say orgasm             

I think the great thing about early Stef would be that she was completely a lit candle when it came to Lena. I think she was dying for sex so it wouldn’t have been a problem. I think she just didn’t talk about it.

  Anonymous said:                                                                     

I love that Stef is still finding herself even in her forties if the story line is right (which in this show is hard to follow at the best of times) she was twenty nine when she meet Lena and has spend all her thirties with her. I love her character development. I would just like her to throw caution to the wind and start sexy time with her wife, who as well all know is hot as hell. What do you think?             

As a woman in her forties, I can tell you there’s so much to find out about yourself. I love her character development. She’s had the most growth, it’s so well plotted out. It’s taking seasons to see it. To see Stef in the last episode, so confident in herself, she’s never looked better. It’s time for that to translate into the bedroom. If I am right, the show has to go there. It is what they have been writing. This is the path.

Anonymous said:                                                                      Hopefully Lena isn’t gonna yell at Callie next week. I’m sure we won’t be happy that Callie changed her project. I hope to see her angry at Monty or whoever makes Callie take it down. 

Yeah, it might be the new acting VP. We’ll see. I am only into this as far as Lena really finding her voice and getting the job she deserves. She shouldn’t play second fiddle to any of these idiots.          

Anonymous said:                                                                     

Why are they always wear striped shirts on the show ? Mostly Jude

He’s a clown?

Anonymous said:                                                                     

Callie record could ruin her chances of getting into colleges. I hope see Callie angry and upset about it. Worrying if she will ever get to go. I feel like her and Lena could bond over it. Since she’s the one telling Callie to apply. Callie’s doesn’t seem to care for collage and that needs to be the reason.             

The reason Callie does anything, she doesn’t believe she deserves good things like her moms, like a nice boyfriend like AJ.

Anonymous said:                                                                     

My wife & I love your blog. The kitchen scene with Stef & Lena putting up groceries from the last epis, it would have been more organic for them to just kiss very briefly on the lips and go into that nice tight body hug.  We are not ones to really harp on the kissing, but this episode & that scene seemed so weird without a very brief kiss flowing into a comforting hug.  So much so that we beginning to wonder if there is a network mandate about the moms’ kisses.  Know showrunners may not admit it

There could be. There’s no denying that they gay nothing by throwing a network under the bus. That’s why I trust that they are doing everything they can on that front. I do believe that. The last hug was awkward. It’s definitely setting up conflict for Stef and Lena. Would I have liked a kiss? Of course. I just refuse to get worked up when this was an episode that had over 21 minutes of Stef and/or Lena. I just can’t. I definitely understand people’s frustrations. I still get a lot of joy out of an episode like that, character development and such. I could have used some more touching, but really the first few eps, I’ve had a hard time even giffing all the times they’ve touched. I’ve had to not gif some of them, that’s how many we have had. I don’t feel that kissing is the only way to show that these women are in love. We’ve gone through droughts of very little touching, hugging, never mind kissing.

Anonymous said:                                                                      You’ve said many times the show has earned your waiting on a kiss from Stef & Lena.  But we don’t understand why the fandom, which is a small fandom & very frustrated with this, has to wait on something that should be quite natural for a married couple who’s in love as they say Stef & Lena is.  We don’t want/expect full make out every episode, but when scenes naturally call for a kiss (peck on lips/brief kiss) it’s really very ridiculous to say the show is waiting for 1 big episode for kisses.

You’re preaching to the choir. I don’t think they’re doing this to frustrate us though or to seem unfair. I do think that this is story for them for the most part. I also do believe that they want to build up to big moments, for dramatic purpose. Stef and Lena have kissed so much by now that it is hard to build dramatically to big kisses. Other shows do this by breaking couples up or having them cheat (i.e. new relationship kisses). Stef and Lena aren’t breaking up, they’re not gonna cheat, so how do they build up to big moments, this is one way. I don’t have to like it. Someone earlier mentioned a sitcom and that might be the only kind of show where we could get casual kisses all the time. Comedies aren’t building towards big climatic moments so it would just be casual and funny. I’d like that show, I’d watch that show. However, I’d also miss the big dramatic moments. So, I feel like this show has given us both. And we still have a long ways to go. I trust that this isn’t being done maliciously, that’s all I am saying.

Anonymous said:

 [1 of 2] “Bradley was clear on twitter, it’s not censorship or the 8pm hour. It’s a choice they’re making and that we aren’t patient enough.”   One of the most ridiculous things I’ve read about the Fosters.  They write & portray a couple very much in love, some of their scenes obviously & naturally called for a kiss, but the people who watch the show aren’t patient enough?  Really?!!! Not enough time or space to express how arrogant and unreasonably/irrationally ridiculous that is. [1 of 2]              

Anonymous said:                                                                     

[2 of 2] “Bradley was clear on twitter, it’s not censorship or the 8pm hour. It’s a choice they’re making and that we aren’t patient enough.”  The fandom has been very patient & loyal to the Fosters, in spite of many fan’s frustations (storylines, balance between drama/crisis vs triumphs, timeline, etc), we kept watching.  It’s one thing to say be patient to see how a storyline will play out, but to say we aren’t patient enough when a scene naturally calls for a kiss is unfair & unjustifiable.            

Put yourself in Bradley’s shoes. He has been hearing about the kisses this season from episode 1. Yeah, the fandom is impatient. I get it. We don’t have a lot of choices as lesbians. We crave it, it’s important to us. No show is perfect, show me a show where no fan complains? it’s not just us, Brad replied today to a frustrated Brallie fan. In reality the best thing he could do is just not answer any of us but he does. I appreciate it sometimes because while he refuses to reassure others, he reassures us. They are never breaking up, they’ll always be in love and he’s the biggest shipper.  I believe him.

I am telling you, fandom can get pretty mean-spirited. I am not speaking about you, I am talking about the things fans have said to showrunners that I have seen. If I like a show, I don’t really follow online fandom, unless I am shipping lesbians. I break my rule then because there are tons of things I can enjoy in fandom and try to ignore all the other things. However, shows without lesbians, I don’t want spoilers, I don’t want fanwars. I don’t want any of it.

Back to the question at hand, everyone knows, I am not afraid to call anyone out when i feel things are unfair or what have you. There have been times when the lack of kissing has led me to complain. And part of it for me is feeling like the show would be cancelled suddenly and we wouldn’t get their payoff. I am fairly confident at this point that they have the show plotted out through season 5. Whatever is going to happen will happen. I have accepted that. I’ve also been given many gifts, patience has paid off.

Again, I don’t know the reason why they are doing it (to divulge on their part would be to spoil) but I do know with confidence that it is not malicious. Period. No doubt. So, i am not going to angrily demand this and that. It’s not going to happen at this point because for the most part, the dry spells have been plot related. The dry spell right now has been countered with some kick ass affection and kick ass communication. They seem more like a healthy couple than ever. If there’s no payoff or it’s lame, I will complain. I do understand that they try to build towards these great Stef and Lena moments and there are limited ways in which they could do that. I’d love next season to see that plot line where they can’t enough of each other but keep getting interrupted. That would be an amazing build up full of moments all along the way. I would write that in their potential last season. Will they? Who knows.

That’s my opinion, considering where we are. I totally respect yours.

[datingadviceonreddit]

This will take time to read, but I seriously need some guidance.There's no other way to put it. I'm in love with my best friend. We are both females, both 19 years old. We've been best friends since we were about 14. I've liked her for almost this entire time. As far as I know, she's straight. And as far as she and everyone else knows, I'm also straight. I haven't come out, she's the only girl I've ever had these feelings for. I'm also attracted to men and I'm trying to date so I can lose feelings for her.Firstly I'll tell a bit about myself and her. I'm more masculine, but in no way do I identify as a male or a butch. I usually just wear a men's tshirt and hoodie, and a pair of sweat pants. This is just because I'm comfortable in this. I'm kind of shy, so I don't get touchy around any other friends. She is VERY beautiful, she's also had a kind of rough upbringing. She was kicked out of home at 16, where she moved in with my family and I which we live over 2000 kilometres away (I used to live down her way, we went to school together until I moved when I was around 16, she moved a year later). She recently moved back after living with me for two years after sorting things with her family. This was one year ago. She's very feminine, but she can also be a little sloppy and I like that!I'm just going to list some things below that she does or has done in the past.• She's very touchy, but I think she tries to do it discreetly, much like I do to her. For example she will grab me around the neck (jokingly haha) with her arms and kind of wrestle with me, and she full on wrestles too and she's setup her phone on record once (with my knowledge) and filmed us wrestling.. I would do that to capture some special moment or something, but that's just me. Anyone else? She always sleeps on my shoulder during long car rides and stuff, I don't think she does that with other friends. One time in particular recently, she rested her head on my lap when we were sitting on the couch watching a movie and asked me to play with her hair. I loved it, but it got me thinking. She also gets me to draw on her back.• She keeps my clothes. As I said, I usually dress in male clothes so I have a fair amount of comfy shirts and hoodies. She used to LOVE asking me if she could keep some. Even if I loved the item of clothing, I'd let her keep them. I liked her to have them. She would upload photos of herself in them, one photo in particular she uploaded a photo to Instagram and she was wearing my shirt she got a while before and the caption to the photo read "Haha aw, I still have it :)". But she didn't tell me about the photo or anything, so I don't know if she wanted me to realise she was meaning the shirt. I got to excited so I just started to look for other things in the photo that she could've been referring to, but honestly it was just a photo of her and I couldn't notice anything else.• This one is odd. So basically one time we were laying on a fold out bed together, we were just talking to my younger brother in a spare room. We weren't sleeping in the bed, just laying on it. We were kind of in the spooning position, but about two feet apart, so we weren't touching or anything. I think I was just annoying her and flicking her ear or something just messing around like a friend, something like that. Then we both just got up about 5 minutes later and left to each others bedroom. (We lived together at this point). Then within 20 minutes, someone had messaged me (without her knowing) some screenshots of some texts between this person (we'll call him Jake) and herself. She was telling Jake how we were just laying on the bed and that I was putting my hand on her hip and so she asked what do I want, and I apparently signified to go to the bedroom. I was so confused because none of that happened... why would she bring it up? I don't get it. She doesn't know till this day that Jake sent that to me, I was a little embarrassed so I just kept quiet. Also another time about a year later, she must've said something else to him again, and he asked me about it once again. She came up with this out of nowhere. Apparently she mentioned something about lesbians to me, and I 'went real funny and quiet'. I don't recall her ever mentioning anything... I know I would've got funny about it and remembered it because of my feelings. But it didn't happen... I don't know why she's making up these things.• This one was a while ago, but once we were sitting by the computer at my place just doing stupid stuff, and she decided to prop her phone up and just video ourselves talking and saying funny things. Towards the end of the few minute long video, she grabbed my face and gave me the biggest kiss on the cheek, almost like it was a big urge. I loved it but I just acted like it was normal and ignored it.• She lived an hour away from me at one point, we were about 15. She used to come and stay at my place every few weekends, she would get the bus for an hour to get to me. I'd usually really want her to stay longer so I'd be cheeky and convince her to stay for another night. She would tell me she has work the next day (part time job). But then she would ring up and say she can't make it, almost every second or third weekend. There's only one person I'd do this sort of thing for, and that's someone I'm desperate to spend time with.• About a year ago, she had just come back home from visiting her family at the other side of the country. I decided to sleep with her in her room that night (we used to sleep in each other's rooms sometimes) because I was happy she was back and wanted to hang out. I also had another friend visiting me that week who is also kind of friends with her, so we all decided to bunk into her bed together. I was on one side, my friend was on the other, and she was in the middle. Was very uncomfortable to say the least, lol. I was pretty tired so I decided I might go to sleep, so I put my phone down and shut my eyes. They were having conversations, and it kinda prevented me from going to sleep. As weird as it sounds I just fake slept because I was trying to sleep anyway, hahaha. Then I decided I'm gonna cuddle up to her and see what she does (she would've assumed I was doing it in my sleep, so it didn't bother me). I didn't want to do too much, just subtle things. I wrapped my arms around her arm, put my head on her arm or shoulder, put my head all the way up near her neck. It sounds weird, I know, but I just wanted to see her reaction! She would move after a few minutes to get comfy again so I had to move too. She was just having conversations like normal with my friend while I was doing this, she was just acting like it was normal. Then I seen flash through my eyelids haha, assuming she'd taken a photo of me. Just assumed she was gonna send me a snapchat of myself with a face filter or something. Then, they talked for a hour or two and then went to bed. I woke up the next morning and the my other friend was looking at her snapchats and she opened the photo of me, and it was captioned 'cute'. I didn't get the snapchat, so she mustn't have wanted me to see it.• Once I decided to go hang out with her in her room. At this time she only had a single bed because she had just moved in, so it was a bit squishy. We were just being funny and taking stupid photos of each other, but I had just laid on the edge of her bed because there was nowhere else. Somehow I slithered my way up onto the bed more and I was literally laying between her legs, but I didn't even realise at first. We were just laying messing around though, it wasn't anything sexual. I kind of was comfortable and of course I liked it, and she seemed to like it too. We weren't doing anything, I was just sitting there. But she didn't seem to mind, it would've been very uncomfortable but she didn't ask me to move or anything.• She sometimes mentions that she dislikes lesbians. But, I do that too. I know it seems like such a terrible thing to say, but I only do it to hide the fact that I have feelings for her. I wonder if she says it for the same reason.• I don't know if this is a lesbian thing, but she did watch all seasons of Orange is the New Black... just a thought ;). She also done a school assessment about gay marriage rights.• Back in the tumblr days, I was just going through some of my friend's blogs and stuff. I decided to have a look at hers, and I was just looking at her likes (which I remember once she was telling me how she thought they were private) and there was a hour something long lesbian porn video in there... I never mentioned it to her.Also, I'm getting a psychic reading from a VERY reputable psychic/medium in a few days. I'm a big believer in these things. I'm pretty much getting the reading for career advice and to connect with my grandmother. I was thinking, should I ask/hint about this subject to the psychic to try get answers? Do you think it could help me?So, let me know what you think. Do you think she feels the same way or a similar way? Let me know why or why not.That's all I can think of for now, if I can remember anything else I'll edit my post. Thanks for taking the time to read via /r/dating_advice