#I reject it. 🙃

[stellaluna33]

Another reason (besides many others that I've talked about before) Logan's "you're just like the rest of us!" spiel in Season 7 rubs me the wrong way is that I think it doesn't fit with the dynamic ASP set up for Rory and Logan to have. Because Rory ISN'T like the rest of them. And that's always been part of her appeal to Logan. ASP said that the core of Rory and Logan's relationship was about having fun and "avoiding reality," and while it's obvious how that applies to Rory, I think the same is true for Logan as well. And it's not just the partying, it's Rory specifically that's an escape for Logan.

This is related to the general theme that Rory is "caught between worlds" and can't quite fit neatly into either one, and in Season 5, when Rory starts to really want to try on her grandparents' (and Logan's) world for size, it's made clear that she doesn't quite belong. Logan first objects to starting anything with her because she's "special" (how flattering)- and while yes, that has a lot to do with Rory being perceived as a "relationship girl," it's also framed as being different from the culture he's used to (Honor's friends, whom he's "known forever," are a case in point). And when Logan does decide to try a more serious relationship with Rory and brings her home to dinner, it turns out that his family doesn't approve. Rory's not REALLY "one of them," it turns out. She's tainted by association with her mother, and she's too "middle class," essentially, because she wants to work for a living. Logan is upset by this, but being with Rory afterwards becomes a Little Rebellion.

In "Vinyard Valentine," we find out that Logan has been playing house with Rory while he was supposed to have been at an important business meeting his father had arranged for him. We also find out that the trip across Asia Logan and Rory have been planning cannot actually happen at all, because his father is planning to ship Logan off to London immediately after graduation. And Logan knew this the entire time. He was simply choosing to pretend that he could make his own plans.

This theme is continued into the Revival, when we find out that Logan is engaged to a woman his family approves of, but is avoiding thinking about it by having an affair with Rory. Both of them are using each other to escape reality, but reality comes anyway. Logan can pretend he can be with Rory, can wistfully think about "what-ifs" and "might-have-beens," but in the end, he knows that he's not going to fight to make it real. He had his Little Rebellion, but he's not going to fight against his family's plans. I think it's crucial to emphasize that he could if he really wants to, but in the end, while he may love the idea of being with Rory, he doesn't love her enough to be willing to leave it all behind. And if Rory was "just like the rest of them," he wouldn't have to.

[lamortwrites]

I'm gonna get such a bad grade in bleeding

[theemmtropy]

Actually maybe the real reason I'm not looking to date is bc the next time I trust someone enough to be intimate with them, I'll probably cry.

[gibbearish]

sometimes having autism is fun bc therapy types will be like "oh we dont use words like 'broken,' we prefer 'areas for improvement' :)" and its like. i do get where youre coming from, using words with negative connotations to refer to yourself can reinforce negative associations towards yourself, im familiar with that whole shebang. but also. that theory operates off of /the patient's/ connotations with the language theyre using, not on /society at large's/ connotations. so while yes, "broken" to many people does convey a negative connotation if not a moral commentary, for me specifically it's literally just descriptive, and if anything has a /positive/ connotation. something that is broken has an intended purpose that it is unable to fulfil. the principle image that comes to mind for me when i think abt this is of a plate snapped in half. its purpose is to contain objects, primarily food. it can no longer contain objects, so its purpose is not being fulfilled, therefore it is broken. it's no fault of the plate's, it's not doing anything /wrong/ by not being able to carry objects, it simply. can't do the thing it was made to do.

my brain does not produce the chemicals it is supposed to. my body does not maintain the structural integrity it is supposed to. my (redacted) couldnt do the one (1) thing it was built specifically for. these things have purposes, and they are failing to fulfil those. they are broken.

which like. when you lay it out just like that, does still feel negative right? except here's the thing about a broken plate:

you can glue it back together. you can fix it. you can return it to a point where it's able to fulfil its purpose again.

broken, to me, has never meant a dead end. broken has always been hopeful. broken means the fact that i cant function isnt my fucking fault, and it means that i can someday get to a better place. broken means fixable. if i am broken then that means that i can get better. and i just. get tired of therapists refusing to listen to all of that and insisting that broken means completely destroyed, never to be recovered, giving up all hope and accepting your fate. listen when i tell you that for me, this IS hope.

[noraqrosa]

EDIT: AHHH @monnawesv FOUND IT IT WAS ACTUALLY ON WORDPRESS:

https://howtogeton.wordpress.com/social-security-disability/

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trying to find a very specific Tumblr post, it was a step-by-step guide on how to get approved for government disability benefits in the U.S.

it's got infographics, but it also has the info in text form (i.e. not just in the images)

@izukuleeyoung sent this to me a while ago and i thought i saved it, but i can't find it, not even in our messages

[kyuponstories]

Guess who came up w/ yet another story idea instead of working on my current wips?

🤡👈🏾

[freebooter4ever]

my biggest complaint is that i wanted blonde workaholic dude to be charmed and fall in love with her so penelope has some experience before colin suddenly decides to change his mind. colin is such a mess i still don't like him :( how are we supposed to believe that he really loves her? he was so mean before :(

Anyway watching this show does make me regret that i never actually experienced requited Love in the romantic sense. now that penelope has been 'fixed' magically by a new dress and better hairdos, the only character left to identify with is the blonde workaholic whose name i cant even remember

[b-blushes]

maybe an embarrassing thing to ask but i don't know about it and perhaps friends do! :P Does anyone have any easy to understand resources for - what credit scores are and - how to improve/build them? (I'm in the UK if that makes a difference, I am truly clueless but would like not to be) I'm sure I could find things if I searched harder, but given that I know literally nothing about it except the words, I have a hard time telling what is a good resource and what isn't. Maybe this is is the niche interest or area of expertise of someone I know? Maybe it's the kind of thing that's best to actually book an appointment with my bank and discuss with them? Thank you!

[horsemage]

So today we learned that I should not drink when I’m stressed out about my future because the cloud of dread that hangs over all astrophysics students will sense weakness and seize me

[stellaluna33]

She's a conundrum, that Rory. Because on the one hand, she has struggled with fidelity multiple times over the course of the show, but I can't call her "fickle" either, because she ALSO tends to STAY with people to a fault, even when she probably SHOULDN'T. She sometimes strays, but she can't LEAVE. Part of her general difficulty to make decisions, possibly...

[dadralt]

me, on the "j*skier isn't bi" train not because i'm biphobic but because i'm bardphobic <3

[aeide-thea]

negotiating with people wrt what & when to eat is like. SO fucking hard actually

[bookishtheaterlover7]

Can we call Albitch “Devil’s Spawn”?

I'm tempted, An🫶n. But wouldn't that be offensive to the actual Devil's Spawn?

Honestly, I think the Devil would throw her out of hell, and wouldn't want to be associated with her either 🤭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[angorwhosebabyisthis]

i am Thinking about nine and his hair, how his relationship with it and autonomy, and with caring for himself through it--and lack of such--are so much of a direct response to the type of abuse he went through from sandor, and to escaping from it, and how it is a near perfect foil to five's relationship with his hair and augh AUGH chews on a table it's so interesting and i could write so much about it, i really really wish they had kept NL!nine for that alone

[subarulesbian]

i got into grad school. thank fucking god

[cuddlytogas]

I realised that a big thing that was stopping me from going out to at least pick up food for dinner instead of ordering delivery (and thus stopping me from sometimes leaving the house at all for a day) was the extra step of putting on socks, then shoes

so I forced myself to accept just wearing thongs out in public

it's not perfect, but I means I CAN now regularly just walk down to the local Chinese or kebab place when I yet again don't have groceries. which is one step up, at least! <3