#I need a space where people understand that I’m not looking for advice

[sailorcheese]

I really just don’t know what to do or where to go from here, my whole life I’ve always acted with a plan but since getting sober I have no plan because I’m too depressed to feel like I can succeed at anything

Really wish I had like, legitimate irl friends or literally any kind of support group to talk to because I’m a bit over a year sober and it doesn’t feel like it’s ever going to get better or easier

[ew-selfish-art]

Dp x Dc AU: Tim doesn’t rest, not even in Death.

It’s a heart attack that gets him, well, that and the insane amount of fear toxin flooding his system. He was dead for a full three minutes before he watches (how was he watching?) his eldest brother get his heart going again and get his unconscious body to the cave. Alfred gets him onto bat-life support and Leslie looks gravely at his family after she’s done her best to heal him. They decide to keep trying, they don’t want to believe he’s gone.

Tim watches in fury. He’s more useful than this, he’s not just going to die and let the family mourn him! Tim sets to work trying to understand what’s happened to him and he realizes he must be a ghost. Therefore, if he wants to understand ghosts he needs to go where ghosts are, and thankfully he just read a JLD doc saying to avoid Amity Park at all costs.

It’s takes him a second to get used to flying at full speed, but he finds himself surrounded by strange people in a strange town and… he notices himself becoming more visible. He’s able to interact with more and more objects, he even picked up a pencil! Poltergeist is a step forward in his plan, Tim accepts this change of pace.

Then Tim meets Danny, a normal human kid who looks like he could be brought into the manor and given a cape, who looks straight at him.

“Wait, who are you? You didn’t die in Amity did you?”

“No, I died in Gotham. I came here to understand how I’m a ghost and how I can get back to my dying body. I just need a few answers.” Tim explains, and notices that his voice isn’t his own, like it’s a different language entirely that comes out.

“Well, uh, I dunno about going back to your body but it’s not safe for you to be here. The GIW are looking for lost souls like you that people won’t notice go missing. So get back to your family and find peace. Im sorry but that’s really the best advice I have.” Danny answers.

Tim begs him for answers on the GIW. Begs him for any answers at all. Danny shrugs him off each time, tell him that he’s just a ghost and he needs to move on before he gets hurt or becomes a problem.

Tim decides if he’s a problem, he’ll probably get more answers.

Soon enough, he’s stepping into the end of a battle where Phantom is getting Skulker into a thermos, and demands answers, and if not answers help.

They brawl, and Tim’s training as Red Robin gets him farther than a lot of ghosts. And then, when he knows he’s beat and he’s about to share thermos space with the robot jackass (who he can interrogate and then build his own robot) Tim realizes something.

“You’re still alive, aren’t you? You’re Danny, black hair and blue eyes.” Tim says and suddenly Phantom is as still as the dead despite the accusation.

“How the fuck- dude. Okay, you know what? Fine. Lets go talk, you’re clearly not giving up and I need you to never say that shit out loud ever again.”

Because blackmail works in life for Tim, blackmail also apparently works in death.

He’s given all of the info they have on the GIW, he’s introduced to ghost technology and how it works with ectoplasm. He’s told about the portal (although they refuse to sneak him into the house to see it- he can handle a few lasers, ugh) and he’s told about the general sequence of events in Danny’s life/death.

And then Tim is suddenly back in his body in Gotham.

The family found a way to bring him back and he’s 100% alive, no longer ghostly, but he retained all his memories.

“We have a war against the government to start” are not the first words his family expected to hear from Tim post death.

[rapunzelbro]

Imagine Lucifer and Adam fighting over you

I would like to start off by saying sorry in advance. I have no clue about religion, if purgatory is the right term or if I’m understanding this correctly. This was what term showed when I asked in between hell and heaven. If I am not accurate please please correct me. Request: would u do a adam x reader x lucifer where basically there fighting over the reader to try and win them over to be in hell or heaven

Master list Tag request

When you died you never thought you’d end up in fucking purgatory of all things

You did you not want to deal with any of that shit? You just died and now this?

You had the option to follow through on correcting your small sins you had left, or honestly say fuck it and go live your life in hell.

You couldn’t give one less of a fuck but two specific people did and it confused the fuck out of you

Lucifer and Adam

Adam was the first to meet you since you were technically one step in the door but also at the same time not. You appeared at his doorstep practically

He explained a lot of what happened, and why you couldn’t exactly stay in heaven or hell.

He shared the remaining sins that remained for you, and how to get them forgiven,

Bud actually was willing to help someone for once?

Wtf did you do get him to help someone who is not himself? Holy shit

You only had a 4 or so left by the time you found the Hazbin hotel..

Now Lucifer was intrigued by your situation. Not many people got to that state, to his knowledge

He knew a lot about you already to begin with he totally didn’t stalk you and was pissed about the time you spent with Adam

Found out you ended up at the Hazbin hotel, since you had no real space to stay since you could go to heaven if you pleased, but not looked well upon

Charlie told him about the whole situation to try and get his advice on it all since she really didn’t know how to go about it but she desperately wanted to help you

He didn’t want to help you with your final sins though, he wanted you to stay for himself. He would never let his daughter know that.

He spent time with you often encouraging your ass to do stuff that sinners would do but you’re just so stuck on what to do so you often don’t do the things.

Lucifer and you bonded more than you and Adam

Dude just told you constantly about how horrible it sucks down there in hell

Annoyed you even more since he didn’t let you stay in heaven after saying that?

But oh yeah it’s fine because he goes down to see you🥰

What the fuck man

If you ever needed a place to stay Lucifer was always there. Even if you didn’t feel like staying at the hotel

If wanted to talk about the shit you have left to do to get into heaven he will listen

While he didn’t agree with your initial decision to finish your sins, that doesn’t mean he didn’t still care about you regardless of what you end up doing

When you got to your final sin to pass through the gates of heaven, that’s when Lucifer stepped in

“What the actual FUCK are you doing here sinner?”

“Bitch you know why I’m here”

Lucifer and then arguing over your ass while you’re just there chilling like wtf?

“Y/n do you really want to be stuck up there with this douchebag”

“Do you really wanna be with The Most Hated Being in All of Creation!”

Those two screaming at each other while you are just watching the two trying to debate on what you should do

The people of heaven who knew of you, didn’t like you in the slightest because you were never going to be a true angel in their eyes

The people in Hell couldn’t give one less fuck about your situation. You had so many friends down there who you considered practically family now.

Both giving you the most desperate looks both wanting you to go with them

“Lucifer.. I’m going with you”

The second you say that your appearance goes from the weird hybrid you were stuck in to being a full blown demon.

Adam is fucking crushed and pissed sending you two the fuck out insantly

Lucifer is so happy

“Wow you must be a mega turnoff since even all girls like what have to offer more than you~”

Gladly takes you back to his place, he has yet to explain to Charlie that you gave up on redemption.

He doesn’t want to break it to her but knows he will have to soon

But for now you picked him over that bitch and that’s honestly worth it.

Lucifer/All Taglist: @vendetta-ari @brithedemonspawn @katshyperfixations

@aphestina @satansmanager @irethepotato @mixplara

[genderqueerdykes]

I hope you don’t mind me asking this, if you do feel free to ignore this ask by all means! I was wondering if I would even count as being disabled if I don’t have an official diagnosis of any kind? For context I’m a young adult and I have constant debilitating joint pain to the point where I’ve had to buy myself a cane because some days even the weight of my own body on my feet and my knees when I try to walk is so excruciating. I want to find a community of people who understand but I don’t have a diagnosis and I don’t want to infiltrate on disabled spaces if what I’m experiencing doesn’t count as a disability. Thank you.

you don't have to have a diagnosis! a lot of people live their entire lives with debilitating symptoms and never get a diagnosis for what they're experiencing. you wouldn't say that someone who experienced crippling pain in the 1700's wasn't disabled or experiencing pain just because their health condition hadn't been discovered or given a name, right?

disability is about how something impacts your ability to function, not how much money you can give to the modern medical complex. sure, it can be really helpful to get a diagnosis, but it's not required! it took me a really long time to get a diagnosis for hEDS, but that doesn't mean i wasn't dealing with it all this time! and if you've had to buy a cane, i'd say you're more than right in identifying as disabled. hope this helps! take care of yourself, let us know if you need any help, we'll be happy to look up resources or lend some advice!

[anemoiashifts]

how to stop shifting misinformation from holding you back.

let’s look at early shiftok, (because that’s the most common example & where people’s brain goes when they think of this concept) & the advice that was shared. on tiktok, shifting was a new concept. a lot of people were hearing about it & trying to figure it out for themselves. we all need to remember shifting is a deeply personal journey & what works for one person, may not work for another. applying this to the example of “you need to clean your room before you shift”: not everyone needs to clean their room before they shift but some people feel better going into their shifting attempts with a clean room. because of that persons better performance & possible success through doing something that helped them, sharing it with the intention to help others may cross someone’s mind. some things are needed to be done for some to succeed in the heads of many. some people fell they need to make their bed first thing in the morning to have a productive day. for example, i feel like i have to shower before i try & shift, more specifically at night. i also fall into the category of needing to clean my bedroom since i physically feel lighter & less stressed when my space is neat. i know i don’t have to do those things, but i believe that impacts my performance ability & if somebody asked me for my personal shifting tips / routine id share those things.

also there is some logic behind some of the “misinformation” that went around:

⋆ ˚｡⋆౨ৎ˚ speaking positive words to your water before you drink it has been shown to form pretty, symmetrical, snowflakes. considering our bodies are made up of 60-70% water, i suppose it could follow the same logic as “be kind & speak nicely to yourself” thus improving your self confidence which plays on our ability to do something.

⋆ ˚｡⋆౨ৎ˚ cleaning your bedroom / work space before preforming a task has been shown to improve productivity.

⋆ ˚｡⋆౨ৎ˚ i can’t remember where ive heard this so take it with a grain of salt but i remember reading laying on your back has been said to improve the success / performance of astral projection, while laying on your side may help you become lucid easier when sleeping.

so when you understand (some) of the misinformation was people finding a brand new concept & trying to understand it, then trying to help others understand it based on what helps them, it starts to make sense for the time.

im not saying you need to do any of these things. im not saying they’ll 100% help you. what I’m saying is everyone is different. people share shifting tips all the time on here & not every piece of advice will resonate with you & we don’t gather pitchforks to crucify those. the reason why misinformation is lingering in the minds of people is because it’s much harder to unlearn wrong information & later go back & try to correct it.

this may be unpopular, but i don’t really believe in misinformation. there will be pieces of information that help people & there will be some that may set people back. if a painting technique doesn’t help you, it’s not wrong, it’s just something that doesn’t strengthen you as an artist. others will go onto share that technique while you just disregard it & do it your own way. the shifting community is largely based on theory. even if someone thinks shifting is astral projection, if that’s how they understand it better & it makes them shift easier, then that belief isn’t harming anyone & is helping them. there is so much we don’t know & since there is no definite step by step guide or rule book, we get to make our own rules in the form of routine or lack of. it’s something personal & if someone restorations with the thought i have to do “xyz” to succeed in my shifting journey that’s fine. sharing that information shouldn’t harm you & make you feel like you need to follow their every movement to succeed. success is measured so differently amongst people within the shifting community or not. a mini shift could be a marker of someone’s success & it could also be the very thing that demotivates another.

[xxsabitoxx]

Toxic Things the Pillars Do.

Pillars x Unspecified Reader

Warnings: toxic behaviors/habits — angst-ish

A/N: don’t get me wrong, I love the idea of these characters being the perfect dream man/woman but lets be real… if they were real people they’d definitely have some bad habits… so this is what I think they are :)

Bold words = the toxic trait

Tomioka Giyu

He is so unbelievably withdrawn sometimes

You were able to break him out of his shell enough to want to be with him and make a life with him and such

But sometimes he falls into these periods where he wants nothing to do with anyone — including you.

Which, you understand his past traumas, you understand when people need space

But these periods of silence can go on for months

You try to be there for him but really there is only so much you can handle before you feel like you’re in a relationship with a damn ghost.

He thinks things can go right back to normal once these episodes pass

He thinks you’ll always be willing and waiting for him once he pulls himself out of these depressive episodes

And you were the first few times it happened, now you’re at your wits end

He can’t see why you’d be bothered by his withdrawn personality

I mean, you knew what you were getting into, right?

Kocho Shinobu

She can have a mean ass attitude

I’m talking mean as fuck, like she gets into moods where she’s just looking to start an argument

We know she’s an angry soul, she hides it behind a never ending smile

But when she’s alone with you, she can be herself

Which, in her mind, means she doesn’t need to put up an always happy facade with you

You respect that of course, you knew she was feisty before getting into your relationship with her

But there have been times where her attitude gets the better of her and she can be almost unbearable

She’ll insult you during a fight and not apologize after

She struggles to see when she’s in the wrong

It’ll take a lot of work to get her to apologize but honestly it sometimes doesn’t even feel genuine

She gets visibly upset if you give her an attitude in response to her behavior

Rengoku Kyojuro

He’s too positive

If you have a problem or are having a bad day, you’ll often go to him for help

The problem being, his advice can almost be a little too much… pushy even.

Sometimes you just want to collapse in his arms and hug him tightly to feel better

However, he’ll nonstop talk about ways to fix your problems and even try and get you off of him to do so

He struggles to read the room

When you’re upset, sometimes Kyojuro has an issue realizing it. (It’s giving tism…mood)

He’s also very practical and can struggle to differentiate between you wanting advice and simply wanting comfort

The thing his, overall his “toxic traits” aren’t all that bad

They just take some getting used to, and he’s more than willing to work on them

Main toxic trait: he really doesn’t have one

Uzui Tengen

He unintentionally plays favorites

Out of his spouses, he’s quite obvious about the one he’s feeling closer to that day (ouch)

He doesn’t realize it, he thinks he’s hiding it well because honestly he loves all four of you the same.

It’s just… sometimes he’s a little more clingy with one or two of you more so than other days

He’s blunt as fuck

He has no regards for what he says, if it hurts it hurts but it’s the god damn truth

This has actually created a few arguments among the five of you all together (Tengen, Makio, Suma, Hina and you)

There has actually been times where you’ve all slept in separate beds because of it

He is a perfectionist

If you do his makeup or hair wrong, he’ll get pissy about it

Maybe even make a comment about how one of the other wives do it better. Like I said, he’s blunt.

Kanroji Mitsuri

She’s extremely clingy Don’t come for me for saying that, I love clingy people tbh

She’ll throw a fit if you have to leave her on days she’s not feeling the best

She’s super emotional too so sometimes you feel like you’re walking on eggshells around her

If you don’t give her the attention she deserves, she’ll give you the silent treatment

That being said… she’s stubborn

Similar to Giyu, she doesn’t think her stubbornness is a big deal and can’t understand why you’re peeved by it

Which results in an argument… which results in tears

Even if you didn’t do anything wrong, she expects you to apologize yes of course Queen, whatever you want fr I’m on my knees.

She unintentionally gaslights you

“What? Do you not love me? Why don’t you spend more time with me? I guess I’m not that important”

She’s a lot to handle but tbh you still love her. No fr I’m on my knees I’ll do whatever she wants

Iguro Obanai

He’ll compare you to others

In a weird way, he’ll project his own insecurities onto you

He’s super critical when it comes to random things, if you ask him a question and he feels the answer is obvious he’ll make you feel a bit stupid for not knowing

He gets super jealous

Some may see that as a plus it’s me, I’m some but it can honestly become overbearing

He is hesitant to let you go out with anyone that isn’t in him and often forced you to decline plans

You’ll get into arguments over this and he’ll blatantly pretend he has no idea what you’re talking about

He gaslights you purposely

Unlike Mitsuri, he knows what he’s doing and knows just how to fuck with you

He’s a bit of a drama queen because of it

I totally see him not letting you break up with him, low key Yandere-ish

Shinazugawa Sanemi

His mouth. His attitude.

This bitch is a smart ass, even if what he says backfires he knows he’s more than capable of handling himself

So when it comes to you? It’s always a losing battle

It’s almost as if he’s trying to get you to leave him, see how far he can push you before you give up

He won’t open up

If you manage to stick with him, you’ll realize he mellows out and isn’t as big of a hard ass as he was

That being said, it doesn’t prevent him from falling into periods of depression or anger

When you try to help him, he pushes you away. Similar to Giyu, but these episodes don’t last nearly as long

He’s possessive

Unlike Obanai, this man rarely gets jealous. He’s cocky enough to know you’ll never find anyone better than him… gaslighter lmfao but he right

He likes to leave various marks on you where people will see and he’s not shy to public affection. Even if it makes you uncomfortable.

Himejima Gyomei

He often prioritizes other things over you

You know his work comes first, you know a lot of people rely on him but… he’ll always put work before you

Even if it’s a birthday, special occasion, etc

He’ll make it up to you of course but there is only so many missed dates, missed birthdays, missed anniversaries that you can take before you start to feel inferior

He wants children but can’t understand why you don’t

Going off of what I said above, you know damn well you’ll essentially be a single parent even though you’re with him

When you bring it up, he doesn’t see the issue. He doesn’t think he’s that absent in your life

He’s pretty timid personality wise, but there have been times where you’ve pushed his buttons and he gets curt with you.

You can go a while without seeing him

I’m talking months. When it comes to work, it’ll always be his number one priority

I should mention, he fully expects you to wait for him and refrain from… any sexual activity. I’m not sorry for that lmao

[homerforsure]

It's a day of the week!

I think it's Sunday but I haven't been to bed yet so who knows? I've been playing with some flashback memory things for LWH but idk yet if any of it is going to make it to the final draft so I thought I'd just share this whole one here.

Tears were such a rare thing for Buck that when they sprang to his eyes, he was actually startled. Embarrassed, he quickly swiped at them before rubbing his wet palms against his jeans and clinging to the seam of the fabric. “Sorry,” he said, laughing as he blinked furiously, tilting his head back so the movement wouldn’t dislodge any more droplets. “I swear I’m fine. I don’t- Please don’t put that in the report for my boss.” Her lips pouting in a tiny expression of sympathy, Dr. Wells stood and crossed the room to where Buck sat on the couch. He leaned back instinctively to give her room as she perched on the edge of the table and then felt himself freeze as she pushed into his space and rested her hand above his knee. Something skittered underneath his skin and quickened his heartbeat, prompting him to smile wider, baring his teeth in a submissive grin. It’s fine; everything is fine; I’m no cause for concern. Dr. Wells squeezed gently. “Buck,” she said, her voice low and smooth. “You have nothing to be ashamed of. Tears are a perfectly normal response to stress. It’s one of the ways your body lets go of everything you’re hanging onto. One of the ways it takes care of you.” Her perfume was light and clean, somewhere between apples and rain. It invaded Buck’s senses as he cleared his nose. God, he hadn’t really even cried and he still needed to clear his nose. Dr. Wells was still looking at him, waiting for an acknowledgement that Buck knew he should give and he tried to meet her eyes and search the room for a tissue box at the same time.  “You wouldn’t believe how much of my job is just convincing people to listen to what their bodies are already trying to tell them.” “I don’t think mine has very good advice,” Buck answered, pushing out another laugh that threatened to get stuck in his throat.  When he told Bobby that he thought he was a sex addict, Buck had been searching for words to explain what was wrong with him and even though those hadn’t felt right, they were the closest that he could find. There hadn’t been any others he knew that could describe the craving and the urgency and the inevitability that it would happen again no matter how many times he promised it wouldn’t.  But the pressure of the therapist’s nails on his thigh made him think of how they would feel on his back and they made Buck wonder if he really was broken. He had come to this person to talk about how someone else had died and instead he was thinking about her crawling into her lap and thinking about how her voice would sound when it was husky and telling him what to do. That wasn’t normal. It wasn’t normal to look into her kind eyes and see the same wolfish expression that he saw on women out at the bars. Maybe he really was sick. Maybe he’d always been.  Oblivious to the panic that was making him pant, Dr. Wells asked, “Who told you that? Someone who doesn’t understand what you need? What’s right for you? “It’s just you and me here, Buck. Tell me. What does your body need?”

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@bigfootsmom @devirnis

i've been so absent lately that idk who is working on what so if you're working on anything please let me know.

[certifiedsexed]

i know that this isn’t really a sex question but i wasn’t sure how to put this into google.

i qualify as non-binary person but i really just don’t like to put that label on myself. and i’m not at all against ppl using that label btw!! i just hate using it to describe my gender situation!!

but anyways, practically everyone i’ve met knows my gender situation and just ignores it when i say i’m not nb. i’ve explained so many times that i don’t want to use that label. i’m not rly sure if i’m in the wrong here or something bcuz everyone makes it seem like i am?? ugh idk i just need advice

(btw your blog is so so helpful. i actually did not know what a vagina looked like and how to take care of mine until i found your blog ^_^)

I think this is fine a place to ask, tbh.

I actually qualify as nonbinary too and I don't use that label for myself either! I completely understand what you're talking about.

It's actually rude and inappropriate for people to use nonbinary to describe you when you've openly said you don't like/use that label for yourself. There's actually no reason to be using any gender-related terms for you unless that's what you want so it's very strange people are purposefully using them for you when you've said no.

At the end of the day, it's just disrespectful. If you tell people not to use nonbinary for you and they keep using it, they're being disrespectful. Just because you fit the technical definition of an LGBT+ identity doesn't mean people can force you into it, that's actually none of their business.

My advice is first, if you have another term you prefer over nonbinary, tell people to use that. You don't even have to mention how they call you nonbinary.

If they keep calling you nonbinary, tell them you don't want to talk to them if they're going to be disrespectful about your identity. Tell them that they're hurting your feelings.

This is a situation where you might have to take some space. With anyone involved in this who you can, avoid them if they are not going to identify you correctly.

I can't guarantee that will help but I can guarantee this is a situation where people who are there for you, people who are your friends are going to respect your identity.

I hope it works out well, Anon. And I'm so glad you've found the blog helpful omg! <33 Let me know if you have anymore questions.

[myseungsunglove]

Comfort

Pairing: ot8! X gn! reader

Warnings: none really, just the boys taking care of the one they love the most

Word Count: 1.6k

Summary: Imagine how each member shows comfort to their significant other when they need a little extra love.

A/N: Who doesn’t want to be comforted by these boys? I know I’d take each of their comfort without question. Keep in mind this is just my perception of how I think the boys would react based on how I’ve seen them react in situations during my time getting to know them. I feel like I probably have a better handle on Han, Seungmin, Chan, and Lee Know over IN and Hyunjin for sure. Felix and Changbin feel like open books, so I actually wrote theirs before anyone else’s cause I just knew. Hope someone finds comfort in these small drabbles.

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♡Chan notices almost immediately when something is off. He doesn’t crowd your space or force you to allow him to comfort you. Instead, he asks if there is anything he can do. If you aren’t ready to open up to him just yet, he’ll stay close, offering light touches of comfort to remind you occasionally that he is there when you are ready. He’ll kiss you softly and whisper, “Whenever you’re ready baby, I’m here.” when he feels like it’s been longer than he would have expected for you to seek comfort in him. This inevitably breaks your wall, for reasons you don’t quite understand. As soon as you let the wall down that you had previously raised, his arms engulf you, and you immediately feel like you could handle anything in the world with him, even if you’re falling apart, he is holding you together.

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♡Lee Know isn’t the best at dealing with other people’s big emotions, but he works in his own way to make sure you know that he is right there. He may never actually ask if you are okay outright, instead he will make sure that your every need is taken care of. He will bring you your favorite drink from your favorite shop, he’ll make sure the snack that you like is in the house, if you’re out in public when something is clearly wrong, he will take your hand in his, pulling you close to him. You never refuse his hand because regardless of how you feel, he grounds you when he takes your hand. He’ll take your face in his hands, forcing you to look at him and tell you he loves you. It will be a matter of fact, just a statement that he knows to be true and that he believes you should accept. He’ll kiss you quick, searching your eyes for any sign that he needs to do more. He will always do more for you even when isn’t sure what to do.

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♡Changbin immediately knows when something is up, even if you are still wearing a smile. He always senses your energy change. He watches your body language carefully. When he realizes something is wrong, he’ll walk up to you, wrapping his strong arms around you, kissing you slowly, whispering, “Wanna go somewhere quiet?” You always slump into his arms at that statement, knowing that you haven’t hidden your pain as well as you thought. But really, what could you have expected? He always knows. You’ll nod in his arms and his hand will slide down to grab yours and pull you away to somewhere where it’s only the two of you. Then he listens. You’re a floodgate the moment you're alone, and his eyes are intent on catching every word. He offers advice when you ask for it, but mostly he makes sure you're comfortable and getting out everything you need to.

·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇

♡Hyunjin steals glances at you the moment he realizes that something is off. Honestly, sometimes it takes him a little while to realize that something is wrong because he is so often in his own little world. As soon as he is in tune with you though, he is quick to lift you up. He may not be the best at offering physical comfort in these times, but he will tell you all the ways you have made him better and completed him as a person. Not that he needed someone to complete him, but somehow you were a missing piece he didn’t even know he was seeking until he found you. He makes sure to tell you all the ways you enhance his life and make everyone’s life better because you are so uniquely you.

·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇

♡Han knows without even looking at you when something is wrong and he inevitably can identify the problem with little more than a glance or a touch. He knows you so well that you don’t have to explain to him what you are feeling. He’s been around you enough to know what you need. It’s like he senses an imbalance in the force of your relationship and he wants nothing more than to erase your pain. Han rarely helps you the same way twice in a row. He knows that every situation calls for a different solution and he works to reach those solutions with you because he knows that ultimately if you don’t talk about it, you won’t be able to get past it. He often will offer a distraction first, sitting down with you to watch your favorite anime or convincing you that watching something that scares you will get your mind off of whatever it is you're fixating on. He makes sure that you are both left unbothered during these times because having other people ask about what is going on with you usually just results in raising your anxiety about the situation. Han also knows that sometimes a distraction is the last thing you want or need. He immediately will have you wrapped in his arms, his soft lips pressing against your forehead. You both stay like that for as long as you initially need, until you’re ready to talk. You’ve been known to stand in Han’s embrace for quite a long time before you are ready to breathe a word, but he never complains. You do the same for him, so how could he not offer you the same lifeline that you have given him countless times.

·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇

♡Felix won’t let go of you when knows something is wrong. He will pull you to the couch or even the bed, and he’ll wrap you in his arms. He’ll whisper to you all of the things that he loves about you, that he can’t live without. Even if you aren’t struggling with something like that, he makes sure you know how important to him you are when you are struggling. He always asks what’s wrong and talks just as much as he listens when you finally open up. When you cry, he cries because whatever you feel, he feels too. His hands are everywhere at once as he listens to you. One minute his fingers are ghosting your waist, the next he has his hand intertwined with yours. At some point, he is cupping your face, his thumb grazing your cheek. Sometimes he just holds you and he talks and you say nothing. The low rumble of his deep voice is a lot like a cat’s purrs with healing powers. He often talks you to sleep like this and you wake up feeling renewed much to your surprise even though you shouldn’t be too surprised because it works like a charm every time.

·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇

♡Seungmin only needs to look at you to realize that you are in need of comfort from him. While he pretends to not like public displays of affection, he is absolutely addicted to being affectionate with you no matter where you might be or what the situation is. This is especially true when he feels that you are having a hard time. He will come up behind you, his arms wrapping around your waist, his lips kissing your neck softly. He’ll whisper against your skin that he loves you and ask if you want to talk. With Seungmin, you almost always want to talk. He is such a good listener. He doesn’t listen to offer solutions, he knows that you rarely need him to fix all of your problems, you just want someone who can offer keen insight and actually hear what you have to say and the emotions you are feeling. Seungmin often feels whatever you are feeling with you. He is extremely empathetic so when you are angry, he finds himself taking on that emotion with you. The same goes for when you are happy or sad. While he listens to you, sometimes he sits right in front of you, his eyes never leaving you as he watches you tell him what is going on with you. Other times he pulls you into his arms, up tightly against his chest while you ramble on about whatever you need to. There are occasions when you don’t want to talk at all. In these moments, he always knows what you need even without you having to talk. He has a sixth sense about everything when it comes to you because he has spent so much time making sure he understands you. Seungmin doesn’t like to feel like he doesn’t have a handle on a situation, so as a result, he’s always watched and listened carefully in any situation concerning you. He knows he may miss things sometimes, but those times are rare and he beats himself up over it when he does. He takes great pride in being able to know what's going on with you and what you need from him in return. He doesn’t like to disappoint anyone even though him not being able to read your mind every time you’re hurting is anything but disappointing. The fact that he cares so much just goes to show what a good man he is.

·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇ ꨄ·₊̣̇

♡IN watches you closely when he realizes you are in need of comfort. He isn’t much for skinship and understands that there are times that you don’t want to be held when you are down anyway. What he does offer is his presence. He will sit quietly with you, him doing his thing maybe playing a game while you sit and think. He will place a comforting hand on your thigh or squeeze your hand every once in a while to remind you that he is right there. He will ask you if you want to talk after particularly long bouts of silence, but makes sure you know that you only have to talk about whatever it is if you really want to. Usually you just want him to distract you with something about his day and he is happy to indulge you in whatever you need. And the second you need his comforting arms, he is happy to provide them. You’re the only person that he doesn’t mind being physically close to and for you he would do anything.

[tarzelladraws]

I want to talk about productively hating a fictional character!

After a discussion on one of my recent bluesky posts, I thought it would be interesting to facilitate a conversation on why I believe you can find insight in disliking a fictional character while also not letting it ruin your day and making it everyone else’s problem.

A largely disliked part of online fandom tends to be disagreements on what characters you love and which ones you believe deserve to rot and burn. Most often I find that this is why friends (as well as myself) don’t interact in certain online fandoms/spaces.

I tend to avoid this aspect only because I never find that the person I’m in conversation with ever cares to look deeper than “I just don’t like them”, “they were mean to a character I like” or, commonly in fantasy/scifi “they killed people and that’s wrong”. Yeah, they did do something bad. But isn’t it interesting to think about why they do it?

Are you wrong for not liking a character? No, not really. You can meet the coolest most genuine person there’s ever been and I guarantee someone out there vehemently disagrees with you and prays on their downfall. The important question is why do they dislike them.

So my question: why can hating characters be insightful? My thesis: you’re just not going to like everyone and you should explore why and be okay with the answer.

Because it’s more interesting to know what makes people different, to understand why they react the way they do. I think it’s stupid to refuse to consume, as well as condemn others for the consumption of certain media because you happen to dislike a character contained within it.

Because isn’t that interesting? Doesn’t it get boring when everyone is likable and exactly the type of person you’d want to be best friends with? Earlier this month I was on a panel for screenwriters where we discussed building characters. An audience member asked what our one piece of (character) writing advice is. My answer was that you should write a character that you’d hate. Someone who, if you met them at a party, you’d loath. You can’t see yourself making an effort to reach out to and spend time with them.

Because not everyone can be perfect and good. It’s not a good story if that’s the case. You need an antagonist, and sometimes the main character is that person. Sometimes the villain draws you in because they’re well written and complex. And sometimes the character is neutral. They aren’t better or worse than anyone else, they just make different choices than you would.

Two of my favorite pieces of media in the last two years had main characters that I HATED. I read a book where I wanted to bare knuckle brawl both protagonists in a Denny’s parking lot. It was my favorite book of 2023. None of the three main characters in Challengers are necessarily good people and I left the theater thinking “God I hated all of them. This is one of the best screenplays I’ve seen in years.”

Because it forced me to think! I spent days wondering what about them was so interesting to me. At the end of the day it was always that I got a glimpse into thought processes that I don’t naturally gravitate towards. Because a well written character feels like a real person and not everyone is the same.

To me the spice of life is opposition. It’s standing nose to nose with something/one that I disagree with. It’s finding out someone thinks Sky Captain and the World of Tomorrow is a pile of steaming hot garbage when in reality they’re wrong and it’s an achievement in low budget genre film making. That doesn’t make me want to cuss them out and leave. It only makes me want to talk to them more. The real insight is found in the conversation, either with yourself or others. “Why?”

Kylo Ren is a bad guy. He’s killed people, he is given multiple opportunities for redemption and waits until the last possible moment to stick out his hand. Much of that is poor story organization on the part of DLF, but if you move past that and explore motive he’s suddenly so much more.

He became the villain because he had his weaknesses exploited at a vulnerable age and mental state. He’s related to three of the galaxy’s greatest heroes and one of its greatest evils and is always choking on the shadow of this legacy and all it entails. THAT is fascinating to me. Hate him, but don’t deny that there isn’t something there to explore.

This is all over the place, but in the end it’s my belief that disliking a character isn’t bad, it’s condemning others for diving into what’s presented to them and having a natural curiosity to explore humanity in all it’s vastness. It’s being adverse to dynamic characters and the complexities of life and another person’s authenticity.

[discogirlsclub]

I need your advice about something, I feel sick to my stomach thinking about the whole thing

I’m a minor, let’s just already say it. But I grew up in a place where I had free access to the internet, and I grew into liking explicit stuff and roleplaying and that’s just the content I enjoy

well now I’m scared because I’m constantly plagued with what if thoughts, and I just want to fit in with people who like the same things, but I feel guilty because I have a whole community of people who I love to talk to and I get so scared that it’s so wrong, because deep down I feel like it is

and I don’t know what to do, I don’t know if I should keep lying or just leave everything. It makes me feel horrible, and I’m sorry if this made you uncomfortable knowing there was a minor on your page

look baby im gonna be so honest with you here: i was writing smut on tumblr at fifteen sixteen and lying about my age. i thought it was a no big deal kind of thing, most of the kids on the internet are lying about their ages too. i know the communities that the adult side of these fandoms harbour are so inviting and warm for the most part and i understand wanting to be a part of them, trust me.

BUT the reason (that i now know as an adult) that these spaces are for adults only is not only to protect you but to protect ourselves. although there's not actually much we can do to stop minors from reading our works, interacting with minors in a sexual setting is not a good thing in the slightest. you have to keep in mind that our accounts are porn accounts, and we are selling a fantasy that is SO FAR REMOVED from actuality when it comes to sex and kink and even relationships in general.

i flirt with my anons. its all in fun, never serious but i do so sometimes in a sexual tone and under the impression that theyre leeeeeeeegal. thats where things get a bit iffy if youre lying about your age, you could be roping someone into a situation a lot messier than you intend it to be.

at the end of the day its your call what you do and what you interact with online. im not your mother, i cant dictate who you talk to or what you consume. BUT i do implore you to respect the boundaries set by writers in these spaces. we are trying to protect ourselves: it's a matter of consent really. i promise you'll be 18 in no time and these spaces will be here to welcome you with open arms.

[genderqueerdykes]

Hello, young queer person here! I was hoping you could give me some advice.

I’m nearing the legal adult age, which is the age I feel ready to physically enter queer spaces. I have one big problem, however. I am afraid of alcohol and drunk people. It’s a purely irrational fear, not really stemming from anything traumatizing. I just get early nervous being around drunk people. I think I could put up with it in a club, but there’ no way I could ever enter a bar/pub. Problem, most queer spaces are bars!!!

Are there any other, non-alcoholic types of establishments that are commonly queer spaces? Things I could fill into a ‘queer [_] near me’ search? I just wanna meet more queer people, but I won’t be able to do so comfortably if I’m surrounded by alcohol.

hello there, this is an extremely important issue that i feel not a lot of people talk about, so i'd like to give some advice for sure

the thing to keep in mind is its usually best to stay away from alcohol at a young age anyway, due to how its likely to be far more damaging to your body anyway, it's not good to be around. plus alcohol just adds an element of unpredictability which can turn sour very quickly, so that's understandable!

i would say a good first stop is checking to see if your local university has an LGBTQ group or something to that effect where you can ask about resources in the local area. if not you may be able to google lgbt/queer (or specific identity) events in my area, you can check to see if you have a trans resource center, sometimes gender affirming care clinics can try to put you in touch with queer organizations and spaces for people who are either minors or need other places to go that aren't oriented around alcohol. it's going to depend on the political climate of your local area, so your mileage will vary

your local library/ies may have information on this as well- many libraries have tons of resources for queer organizations and meet-ups, some even advertise specifically through the library since they have 'all ages' friendly events! i've found a few queer things in my city that i wasn't aware of before thanks to my local library, so it's worth a shot to give them a look if possible!

some people have a local committee who are great at posting about this kind of stuff on social media, so you may want to check facebook and instagram. it may be possible to find smaller, grassroots get-togethers, more low-key events, events safe for children and people under the legal drinking age, or other people who do not want to be around alcohol on these types of platforms, i find that instagram is used a lot for these kinds of things. you may just have to search for certain queer keywords in your area before you find something appropriate for your needs. you may also be able to search for your local area on reddit but that'll depend as well.

i hope any of that is of use to you! take care, i know it's not easy whenever you have certain trigger or thing you need to avoid for one reason or another. let us know if you need any more information!

[fear-is-truth]

hey girl currently deciding between subjects for school it’s either aircraft engineering or defence law any tips ??

1. what are you into ?

aircraft engineering: mainly focused on science, math, & getting your hands on tech. do you like figuring out how things work, solving technical problems, and working on projects that have real-world applications?

defence law: this path is more abt critical thinking, communication, understanding legal systems. are you interested in debates, policies, and the idea of working in areas like military law, advising/ representing clients?

2. think about job opportunities !

aircraft engineering: you could work with aerospace companies, defense contractors, or even projects focused on space exploration <3 . jobs usually pay well but can mean long hours and relocation.

defence law: roles could be in government, private firms, or military legal systems. it could involve more paperwork, policy work, or litigation etc. just consider if you’re okay with the time and cost of going through law school if that’s what’s needed.

3. do some research + ask ppl online !

search reddit or quora to find people in each field talking about their experiences. for aircraft engineering, i’ve already found a reddit thread here. as for defense law, it might vary depending on your country, so it’s tricky to give specific advice, but you’ll likely find some useful perspectives on these platforms. hearing firsthand experiences can help you get a better sense of what each job involves.

4. practical stuff to consider !!

how long will education take?

what are the costs like?

are there more opportunities for one career in places where you’d wanna live or work?

5. interest is key ! super important !!!!

you don’t have to be super passionate about either choice, but you should at least have some curiosity or interest. otherwise, it’ll be hard to stay motivated if you end up in a career you don’t care about… and that’s hell.

if you’re still a lil unsure (completely understandable btw), perhaps you could look into areas where the two overlap; e.g. legal compliance in aerospace or defense policy work. ultimately, choose the path that best matches where you see yourself in the future.

disclaimer: this is just my silly advice, and i hope it helps in some way. you know yourself best, so take your time, do some research, and chat with family or anyone you trust. i’m already so proud of you & wishing you the absolute best of luck with whatever path you choose—you’ve got this pooks !!! 🤍🤍

[valorascult]

Hello dear, i stumbled upon your lack mindset vs abundant mindset post and I needed to share something about me.

So at 8. of lack mindset you wrote "not sharing knowledge". This really shook me. Growing up I've been a real Mama's girl, and she would always tell me to never help out friends,or don't share my notes with them, not tell them information abt class, and that my friends only talk to me because they want something from me.

As i grew up, (I'm a senior at college now) I've seen that this mindset actually made me unable to view any of the relationship in my life as genuine and im always scared people will take advantage of me.

I always thought a lack mindset meant something related to money or poverty. But your post really made me see a different perspective. I'm living in a lack mindset?

I'm trying to get out of this mindset, please do you have advices or suggestions for me?

Hello! First, its a huge step already understanding and acknowledging your programming of immediate distrust. Building trust starts with empathy, if you understand your emotions thoroughly, you are more than likely able to understand others and navigate conversations / connections better rather than hyper analyzing. Understand that trust doesn’t have to be immediate and it is a gradual process. There is no need to share your whole being with people you have only known for a few weeks / months but building trust is where it starts. You can do this by engaging in tasks with people you want to be close with, a task where you are both able to be put in a vulnerable position so that you are both bonding and you are able to understand the way they operate on a deeper level / they are also able to understand you. Having a daily grounding routine is also extremely effective, everything around us operates best on the frequency of love so opening your heart via meditation, self care, spending time with nature, etc;. can really open your body up to receiving and working in love / acceptance with others. I, personally would start there and allow myself to feel one with the world. The key here is to unlearn defense mechanisms. The moment you feel yourself leaning towards immediate distrust is when you are able to also look at it from a different reality and understanding - allow the mind and gut to team up and make the better conclusions. I cannot speak for all but most people DO seek genuine connections with others but they are unsure how. I have also dealt with distrust and held back from making genuine connections, it is not an uncommon practice. When you start to believe there is a form of distrust in someone, you can as yourself, if you must, ‘is there any evidence to support this statement?’. And often, there is not. Many do not have malicious intentions, we are all just trying to survive and dive deeper into connections with others and that’s where empathy gets involved. We do it have to fully understand others and they do not have to understand every part of you and that’s okay - but, we should open our hearts a little deeper to understanding others. You absolutely should have boundaries, allowing trust does not get rid of the boundaries you have set for yourself but understand that others have boundaries too and creating a space where mutual respect is given should be most important. You can share emotions / experiences gradually, it does not have to be in an instant. Putting yourself in uncomfortable positions with others can also build trust with them because it allows their guard to come down a little and have you also open up. I’m typing a lot but if you ever have any other questions or questions / statements related to this, you can always message me directly as well xo.

[youremyheaven]

need some big sister advice because ive just gotten heartbroken 🫠🫠

i wouldn’t say i got played, because that’s not really the case, but i definitely did get hurt lol 🤣 the guy is two years older than me. sweet, charming, genuinely a gentleman. we were never really talking but there was always a weird tension between us, and sometimes he would do things that were not exactly friend things.

he’s older, and we’re at that age where the two years gap is fine but also has that “older guy” energy. he recently got a girlfriend. she’s so gorgeous, i won’t lie. genuinely has the nicest smile ever, and she’s everything i’m not? or i guess her background is a lot more similar to his than mine. they both come from really wealthy families— they’re both well traveled, well cultured, everything.

my grandparents are wealthy, maybe comparable to his family and hers. my parents are average to higher middle. never mind the context.

there were genuinely so many weird coincidences between us, from line-ups in our past, to other things like same birthmarks or conditions. maybe all this doesn’t matter though, does it? i think all this just contributed to me thinking there was something more between us.

idk i’m just hurt because there were so many things he did that were so sweet, and so nice, and he never really cared about other girls that way. it was all genuine too, and definitely more than friends things. right now im wondering if maybe he just saw me as someone to take care of? someone younger, more naive, and maybe he never actually liked me that way— but then there are other things that he did that were so not friends 😭😭 and even his friends and mine would sometimes ask if we had something going on

sometimes i wonder if the entire friend group was just in on this big joke or maybe im just looking at him with puppy eyes, even though im not that kind. ive been so adamantly against relationships, and this was the first time i actually wanted someone. ive always been so focused on school, internships, taking care of everyone, and then for once i wanted something for myself, and this happened.

im so academic, and i like taking care of people and doing things like knitting/crocheting/embroidery/cooking and all that stay at home things. you get the gist, im basically a homebody and introvert and i just like my own space and peace 😕😕 this girl parties, is always at the beach (me too but we are so different even in this manner because she’s the kind that takes pictures, dresses so well and i admire her so so much for it, while i go and pick up seashells and stare out at the beach 🤣🤣) and she’s just sooo extroverted, the life of the party with everyone, and so charming. and he’s quieter i guess, conventionally attractive, from a good household, a gentleman, stuff like that.

i never thougjt i would be the kind to compare myself to others but this is the first time ive ever felt this way and i just 😞😞

he’s really the nicest, and his girlfriend seems so sweet too, it was just sudden.

any advice? if youve ever been in this situation <33 i know its not really astro/fashion related but i don’t think i can even talk about this to my friends or anyone :c

babygirl 🥺

i understand what you're going through<3 this has to be one of the most difficult experiences in the romance arena tbh,, a guy who is extremely nice to you, gets your expectations up and then ends up dating someone who is the complete opposite of you 😭😭its a terrible feeling and its only natural that youd compare yourself to her,,

the best thing for you to do rn is to distance yourself from them. dont look at their socials, dont meet them often and get as far as u can from them.

its okay to wallow in it and it will take you some time to move on.

its impossible to understand where he was coming from or what his intentions with you were. you dont have to feel like you're silly for having believed that there was something between the two of you. he gave you "special" treatment and thats reason enough. whether or not he had romantic intentions is a different matter.

but the important fact rn is that he indeed has a girlfriend, which means its in ur best interest to avoid him and not contact him during this period so that you dont feel worse than you already do.

did he have feelings for you? was he just a reallyyyyy nice guy with no romantic intentions? was he just toying with you? these are questions that we can't really find answers to rn and no answer will ever really be satisfying enough.

immerse yourself in your hobbies, studies/work and keep yourself engaged. focus on yourself.

obviously an experience like this can take a toll on your self-esteem but these are experiences that will help us grow thick skin. our self worth should never depend on how others treat us. sounds easier said than done but you must always always always remember that how someone treats you is a reflection of their character more than it is of yours.

this can go both ways. if someone is extremely nice/kind/generous with you, it helps to maintain humility when you think its the goodness of their heart that makes them act like that, not you being "special" enough to receive it.

but if someone is mean/nasty/rude etc, thats also because of their character and the poison they carry in their heart. and has nothing to do with you as a person.

its important to build a firm core so that you're not swayed by generosity or broken by malice. you have to be self-content enough to see all things, both good and bad, as temporary. this does not mean you dont appreciate the good stuff or feel bad about poor treatment, you're human and you'll always have feelings but life is long, and you'll meet all kinds of people in life who will say and do all kinds of things, you shouldnt tie your self esteem to it, thats all.

think of these experiences as your immunization process, you're becoming more resilient and strong.

with men, unless and until, they explicitly say they want to take you out or date you or want you to be their gf, its 🚩🚩 and sometimes they even say all this AND play you 😭😭

i hope you have more peaceful days ahead of you and can forget this guy and focus on yourself<3

there are better men waiting for you who will give you the world and never make you second guess anything!! dont be too disheartened, pretend this is ep 4 of a romantic drama, things always get better by ep 16 😉💛💛

[alatismeni-theitsa]

Hi, Im a new hellenic polytheist and I want to ask you about altars. Whenever I ask other hellenic polytheists about making altars, they almost always tell me to “pick out crystals” depending on who the altar is for. But from what I can see from more historical sources, they don’t really put crystals. From what Ive read from those sources, the altar is like this blank stone table thing where all the sacrifice is done (and I think theres also a separate altar for placing votive offerings, but ive also seen some sources state votive offerings are stored in separate rooms) while all the imagery and temples are the shrine part. I’d like to ask you how to do this in today’s time, since I can’t really get myself a hearth nor get any statues… Although maybe there’s some more “casual” worship done in the house that I don’t know of yet, since most of the stuff I read was about the temples and not the house. Whenever I read about altars in the house, its usually just a few sentences saying that there was an altar and hearth. So yeah, I’m kinda just asking about altar advice. And I’d also like to ask on your opinion on travel altars, since I see a lot of those recently. They’re basically just a tiny container with altar necessities in them to carry around easily (usually a candle and something to light it, as well as a crystal)

This western neo-pagan trend to stick tarot and crystals everywhere is getting on my nerves, for real. Crystals are not part of the religion and it doesn't make sense to use them, since we have no records about crystals on altars the way neo-pagans use them.

Those deities don't have preferences for certain sweets and crystals, it's people who have those preferences. What gives people good vibes they want to turn into "this god must like this, that's why I feel good or a good thing happened to me today".

This is not a blog where we hunt down people with pitchforks so I don't feel comfortable addressing each western Hellenic polytheist like "Remove the crystals now!!!" I understand that there can be a syncretism of practices and beliefs. But it's worth saying that it's absurd to consider crystals as a "must" for your altar, as the practice does not come from Greek tradition or the religion itself.

The altar (βωμός) was indeed destined for the sacrifice location and offerings were placed elsewhere. But we cannot do this practically nowadays so it's fine if you have just a location for offerings, candles and whatnot. A table, a shelf, or a nightstand in your room could serve as such a space. You don't need big statues. Small statuettes of the gods will suffice.

Travel altars are not a must and I don't remember any ancient depiction of them. You can carry an object to place your candles, flowers etc on. This could be either a small flat surface or a cloth, so the offerings don't touch the ground or other dirty surfaces, and they can be stable. It would be nice to have something physical to ground yourself when away from your main altar, but you don't need to go overboard. As an educated guess, it's very likely that our ancients did it like this. AND NO CRYSTALS ARE REQUIRED IN THE PORTABLE ALTAR PACKAGE, FFS 😂

The recent trend of "see me using my travel altar in nature!" is an aesthetic. Aesthetics are not necessarily bad but can transform a spiritual practice into a consumerist race. As you have already been doing, keep looking at the ancient sources for guidance, not the trends 😁

Best of luck on your journey!