#I had time today

[didhewinkback]

Is an intimacy coordinator needed for a fully clothed sex scene simulation? Man, you people cannot make me hate Olivia. Try your damnedest but it has not worked to this day. She is awesome and freaking strong! That's probably also why she is hated by weird fans.

do you honestly think that a stipulation of a intimacy coordinators job is that they are only required if there is nudity? you think actors don't need someone there to help choreograph a scene where one actor has his head in between the other actors legs? are you for fucking real? you honestly think it is more appropriate for the only person to be choreographing and listening to the actors in incredibly vulnerable circumstances where one actor has his mouth next to the others vagina for a 12 hour shoot day is someone who is dating one of them?

i usually try to ignore messages like this because you're a freak who lurked in my tags to find something about olivia in it but this shit actually gets me so heated. it is incredibly irresponsible to promote a movie as a feminist manifesto about female pleasure when there was no one on that set to protect your female lead. kirsten dunst just talked about how uncomfortable kissing scenes (yes bitch, kissing scenes when all their clothes are on) were for her as a young actress. anne hathaway just did an interview about how she used to have to make out with actors for chemistry tests and how she wished there was someone in those situations to vouch for her. i could go on forever. intimacy coordinators are a necessity on set no matter how intense the intimate scenes get - they are there to advocate for and protect the actor and change things if an actor feels uncomfortable no matter what. if the only person there to help you during that scene is the director and she is currently sleeping with ur scene partner that is not a situation in which you feel advocated for, heard, comfortable or protected. and truly how fucking dare you act like the only thing that would make someone feel vulnerable in that situation is being naked.

there is nothing feminist or empowering about abusing your position of power. you don't get to get off from bad behavior and being bad at your job by arguing that people wouldn't be saying this shit if you were a man. that movie sucked and so do you.

[swan2swan]

I had no idea you were learning Polish!!! It was a very nice surprise to see the subtitles in my native language in one of your posts XD Good luck! Powodzenia ⚔️

My partner's Polish, so putting in a little effort to communicate with her family feels nice...also, languages are fun, and I was curious about the opportunity.

I might have more luck doing this project in French or Spanish, though. Linguam Latinam studeo, igitur discere eos facilior est.

[thatseventiesbitch]

Donna’s Decisions In The Relapse: An Analysis

In S4xE6 “The Relapse”, Midge leaves her family and Kitty sends Eric over to the Pinciotti’s in a sport coat with a casserole. Donna promptly jumps his bones and they do it, leading Eric to believe they’re back together while Donna insists to their friends that they’re not.

I’ve always thought that one can’t really blame poor Eric for thinking that having sex meant they were back together, based on what we know about how seriously Donna approaches sex. She and Eric knew each other since they were kids and exchanged ‘I love you’s’, but it still took months of dating before she felt comfortable losing her virginity to him. Her parents’ laissez faire attitude towards casual sex seems to have created the exact opposite instinct in her. So for Donna to say something like,

It was like I would have done it with anybody.

- that really raises some eyebrows. It’s not something we would typically expect from her character.

However, one also has to take into account the circumstances her character was in during season 4. Her mom left the family - she moved across the country without warning, abandoning Donna and leaving her to be raised by her well-intentioned but bumbling dad. Her boyfriend, who she’s in love with and depends on for stability, broke up with her and is being a jerk in the aftermath - kicking her out of the basement, pitting their friends against her, etc. Donna was already in a not-great place before these things happened. She was acting out for her parents attention by failing classes and smoking on school grounds in S2xE9 “Eric gets Suspended”, she was stressed out about her family’s financial stability after Bob lost his job in S3xE8 “Jackie Bags Hyde”, crying about her parents’ unhappy marriage compared to the Formans’ in S3xE16 “Romantic Weekend”, etc. So losing both Midge and Eric now - two pillars of support - could be enough to spiral her into a very bad place, where she’s making some decisions she normally wouldn’t make.

And she was acting impulsively throughout much of season 4, including some presumed sexually risky behavior. Agreeing to go to the Le Motel with Casey. Drinking with him during the day, and cutting school. Maybe sleeping with someone random - anyone - in this moment in S4xE6 “The Relapse” would have been a believable choice she’d make at this point in time, another string in this pattern. Eric just happened to be the one who walked through the door.

But maybe not.

Donna tells both Jackie and Hyde that “it was like she would’ve done it with anyone [when she hooked up with Eric].” 

Again, maybe it’s true and it’s how she honestly felt. Maybe she was being utterly self-destructive in that moment. But maybe she’s trying to save face in front of her friends because she’s embarrassed. She just hooked up with her ex! And she’s not ready to face the reason why - which is because she still has feelings for him (duh).

Case in point? When Eric confronts her about what happened at the end of the episode, Donna doesn’t tell him the same line about how she would have done it with anyone (although he’s of course heard it at this point). What she says is, 

“I’m sorry for needing you, but I did.”

- and I think that’s closer to what really happened. Donna needed him. Not anyone, Eric. Her person. For some comfort sex, for a distraction, to just feel loved and not totally alone in the wake of this huge loss and life change. 

Eric, as mad as he was at the start of the scene, is immediately diffused by these words for what it’s worth. And he also forgives her without a second thought. Which makes me think he gets it.

So I guess that’s my (controversial?) fandom opinion of the day: I remain unconvinced that Donna would have hooked up with ‘anyone’ that day. I think that line was a convenient excuse she gave to her friends, but she and Eric know the truth.

This is really solidified for me a few episodes into season 5. In S5xE9 “Black Dog” when Eric and Donna are arguing about the best way to help someone you love through a tough time, they have the following exchange:

Eric: When your mom left, I gave you space.

Donna: But I didn’t want space. I wanted you with me.

Eric: You didn’t tell me that.

Donna: I couldn’t find you!

It’s a recurring joke/plot in the episode that the men all tend to give their partner space when they’re upset, but that the women want to be showered with love and attention instead. Eric and Donna devolve into bickering about this for the rest of the episode, but it reveals an interesting new detail: Donna wanted Eric with her when her mom left.

This further confirms, to me, that Donna and Eric falling into bed together that day was far from accidental. She knew exactly what she was doing, lol.

It seems like Donna is someone who uses sex to mask emotional pain. She does it here in “The Relapse” when her mom leaves, and again in the beginning of season 6 when she was preparing to go away to college and leave Eric. At that point, Eric seems to become aware of it (“If I get her sad, she gives it away like goldfish at a freaking carnival”). But that’s getting into a different topic. 😊

[heathenkweer]

its kind of pathetic that you made up a self insert mary-sue to ship with luis when hes the gayest character in resi4. you made him bi so you could put him with your female oc and you spam the tag with your fanfic posts, its annoying

*slow blink*

Luis being with a woman doesn't somehow cancel out his queerness or his attraction to men, or make him straight. (Also, I find that a lot of the things fandom points to as "proof" that he's gay are... kind of just how some men in European countries act, even when they're straight? I don't feel comfortable describing his characteristics as inherently gay or not, as a white chick from America, where a dude is seen as gay if he washes the dirt from underneath his nails more than twice a year.)

Anywho, the existence of my little fic doesn't threaten the existence of Luis/male character fics. There are still plenty there. I'm just over here doing my own little thing. If you're tired of seeing me, then block me. Curate your online space to make yourself happy. ✌️

[howdoidecidethjs]

obsessed, she's so iconic and deserved to be Robin for WAY longer. Her and Batman could have been one of the funniest duos ever but I'm glad she got to be part of a trio with DickBats and DamianRobin.

I still wish she and Bruce had a better relationship because having a father-daughter relationship when you do not want another father/child is so funny to me.

They should be mildly annoyed with each other at all times, but also he should know all her favourite sweets and interests and she should know all his favourite old-man music and random historical references. They tell everyone they are nothing alike and barely like each other, but he pays all her bills and school fees and she brings puzzles and games for them to obsess over. She paints his nails and he made over a room in the manor just for her. He compliments her hair and she talks his ear off about her latest little obsession while they patrol. She updates his old files with colours and pictures to make it less depressing and he vents to her about how dumb the JL is. They are obviously besties but don't ever say that because they will both bat-glare you so hard you wish you'd been smacked.

Hai!! I just started this account to post my silly batfam doodles

[a-drama-addict]

not caring too much about a fandom’s favourite guy is the worst. you’ll think “oh i’ll look into the tag see if anything new and cool’s there” and it’s just that fucking guy again

[atalana]

the curse of adhd:

i will remember with absolute clarity, when the thought strikes me that i have a text to send someone, that this is the fourth time in three days i've attempted to send this specific text

i will forget, in the time it takes me to pick up my phone, that i picked it up intending to send a text

[disparatemind]

A family friend commented his bigotry when I shared this post from Relentless Indigenous Woman and I had time today.

Respectfully, your opinion does not invalidate someone else's existence or their experience of their own life.

You want to cite your reasoning as it being simple biology? Ok fine. "In the study of human subjects, the term sex should be used as a classification, generally as male or female, according to the reproductive organs and functions that derive from the chromosomal complement [generally XX for female and XY for male]." That's what the Yale School of Medicine says anyway. (¹) So yes, according to biology, female = vagina and male = penis.

Biology, or biological sex, and gender are not the same thing. One is a scientific definition and the other is an individual's representation of themselves. In fact, that same article goes on to say the same thing: "In the study of human subjects, the term gender should be used to refer to a person's self-representation as male or female, or how that person is responded to by social institutions on the basis of the individual's gender presentation."

But that's just one university within the US, albeit a prestigious one. What about an organization that's considered a higher authority than that? Say, the World Health Organization? Well, according to them, "Gender refers to the characteristics of women, men, girls and boys that are socially constructed. This includes norms, behaviours and roles associated with being a woman, man, girl or boy, as well as relationships with each other. As a social construct, gender varies from society to society and can change over time."(²) A little further down, it follows up on this, stating "Gender interacts with but is different from sex, which refers to the different biological and physiological characteristics of females, males and intersex persons, such as chromosomes, hormones and reproductive organs. Gender and sex are related to but different from gender identity. Gender identity refers to a person’s deeply felt, internal and individual experience of gender, which may or may not correspond to the person’s physiology or designated sex at birth."

You've also pointed out more than once in the past that trans people shouldn't be allowed in the restroom they identify with, especially if there is a child in there, because of the possibility of sexual assault. I specifically remember you telling me, in a comment under a video of a parent yelling at a trans woman not to go into the women's restroom because their daughter was in there, that the parent had a right to protect their child. You are right; a parent has every right to protect their child. I've asked you to provide proof of trans people—specifically trans women—assaulting women in the restroom. To the best of my memory, you've never done so. I looked it up. I found cases of adult trans people assaulting children in restrooms. I also found cases of trans teenagers assaulting other teenagers in restrooms. That does not give that one parent, or any other parent, to react that way that parent did. I watched the video. Instead of saying to a stranger, "hey, my kid is in there by herself, would you mind waiting a minute?" he started off yelling and throwing slurs and insults in the trans woman's face. Even if the trans woman had said "sorry but I really have to go," or just kept walking, what was stopping the parent from just walking into the restroom and waiting for the kid? The bathroom thing is a whole separate conversation alone, but the TL;DR version is this: “From a scientific and evidence-based perspective, there is no current evidence that granting transgender individuals access to gender-corresponding restrooms results in an increase in sexual offenses" according to journal of the American Academy of Psychiatry and the Law. (³)

"Blue is blue, all variations of blue are blue." What about blue green? Is it more blue, or green? Or is it both? There's also the fact that intersex people exist (those born with both sets of genitalia, previously referred to as hermaphrodites). Are they male? Female? Both? Neither?

"Males are males even if they chop their dicks off and get them turned inside out." As we've already established, yes, biologically they were born male. And again, as we've already established, biological sex and gender are not the same thing.

"Reality dictates otherwise." Whose reality? Yours? Mine? Every trans person's? Whose reality is the real one? More importantly, why are you so concerned about someone else's genitalia? Why are you so concerned with how trans people live their lives?

Trans men are men. Trans women are women. Them living their lives does not affect you, but your continued bigotry against them actually does cause harm.

1. https://medicine.yale.edu/news-article/what-do-we-mean-by-sex-and-gender/

2. https://www.who.int/health-topics/gender#tab=tab_1

3. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/326547236_The_Transgender_Bathroom_Debate_at_the_Intersection_of_Politics_Law_Ethics_and_Science

[remusawoooo]

I'd argue this is actually the worst thing about this fandom, lol

Dumbledore: shown to be put on pedestal and is acknowledged to not be perfect within canon. This is a major subplot in deathly hallows if anyone missed out. he is flawed, sacrificed his life for the greater good, and died a good man.

Barty Crouch Jr.: Has a nuanced backstory that shows a 19 year old yearning for Father's love and recognition while still framing him as a horrendous blood supremacist who tortured and killed.

Regulus Black: again, a story that adds layers to his actions and characters. a person who acted on his ego rather than morality. someone who was radicalized into blood supremacy quite young and without much persuasion. his acts are explained within the little description we get. maybe he could've changed if he lived, we don't know. imagine wtv you want here but he is still someone who engaged in fascist ideology while someone who grew up similarly rejected the ideas far younger :/

Tom Riddle a.k.a Voldemort: has an entire book worth past filled with nuanced depiction of his upbringing, his miserable circumstances, lack of connections and family. he is still a cunt and a fascist leader.

the back stories are there, their bad actions are there. there doesn't have to be a correlation because a backstory doesn't explain bigotry.

My favourite thing about this fandom is that the canon story has so many characters that are just bad guys - no explanation, no questions, they’re just bad. But this fandom takes those characters and loves them and adds backstory and reasons why those characters mad those “bad” decisions because no one is born a “bad guy” right? Not Reggie, not Barty, not Bella, not even Tom :) And the idolized and well-renowned characters like Dumbledore? We take them down a notch, because no one is born perfect either. I love that. It makes it all feel so much more human and approachable and accepting.

Reblog if you feel the same! I feel like this aspect of the fandom needs some love :)

[aceofheartsstuff]

That last scene in a nutshell (welcome back, Eddie Diaz!)

[anbaisai]

"Rest well, Jamil-senpai."

[time-woods]

do you think theyll ever be able to escape that cycle of sadness ? or will they be forever stuck in the madness, together ?

they really are bound to that sadness madness

[thatseventiesbitch]

Eric during the season 4 finale: a photo essay

This scene occurs at the end of the episode, after Casey’s dumped Donna in front of everyone in the Forman’s living room. Donna comes by to see Eric a few hours later. 

Eric asks her how she’s doing, and she says she’s humiliated and she starts to cry. She asks him what’s wrong with her and he says nothing, that her mom left and she’s allowed to freak out. Donna laments that everybody warned her about Casey but she didn’t listen, and that he’s a jackass. Eric says he really wanted her to figure that out, just not like this. She apologizes to him, and they hug.

When Donna hugs him, you can already see the conflict building in him. 

My guess? At this point, he thinks she’s here for sex/a hook-up to feel better after Casey’s dumped her. As we learn just a few moments later, Eric believes himself to be Donna’s second-choice. A rebound. And Donna’s used him similarly already this season, in episode 6 “The Relapse”.

In that episode, Donna slept with Eric after her mom left so she’d feel better. Knowing better than anyone that sex is meaningful to Donna and not something she does casually, Eric assumed (wrongly) that they were back together. But Donna told all their friends that it was just comfort sex, impersonal, and that she didn’t want to get back together.

That’s not what she tells Eric - she says she’s sorry for needing him, and Eric forgives her. But that memory has to be in the back of his mind now. I think that moment was more heartbreaking for Eric than he let on to her - and he’s on guard not to let it happen again.

But at the same time - it’s Donna. 

She’s upset, crying. How can he turn her away? He loves her. He hates seeing her cry. He wants to make her feel better. 

She needs him.

When she kisses him, he kisses back. He was ready for this.

He might still be undecided - but his body responds to her. Maybe automatically. 

But then she surprises him.

“Eric, we should be together. Let’s just forget all this other stuff happened.”

She’s not just looking for a hook-up. She wants them to get back together. (And to ignore everything that’s happened between them all season)

Now once again, Eric is conflicted.

On one hand, this is what he wanted. It’s all he’s been talking about to his friends for the past few episodes/past few weeks - how can he get Donna to realize Casey’s bad news, to come back to him instead? Hyde even nicknamed him Daffy Duck, because he was setting up “zany schemes” to make Casey look bad and drive Donna back into his arms.

And now it’s here. This is the moment he wanted: Donna’s realized Casey’s a jack-ass, and she wants Eric back. 

But it doesn’t feel the way he wanted it to feel. Because he has doubts about her true motives licking at the back of his mind. 

And after the way Donna was behaving earlier this episode, who can blame him?

Eric tells Donna that he can’t be her second choice. 

Donna is - and always has been - his first choice. His only choice. He’s never fallen out of love with her. And being a rebound for her again, someone she uses when she’s in pain but isn’t serious about at the end of the day... Eric knows it would break his heart. Like she’s broken it before.

So he’s being strong. He’s protecting himself. He’s saying no.

Eric doesn’t believe Donna’s serious. He thinks she’s acting impulsively in the aftermath of her break-up with Casey - the way she’s been acting all season, really.

But Donna, I believe, is genuine here. 

She is vulnerable and does feel awful after being dumped, but she’s also had a realization. She’s set aside the agitation and animosity she had towards Eric earlier in the episode/season, and now seems to realize that he was looking out for her the whole time. That probably led to the realization that he’s still in love with her. And that she’s still in love with him, too.

I don’t think this conversation is going the way Donna thought it would. I don’t think she was prepared for his reaction, for having to explain herself. And I don’t think she expresses herself to him particularly well.

Her heartbreak and distress in this moment is palpable, though. She quickly turns desperate for the love of her life - she makes a strangled sob and then looks embarrassed. She definitely didn’t fight this way for Casey. Anyone who knows Donna knows that she doesn’t cry often. The only other time we’ve seen it on the show up to this point is in The Promise Ring, when Eric breaks up with her. So this vulnerability from her speaks volumes. And Eric knows it. 

But she pushes through her discomfort anyway. She begs him to respond to her.

But he doesn’t.

I think he ducks his head because he can’t watch her cry, but his body language also tells her the conversation is over. He’s made up his mind. Frustrated, embarrassed - and rejected for the second time in the span of a few hours - Donna leaves instead of trying to convince him further. 

And then a little while later, Eric’s parents speak to him. Kitty must’ve been spying, and saw Donna barrel out of the basement upset. That conversation is... a whole different analysis. 😅

[chiptrillino]

Trick or treat ! 🎃

TREAT!

Well just a wip so maybe a treat?

[remnantglow]

messy Tiger Tiger drawing bc they live in my mind rent free now 😵‍💫

[tizzymcwizzy]

VALENTINES DAY SKETCH FOR YOU HAPPY VALENTINES DAAAAYYYY!!!!!!!!