#I don't want to cook dinner

[musette22]

Which part of "the only thing I want to do ever is read Stucky fic in peace with no interruptions whatsoever" is so hard for you to understand huh? *glares at my life*

[anabetel35]

Queerplatonic jayvik is so important to me btw. Bestest reading of their relationship I think.

[the-cat-and-the-birdie]

Okay but when I say I'm normal about Miguel O'Hara I mean it cause idk what some of y'all got going on but it's Not Normal which is Not Wrong but at the least it's Very Concerning

I can assure you going to IKEA with that man is ten thousand times more thrilling than sleeping with him

Y'all seem to think he's the type to be doing you all night long. Mama that dudes a father.

He falls asleep on the couch at 9pm watching Jeopardy snoring loud as hell and if you touch the remote he's suddenly awake going 'I was watching that 🤨'

You tryna get ya freak on and you all into it then 'brrng brrng' there's an anamoly in earth 42069 and he gotta leave cause the squad getting they asses beat. Now sit ya horny ass down. 😐

Y'all wanna sleep with him so bad. I'm not sleeping in the same bed as him. If he rolls over on you it's game over you're dead you're Gabriella you're gone

Im not taking the risk

He's so sexy and fuckable I wanna take him out to brunch.

He's so dom and top and hot or whatever. I wanna decorate an apartment with him. I want to watch him pick out baby clothes

What does he want the nursery to look like

You know what gets me hot and bothered? The thought of going to a baby parenting class with Miguel and a bunch of other new parents.

Biggest dude in a whole room full of parents and babies and his baby is the smallest and he's sitting there on the ground criss-cross applesauce

NOW AIN'T THAT CUTE

You over there trying to make a baby I'm here tryna build a family we are NOT the same

[motsimages]

As per Tumblr recommendation, I started Kevin can fuck himself yesterday. I see people comment on how the sitcom part makes it look the way people see an abuser and how the abuse can be disguised. People think he is just a funny guy and the abuse goes unnoticed. I personally see it otherwise, although it's similar.

People know he is an asshole. He spends a whole episode being mean to the new neighbours just because. He meets a dangerous guy at a bar, in public. He is an alcoholic who throws weird parties with lots of other people at home. Patty's boyfriend tells her twice in the 3 or 4 conversations we see that he is an idiot. People know, and people avoid him.

And his bubble know, but they justify it and excuse it. And that's the sitcom. The sitcom is the theater of excuses Allison has (and then other characters too) about his behaviour.

"Can you believe it? We were in our anniversary, such a fun party, we were both super drunk and I don't know how it ended, that I was face down on the floor and the table was broken! Anniversa-rager we call it lol"

"He is such a clumsy guy that just as I was leaving the house, you won't believe that I don't know how he managed to cover me in chilli sauce! What a silly goose!"

"He is so helpless without me, he couldn't find the printer and he called me all day because he needed me to explain to him how to work it. And he worries too! He called the cops because he didn't know where I was, maybe I forgot to tell him".

The conversations with her coworker about husbands help drive this point. That's what mariage is. You find ways to justify it and to avoid certain fights and that's it. We got lucky.

But he did all these things on purpose. And the unreliable narrator of the sitcom makes the joke of it and makes the audience consider that maybe it isn't *that bad*. Allison needs to believe that's what it is, so it is. It really isn't that bad, she thinks, he is just like that.

And we can actually see the worrying things and the threatening parts from minute one. It's only a joke because we have been trained to dismiss it. To justify it and to move on. He isn't doing any heavy lifting here.

In episode 1, just the fact that he ends up standing on the table (when she doesn't want him to even put glasses on without protection) says a lot. But then the table breaks and he fixes it poorly and visibly. It would be bad enough just like this, but I personally think there is more to it. It's just that Allison doesn't want to speak about it or look at it so it is just the table, but it's the switch that turns on for her, the last drop. But she did end face down on her living room, on top of the broken table. It's a very elegant narrative tool where we don't see, but if we wanted to see, it's there.

And the more she notices, the more off-putting the sitcom is. It's still played as a joke, with the laugh track, but she is more aware now, so we can notice too.

We start the series with her turning point, but if the series started a year before that, it would only be happening in her house, as it is her life, her only frame of reference, and it would only be a sitcom because isn't he such a clumsy but caring guy?

[pansyfemme]

boy who so does his homework

[mpregspn]

oh my gawwddd i stormed away from the dinner table bc my brother in law was like hey don't you have a new year's resolution to start running and my mom made fun of the way i pronounce Rs and i went to my room and started crying like a babyyyyyyy

[slasherscream]

all this yip yap about everybody else... not enough talk about victoria neuman evil women in politics... the puppeteers behind the scene AND center stage because they're that good at controlling all the pieces on the board.... imagine being her little housewife... my brain is turning off as we speak

[oculusxcaro]

Hi everybody, sorry to have been so quiet lately! 2025 started off a little rough on this end but it's probably quite a bit rougher for some of you across the pond for reasons we all know and loathe already. Despite that, I hope life is treating you okay (or will start getting better soon - some of you have been through some really rough patches which none of you deserve and I wish things were better for you all 🙁) Just a smol life update about a little somebody I haven't mentioned for a while - R.orschach, my corn snake! It's been one whole year since he came home with me way back in 2024 as an itty bitty shoelace and he's uh, grown quite a bit since living it up in his lovely big vivarium?

Unfortunately it's the best photo of us since my health hasn't been the best these last few months (curse you winter!) but I'm determined not to let 2025 be a shitty year for writing like 2024 was! Making a spot of dinner really quick and then we'll see about tackling an ask or two. After not writing for a while, it's daunting af to even look at what's waiting but thank you all so much for your patience and love! Really hoping to get connected with you all again in spite of how awful the world state is rn. Keep holding on as best you can, people - nothing is forever and things will get better soon! <3

[cyanbugremix]

*le sigh* i'm not made for fancy "adult" food restaurants

[erzvolnes]

i wish i could eat instant ramen i wish i could eat bread and pasta and crackers i wish everything wasn't 3x more expensive i wish i didnt have to be Constantly Paranoid and Afraid of the Food i eat and most of all I wish it wasnt such hard work

[walking-loather]

When it comes to hygiene tasks and self care with disability and chronic illness, its pretty much a constant case of: don't let perfect be the enemy of the good.

Basically: it's better to do something, than to do nothing at all.

TLDR: Just because you can't do something "properly" doesn't mean you shouldn't do it at all. Do it half-way. Do it shitty. Do it barely. Do it on a technicality. But do what you can. Just try, because doing something will help you.

If you don't have the energy to scrub your body with a sponge, just rub soap over your skin with your hands.

If you don't have the energy to wash your whole body with soap, just hit the places where sweat accumulates, or where you're smelliest.

If you don't have the energy to wash with soap AT ALL, just sitting in water is better than nothing. It will wash away dirt and oils.

If you can't bathe or shower at all, a warm wash cloth is your new best friend. If that's too much, then try bath wipes. They're a bit bigger than regular wet wipes, and a bit more heavy duty. They're designed to help keep bed ridden patients clean in hospitals.

If you don't have the energy to dry yourself after a bath or a shower, just put on a bathrobe and get into bed. If you don't have the energy to get dressed afterwards, just don't. It can wait until you can.

If you don't have energy to brush your teeth for two minutes, honestly, just a cursory scrub is better than not doing anything.

If you can't brush your teeth twice a day, brush in the evenings. It will help take away the build up of food from the day.

If you don't have the energy to brush AT ALL, honestly, just take a cloth and wipe the plaque off your teeth. Rinse with mouth wash after if you'd like. Something is always better than nothing.

If you can't floss twice a day. Try once. If that's too much, try a few times a week. If that's too much, try setting aside a day once a week as a goal. If you can't keep a schedule, do it when you're able to. Hell, I keep some floss next to my bed so that if I forget and don't have the energy to go get it, I can just reach over.

If you can't iron your clothes, don't bother. Wrinkles are fine. Wear jumpers over wrinkly t-shirts. No one will know, and honestly, most people won't even care. If it's really wrinkly and it's A Big Deal And It Needs To Be Ironed, here's my life hack. Step 1: take a spray bottle, and spritz the item of clothing (while you're wearing it is easiest) until it's lightly damp. Step 2: use a hair-dryer on the clothes until they're dry. It gets rid of creases like nobody's business, it's easier than lugging out the iron and ironing board, and you get to have nice toasty warm clothes afterwards.

If you can't fold your clothes, try just hanging them up. It's less commitment. It's quicker to do. Granted, you need to have the space in order to do this, but it is also good at helping you downsize, and lets you visualise exactly what you have.

If you can't put your clothes away, invest in a couple of laundry baskets, and then just keep your clean clothes in the baskets. You can then separate washed clothes into underwear, pants, and shirts baskets. You can just leave them like that. I'm giving you permission to never fold your laundry again if you can't. Just leave it unfolded. Who's going to care? Something is better than nothing. If you can, try to put those baskets into your closet so that you can keep the clutter out of sight, and give yourself a more restful environment.

If you can't separate your clothing out into different categories and wash them "properly" (whites, warm tones, cool tones, darks, delicates / switching between hot & cold washes / paying attention to laundry instructions on the label) then just don't worry about it. If you cold wash your clothes, colours won't bleed. Maybe gradually over the course of dozens of washes there'll be some changes in hue, but it's really not as high stakes as the One Red Sock In The Whites Turns Them Pink trope makes it out to be.

I've pretty much come to the point in my life where if a piece of clothing can't survive the washer and dryer, then it's just not meant to be. I colour separate my clothes, and if I have the energy/remember I'll take my bras and jumpers out of the washing machine to drip dry. But otherwise, I leave it to the universe.

If you can't separate out your recycling, then don't. If you have a large amount of rubbish you need to get rid of but the idea of separating it out properly is stopping you from doing so, then just don't worry about it. I know it's not ideal, but if you have garbage in your room/house and you need to get rid of it, please just get rid of it. Don't let the problem get bigger and harder to deal with. Don't let "doing something properly" get in the way of keeping your living spaces clean. Please. Give yourself understanding.

If you can't wash your dishes, get paper plates. Obviously, it's not ideal, but it is better that you eat food than skipping meals. It is better that you have a clean kitchen, rather than having dishes piling up and making it harder to look after yourself.

If you can't prepare meals for yourself keep making the tasks easier and easier. If you can't do recipes, then simplify. Use pasta sauce from the jar instead of making it. Eat canned soup. Buy food you can just stick in the oven. If you eat fish fingers and microwave veggies every night, it's better than not eating anything at all. It's better than having to fork out money on take-out. If you need ready-made meals, then get them. If you're literally just eating a raw cauliflower for dinner; 1) I see you, 2) me too, sis, 3) something is better than nothing.

These are the basic things you need to do every day to function as a person. They are your activities of daily living. Brushing your teeth. Bathing or showering. Using the bathroom. Getting dressed. Eating. Drinking. Sleeping. Keeping your environment clean. You don't need to do these things perfectly, but they need to happen in order for you to have a decent quality of life.

And it breaks my heart, because I know that so many disabled people can't do these things every day. I'm not saying this to guilt or judge, I'm saying that these are basic needs; you deserve these things. These things bring dignity. If a disabled person is unable to do these things, it diminishes their quality of life. It robs them of dignity.

If you need help to do these things, Its okay to ask for help. It's okay to need help. But if you can't get that help and you have to do these things by yourself -- or you just plain want to be independent and do it without help-- then don't hold yourself to standards you can't meet.

Don't let perfect be the enemy of the good. Doing something is always better than doing nothing. Even if it's not perfect. Even if it's not done well. Do what you can.

[oh-no-bummer]

What do I eat for dinner If I skipped lunch but then ate lots of snacks in the late afternoon and now I'm not hungry but I know I need to eat or else™

[clairedsfield]

"my father was a murder... i’m better than that but you fucked with my family.”

scream vi (2023)

[ruvviks]

clown face + kiss mark + see no evil + snail + fork and knife + bow and arrow + desert island + bandage + love letter [:

nathan asks!

🤡 CLOWN FACE: Are they afraid of clowns? What “silly” fears do they have?

nathan isn’t necessarily afraid of clowns, but they would make him very paranoid and on edge. he has luckily missed out on the clown mask appearances in the beacon incident, because if he had been there for that it would've definitely changed his opinion on the matter

most of nathan’s fears are actually very serious and even the smaller seemingly innocent things have a very heavy weight to them (such as getting scared when someone locks the door of the room he’s in). a lot of his irrational fears come from his paranoia and are highly unrealistic, such as ending up back in STEM somehow (though this proves to not be as unrealistic as he originally thought in my own tew4), or getting caught in a timeloop, or a giant sinkhole all the way to the core of the earth opening up right at his feet

even his "sillier" fears that really make you think how and why that could and would even happen get a lot heavier the more you think about it. sometimes he gets scared he will wake up and won't be able to speak anymore, which really isn't gonna just happen like that but considering how he was silenced for most of his life constantly it would make sense why he's so deadly afraid of it. he himself considers most of his fears silly and stupid, but his friends do take them very seriously, knowing how he's been hurt with it all in the past

💋 KISS MARK: What’s their signature look, if any? Do they have a gesture or piece of jewelry or something else that acts as a calling card for them?

the outfit i draw nathan most in, would be his in-game look for tew2! it's a dark green turtleneck sweater with chest holster, black cargo pants, and dark brown combat boots. just in general he wears a lot of practical clothing like that, also outside of STEM, just in case he needs to dive in for whatever reason or if he gets himself in a combat situation. when he's not wearing an outfit like that, he can most often be found wearing sweatpants and a nice comfortable hoodie

🙈 SEE-NO-EVIL: What’s the worst thing they’ve ever seen? Do they tend to be a bystander or do they intervene?

the worst thing nathan has seen, would be the death of his younger sister rosie. they were playing in the front yard together and nathan, who was six years old at the time, had to watch his sister the whole time because his parents were too busy with other things. nathan ended up losing her out of sight for a moment and turned around just in time to see her end up on the road and get hit by a car. his parents ended up accusing him of pushing his sister in front of the car and the driver (who had been on his phone) naturally agreed with them, which is how the rest of nathan's life happened the way it happened

nowadays, nathan is generally quick to intervene, especially when the situation involves someone he cares about. however, when a situation hits a little too close to home, he might end up freezing instead; a completely involuntary reaction, in which case he does end up being a bystander. the only other reason he may end up as a bystander is because he believes the person or people involved deserve that fate, in which case he simply watches from a safe distance

🐌 SNAIL: What’s their happy place? Do they have somewhere they can retreat to just chill out for a while?

nathan's happy place unfortunately doesn't really exist, but he does have comfort places. the main one that he's had for a long time now would be his apartment, but it's also a very isolating place and sometimes does him more harm than it brings him comfort. later on, he learns to find comfort in being with his friends, but especially being with the castellanos family makes him feel a lot more at ease; they're like the family he's never had and he loves being there to just feel part of it, even if just for one afternoon

🍴 FORK AND KNIFE: Do they have good manners? Were they taught to be that way, or are they just polite?

nathan has decent manners, though can be considered a little off-putting if you don't know him well. he was never really taught any so he had to learn from observation instead, and "polite" is a very big word to describe him; he knows his way around people enough to stay on their good side, but you won't be able to have some good small talk with him. especially when working together with people, he can be very blunt and he's not scared to criticize others' ideas and plans

🏹 BOW AND ARROW: What’s their preferred weapon, if anything?

nathan prefers stealth since he's naturally sneaky, and thus prefers a combat knife over anything else. though if it comes down to using firearms, he prefers a weapon that lets him pick his shots carefully; so a simple handgun works perfectly fine, or, his more favored option, a sniper rifle, in which case he gets the added benefit of a safe distance between himself and his enemies

🏝️ DESERT ISLAND: How would they answer the classic question about what items they would bring to a deserted island?

first of all, nathan would argue for a while about how it's pretty unrealistic to get stranded on a deserted island, especially since he doesn't really travel in the first place; if you manage to get through that, he will probably say a water bottle, handaxe, blanket, lighter (and matches as a backup), and a first aid kit

🩹 BANDAGE: What do they do when they’re sick or injured?

nathan is a terrible patient when he's sick and mostly tries to shrug it off and pretend it's not happening, so he can just go about his day. unfortunately for him being sick often comes with a massive amount of brain fog which can send him down a spiral straight into an episode very quickly if he's not careful, so he would still end up spending most of his time in bed or on the couch with all doors triple locked and a weapon or two nearby, just in case someone gets him (no one ever does)

when he's injured, he simply patches himself up. nathan has enough medical knowledge to stop the bleeding and make sure he won't die of an infection or something like that, but he would still need someone else to look at it later to fix it up properly for him. he tends to skip over this step if he's managed to hide the injury from others, because he doesn't feel like sharing it with the class. if others are aware of it, they'll make sure he gets it looked at anyway

💌 LOVE LETTER: How do they like expressing their love? Do they like to be straightforward or are they more romantic?

nathan isn't much of a romantic, but he is still very thoughtful and tries to make himself as helpful as possible for the people he cares about. he knows he can be a handful himself and often feels like he needs to make up for it in a way, so extending a hand to others and paying extra attention to the things they may need help with or need more reassurance for comes naturally to him

later on, once he's in an actual relationship, he is still very practical about it most of the time. however, by then all of the events of my own tew3 and tew4 are over, which means he slowly but surely gets more comfortable and with that loosens up too. he's still not one for a romantic walk on the beach, but will pick ruben up from the lab and drive him home, or they have dinner at some diner somewhere or go in town to run some errands real quick before the shops close; it sounds very mundane, but the both of them need it very bad to be able to feel like they CAN live a normal life, despite everything that's happened to (and because) of them

[swinging-stars-from-satellites]

having a fricking weird day at work in that I've had to call my boss twice for clarification on technical issues people were having, had to redo a transaction twice because the computer system wasn't updating, and had one of my more troubled youth group kids come in to talk while I was trying to troubleshoot all of this, but at least it hasn't been totally dead in here so I haven't been bored?

[sataninsparkles]

I don't understand why people seem to dislike "Girl Dinner" and "Girl Math" so much.

Like, it's not about girls being unable to take care of themselves or make smart financial decisions. Girl Math is literally just about how under the capitalism small purchases that add up to a large number don't feel as expensive as one large purchase. It's the same phenomenon as being willing to pay $10 for a product but not $8 + $2 shipping. Or spending cash feeling different from spending on a credit card.

Or like why a bunch of people just started talking about how being a bimbo is just quirky sexism.

Yes, women can achieve great things, and they can be smart. We all support women's rights. But we gotta support women's wrongs as well.

After being told that you have to be smart and strong and do everything a man can do or you're a bad feminist and you're setting the movement back fifty years, the ability to just be dumb and carefree feels like taking off a bra.

Yes, women can be smart. But they can be dumb too. We can be weak and dumb and that doesn't make us "bad feminists" or "quirky sexists". It makes us human. And shaming women for their freedom to enjoy their life however they want is counterproductive. Men get to be as dumb as they want without shame, so why is it that when women are the ones who are dumb, you get offended and try to shame them into acting the way you want them to?

We can't have equality until you guys stop shaming women for every little thing they do. We can't have equality if we don't support women's wrongs.