#I curate my own fandom experience like an adult

[zeroducks-2]

"Why are ships so policed, why isn't fandom allowed to be fun anymore 😢🙄😞" says the person with DNI IF YOU SHIP INCEST AND PEDOPHILIA!! in their bio.

[solxamber]

𝐑𝐞𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞𝐬

જ⁀➴ Status of writing requests: Closed

જ⁀➴ Please read my event rules/rules before requesting.

જ⁀➴ If it's something I'm not comfortable with, I'll not write for it.

જ⁀➴ I usually write gender neutral reader. So please specify if you'd like a particular gender. I might still end up making it gn if it doesn't have relevance to the plot.

જ⁀➴ If the reader is gendered, I'll make sure it's known somehow. I'll either tag it or mention it in the summary.

જ⁀➴ There are no character limits for requests. But make sure to specify if you want them separately or together.

જ⁀➴ I don't write explicit content. The most I can do is suggestive. (This might change in the future)

જ⁀➴ Please don't send me requests when I've closed requests, I'll delete them.

જ⁀➴ Please don't send the same request over and over within a short timespan, if you've sent it in when requests are open, I'll probably write for it, but it'll take a while.

જ⁀➴ I usually answer asks/chats/dms pretty quickly but I'm a college student doing a double major so please be patient with me.

જ⁀➴ I do take emergency requests. You'll need to specify that it's an emergency request at the start. I'll write for only one character. I'd prefer it if it was off anon so that I can send it to you privately but anon is fine too. Expect a 3-5 day wait for emergency requests, but I'll try to expedite them.

જ⁀➴ If you want a character from a fandom I haven't written for, you can ask if I know that character! I might not do your request if I don't know the character.

જ⁀➴ I won't write for real people. Characters played by real people? Sure. But absolutely no rpf.

𝐁𝐥𝐨𝐠 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞𝐬

જ⁀➴ If you're homophobic, transphobic, racist or a zionist, you're not welcome here. I'll block you if you're any of these. I'll block you if you sympathize with anyone who shares those views.

જ⁀➴ Please curate your own experience, I'm not responsible for you seeing something you don't like on here. Everything I post will be appropriately tagged so if something makes you uncomfortable, PLEASE block the tag or block me.

જ⁀➴ Please remember that I'm an adult. My fics are not explicit but I might reblog some that are.

જ⁀➴ Also please remember that I'm doing this for fun, I'm a student first so there might be times where I take breaks or don't post for a while.

જ⁀➴ I like chatting and I don’t mind dms but I do usually take a little while to respond. You can also ask if you wanna be mutuals!

જ⁀➴ Do not post my work on other sites.

જ⁀➴ Do not translate my work without asking first.

જ⁀➴ Do not use my work to train AI. I hate gen AI, it's a plague.

જ⁀➴ Please don't use my ideas / characters for c.ai. I do not support gen AI.

[damnfandomproblems]

"People keep calling minors puritans" anon who got banned from their discord server: You are being handed every goddamn tool to curate your experience and refusing them. You're not being pushed out, you're forcing your own preferences on others and experiencing the consequences of that.

I've modded a large discord server for years. We have a gacha channel. I have a microtransactions problem. You know what I do? I mute the gacha channel, often turn on hide muted channels, and I have never once been in that channel. The other mods handle anything that pops up there.

"What if they talk bad about me where I can't see" is a ridiculous justification for banning a NSFW channel. They can also do that in DMs, but I hope you don't get angry about them DMing each other. You have to trust your friends to not be stabbing you in the back, and if you can't trust them, you need either better friends or therapy. Or both. (I don't say that as an insult at all, I know some people do and that's disgusting. I'm in therapy. It fucking rules. More people should be in therapy.)

It's perfectly valid to not want to have NSFW in a server you created, and I'm sorry that you got banned without warning. It sounds like things were handled badly all around, and we definitely don't have enough information to say you were in the right or the wrong. But you cannot simply expect other people to not ever engage with NSFW in any space you could possibly see. You are being given the tools to avoid seeing it. It is your responsibility to use them.

And to say "adults shouldn't be allowed in fandom spaces because they push minors out"? Not only are you generalizing a TON, that statement is downright CRUEL. I shouldn't be allowed to engage with and talk about the things I like just because I'm 25 instead of 17? When I'm basically the same person as I was then? Fandom has been a huge part of my life for over a decade. And you think I shouldn't be ALLOWED to be a part of it because some adults wouldn't take you refusing to respect your own boundaries by staying out of clearly marked NSFW spaces. That makes me angry and it makes me feel incredibly hurt. I'm just here enjoying the things I love. And you say I shouldn't be allowed to, when I don't even know who you are, and you don't even know who I am.

I know you're a kid, and that's not your fault. I remember being a kid. But I hope you learn to realize that you are responsible for your own experience. You can't expect every single person in the world to cater to you. The majority of us do want you, and everyone, to be comfortable in fandom. That's why we tag and why we clearly mark NSFW content, so people can block what they need to. Hell, I'll block anyone I see whose DNI I violate so I don't cross a boundary by accident. (And also because I don't want to interact with someone who doesn't want to interact with me.) But we have just as much of a right to be comfortable in fandom spaces as you do. We all need to create our own boundaries rather than expect others to remove everything we don't like.

If you don't like seeing filtered terms on your dash... unfollow the people who post them. If you don't want to see NSFW in discord, mute NSFW channels. It is your responsibility to do these things.

You have been given so many tools to curate your own experience. I promise you and everyone around you will be happier if you learn to use them.

Oh, my ask is about 5796.

Posting as a response to a previous problem.

[mochiwrites]

Idk if anyone has ask this but what are your boundaries?

mmmmmm okay. so. here’s the thing

I understand you’ve probably asked this question with good intentions. I’m also going to assume that you’ve come from twitter because that place is Insane when it comes to boundaries

anon, I am gently taking your hand and looking at you, and in the kindest way possible: you do not need to know my boundaries. I’m an adult who can curate my own internet experience. besides, I’m not a content creator, I’m a fanfic writer. I have no need to publicly state my boundaries

this whole culture of people asking about boundaries ruins the point of fandom spaces. fandom spaces are meant for us, the fans. as long as we’re not forcing our creations upon cc’s what does it matter what we do?

it doesn’t matter what my boundaries are because I’m the only one who needs to worry about them.

and I’m not saying any of this to be rude or anything like, either. it’s just, the sooner you realize that it’s not your job to ask or even enforce boundaries (generally speaking here), the much better your internet space becomes. the only one you should be focusing on is you and your own boundaries

[herschelkrustofsky]

HEY, HEY LGBT+ SIMPSONS FANS!! your local clown has created an INCLUSIVE, 18+ DISCORD SERVER to give us a safe space where we can discuss the characters and show, joke around, share fanart and fanfiction, and more!

🍩 server highlights include:

the ability to connect with other gay, lesbian, bi & trans fans of simpsons, including artists, writers, and casual fans; being able to share your creations without relying on likes, reblogs, or any sort of algorithm.

sharing ideas and headcanons & potentially collaborating with each other if the inspiration strikes!

movie nights, voice calls, & game nights!

a casual / friendly vibe in general; anyone can pop in and out of the chat as they please. there’s no such thing as too much or little talking, so long as we all respect each other!

🍩 as far as ground rules go...

the server is for ADULTS ONLY as a precaution, as i have seen too many things go wrong in all-ages servers and do not want to take any chances. this is not equivalent to sharing excessive amounts of nsfw, nor for people to be weird or overstep others’ boundaries.

no gross stuff, meaning fetishized/romanticized incest, rape, pedophilia, etc. proshippers will not be welcome here, ever. racist, ableist, homophobic, transphobic, or otherwise bigoted behaviour will also result in a permanent ban.

i feel the need to emphasize that this is not a server geared towards cishet people. this is not something that is going to change any time soon.

due to past experiences within fandom, i am cautious about who i allow into my curated spaces. please do not take this personally. it has nothing to do with you & everything to do with wanting to ensure that everyone is kept safe & my own personal boundaries.

be nice to everyone in the server. don’t demean people or talk over them. please read additional rules carefully upon entering. that’s about it!

    LIKE OR REBLOG IF YOU ARE INTERESTED IN JOINING & I WILL (POTENTIALLY) SEND AN INVITE YOUR WAY!!! 💛💛💛

[saintsenara]

I really like Snape as a character. I made the mistake of mentioning that online. Someone asked me how I like a character is inexcusably mean to children when he is a position of authority around them and how he is petty, can be cruel and harsh teacher and his lack of patience towards Nerville and basically a list of all the mean/horrible stuff that he has said/done. What do you say when people ask you how you can reconcile liking such a character given all of cruel and hurtful things that he has said and done both towards his students and joined willingly a known blood supremacist terrorist group and said known slur towards his friend that is a member of a minority group? I find Snape to be a deeply compelling and flawed and complex character- that's why I enjoy seeking out Snape centric fics.

thank you very much for the ask, anon, and i'm sorry that people have popped off about you liking snape. it's an extremely tedious way for them to behave, since these people are fictional.

i must be honest, i don't really get asked to justify my fondness for the baddies - partially because i curate my fandom space in order to avoid it and partially because i must give the impression of not caring - but i've never found it particularly difficult to reconcile the fact that all my favourite characters are mass-murderers with the fact that i myself am not one...

the first - and frankly the most important - way that i do this is because i understand what genre conventions are.

it seems to me that this is the thing that really is the most lacking in the discourse surrounding the 'bad' characters in the harry potter series, with snape chief among them, but it’s absolutely crucial to understand:

snape is a mean teacher because harry potter is for children, and children do not want to read about sweet or competent adults.

[this is also the reason why the dursleys are horrible, or why hogwarts is such a dangerous and poorly-run school. if the series contained the line, a troll did not get into the dungeon and so harry did his homework, then any child worth their salt would be hurling the book into a fire.]

it must be remembered that child readers - for whom the text is primarily intended - will have a different response to the tropes and themes of the series than adults returning to it with their own experiences, and that adults' responses to the books are not responses that the books were written to provoke. this doesn't mean that adults' reactions are unreasonable - nor does it mean that adults shouldn't engage with harry potter, as my 300k words on ao3 attests - it simply means that it is not a flaw of the series that snape's behaviour is not addressed in the way that adults would like it to be. it's just genre.

because children tend to see the things in the series which horrify us as adults as considerably less frightening or problematic than we do ourselves. indeed, they often see interactions which we read as abusive, or as evidence of systematic cruelty, as simply unfair, and they are looking for retribution not in terms of legal punishment or wide-ranging institutional change, but in the character who is behaving unfairly getting their comeuppance, often in a comic way.

this is because fairness-unfairness is one of the primary ways in which children understand justice. as adults, we think with more nuance - but that doesn’t mean that our response to the text is better. in fact, we have a responsibility to understand the series’ genre conventions when we approach characters in our own writing - if you want to make snape a violent abuser, you actually need to understand all the ways in which the series shows him not to be those things.

snape’s relationship with his classes is written in a way which provokes the response in children that he is unfair, but not one which provokes the response that he is frightening - indeed, the story generally treats his "cruelty" as comic, at least until half-blood prince, and he often gets an embarrassing comeuppance when he tries to be sincerely malicious. [i.e. literally everything which happens to him in prisoner of azkaban.]

he is unfair, because he doesn’t tell malfoy off for misbehaving. he is unfair, because he doesn’t give hermione a chance to answer questions. he is unfair, because he is rude to harry [who, like any good child hero worth his salt, has no respect for snape and isn’t intimidated by him]. he is unfair, because he gives horrible detentions.

but no child character in the story ever seriously believes his behaviour to go beyond this - including neville.

neville’s fear of snape is caused by snape being unfair towards him - and, since neville is a character the text likes, snape therefore frequently gets his comeuppance for this unfairness. the incident where he threatens to poison trevor is horrible to read as an adult, but as a child the outcome - snape is foiled in his plan because of neville and hermione - is understood as triumphant. snape - an adult - is constantly outfoxed by his pupils - who are not adults - and children love to see that.

[similarly, it really should be emphasised that the text treats neville’s fear of snape as ridiculous. lupin laughs in his face about it in prisoner of azkaban, and neville himself admits that it’s silly and irrational. it cannot be seriously suggested - although i've seen plenty of people try - that snape is his boggart instead of bellatrix because snape sincerely frightens him more. he fears snape more than bellatrix because his narrative purpose in the first four books is to be comic relief - he’s a bit cowardly and a bit useless, and he provides a character for the child reader to feel braver and cleverer than.]

obviously, these incidents read very differently to adults - especially if you are an adult who has, knows, or works with small children. but if somebody complains to you about your favourite characters because they're upset by children’s literature without thinking about how it’s intended to be read by its primary audience... that’s not your problem.

but even beyond genre, i feel comfortable liking "bad" characters because i understand human complexity.

online, it is increasingly becoming a dogma that our attitudes are fixed and unchangeable. i feel incredibly sorry for young people nowadays, who often have to live in a state of hypervigilance in order to make sure that they never do or say anything cruel or ignorant. this must be miserable, because flawlessness is unattainable - not only for real people but for fictional ones as well.

the fannish desire to write someone like snape off as bad and unchangeable - alongside the accompanying tendency to minimise the human flaws of characters such as james and sirius - comes from the fact that snape, like many antagonists, holds up a mirror to us as the reader. and we may not like what we see.

snape’s life demonstrates that it’s very easy to be radicalised into joining a terror group - particularly for people who have experienced things like poverty, being othered, or being bullied. it forces us to recognise that people who end up involved in evil did not come into it fully formed - they started somewhere, and they often ended up where they did because of failures in societies and their institutions which we ignore because they benefit us. after all, hogwarts does nothing to prevent voldemort recruiting death eaters among its pupils, hogwarts does nothing to dismantle the oppressive class system on which the wizarding world runs - the school is the archetypal ivory tower, and the ministry is no better.

snape’s life demonstrates that it's very easy for people who are victims in some areas of their lives to be perpetrators in others. trauma is often not sympathetic and perfect victimhood does not exist. having experienced trauma means you have experienced trauma - it can still make you act like a cunt.

and snape’s life also demonstrates that it’s very easy to - without entirely intending to - do something absolutely terrible, and this is something which we should always be compassionate towards. because it’s going to happen to all of us - and, actually, our terrible deed could easily be something as significant as snape’s report of the prophecy. if you drive, for example, it takes one momentary distraction for you to kill someone. what are you going to do if the person you kill is your childhood best friend, whom you love?

well… you’re going to try to redeem yourself. and, like snape, you will learn that redemption is messy and often strange, and that people can show growth in some areas and lack it in others.

and the redemption point is important - the idea that snape is redeemed by the end of the canon text is something which lots of fans push back against. but it’s crucial to note two things:

the first is that one’s own capacity for forgiveness and the potential of forgiveness as a concept are not the same thing. you might never have been able to forgive snape if you were lily or harry or dumbledore, but that says nothing about whether anyone else can or should. the second is that forgiveness and redemption are not inextricably linked. one can redeem oneself without being forgiven.

my view is that approaching bad characters with nuance is actively beneficial for us, and that having a "problematic fave" is a good thing when it comes to our self-growth in the real world. if we believe ourselves to be immune to the sort of radicalising forces which would lead a person to other their best friend to the extent that they call her a slur, we will be easy to radicalise. if we believe ourselves to be incapable of making a dangerous mistake, we will be more likely to miss the clues that we’re about to. if we do not believe in the possibility of redemption for all, then we are going to have a very hard time when we do something bad, since we therefore have to believe in redemption for none.

thinking critically about oneself - both in relation to the media one enjoys and in general - is a protective act. learning to identify commonalities with bad people protects you. learning to recognise that you’re not always going to be good or right protects you. learning to accept that you’ll fuck up protects you. learning to be remorseful protects you. learning to forgive protects you. learning that the limits of your personal capacity to forgive is not the same as the potential of forgiveness protects you.

unsympathetic literary characters show us how to approach unsympathetic people in real life. snape is a brilliant example of what can be caused by failing to see the whole person - voldemort is evidently the only person who offers him a life-line, where dumbledore and the "good guys" in wizarding society do not. this is a lesson to us all - if we flatten people into good-and-therefore-worthy-of-help and bad-and-therefore-not, it’s a recipe for disaster...

but this is all very pretentious and philosophical. the main reason why i have no qualms about enjoying "bad" characters is because i’m not a cop.

the summary of the last point is - basically - that readers need to learn how to sit with discomfort in media, because discomfort within a fictional context is completely safe, and therefore it provides an outlet for people to think about themes or characters which are darker in a way which cannot cause actual harm.

fiction is not real life and fictional characters cannot harm you - and this is the case even if the fiction is about something which would or did materially harm you if it happened in real life. [this is doubly the case in harry potter because the harms upon which the series focuses are themselves fictional - the series’ blood-supremacy obviously reflects real-world examples of discrimination, but it is not something which any real person has actually experienced.]

this means that a reader’s reaction to something in fiction is always on them. authors have no responsibility to anticipate every single reader’s response to their writing - encountering something that upsets you in a fictional setting is your responsibility to deal with. [even if the author’s not tagged properly.]

snape may upset a reader for various reasons, some of which may be related to experiences of real world discrimination, but his existence cannot cause actual harm to any living person, because he and the society in which he lives are not real.

fictional crimes are not real crimes, and so, if someone tries to say that you shouldn’t enjoy reading about him because they don’t like it… they are a cop and you should have no respect for them. acab applies to the thought police too.

and knowing this gives us a powerful tool… i have no qualms about being criticised for liking bad characters because i just say acab and go on with my day.

just as you can’t cause anyone else material harm in your consumption of fiction, nor can anyone else cause you material harm just by criticising your choices - obviously, if they’re attempting to doxx you, or to cause any real-world repercussions because of your fanfiction tastes, that’s another matter - which means that you have the power to choose to be unbothered by unjustified criticism. it’s not even that hard! simply refuse to be upset!

curate your fandom experience without shame. post what you like. block and move on. filter assiduously. scroll past without engaging. don’t waste your time getting into fights. don’t answer comments which are rude. don’t feed trolls. delete messages. this is just harry potter!

and also be compassionate towards the fact that people don’t express themselves perfectly. if you are primed not to immediately get upset or consider yourself to be under attack, you will be able to read comments with more clarity, to look and see if you can find commonalities, and to answer them in a way which doesn’t escalate the situation.

[and always remember that a lot of the angriest and most righteous comments come from teenagers, and being a teenager is hell. be compassionate, as your fandom elders had compassion for you.]

[twst-hottest-takes]

I'm responding to that one teenage Anon, as someone who's about to become one of those "30 year old hags" myself by the end of the year.

Anon, I hate to break it to you, but 30 isn't that old. While that's not exactly a spring chicken age, that's still fairly young all things considered. What do you expect women that age to do? Give up all of their hobbies to go clean the kitchen and do taxes? No, they are gonna have hobbies and interests just like you. You are gonna be that age one day. The day you turn 30 is gonna creep up on you A LOT sooner than you think. I doubt you are just gonna drop your interest in video games and anime at that age, so quit expecting other 30 year olds to.

The target audience in Japan is "working age women" and college students, not high schoolers or middle schoolers. That's why they sell furniture, silver rings with precious gems and expensive high heels based on TWST over there, because the target audience would have adult jobs and will be able to afford it. The only reason why that isn't the case in the west is because Disney 4Kids-afied the game and dumbed it down to make it younger. The JP version was meant for that former demographic, so you are the odd one out if you are talking about the original game, not the people you claim.

I totally agree with you about the debate about fem!Yuus being stupid, but I don't think it's as prevalent of a problem as you believe. I've been here since the game came out in Japan, and I hardly ever came across these people. Most people are either indifferent or fine with either. I think it's just the Twitter or TikTok algorithm feeding you that content because you constantly interact with it. If you don't want to see it, then don't interact with that side of the fandom on your actual accounts. It's as simple as that. You have to curate your own fandom experience. That's just how this works.

Adding to the previous point, while I want to see more official female Yuus or even a female one shot villain, the reality is that TWST is a Joseimuke (female-targeted media). The JP audience tend to want to see pretty men over women in those, because of a variety of cultural reasons that will be too long to get into. I don't agree with it. But, it is what it is. They might be leaning into making them more male because of the target demographic. However, if you want to see more fem!Yuu content, there are plenty of fics featuring that on AO3, Wattpad and other sites that you can check out.

What do you have against BL fans? Lots of people who enjoy that content are LGBT themselves or suspect they might be. They are backbone of fandom. Again, you curate your own experience. Don't like it, don't interact with it.

Anon, while I might sound harsh, I'm saying this because I want to give you some advice about this as someone who has been in fandoms since I was in middle school. I honestly believe that if you curate your experience and focus on the parts of the fandom you enjoy, you will have a lot better time. This doesn't go for just TWST, but every fandom out there. Anyways, I hope you will find your people in this fandom one day, kiddo.

Thank you for answering the previous anon in a level-headed and mature fashion.

I would not have been so kind, which is why I mostly kept my fingers off the keyboard (ha). As a former teenaged fandom person, this is the type of thing that can be grown out of. So while pushback is appropriate, a less aggrivated take is definitely appreciated.

NOW FOR A SLIGHTLY MORE AGGRIVATED ADDITION!

I'll add that the ageist nonsense in that poor anon's post is going to be really embarassing when they turn 18-20 years old and are suddenly expected to apologize for ever having a crush on a teenaged fictional character. Furthermore, I think most of the people who are anti-female Yuu and Ocs, probably skew towards the younger side of the fandom. . . but I can't technically prove that.

Thank you for your addition!

[sister-lucifer]

You're so fucking hypocritical, imagine not letting people who ship anime sisters on your blog, but write about woundfucking. Lmaaaoooo

siiiigh this again ok

so 1. you know a dni isn’t personal right? people put things on their dni for a lot of reasons. plenty of people have “nsfw blogs dni” or “[x fandom] blogs dni” on their page. it’s not me telling you to kill yourself, it’s me saying “i’m not comfortable seeing or engaging with that content and i don’t want people who make it following me.” if someone has “antis dni” in their bio i block and move on because that’s exactly what they wanted. my blog is my space, just like your blog is YOUR space, and we’re both allowed to curate our own blogs however we want. tis the joy of the internet. i don’t wanna see people talking about wanting to fuck children, even if they’re fictional, so i take steps to make sure i don’t. you will NEVER find me in someone’s inbox yelling at them like this. block. and. move. on.

and 2. i’ve said this before so i’ll say it again: people are allowed to create whatever they want. i’ll literally never try to stop people from making things

HOWEVER

i do believe we as creators have a responsibility to make sure we are not causing harm with our content. my issue is not with what people make, but it is instead the way that proship creators will often showcase abusive and harmful dynamics as cutesy normal fun with no attempt to warn people who may be triggered or negatively influenced by that content (i.e. if you draw adult x child ship art and just put it out there for anyone to see, and an actual child comes across it and it normalizes the idea in the child’s head, that is on you.). the extra issue is that this sort of content is super prevalent in fandoms of children’s shows, which is a problem for obvious reasons; children are exponentially more likely to come across it. all of my works are tagged IMMENSELY to make sure no one comes across it who isn’t looking for it

if you want my full views on the matter, you can reference the links in THIS POST plus a bit of expansion HERE

but mostly, i want to emphasize my first point;

anyone is allowed to put whatever they want on their DNI bc it is YOUR responsibility to curate your own online experience. literally that is all i am doing.

[himbosuplex]

i've basically hit a point where if i see "proship DNI" in someone's bio i just won't follow or interact with them.

it's not even because i'm a "proshipper." (this is a word that basically means nothing anymore.) it's because i'm a grown ass adult who has more important problems to worry about than how someone is dealing with their paraphilias or trauma via fiction. seeing "proship DNI" doesn't so much indicate anything beyond 'i refuse to curate my own spaces' and 'i am a child who cannot do nuance and just smacks generalizations onto anyone whose opinions and lived experience do not 100% match my own.' i don't meant to disrespect anyone, but this is genuinely how this looks to anyone outside of fandom discourse. it's impossible to take seriously, and it's impossible to talk about because people immediate jump to such wild bad faith conclusions that it makes it even more impossible to talk about things that actually matter. like real child abuse. real domestic abuse. that happens to actual, real living breathing people.

live your life, but i am 30 or 40 years old and I do not need this. i learned a long time ago that it's far better to take the initiative and curate my own spaces the best i can than expect other people to do it for me.

i hate to bring this topic up again but so long as people like, 15 years younger than me keep trying to drag my shit into it I guess I have to. i am an adult. i am trans. i am a sexual assault survivor, a childhood abuse survivor, i have trauma, i go to therapy, i can't pay my bills. i don't need this. i've been on tumblr since some of you were like 6 years old.

[castlebyersafterdark]

The spicy byler movement is about eroticism, sensuality, and intimate connection. Why do you think there people out there who find it crass, inappropriate or deviant?

I remember reading Angels and Demons by Dan Brown when I was 15. This was years before he became an eye roll-inducing household name, and I became obsessed with the religious mystery and the classical art. I specifically remember a line about the main character, a professor, appraising the marble Ecstasy of St Theresa by Bernini. He appreciated the artistry but also chuckled to himself that it was basically 'a metaphor for some serious sex'. I was 15 and enthralled.

I cannot understand the backlash against sex today, even forbidden or taboo sex, or underage sex. When I was younger, the forbidden in fiction was more exciting than what was right or allowed. If I was 15 and watching Stranger Things, I would be quaking for Mike and Will to get it on. The idea of calling myself or a fictional character a 'minor' was laughable and insulting - that's a word for young children who need accompaniment by adults to go on theme park ride or see movies.

Not linking to the poll but seek it out if you must - I choose not to engage with these kind of things and avoid the "main" fandom if I can in terms of controversy. My blog isn't hidden or unsearchable, but I use my own tagging system beyond "spicy Byler" so those who want to engage with me if they choose to can find me that way, or just leave me alone or block if needed. Staying in my lane, hoping we can all be respectful. I need that. And I wish people who don't like this sort of content... just stopped engaging or talking about it? Polls like that just brew animosity. Asking for trouble.

Curate your internet experience. If you deem yourself old enough to use the same internet adults are on, you have to mentally be mature enough to handle being exposed to adult concepts and look away, scroll away, filter where you can, be prepared. I think the internet is an 18+ experience and maybe you all disagree because we are living in the digital age but it's public. The public internet forum does not need to cater to minors. This is reality. Be courteous and kind to each other, but children do not get to march over every single corner of the internet and cry and make demands. This is part of growing up. I was a teenager and made my own way and NEVER saw this kind of entitled / repressed shit and it wasn't so long ago. The last few years have been disgusting for society's progress. Countless reasons why, but that's a huge topic.

It's tough for me since I'm anti-censorship and fight back against a society that often considers my mere existence deviant and gross and sick - just for the sake of men loving other men at the purest form, before anything sexual is even a part of it. So when that's the reality, it's almost quaint to consider the sensibilities of teenagers logging onto a public blogging website who relentlessly harass people and complain that "ew gay sex is icky and minors having sex is forbidden and gross and young gay guys doing sexual things together is vile and the mere insinuation makes me uncomfortable so no one should even imply it" when they decide to engage with a "ship" in a TV show based upon gay love and queer themes and SEXuality and is about conservatism and being different from society and where these characters literally fear being killed for loving the same sex and these fans only want the sanitized cute aspects!! Teenagers should only hold hands and chastely peck and sex is disgusting and and and" IT'S HOMOPHOBIA AND BIGOTRY, ACTUALLY. THAT'S ALL. Gosh. Sorry.

It's immaturity and a lack of socialization outside the echo chambers on the internet and a fear of community and a coddling of human interaction and puritanism and conservatism and an incorrect backlash to the heteronormative "sex positive" culture of recent times which was aligned more with power and control than human freedom and expression. PEOPLE HAVE SEX, PEOPLE FUCK, PEOPLE ARE ATTRACTED TO OTHER HUMANS AND IT'S NATURAL AND NORMAL AND NOT GROSS. Teenagers do all of this!! It's healthy and normal to talk about it and explore things in FICTION!!! Sorry I'm not being more articulate but this topic makes me tired and upset.

Who the fuck do people think are writing the TV shows and books and movies out here?? Adults. We're all interested in telling human stories and exploring human emotions and sexuality and human emotions and sex is a big part of life for the majority of people on this planet and guess what - teenagers grow up into adults and it's such an important part of life, of course we all want to explore that. We are denying real aspects of humanity if we sanitize life.

Who says it's wrong? Your church? Your politicians? Your parents? Your other teenager friends? Well, why is that? Why are you not questioning everything as is the teenage way? Some really bleak things happened. Individuals on the internet do not get to dictate what other people do and enjoy. DEFUND THE THOUGHT POLICE.

People - please unlearn shame. You are ashamed of something within yourself because society taught you shame. That's not on adults like me to coddle or teach, but I'm here to live authentically and be honest and hope the best for everyone drug down by the unfortunate world we live in. Sorry, it's a tough world. But if you're "mature" enough to come to public sites like this and engage with others - there are going to be people you encounter who are not trapped in society's boxes anymore. Wake up!!!

[rose022]

hi~ im rose! (among other names lol, ask for them or find them) welcome to my intro!

- dont feel bad about blocking or unfollowing me, just wanna say this. i may make posts abt being confused when i see people leave but curate ur own experience, be happy

- you can call me whatever you want idc, just lemme know. like genuinely any nickname. i do have others tbh but ehh

- yeah yeah im an adult so dont block me if i like ur post and u say mdni ight? also for any minors if that makes u uncomfortable u can leave. if i post some here, its likely jokes in some form. both nsfw and suggestive are tagged just like that

- pronouns are whatever is funniest in the moment. or just use your own. neos are ok

- asks and dms always open for anything. i won't really reach out first but i promise you can always talk to me about anything. if you don't have anyone else or just want to talk about a particular thing or want to vent, etc. like genuinely pretty please talk to me about your interests i will gladly listen!!! <3

- also you can always tag me in anything!! i love tag games (i may take a bit) and if theres anything you think id like or reminds you of me id love to see it!!

- don't really have a dni but like i will block you if you're a bigot. im a fag and autistic if you don't like that go away idc. also if you are pro cop or military stuff fuck off

- i post about whatever i want all the time. you may follow for one thing, but there is no consistency here other than what i like. i have too many things i like

- i am not mentally well. there will be vent posts that are on main sometimes. i tend to post them on my vent if theyre particularly bad but there will be some here. you never have to reply, i will be okay eventually.

- if we're mutuals please tag stuff with cw rose for anything with touya or akito being shipped with anyone else or TBHK nene and tsukasa as a ship, self harm images, stuff about spiders (or any bugs kinda) mostly pictures of them or them on someone (bees moths and butterflies exempt), needles if theyre detailed not cartoony, real life gore of animals or humans (not sfx or art just real stuff), sa, stuff about veins, and please use tone tags but mostly just for joking or sarcasm as i tend to assume everything is serious.

- MUTUALS PLEASE TELL ME STUFF TO TAG FOR YOU!!! i do my best to read carrds and intros and stuff but i might forget please remind me please. gore and sexual stuff will get tagged as gore and nsfw but it's mostly explicit stuff. things are tagged as what it is, not with cw or tw.

- !!current things i tag are homestuck, eye strain, saiouma, bsd, religion (marlo dont look), elie shoo (csm saiouma gore), suggestive (anything relating to anything nsfw like jokes or anything else), adrien no look (alcohol, crickets, girl interrupted, hospital innuendos clowns, child death, natural disasters), deco 27, emetophobia

- tags

#rose rambles - my posts

#rose tagged ramblings - i made a separate one for when i talk a lot in tags

#rose art - quite simply rose's art

#rose ocs - the sillies from my brain

#ask rose! - asks

#rose pics - look i don't get creative with naming these i think you can tell

#rose cosplay - ^^^ yeah

#helpful - things that could be helpful to anyone

#save - similar to above but more so personal things

#important - maybe not technically helpful but i think people should see

#favs - self explanatory, i believe

#sillies - similar to above but not really

#luv - mutual appreciation mostly

#heart! - things made by mutuals!

#liebe - things made for me!

#mecore - woah thats so me frfr

#rose writing - idk man take a guess

#für das rose - submissions aka post limit

#favfavs - fav art or fandom things

#wm - reminds me of ocs

(i wanna like fix all my posts to have tags but i reblog so much and itll take me a million years to get back to the start of my account atp. maybe one day.)

- commission info

art:

writing: $2 per 100 words (?)

i also take requests for these!! or other stuff but like it will almost definitely take me a bajillion years to finish so if you wanna make sure i do something, gimme money. but u dont gotta its ok ily anyways

i have a k-fi rose226 and dm for p-ypal

- sideblogs

@nightcord-luka-official

@luka-spotted most active

@daily-akiyama-mizuki hiatus!

@daily-asahina-mafuyu hiatus!

@kokomi-sangonomiya-official

@mafuyu-asahina-official

@wansho-luka-official

@junior-high-enanan-official

@fischl-official

@rosemusictime lol no followers

@oz-the-bird-official (to translate my Fischl)

@ako-udagawa-official this and above in progress (there will be no progress i died)

@daily-purple-character send reqs

@rose-poll-account

@aoi-shirosaki-official pjsk oc rp blog

@hikari-itsuki-official ^

@yuki-jigoku-official ^

@kei-makura-official ^

@roseswonderland things i make

@yuki-spotted

@niigo-va-updates

@engelgram oc gram, to hold the name

(i may remove u as a follower depending on if i trust you enough for these next few but if we're mutuals ur pretty much safe)

@moonlit-thoughts22 vent

@selfless-lvr selfship/kin

@softrosebud agere

@shhh-its-rose moots only ig. random idk

@eros-engel fuck it. nsfw blog.

(guys i think I have too many sideblogs help)

im not active on many other social media but if we're mutuals you can ask for like anything and ill probably have an account. somehow im most active here tho (and in one discord server but u guys cant join)

[ruelin024]

What does the neutral mean?

Heyo Anon, this is not specifically targeted at you, okie╰(*°▽°*)╯

I will answer you and others for this post. 👌

[Neutral shipper: Typically refers to someone who does not want to participate in proship versus antiship discourse. Can be considered 'proship' by default to some.]

Quoted off from This Carrd -> SHIPPING GLOSSARY

Now, this is for all the other anonymous in my inbox that keep asking me "what I am", "who I am part of", and "why I call myself Neutral."

I deleted those asks since; I will be answering y'all questions here.

First off, it felt funny/weird being asked "What am I?" Like lmao. I'm just Rue/Ruth, I draw :3 I like Undertale, I'm tryna learn how to socialize better and improve my art, so wassup.✨o(*^▽^*)┛

This post is meant for those who are open-minded and respectful plz and thank you. (^^ゞ)

Long Wordy Personal Post Below

(CW/TW regarding ships, I curse a bit sorry)

None of this is meant to offend nor dismiss anyone’s opinion, experiences, or feelings. Understand, this is just my rambling and thoughts. I'm also not calling out anyone! AND PLZ do not harass anyone from the links.

Some of my quick research:

-> SHIPPING GLOSSARY -> so what does ‘ship-neutral’ actually mean? -> 👑yorse backyorse friends the backyorsigans🐝 — Sad how "proship is the neutral side" is kind of... -> Proship, at it's very core, is a combination of four general principles-- -> Proship is, at the very core, very simple! -> Curating your online and fandom experience includes: -> They have links about "Fiction and Reality" -> Other short discussion on Proship

I am usually not one for drama or negative vibes, but it would be nice if I can stop getting asks pertaining to proshipping and anti-shippers.

And the fact I'm okay and Welcoming to ALL is really because I am Neutral, my personal thought process has always been, "I do not wish to bother nor be bothered."

I am told/warned by very close peers, I am quite desensitized or apathetic to things, but it's due to some personal trauma I will not discuss publicly for my safety. It's one of the reasons I don't care to bother with troublesome things. Dw I'm working on it and healing.

This means "this" will be the first and only big important post I make regarding this topic.

And if I happen to be a bother, plz tell me or do block, and unfollow me okay, for your sake. ╯︿╰

I do not have a dni for many reasons. Though the main bare minimum I shouldn't even ask of anyone is to just be nice, respectful, kind and open-minded. I will not tolerate harassment, insults, or threats around me or for those around me.

Anyway, the Proshipper and Antishipper community arguments are bothersome but is quite an entertaining read.

We all have our own opinions, thoughts, view etc, if you actually don't like something, then just stay far far away from what you find/consider problematic. And you'll see life is so much calmer.

I for one am living as satisfied as I can.

I am a simple person. I just like art and doing/making what I like such as exploring Undertale content, creating fanart for friends, conversing about OCs and AUs, participating in DTIYS, all that fun exciting stuff! I get to know others; I get to draw more and improve on myself! Win-win! ♪(^∇^*)

Tumblr is my first ever social media when I turned 18, literally 2023, last year. I anxiously decided when I became an adult, I can finally do instagram, discord, tumblr, etc, to share my art because I am usually a nervous wreck both irl & online.

Yeah, internet still paranoids me, but I'm getting though it cause school requires me to. *sigh*

(Uh. to my friends, reading this, that I've bothered multiple times to help me use sites and my phone/computer, 😭 you cool, also sorrysorrysorrysorrysorry) My bad. 👌Y'all patience is immaculate.

So, I for one am not knowledgeable about, well, "the internet" as others may be at my age. I never knew the art community had more issues other an ai, art theft, and tracing, like whoa.

So lemme tell you something, when I was recently first confronted about if I was a proshipper, I went to research, and there's not a way I can word this nicely, but "I do not care what other people think, like, do or say" especially on the internet, unless it's being shoved down my throat forcibly, but you know what, no one can exactly do that online, since I and everyone else has the power to block, unfollow and curate their own internet experience respectfully.

And if you can't, I insist you take care/be kind to yourself and chill off your device OR learn how to block certain people, content labels and tags, etc y'know.

And a dni list might sometimes not be read, personal experience:

I happened to accidentally disrespect a friend's dni list because at the time I didn't know I was a person that had opinions that were against what their thoughts/views were and didn't know/realize that they had an issue with "Fiction doesn't affect reality." Purely accidental, they were one of the first asks and friends I made, so I followed without reading their blog thoroughly cause I was just happy to make more Undertale friends. And didn't know if I should randomly disappear from them, up until they confronted me about it. Anyway, I think that issue was solved, hopefully.

Now I have friends who were proshippers, friends that are nice antis, friends in-between and friends that are neutral like me. And those I still consider Friends who have blocked and unfollowed me.

Along with some who didn't wish to hear me out and decided to make their vile assumptions of me, and others who were kind and open enough to listen to my own words and remain a dear friend.

Being Neutral to me is not having a strong enough opinion for or against. Cause not all proshippers are badshit mental, not all anti-shippers are death threatening fancop messengers, and not all neutrals are hypocritical.

Something around those lines. Btw, I enjoy platonic ships for the most part, also consent and boundaries is highly important in my book. I do not support sick shit and know just because someone is associated with people who draw that, doesn't mean they support it, I for one know my reality and know where fiction stays fiction. That's my opinion and thoughts. If you can't differentiate and you let something like fiction rule your life in a bad way, I hope you work on yourself more and be kind to yourself. 😔 I had a moment of struggle like that after going through certain experiences, until I learned and disciplined myself to not give a flying fuck anymore. Cause I found it to be very draining and stupid to keep dwelling on it. Now I don't get triggered easily for my well-being! Inner Peace type shit! 👈(ﾟヮﾟ👈)

Also, regarding the frans question cause of the ask about the "Sooner or Later You're Gonna Be Mine" post I made a few days earlier. Uh yeah, as long as characters are being depicted as adults, it also applies to aging up a child canon character, then it's fine, both are depicted as adults. That's their view, their drawing, their writing, their thoughts. And I will respect them for depicting their ship as adults if that's what it is.

In my opinion, I'm just glad they didn't do child x adult stuff in the frans ship in their fanfic. And even if they did, I'd cringe then just scroll off far far away and not bother with it anymore for my mental. OR I can just easily, replace the characters I'm reading on, with my own characters. I wouldn't spread hate nor harass anyone over it for being problematic. Cause I don't wanna bother, they probably get enough shit from others anyway, cause many types of people exist whether we like it or not.

I had someone tell me in a discussion once, where in their Undertale AU and drawings, their Frisk was an adult, and just know there's people out in the world that have a version of Frisk that ages with them, and is their specified identity despite canon Frisk being a nonbinary human, and that's their choice, not my business fr. Also, another talk with a friend, was that it was weird you'd still see an aged-up Frisk as a child, I dunno if this makes sense, but you view them as a child, despite them being drawn as an adult as depicted in certain frans drawings, that's odd, I guess and it was funny they told me, and I summarize quote them, "That means adults can't have romance(seggs)! We are basically aged-up children!" -So anyway, either you're protective of canon frisk and you simply can't see them in other's people's respective view or you just something else I dunno.

When I see a ship, I don't like, my way to view it is just replacing the characters in my head and scrolling off, simple. Well simple for me. I'm not sure about y'all? I'm in my head a lot, so I have a lot of imaginative power up there lol.

And my favorite color blue and green-ish blue. (✿◡‿◡)

Hopefully, I answered most of the asks. IF anyone needs some clarification, just be open minded and do you own research, go explore, don't just listen to close friends' opinions, have fun and discover your own opinions. That's how I gain my own perspective on many Undertale ships deemed common/problematic and being a Neutral. Understand, definitions are skewed overtime, find more than one source, learn from others, and then decide your own views.

This whole thing ain't mean to change your views or anything.

I'm not sure if I missed anything. I don't wanna proofread this again. This was tiresome to make. ╯︿╰ If I worded something wrong, comment it or something I will try to clear it up later perhaps.

I apologize to those who's view of me changed due to this post. Really sorry.

In conclusion, you do you, I do me, peace. (´▽`ʃ♡ƪ)

[theliterarywolf]

Ok I’m so sorry but you wanna know what’s HILARIOUS about that “B-but murder is portrayed as bad in these games, see?!” post? GTA is developed by Rockstar Studios. The same company that made Red Dead Redemption 2. The same Red Dead Redemption 2 that has a side-quest with incestuous siblings. Like bestie you cannot get any more ironic when that company is doing the same thing you think is icky. Don’t get me wrong incest squicks me out but come on. I just avoid it and move on.

If I've said it once

I've said it twice

I'll say it a million times:

The current issue in the fandom-sphere isn't 'oh, you need to be comfortable with everything 100% of the time'. It's people not knowing how to express their discomfort with certain topics and refusing to curate their own experiences and, therefore, making it everyone else's problem.

There are dozens of ships and tropes and kinks that I don't like or, hell, make me downright uncomfortable. But I don't go around attacking people who do like those things. One, because I'm a fucking adult and creator who knows how to mind my own damn business, and two because I'm not a fucking narcissist being enabled by the rot of modern internet and modern absentee-parenting.

[khepiari]

I don't like it when it's in our world, I think there is a One Piece school manga where the ages are either the same or not as high, but when you apply the canonical ages, Law working and Luffy still in school, I don't let to think that I have to call the police or the psychologist and this is my problem, I know, but as pirates Law and Luffy are more equal than in our world (it still scares me sometimes, canonically it is not a problem but there is fanfics where even about pirates this is shady), but I always think that the problem is not always the ship, but rather those who write or draw

Well, when it comes to fandom, this is my personal rule: canon is reference material for me.

“Age-gap” trope is not new, it has existed since the beginning of the fiction genre to be fair. Because people have been marrying/living/romancing between large gaps for time memorial in real-life. Yes, in most cases, it’s young women and older men because of societal beliefs; young women are considered as limited shelf-life goods while men in possession of money are a catch. Age-gap relationships until the advent of modern society benefited off vulnerable young women who had no money or social security.

Historically, age-gap has been extremely common in queer relationships, we have had huge age-gaps too as well, one famous couple being Christopher Isherwood and Don Bachardy; 30 years. I know fellow queer people in happy relationships where age-gap is over 15 years, and I know fellow heterosexual couples with two years age-gap in miserable marriages. Who gets to be happy in their relationship is relative to contextual environment.

But I am digressing. Coming back to my OTP

As you said, Law and Luffy become a problematic romance if they are placed in a modern setting like High School romance and not the canon timeline. For example, they are put in the context of where one is still in school and the other is a functional adult. Your concerns are valid, but my concern here is; who is this age-gap romance about two 2D fictional characters written on a fan-run website in a tiny slash pairing fandom hurting? Because as far as I know no one is being made to read these stories as part of their school/university literature curriculum. A reader is choosing to read these stories on their own will. Someone might sent you the link, and you can click on it, but you still have to press the consent button to read it, right?

Law and Luffy to me have been equal, since day one both in “canon” and in my fics. Because I have never seen their age-gap as a power dynamic story. I am the person who wrote My Little Husband, I think that story has every trope, problem and issue that people who hate the age-gap associate with. Even in that story, Luffy is an equal, and the active agent in his story. So yeah coming back to what you ended the ask with.

You said about LawLu ship “problem is not always the ship, but rather who writes or draws.” I will simply disagree here. My main reason is that every fic author/fan artist has the right to write/draw/think about their ship how they want. Who are we as consumers of these stories to say “This is bad” and “that is good?”

Yes, your feelings of dislike/ick are valid. That’s why you have been provided with the options of tags, warnings and basic fic ratings.

In my fics, I add the tags and mark the sex scenes out, and if it’s explicit topics or scenes, there are reminders in the text that a reader can skip certain parts. What more can we do to protect the reader’s comfort?

Hence.

I refuse to endorse the idea that the problem lies with the creator of the ship. Just because someone writes something that makes other people uncomfortable doesn’t mean it’s “bad or wrong”. And just because something makes you comfortable because it aligns with your personal beliefs isn’t necessarily “good or correct”.

Engaging with fiction is a personal experience, so you have to curate what you are looking for. Do you want to be comfortable or do you want to be stirred with feelings? The choices are yours to make and you can indulge in all or none at all. Yet, no one has any right to call a fan creator, “You are the problem for creating something because it makes me feel uncomfortable.”

Will you like it? Let’s say— you go to a pot-luck party with a delicious tumbler of potato stew, and someone willingly tastes a spoonful/eats the entire bowl and then tells you right after that, “You are a bad person and cook as your potato stew made their mouth tingle because of the variation of spices you used for that person’s favourite vegetable?”

No, you won’t.

So my advice is simple: don’t interact with something that makes you uncomfortable and unhappy. Fandom is not the place to measure our morality.

The end.

[jmtorres]

ETA 1/16/25 My inbox is closed due to I get spam at 20:1 ratio to legitimate messages.

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ETA 11/24/24 I will continue to focus on pretty & fun content like art, knitting, cats, etc but I'm releasing my stranglehold on not discussing hard stuff ever.

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I thought as a fannish tumblr I could stumble along without a *jazz hands* policy but I guess I gotta pin a post.

I am on Tumblr for fun.

If you send an ask for money I will block and report spam.

Below the cut: stuff I reblog, sideblogs, stuff I try to avoid, block policies, queue, do not ask me for money, and as a palate cleanser to thank you for reading, a nice picture of my cat.

I like to reblog:

pictures of animals and flowers

fannish stuff about shows, books and podcasts I'm enjoying (I like a lot of shit and I'm a fannish butterfly and/or magpie, it's not useful for me to post a fandom list, it expands often) (this includes thinking about characters banging, if you are an "anti" you will probably not enjoy my blog)

sometimes chronic health stuff, that's less fun but the spoonie community sometimes offers advice i find useful or just, relatable weariness

neurodivergent stuff too

food and recipes

art (no AI. if you see me reblog AI-generated content feel free to let me know) (by the way I HATE being suspicious of artists and trying to figure out if something is genuinely creative or machine-mixed.)

architecture and interior decor

fashion

hot people, often wearing fashion

if it makes me laugh. memes and shit.

language/linguistics stuff

filmmaking stuff

knitting and other fibercrafts

general nerdery

queer stuff (history, queer rep, talking about the queer experience, hot queer people flaunting it)

jewish stuff (usually cultural, some midrash, I try not to post about current events see below)

scifi & fantasy writing/what-ifs/meta

polls I miss LJ clicky-boxes but i vote in all kinds of polls it activates something in my brain

like literally whatever interests me, this is a personal blog, not themed*

* i have a couple of themed blogs, which I very occasionally update:

@teachdeathtodye, about both fiber and hair dyeing

@wheresmygoddamnlunarbase, about surprising or exciting scientific and technological advancements.

any other blogs that are not defunct? apparently as of 2023 I still post to @hewasonfogmachine, which was essentially a moodboard for an epic plotbunny I never wrote. it was a rock star AU, so lots of interesting musical instruments and performances. also an MCU/Mission Impossible fusion so hot pics of actors from both franchises, and my fancasts for OCs. either a very specific or very random themed blog, but if it's to your taste, enjoy.

But back to THIS blog!

I try not to post about politics (I am trying not to even read about politics on tumblr tbh) but sometimes the moment moves me. I will tag relevantly (I use "us politics" for American shit and "i/p" for the Israel-Palestine conflict).

I believe in curating my tumblr experience. I filter a lot of keywords and tags, but I also unfollow people if you post something that upsets me and gets past the filters. It's rarely personal. Who I follow is meant to give me an interesting and pleasing dashboard experience, not necessarily be a reflection of who I'm friends with.

I block fairly liberally. If I find your posts/opinions antithetical to my existence or my friends' existence, I will do my damndest to block you rather than argue with you (sorry if i was unable to resist arguing with you before I remembered the block button).

I softblock declared minors who follow me. I'm not an "adult" blog per se but I'm not filtering my content for children and also if you are a minor for your own safety you should not be announcing it on the internet, get that shit off your profile.

I periodically check who follows me and I might softblock (or hardblock) you if I do not think we are compatible (ie you have a DNI that lists people like me but followed me anyway for some reason??)

I queue shit and don't mark it queued so me posting is never an indication of whether I'm actually online.

And here's the thing I need to say that got me to pin a post:

I do not reblog ANY requests for money, I do not respond to asks from people I don't know personally asking for money. I'm on Tumblr for fun and my wallet is not available.

If you send me something like that and it looks spammy (which if you're cold calling, it does), I will report you to Tumblr. If you send me something like that and we don't know each other at all, I will block you. (If I know you I will probably gently remind you I don't do that. Unless I know you but you've been borderline annoying or upsetting in the past, in which case I might just block you anyway.)

Look. The world sucks. A lot of us are in financial straits and are not getting the support we need from our communities, our governments, our families. But I don't have the energy to figure out if you're "deserving" and I'm not loaded either. I do my volunteering/community aid locally in person, not online, to be sure I know who I'm helping, and because a lot of the help I am able to provide is via action rather than money. I am very sorry for the failures of our society that have made social media your best chance of getting help, but please don't ask me to participate in that.

Here's my cat.

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[7habitsofhighlyeviceratedpeople]

Hi I have some concerns regarding your server. I don't think it's a good idea to have your Outlast server be all ages... Outlast is a very adult game and isn't appropriate for teens to be discussing with random adults in a discord server, even if the discussions aren't necessarily bad, ie just gushing over a character or whatever; it's because of the nature of the game itself that makes it inappropriate. Red Barrels themselves don't want underage ppl interacting with their content either, their website has you put your date of birth in to even look at anything, and their official server actually is 18+. There's a reason why they do that. If there are minors in the server that get upset over not being allowed in anymore, if you do decide to make it 18+, then they can create their own Outlast server only for people their own age, so that its teens talking to teens with less risk of anything sus happening. I could never tell a 14 yr old to stop liking Outlast because I was a 14 yr old who loved Outlast, but being in the fandom and discussing aspects of the game with adults wasn't appropriate for me then and it still isn't now. I'm saying this from experience. Honestly I don't think any discord server even if totally SFW and clean should have both adults and teens in it because theres too mush risk involved. I think having a server for fans of Outlast is great and I'm sure fans in the server are happy with how it is, but making the server safer for both adults and minors in the server would probably make people happier

Hello! Sorry it took me a bit to get back to you, I just saw this today and needed some time to collect my thoughts because I wasn’t exactly sure how to approach this in a way that aligns with my own personal values for the server and also tries to adhere to what you are asking of me. I take the safety of people, especially minors in my server extremely seriously. I also got into Outlast at a young age and have had my fair share of experiences in the fandom with creeps, usually adults or just plain weird people. My server is 13+ to be the most inclusive, while trying to simultaneously make the space as safe as possible for everyone involved. While I agree that there are absolutely sus people in this fandom (more so than others) and that it can be extremely dangerous for minors to even coexist in the fandom with these people, as i’ve literally spoken about in the past, it’s very easy for bad situations to happen. That being said, I personally find it easier and more safe to curate my space in a way where it’s inclusive to minors while also keeping it as safe as I have control over making it. The rules are specifically designed to make sure that weirdos DONT get in, and we have a very active community with moderators enforcing these rules. We don’t allow anything NSFW to get in the server outside of the specified channels, which BY THE WAY are role locked. You HAVE to be 18+ (unless you feel comfortable lying to me which I can’t really control and i don’t want to completely lock minors out of the server just over the potential of a person lying to me which will result in an immediate ban) We don’t allow any sort of discussion about anything NSFW in any channels, including conversations about sex, drugs, etc. The rules are insanely fine tuned to make things as safe as possible, and as of right now myself and mods feel it is safer to keep the server the way it is, than to kick all the ppl who are younger than 18 out to go find some other worse server or make their own which i personally don’t find to be a super safe option either. Here they are more protected imo than if they went to seek out other servers/made one that was ONLY minors. This is my personal stance on the matter, and I understand that this isn’t what you wanted to hear. For that I apologize but I will always be prioritizing the safety of the people in my server in the best way i feel that I can. I feel like under the rules we have and the safety measures instated they are the most safe in this server than one that’s completely lawless and i feel like one minor lying to me about their age is less dangerous than a creep lying about THEIR age to get into a server full of fucking minors. Doesn’t sit right with me, once again I am sorry. I will consider making the server age requirement older and speaking to the mods and members about putting even more safety things in place but like i said I just feel safer with the way things are. My dms are open for concerns btw 🤞 There is more I could say on this but I feel like this gets my feelings across the best way I can :) to me it’s like banning smthn like abortion. (weird example i know) it doesn’t stop ppl from getting them but it just makes for a safer, more sterile environment! Remember it is a FANDOM server at the end of the day and this is a very different situation than Red Barrels putting an age thing on their websites (which ppl can just lie to with yr logic lol)