#I am working on actually making the profile carrd though!

[elf-simp]

I got an ultrawide monitor the other day and the first thing I've decided to do with it is take an ultratall picture instead. Have a son boy:

[bizzyboys]

okay actual intro post time until I have the energy to make a carrd

Endo systems and supporters leave!!! Bye bye!! I am anti-endo slash anti-any other type of system origin that isn’t trauma!!

Strawpage here!!

Romantic f/os under the cut, doubles please don’t interact 💔

Okay let’s start

hi!! im Melody!! If our entire profile theme changes randomly one day it’s probably because someone else took over and wanted to make it more comfortable for them to post here. Also I am 17!! (FINALLYYY)

I try not to post too much info about our system online because of the dangers of it and also just because it’s our personal life and experiences, so all you get is we are a diagnosed DID system and have been working with our current therapist for…maybe like 1-2 years? Idk time is wonky for us. Also diagnosed C-PTSD

I have a hard time remembering things so I like to keep receipts of things sometimes!!

We are always tired. Like always. Our mental problems drain us constantly to where we mainly sleep most of the day away unless we’re doing school (we do online school because public school doesn’t work for us) or going out. We try to be awake during the day, but if we die for a good while or don’t respond to you immediately just assume we’re sleeping lmao

Uhhh what else. Pronouns change constantly!! Please don’t use she/her unless we say it’s okay. It/They/He is normally a safe bet!! Also no fem terms unless we also say it’s okay!! you can call us a girlboss though because we get the gender good from that

Romantic F/os include: William Afton (since 2015 babyyyy), Boris Habit, Inspekta, Capochin, P/Patty, Mystery Burns, Alastor, Marvus, Whimsy+Angel, and more but those are the ones I think of right off the bat

I am currently most attached to Capochin, but I still get uncomfortable with other people who have the same romantic f/os interacting :[

Some of our interests include: The Glass Scientists, Doll-Eye, FNAF, DSAF, Dialtown, HTTYD, COTL, HLVRAI, Minecraft, Roblox (sometimes), POKEMON!!!!, Digimon, doodling, creating things (like cosplay props for when we go to cons), vocaloid, music in general, Smile for Me (beloved comfort game), Great God Grove, psychological horror, ARGs, creepypastas, Marble Hornets, Hazbin Hotel/Helluva Boss, Madoka Magica, Sailor Moon, BATIM, Bee and Puppycat, Fiona and Cake, Homestuck, Hiveswap, Undertale, Deltarune, Hamsters/Proper hamster care, Hamtaro, Little Nightmares, and other things!! (Aka this list is getting too long and im tired and don’t want to keep adding to rn lmao)

Here’s some silly userboxes that we relate to!!

[kafus]

i find it slightly amusing that despite my obvious passion for the "old web" and my own personal indie web projects, i actually am frustrated with a large portion of the whole webcore nostalgia thing...

i'm assuming it's because there's a lot of younger people who are enamored with the internet from before they could have really interacted with it, but they can really glorify the old internet way too much to an almost harmful degree. spreading the idea that "all our problems would be solved if we just went back to how things used to be!" is extremely misguided considering the way the old internet worked isn't compatible with the modern size and scope of the internet + the internet has always been dictated by money (even if the grip of capitalism has tightened its fists in recent years even more) and we cannot simply go back to desktop-only sites with a complete lack of accessibility options to fix all our problems. imagining a better internet is going to take a lot of work from a lot of people and probably the dismantling of capitalism to at least some degree, which is a really, really unfortunate truth.

at the same time though, i don't feel poorly towards any of these people, teens or not. there are aspects of the old internet that i do miss severely. i hate how social media forces everyone's profiles to look the same, for example. it is extremely difficult to be human on the web and self-express. the desperation to be loud and colorful and express ourselves digitally can be seen in young people's carrds dotted with anime characters and lists of their interests. i hate how pretty much the only way to get your artwork, music, writing, etc seen is through the hellfire that is social media, and how we are all pressured to monetize our hobbies through that social media. i hate how big the internet is now, because i can't escape the constant barrage of news headlines and social media posts ruining my mental health by overloading me with information my human brain was never meant to handle. i could go on forever. i get the feeling.

it makes sense that people would want to look back to when things were a little happier for the common user on the web, when things were slower, smaller, and more expressive, especially while living through such rough times. and of course, obviously, reblogging aesthetic posts or saying "i miss the old internet" isn't a massive moral statement on the state of the internet and where it needs to go... but i encourage anyone who's into internet nostalgia stuff to care about and put effort towards a better internet, one that takes the good parts of the old web and the good parts of the modern web and turns them into something new, because we can't just go back to fix all our problems. but even if there's not much you can do, you can bring back that spark and that feeling by making a neocities page or something, joining a small community, etc... while it's not a full replacement for that empty ache in our hearts, it certainly scratches the itch and makes me feel a little better about my complex internet feelings. try to have a little fun and make a space for yourself in this modern internet we call home

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Hi Aeryn! I need some advice. I have found my character but I’ve developed gaming anxiety. I believe due to experiences online and being harassed and stalked by a former friend. Any tips on how I can play the MSQ and not feel overwhelmed?

Speak with a professional as soon as feasible about the traumas you've experienced so they can help you find the tools to work through a lot of those stressors.

I am very much not kidding, nor blowing this off. The reasons for that anxiety are 100% something a counselor, therapist, or other professional is suited to work through with you, not a random person on the internet.

What I can recommend in the meantime is to be very careful about your personal information on social media and not connecting anything in game directly to that, especially if still concerned about continued harassment. No one needs your location, profession, school or major, definitely never ever post anything about your traumas and triggers in profiles or Carrds, don't use real names, don't post selfies. Don't list social media in your Adventure Plate/Search Info. Don't mention your World, DC, or Char Names on your socials.

(Yes I do many of these things; not much of my real life and health history cuz that's none of y'alls business, but I cross-reference and connect my medias--but I am not having issues with harassment or stalkers and am willing to lock down if it ever happens. I have been on the internet since I was a teen, and have been very, very lucky in my interactions, though a lot of it is due to caution as well.)

Know your boundaries and set them. You don't have to join every channel, Discord, or be in all the game default chats (they can be hidden, disabled, put on custom tabs, etc). Be liberal with blacklist and don't assume every friendly person is a friend, even if in a FC or Discord together; a lot of folks (online and IRL) are simply acquaintances, not pals for life. System Menu, Support Desk is where you can place tickets, especially for harassment.

If it were me, I'd play the MSQ like a single-player JRPG and not worry too much about other people--just focus on the game, the story, the characters. They've made that a LOT easier to do for the most part thanks to Duty Support/Trust. If you do have a small group of trusted friends to play with, stick to them, or quietly join duty finder and get the job done and then never see those folks again; most of the time, people are silent and decent, or joking, or make general comments. There's a few sour apples out there but they're not the majority. And again, can always report the real bad ones; this game actually responds to tickets and issues.

I am sorry you experienced such things that make it hard to play or interact with others in a social setting, especially one meant to be fun and relaxing. Your trust has been broken and it will take a long time and a lot of work to mend or feel like some things can be "normal", if they ever will again. Take it at your pace, be cautious, and try to find someone professional to speak to who can help work through those steps to heal and protect yourself in the future. I know it isn't always easy to get that sort of help, but please try, and in the meantime, take care of yourself.

[doctoractually]

❝     How people treat you is their karma.      ―                                         ―     How you react is yours.     ❞

                                                                    ― WAYNE DYER

#DOCTORACTUALLY. private, highly selective, mutuals only, roleplay blog for character dr spencer reid from the television series criminal minds. THERE WILL BE HEAVY TOPICS AND THEMES PRESENT. read rules before even considering following. low to medium activity. beta editor && xkit rewritten.  penned by chess* ( she/her 30+ cst. )

                   carrd.  memes.  ask.  promo. playlist.

                                     *personal blogs do not interact.

FIRST.  reid is a criminal profiler with the fbi therefore there will heavy and mature themes present. these could include but are not limited to: emotional && physical abuse, substance abuse, mental health related topics, extreme violence, and death. please keep this in mind before interacting, and also acknowledge that threads could possibly contain these themes.

SECOND.  this blog is strictly mutuals only. i will not interact with anyone i do not follow back. i do my best to view each blog that follows me, review their character, and the rules of the page. if for any reason i find that our muse[s] will not “click” i am well within my right to not follow back. please do not take this as a personal slight against you as a player, and also please respect my right to make my blog my own.

THIRD.  i will not interact with any type of real life muse. what i mean by this is that just because i roleplay a criminal profiler does not mean i will interact with mun’s who write real life serial killers, and things of the like. this roleplay page is reserved for strictly fictional interactions between fictional characters and will no way cross over the threshold into people that have actually existed in real life.

FOURTH. i work full time as a nanny to a very cute ( but also very demanding ) one year old monday through friday 6am-5pm CST. this means my activity on the dash will mostly involve me being here in the evenings and weekends. of course life happens so my appearance on the dashboard is not a daily guarantee. keep this in mind when interacting with me both in character and out of character because i am a turtle when it comes to interacting due to these factors. the best way to get a storyline interaction going is to send inbox memes. feel free to send as many as you like! i promise you i will not complain.

FIFTH.  icons, special formatting, and the like will not always be a constant on this blog. i do my best to focus on the writing and interaction over the graphic design though i am not against the use. i to enjoy making things pretty and will never condemn someone for also finding their joy in it. once again just something to keep in mind when writing with me if on the occasion graphics appear or disappear in our threads.

SIXTH. it is very important to remember that even though we are mutuals i am not your resource blog. this is a personal preference of mine because i do find it annoying to have things like graphics, aesthetics, or sentence starters ( to name a few ) reblogged from my page and clog up my notes. 

discord available upon request, but restricted to mutuals only.

you  may  also  find  me  on  my  roy  harper/arsenal  blog  @menacingarsenal

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how do you get into roleplaying on a ff server? like how do you do it and how do you know if your character is lore compliant? ;A; pls youre a big inspo to me

*Hugs Nonny* Getting into RP on a FF server can vary; I don’t actually RP much these days, outside of some friends I already have connections to--and that in itself can be difficult just due to Life! It can take time, and patience, and some fits and starts.

And this gets...really really long, so buckle up and go below the cut, please. :)

The cut got broken by an edit. Sigh.

In game there’s always the RP status tag, and just doing RP with folks in public spaces. There may be trolls now and then, but they can be ignored. I personally find Balmung’s Quicksand area too busy and anxiety inducing and not actually all that conducive to actual RP, even “meet at a tavern” walk-up type. But unless you already have a ready-made group of friends/FCmates willing to RP more than some random walk-ups with you, it may take some legwork to find folks you can and want to write with.

Social Media There are a couple of RP community blogs, like @mooglemeet​ and @ffxiv-crystal-rp​  and plenty of server-specific ones. There’s also some Discords for these communities. They host and advertise events and reblog people who are looking for RP contacts. Some of them have running gdoc calendars and in game linkshells and fellowships as well.

Shofie has a good post about Tumblr/social media RP blogging.

@shofie-ffxiv

It’s a fact now that social media outside game is a way to make contacts, or even a medium for RP itself. There are few centralized websites/forums for server RP communities anymore. Making connections over your social media, like Tumblr and Twitter, can help find RP. You can’t just throw your own character info out there or reblog prompts hoping others bite, though; you have to put in some work and show interest in others, too. This can be difficult and even scary. That’s OK.

RP is about collaboration and creating with other people, which means finding folks you can write with, and who see you as someone interesting but also interested in them and their OCs. If you want to keep it a solo endeavor focused on your own OCs, write fanfic (which I’ve actually made friends and gotten RP interests that way too through comment interactions, so hey).

If you reblog a prompt from someone, see others on your dash reblogging prompts, if people reblog that prompt post from you? Send them asks! Alternatively, don’t wait for prompts, just send asks, comments, or chats saying hello and things you notice or like about their blog/character/posts they make. Try to form connections with people you think are genuinely interesting and might be fun to talk with. Social media should be, well, social.

BUT respect boundaries, too. Don’t try sarcasm or jokes with people you don’t actually know, it tends to go over poorly. Unless someone’s specifically posting a naughty meme/prompt, keep stuff you others send clean and polite, especially if it’s unsolicited and you’re not already friends (doubly so if you don’t know how old they are IRL, there are laws you do not want to break). Respect if people aren’t open to random asks or chatting with new followers, or say “no” to RP, and know it’s not personal--it’s just what they have time, energy, and emotional/mental capacity for. Don’t give up on other people, though. This stuff can take time and effort to find those you click with.

Respect and communication with RP partners is pretty key.

Do curate your feeds and don’t be afraid to unfollow/mute/block folks, either. I’m selective in who I follow and remove as needed, too, for my own mental health. I miss so much of the discourse and drama and that’s fine by me. Also it costs nothing to not step in on a lot of the drama when it does pass in sight.

Profiles I have static RP profile pages for my girls here on Tumblr (and a lot of other static links and pages, but I’m weird about organizing like that). This way, if people want to write with me, send me prompts, if I sent them prompts, or they want to otherwise interact with my characters, the information is handily available. For some folks, this makes all the difference in who they choose to interact with: how easily can they find even basic info about your OC?

Some people make Carrds. Some folks have gdoc links, or use Dreamwidth, etc. Just keep the links in the blog’s sidebar menu, and/or in the blog desc so people can see ‘em on mobile. There are templates out there, or you can make your own. Feel free to snag mine if you’d like. A lot of times people also copy their profiles to rebloggable posts when looking for RP contacts. Profiles are a good way to let folks know just the at-a-glance basics about your character(s).

I picked a simple theme with a simple layout that makes it easy to add and show off links. I put them in the blog desc to make them easy to find on mobile, too.

[Images: links from my blog sidebar menu showing how over organized I am]

RP, Stories, Lore Post some stories or RP logs (with permission of others involved) or even just random little blurbs and headcanons, as well as any screenshots, art, aesthetic posts for your OCs. Have something of interest to show for your character, too, so some of those folks your interacting with have something of their own to see and ask about!

If possible, try some light RP with friends and FC Mates who are amenable. Go to events, even if just to lurk at first. When you do get up the nerve to talk to people, don’t try to throw a character’s entire backstory at them, or try to steal the limelight--RP is collaboration, back and forth, and a lot like real conversation. Maybe come up with little light things to talk about if asked; a recent adventuring job, a silly shopping incident, etc. They can break the ice or just give you something to reply with for a few minutes.

Lore Compliance is Variable. Some people really want lore compliance, others are OK bending it here and there, while still others throw it out the window entirely. If you want to be super lore compliant...read. There’s a LOT of information, in game and out, for finding lore; from official publications and website material, to tools like Garland Tools site, to compilation blogs like @mirkemenagerie.

Note what’s important for your concept. Narrow it down. Characters aren’t going to know or be or do everything, so only worry about what’s necessary for the base idea. And be flexible; it’s SE’s sandbox, we just play in it, and they can change things any time. They usually do it in the guise of characters not knowing/having all the correct information, at least, but also some places just don’t exist in game yet so we don’t have info.

I’m unspecific about a lot of elements of Aeryn’s childhood, for instance, other than “traveling merchants near Thavnair.” I don’t have to be super specific. I can keep most details vague, and focus on her family and those relationships.

Dark, as my first character, has a fairly simple backstory that I’ve expanded on and adjusted over time as I learned and came up with new info. I also bet no one remembers I originally said Dark was from the North Shroud. I’ve changed things (now from East Shroud, due to the proximity to Gyr Abania and its Hellsguards) as I learned more about the world and my character. You don’t want to change things willy-nilly, but sometimes being flexible and smoothing down some rough edges and making small changes can be fine, especially as one gets more lore over time.

Iyna has a pretty detailed backstory, that came from a basic idea, and checking dates in the pre-Calamity timeline. I based her being taken and trained the way she was not only on what info we have about Garlemald’s imperial practices with conquered provinces, but borrowed a bit from real life and the re-education schools many Native Americans were forced into (though I haven’t gone into detail on that yet, either). I tied the turning point in Iyna’s life to a major event that wasn’t the Calamity, and have left plenty of space in between for me to fill in as time goes on and I learn more about her and the world.

The world isn’t static, and is bigger and more diverse than what can be shown in the game. There’s space in the margins for plenty of weird stuff and contradictions or unusual cases. So read up on what you can, ask questions, and then find where in those spaces your OC fits. Then, find people who enjoy similar tastes in lore compliance (or non-compliance), and who enjoy playing with you and your OCs, and not worrying about the rest. Can’t please everyone, nor get along with everyone, so don’t try; just find what works for you, and who works with you, and don’t police anyone else’s pretendy fun times, either.

There’s no magic answer on the “right” amount of lore compliance, or how to quickly and easily find RP partners or break into the broader RP community.

I hope this helps at least a little bit! Good luck in finding your niche for RP, and maybe I’ll see you sometime at an event :)