#I am queer as hell I am a dyke I am a faggot I am a tranny and thats not gonna change no matter what you want

[arrowpunk]

You know it kind of sucks to see discourse about whether or not me and people like me should exist. Like just the fact that it's even a question in the first place sucks.

[multibugorganism]

a lot of the alienation i feel from the furry-tranpositive experience is how much of it was just feels like a heel turn and i find myself having such a hard time even remotely relating or feeling included

"KEEP FURRY WEIRD, BE LOUD AND OPEN ABOUT YOUR QUEERNESS, throwing faggot and dyke around- being puppy dog brained boys and girls and being kink positive!!! incest is woke now, feral porn was ALWAYS OK PEOPLE HAVE BEEN FREAKS SINCE FOREVER OK!!!"

etc etc the list goes on with these sentiments and so on but like it's excruciating and difficult to remotely feel welcomed when just like a few years ago i'd have people threatening violence and telling me to off myself, accusing me of absolutely abhorrent shit for stuff like uh, watching some dumbass anime they didn't enjoy or going full on hate-stalker and terrorizing me for years with a whole mob/their follower base simply because they couldn't stand me being a sexually positive/open person online- hell, I had someone who got outed for sexually abusing their pet call me out for advocating rape and spreading some fucked up nonsense about me purely because I had somnophiliac fantasies. people would want you DEAD or consider you TOO WEIRD if you so much as expressed wanting to be treated like a puppy girl toilet or fucking whatever

i don't know, it just sucks feeling alone and alienated, left out, i wish i could take people's invitations or feel even remotely comfortable stepping out of my boundaries again but i already have other baggage that needs tending to that I barely have energy to muster and work on. maybe i've just become too old to "get better" and just unfortunately am going to stay scared shitless. im glad people are generally happier these days with expression and that crap but i am bitter and sad i don't have a place in this movement or whatever you want to call it

[amberrockstar]

listen, this queer person has had a lot of words thrown at zir as slurs. (not just ones to do with queerness either, but i'm going to pretend to have some focus here.) and so if i want to call myself queer, faggot, gay, dyke, or the like, i'm going to do that. the shame isn't in me not being cishet (as implied by the tone of voice when those words were hurled at me as slurs); the shame is in YOU (hopefully not actually you, dear reader) thinking me not being cishet is so shameful a thing that you can use words that literally just mean that as insults.

yep, i do indeed fancy both blokes and lasses. (and gnc people and probably would also hit the right kind of sexy alien or real AI.)

yep, i do indeed reject the gender binary. (have since i was a toddler.)

and it's okay if you don't want me to call you those things, but i am kind of spent on being policed about the language i use for myself. i love the hell out of me, so i'm not using those words to cut myself down. i'm using them to own every bit of my truth.

[baasphemous]

Gender rambling between 4-5am? Not sure who even keeps up here as sporadic as i post, but!

Gender is so weird. I have, for most of my life, never really considered my appearance. It was something that i “fought” for but never really played with? I’d toss on a tshirt, some cargo somethings, sneakers, and call it a day because for me, it was the least sensory hell and something that didnt make me dysphoric that apparently set the tone of being a trans man. I cut my hair into a rooster comb and for the most part that was my set hairstyle. I never really saw it as gendered and i liked it i guess? I liked my hair out of everything but even still sometimes sticking it up felt like a chore or could be a sensory challenge. I have been out of the house for half my life now, and yet i feel like i never got much of that teenage exploration most my peers got. Its weird to be exploring it in your thirties but here i am. I spent my early twenties as a trans man, and only managed to disown it in my late twenties during pride month when i went back to test driving they after realizing being a man gave me dysphoria too.

I have never particularly felt like a man nor a woman, but something in between. Both, sometimes neither. These days i feel like i fluctuate and so i have been cozying down in the ambiguity, thinking i might be some kind of fluid but my queer ass really feels at home with terms like faggot butch, nonbinary, gender noncompliant, transgender, or dyke. I like the idea of any pronouns but sometimes i feel sad people automatically clock me as a he/him 95% of the time because i have facial hair. They is fine for me, she is interesting, and viewing myself through she has been a wild ride in terms of things coming full circle again to my agab, in some respects. I dont hate it when i view myself as masculine like a dyke.

It’s weird because i dont want to use micro labels and yet regardless of acceptability of said labels (people dont like the reclaiming of slurs), i find myself fearfully wading through them, scared of the judgement and scared of folks accusing me of some lack of authenticity. Scared that folks will slap a stamp on my head (such as trans man) and look no further. And i suppose thats inevitable in some respects because i often just say im queer and leave it at that. Sometimes queer is all i need. People will make their assumptions and wont always understand and thats okay. The people who matter will get it.

I shaved my hair off wednesday afternoon and as much of a siren call as it was, i was scared it was going to look bad! I cant lie, though, there was something sweet and delightful about having my owner run her hand over my freshly cut head and tell me i really was her bully now after she helped shear it all off. I took some weird relief in the act and something was nice about seeing myself reflected in the mirror with a new sense of self. It was like the feeling of buying a new canvas to paint on or starting over. It kind of kickstarted me into engaging in how i look again instead of just idly accepting not looking at it in the day to day because it didnt really feel important.

Last years yule made me think about clothing, but i had kind of picked it up and put it down. I feel like this “drastic” hair cut has been a relief for not having to manage hair and how sensory overwhelming it can be, but also for my gender expression. I have thought about makeup since. I have enjoyed wearing dangly earrings with a bald head. I have been thinking about how i could feasibly look cute if i just picked up xyz or did something scary and alluring. And who knows, it might change? I might grow it back out to a rooster comb again. But for now i am enjoying the ride, i am enjoying feeling engaged with myself because i deserve more than just throwing on essentials and living my day without considering myself. It is nice feeling like i have some kind of autonomy over my appearance for a change instead of settling into something “acceptable” or just cruising along without much thought. I hope i can pull my partners along because they deserve that feeling too.

Its times like these where i wonder if this feeling of autonomy is just something people feel by default or if they work more or less to get to this point? I dunno, but i am happy to have gotten here.

[romeoeatzkorn]

I always thought home was more of a mother figure to Wally, I always imagined this weird tall fucked up woman who called Wally her son. She would’ve stitched him up when he hurt himself, she would’ve held him when he cried, she would’ve done his hair as well….. so I wonder how their relationship would’ve deteriorated as he got older, would he start resenting her? Would he get closer to her? Would she start resenting her son for being all she isn’t and wasn’t? would she still cherish him the same? Would she listen to him? Would she validate his feelings? Or would she say he’s overthinking it? Would she say his feelings are over irrational?

TW: Vent

I think as I get older I get more sensitive, to the cold, to rejection, to being yelled at, to being alone. At times it feels like I’m isolated in this experience even though I know a lot of people are sensitive and soft skinned like me, yet I feel desensitized to other topics like R34 since I was on the internet from such a young age (about 5-7) and I do wish I was restricted. I do wish I had done others things. I wish I wasn’t the way I am. But that’s fine. And as I get older my relationship with my mom/dad deteriorates. I get more snappy and I want to be around them less, especially my dad, I feel like they don’t understand the way me and my siblings feel about our indigenous identities and hell our identities in general and it’s so frustrating to explain 3 times why deep down you feel like your whiteness takes away from your indigenous identity and then get asked “but has anyone ever told you that? Has anybody told you your not indigenous?” No. They don’t. But I can feel it in the way they fucking glance at me, I can feel it in the way people look at me, I can see it happening to other kids who are just as white appearing as me hell maybe even less. My mother, who is very native appearing, was told she wasn’t “native enough” because she didn’t grow up on a rez or she was mixed, they told her “you’re half white so you’re Métis.” And I do not resent the Métis community in any way, I am saying they deserve to be recognized as indigenous people with their own culture and heritage. But it’s so fucking crazy to me that the woman who I think is the epitome of “Indigenous” was told she wasn’t for so much less. I am already fully aware I am a freak show. I know I’m a queer, a faggot, a dyke, a fairy, a heffer, and personally I’d rather not be possibly hate-crimed for simply loving another woman or another GNC person. I want to see my 40s, I want to watch myself age, I don’t want to simply survive I want to fucking thrive, I want to be alive not simply living, Cause I’m not a fucking porn category, or a fetish, or a freak of Nature. I am human

[whatacartouchebag]

I am BEGGING young queer people to learn your fucking history as to why and how these terms were reclaimed.

If people are gonna gatekeep words like faggot and dyke and queer by turning around and declaring them slurs for others to use, then there's no use stamping your feet when we pick up the very weapons they hurl at us and reshape them into decorative windchimes.

They weaponise these words against us? Honey, I'm going to pick up that word and slap it on my name badge with a big kiss your way. You do not get to tell other people how to talk and you sure as hell don't get to tell someone how they identify.

the way he spilled...

[tranquilitymeadow]

Made this blog bc dear arceus does political or a lot of neg stuff sometimes stress me out. Good to share good to talk abt important to talk abt but ye save to say a blog that is purely positivity focused is good and nice ♡

So yeah hi this is my more cozy sideblog. Main is @zoekrystall.

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Initially wanted to have it more organized but as soon as I tag anything more than fandoms does perfectionism get to me which does the opposite of relaxing. With that being said if anything needs to be trigger tagged will I gladly do so. However I will never tag our words as slurs. Queer, faggot, dyke, etc will not get censored.

If I share anything abt world events/issues is it hopeful or good news.

Posts on here will be anything I deem fits here. Funny posts, positivity, media that fits the vibe, etc. for me and foremost. Anything that brings me comfort. Plus advice.

I don't have a DNI like just don't be a bigot. I block freely (and you should too. don't like me? block!) and my views should be apparent on my main. Unless you have genuinely bad views should we be good.

What I will say is that I am neither an anti or proship. Keep me the hell out of this ridiculous and dangerous discourse. Also I am full on inclusionist and pro endo plus do not armchair diagnose people you don't like ffs that's just ableism. Even if no disorder makes someone bad.

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Since they fit on here

💛 My feel good playlist

🩵 My comfort playlist

[helloblobbyblobfish]

Coming Out Party 1: Arrival

There’s going to a be a pride near my town soon, so I tried to do a mini-series about pride month.... I tried?

Also, this chapter in particular has a lot of terms used as homophobic slurs. I read quite a lot about LGBT+ folks claming terms like “Queer” and “Dyke” as their own, and wanted to have that kind of vibe, but if it makes you uncomfortable, please skip this one. The next chapters will come in the next days, and they don’t have the same language.

G: So, you said you wanted to go to the nearest gay pride? 

O: Yea? It's something to you? Old trucker values?

G: What? No!?! You just don't look like I though a gay man would.

O: Because you look gay, man? Don't lie, look me in the eyes!

G: The fuck, I'm no.. so pretty!!!

O: Hell yea, my eyes are pretty! And you like pretty things, like other dudes!

G: I-I guess???

O: And you like looking good, or else you wouldn't have got that tat!

G: Heeellll Yeeaaahhh…

O: So you're a fairy!

G: My dad called them faiiiry…

O: And pride is all about taking back stereotypes! Look at the road but remember my eyes. See them in your mind, bud!

G: Yeeaaahhh… Okay, bro… And I'm a fairy…

O: Your gay, your a proud and open Boi fairy! Repeat it till it's your whole self, bro!

G: I am gay, I'm a faggot, a fairy, I am super-proud. I am gay, I'm a faggot, a fairy, a cocksucker, I'm super-proud. I'm gay, I'm a boy, I'm a fag, a dirty cocksucker, a fairy, a queer, I'm superpround. I'm gay, I'm a sluttyboy, Im …

O: Yeah, that's it! And you have a promising future with that monster rising up, dude!

G: Eheh, thanks, but I'm a subby bottom. I'm a slutty gay, a fairy, a queer boy…

O: Yeah, and that pride is gonna be the perf' Coming Out Party!!! I'm so proud of you!!

[unoisveimved-un-proffesional]

Me. I’m taking it seriously. But like, in a “This joke is really deep and shows a lot of hidden aspects to the character you won’t see until next episode and recontextualizes their earlier behaviors” kind of way. I am the serious taker, the over observer, and the deeper diver.

This reminds me of the other day when my mom asked if it was okay to call people lesbians because when she was growing up lesbian was used as an insult. I was dumbfounded when she asked that. Like it would’ve been understandable if it was a word like dyke, or lesbo, but lesbian itself? That just kinda blindsided me.

Yeah, when I was growing up calling people gay was in fact used as an insult quite often, hell it still is in some circles. Bullies on playgrounds where they couldn’t call people shit heads, they’d instead say poop head, and when they couldn’t call you a faggot, they’d just call you gay. Gay was treated exactly the same way faggot is now just some odd decade or two ago, not just by 10 year old bullies, but by adults too, back in the day they used fag and gay as interchangeable insults. I think that’s why identifying as a queer fag dyke or tranny is important in these times, because the insults hurled at these people aren’t claiming they’re something they’re not, it’s claiming they’re something they are, and saying that you should be ashamed to be like that, or should fear being called that because that’s supposed to be bad.

It’s always rude to call someone something they don’t want to be called, even a mlm guy who says he doesn’t want to be called gay is okay, it’s respectful to not call people something they don’t want to be called, (remember not everyone deserves respect and respect is yours to give) but to call out people and shame them for calling themselves something you don’t want to be called or referring to their own group with a name you disapprove of, is simply a conservative way of regarding language, and I mean that in the literal, philosophical, and political way. Be careful of the language you use around people, or be aggressive at them, or don’t hang around people who don’t respect the language you use, it’s really context dependent and based on personal values what is good or bad, but I personally identify as a dirty queer, because I see nothing wrong with being dirty, and nothing wrong with being queer.

hi, gentle reminder that you can reclaim slurs for yourself but not for the entire community! Please don't say g*y when talking about other fags, it is a harmful word that has been used against the queer community to hurt mlm, use less harmful words like cocksucker, faggot, queer, and fairy! Thank you ✨

[hot-crossedbuns]

Anyone else find it fun that the gays can (and do) literally reclaim slurs and hate speaches.

You tell us we're disgusting, we reply "yeah I am lol"

You tell us we're going to hell, we say "all the good people are down there" or "really? Oh my god Satan is a really good friend of mine, excited for the reunion!"

The WBC spews hate upon hate and even writes discriminatory songs about us, guess who knows all the words and makes up most of the view count for their videos? Us.

Most of the terms we use like "Dyke" or "Queer" or "Faggot" we call eachother or even ourselves.

Everyone of us is so strong because we've all over come the hate and turned it into something more positive or just simply laughed at it.

[tenitchyfingers]

My 2018 Tumblr Top 10

1). 1.304 notes - 24 May 2018

ONE COULD FUCK ALL DAY AND ALL NIGHT AND BE KINKY AS HELL AND THINK ABOUT SEX 24/7 AND STILL BE ASEXUAL BECAUSE ASEXUALITY...

Yep, a lot of people didn’t know shit about what asexuality actually is, so instead of being intelligent and sensible human beings (you know, the kind who would listen and learn) they mocked an actually real aspect of asexuality (and sexuality in general) as told by an ace-spec person, then proceeded to speak over asexual people on asexual matters. Because exclusionists just can’t stop being gross and bigoted as hell. 

2). 403 notes - 21 October 2018

people hating on Steve Crain have the emotional depth of a teaspoon honestly

Still true. Also, people hating on Steve Crain (or any of the Crains for that matter) didn’t understand shit about the whole show.

3). 347 notes - 02 October 2018

also again, if queer is a slur then so is tranny and dyke and faggot but i don’t see y’all campaigning this hard against those...

Another example of people on tumblr purposefully missing the point.

4). 282 notes - 03 June 2018

raise ur hand if you too would clock a terf in the face 

damn I just made this one of my good intentions for 2019 actually

5). 182 notes - 27 October 2018

so... y’all really here tagging and talking about Voltron by calling it “V slur” huh like y’all really are accessorizing serious...

Voltron stans have been ugly throughout the entire run but they rarely did something this disgusting.

6). 174 notes - 30 November 2018

Maki is the aro prince we don’t deserve but boy am I embracing him

7). 140 notes - 12 January 2018

I just read a post that mentioned there’s a TERF-originated movement called “the L is leaving” and I’m like... yeah, okay,...

God I wish they just would just leave and didn’t stain the community with their transphobia any further

8). 118 notes - 07 December 2018

oh god  OH GOD BUM RUN

I miss Killing Stalking tho. 

9). 114 notes - 12 May 2018

Ok Europe doesn’t hate us. The juries do.

Like I’m not even that pressed actually because I knew we weren’t gonna win but I’m actually mad that nobody bothered to check the meaning of the songs before voting. But yeah, I expected to lose, plus all the antisemites lost their shit when my Israeli girl won so it was pretty satisfying all in all. 

10). 112 notes - 19 February 2018

Aromantic icon of the day: Saiki Kusuo constantly and purposefully avoids any kind of romantic contact to the point of straight...

I miss this show.

Created by TumblrTop10

[blog-sliverofjade]

Hell, I have visceral flashbacks to "lesbo," "homo," "faggot," and "dyke."

Any term we use to define ourselves will be used against us, especially if it's one of solidarity that makes it harder to try and attack us as individuals.

Labeling myself as queer saves me from dealing with infighting about who's valid and who isn’t, usually, because guess what? PEOPLE DON'T FIT INTO NEAT LITTLE BOXES! And I'm not going to break out the flowchart of who I am, especially when it comes to people who want to police how I refer to myself, in which case it becomes "queer as in fuck you."

Kill the inner cop.

Do you genuinely not understand that there are LGBT people who have been traumatized by terms like 'queer' because they have attached them to acts of unspeakable violence and threats to their lives from their own personal experiences, or do you just enjoy being terrible? Is this historical illiteracy at work or just complete lack of empathy?

Not historical illiteracy or a complete lack of empathy but a secret third thing (you have invented a guy to be mad at and I'm not her)

[if-bees-were-bi]

Terrible writing with terrible flow improper grammar and too much emotion

I like girls. I am a girl who likes girls. Why is this such a shocking revelation? Why must I, and many many others, declare, announce or otherwise assert who we are attracted to, while far more do not have to even think about such a thing? And, more importantly, why does that make us different? After all, are we not simply people, over-evolved mammals that have developed systems for what is right and what is wrong? As a girl (who likes girls) that believes strongly in equality, the existence of the "LGBT community" baffles me. So many before us have fought for equal rights, yet here we stand, divided into Us (the "lesbians", "gays", "bisexuals", "transgenders" and all those in between) and Them (the "cisgender" "straights"). The mere existence of the community is deeply regressive, and fights as hard (if not harder) than those of our past to combat and undo the equality that most of society aims to enable. This separation builds walls, can I not just be a girl without the "who likes girls" pinned on at the end? I just want to live and love without a label that alienates me from the rest of the world.

Being a girl who likes girls comes with an expectation of pride. Pride in loving someone, the very same pride heterosexual people are shamed for having. Having "pride" requires self esteem and the belief that what you are proud of is right and not dirty. How can one have pride if the only thing they have experienced in relation to that is self loathing, or constantly being told that pride is a sin, or worse, being a filthy fucking queer is a sin? The rocks pelted at me certainly don't seem prideful. The slur "queer" certainly doesn't seem prideful, least of all when it comes with bruises.

Queer. Such a loaded word. It is commonly used as a sort of umbrella term for those that exist out of the socially accepted ways of love and construct of gender. How can it be treated like that, especially when taking into consideration it's origin? A word originally used as a term of degradation and dehumanisation, now the One Size Fits All of oppressed peoples. Hell, it's origin doesn't matter, this word is still being used to degrade and dehumanise. By all means, reclaim a slur, but its current use is comparable to referring to every lesbian as a dyke and every gay man as a faggot. If you wouldn't use those words, do not use this one.

[kmclaude]

imyourdesign replied to your post “Please don't call lesbians "dykes”

FUCKING THIS i was constantly called a dyke and many other disgusting names before, and after i came out. I'm 2 years into my transition and it still happens. These people are fucking ridiculous. Still love you kmclaude.

I’m sorry that happens and that it continues to happen. It’s a sad reality. It’s something I think people who maybe don’t experience the dissonance between how you appear and who you are don’t realize, which is that you can say you’re Y up, down, left, and right and you can take all the right steps to make yourself reflect Y as much as you are able but as long as people see X, you’re gonna be treated and perceived, positively and negatively, as X. 

nihilistic-void replied to your post “The only way you can repeat dyke without using it as a slur is if...”

*calls myself a faggot and a dyke* Tumblr: *has a fucking stroke*

WELCOME TO THE TUNGLE IT GETS WORSE HERE EVERY DAY

@kirtlandswarbler​ replied to your post “Wow, didn't know "people who aren't lesbians shouldn't say dyke" was...”

I mean tbh I have to agree with the idea that people who can't reclaim a slur shouldn't use that slur so the anon kind of has a point there but at the same time imo in your comic it was used as an expression of frustration and seemed like a slur that had actually been used against you instead of just you using a slur for the hell of it

I would agree except that anon is arguing a point A to prove unrelated point C when what happened was B. I’m not reclaiming anything. I’m not going around going “I’M FATHER CLAUDE, THE DYKIEST DYKE OF ALL DYKES!!! PCRD: PATER CLAUDIUS REX DYKIORUM!!!!” I’m, similar to what you said, expressing a frustration of the reality of where I am in my presentation: I am seen as a butch lesbian, a dyke -- rarely (RARELY!!!!!) am I pegged for a teenage boy -- and sadly the only fashion catered to androgyny is expensive af and catered to lesbian (oft cis) women in the butch subculture so the result of buying the only fashion that understands my body is that I would go from being seen as “the dyke” to “the fancy dyke who is now po’ as shit”

sgt-spank replied to your post “me: points out that you used a slur you have no right to repeat while...”

When the term is used as fuel against you in order to harm you and when you are oppressed by the term, then you are allowed to use the term. I have also been called these things before. In fact it has been used as a weapon against me and many trans men. It's what we are seen as, so...

it’s what we’re seen as as afab masc presenting people and we deserve to be able to talk about that reality! 

@vikingcarrot replied to your post “Ya know, when a bunch of lesbians come and tell you something you did...”

Baffled by the notion that just because someone feels offended by something, it automatically means that thing, or the thing that contains it, must be shut down immediately, no questions asked, no critical thinking or context required. As though Being Offended gives anyone the right to control other peoples' expression of experience or their actions.

Sorry I was busy having warflashbacks to right wing christians being offended at my existence and the existence of other queers and also non-Jesus media and Harry Potter.

Being Offended and Being Correct are not the same thing.

pashastrelnikov replied to your post “Serious question. Do you think that it might be possible, that since...”

Okay. I read the comic and last I checked you're literally just going "Well I'm going to get called this/have been called this" which is neither calling anyone the thing NOR reclaiming it? You're literally saying people are going to/have called me X? You're basically transcribing what other people are saying so idek what's the issue

Yeah, thanks for pointing that out -- as I said elsewhere I’m not reclaiming it I don’t understand where this dichotomy of reclamation or slur comes from? Because the reality is: I ain’t a lesbian. I don’t like chicks. I don’t like dudes. I’m pretty squarely ace. And I ain’t a fucking chick. But the reality is I look like a chick. I look butch. I get called dyke. I get whispers that I’m a lesbian. And it’s very painful misgendering because no, I’m not, I’m a man, why can’t anyone see that, why do I even bother since I’m only gonna get “ma’am” to my face and “fucking dyke!” behind my back, never sir. And that’s my issue. And that’s what the comic is about: it’s that clothes will always always make me look like a kid playing dress up and the clothes that help me are expensive as fuck and read as and are marketed to the butch subculture which means I get to fuck off a chunk of my paycheck to go from “hey dyke!” to “hey fancy dyke!” which...sucks. At least hey faggot would acknowledge I’m a fucking man.

enbylebeau replied to your post “Your diary comic didn't even come off that way to me?? You didn't even...”

personal opinion, in the context you used the slur in I was ok with it? Internalized thought and vocabulary is sometimes not the best chosen, and I think part of a diary comic is showing the moment itself. But I feel almost like the original anon really didn't care about the use of "dyke" as more than an angry afterthought.

oh def, it’s outrage to be outraged. people see a word they don’t like and see a person they deem unable to say the forbidden word and throw a fit. like curse words. except the reality is I am perceived as a butch lesbian woman and get called dyke, I’m already seen as a “dyke” and you can’t...pretend that’s not true. You can’t pretend that I’m not seen as not just a lesbian woman not just a butch lesbian woman but all the vitriol and hatred and disgust that gets imbued in dyke because that’s what people perceive even if the reality is I’m a tranny.    

[renthony]

"But we can reclaim it!"

Not when it's still being used in courtrooms, y'all. Not when bigots are claiming it as a legitimate defense of their hate crimes. It is still legal where I live. This is not a relic of the past even a little. People are still claiming this defense in order to try and get away with violent, brutal murder of queer people.

It has its own Wikipedia page breaking it down by country (and by state in the US). If you don't know what the hell I'm talking about, here's a link. Go read it.

I am 100% in favor of reclaiming plenty of things. I'm a queer faggot dyke degenerate and proud of it. But in the case of "gay panic defense," we really need to not muddy the waters about what that means, because it's still an active concern for plenty of people worldwide.

"Gay panic" doesn't mean "I had gay feelings and I panicked about it." "Gay panic" means "a homophobe hatecrimed a gay person and claimed that it's not assault because they learned the victim was gay (and must therefore be a predator) and panicked, which means the assault was justified."

It's really important not to forget about "gay panic" and "trans panic" defenses, because they still get claimed in courtrooms TO THIS DAY.

[seethestarsablaze]

Tw: slurs and transphobia

An open letter to instagram (and affiliated sites):

Almost every day I am welcomed to instagram to this screen. No notice of which photo was removed– no way to protest, fight, or repeal the removal. Nowhere to even send a complaint. It’s a guessing game what part of my identity, anatomy, or life is offensive enough to warrant removal. Meanwhile I get death threats, slurs thrown at me, I’m called a faggot, a tranny, told i’ll never be a man, that I’ll burn in hell, it goes on and on. Instagram never flags those comments, and even when I personally flag them they’re often just hidden from my view not actually removed. Hell those accounts are left to operate and troll whoever they like.

And before you say it’s just social media and just get off it: I share my journey so that young trans people know they’re not alone. So that I can help some kid know there are people like them. So I can be a light in someone’s darkness, the way that some people online were for me. I also share my journey so I can see where I’ve come from. I don’t share my journey to be policed and told that trans men’s nipples aren’t held to the same standards that cis men’s are. I don’t share my journey so I can be treated like a picture of my body in boxers is more provocative than every teen idol in Calvin kleins. My body is not a bad body, my body is not overly sexual. Society has deemed and fetishized the bodies of trans individuals so much that we can’t even post censored progress photos without being told we are a violation.

There is something inherently wrong with a system/platform that takes over a week to take down a catfish using my photos (this has now happened about 5 times) but within an hour removes my pre-op photos because my trans body “violates community guidelines.” A platform that allows for cyber bullying and hate speech, but nipples are where we draw the line. Even if you censor what society deems unfit, you are still unfit to be as body positive as Justin Bieber, who can flaunt in his calvins all he wants, but a trans person– god forbid. Now, I understand that images are only removed when they are flagged by someone who deems them inappropriate, but the algorithm at the end of that flagging system should recognize that gender isn’t always inherently reflected in the size of ones nipples, and that if Zach galifinaks can go topless, why can’t I if I’m feeling particularly body positive. (Don’t worry though, I spent $6k to remove those socially offensive parts of my chest, and still received about 100+ violent comments on a video of my surgery reveal).

When you tell a person that their body, and in turn their identity, hell, their very existence is a violation to a community that allows white supremacist pages, porn pages, and catfishing like it’s a sport to run rampant you are telling people that they are unfit to be within a community that has morals so low it makes the Trump Political team look progressive.

Instagram, or as we should call it Cistagram, perpetuates society’s idea that only cis passing bodies are valid (and we could go into depth about which cis passing bodies are actually allowed, because I have seen (among other things) plus sized women’s photos removed for violating these guidelines, which is 7 shades of fucked up) and that we should be ashamed of what we are and what we look like. Can you imagine after a lifetime of being told otherwise, finally being confident to be yourself and show the world, or hell, just the 25k people who happen to follow your page, just to open your page to see this message of violating community guidelines over and over again? By keeping the community “safe” you are endangering the lives of countless trans individuals. Letting other people (and some computer formula) dictate their worth. You are infringing on their right to express themselves, when they aren’t doing anything you’d remove a cis person’s photos for. You are emotionally harming people who have fought their entire lives to be seen, actually fucking seen, by keeping everyone else “safe.”

The next time I have a 12 year old come onto my page and tell me to burn in hell I’ll wonder who exactly we are keeping safe here. (Side note, why we allow minors to interact with adults is a problem in itself, that’s a real safety issue). The next time a mother tells me I’m a disgrace to my own parents I’ll wonder who is the problem here. The next time a 40 year old religious zealot tells me there’s only two genders I’ll wonder where my safety is then. The next time a young man with a confederate flag profile pic calls me a “faggot tranny dyke” (wouldn’t be the first time) I’ll wonder how many comments they’re allowed to make like that before they violate your supposed community guidelines and why their account remains unflagged (trust me, I’m reporting these people left and right yet they’re still going strong and my photos drop like flies).

This isn’t just about selfies, This is about representation. When your app and other apps flag trans bodies as inappropriate we become more taboo than we already are. We can’t even see ourselves reflected on shitty free social media applications in any capacity. When you tag our queer posts as NSFW and mature content you are othering us, and more importantly telling us that we are nothing more than a porn movie fetish.

Your slogan is “capture and share the world’s moments” but you’re excluding a world that accurately represents those of us outside the binary. And you’re leaving me guessing as to what part of my world I shared violated and offended this time.

Sincerely, My body is a good body and it doesn’t violate your community guidelines, trust me, I’ve read them more times than I can count.

#wedeservemorethancis #downwithcistagram #communityincludestrans #fckyourguidelines