oh my god oh my god oh my god I just texted a guy in the sense of "I just texted a guy" this is not a thing I do, I feel as stupid about this as I did in high school holy shit help
And if you're like "what, phoebe, you don't date guys...?" IDK. I JUST DK.
And he hasn't texted me back so now I'm in a panic but it's been sixty seconds, like I messaged him and came straight here to panic about it, so like I need to chill tf out about it
How do I do this?? How do I do any of this??
But we met at a Halloween party and he made me feel so cute and sexy and confident and funny and I have only very rarely in my life felt *that* good about myself, and boy did he ever do it right. I felt on top of the world the whole time I was with him.
I had a friendly conversation with someone I met at work. It was a show day, so Idk where he works, but he graduated HS from a nearby school (kinda close. Within an hour-ish of my old HS)
At the end of our second (and final) convo, he asked for my number. I said yes and we exchanged numbers.
(I have social anxiety, but I like making friends)
(especially when those potential friends are cat people)
I told my friends in Discord that I think I got hit on or something and one of them dissected the whole thing. We came to the conclusion that It was a friendly conversation.
One of the others, though, thinks that I should shoot my shot. One problem with that, though. I am very much Aro and Ace. Feelings and attraction confuse the hell outta me, nor do I have an interest in romantic or sexual relationships.
Anyway, I'm probably overthinking, like I said. I'm not really in the closet about this anymore, so I'll tell him eventually (read: pretty soon)
And of *course* this had to happen After my Pride pin got run over and destroyed! (it fell off my lanyard while I was helping my sister move. I didn't notice until It was pretty dark out. a miracle we managed to find It)
4 years at a voc tech school taking fine arts/photography
1 year of college as a fine arts major
I STILL DONT HAVE MY OWN DRAWING STYLE.
Like how does one accomplish this?
Granted I don’t draw often, I make a better photographer trust me. I’m just so frustrated that I cannot for the life of me develop my own drawing style. I can draw something that is physically in front of me or from a reference image but ask me to draw something out of my brain I’m shit out of luck.
We are well beyond canary in the coalmine warning levels with the way trans people and particularly trans women are treated on this site.
Maybe you've heard the metaphor of allowing wolves and sheep to share the same space, welcoming everyone. You end up with just wolves because allowing them in that space makes it unsafe for any sheep. Or the story about how a nazi goes into a dive bar and is refused service. The bartender then explains to someone else at the bar that if you serve them once they tell their friends and before you know it you're the nazi bar they all go to and normal customers don't feel safe.
Terfs and other bigots are seeing these targeted harassment campaigns succeed against trans women and rejoicing. They see Tumblr ban them and officially stand by those decisions as endorsement for their harassment. It's a sign to bigots across the internet that Tumblr is a good place for them.
And what's more is that a lot of us probably don't realize just how much trans women contribute to Tumblr. The women banned recently were sources of site-wide memes and posts I wasn't even aware originated from them.any years old memes and references can be traced back to trans women on this site.
How many of these folks have to be removed before this is no longer a site you want to be a part of it? Sure you cultivate your own experience, but you can't follow or interact with people who aren't here. And if I wanted to interact with the nazis and terfs I'd go to reddit.
I encourage everyone to reblog this. Trans women shouldn't have to be the only ones speaking out against the bigotry they're experiencing. They shouldn't be the only ones risking their blogs being nuked by staff. We have to stand with them.
learning that self deprecation isnt cool and just makes the people around you uncomfortable unironically improved my mental health a lot. like if you just stop saying negative shit about yourself you will genuinely like yourself more and other people wont be repulsed by your attitude and you will have more friends. it's true.