#Filipino family

[inkcurlsandknives]

filipino siblings with big age gaps are so difficult to write too because things like inherent hierarchy that comes with age, respecting your elders, always being compared to them, and, depending on the parents i guess, the younger sibling always being foisted unto ate or kuya because being older comes with the inherent responsibility/parentification... which then brews resentments and maybe a little bit of animosity...... especially when utang na loob to your parents (and by extension your immediate family) is so enforced? like. there's a saying here in the philippines that it's difficult for someone to get rich or for someone to amass enough savings to invest as an ate or kuya because all your money is expected to go to helping your parents raise your kababatang kapatid or bunso. source: i am an eldest child in a filipino family LMAO

I feel this in my bones. In the event of any family emergency/crisis I've got 5-6 people living in my house. I am in constant fear of my younger siblings potential divorces (which would result in them living under my roof). Being an Ate can be a bitch. Before my dad died he told me, "It's good you're so competent. But sometimes being the most competent person in the room is exhausting."

He was so right.

[mgasaloobinathinanakit]

AKO NA BA ANG MAY PROBLEMA?

Gusto ko lang po malamang kung may problema na ba ako sa pag iisip at sobrang sama ng ugali ko base sa mga nangyari sa akin.

Last year May lang ako bumukod at hindi na naging palamunin ng kuya ko. Simula kasi grumaduate ako ng college, wala akong stable na work. Di ako nakakatagal ng more than 2years sa isang company. Naging teller, naging CCA, naging HR, tapos CCA ulit, nag working student ako as crew before. Pinaka matagal ko lang 1year and 1mo. In short, wala akong ambag talaga sa fam namin. Papa and kuya ko yung main na nagtatrabaho sa bahay. Nung nag Pandemic, nagka work ako ng work from home pero di din tumagal kasi namatay papa ko. Dito na nagstart lahat, sa amin pa nakatira bf ko since nag wfh din siya pero di rin nagtagal. Mama ko naadik sa casino at nahumaling sa bago nyang lalaki, wala pang 1year namamatay si papa. Pinakilala niya pa as kumpare sa side ng pamilya ni papa. Kaya sobrang inis ako kay mama non. Pag di nabibigyan ng pera si mama, iiyak. Umabot sa point na mga kapatid niya, nag message sa akin, na parang kasalanan ko kung bat nagka ganon si mama. Nung mejo di na mahigpit ang pandemic, around May 2022, nag aral kami ng bf ko ng Japanese Language. Syempre, wala kaming income parehas, asa kami sa pamasahe na binibigay ng kuya ko, since sya nag introduce sa amin sa Japanese Employer na dati niyang amo. Nung nakatapos kami at nakapasa sa mga needed exams, naghihintay nalang ng processing, syempre wala kaming work, balik sa palamunin, March 2023 na nung nagkaroon kami ng work parehas ng bf ko, umuwi na din sya sa bahay nila. Nung May 2023, umabot na sa time na kami ng bunso kong kapatid nag away dahil lang sa ulam na di naipasok sa ref. Nagka sumbatan na wala akong ambag sa bahay, na si kuya may gastos lahat. Sinuntok ko kapatid ko dahil sa galit. Kasalanan ko ba na nag aaral kami ng Japanese kaya wala kaming income? Bakit may pag sumbat? Eh kahit nung nag aaral kami ng bf ko, kami lahat kumikilos sa bahay, linis, pakain ng aso, pagpapatae sa aso, hugas ng pinggan. Luto nalang di namin ginagawa since nagrereklamo sila ni kuya kapag di masarap. Si mama kasi, laging wala. Di mautusan sa gawaing bahay si kuya pati yung bunso tapos wala kaming ambag?

Edi umalis ako, pinatuloy ako ng bf ko sa bahay nila. Tinanggap naman ako ng fam niya. Nanay and dalawang nakababatang kapatid na babae nya ung kasama namin. Literal nasa isang kwarto lang kami nakatira and yung cr and sink, hati pa sa kapatid ng nanay niya. Bali 17 katao kaming nag sheshare.

Gumanda yung work ko bandang June 2023 kasi naging TL ako. Mataas ung sahod and wfh din, light lang din yung work, nakakapag part time pa ako. Pati work ng bf ko, gumanda din, tumaas din sahod. Di kami nagkakalayo. Kaya lang, yung nanay ni bf, grabe pala taas ng pride. Di namin alam kung kami ba ang mali na magsabi sa kanila na magtipid sa kuryente, sa pagkain, sa alcohol, sa tubig, since mahal na nga mga bilihin. Illegal kasi kuryente nila dati kaya kahit magdamag naka charge mga phone, and nakabukas ilaw pati TV, okay lang. Ngayon, parang lowkey na pinapaalis na kami ng nanay niya and ayaw na makipag usap sa bf ko dahil hirap sila sa kanya dahil binibilangan daw bawat galaw nila. Ang hirap gumalaw kasi ako ung nakikitira lang tapos nag aaway away sila. Lalo pa, bitbit ko ung aso namin na maingay bago matulog kasi gusto umihi sa cr, kaya kumakatok sa pinto. Ang sa amin lang, maging mindful lang sana sila sa mga binibigay namin. Feeling nila sinusumbat na sa kanila lahat, kami ba mali? Nakaka offend lang na, na aksidente ako sa jeep at di maka galaw kaya 3days akong nakahilata habang pinag sisilbihan ng nanay ni bf, tapos nung magpapasuyo sana na paihiin yung aso, nagalit kasi sinigawan daw at tinrato na parang katulong. (Nasigawan kasi mahina na pandinig ng nanay ni bf tapos naka earphone pa. Pero narinig naman yung kalampag ng aso). Dahil lang sa aso, low-key na kami pinapalayas. Gaslight na gaslight yung dating sa amin. Kasi nagpaalam si bf dati kung pwede bumukod na kami, oo naman daw, pero di namin maiwan kasi si bf ang breadwinner, ayoko pa rin gumawa ng pamilya na di financially stable. Sabay sabi ngayon na pwede naman bumukod na kami since yun naman daw gusto namin.

Pangalawang pamilya na to na di kami tanggap. Na ginawa naman namin lahat ng makakaya namin, binigay mga kaya naming ibigay, pero galit parin sila sa amin. Ako na ba ang problema? Kami na ba may problema?

Bumukod na ba kami? Pano mamumuhay sila nanay ni bf eh mga studyante pa mga kapatid niya. Di din sila pinapadalhan regularly ng tatay nila na Japanese. Nagsawa na din magpadala ng malaki kay nanay ni bf kasi pati mga pamangkin/kapatid niya pinapakain niya. (another issue na pinagsasabihan namin si nanay ni bf)

Hirap kasi pag nandito sa kanila, di lang fam ni bf binubuhay, pati mga kapatid at pamangkin ng nanay nya, parang dapat bigyan din. pag hindi, madamot kami. And kaya ayan, nagalit nanay nya sa kanya.

[theraedar]

Pogi miku 🇵🇭

Doin the cultural miku trend from twitter hehe

[kyonshi-8610]

doni filipino agenda

do you get me. his full name is jhon marcus donatello jesus m. de los reyes and he plays basketball has 3 siblings and works at his family's sari-sari store . he is also my friend and we play tumbang preso together

[temeyes]

Random but I just dreamt of Soap being a taho vendor

huy mare, let's be real. Soap would be a conyo-ass taho vendor.

(non-filos, here's a [vid] so you'd get what i mean by "conyo" HSAHSHASH)

[sofiaruelle]

My brother and i dont know how to hold a child. They're just so tinyyyyyyyyyy.

[wanderer-clarisse]

the Fëanorians (inspired by traditional Filipino culture)

[ultramagnys]

this ttg clip is how i feel every time i see a grown adult absolutely shitting on earthspark

[all-pacas]

how do you feel about the park-chase friendship?

love it :(

It's a bit like the Foreman-Taub odd couple friendship imo; on the surface they are wildly different but they just kind of click. Park is awkward and weird but she's so honest and blunt that I think it kind of works; even though Chase is often kind of cringing at her, there's no mixed messages or signals. I love how she just goes up to him and tells him we are friends and ignores his standoffishness, and I think it's good for Chase, too: he kind of needs someone to push at him, he's way too good at being complacent and just drifting along in his comfort zones. At the same time, even though he's kind of dismissive of her, he also… shuts her down? In a positive way? Park sometimes gets a bit wrapped up in her overthinking and goes ten steps ahead, you know what I mean? And Chase is pretty good at stepping in and going "No, it's fine, cut it out." He ends up being a little protective of her, which is very sweet: I loved him in Chase, busy with his everything is fine and so am I facade, realizing that Park isn't okay and dropping his dismissive attitude to walk her through a procedure. I love how, maybe because she is so blunt, he starts getting more comfortable opening up to her: he admits he's lonely. He admits he's jealous of her family. They share custody of her grandmother! When he offers to let her move in, Park does her usual "overthinking at a million miles an hour," and he's just like, it's fine, there are no ulterior motives, I don't care your grandmother is here.

At one point in S8 he tells Adams about the Forbidden Retcon Sister Lore. Adams immediately tries to frame this as Chase, you're such a good selfless person, staying and raising her like that, which is well intended but sort of misses the point (as he stresses: he hated and resented them). By contrast, when he admits to Park he's jealous of her family, Park doesn't try to reframe it or give platitudes; she actually makes a joke about it, and that's sort of the right response, for Chase at least. They end up just being weirdly blunt with one another, and it works for them. They even manage to have a heartwarming friendship moment about sex dreams:

PARK: Well, [a sex dream] could mean the obvious, that you want some of this. [she gestures to herself; Chase looks faintly appalled.] PARK: When will you learn that that look is insulting? Or it could just mean that we like each other. I'm weird, and you're pretty, but we connect. We feel safe. We trust each other. CHASE: [nods] Maybe.

And that's really nice.

The one thing I don't like is the way the show frames Park's crush on him. It's always tee-hee how cringe, how embarrassing that the weird "ugly" girl likes the pretty boy, isn't it funny, isn't it pathetic. Chase's lack of attraction for her is played as a joke (see the above exchange), and like. It's fine! If he isn't attracted to her! But it keeps getting played as haha he thinks she's gross, haha she has a crush on him. Maybe I'm just so soured on that, but I really don't like them as a ship. Especially because they have such a good friendship, because or despite the lack of attraction (and as with Chase and 13, he keeps trying to frame all relationships as sexual/romantic, so I think it's actually nice when he has ones that aren't). So I don't want them to kiss, but I do think they have a fantastic relationship.

There's some real post series potential here, btw. Chase is now House, and Park is now Chase, the overly loyal employee who probably isn't going to leave until he fires her. Chase gets to be the mentor and actually be friends with her, give her the support he wanted/sought from House: Park very easily slots into the role of deeply loyal and protective (I love her in Nobody's Fault, ready to throw down to defend Chase because we are friends) underling. I can just imagine some new applicant picking on Park to try and win Chase's favor and getting fired, or Park being a little Chase-ish tattletale and telling her boss all the hot gossip. Honestly I think between the two of them, Diagnostics is in great hands. (And they absolutely continue to share custody of Park's grandma)

[inkcurlsandknives]

I need a filipino Morticia Adams remake featuring this dress. OMG can you imagine??

A photograph circa 1930s in postcard format from the collection of Maria Lopez Ramirez shows an unidentified Filipina wearing a Terno “that illustrated the influence of surrealism, with giant spiderwebs emblazoned on the sleeve, pañuelo, and skirt, accented with spiders at the center.”

[dead-finches]

pavitr rly changed the spidersona designing scene huh

[kuyaednl]

nightlife Pagadian City Philippines

[fraternum-momentum]

the sad thing about good looking strangers is that I'll never see them again,,,,,,,,

[kyonshi-8610]

trying sometin out // id in alt // unrelated babblings in tags

[hermesmoly]

I think what prohibits me from liking the interpretation of Helen being 100% willing to abandon Sparta for Paris is not because of Menelaus but because of Hermione. I can totally get behind a Helen who loved Menelaus but was sick of her life in Sparta, and would be willing to leave that all behind for a spicer love life, but I just couldn’t imagine rooting for a Helen who would leave her daughter, her nine year old baby girl, behind for a guy