#EXCEPT MISOGYNY

[ninewhiskers]

making firestar the fourth cat was a shit decision sorry it didnt add a thing to the story and anyway if there HAD to be a fourth cat it should have been leafpool who FOUND THE FUCKING MOONPOOL BTW

[rasairui]

"The bigots up top think we're ALL fucked up! They want us ALL dead!" Hey that's cool dude you're right! Now are you saying this as a genuine expression of solidarity and community, or do you only bring this point up when the acknowledgement of intersectionality makes you uncomfortable? Is it a rallying cry, or a way to shut down people affected by intercommunity bigotry?

[balkanradfem]

I've managed to curate my small misogyny-free space both online and in real life, and now I'm no longer used to misogyny, it's no longer normal to me. So when I accidentally glimpse it, I'm not desensitized to it, I'm always shocked and unbelieving.

If I notice a m*n talking about a woman like she's 'just some ***' I'm immediately aware that this is in fact a demonic creature who needs to be burned. If I see anyone using a slur against women or pretending women are at fault for any of the world's issues, the hair on my neck stands up at the unbelievable amount of hatred.

Anyone implying that women should be in any way controlled, punished, forced to do anything against their will or dedicate their lives to anyone but themselves, is preposterous and villainous to me, I'm at loss that someone could even think that way about a half of the human population who are creators and administrators of life.

I know I am in a bubble, but it feels different knowing deeply in your heart that all of this is not normal, that casual or normalized hatred against women is absolutely insane, that it's sharp and painful and dehumanizing at every turn. It's insane to realize that women just have to live like this, believing all of that is normal, that I once lived like this, wondering what was wrong with me and why I couldn't just be what everyone was expecting me to.

I think still, if I can make a small space without this hate present in it, without anyone or anything implying we should be anything but free, anything but full complete human beings with absolute control over our lives, then we can strengthen and grow these spaces, and get more women in, have more women experience what life is like when hatred is removed. There is hope for women.

[nappingpaperclip]

y’all we r not beating exorsexism and misogyny by calling every transmasc that pisses u off a ‘theyfab.’ Idc if they are annoying or have dumbass opinions, literally using someone’s agab as an insult is wrong and treating transmascs as annoying little afabs is deeply misogynistic and transphobic. What happened to just calling people fucking idiots

[langernameohnebedeutung]

gonna say, something or someone being misogynistic is on its own a good enough reason not to like it or not to spend time with that person. It's not just that misogyny is so normalised that not watching a show or not spending with someone just because of misogyny is treated as not enough of a reason - it's also that as a woman, you are under constant scrutiny and constantly thrown tests to show that you are 'not one of the difficult ones', that you can 'take a joke'.

But 'your friend keeps saying degrading things about women' is a good enough reason not to hang out with that person or not to go to a gathering. 'i read the last book by his author and it was deeply misogynistic' is a good enough reason why you don't want to read things by that author anymore. 'This comedian specifically makes a lot of mean-spirited jokes about women' reason enogh not to watch that or see that show, even if your friends want to go. 'This content creator keeps going on weird tangents about women' reason enough not to watch their stuff or support them.

and it is especially a very good reason not to date someone.

[electricabsolution]

the further into buffy season 4 i get the more contempt i have for riley. he gets all sadboy and limps around whenever he remembers buffy is stronger and better than him. she’s compelled to apologize for it, every time!?!?! and he’s supposed to be the nice one out of all her boyfriends??

he thinks she literally DIES and is sad for a whole 2 seconds before hes back to being accusatory and shoving her around the place..... fuck this guy.

i love buffy. her most consistent character flaw is being a chronic man liker… which is valid but excruciating to watch 😔 mainly because i DOUBT it’s written to actually be a flaw, it’s probably just what joss bitchdon sees as a Universal Woman Trait. accommodating riley's feelings is priority #1 for her, unquestionably.

(she does reject spike, in the end, but id honestly argue that’s more to do with the writers’ feelings about the buffy/spike romance rather than anything to do with buffy herself…)

spike, faith, even angel… kind of funny how the ones who see and consistently remind buffy of her strength are also not categorical Good Guys. they have to be more aware of it cause they fight her, but… either way. she’s always gonna be the strongest even if nobody wants her to be.

[rhaenin-time]

Hot take that was a cold take before HotD but one of the main reasons behind emphasizing Daemon as "morally grey" is so when Aegon, Aemond, and Daeron far surpass him in atrocities you can comfortably say, "Oh. These are the baddies."

[spacestationstorybook]

shoutout to selfshippers with female f/os who are unjustly hated in fandom. because they "get in the way" of a popular ship, because they're "too mean," because they're villains or morally gray or just dare to do anything that inconveniences the protagonist. because they're rude, or not feminine enough, or feminine in the "wrong" way. because they fuck up and don't spend the rest of their life groveling at the feet of everyone in their life for daring to not be perfect all the time. your understanding, respect and love for them mean more than any of the crap other people say about them, and you fit with them perfectly. your ability to see past bad-faith and often downright misogynistic criticism is just more evidence of how perfect you are for them.

proship‏‏‎ ‎this is not for you. + this is not about bigots or sexual predators. that hatred is in no way unwarranted.

[bayetea]

I'm gonna froth at the mouth over this in the tags so bear with me but reason #1278038 why the way rick went about breaking up jiper was bad: rereading her povs in hoo where she gushes over jason feels like even more of an unreliable narrator queer girl comphet psychological horror story

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

intensely funny to see people freaking out at tommy mentioning the dsmp like I don’t even watch him much lately but he takes any opportunity to bring it up he fucking loves that server and c!tommy y'all literally haven’t watched a single one of his videos ever in your life.

[infiniteglitterfall]

pretty please, my fellow progressives

Could we please all keep in mind that the concept of "The Jews In General, or A Specific Type Of Jew, Controls Education, Government, Media, and/or Banking", is a longstanding antisemitic trope?

And most of all, that it is false??

No, a marginalized group does not also control education, the government, the media, and/or banking?

No, Jews do not secretly control these things and just pretend to be marginalized? No, Jews have not secretly been accumulating power since the Holocaust, granted by too-generous gentiles, out of pity?

No, it isn't better if you just mean a specific subgroup or kind of Jews. It's still specifically Jews.

It's like when people who hate trans/queer people are fine with rich white cis gay men. So they think it's not bigoted to blame "people with blue hair and pronouns" for the downfall of society.

We all know this means, "I only see some of you as human like me. You have to speak and act a certain way to count. Everyone in your group has to pass a test to get into the Good group."

Doesn't work.

Sure, it gives them plausible deniability to the people who matter to them. But everyone else can see exactly how they feel.

We've all known for years that it's bad to think of a marginalized group as having some "good ones." Rein it the heck in, please.

Because YES, all of those examples are ones I've seen implied, or stated outright, over and over, within the progressive community. This month alone.

[the-witch-of-woods-beyond]

hate how team green stans jump through hoops to justify alicent’s wrongdoings but then end up backing themselves into a corner.

they want her to be this poor little victim forever stuck at fifteen and ignore the fact that she put her daughter through the exact same thing when she was even younger. but then they also try and say that she was ruling the kingdom for decades while viserys was ill and was the best monarch, and ignore the fact that she was just attacking the heir constantly and used her standing to enforce the laws that were already there. she expected everyone else to suffer and accept their place because she believed herself better than those around her for laying down and accepting her suffering and she attacked those who wanted to benefit themselves and others in a system set against them - rhaenyra fighting for her rightful place as heir despite being a woman. she also silenced others with pain - dyana, the serving girl who was assaulted by aegon (and this was not just a one-of occasion cause the maids were literally shown to be scared of aegon and he is canonically a vile person.)

[langernameohnebedeutung]

I love that Gentleman Jack as a show is advertised as Anne Lister being this swashbuckling womaniser who just seduces the ladies left and right with her rake-ish charmes. And then you watch the show and really her secret is that she sincerely and deeply loves all her girlfriends and treats them like human beings and listens to them and that her heart breaks a thousand times when she loses one of her partners to obligatory marriage and she tells them their opinions are important to her and has deep conversations with them about serious topics that men would find unsuitable and she makes it clear that she is interested in what they tell her. Like...that's her entire secret here. She cares.

[real-fire-emblem-takes]

I've noticed a lot of the time male healers are quirky dudes who you wouldn't expect to be healers and female healers are generically kind religious priestesses. Any male healer who is more feminine is presented as the latter as well. It'd be cool to see more female healers who, for one reason or another, you wouldn't expect to be healers at all. Let the ladies play with typical cleric tropes

The only exception that comes to mind rn is L'arachal she's so spunky and funny

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[twisted-wonderland-but-gayer]

Heya guys I greatly appreciate the requests but please remember this is a male/masc/Gn Leaning blog. I don't write explicitly female readers/yuus. Sorry

[s-exy-sapphillean]

Allison gets so much bullshit from some people in this fandom

Her bitchiness and her being an asshole gets overplayed so much by some people as if kevin day isn't bitchy asshole supreme. Like it's kind of a relevant characterization of kevin that he's an asshole; it gets brought up a lot. All of the monsters are fucking assholes except nicky. But ig it's worse when a woman does it? Because people will write entire essays about how actually they're not really assholes because it's all because of trauma, but of course allison just is a bitch.

And yeah andrew choking kevin is a big significant moment for their dynamic and andrew's characterization but also far from the first or only person andrew choked. He almost broke allison's neck for a hit aaron absolutely deserved (because he was being an asshole)