#DatingStandards

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Why Sleeping with Chad Isn’t an Achievement: The Brutal Reality of Modern Dating

You’re Not Special. You’re Just in Line.

Modern dating, especially for women, has become a game of illusions. Thanks to social media, dating apps, and an inflated sense of self-worth, many women genuinely believe they are living in a movie where they are the director, producer, and star. Every choice they make, every encounter, and every man they "conquer" is part of some grand narrative that places them at the center of importance.

But here��s the harsh, unfiltered truth: You’re not special. You’re just the next girl on the roster.

The Chad Fallacy: Mistaking Access for Value

For the uninitiated, "Chad" is the top-tier guy—physically attractive, successful, dominant, and effortlessly charismatic. He’s the 6’2 gym rat, the high-status executive, the social media influencer drowning in DMs. He’s the fantasy. And like a moth to a flame, women chase him because they believe being "chosen" by Chad validates their desirability.

Here’s where reality slaps hard: Chad isn’t "choosing" you. He’s using you.

Women mistake access for accomplishment. Sleeping with an elite guy isn’t an achievement when he’s running through a hundred other women just like you.

Women overvalue their sexual appeal but undervalue relationship worth. Just because Chad wants to sleep with you doesn’t mean he wants to commit to you.

You’re interchangeable. Today, it’s you. Tomorrow, it’s another girl with the same exact features, attitude, and Instagram-filtered selfies.

Women Live in Fantasy, Men Live in Reality

One of the biggest differences between men and women in dating is perception vs. reality.

Women think they are starring in a personal rom-com. Everything is a storyline. Every heartbreak is a "learning experience." Every hookup is "empowering."

Men live in a results-based reality. They know that if they want high-value women, they must build themselves into high-value men. There’s no safety net, no fantasy, no "divine timing."

Most women aren’t dealing with reality; they’re self-directing a movie where they think Chad is the leading man. The problem? Chad isn't reading from the same script.

Hypergamy in Action: Women Always Want More

Biologically and socially, women are wired for hypergamy—always seeking the best possible option.

They don’t date down unless they have to.

They don’t respect men they settle for.

They equate attention with long-term desirability.

This is why sleeping with Chad feels like a "win"—because it confirms the fantasy that they belong at the top. The ugly truth? Chad doesn’t look at them the same way.

The Brutal Cycle: From "Desirable" to "Discarded"

Most women ride this delusion hard until reality hits:

18-25: Peak Options Era

Every guy wants her.

Chad is an option.

Feels like she’s "winning."

26-30: The Wall Approaches

Chad stops texting back as often.

She’s still "hot," but now competing with younger versions of herself.

"Why are all the good men taken?"

30+: The Search for a Safety Net

Tries to "reinvent" herself as relationship material.

Starts looking for men she rejected a decade ago.

Suddenly values "nice guys" when Chad doesn’t answer.

The final, brutal realization? She was never in control. She was just a temporary option.

What Men Have Always Known (That Women Ignore)

Sleeping with someone who has options doesn’t make you special. If anything, it makes you disposable.

Men must create value; women are born with it but depreciate over time.

Your sexual past matters to high-value men. Chad might not care, but the man you want to commit to? He absolutely does.

Men don’t wait at the finish line for the girl who "had her fun." The high-value men women want are already locked down by younger, lower-body-count women.

The Takeaway? Stop Playing Yourself.

Chasing Chad is a losing game unless you’re okay with being a footnote in his dating history. If you’re fine with that? No problem. Just don’t lie to yourself that it means something.

For women who actually want long-term success in dating, the answer is simple: Value commitment while you still have the leverage. Because once the illusion fades? The men you want… no longer want you.

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Why High-Value Men IGNORE Women | 10 REASONS (MUST KNOW)

In this thought-provoking video, we delve deep into the intriguing topic of why high-value men may sometimes appear to be distant or disinterested in women. Join us as we explore the various factors that could contribute to this behavior, offering valuable insights and shedding light on the complex dynamics at play.

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#datingstandards #whatisacceptable #physicalstandards #justathoughthere ...

Funny how so many women refuse to see the hypocrisy in themselves. Probably why so any are Liberal.

I didn’t imply or use “all” anywhere. No hate.

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Dear Adult World, ( Pt 1 )

He’s not a boy... He’s a man!

Transitioning my dating standards

Love Love Love! Oh, how it feels to fall. Luke, 6′2 curly fro, maybe jew (jk)? Who knew how quickly I’d fall. We met on 4/4/19 at Lenny’s at around 9:17. Surprise! He came equipped and galaxy themed beauty smile; it hit me like beams. The conversation was neat, chilling was cool... We met again the next day after Sunday school.

Growing up is and realizing you can’t have the same standards for guys like when you were in high school. When I turned 18 I became an avid dating apps user. I mean I was swiping left, right, up and down. You name the app I have an account. While since the time I turned 18 me using dating apps has significantly reduced within the few months between I have come to the realization since my last relationship that high school relationship standard holds absolutely now real-world function. I met this guy name luke on an app named Hinge. No sponsorship inculded. We didn’t exactly hit it off through casual text but he offered to take me out and I obliged. Next thing I know we are talking as if we’ve met before, but for now let's ignore the emotional connection for a second lets checks the stats. Full-time Job, Has a car, Goes to School, VOTES, Invests in stocks and last but not least refers to me as a WOMAN. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, you heard it right. He refers to me as a woman. Now I’m not trying to indicate that once you hit 18 HE MUST have stats like this but what I am indicating towards is a change is a way responsibility is framed with language and within self and he happened to be a good example of that. As we hit the raging pothole that is adult we must understand that there is a difference in the behavior of a child and an adult. These differences may be present through increased financial responsibility or choice usage of wording, or maybe even a combination of both. Some way somehow growth must happen whether is slow and steady or fast and abrupt other us ( people in the dating pool within the adult world) are in for a big babysitting gig. 

                                                        Love, Hugs and all thing Consentual,

                                                                             Leebari Vizor

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Man or Bear? Women, Are You Daft?

"You Want a Masculine Man, But You’re Scared of Men? Make It Make Sense."

The Brutal Reality: You’re Identifying Yourself as an Idiot

The sheer lack of self-awareness in some women today is astonishing.

One minute, they’re screeching about how “men are dangerous!” The next? They’re sliding into Chad’s DMs, planning their next night alone with a 6’3” broad-shouldered ‘scary’ man who’s about to rearrange their guts.

Which one is it, sweetheart?

If you’re genuinely terrified of men, why do you willingly isolate yourself with the most dominant, physically intimidating ones when it suits you? If men are so scary, why does your survival instinct conveniently switch off when Chad texts, “You up?”

Because the truth is this: You’re not scared of men—you’re just full of shit.

Man or Bear? Pick a Struggle.

These same women will say, “Men are violent! They’re unpredictable! I feel unsafe!”—as they happily pursue the most hyper-masculine men available.

You’re choosing men who could crush you with their bare hands… and then crying about it?

You desperately want a strong, masculine, dominant man… but also claim they make you “nervous”?

You act like men are wild animals, but you still chase the biggest, most dangerous ones?

Tell me—would you willingly walk into a bear’s den and then complain it could eat you? No?

Then why the fuck are you alone in a room with a Chad who could bench-press you and your bad decisions?

If men were truly terrifying, you wouldn’t even risk flirting, let alone throwing your legs in the air like a red carpet invitation.

The Men Who Agree With You? Either Gay, Simping, or a Future Cat Lady

Let’s talk about the only men who co-sign this nonsense.

There are exactly three types of men who will nod along when women claim that “men are scary”:

Gay Men – Because they aren’t competing for you. Your paranoia about masculinity doesn’t affect them.

Simps & Male Feminists – The desperate ones agreeing with everything you say in hopes you’ll reward them with sex. Spoiler: You won’t.

Future Cat Ladies – Childless Independent Women who foolishly chose to die alone—To be found by neighbors, half eaten by their cats.

Meanwhile, masculine men—the ones women ACTUALLY want—don’t give a single fuck about this fake fear-mongering. Why?

Because real men aren’t out here begging for women’s approval. They aren’t playing along with the “men are scary” narrative. They don’t have to.

If Men Are So Dangerous, Why Are You Alone With Them?

Women claim they’re terrified of men but voluntarily spend:

✔ Nights alone with men.

✔ Going home with men.

✔ Fucking men who could crush them like a soda can.

If you’re genuinely scared of men, why aren’t you running in the opposite direction?

Oh, that’s right—because you’re lying to yourself.

The next time a woman cries “men are scary”—ask her what she was doing last Friday night.

If the answer is "getting my back blown out by a tall, strong Chad", then guess what?

She was never afraid of men.

She was only afraid of men she doesn’t want.

Final Thought: Stop Playing Both Sides

You can’t scream “men are scary” while risking your life in the arms of the biggest, strongest men you can find.

You can’t demand a tall, masculine, dominant man and then turn around and claim he’s scary when you don’t get what you want.

You can’t pretend masculinity is dangerous, yet drop your panties for it on demand.

You don’t fear men.

You fear accountability.

And real men don’t respect that.

💬 What do YOU think? Are women actually scared of men, or is it just convenient when it suits them? Drop your thoughts in the comments and let’s debate. 👇

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