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there's an interesting thing rtd said from the commentary about the "real mom" line:
i get not liking the line but like. it's an intentional mistake and an intentional character choice, and something we'll return to in the future, and that seems like important context to have when talking about the episode.
#ruby's life just massively changed and it's not like she's rehearsing this conversation; she messed up/said something she didn't mean#AGAIN i'm not saying you can't criticize this decision or disagree with it but i think it's important to have this context#that it's an intentional choice on the writer's part#and not a reflection of the character's or writers' real beliefs about adoption.#doctor who#ruby sunday#fifteenth doctor#delia.txt
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Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.
NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.
I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.
The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.
Because it's so hard to exist in this world.
My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:
Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)
Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.
Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.
Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.
Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.
Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s
I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.
So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".
Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)
Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.
If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.
NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD
Stigma in the DSM
Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)
"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."
(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)
#actuallynpd#signal boost#actuallyautistic#mental health awareness#narcissistic personality disorder#people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias#(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar#mentally ill or otherwise ND)#the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there'#no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo#anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that#he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful#misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included#several personality disorders. one of which was NPD.#and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and#he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he#was glad he did#fun times#or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to#support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma#bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me#trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them.#again..... fun times
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I could wax poetic about why Viktor's League backstory is inherently more interesting and more thematically resonant than where they went with him in Arcane season 2, but the cold hard truth is
a man covered in grease and probably blood who builds his own body out of scraps with his own two hands, can in fact build any contraption out of dinted metal sheets and a few screws including a deathray, performs deeply inadvisable operations on desperate but consenting people with his own tools, generates a cult following against his wishes because of his ability to inadvisably help people but the power's all his now anyway so he may as well, wants to clean up and save the undercity but is (only sort of) misunderstood as a walking Geneva Convention violation a freak and a supervillain, torments his arch-nemesis on at least a weekly basis and probably homoerotically hunts him for sport, had his life's work misattributed to people in the ruling class and is angry and tragic about it forever, tries to rip out his own emotions and is unsuccessful but pretends like he was not, is actually oddly kind to children, and is at the end of the day still just some guy,
is just hotter okay
#arcane#viktor#viktor arcane#machine herald#arcane critical#viktor the machine herald#and yes it IS more interesting and more thematically resonant and doesn't unnecessarily launch the story's stakes into orbit#as usual i'm mashing his 2011 and 2016 lore together but that seems the natural course these days because there's good in both#the conversation around viktor's league changes is unfortunately mostly about appearances from what i can tell when really#the issue is themes and story and what is ACTUALLY cooler and more interesting as character writing#and not just -bigger stakes are automatically better- because they are really really not
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No, Bioware, you don't get to try to be cute and make jokes in-game about Rook eavesdropping on the companions' conversations when you're the ones who made the (debatable) creative decision not to let us actually have a proper conversation with our companions and get to know them by asking them questions like we were able to in every previous game.
"Hahaha, Taash just called you out on eavesdropping. Look how witty and meta we are." Okay, but how else are we supposed to learn anything about our companions?
#dragon age#dragon age the veilguard#veilguard critical#thanks bioware now i'm annoyed again#i never thought i'd say this about a dragon age game#but veilguard has almost too much party banter imo#i could have done with 75% less party banter#in exchange for the ability to actually have a proper conversation with the companions myself
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Then why are you here? What is it you want? I want to free you.
#critical role#cr lb#ygifs#cr3#imogen#liliana temult#maybe a bitch cried and that bitch was me#anyway the psychology of imogen using her responses as questions to get liliana to talk it out more it's so good#the 90 episode payoff is SO GOOD FOR ME#the TWO 31 rolls like the dice said it's laura bailey guys#also like it has to be ludinus planted that liliana's go-to is the ''children'' like something's not right there matt#it's so reset to factory settings and strange that she's hollowly committed to a concept that isn't even actually real#but it Was real for liliana when she first set out to protect her daughter#like how really All There can you be when your work husband is ludinus daleth#imogen getting her conversation I'm just framing it
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I’m obsessed with the way Laudna says, “Here Ashton, I made you a doll, because you’re a child.” The way those words are so cutting, so derisive.
But then Ashton says, “Thank you. I love it. I’ve never had a doll.” Completely genuine.
And Laudna smiles, and Laudna says, “I love children.”
And even though she was angry, so angry, so angry she thought she might kill Ashton when she saw him. She still made him a doll. And he loves it. And they have such a beautiful conversation.
There’s just something about how that conversation could have been so cold, so angry, but it wasn’t, and I’m obsessed with it.
#i’m just rambling but!! that whole conversation gave me chills honestly#critical role#cr3#c3e78#cr spoilers#kk talks about stuff#kk watches cr3#ashton greymoore#laudna
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Briaus: so I shouldn't try to fuck everyone. Can I just pick a few?
Dorian: yes sure I advise it
Braius: hmmm how about Orym
Dorian: WAIT-
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I do just keep thinking about Essek listening to Ludinus talk.
Essek, who will be on the run for the rest of his life for the deal he made with Ludinus.
Essek, who handed over unfathomable power to Ludinus believing it to be for the greater good and embroiling an entire continent in war as a result.
Essek, who helped orchestrate acts of espionage searching for the priceless artifacts that he had handed to Ludinus which the Empire, under Ludinus's puppeting, used to claim themselves righteous—defended themselves against unlawful invasion—in their war.
Essek, who once believed Ludinus a like-minded peer before discovering that in his eyes he was only something to be used and cast aside once his purpose was served.
Essek, who has seen the scars carved upon his dearest friends by those Ludinus has enabled as a means to his ends.
Listening to Ludinus speak of the damage that the gods have wrought. The wars they have waged at the cost of others. The way they have coerced and manipulated mortals into enabling their ends. The lives they have ruined and left in their wake without a care.
There are no gods walking Exandria, but there are monsters.
#VERY funny I drafted this like an hour ago and now he's having this conversation with laudna. BEST BOI#but god he truly dissociated the entire conversation. like imagine.#personally I think he deserved to rip ludinus's body apart with his bare hands but yanno. I get it. that doesn't serve the narrative.#however orym really should've slashed his throat#essek thelyss#critical role#cr spoilers#cr meta
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i do think it’s very important that liam pointed out specifically that no matter how hardheaded orym is in what he believes he doesn’t let that stop him from seeking dorian out for comfort and wanting dorian close to him and dorian quickly reciprocating. i think that’s especially important when so many people thought that their opposing sides would drive them further apart (especially on orym’s part) when in actuality we learned that orym’s love for dorian is SO fucking strong that it it supersedes his hardheadedness which when you remember who orym is, is actually a big fucking deal
#*#critical role#dorym#it’s never said so outwardly but when liam and/or robbie decide to give us a moment between those two they fucking take it#it might not be a kiss or saying i love you but it’s said in seeking dorian out after disagreeing in an intense conversation#and it’s said by dorian holding orym close and stroking his hair#we may very well not get an outward declaration of love until like the final night before the final battle#but their love is shown in every moment dorian desperately heals orym in battle#and it’s shown every time orym hand at his sword stands beside dorian in protection and bravery
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4 am thoughts:
I think the rise in women identifying as nonbinary is in a large part a direct response to TIMs. TIMs adamantly claim they’re women because they “feel like women” and that causes internal conflict in actual women. They don’t “feel like women”. Instead of coming to the conclusion that literally nobody “feels like a woman” because being a woman isn’t a feeling, it’s a biological reality, they convince themselves that because they don’t have those gender feelings, they’re clearly not a woman. It’s honestly really sad and a great example of female socialization. Don’t question the men, it’s not your place to correct them and you don’t want to cause problems by doing so, instead figure out why it’s you who must be wrong.
#i’ve had conversations with gendies where they’ve literally admitted to this by the way#radfem safe#terf safe#gender critical
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there's something really lovely about how, because the cast in their roles as the Mighty Nein put in care and effort into their relationship with an NPC designed as a minor antagonist, Essek became the person he is in 843 PD and in turn might be the reason why Laudna survives and escapes Delilah's grasp.
#cr spoilers#critical role#it feels very meaningful that as we see just how much ludinus has spent 900 years being a haughty ball of slime#that we see a small amount of kindness given potentially save a stranger years later#really like ludinus could have shaped this world into something far better and he decided to make it worse#essek thelyss#laudna#their conversation is really great too
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*I worship you Tumblr please don’t remove it
Let's take off the jealousy, erase the rotten beneath, so we can polish this story, so pretty and clean.
#love his conversation with Kabru in bible#*you don’t have to tell everything to everyone#*just left the story as simple and pretty as you can#aghhhh#idk why but this part is just so satisfying some how#like bro it’s ok to move on and stop criticizing yourself#😭😭😭#dungeon meshi#dungeon meshi spoilers#mithrun#milk snake#SquareCloud
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Adding to the list of "Groundbreaking Knowledge that only the Bells Hells know":
The Matron's actual face
The identity of the two gods holding the divine gate
Details about the Matron's rite of ascension
The god's opinion on the Luxon
The Matron's feelings on things in general
They really have a "you can chat with us, take a load off" vibe as a party
#critical role#cr spoilers#they're like the kind of people who strangers feel comfortable walking up to and starting a conversation#some of my family members are like that
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If i was smarter than i currently am, i would write a long and thoughtful passage about parallels between Caduceus and Fjord, the weight of responsibility on their shoulders, placed there from a very young age, about family (Via blood and otherwise) and its importance, involuntary loneliness and enduring hardship all by yourself, concluding with the fact that they discovered kinship and family within each other which is really no surprise after all. But sadly, i'm not, so for now i'm gonna lament amazing dynamic that they had, which seems to be lost and forgotten by most in favour of other more romance leaning relationships. A shame, really. Will always be one of my favourites, this one.
#Caduceus Clay#Fjord Stone#sorry king needed the surname#or#fjord tusktooth#?#cr fjord#the mighty nein#critical role#cr2#can you tell that i'm inhaling cr comics one by one?#text post#the mighty nein origins#gosh you have no idea how sad i am because with each reunion it seems#like they're more and more further apart from each other#PLEASE GIVE ME FJORD AND CAD CASUALLY CONVERSING AND LAUGHING WITH EACH OTHER#That's all that i want!!!#PLEASE
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its weird how as israelis, or even just as jews in general, as soon as you extend sympathy towards the people who were massacred on october 7th u immediately get blamed for "supporting israel" and "not holding your state accountable".
when its like. WE are the ones who have been fighting non-stop to make our government and military officials take responsibility for this. WE have been begging our leaders to take accountability while u guys are sitting there overseas typing out shit like "its actually okay to murder babies as long as theyre settler babies"
#like assuming we're not criticizing Israel just bc we're not doing it on here or not doing it in english is stupid#blogging is not activism and my anti-occupation activism will always be offline and with other israeli and palestinian leftists.#why would i want to write essays in english criticizing israel-#only for them to be spread among people who dont know the littlest thing about this situation#and dont have any meaningful thing to add to the conversation?#jumblr#ישראבלר
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one hilarious example of veilguard's writing doing the quite aggressive hand-holding during a conversation to make sure people don't miss the important info. this is all in the same scene btw:
in case you missed: elgar'nan is HERE. right NOW. unlike ghilan'nain, who isn't.
i've adhd and auditory processing issues so i get easily distracted by the most random stuff but even i felt annoyed by the constant bombardment of repeated info over and over throughout the main quests
#and then they'll give you a quest summary at the end in case you forget what you just did#oh and don't worry there'll be a purple pop-up to remind you during conversations too#like i think harding told my dwarf rook that dwarves can't dream four times at the beginning of the game alone#not to mention puzzle commentary etc#datv critical#veilguard critical#vik.txt#datv spoilers#dragon age
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