#Change the Narrative

[craftheaven]

[themoodyestj]

This Is Not Love. This Is Abuse.

Sorry, still on that unfortunate IG edit:

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Let’s get one thing straight—humiliating your partner in public, mocking him every chance you get, isn’t love. Withholding support when he’s struggling, when he’s exhausted, when he just needs someone to stand by him, isn’t love. Smugly high-fiving your friend at your own wedding, treating him like a trophy you won instead of a person you vowed to respect, isn’t love.

And yet, some people still have the audacity to call this a “powerful woman.” No. This is an abuser in disguise.

Imagine this scenario: A man constantly puts down his wife in front of others, belittles her efforts, makes sure she knows he’s the real success in the relationship. Imagine he signs autographs saying, “She’s mine,” like she’s a thing instead of a person. Imagine he uses their children to shield himself whenever she dares to push back against his behavior.

Would anyone hesitate to call that abuse? Would anyone rush to defend him, saying “Oh, she’s just overreacting”? No. But switch the roles, and suddenly, people find excuses. They call it “confidence,” “feminine energy,” or “just how relationships are.” They say, “Well, he’s the breadwinner, so what’s the problem?” As if financial success somehow means he deserves to be treated like dirt.

Let’s be very clear:

Mocking your partner in public is not banter. It’s humiliation.

Undermining his efforts, no matter how much he provides, is not equality. It’s cruelty.

Using your children as human shields because you’re afraid of facing the consequences of your own actions is beyond toxic. It’s manipulative. It’s disgusting.

A woman like this doesn’t love her husband. She owns him. In her mind, he exists to serve her image, her ego, her need to feel superior. And if he ever dares to push back, to express frustration, to show any normal human reaction to being emotionally gutted over and over again—suddenly, he’s the problem.

And the worst part? People will believe her.

Because a man who is abused isn’t seen as a victim. He’s seen as weak. “Why doesn’t he just leave?” people will say, ignoring the fact that emotional abuse chains you just as tightly as any cage.

And now, thanks to social media, people don’t just excuse this kind of abuse—they romanticize it.

Just look at that IG edit, the woman smirks and says, “If men are that easy to manipulate, they deserve to be taken advantage of.” And what’s the response? Are people outraged? Do they recognize the absolute horror of that statement?

No. They swoon. They cheer. They put soft filters over the clip, set it to some sultry song, and call it “iconic.”

Meanwhile, the male character in the scene—who, instead of defending himself, plays along and says, “I’m easy to manipulate, why don’t women take advantage of me?”—is reduced to a joke. People don’t see his words for what they are: a quiet, defeated admission of being broken down, of craving affection so much that even manipulation seems better than being ignored. They don’t see the tragedy in it. They see a meme.

Think about that. Really, think about that.

If that same scene had a man saying, “If women are that easy to manipulate, they deserve to be taken advantage of,” the internet would burn itself to the ground in rage. There would be no soft-filtered edits, no praise, no twisted admiration. There would be condemnation. But when it’s a woman? Suddenly, it’s just aesthetic.

This is not romance. This is not love. This is ABUSE.

And it needs to stop. Because if you defend this, if you excuse it, if you let it slide because “it’s different when a woman does it”—you are part of the problem.

If it wouldn’t be okay in reverse, it is not okay now.

PS: I'm not even going to tag celebrities or fandoms in this one. This is not even about any of those anymore. This is about common decency and knowing what's right from what feeds your inner delulu.

[thejournallo]

Daily Reminder:

Change your mindset, change your life, and manifest the shit out of your life just because you can!

[psycheetamore]

Just a quick reminder for you girlies (mfx) out there - change the narrative that bugs you in your head

[dinosaurwithablog]

While I'm healing from oral surgery, I've been watching the shows that I used to watch when I was a child. I've watched The Andy Griffith Show, My Three Sons, The Flying Nun, and Gidget so far. It's refreshing to see wholesome TV where there's no violence or subterfuge or people acting poorly. It's fun and funny and the people are charming. They are being helpful and acting like I wish people still did on TV. Heck, I wish that people focused on acting this way for real. I miss TV programming like this. It reinforces positive thoughts and actions, and it's a great example of how we should act in life. I think that they should start creating programs like these again. We should insist on it and stop watching the horrible shows that have replaced these kinds of shows. Considering what is considered entertaining and is common viewing fare these days, it's no wonder that sooooooo many people have anxiety. We should have programs that teach our kids to behave kindly and in a positive manner. Shows that set a good example. I feel happier from watching these shows. I'm gonna watch them more for sure. It's great to see people acting nicely and being kind to each other. TV should have a social responsibility to reinforce these ideals, not the violent, selfish, manipulative garbage that is prominent in programming today. The only somewhat violent show that I watched today is Bugs Bunny. He's so charming that he can get away with it, in my opinion 😁 thankfully, there's nothing graphic in those cartoons. I am enjoying TV more today than I have in a long, long time. 😊😍🙏🏼

[emberintayson]

I hope it’s obvious from this post that I adore @artistotel and the zine they made. Please please do something - make create distribute talk protest support donate volunteer.

[rosielindy]

Why should we let fear keep us quiet given the knowledge that we are, without doubt, the majority? Look at the UK and France. The majority of humans there have made the choice to embrace ideals of love rather than hate. We the people will do the same, starting now. Drop the fear of harm for speaking out, the alternative is worse. The key is to be selective.

For example, my neighborhood is not a place where I feel safe speaking openly, so I won’t put my focus there. Instead I will pick more neutral ground and use my intuition to read people who might be receptive. The math is in our favor. Choose your battles wisely and watch your ass.

The crassness and cruelty of some online social interactions have left us all looking around every corner for the boogeyman, like terrified children. Don’t get me wrong, there are some messed up people out there, but our fears are oversized. There are so many more “real” people around us, plenty to build community and common understanding through personal interactions.

The positive energy will expand exponentially with every conversation, I promise. We have the collective power to change the narrative in our country. I know it’s scary but we’ve got to try.

[theanonfirefly]

I'M ANGRY.

Unlearning years of conditioning when it comes to communication skills, relationship repair skills, views on sex and purity culture, emotional regulation or rather lack of it. It's no damn joke.

So, yes, I'm angry, so angry that I have hot tears streaming down my face and my heart aches for how things could have been different.

BUT, IM THANKFUL.

I get to do the work, I get to relearn behaviors and handle my emotions effectively, I get to build better relationships than those I've had in the past.

So, although my heart breaks, from those cracks and crevices colorful flowers bloom and slowly fill in the gaps. One day, i believe my heart will be whole again adorned by love and joy.

[beautsentences]

Restoration = Re-story-ation

What a beautiful idea, that the restoration of anything — your peace of mind, for example, or the vitality of our Earth — depends upon learning how to tell ourselves new stories.

Robin Wall Kimmerer, Braiding Sweetgrass.

[mosscaller]

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[fiercemillennial]

A Mother's Choice: Nuances and Questions in the Michigan School Shooting Verdict

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[hepodcast]

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[themoodyestj]

genuinely asking like what is your stance on danneel and jensens relationship, and how do you feel about Jensen stans? And the recent post about women being subtle abusers towards men, is that directed towards danneel? Are you saying that danneel is genuinely mentally abusive towards Jensen? Again genuinely asking because I’m curious no hate at all

Hello Anon,

I apologize in advance for the short answer, things in life are speeding up again. What do I feel about Jensen stans? Well, not all Jensen stans are made the same, so I'm going to talk about the delulu ones, the gatekeepers.

There are some stans who put him in an impossible pedestal, they want him everywhere, doing everything... except living his own life. People who objectify him and have zero respect for him, tagging him in their delulu episodes, wanting his attention, chasing him down the street for photos. I mean, these people do everything and want everything... except letting him live his life.

Regarding my post, yes, it includes Danneel, and takes her as an example, but it extends to all abusive women. I do see some behaviors in her that lead me to believe there is abuse, and I don't ignore those red flags. My mutuals sure have a lot of evidence on it, feel free to browse. @lightofraye is one of them.

But also, I kept it vague because I have been noticing a lot of sexual bias regarding this subject. Just because men are strong and have a career, it doesn't mean they can't be abused. In fact, I know a lot of men who'd rather take a slap than give it, because they were raised to never lay hand on a woman, or mistreat her in any way.

And some women take advantage of that. And sadly, some people applaud it and call it girl power.

[sangronxx]

It hurts because I can’t have you the way I want to. I’d cherish you & give the world in anyway you want it.

call your power back to you, bro. Why you using the law of assumption to block blessings? Why you movin all sad

[musicftmisfits]

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