#Believing in Yourself

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Detaching Love from External Factors: Building Genuine Self-Love

Discover the power of authentic manifestation in love and relationships. Learn how to avoid manipulative tactics and embrace the 'going to the end' approach for genuine and lasting connections. Explore insights from Neville Goddard's teachings

Detaching Love from External Factors: Building Genuine Self-Love Associating love with external elements like beauty, fame, or wealth can unwittingly expose you to potential manipulation and abuse. Real love transcends these surface-level attributes. Let’s explore the consequences of tethering love to external validations and delve into the power of cultivating authentic self-love. The Fallacy…

[sapphic-courtship-for-dummies]

I'm so down bad for uhh lets call them Mx. L, they're the president of the sga at my college and I've gotten to know them a little bit over this semester. I'm always jumping to help with club stuff like bringing down/ putting away meeting supplies and things of that nature just so I can spend a little extra time with them. The thing, the thing is, right now there's a 3 week gap between meetings (spring break + every other week meeting schedule) and its going to kill me. I honestly miss seeing them, and I want to text them and I dunno, see if they wanna get lunch or just fuck around in our town. But I still don't know them that well and I've never texted them before and they are so far above my league its completely insane. I don't want to say they're perfect, cause no one is, but damn they're close. They're so much better than me and it just paralyzes me every time I get close to texting them cause ya'know why the fuck would they want to talk to me? I'm literally a nobody compared to them, they deserve so much more, far far better than me. But that hurts so much cause I like them so much. My friends have been encouraging me to text them and start things but I just feel like I can't. Rant aside, any advice for a love sick fool?

Oh honey,

I do have some advice for you actually, and it's this:

Listen to your friends.

This rant just breaks my heart, because I know what it feels like to just be so incredibly insecure and believe that you're lesser than someone because you've put them on a pedestal. You've idealized them and probably made them out to seem like something perfect when they're not. The only reason you think of yourself so poorly and them so highly is because you can see your flaws, and maybe that's all you can focus on. But I promise you, that once you get to know them for real, you will get to know their imperfections as well.

No one is perfect, they are no exception. No one is "literally a nobody," you are no exception. No one is better or worse than anyone else! Everyone is a mishmash of wonders and mistakes, of good and bad and ugly. And the sooner you realize that everyone is on the same playing field as you, the sooner you take them down off of that pedestal and climb your way up out of that ditch you've put yourself in: the sooner you can meet them face to face, eye to eye. Because everyone, no matter how flawed, or broken, or undeserving you think you are, is worthy of love and being loved! Just because you may not be able to see your own value, your own worth, does not mean it's not there. Your friends seem to be able to see it. Your friends believe in you. And I do too.

You will never know happiness unless you take the chance to let it in. And for that you need to take that first step. Believe in yourself. Be brave. Send that text. The worst they can say is no. And even if you do get rejected, 1) your value is not dependent on anyone else or anyone else's opinion of you, and 2) at least you tried! you put yourself out there! you took a chance! And that in itself is something to be proud of.

We're all love sick fools in the end, my friend. We've all stumbled over our words trying to impress someone, or smacked ourselves in the face with our locker door when trying to open it (or is that just me?), or tried to block our most embarrassing moments from our memory. So the next time you're worried that you're not as cool as somebody else, remember that even Beyoncé farts. It's cringe, but it's the truth! And isn't it better to fall in love with the ugly, messy, wonderfully authentic truth than some unattainable dream? I think it is.

So go get 'em! What are you waiting for? Permission? Only you can grant yourself that. Only you can take your own fate into your hands. I trust that they're good hands to be in, and I trust that in time, you'll believe that too.

Sincerely,

Your biggest cheerleader,

Sappho 💓

[deadstarshauntedatoms]

" "My God, you have lost it." I'm stung, but I don't release his wrist. I'm tired of people telling me I'm unhinged. I know when something is wrong; it's not my fault no one else does."

"The gun safe is locked. There is no one here. I try to breathe relief but I can't. There isn't a smell, but there is something stronger, like my body instinctually is tuned to a frequency, a knowing without knowing why. So even though I tell myself I'm being paranoid, letting myself get carried away again, the way Jed warned me I do too often, I know now, in a way I only thought I knew before, that something is wrong."

[toss-a-coin-to-your-stan-account]

being a student during peak pandemic was so fucking surreal like. "it's not an excuse to fall behind" I cannot stress enough to you how much A Worldwide Plague Upending Life As We Know It is literally one of The Top Three Reasons to fall behind

[unwritten-destiny2]

[nancykhemchandani]

Transform Your Mindset Embrace Positivity and Self-Belief

Discover practical tips to cultivate a positive mindset. Break free from negativity and stress, embracing resilience and self-belief.

[facts1590]

Transform Your Mindset Embrace Positivity and Self-Belief

Discover practical tips to cultivate a positive mindset. Break free from negativity and stress, embracing resilience and self-belief.

[prolibytherium]

One of my all time biggest pet peeves with historical(ish) fantasy is when the writer constructs a religion with a clear bias that it's stupid and false and therefore only the Stupid People and/or commoners believe in it and all the smart/elite main characters are like, quasi-atheists or otherwise just routinely flout established religious conventions of orthodoxy and/or orthopraxy because they're Too Smart for it or etc.

It's usually an extension of assumptions that people in the past were just less intelligent than in the contemporary, just being like "I know that the sun is a star millions of miles away that the earth orbits, but this ancient religion describes it as a chariot flying through the sky" and not really bothering to learn the context and just (consciously or subconsciously) settling on 'that's a crazy thing to think and was probably believed in because they were Stupid'.

And that whole attitude pisses me off so much. People were as 'smart' 10,000 years ago as they are today. These beliefs aren't just desperate, random flailing to explain phenomena that could not directly be accounted for either, it's not like people just looked at the sun and went "Uhhh I don't know what the fuck that thing is, actually. I guess it might be a chariot or a boat or something?? Yeah let's go with that." and based entire religious practices on this. Every well-established belief system exists within broader contexts of cultural values/subjective perceptions of reality/knowledge systems/etc, and exist as part of a historical continuum of religious practices that came before. Even when not Materially Correct, they have context and internal logic, they're not always dead literal with zero levels of allegory, and they're never a result of stupidity.

[syntaclenig]

Blooming from doubt.

Yinka’s hands trembled, the weight of the operations management textbook, a reminder of what was to be. Sunlight streamed through the double paned library windows, illuminating aisles of library shelves, computers, students and desks. The library, an amoebic shaped theatre of unending dreams stood at what looked like the centre of the University of Portsmouth, well, at least from experience of…

[desultory-suggestions]

You have to stop ruining things for yourself preemptively because you believe they’ll fail anyway. Give yourself a chance to succeed.

[helenwhiteart-blog]

Are you becoming more aligned with yourself than you realised?

Has your year been really challenging in lots of ways….but….when you allow yourself to pull back and gain the overview, you can sense just how positively impactful and on track it has all really been? Can you sense how you have actually been getting much more in alignment with who you really are all along the way, if not always by the most predictable or tidy means? Can you sense that it has all…

[hinamie]

make it vicious, take a stab

[authorkarajorgensen]

On Being Your Own Cheerleader

This week's blog is about a tough lesson one must learn as a writer or artist: you will have to be your own cheerleader because no one else will.

Let me tell you a little secret: no one will be as excited about your project as you are. This might sound harsh, but ultimately, it’s true, and for newer writers, I think it’s better to learn this early than to learn it the hard way as you give up on projects because no one seems interested. Despite what others may say, writing is, generally, a solitary pursuit. You are the writer. You are the…

[haunted-xander]

Well, I guess you didn't have much of a choice either

[loveesiren]

[originalartblog]

Don't forget to eat to keep the demons at bay