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FINALLY ...
I don't have to care about gender reveal parties.
(The following column runs in newspapers across the country on May 24th, 2024)
Dear Readers: After 21 years writing the āAsk Amyā column, Iām announcing that Iām leaving this space. My final column will run at the end of June.
Iām healthy, happy, and 64-years-old. This is a decision Iāve been wrestling with for over a year.
When I was first hired by the Chicago Tribune to write an advice column after Ann Landersā death, I was a middle-aged single mother. My daughter Emily and I moved from our long-time home in Washington DC and relocated to Chicago.Ā
[Emily and Amy, Freeville, NY. Photo by Chris Walker for the Chicago Tribune]
My welcome to Chicago was to deliver a solo performance of āTake Me Out to the Ball Gameā in front of 35,000 baseball fans during the 7thĀ inning stretch of a Cubs game at Wrigley Field.
This turned out to be a metaphor for my experience writing this column, which has been an exuberant and sometimes nerve-wracking effort of trying to hit the right notes before a huge audience.Ā
After several great years in Chicago, Emily left for college and I moved back to my tiny hometown of Freeville, NY (pop. 505), to spend time with my sisters, aunts and cousins, and to be with my mother at the end of her life.Ā
My experiences have mirrored those of many of my readers. For me, these last two decades have been about the intensity and consequences of both love and loss.Ā
After returning home, I promptly tumbled into a Hallmark Channel plotline, when I fell in love with and quickly married a man Iāve known since childhood (we grew up on neighboring dairy farms). My husband Bruno and I then blundered into the oftentimes awkward blending of our family of five daughters.Ā
[2008, Freeville, NY]
I became a stepmother, and then a grandmother, all before I believed I was ready.Ā
My mother and her three wonderful sisters are gone, now. A niece and nephew died, tragically, while in their teens. Much of my recent life has been absorbed by caregiving, mourning, and recovery.
Day in, day out -- over the last two decades ā readers have generously shared their own vulnerabilities about many of our common experiences. Iām grateful that weāve been able to help each other.
Iāve burned through eight laptops, opened bushels of postal mail, written columns in the car, on board planes, in hospital waiting rooms, on my honeymoon, and at my motherās bedside. During this time, Iāve also written two books, a screenplay, and scores of essays.Ā
Doing this work has sent me into therapy. It has inspired me to explore the teachings of world religions, and to seek the insight of thinkers like Joseph Campbell and Carl Jung. Iāve quoted the wisdom of Maya Angelou, Joni Mitchell and Fred Rogers -- as well as dozens of poets, social scientists and psychologists.Ā
Iāve made my share of mistakes, been well-pranked ā at least twice (that I know of), and learned how to apologize, ask for forgiveness, and to forgive other people for their own mistakes. Inspired by readersā dilemmas, Iāve also worked hard to mend fractured family relationships and to be a better friend.
My personal experiences are a reminder that we humans canāt really control what happened before or what happens next. Joy, like grief, comes at you in such unexpected ways. Thatās why it is so important to pay attention. Iāve learned to do that.
Being an advice-giver has challenged me to be aware of cultural, social, and relationship trends -- and to appreciate the quirks of human behavior.
When readers get frustrated by my lengthy answers to sometimes petty problems, they will often suggest that I should just tell people to āget a life!,ā but I think that wrestling with our questions ā from the quotidian to the profound āĀ isĀ living.
For the next month, Iāll continue to publish fresh columns and rerun some favorites. After that, my fantasy is to drive an RV across the country, visiting people Iāve met through this work who have challenged me and tantalized readers with their anonymous requests for advice.
In my hometown, Iām opening a little lending library. You can find me on social media, through my Asking Amy newsletter, at amydickinson.com, or at the Freeville Literary Society on Main Street ā talking books with kids and offering advice to anyone who asks.
Love,
Amy
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Hey Amy! Settle a debate for me and Sonic!
Is corporeal punishment normal/ok?
-@doubletaileddoubletrouble
Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh whyād you ask? Iāve **NEVER** been involved in something like that. Itās kind of silly that you would bring it up..! Ignore Sonic there, heās just taking a nap. Iām not even sure why youād ask..!šš
(In all seriousness though, I do not support corporeal punishment at all. If you are suffering from it, please make sure you speak up about it and tell someone you trust, aswell as calling CPS and the police ^_^ ! Corporeal punishment is not okay, itās abuse.)
Thanks for the question, Anon! ^_^ (not sure why youād ask because I have no interest nor history of it whatsoever YOU HAVE NO PROOF! I DIDNT DO IT)
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Does her attitude towards a baby suck? Yes. Does Ask Amy admit that it also sucks to insist crafters make stuff for people with no real connection to them? No. Am I biased as a knitter myself. Yes.
ByĀ Amy Dickinson
Dear Amy:Ā My sonās ex-wife, āTammy,ā recently had a baby with her new husband.
Tammy also has two children with my son. I recently made slippers for my grandsons and sent the slippers to them. I told my son about it, and now heās asking me to make a pair of slippers for the new baby. I donāt think I need to, as that baby is not my grandchild.
Should I go along with this, or is there a nice way to say that the child means nothing to me, so Iām not interested in doing it? After all, the ex-wife is the one who left the marriage when she cheated on my son with her new husband.Ā ā Curious Granny
Dear Granny:Ā Hmmm. Letās see. Is there a nice way to say, āThis baby means nothing to me and so Iām not interested in doing anything for the child?ā
Iāve called an imaginary conclave among all of the sages whose wisdom I trust the most, and all agree that your position and attitude about this baby is exclusionary and unkind. This child is the sibling of your grandchildren. Your grandchildren must be encouraged and allowed to accept and love this child. Why? Because it is best for everyone.
Your son is obviously encouraging/forcing you to accept this baby as the sibling of your beloved grandchildren. Good for him. Acceptance on your part makes your sonās life easier and more peaceful. It helps to integrate all of the children into a sibling group.
If you want to give gifts only to your grandchildren, you should send these gifts to your sonās address, not to his ex-wifeās address.
Furthermore, you holding on to an angry attitude toward your sonās ex-wife leads to you passively punishing your grandchildren, who areĀ herĀ children. Let your son carry his own water. You should work much harder to maintain a neutral attitude toward her, and a loving attitude toward all of the children involved.
Yes the baby is innocent but first the mom cheats and breaks up her family and then she asks her former MIL to make stuff for her son? That's balls. Yes the grandma should just mail stuff to her sons place for now on, mailing it to her place was just rubbing it in.
Exactly how does being irritated at being asked to knit or crochet stuff for others "unkind" but those who ask in the first place aren't entitled?
#Ask Amy#Women don't owe products of their craftsmanship to anyone#What is it about see women knitting or crocheting that reminds others of their shopping lists?#You know someone who would like handmade items?#Learn that skill yourself
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{ A female trainer with pink hair was trying to adjust her camera, with the help of her Pokemon.}
"Is this thing on, Rosy?"
"Ton! Tinkaton!"
"That's great!"
The female, pink haired trainer and her Tinkaton both looked at the camera as they happily smiled and waved at the device.
"Hi there! My name's Amelia Rose or Amy Rose! I live in a far away region called Emerald City with my friends and Pokemon. Speaking of Pokemon. this is my Tinkaton named Rosy, say hi Rosy."
"Tinkaton!" š
"Oh, you're so cute Rosy! Well, if you have any questions to ask feel free, and take your time so don't be shy!^^"
"Ton, Tinkaton!"
"I guess that's all I have to say then. Take care everyone, and bye!" š
#Pokemon#pokemon ask rp#pokemon irl#pokemon rp#ask Amy Rose#ask Amy#askrosesandhammers#Tinkaton#Amy Rose#Sonic#sonic the hedgehog#Sonic askblog#crossover
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These pop up in my article feed all the time, and I usually really like Amy's advice, but also every time I see her face it feels like I'm looking at my future self. Like, I think that's exactly what I'm going to look like at her age.
And idk, there's something very comforting about that? Like, she's successful, she looks happy, if that's future me, I've got a good shot?
#ask amy#amy dickinson#personal#im adopted so i cant like look at my mom and say thats what ill look like
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Resting my arm for 3 days is LAME since I haven't been able to draw, HOWEVER I will take this opportunity to test my drawing abilities. Send me an ask (preferably Sonic themed) and I'll do my best to draw out an answer š¼ asking about Whisper's day? Tangle's daily activities? How the hell Jewel handles stress so well? Ask away (please)
#sonic the hedgehog#sonic fandom#ask sonic#ask me anything#send asks#ask game#ask amy#ask tails#ask tangle#ask whisper#ask jewel#ask lanolin#ask blaze#ask silver#ASK ANYBODY#I wanna draw so anything will do :3
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I have been eager to share my own love of reading and books, and so I decided to open my own little lending library on Main Street in my small hometown.
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Ask Amy: Where I grew up, this would be considered alarming
Dear Amy: My husband and I live near his parents. They are very nice people, but they have a terrible habit of showing up at our house uninvited. Like theyāre out doing errands and then they just stop in. Honestly, I do not like this at all. I grew up in a small town with lots of family around, but we would never do this. We might call when we were on the way and ask if we could pop by, but Iā¦
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#advice#amy dickinson#ask amy#conflict#estrangement#family#home#in-laws#money#siblings#surprise#uninvited#visit
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Neighbors never offer compensation for watching their dog ā Chicago Tribune
New Post has been published on https://petn.ws/Fmebf
Neighbors never offer compensation for watching their dog ā Chicago Tribune
Dear Amy: Friends ask us regularly to watch their dog, but never offer us any compensation. We are not asking for cash, but a gift card would be nice. They ask us to do this every year for one week in the summer, and then other periods throughout the year, usually lasting for a few [ā¦]
See full article at https://petn.ws/Fmebf #DogNews #AskAmy
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Great news: I've left my syndicated "Ask Amy" advice column and have started a new venture -- a lending library in my hometown.
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Welcome back Amy!
Hiii ć¾(ļ¼¾āļ¼¾)
Sorry I was off, for a while. Training for exams was tough. I was going to upload yesterday but I was pretty sickā¦ ('Tį·āTį·
) atleast I get to upload today tho, because Iām off sick!! (^ć®^)
Anyways, my upload schedule probably will still be better, but Iāll try to be more consistent. Thanks for saying Hi, Anon!! ^_^
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which bolas mc did you pick?
helloooo nonny! so I have played through a lot so I have done different ones. My MCs are usually female and human (but not always).
My first MC was the female human with the curly brown hair- I probably use her the most. I have also used the blond human female MC and the blue Elf MC with black hair? I think I wanna do an orc playthrough next, maybe the female orc with black hair?
How about you?
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this might be that gay dude from les mis
#les mis#les miserables#les amis#les amis de l'abc#enjolras#<3#āwhich one?ā you all ask#all of the above#but mainly my boy enj
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Keep getting spam risk phone calls.
So I have a phone that keeps getting local calls but with audio warning of spam risk. I don't pick up the call but I was wondering who should I call to keep these calls from coming all the time
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Familyās up.
#the bear#the bear fx#the bear fanart#sydney adamu#carmen berzatto#art#artists on tumblr#richie jerimovich#marcus brooks#tina marrero#natalie berzatto#sydcarmy#donāt ask how long this took me#amy makes art
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Doctor Who Season 7 Minisodes
Rain Gods
#doctor who#dwedit#moffatedit#timelordgifs#riversongedit#river song#eleventh doctor#alex kingston#matt smith#userbbelcher#tvarchive#chewieblog#dailyflicks#romancegifs#otpsource#otp: stay with me#when your signature move that you've been using for over a thousand years fails to impress your wife lol#also just in case anyone asks yes this is post angels take manhattan but before the snowmen christmas special#this takes place in the offscreen adventures 11 and river had when they travelled together#as he asked her to travel with him in 7x5 after amy and rory left#this is our ONLY filmed sneak peak into those adventures#this is also one of if not my favorite doctorriver scene in the entire show#just them being married and having fun together; no monsters to fight or worlds to save; just date night gone wrong bc the doctor can't fly
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