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Eddie cooks and Steve doesn't is a rule in their house.
Eddie is an amazing cook. He sucks at baking because he always stops following the recipes, but cooking??? Eddie could be a chef with how delicious the food is. Eddie learned how to cook out of necessity, and quickly found he actually enjoyed it. Eddie just gets distracted and lazy, tending to go for the quicker options that are still tasty. Put everything in a crockpot and push a button? Sign him up! Throw everything in a stew and stir it? Hell yeah! if he imagines he's making potions for a group of travelers well who really needs to know.
Steve, on the other hand, can't cook. He burns every thing he has ever made. He never really learned how, as when he had to take home ec in school he spent most of his time talking to Tommy and Carol. His dad had told him cooking was "a woman's job"- Steve wishes he could go back to his younger self and punch him for ever listening to his dad's misogynistic bullshit (hell, he would even punch his dad). Steve stuck to sandwiches and cheap frozen dinners, but most nights he bought fast food. It was easy and he always had money for it. He always made up for it by being active in sports (and he wasn't a total fiend he knew enough about health, some days he ordered a salad and grilled chicken sandwich instead of a burger and fries. He always drank diet soda, claiming it was healthier).
Steve never realized Eddie could cook. Steve had lamented over how he's a terrible cook, to which Eddie replied "oh me too". So, Steve had decided to try and cook Eddie a meal for their date one night. Of course day of, he may have set the oven wrong. And he maybe didn't know to cut the potatoes for mashed potatoes and just stuck them whole in a pot with milk. Eddie had come over early and they were kissing when a beeping noise was heard. The smoke detector going off is what alerted them to something being amiss. Eddie had taken one look at the burnt chicken and the smoke rising from the oven and immediately decided Steve was never cooking again. His eye twitched as he had lifted the lid on the pot, seeing a whole ass potato sitting in milk that was sticking and burning to the bottom of the pot, and slowly lowered the lid. Steve had tried not to cry, unable to look Eddie in the eyes as they opened windows to let the smoke vent out. Eddie had kissed his forehead and went to the fridge to see what was available. Eddie ended up making cheesy scrambled eggs, pancakes, and ham. Steve was still upset, disappointed and mad at himself. He took one bite before freezing and then looking up at Eddie. "Does it not taste good?" Eddie had asked. "It tastes like...betrayal! You know I can't cook and don't even mention you're a fucking wizard in the kitchen?" Steve had mock glared at him. "Oh excuse me, well you shouldn't have betrayal," Eddie went to grab Steve's plate and narrowly missed the fork that Steve had tried to stab at his hand, "You can take this food from my cold dead body!" Eddie had went to say something but Steve hunched over it and said "My precious" before shoving food in his face like a gremlin. Eddie's heart had soared at the fact that Steve had made a reference to something he knew Eddie liked even though he never read the books. Steve's heart soared at the fact that they wouldn't have to live on fast food and thought thankgodsomeonecanactuallycookthisissogoodholyshit.
That was the date that cemented the rule that Eddie is the one who cooks.
#Eddie still claims he can't cook to which Steve glares at him and bitches at him#Steve is immensely glad he doesn't have to cook#Steve got a private chef for free#Eddie is also insanely glad but any time Steve tries to cook he takes one bite to at least say he tried#Sure he may spit it out but he tried it#He'll swallow other things#That joke is gonna get me canceled whoops#ANYWAYS enjoy the blurb or whatever the fuck this is#As always minors do not interact#Sure the fic is innocent but I am not#Respect the boundaries people#Steve Harrington#Eddie Munson#Steddie#Steve Harrington/Eddie Munson#Steve Harrington x Eddie Munson#Steddie drabble#Steddie blurb#The potato thing actually happened my friend did not think and did that I heard about it and went what the fuck#Jade is Talking
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every time I notice artists' (whose art I adore) notice like, "proshippers don't interact", I feel like I have been slapped in the face and personally insulted. you love my favourite character. I love my favourite character. we might even have the same otp. so what are you afraid of?
I mean, I thought we're all adults here? and can see that fiction is fiction and people get to explore things in fiction without harming anybody? and that's the point of fiction because it's fiction? and as long as it's tagged and can be blacklisted, it's fine? also, I thought we had an understanding on our fav character's personality, because they wouldn't discriminate like that?
(Halsin fucked a chimera. he had sex with Astarion (a vampire, which is against all that druids and nature stand for). he doesn't mind having sex in his bear wildshape. dude is naturally curiois. he doesn't care. he understands.)
gosh. the fandom used to be fun and not so sanitized. you guys are just mean.
upd: this is not about a particular fandom, even though I have a couple examples in mind. I encounter this in every fandom & it's exhausting.
#proship#fandom#fiction#antis dni#I feel like I just put a target on my back for yet another artist#but God damn it#I do have my triggers but#as long as they're tagged and I can blacklist them I'm fine#also#I think I keep forgetting minors are very much using this site#so not everyone is an adult#in my world view I'm always talking to adults not kids#proship please interact#halsin
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I forgot to share these but here's the love of my life and I at the Magic Pumpkin Garden at the pumpkin patch 🥰🥰🥰💕💕💕💕💕
#thefreckledgymrat#the love of my life 💕#my lover#my wife 💕💕💕#my forever and always#my forever love#i love her more than anything#shes my best friend and my perfect forever 🥺🥺🥺💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕#mdni#minors do not interact#minors dni#read my pinned post
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I’m from PH too but it’s not everyday we see a 19 year old like you. You look and act like a minor
Dude, I'm literally turning 20 this November. Look, I'm just as in denial of my age as much as you are, but I'm sorry to break it to you I just look like this 💀💀💀 I got nothing, dude. I'd rather someone tell me 'Wow, you look young for your age!' especially since the whole internet seems to be terrified at the prospect of ageing. I'll just take it as a compliment and move on with my day.
And since you apparently know how every single 19-year-old act then tell me, how do you want me to behave? And how do you want me to convey that through fucking text? What, do you want me to capitalize my words? Use proper punctuation and grammar? Ooh, do I seem like a big girl to you now that I'm typing properly?
Do you want me to spell it out for you? I play a character here, you fucking dumbass. You don't know me. You can't just sum up my entire personality solely from text posts and some art alone. If you seriously think I 'act' like this irl then, boy, do i have news for you.
Not everything you see here on the internet is the full picture. It may come as a huge surprise to you but I don't show the entirety of my personality here. The fact I even have to say that to someone who I assume is older than me is laughable. You'd think for someone who thinks they can spot a minor, they'd be smart enough to know that.
Every time i post something in this blog, I'm not thinking whether it's 'a true reflection of my soul' or whether 'I'm conveying my real self'. I'm not thinking any of that bullshit. I just try to think of a joke or do something entertaining so I can get a snort from another stranger on the other side of the planet. I admit most of them are a hit or a miss but I like making people laugh. I like getting a 'lmao' from another person, it's nice. And my art is just shit I draw during my free time. It's really not that deep. This is such an unserious blog.
Maybe, that's why you're saying I act like a minor? It's because I'm immature, overdramatic, over-the-top, or annoying? When we grow up do we just suddenly become just as miserable as you? Is that it? Everyone matures at a different age, some minors act more mature than me because of various circumstances. Oh, but they're adults, right? Cause they have more emotional maturity? Cause they act more professional? Cause they're more serious?
If you think I'm lying about my age or whatever then unfollow me, block me for all I care. Make the both of us happy.
#this is such a huge waste of my time but i do want to clarify this since i /am/ running a blog thats not suitable for minors#ofc im not saying my whole personality is fake. i am being me just amplified tenfold#do you think all those youtubers are running around screaming 24/7?#okay in hindsight maybe youtubers arent the best example here but you get my point#i guarantee you if you met me irl god you would be so fucking disappointed#as for looking young im not surprised i get it all the time#i have a little brother whos way taller than me so i always get mistaken as the younger sibling. hell even my classmates were surprised#when i said i was a year older than them#and who's 'we'? theres more of you bozos? are you speaking for an entire country now?#this is why i should just stfu and stick to art. it's boring as hell but at least i dont get to interact with idiots like these#people like you ruin my fun#franswers
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Thinking about Orchid and her connection to my take on Gender (because this was meant to be about her and the Crew but it just devolved into a character analysis kinda??? More trauma-dumping maybe???) This is very much an oc/personal rant so feel free to ignore it 🫡
So, Orchid started off as a character I didn't really think much of (hear me out this is going to be relevant) because I wanted to add a 'girl' character but didn't know what to *do* with her, y'know? She was always going to be the strongest one there, she had the odds stacked in her favor with her parents. She was always going to be the gloomy side-character to match Reset's energy. But I think she's gone through every stage of Generic Woman I could possibly find.
At first she was angry and abrasive (think Fell!Sans) where every other word was a curse and she was likely to throw the first punch then laugh as she kicks her enemy while they're down. This was when Reset was a cartoonishly self-centered villain whose goal was simply to prove others wrong. Then Orchid became a sort of sisterly figure. This was short-lived, but she was the one comforting people who Reset would torment, but would ultimately follow his orders, because at this point he was actually a danger and sadistic. And then there was the phase where the story mellowed out and she became the token Goth Girl who, yes she was strong, but was heavy on the 'whatever' energy. Then there was her Era of deep self-loathing and anxiety about her worth that held her back and made her a much more timid and meek character who would only lash out on occasion.
Now, Orchid is the best of those iterations I've written yet. She's calm, level-headed, and a natural leader. Her father raised those traits into her. But she's very reactive, and can be silly, and when she's comfortable it's likely that air of importance transforms into something more comfortable and familiar. She laughs loudly and grins wide, she likes loud video-games but loves to read in the quiet. She's extremely disciplined, and normally no one can get through her tough exterior besides her best friend, Reset. She does what she does for her own enjoyment, sure, but she's thought of every angle and makes her choice to help Reset and control the others with her whole chest. She still worries she won't live up to her invisible expectations, and that and her loyalty are her two driving forces.
I know that Orchid is important to me because she's the longest-running female oc I've had. I have a rough relationship with womanhood/girlhood and I know looking back that Orchid recieved every ounce of my distaste for being a woman that I could shovel into her. That never made her less of a character, she was actually always one of my favorites, and rarely was she a 'punching bag oc'. I just... projected onto her a lot. And she's a good sign of how I've learned who I am. I've decided that my own femininity is something I could live without. I'd rather not associate myself with it, and I'd like to leave it in my past, focusing on a future where I'm not tied down with any gender roles or expectations. That won't happen, but I've come to terms with it myself. Orchid though? I figured out through her that I don't have to hate women characters. My own distaste for my circumstances doesn't mean I have to push it onto my characters (on God I've never expressed anything rude to actual people, that'd be rude as hell and uncalled for, but I have a bad habit of disliking fictional women in media). So, Orchid is a well-roubded character finally. She has motivations abd goals and a *lot* more depth than I ever expected her to. She's happy with being a woman, she's content. She's not treated differently for it in unfair ways by those she cares about, so she doesn't mind it. She likes to wear pretty outfits and lets Reset add bows to her ribbons. She doesn't let being a woman hold her back in the slightest.
So, yeah. Orchid is one of my babies. If I ever leave this Fandom behind for good, she's one that's coming with (Ichor, Orchid, and Pretender all have human designs I can use elsewhere lol-) but in the meantime I'll just rotate her around in my brain for a while longer.
If I'm right, she's been with me for nearly 5-6 years and I went through a *lot* with her as an outlet. So, she's kinda just like an old stuffed animal. A lil ripped, matted fur, maybe a stain or two, but there's a story there and that makes it important beyond belief.
#spotatalk#i'm just gonna drop this in the queue I guess?#but I'm writing this on the last day of june so....#whenever this rolls around will be a jumpscare abd a half I guess?#I think honestly I coukd do a full breakdown of the Crew and why they're all expressions of me but like#quick summary is#Reset: Wants approval from people but mostly clings to the past. is afraid of losing his brother and acts on it to bring him back. i#<- I lack that conviction to do whatever you have to to get your way. i worry my brother and I have a weird gap between us we wont repair#Orchid: Uhhh woman. lots of pressure that she had at one time that's now no being pressed but she still tries to live up to it also.#<- I don't like the pressure of being a woman. also gifted-kid who cannot move past the pressures imposed to be 'perfect' and it's screwed#Stereo: Pulled into a situation he doesn't want to be in initially. it's bad for him but he likes the people so he decides to stay#<- I see the good in people. even when they hurt others around me. I was a bystander often and should've left the situations. paralelling.#Monochrome: Afraid. No purpose or preperation in life. soneone offers to guide him and he takes that offer because it's better than home.#<- Kinda self-explanitory but I've got little direction and feel lost a lot of the time. If I'm given a path I usually walk it no hesitation#and... for fun let's do some others!#Haphazard: Cleaning up after others since childhood. he's never really gotten a break and sees any sort of mess as an enemy#-> He's fixing rifts in universes I gotta patch relationships. there's so much conflict and I'm always so overwhelmed by it#Lost: He's got amnesia. no clue where he is. where he's from. who you are. who he is. he'll know when he gets there. he's sure.#-> I've been hsving minor issues with my memory for years. i coukd be forgetful but sometimes it just escapes me and that's spooky#Teddy: Isolated in her universe for years. she self-mutilated until she liked herself. when she finally met people she compulsively lied#-> Much more extreme version of how isolated I sonetines feel. hobbies can't replace human interaction but it's hard#oh and Ichor: God who loves mortals but cannot seem to find ones who will prove hin right for his trust and care#<- I've got a big heart. i express it often but the sentinent is scoffed off a lot. I get beat down about it and just keep moving forward#Pretender: Knows who he is. however the world doesn't like it much so he acts how they expect him to or isolates away#<- I still present femme when I'm nb/agender. i bend and break to people's perception of me. if I can't solve something I run.#okay I feel more insane than when ai started but these stupid skeletons have helped me through so many mental health problems it's only a#little bit funny 🙏
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"this person appears around you so much you're dating!!" "omg no need to be mad that someone asked if you're dating people are curious"
Yes this still bothers me and Jesus I hate that both anons so much because are you stupid on purpose and trying to make yourself seem like a victim here?
Like. I'm sorry, maybe I'm just too aroace, but I'm still genuinely baffled how you can see two friends speaking and bothering each other, and immediately think they're dating?? How can you even come up with that? The world doesn't revolve around romance, how can you just jump to that conclusion, then get upset that I'm mad at the insinuation?
Replacing Hongtao for another older friend of mine like Pome (hi Pome), I'd still be offended because why tf are you thinking two friends are dating?? I'm sorry, just........HUH?!
Idk how many times I had to say this on my account but 1) I'm aroace, the chances of me feeling any type of attraction to anyone is slim, 2) I am in love with someone already and we are never going to be together and she's the only person that owns my heart so fuck you and 3) I like older women.
I've said it so many timesss ☹️ it's weird asf dawg, that's like someone asking you if you're dating your little sibling when you're clearly just tryna kill him
Please I just don't understand where the hell have Hongtao and I ever acted like that??? LITERALLY EVERY CONVERSATION WE HAVE IS ME LOSING MY MIND TF
Also like again, you can't tell me you weren't aware they were a minor. Not if you've been around my account long enough
And, again, HOW DO YOU SEE TWO PEOPLE INTERACTING WITH EACH OTHER AND THINK THEY'RE DATING??? HOW??? WHAT THE FUCK KINDA LOGIC IS THAT
Bro I don't understand y'all sometimes 😭😭😭 anyways I stand by my statement anons who dared to ask that question you're stupid and a coward l + ratio suck my balls I don't care if you're upset about it that shit was weird and you're weird I can interact with whoever I want
#❀ ᭢᜴꤬archon's above#“oh but they were curious” I don't care???#that's not my business if you're curious rather you should've used your head#if I'm an 18 year old man and hongtao's literally a fucking minor do you THINK we're dating?#you're just a gross lil creep that's what#“oh you're dating cause you two interact so much” so that means everyone tagging their mutuals are dating cause they're always around each#other#ngl you guys fr think I'm easy to bully just because i had a few mental breakdowns huh
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small comic because my art is going to be the death of me
#q talks#comic#the owl house#collector#belos#not taging this a lot but like#ITS IN MY PINNED. I CONSTANTLY SAY IT.#This doesn't even only apply on tumblr#like in general if I speak about em and why i like em i always get accused#I ENJOY THEIR DYNAMIC I DONT WANT THEM TO FUCK#Cries profusely#im literally neurodivergent and a minor#at this point i dont care that shippers interact with my posts since its unavoidable#BUT DAMN HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO SHOUT IT
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Heyeveryone! I have hic fic that is so close to its ending, I can taste it, I'll aim for having it posted by the end of the week. In the mean time, have some art of Cal and Kai in some cool outfits! I envision Cal getting Kai to try out his style. Lai is taking the picture-
First time drawing abs, definitely struggled for a moment, lol
But again like last week, I'm open to answer more asks from the ask box and I'll get to them after school today^^
#minors dni#18+ mdni#minors do not interact#not safe for minors#hiccups#hicfic ocs#hic fic ocs#oc art#hiccups asks#asks are open#asks are always appreciated#cloudsramblings
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I've been meaning to add this to my dni but I keep forgetting so I'm saying it here for now. Do not interact with me if you are mutuals/friends/frequently interact with @/lydiaselfships or their main or whatever other blogs she has. To my knowledge nobody who interacts with her follows me but just in case I need to get this out.
BIG disclaimer: PLEASE for the love of god do not harass her or send her anything and do NOT turn this into some big deal. I am just stating a boundary and do not want drama (everything has been so shitty and stressful for me lately PLEASE DON'T ADD TO IT) I understand that I'm taking a risk by posting this but again this is just a simple boundary. DO NOT make this into some big thing
#I will elaborate on context for this#it's nothing major but still not very good#we became mutuals back when I was a minor#can't remember how old she was at the time but basically she hid the fact that she was a proshipper from me#I've always been adamant about no proshippers interacting with me#and she knew this and interacted with me anyway#I had to find out from some random screenshot that she was in fact a proshipper#and since then she occasionally likes tk try and block evade me#she hasn't tried it again on here in a while#I have her blocked pretty much everywhere I've found her#but she tried to subscribe to my youtube channel again a few months ago#I wish there was like. a good blocking system on youtube for this reason#anyway sorry to post this but PLEASE PLEASE PLEEEEASE don't make this into some big thing#do not harrass her or interact with her at all#just block and move on please
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Not so friendly reminder:
if you’re a minor, don’t follow me (unfollow me if you are one, and I didn’t catch it), and please don’t interact with my posts.
#I get it. I read smut in my teen years. but I wasn’t interacting with the writers.#I don’t want to know kids are reading my stuff#I don’t always check my followers but I just got some proship minor and hit the block button right quick#My work is for adults by an adult and while I’m not naive I don’t need to know if some minor is out there reading my stuff#I have MINORS DNI right in my bio but since that clearly wasn’t enough I went ahead and added it right onto the master list and guidelines#moss lover speaks#I don’t care if you like what I do. I’m not even asking that you don’t read it. just don’t disrespect my rules and boundaries
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thinking about fallout 4 against my will
#random thoughts#fallout#unfortunately nora compels me#the fact the 'hi honey!' tape specifically mentions her 'shaking the dust off' her law degree is interesting#like she gave up her job to stay at home with her husband and kid. why?#like that's a whole year. at LEAST.#love the idea of nate pressuring her into it <3 maternity leave turns into 'isnt it so nice being with sean around the clock?'#'too bad you won't have this quality time when you return to work'#turns into 'you can always return to work if you feel like it but we DO have a lot saved up . . .'#and it's like. okay so fallout 4 would be so much better if it were set in the 1960s. literally no reason it shouldnt be#yknow beyond complying with lore which. it isnt that faithful to in the first place#i just think it's weird the game is like 'here's the FUTURE' and then it's like 'here's the FUTURE FUTURE'#anyway make it the 1960s. give me time-appropriate fucked up family dynamics#and nora's a laywer and a feminist who promised herself she'd never compromise her career for a man#and nate seemed so NICE and like he understood until uh oh. frog in a slow cooker#and he makes everything seem like it's her idea until she's barefoot in the kitchen with a screaming baby on her hip and burnt food in a pan#and she doesn't even realize she's trapped until it's too late. isolated from friends and family#idk ill do more research later to make it more time-accurate (ESPECIALLY interested in second-wave feminism)#anyway i think she cheats. with a door-to-door salesman selling places in the bomb shelters#(honestly probably the only adult social interaction she's had in weeks beyond her husband)#i like to think at some point she had a bit of a car accident due to the stress so nate took her keys#probably just a minor fender bender he blew out of proportion but she believes it because oh god what if she hurt sean#her feelings toward sean are complicated. i dont think she quite loves him which she feels guilty about so she overcompensates#with trying to keep him as safe as possible and she feels like he KNOWS and HATES her#(honestly when the bombs drop everything happens so quickly and when she's in the future and registers sean's gone she feels. so relieved)#(followed by heavy shame)#nate sabotaged her birth control btw. love evil 1960s patriarchs#never outright stated but heavily implied!#anyway nora in the future (while she felt very progressive for her time) feels very out of place#like her ideals have no place. like she has no place
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i just wanna say if i dont answer asks sometimes its cause im busy with life and very slow or either see too many repeats or already kinda answered it via a regular post XD i hope thats ok! Also please keep in mind this is a 18+ blog! i am not overly scouting my follows because of my mental health struggles, but i do purges and will block any minor i see when i sit down to im sorry!
#i only do this every once in a while i actually dont like having a huge following but i dont mind being followed i just kinda do it to#“clean” it and to have an even number of some kind cause my ocd is weird about numbers..#but please! im not comfortable with minors talking to me about suggestive stuff or interacting with it either#i am not always online i cant control how to stop that but pls read my pinned post!#;w;
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y'all be like "minors DNI/DNF" and then...... constantly reblog posts written by minors lmfao
#like do yall really not check the blog to make sure youre ok to interact before reblogging?#i cant be the only one that does that... right?#you should ALWAYS check my dudes.#not just because they could be minors but also because they may have a DNI u fall under.#come on now. let's practice what we preach ���🏽#i shouldnt be seeing posts created by minors on ADULT KINK BLOGS. weirdos.
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hey can raging aphobes get out of the Hazbin fandom please :D /srs
just saw one person try to claim that the scene in the beginning of episode one where Alastor says “not gonna happen” to Angel’s p*rn video suggestion was violating to Angel Dust, not Alastor. they then proceeded to say that “asexuals claiming that this was ‘good ace rep’ are ignoring the blatant wh*rephobia that Alastor is showing in this scene” (not even kidding that is the actual word they used)
maybe? some people??? just don’t like sexual remarks made about them like that????? even if they’re NOT asexual???????
and they seem to be just. incredibly aphobic in general. they seem to disregard the fact that sex-repulsed aces exist (talking about them in quotations “like this” in a derogatory way as if we’re not real) and are really hostile to anyone who tries to reason with them - reblogging their responses with what are practically essays on why THEY’RE right and the other person MUST be wrong
anyways sorry for the rant. i’m just pissed lol
#also they bring ableism into it so often?? because apparently they’re a wheelchair user#and they always find a way to say “you’re being ableist” in conversations when there was literally zero ableism involved whatsoever#like cmon. chill out :/#it’s like that one “it’s homophobic because i’m gay and it’s inconveniencing me” quote but they’re being completely serious about it#also they seem to be adamant on minors not interacting with them#but then go through the blogs of minors who interact on accident and diss on their interests based on what they saw on their blog??#and they think it’s a compelling argument?? lmao get real you’re just bullying them at this point#anyways i blocked them so they shouldn’t see this lol#and if they DO then they’re block evading! the very thing they claim to be against :)#hazbin hotel#alastor#angel dust#tw aphobia
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I've found that, when interacting with others (or myself), it's useful to consider the lessons I'd want to teach a growing child.
If a child makes a mistake, I wouldn't want them to feel shame. I wouldn't yell at them, humiliate them, or in any way indicate to them that their mistake is a reflection of their worth or of who they are as a person.
Instead, I'd want them to associate the process with love and joy. If they say something that hurts someone's feelings, or otherwise ostracizes someone in some way, I'd compassionately explain to them. Ideally, they'd walk away knowing why they said / did it in the first place, how to handle similar situations in the future, and would accept the consequences (e.g. if a friend no longer wanted to hang out with them).
While the consequences may sometimes be painful, I'd do my best to instill in them that mistakes are human and natural, and that the process of learning from these mistakes is an opportunity to improve connections with others and express love.
I have a tendency towards excessive guilt. Memories in which I've said / done something ignorant or hurtful are infused with this guilt and shame- but ideally, I'd feel a sense of love and peace, and perhaps happiness, when looking back on them. Because they were moments of growth, moments I learned how to be more compassionate (even if the actual learning came years later).
So I'll put this out into the void:
When you make a mistake, that is not a reflection of you as a person. It is a moment in time, a moment which was informed by your past experiences. Humans are not static labels, or monsters in an RPG game. We are social creatures who live and learn and react and grow and experience and love. Be gentle with yourself and move forward knowing you're doing so in accordance with your values.
#parenting#internet culture#self compassion#i'd also want to teach them critical thought of course - there are varying ideas of what constitutes mistakes or ignorance or harm#and that's a messy subject which is often a challenge to teach and is beyond the scope of this post but it's important#to avoid being subject to manipulation or becoming reactionary#but anyways#to clarify something in the tags here: it's okay of course to feel bad. that's a normal response. but it's not necessary. and a culture of#shaming people for their mistakes isn't helpful in the same ways it isn't helpful to do that to a child. people become defensive and/or#self-hating. divisive and reactionary and more easily manipulated. fearful and ashamed and avoidant. afraid of disagreements or of trying#anything new. increased all-or-nothing thinking and blowing things out of proportion. it just doesn't help in the long run#sometimes when someone says something i want to express hatred and mockery towards; i think of my trans friend who's full of light and love#and compassion. who came from a smaller more conservative community and used to have some of those same stances (and may still hold some of#those feelings/anxieties). and i remember that i can be firm on my boundaries and spread love and acceptance and safety *without* spewing#vitriol at anyone who makes even a minor mistake. i want people who were impacted by oppression and bias to have space to grow and#find safe communities and be able to think for themselves. i dont want to push them away or be another person in their life screaming at#them. there's always a person behind the screen.#like that doesnt mean i have to interact with them. in fact in most cases it's better to step away. and there are still unsafe people out#there- but yelling at them won't do any good either. saw a tip to focus on the people you want to help rather than the opposition#and that's been super helpful for me
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Dear minors,
If a blog says “MINORS DO NOT INTERACT” please respect that persons decision and don’t interact. Most nsfw blogs (including myself) aren’t comfortable with minors interacting with their blog that has 18+ content. Sometimes you can ask the creator if you can interact with their non nsfw content, but at the end of the day it’s the creators decision and their blog if they want you on their blog or not. Please also respect their wishes when they ask you to not interact with their content.
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#it’s honestly getting annoying to always say minors do not interact#this needs to be said more tbh#I hate always having to say this
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