#Aro Positivity

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

It's OK if on the surface your identity or choice in labels seems contradictory. All that matters is that it makes sense to you.

[goondah]

[knifearo]

hey. don't cry. aromantic people on planet earth <2

[our-aro-experience]

“love is what makes us human—”

WRONG!!

[lgbtqtext]

[imagine-darksiders]

Here they are! My first aroace polymer earrings, made them for myself to wear at Pride. :)

[dragonsarecool123]

Aspec representation is important because kids are still told in health class that everyone feels attraction

Aspec representation is important because somewhere in the world there’s a 12 year old crying because they feel broken

Aspec representation is important because I still get told “that’s not real” when I come out

Aspec representation is important because people still think the A in LGBTQIA+ stands for ally

Aspec representation is important because everyone deserves to see someone like them on screen

Aspec representation is important because people still think that asexual and aromantic are the same thing

Aspec representation is important

[i-like-swiss-cheese]

WAIT GUYS

WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT IT

AROMANTICISM IS THE MOST PREVELANT QUEER IDENTITY

THINK ABOUT IT

ALL BACTERIA, ARCHEA AND OTHER SINGLE CELLED ORGANISMS ARE AROACE

BUT MOST ANIMALS, PLANTS AND FUNGI, AND OTHER EUKARYOTES REPRODUCE SEXUALLY BUT DO NOT PARTNER UP FOR LIFE

THEREBY BEING AROALLO

AND IN COMBIONATION WITH THE AROACE PROKARYOTES

AROMANTICISM IS THE MOST PREVELANT QUEER IDENTITY BECAUSE IT IS THE DEFAULT THAT 99.9% OF LIFEFORMS ARE

credit to @watermelon-candy11 for VVVV

EDIT: ALSO BECAUSE MOST OF THE TIME THE MAJORITY OF CELLS IN THE HUMAN BODY ARE MICROBES

AND BECAUSE THEY ARE AROACE

EVERYONE IS LIKE HALF ARO BY CELL COUNT

[bizarreaizen]

someone: hey can you give me some relationship advice?

me who's aroace: communicate

someone: I tried but it didn't-

me: break up /lh

[arodescence]

[kickedoutofthecommunity-aces]

We're going into a difficult time of the year for many aces and aros. This isn't just spending time with people who don't think that your identity is real. It's also dealing with the questions of "when are you going to find a partner" or "when are you planning to have kids" or other invasive questions that are really no ones business.

So I just want to say, that no matter what anyone says, your identity is valid. You are valid. And you're going to get through it this year.

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Sex is optional. This is true for everyone, not just asexual people.

Romance is optional. This is true for everyone, not just aromantic people.

[aromantic-pantyanarchy]

It's me. I'm the cis, heterosexual, aromantic man. I will never marry, I will never be married, I will grow into middle age and elder age and I will die unmarried. I will be forced to support a household of myself on only my wages alone for the rest of my life. I will be asked about women and marriage and children by my family for the rest of my life (or men, the progressive ones might say). I may not ever come out to them. I feel like I burned my coming out on something stupid. I don't want to explain it. I don't want to run them through the definitions and intricacies. I don't want the acceptance without understanding, placating me with ceased questions and poor explanations to other, drunk adults.

I like my hair to be long, I spent a year with it dyed a golden blonde with dark roots because I like the trashy party girl aesthetic. I want to dye it again with pink tips. I like painting my nails, black and blue are my favorite colors. I like wearing chokers. I also like wearing baggy jeans and ratty hoodies. I like having stubble. I like having chest hair. I like having a square jaw and broad shoulders. I wish I had a flatter stomach and a thinner profile frame. I don't know what this makes me, perhaps this is something no more GNC than Machine Gun Kelly. I think about this a lot, how queer my appearance truly is. I should think about it less. I have thought long and hard about if I could be trans or if I could be non-binary or if I could be genderqueer and the conclusion I ultimately came to is that I most enjoy being a man open to whatever self-expression I want.

I don't date, but I've thought about it. I would like to meet people, and I would like to have sex with them. But I don't want to hurt them. I fear if I explain what I am beforehand it'll scare them away. I fear if I explain after they'll feel manipulated or abused. I don't know how many people in the dating scene want what I want. I fear my own lack of experience will make me a bad lay, an embarrassing story to tell to confidants in hindsight. I fear my own virginity, a boundary to those I wish to be like. All of these fears are baseless, as I've not been able to even begin a single relationship in my life. Despite this I still heavily identify with terms like "slut" and "manwhore" and "thot" because my interests lay so deeply within casual sex, sex without great intimacy or emotion. This may be some form of stolen valor. I hope the true sluts are not too mad at me.

I made this blog several years ago because a mutual of mine reblogged memes making fun of aro and ace people, making fun of the concept of aphobia, and in addition well known aphobes. I didn't feel comfortable talking about aro stuff on my main blog, for as little as I talk about it. Living through the ace discourse of the 2016 era has largely caused me to cringe in embarrassment any time I am forced to discuss my orientation with people who aren't aro or ace themselves. I no longer follow this person. I unfollowed many people I was mutuals with from that time, most of them because they posted too often about how much they hated men and I didn't want to see that, some because our interests simply drifted too far apart, only one for explicit aphobia reasons. (Also one because they became a "both sides are bad, any vote is wasted" libertarian, but that's unrelated.)

I guess at this point I don't care deeply about what strangers on the internet think of me. If a trusted friend told me that they don't think I'm truly queer that may hurt. But I am going to continue to use the word for myself. I take up no resources. I go to events that are open to me. If an event was not open to me, I think I'd not want to go anyways. I am not a hypothetical, I am not a strawman, I am a person with lived experiences both within and exterior to the queer community. If you hate me, I will permit you to continue to do so. But ultimately, I am who I am, I cannot change these facts, and I would not choose to do so even if I could.

[wizardly-weirdo]

To adress this recent discourse I saw

Cishet Aromantic men ARE LGBT!

No other way around it, they are queer and if you disagree go fuck yourself

[knifearo]

“there are always more fish in the sea!” babe no offense but i just really sincerely do not want to go fishing

[lgbtqtext]