#Aro Asks

[aro-but-not-ace]

Anyone have any questions or anything they want to know about being aroallo or just aro in general? I want to revitalize this blog and also I love answering questions in general. Send anything into my ask box! Even if you just want to say hi!! :)

[toribookworm22]

53 for the arospec asks!

Hello, lovely!

Hell yeah! Coming in strong!

53. What is the best part about being aro? 

For me, I think the absolutely best part about being aro is just the sense of belonging that comes with the term. I've always been aro, but knowing it let's me enjoy all the good.

Being aro has let me dismantle all the lies amanormativity built up in my head and discover what it is that I truly want out of my life. Which is amazing! The freedom detaching myself from romance has granted me is honestly breathtaking. I'm kind of ranting now, but the sense of community is wonderful, too. I've always felt a little bit on the outside. But I'm not anymore. I have a place and a people that belong to me just as much as I belong to them.

Thank you for the ask!! 🥰

[apocalypsewriters]

9, 23, & 50 for the aro ask game! 🙃

hey tori! (i didn't realise we had this in common until today so 💚)

9. What made you realise you were aspec / arospec?

hh okay kinda complicated and cringy answer. i found the term asexual in fanfic, looked it up, sat on it, before deciding it fit. along the way I found aro and adopted that too. one of the deciding factors was magnus bane from the shadowhunters chronicles. i realised that most anyone else with such strong feelings about someone (fictional or not) would consider it a crush and i. didn't. definitely an oh moment

23. Most underrated form of intimacy?

i don't know if these are underrated, but they're definitely the ones I enjoy the most: head scratches and familial kisses on whatever bit of skin is closest. i love lying in my friends laps with their hand on my head giving slow scratches. and I often restrain myself from pulling up a hand I'm holding to press my lips against it. i feel like I'm making this seem way more sensual and charged than it is; id do the same thing with my younger sisters. if anything this is an underrated platonic intimacy

50. Any arospec headcanons?

(is this revenge or curiosity, tori) some of these are gonna be pretty obscure so props to anyone that gets these.

Sawyeh Noor from the venture maidens fate campaign. she's pretty heavily ace/aro coded and I think it was accidental in the beginning but I think naseem leaned into it by the end, which i appreciate

slake from legendlark. they are just so clueless i don't think they have a complete grasp on what romance even is. they haven't had to roll to fall in love, so frankly, I don't think they can in the way that's implied

peridot from steven universe is a popular one I support. for one, she's green, and also she has the vibes

there are more that i can't think of rn and there's also the category in my brain of "too cool for romance" but that's something different

[sirompp]

hi. i made some images.

feel free to take them and use for whatever you may need them for. no credit required

[edalynn-ink]

This came to me in a dream

[k-is-for-potassium]

[a-rabbit-obsessed-queer]

Aspec men deserve much more respect and recognition in the aspec community than they receive. They often face a different form of aphobia specific to them ("men are naturally sexual they can't be ace" "all men are unromantic that's not unique") this rhetoric is spouted by many, even members of our own community and I hope for a day where that is no longer the case. As an ace and demiro woman (demigirl but that's beside the point) I want to encourage folks to take the time to give the aspec men in their lives support and to the aspec men reading, you are who you say you are no matter what people say and you deserve the world. I'm sorry for the ways in which toxic masculinity has harmed you. You are a valued member of the aspec community and the queer community as a whole. No ace or aro person is broken and neither are you. I'm sorry if anyone has ever told you otherwise.

[neptune-scythe]

Petition for Agender and aroace tags to have the flag colours thanks

[franknfurterstriangulardinosaur]

Have you never had a crush?

I used to believe I had crushes. I truly wanted one. I could never actually manage to like someone for an actual amount of time. I’d just get short fixations on a person and call them crushes. I guess I fixated on my childhood best friend (4-11) for the longest but I’m pretty sure that was just platonic feelings- although we did kiss. So I have never had a crush. I get really strong platonic emotions sometimes though. I also feel sexual attraction so yea I get that type of attraction

[knifearo]

peace and aromanticism on planet earth

peace and aromanticism on planet earth!!!!!! :D

[our-aroace-experience]

Being AroAce and having aesthetic attraction is funny sometimes. I think a lot of people are attractive but I don’t want to do anything about that information.

aesthetic attraction can be super weird sometimes

[growling]

Arospec acceptance leaving peoples' bodies the moment an aro person describes themselves as loveless and/or aplatonic and doesn't actually "make up" for their lack of attraction by platonically loving other people a lot

[toribookworm22]

1, 11, and 15 for the aro ask game if you would!

Hey, Essie! Thank you, love! 💚🤍🖤

1. Where are you on the aro-spectrum?

I am fully aromantic. Green as it gets. (I like how that sounds 😄)

11. Would you want a romantic relationship? 

Not really. I thought I wanted a romantic relationship for about 5 years before realizing I was aro. And then everything kind of clicked into place: the thought of me being in a romantic relationship isn't a pleasant one.

15. What made you realise you wanted a queerplatonic/romantic relationship [if you ever did / do]

I'm gonna answer for the NOT portion of a romantic relationship first. So I've never really been in a relationship, but I've been in some romantic situations that, given more time, probably would've turned into one. I didn't realize it at the time, but those situations actually gave me really bad anxiety eventually, making me not want to talk to the person involved, even though he was my best friend. That same anxiety and sinking feeling is attached to most thoughts of me in a romantic relationship.

Separately, I have been thinking a lot about QPRs in the past couple months. I do think a QPR is something I will eventually consider, as I do think a stable committed relationship is something I want in my life and QPRs are set up to give people the exact boundaries that they need. I'm still working through a lot of the negative feelings that tell me I don't deserve a relationship (thank you amanormativity and co), but I think in the future, I'll be ready to start that part of my life.

Thank you so much for the ask!!! 🥰

[dreagine]

Happy Priiiiiide to you….

Happy Priiiiide to you….

I know it’s the 30th LMAO happy 5 hours of pride month left guys

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Plus this doodle😛 laundry day >_<

[stormandsparks]

Poll

(because of something my sister told me and I’m confused so)

*but it’s fine as a word/thing for others to call themselves

Oh yeah and pls reblog for sample size!

Edit: uhhhh so votes have more than doubled in the last like hour and a half??? Thanks @fuckyeahasexual (i think) 0-0

[aromanticofficial]

I’m aroace and was just browsing the aroace tag when I came across a few exclusionist posts & now I’m feeling… idk. Weird, I guess.

Am I welcome on this blog, even though I’m also ace? I’ve been reblogging posts from here because I recently realized I was aro and wanted to engage with & explore that side of my identity, but if as many aro people as they indicated don’t want aroace people around in their aro spaces, would it be better to just… leave the aromantic tag and blogs altogether? I don’t want to take away from people who are aroallo. I’ve seen it done time and again and don’t want to be some kind of… invasive species or something.

(sorry this was so long and rambly.)

anon. I am holding your face so gently. you belong in aro spaces. don't let exclusionists tell you otherwise. your experience is unique and valuable and there is not a single romantic, sexual, or gender orientation that takes that away. I promise that every aro is welcome on aromanticofficial because this is a space for every aro on the arospec.