#All the love to you

[the-moon-loves-the-sea]

As someone about to be 24 in a few months, does it really get better the older you get? Genuinely confused and wondering because I feel like everyday I'm dragging my feet to just catch up to my peers -Sun

I promise, it really does. Our twenties are rough. That’s our very first decade on our own! You’re just getting started. And your peers who seem like they’re miles ahead of you aren’t really on the same path as you — not any more, not like when we were all in school and we had the same things to learn and the same few years to learn them in, and someone else would tell us when we were through. Now it’s all up to you what comes next.

So all of the ones who have lovers now, or their own place, or a bank account or a couple of dogs or a sense of personal style — none of them are on the same paths either. One of them will raise three kids and then years later start again with two more and do everything differently, and the first kids won’t know how to forgive them for it. And the one going on to their second degree will realize ten years later that they really hate the field they studied for. And they’ll decide to drink less or work less and have to live with the quiet when they slow down, and they’ll move in with their lovers and learn they don’t know anything yet about what they want in love or how to get it. Everyone starts over, over and over again. It’s not a race, it’s a rhythm.

But maybe you really are spinning your wheels and you don’t know how to get traction. How’s your depression? I needed meds, not the anti-anxiety meds they recommended me but proper adhd meds that took years to get. I needed my own space too. I needed new ideas. How kind are the people around you? Do they think good things about you? Are they constantly in crises? Does hearing them stop you from hearing yourself? I had to leave my hometown. I had to unlearn a lot. If you can’t leave, can you find one new person? One quiet place to think? One new author, one new song that’s angrier or lovelier that you can dance to at night or sing to yourself through a long day?

Did things get bad when you were still a kid? You might need extra time with the part of your mind that got stuck young and scared. Somatic therapy is really good. Music helps, and green space, and time working with someone who needs your company — kids or animals or older patients. Most schools and hospice programs need helpers. Making things for yourself helps too — trying until you learn what you like to write or eat or plant, not because it’s mature but because it’s yours.

And maybe you’re actually quite good at some things that you haven’t noticed because they feel easy to learn. How’s your photography, your writing, your memorization, your patience with small kids or spreadsheets or cleaning the little corners of a place? Maybe you don’t know; maybe it’ll take time to find out. If you’ve been diagnosed with anything like neurodivergence or chronic pain, the nearest town to you might have a vocational rehab center that’ll work with you to find your strengths and work you can do.

Anyway, I’m proud of you. You’re looking for hope. There is as much that’s good in the world as all the bad, and some of it is near you. I hope you know you belong here and we need you.

[sepiamestus]

Hi 👋

I hope you are fine 🤗

I'm writing to you with a full of hope that you will help me by donating, sharing, or reblog the gofundme link, as I need those donations to save my family from the war that destroyed my home, my work, and some of my family members 😢😥

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[abubblingcandle]

Would love if you want to share any snippets from Have You Noticed You Are Breathing? or any other whumptober offerings or anything in general you want to share!

You are an absolute star and your company in my sulking in a wetherspoons is much appreciated! Putting this under a break because it long!

Have You Noticed is coming ... slowly. The next chapter is a big one with Jamie's first war room meeting about his dad's case and then a therapy session with the newly returned Doc Sharon. So it's mulling about in my brain about how to do it justice. So instead of course am writing the much cuter chapter 9 lol, so here's a little snippet (I'll format when not on my phone)

"I'll never get this English obsession with not finishing a sport properly." "I'll take you to the Oval before you leave. See the Ashes. Get you a banana costume and everything," Jamie murmurs without really thinking and sees Ted nearly fall off his chair in shock. "Jeepers Jay, spare this old man the medical bills and announce yourself next time. Could've killed me," Ted gasped and clutched at his chest. "No medical bills in the UK boss," Beard correct and Ted waved at him dismissively.

Then in terms of whumptober I've just had a kick of inspiration for a fill for Day 19 (prompt Psychological) and so banging that out hopefully by the weekend. Here's what I've written so far ...

Roy would never admit any of this to Jamie as long as he lived and his sister had sworn on her free weekends that she would take it to her grave as well. It was the most embarrassing thing that Roy had ever done and he once had a mullet and did an advert for a Latvian stock trading website in a leopard print suit. This may all sound like an over reaction and yes he did tell Jamie everything but not this. This would be the thing that severed the tentative peace of friendship between them ... but dear god did it come in handy. It all started after the Jamie Tartt Homecoming Meltdown.

[dan-sing-in-the-rain]

I wanted to say thank you for sharing about your experience in the encampment in the tags on that post! I'm no longer in school and haven't been able to be very involved in much organizing lately but it's amazing to hear about the kind of community and solidarity that you are participating in : ) I hope your finals go well and that you feel better despite the hardship at the hands of the admins/cops/opposition. Also you are a beloved phannie blog to me! <3

Oh my goodness, this made my night :)))) I was just about to go to sleep after an exhausting day (walked over 10 miles carrying boxes for encampment-related purposes and did a take-home final exam) and this lovely message greeted me.

You are also a beloved phannie blog to me! :) I actually kind of had you in my head as a celebrity so receiving this message was entirely unexpected. I also feel super out of the phannie loop right now because of all that's going on in my offline life, so I'm glad to know I've not lost all connection to the phandom by not keeping up with videos.

I hope you have a great day/night and that if there's organizing near you, that you may hear about it and find community. ❤️

I really can't stress enough how much joy this brought me as I get ready to sleep. Good night :)

[littlemisspascal]

Get attacked!! ✨🌈SEND THIS TO OTHER BLOGGERS YOU THINK ARE WONDERFUL. KEEP THE GAME GOING🌈✨❤️

[matan4il]

If you receive this you make someone happy. Go send this to ten of people who make you happy or someone you think need cheering up. If you get some back,even better! and have a lovely day :) 💕💜💕💜💕💜💕

Keep being the light ✨️ 💛 even if I'm not brave enough to do it myself. I love you 💜

Thank you so much, sweetheart! You're the light as well. I know what you did took a lot, and I am still so incredibly proud of you. I hope that you're proud of yourself as well, because you deserve to be! I love you too, so much! I hope you're doing as well as possible! <33333

[hockles]

I really hope my trans friends are doing ok

[a-fiery-fox]

hello hi, just popping in to say that i'm reading 'wish you were here' again and i'm once again losing my mind over how much i love this fic

'i didn't know you had freckles' 🥹😍😭🥰💖🫠🤩

Ahhhh!! Fjdjdjdjsksdjdhsj!!!! I'm so very normal about this I swear 😭 thanks so much dear! A reread no less! The highest of compliments 🥹 I hope it brings you as much joy as the first time round <3

(The freckles line!!!! You're so real for this!!!!!)

[michelleleewise]

I've been trying to draw vampire!loki inspired by your fic but it looks terrible and I'll probably never finish it but I just wanted you to know the thought was there 😅😅😭

Ermegherd!!!!!!! Can I just say how absolutely honored I am that my vampire!Loki inspired you 😊 you are absolutely amazing!!! I would totally love to see it if you ever wanted to share it with me, totally up to you tho!!

Can I also say how very happy I am that in the black hole that is tumblr you found me. 😊 I absolutely love your reblog tags and look forward to each and every one them. Thank you so much for all your support and comments!! They really mean more then I can say!!!!! <<HUGGS>>💚💚💚

[sollucets]

I wanted to thank you, yesterday I had to let my beloved pet go and I just feel like shit and then you go and post not one but two prompts. and one of them I asked for. I cried. Reading both. thank you. This was what I needed. And I am so grateful to have your writing as comfort for me. Thank you.

oh nonny, ill be keeping you in my heart, and i’m very glad to bring you some comfort in a rough time. be kind to yourself, alright? 💜💜💜

[tiklart]

If you receive this, you make somebody happy! (if you want to, ofc) go on anon and send this to the ones who make you happy or somebody you think needs cheering up. If you get one back, even better <3

Sorry for spam, but I don’t want to ignore all these sweet messages 😭🧎🧎 these literally make my day lmao THANK YOU YOU WONDERFUL PEOPLE 💕💕

[roosterbruiser]

I think your speciality as a writer is the emotion you put into every line! Every line makes me feel something 😄

I'm sure this is a good and a bad thing sometimes heh!! but it makes me so happy that I can make you feel things with my words :)

[justalonelyslytherin]

💚💚 love ya dear friend!

I did manage to catch my train, with 2 minutes to spare even. But I'm definitely exhausted from the day. Like so much. Your sweet message made the day a little better and me feeling a little less drained 💚

[littlemisspascal]

♥️love train! Send this to all the blogs you love! Don’t forget to spread the love!♥️

💖💖💖💖💖

[itsame-a-mio]

Happy Pride Month to everyone who gets this joke, laughed at it, or isn’t a homophobic or transphobic etc asshole.

Happy Pride Everyone.

Stay Gay.