#ALLYSHIP

[laughingcatwrites]

As a reminder that good exists out there, a coworker recently confessed to me that he found out his child is questioning their identity (kid's gender redacted for this post). The kid is keeping it from him, so he can't say anything to them or show that he knows, but he's doing his best to get mentally prepared and educated so that he'll be ready whenever his kid does feel comfortable enough come to him.

For context, this guy is a big, bulky middle aged dude who loves sports and typical outdoor "manly" activities. As his coworker and friend, I know he's a kind and sweet teddy bear of a person, but his kid probably views him as a stern, authoritarian figure, the way most teenagers view their parents. His family lives in a conservative area, so I'm sure between that, their dad's looks and interests, and the fact that their dad is a Figure of Authority, the kid is worried that they won't be accepted.

But you know what? When he found out about his kid, the first thing he did was reach out to his closest queer friend and ask for resources for parents of questioning children. His biggest fears are that his kid will be bullied or discriminated against and won't feel comfortable enough to be themself. His second action was to find himself a mentor in another parent who went the same situation (kid coming out in a conservative town). The other person is preparing him for some of the struggles his kid may face and the fights he may need to take on as a parent to make sure his kid is safe and treated well.

Something I want to emphasize for people focused on language as the primary method of allyship is that when we spoke, he used some outdated terms and thoughts about gender and sexuality. That does not make him bad. These were the terms and thinking used about questioning teenagers when he was growing up and he never needed to learn more current ones. But now that he does have that need, he's throwing himself in head first because that's his kid and he's darn well going to make sure that his kid feels welcomed and has a safe place to be themselves even if they never come out to him.

[crazygnomenclature]

[userboxesandstuff]

I think it's stupid that people won't believe the "out group" will help them.

Perisex people can be allies to intersex people

Cis people can be allies to trans people

Non queer people can be allies to the queer community

Transmasc and transfems and transneutrals all help each other

Men can be allies to women

White people can be allies to black, brown, hispanic, asian, and native people

Abled bodied people can be allies to physically disabled people

Neurotypicals can be allies to neurodivergent people, whether that's toward intellectual disability, mental health, learning disability, cognitive disability or other stuff

We're all in this fight together: don't forget it. Be an ally to the groups you're not a part of. Help people you see needing help.

[victusinveritas]

[profeminist]

"Stop worrying about whether Black women know you’re a safe white woman to be around, and start making sure white women know you’re not a safe person to be racist around."

Source: https://www.threads.net/@asuiterclarke/post/DCFdDw8Ta4D

[angelsaxis]

New GFM for Lola!!

"Lola is a Nigerian transfemme who needs help with funds for moving. She has to move to a new city for her own safety and so that she can be able to live vicariously. In the past 3 years she has had to deal with homelessness, harassment, and physical abuse due to the rampant transphobia in her current city and she deserves to have a fresh start in a place where she can live without the constant fear of violence and move forward with her life. Black Trans people deserve to live full fulfilling lives."

Please help by donating and/or sharing!

GOAL: 3500 USD

[oscarisaacasimov]

Hozier's Hymn to Virgil

“There’s points where Virgil picks Dante up and carries him over certain places, and puts him on the back of beasts who fly him over ravines and all of this fantastical stuff. He holds this guy when he faints and trembles and weeps,” Hozier said. “Dante the living human in this poem is, like, horrified. And then he arrives at the end of it, and Virgil says, ‘Well, I can go no further.’ And Dante, the writer, knows on some level that Virgil is not a man who deserves to be in hell.”

[macmanx]

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[creatingblackcharacters]

Blair Imani made an excellent video that I really wanted to share with my white viewers, especially given the current climate. (Though, really, I could say everyone when it comes to antiblackness).

But yeah, we don't host these platforms just to hear ourselves talk 😅 It's not good enough anymore to go "oh, well, I know what's up so I'm Good" while you're passive in a space (fandom and outside), where The Problem is socially acceptable and in fact, encouraged. Especially when you have power in the space. Be willing to get uncomfortable. Be willing to speak up when your favorite creators are racist, or at least unfollow them and stop supporting their work. Have these conversations with your friends when they come up, even when they're going to be hard. Allyship requires action, and it's the- well, y'all know what I was bout to say. 👍🏾

[covid-safer-hotties]

[queer-geordie-dyke]

In my ongoing effort to be as effective an ally and advocate for Jews and for Israelis as I can, I have been doing a lot of reading. I’ve read some of the books on this list and some of them are a work in progress. I would be happy for input and further recommendations:

Everyday Hate: How Antisemitism Is Built Into Our World and How You Can Change It by Dave Rich.

The Left’s Jewish Problem: Jeremy Corbyn, Israel, and Antisemitism by Dave Rich.

People Love Dead Jews: Reports from a Haunted Present by Dara Horn.

Jews Don’t Count by David Baddiel.

Jewish Space Lasers: The Rothschilds and 200 Years of Conspiracy Theories by Mike Rothschild.

Israel: A Simple Guide to the Most Misunderstood Country on Earth by Noa Tishby.

Israelophobia: The Newest Version of the Oldest Hatred and What to Do About It by Jake Wallis Simons.

Jerusalem: The Biography - A History of the Middle East by Simon Sebag Montefiore.

Long Journey Home: A Young Girl’s Memoir of Surviving the Holocaust by Lucy Lipiner.

The Holocaust: A New History by Laurence Rees.

Nazi Germany and the Jews: The Years of Persecution - 1933-1939 by Saul Friedländer.

Nazi Germany and the Jews: The Years of Extermination - 1939-1945 by Saul Friedländer.

[incognitopolls]

Anon is a trans guy and finds that people he's known for years keep seeing him as a woman. He wants to know if it's a genuine mistake/if lots of cis people struggle to adapt.

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[crazygnomenclature]

This was a super controversial series of comics when I posted them on Reddit a year ago. So much so that Zombie Comic Aura talks about it in a video covering T&E sins.

I still don't regret it, because it sets up a little more complexity to Tiff and Eve's relationship. I would have made a few changes if I had thought ahead a little more, but I mention that in Aura's the video.

More Tiff & Eve on Webtoon. Support the comic on Patreon.

[autism-freaks]

One of my closest friends I aroace, and he's talked to me about the experience of being made to feel like he's missing out on something or getting left behind in a way when his loved ones enter romantic relationships. But it really hit home for me how much he deals with and expects this recently when I started dating someone new after being single for a few months and I wanted to share.

During the months I was single, we got a lot closer and we both relied on each other more to have our needs for love fulfilled. For example, we both have physical touch as a primary love language, so we did a lot of platonic physical affection and cuddling. We became main supports in each other's lives even more than before. But the day I told my friend about my new partner and my friend met him, he seemed to kind of instantly back off a bit. He and my partner get along really, really well too. He mentioned that he didnt expect my partner and I to make the hour drive to visit him as often because "it's not like the nature of y'alls relationship". I'm having difficulty explaining, but it was apparent that my friend expected to be taking a back seat to this new relationship in my life despite the fact that I know my friend way better and that broke my heart a bit. I immediately thought, how many times has he had to deal with that? How many beloved friends has he lost to this situation? That must be so horrible to go through! I still very much consider him one of my closest supports and while I know it would never be a necessary choice I would absolutely choose him over a partner I haven't had nearly as much time with. I really want to find a way to tell him that he isn't any less of a priority to me just because I'm not single anymore and I think it's important for us alloromantics to remind our aro and aroace friends of things like that. It's even more important to stick to that statement and show them we mean it.

My aroace friends, you deserve people in your life that prioritize you and engage in the kinds of intimacy you need. You deserve just as much closeness and love as anyone else and you will find it if thats what you want. You don't deserve being put on the back burner when your loved ones get into new romantic relationships and it's really shitty that so many people do that.

[sunbeamedskies]

People on here spreading propaganda that the Iranian government is good...stop.

You are hurting Iranians, Jews, Muslims, Arabs, and more.

The Iranian government does not give a fuck about Palestine. All they are interested in is spreading their power and influence across the Middle East. They even hurled missiles at Al-Aqsa Mosque, which potentially could have destroyed or damaged it if the Iron Dome didn't exist. The only seriously injured victim in Israel was a 7 year old Muslim Bedouin girl. Many Arab countries understand how dangerous the Iranian government is and intercepted some of their missiles.

Iranians have been screaming at the top of their lungs that they don't want war and they are tortured and murdered by their government, but your desire to view the Middle East as a sports match makes you want to root for anyone who is against Israel. The Iranian government literally hosted a Holocaust denial convention in 2006 which included David Duke, one of the former leaders of the KKK. They are not against the Israeli government for the right reasons, but for antisemitic ones. The growing antisemitism in Iran due to their rule drove out thousands of Iranian Jews, many whose only option was to move to Israel.

Please do research before spewing ignorant bullshit that harms everyone. There is no shame in admitting you were misinformed. Peoples' lives are worth more than your bruised ego.

[angelsaxis]

LOLA STILL NEEDS HELP! NEW PINNED!

She can't stay in Abuja because it ended up not being the safest place for her. She needs FOOD, HRT, AND HOUSING. She's at risk of facing violence every day.

This is an old campaign but it's still valid. If you can't donate yourself, please reblog! Spread this wherever you can. She's been having so much trouble for so long that I'd hate to see her give up on survival now.

She's @/Afrrau_Deity on Twitter.

If I had money I'd definitely give it to her too but I'm almost in the red myself.

5,674/15,000 USD