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who else spends their time thinking about how in 6 months your life could suddenly be completely different whether rocked by tragedy or miracle and you just dont even know, youre just setting yourself up for that thing without even realising it but you have no control over it!!! AH. i know i just described anxiety but whatever.
#6 months in generous like your life could also change within a day#i feel so relaxed all the time#edit- how many typos does this post need damn smh
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How did you meet your husband? And what was your story like?
I met my husband on tumblr when we were both like 17-18 but actually started dating when we were 24
We were mutuals for many years, just casually friends from different cities with no plans of ever hanging out but would chat sometimes, support each other's art, and recommend music/books
I had mutual friends with him irl because lots of people from my arts high school in Pittsburgh ended up in Philly at Tyler which shared a campus with his school which was funny but we still were really only internet friends till 2020 when during the first lockdown I had been through a break up earlier that year and had spent a lot of time alone and sort of thinking more deeply and uninterrupted than I ever had about romance and love because I was unhappy where I was at. I was also really sick at the time and had been getting more sick for the last 4-5 years without finding the reason why so it was just generally a very life changing moment of needing to soul search on a lot of levels to cope with what was happening.
My long time best friend ended up asking me "If you could date anyone, not just who you know or who's around, who would you ask out?" and I had never thought about it like that because I was very much a creature of comfort and usually dated co workers or friends within my social circles out of availability - but I answered right away with my husband which felt funny because I had not ever actually considered him a "crush" up until that point but I realized he was in my eyes, the coolest person I knew.
So I dm'd him on instagram (which he very rarely used) and said something flirty for the first time like "hey nice birkenstocks, maybe we can wear them together on a lavender farm sometime" not knowing if that would be weird since I had never been suggestive towards him before then but to my surprise he reciprocated hard and fast like no hesitation! We realized it had never occurred to either of us to consider something long distance but that we were both very attracted to each other and the timing just lined up well!
We started texting every day for about a month and I also moved into a new short term lease, and within that month of talking he bought his first car so he could come and meet me. He drove in on a friday after work and didn't get to my house till like 1am, but we just had a really intense emotional/spiritual connecting right away and I think both of realized it was serious very fast. I was actually so nervous that I got constipated to the point he had to drive me to the ER on his last night visiting. I told all the nurses I had just met my true love.
After he had to go back to Philly, he drove back up a month later to stay for a whole week, during which we decided he'd come move in with me for the rest of my 6 month lease and then I'd come move to Philly to be with him. I also realized that for all this to happen, I needed to take a risk and find out what was really going on with me medically, so I also got a diagnostic surgery where they found endometriosis. It was a really hard recovery that he was there for me for, and when I was healed up enough and my lease ended he drove us back to Philly. We got married in 2021 about a year later.
He is the treasure of my life <3
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Girl I’m ready for the next part of Had it Coming 😩🫶🏼
Had it Coming (Part 5): Hook'sSister!Reader X Christian Cage, Reader X Jack Perry
Summary: It's been some months after the confrontation with Jack about your relationship. Are things still holding up strongly in your life?
Word Count: 2K (hehe...i need help)
Supreme Speaks: thank you guys so much for supporting this series and showing it love. aight look, this took a hot minute so please go easy on this. also, thank you so much for being patient and to my anons i hope you are still here. Please remember that you are loved and appreciated.
Warnings: DARK PORTRAYAL OF JACK (tw: obsessive, stalking), explicit language, proofread i hope (if yall wanna help a sista out lmk hmu)
You thought that all of your problems were solved. You thought you were actually moving towards happiness yet again. But no, this shit can’t get any fucking worse.
It’s been approximately 6 months since you last saw Jack. For the first month, you kept receiving messages from him ranging from angry to sadness. You blocked his number but he was getting new phone numbers and using his friends’ phones to text you. You ended up getting a new number but that didn’t even stop him as he even began texting you on Instagram and Twitter.
It was driving you crazy, the constant noise of your phone going off, and the constant feeling that you were being watched. You started to seek therapy because of it and tried everything to distract you from it. Even Tony allowed you to take time off however much you needed to cope and heal.
But then one day and for the rest of the 5 months, he was radio silent.
It wasn’t because he finally got the hints though. It was because he signed to New Japan Pro Wrestling. Because they have a rigorous training and performance schedule, he didn’t have enough time to text you.
The new silence and peace allowed you to focus on other and more important things. You started wrestling again and actually made you feel better. You were winning more matches all by yourself, the crowd slowly but surely started to get behind you again, and you were rising up to be one of the top talents within the women’s division. You decided that being in the ring was the best course of action for your career, mindset, and peace. After all, there wasn’t much you could do in just a managerial position, besides supporting your boyfriend.
And speaking of your boyfriend, you two have been going through some challenges within your relationship. Christian was keeping a closer eye on you. He never allowed you to leave the house by yourself when you had days off, and when you were at work you were always escorted to your destinations. At first, it was endearing, however, over time it became smothering and overbearing. It was like Christian was becoming less of the person you fell in love with and more into a….
Bother.
After all, he hasn’t been catering to your needs or relationship, always focused on work. You’ve tried to tell him your feelings but he doesn’t seem to listen as he’s too absorbed with his career. And was too absorbed to even send you flowers like he normally does.
He began to get very obsessed with his TNT Championship and his rivalry with his former best friend, Adam Copeland. He started to wrestle even less than usual and just paraded around the building before going home. And then he became very obsessed with The Patriarchy, the name of his faction. Originally, it was just you, Christian, and Luchasaurus. But now, you were in and out of the picture, he changed Luchasaurus’ name to Killswitch, and he added Nick Wayne to the group, the same kid he embarrassed months ago. Which all contributed to why you’re sitting here in the group’s locker room now.
Killswitch was pacing around the room, shadowboxing the air. You were sitting on the couch listening to Nick Wayne and his various questions and stories about wrestling. He’s a sweet kid, a second-generation wrestler, and very curious just about life. His big brown eyes just lit up every time you offered him advice or laughed at his jokes.
“So Miss. Y/N-“
“Nick, I told you that you don’t have to call me that. Y/N is fine with me.”
“Oh okay, Y/N, has Mr. Cage always been very stoic? He seems to be very uptight.” Nick said in a whisper, careful to not let Killswitch hear.
You giggled as you looked towards the open door where Christian was loudly talking on the phone.“Yeah, but he knew how to relax, have fun, and make others a priority. But right now, he’s going through a phase.” Nick’s eyes widened at you as you cleared your throat. “He’s just a little on edge right now. But look at the bright side; you’re improving so much in the ring.”
Nick smiled at you, “Thank you! Mr. Cage has really been giving me great pointers. But I also wanna thank you for helping me with that submission move.”
“No problem, I-“ you started but cut yourself off when you heard Christian start to yell in the hallways. You excused yourself before going in the hallway and shutting the door. You grabbed his phone and put it up to your ear, making your boyfriend’s jaw drop. “I’m sorry for that. Mr. Cage is busy and will have to call you later. Thank you!” You said before hanging up the phone.
“Y/N-“
“You are being way too loud and you're going back to your old ways. This is the first time you’re yelling on the phone in months.”
His eyes cut at you and his tone grew to very stern, “That was a very important business-“
“Everything is very important business with you, right? The faction, your championship, but not your relationship. You’re focused on everything but me and I just ask if you can just once think about me.”
Christian’s face grew with confusion as he ran his fingers through his short dirty blonde hair. “Everything I do is for you Y/N. I fight for you, I protect you, I provide for you, especially ever since that day with Jack. But I’ve been trying to give you space since you feel smothered and whatnot.”
You huffed, upset that he hasn’t seen your ways yet, “Oh so that TNT Championship is for me? So this group is for me? Newsflash, all this is your doing and for your benefit but it wasn’t ever anything until I came into the picture. Has it ever crossed your mind that I feel smothered because I feel like I’m not in a relationship anymore? In terms of Jack, I’ve been doing a lot of healing but I cannot continue to heal if you’re holding me hostage like how he did.”
Christian’s eyes widened before shock, fear, and disappointment took over his eyes. It made your heart hurt, but it was something that you felt and you had to let him know. He stepped closer and leaned down, not taking his blue eyes off of you, “What are you trying to say?”
“I think you know what.” You whispered as his face was centimeters close to yours. The silence and air became so tense that you felt like you were suffocating. Before either of you could say something, his phone started to ring in your hand. He grabbed the phone and looked at the name.
“Go inside now. I’ll be there shortly.” He said as he turned his body away to answer the phone. Upon entering the locker room, you could have sworn his tone was more excited and softer…like how he used to talk to you. As you closed the door, Nick looked at you and gave you a soft smile. You sat next to him and began another conversation to wait out Christian.
Five minutes later, Christian came back into the locker room with something- someone in tow. She was a tall blonde woman, who was a little bit taller than Christian due to her heels. She looked like a supermodel. She was dressed in all black, matching your boyfriend’s actions. You looked over at Nick, whose eyes were about to pop out of his head. Already, you felt some off vibes. Christian cleared his throat to address the room.
“Everyone, I would like to introduce someone. This is will be my new manager,” Those words made both your stomach drop. However, him pulling flowers out from behind him to give them to her would make your heart drop. He continued, “and I’m sure she will be a great asset to The Patriarchy, please welcome Shayna-“
“Mom?” Nick’s voice shouted from beside you. Your eyes also began to pop out of your head. ”What is this?!”
“Nick, this is a business arrangement. This should be fun, I get more acquainted with the wrestling industry and I get to spend more time with you. Mr. Cage made me an offer that I couldn’t refuse.” She said giggling while leaning on his shoulder, making your boyfriend smile and chuckle. She rubbed his shoulder and flipped her hair while continuing to talk.
Normally, you wouldn’t get insecure about another woman near Christian but at this point, you couldn’t help it. It made your eyes and heart hurt, seeing them so comfortable together and for her to look like she naturally belonged next to him.
But also, it made you mad as hell that he was allowing someone else to showcase this behavior alone right in front of you.
To distract yourself, you started looking at your phone and you found two text messages. One was from your brother, Tyler, asking you to come see him as he had important news. From the looks of his text, which has no acronyms or emojis, you assumed that it was bad news. The other one was from an unknown number, you were about to unlock and read the text until a figure was standing over you. You looked up from your phone to see Shayna standing over you, with almost a smug smirk.
“You must be Y/N, I’ve heard a lot about you!” She said as her smirk transformed into a smile. You stood up and gave her a small fake smile. She extended her hand to you.
Looking at her hand, you said, “Nice to meet you. However, I should be going.” You stepped aside and headed towards the door.
“Killswitch, go with her,” Christian commanded as you opened the door. Killswitch started to make his way over to you.
You rolled your eyes saying, “These are family matters. I’m going alone.” Before slamming the door shut in Killswitch’s face. You quickly marched, damn near ran, to Tyler’s locker room.
You took a deep breath and opened the door. “Okay, you had no emotions in your text, is everything ok-” You looked up to see your brother…kissing a brunette woman.
Which at first you didn’t have a problem with.
Tyler quickly stepped away from the woman but soon grabbed her waist, turning her to you, to reveal all-too-familiar blue eyes mooning as she made an awkward smile.
“Anna?” You said with your voice hesitating. Anna Jay gave a small wave to you as Tyler scratched his neck and then ran his hand through his own hair.
Now, you have a problem with it. In a shocked state, turned around despite your brother’s protesting and asking you to let him explain. You shut the door and just kept walking down the hallway.
You were just shocked and angry. Your brother, whom you’re very close with just stood there making out with the same woman who was detrimental in the break up of your last relationship. You couldn’t help but think that all this trouble was karma catching up with you. After all, you did at first betray him to date his best friend and become his enemy at first.
As you’re trying to process what was happening between your relationship with Christian and your relationship with Tyler, your phone goes off to show you the message that you never opened. Your body naturally stopped in the hallway to pay attention to your phone. You swiped on your screen to reveal a message that sent chills down your spine and your phone crashing to the floor. Tears started to fill your eyes as you began to feel overwhelmed with all that was going on in your life. You dropped to your knees as you re-read the text with your tears hitting your now cracked phone screen.
Unknown number: 7:08 PM
Hey Y/N, I would like to talk and apologize to you…properly. Please text me back.
~Love, Jack
At this point, karma and trouble has caught up to you.
And you only had yourself to blame.
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Hi Moon!
I'm here for Aruani writer ask game :3
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Hello Anna, and thank you for the ask ./////.
1 - Share your favorite part of your latest fic T^T A trick question! I have many little moments I love! But okay, here's one I can quickly think of, from Ch 10 of VBEOW:
Armin reaches up his free hand to brush a lock of hair away from her face as she continues to hold his gaze. Eyes like the daylight sky, that hold strength and resilience within those light blue irises. They expand into the dark pupils of night whenever they focus on him and him only. The inside of his palm hollows to fit the gentle curve of her cheek and she leans into his touch. She keeps her eyes on his and doesn't break contact even when his thumb brushes along her delicate lower lashes. "What are you thinking?" She whispers. I want to make love to you, he thinks. Undress you, kiss you, take you high. His index finger brushes along her upper lashes, long and beautiful, and her eyelids flutter closed. He wants to make love to her. Give her ecstasy and pleasure and everything he has to offer. But he's so tired.
3 - If you look back at your first fic compared to your last, what's changed? This is answered over here :3
6 - Tell us about your longest fic Uh, VBEOW is... the current and only longfic xD I honestly have never written a chaptered fic before for several reasons, and I also didn't see myself doing this until 2 months ago when I thought about the sequel to TFLM and suddenly went "oh shit, I can't fit all this into a oneshot ._." And so it happened and the intro that was supposed to be 2 chapters became 7... and now I think it will extend well into the late twenties ._. All that said, I think it's the best use of my time that I've spent recently. It makes me very happy to think about, to plan, to write, and I'm glad I'm living my best life in this fic anyway xD I'm very proud of it for sure. I am also a fan of giving people a visual adventure/treat on anything I try to do, and here I've found an opportunity to do that for both the characters themselves, and for the readers.
7 - What was the inspiration behind your shortest fic? Shortest fic... would be... Falling Into Neptune at 4.6k words and it was this song: Tenno - Spirit of Life xD The song just told me to write about their first kiss in Fort Salta and to make it HOT.
9 - Which of your fics is your favorite and why? I'm sure I've already said this 329835923856 times xD But TFLM. Idk why exactly, if you asked me to point out how superior it is to VBEOW, I can't do that because it's not, and it's also not that complicated... but I guess I just really like the Fort Salta setting in general and I just fit all the magic into that last day as much as I possibly could. Also, considering it's given a great deal of inspiration for VBEOW, I'm very grateful to it :3
10 - Write about their first kiss! ... this question actually confuses me xD Because first kiss... as I've written it... or in general?? ._. But anyway, as a headcanon, I'd imagine it would be pretty awkward. With both of them secretly dying to kiss each other and also nervous as fuck; Armin will think too much, Annie will think too little - it's bound to be a little... messy, maybe? xD But they'll fall into rhythm in less than 0.5 minutes, because they're quick learners, and they're hot and awesome T//////T
11 - What annoys you the most about your own writing habits? Hm. First and foremost, the fact that I can't relax and slow down my pace. If a fic/chapter is mostly fully outlined in my head, I just can't go "Okay, i'll write this in two days" no, because I'm already itching to write it and I tend to ignore all my other responsibilities altogether xD Second is how I always second-guess my intelligence with plotlines I suppose.
14 - Tell us about a detail you wrote that nobody has commented on yet. I don't think it exists, especially not when you, in particular, pick up every detail and more xD However if we're strictly going to by "commented" I guess the only thing I can remember off the top of my head is that Kari-Armin interaction in Ch. 11 :3
Thanks very much for the ask T^T
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How Long Does Orthodontic Treatment Typically Last? A Guide from the Best Orthodontic Treatment in B
Orthodontic treatment can be life-changing, not only enhancing your smile but also improving oral health. However, one of the most common concerns patients have is how long the process will take. The duration of orthodontic treatment can vary depending on several factors, including the complexity of the case, the type of treatment, and the patient's commitment to following the orthodontist’s instructions. If you're considering the best orthodontic treatment in Bhubaneswar, understanding the timeline and process can help you prepare for your orthodontic journey.
In this article, we’ll explore the typical length of orthodontic treatments, factors that influence the timeline, and what you can expect during the process.
Typical Duration of Orthodontic Treatment
Orthodontic treatment duration is highly individual, but on average, most patients can expect their treatment to last between 12 and 24 months. In some cases, treatment might be completed in as little as 6 months, while more complex cases could extend to 3 years or longer.
Several factors influence the timeline, and understanding them can give you a clearer idea of how long your treatment may last.
Factors That Affect Orthodontic Treatment Duration
Type of Malocclusion The type and severity of misalignment, or malocclusion, is one of the primary factors that determine how long treatment will last. Common malocclusions include:
Overbite: Where the upper front teeth overlap the lower teeth.
Underbite: Where the lower teeth extend beyond the upper teeth.
Crossbite: A misalignment of the upper and lower teeth when the jaw is closed.
Crowded or Gapped Teeth: Teeth that are too close together or too far apart.
More severe cases of malocclusion generally require longer treatment times, as significant movement of the teeth and jaw is needed to achieve proper alignment.
Type of Orthodontic Appliance The type of orthodontic appliance you use also plays a role in how long the treatment takes. Traditional braces tend to offer more precise control over tooth movement and may be more suitable for complex cases. However, newer options like clear aligners (e.g., Invisalign) can also deliver excellent results, often in a shorter amount of time. Some treatments, like lingual braces (braces placed behind the teeth), can take slightly longer due to their unique positioning and mechanics.
Patient Age Orthodontic treatment is often more efficient in younger patients, particularly children and teenagers, as their teeth and jaws are still developing. In adults, the treatment might take a little longer since the jawbones are more rigid. That said, orthodontic treatment is highly effective at any age, with many adults achieving great results within a reasonable timeframe.
Compliance with Instructions One of the most important factors in determining treatment length is the patient’s commitment to following their orthodontist's instructions. For instance, if you're using clear aligners, wearing them for the recommended 22 hours a day is crucial for optimal results. Similarly, attending regular check-ups and following advice regarding oral hygiene and dietary restrictions can prevent delays in treatment.
Tooth Movement Rate The speed at which your teeth move is unique to you. While some people may experience faster movement, others may require more time for their teeth to adjust. Orthodontists use controlled force to gradually move the teeth into place, and it’s essential not to rush this process to avoid complications like root resorption or damage to the jaw.
Additional Procedures In some cases, orthodontic treatment may require additional procedures such as tooth extractions or jaw surgery, which can extend the overall treatment time. These procedures are typically necessary in more complex cases where there is insufficient space for teeth to align properly or when correcting severe jaw misalignment.
Phases of Orthodontic Treatment
Orthodontic treatment generally progresses through several phases, each of which contributes to the overall timeline:
Consultation and Treatment Planning The first step involves an initial consultation where your orthodontist will evaluate your teeth and jaw alignment. X-rays, photographs, and impressions may be taken to assess your specific needs. Based on this evaluation, your orthodontist will develop a customized treatment plan and estimate the expected treatment time.
Active Treatment Phase During the active treatment phase, your orthodontic appliance (braces, aligners, etc.) is placed, and regular adjustments are made to gradually move your teeth into their desired positions. This phase typically lasts 12 to 24 months, depending on the severity of your case and your compliance with the treatment plan.
Retention Phase After the active treatment phase, a retainer is used to maintain the results and prevent your teeth from shifting back to their original positions. The retention phase is crucial for long-term success and typically lasts for several months to a few years. Some patients may need to wear retainers at night indefinitely to ensure their teeth remain aligned.
Can Treatment Time Be Reduced?
While there’s no way to significantly reduce treatment time without compromising the results, there are a few strategies that may help speed up the process:
Accelerated Orthodontics: Some orthodontists offer treatments that use additional techniques, such as micro-osteoperforation or high-frequency vibration devices, to speed up tooth movement.
Consistent Compliance: Following your orthodontist's instructions—such as wearing aligners for the recommended time or avoiding hard, sticky foods that can damage braces—can help prevent delays.
Regular Check-ups: Attending scheduled appointments ensures that your treatment is progressing smoothly and allows your orthodontist to make necessary adjustments.
Conclusion
The duration of orthodontic treatment depends on various factors, including the complexity of your case, the type of appliance used, and your commitment to following your orthodontist’s instructions. On average, treatment can last anywhere from 12 to 24 months, but it can be shorter or longer depending on individual circumstances. If you’re considering the best orthodontic treatment in Bhubaneswar, it’s important to discuss your specific needs with a qualified orthodontist who can provide a detailed treatment plan and timeline.
By understanding the process and committing to your treatment, you can look forward to achieving a healthier, more aligned smile in due time.
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Comprehensive Guide to Knee Replacement: What You Need to Know
COMPREHENSIVE GUIDE TO KNEE REPLACEMENT: WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW
Knee replacement surgery can be life-changing. It offers relief from pain and improves mobility. This blog covers everything you need to know about knee replacement, helping you make informed decisions about your health.
What is Knee Replacement Surgery?
Knee replacement, or knee arthroplasty, is a surgical procedure that involves replacing a damaged knee joint with an artificial one. This surgery is common among individuals suffering from severe arthritis or knee injuries. The goal is to reduce discomfort and improve physical capabilities.
Who Needs Knee Replacement Surgery?
Not everyone with knee pain needs surgery. Doctors typically recommend knee replacement for patients with chronic knee pain and severe arthritis. It is also suggested when other treatments, like medications and physical therapy, fail to provide relief. Patients who struggle with everyday activities due to knee pain may be good candidates.
Types of Knee Replacement
Following are some of the knee replacement surgeries provided by orthopedic specialists:
Total Knee Replacement (TKR): The whole knee joint is replaced with a prosthesis.
Partial Knee Replacement (PKR): Only the damaged part of the knee is replaced.
Bilateral Knee Replacement: Both knees are replaced at the same time.
Each type has its benefits and considerations. Discussing options with your surgeon is crucial.
Preparing for Knee Replacement Surgery
Preparation is key to a successful surgery. Your doctor will conduct a thorough evaluation. This may include medical history, physical exams, and imaging tests. Additionally, patients should:
Quit smoking to improve healing.
Discuss medications with their doctor.
Arrange for post-surgery assistance at home.
A pre-surgery exercise program might also be recommended to strengthen muscles around the knee.
The Knee Replacement Procedure
The procedure typically lasts between one and two hours. It involves the following steps:
Anesthesia: General or spinal anesthesia is administered.
Incision: A cut is made over the knee to access the joint.
Removal of Damaged Tissue: Damaged cartilage and bone are removed.
Implant Placement: The artificial joint components are positioned.
Closure: The surgical incision is sealed using either stitches or staples.
Patients are then moved to a recovery area for monitoring.
Recovery and Rehabilitation
Recovery varies for each patient. Initially, you may need to stay in the hospital for a few days.
Physical therapy begins soon after surgery. This is essential for regaining strength and mobility.
Key aspects of recovery include:
Pain management with prescribed medications.
Gradual increase in activity levels.
Regular follow-up appointments with your surgeon.
Complete recovery can take several months. However, most patients resume normal activities within 6 to 12 weeks.
Risks and Complications
As with any surgery, knee replacement carries risks. These include infection, blood clots, and implant issues. However, complications are relatively rare. Adhering to your doctor’s advice significantly reduces these risks.
Life After Knee Replacement
Many patients experience significant improvements after knee replacement. Pain relief is the most notable benefit. Enhanced mobility allows for a more active lifestyle. However, taking care of your new knee is essential. Avoid high-impact activities that could damage the joint.
Conclusion
Knee replacement surgery is a transformative procedure that provides a new opportunity for a better quality of life for numerous individuals. Understanding the process, from preparation to recovery, is crucial. Always consult with your healthcare provider to determine the best course of action for your knee health.
By staying informed, you can take proactive steps towards a pain-free, active life. If you have questions or need further information, don’t hesitate to contact our orthopedic clinic. We are dedicated to providing you with assistance and support at every stage of the way.
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Lemme tell you, my darlings, there is no shame in asking for help. None. Especially if the thing you're needing help with affects you in emotional or physical ways. And, that could be asking friends for aid or scraping the money together to hire some aid.
Spouse and I are okay financially. Not rich by any means, but things came together Just Right that we were able to buy our house. Now, granted, that sucked away a lot of our buffer in the bank and it takes at least 6 months to a year to stabilize a budget after a major life change.
Now, when I move, I have a tendency to go into nesting mode and just clean EVERYTHING. I hate cleaning as a rule. I mean, I do it, but it takes a lot of battling my executive dysfunction just to get small things done, so it's exhausting as a result. But, when I move, I tend to get a sudden burst of "MUST CLEANSE IT ALL AND MAKE IT MINE."
Except, this time, the day we were finishing up moving from the old place, I got the call about my mom going into the hospital...
...and she didn't come out.
Now, being in mourning on top of my seasonal depression over the most hellish summer I have ever experienced in my life thus far AND my general ADHD/anxiety has made it where I do the exact minimum it takes to keep the house in a healthy state, but gods does it need that kind of spring/fall cleaning that I just can't do right now.
And, it has killed me. It is bothering me to no end. I feel like I failed. It has been a constant source of anxiety no matter how much Spouse assures me it's okay. Yes, he does share the chores, but he also works all day, so I feel bad that I haven't accomplished this. It is literally a sword I'm holding over my own head.
So, I made sure we had the budget, and I called a cleaning service to come in for an estimate on a deep clean.
I know most neurotypicals would be like "you could save the money and do it yourself". Right now? This year? After also losing a cousin I was very close to, after an entire summer of hellish heat that I barely was able to function? No, no I can not. Not without help.
I don't have many friends here anymore since I was gone for 15 years. I don't have a local network I can lean on for aid. I'm rebuilding one, but it takes a lot of time. Besides, I have the means, so there is literally zero reason why I shouldn't do it.
Just scheduling the estimate for the job lifted an enormous weight off me. It's not even a guarantee we will take it, but just knowing someone else can come in and say "Oh yeah, we can do this within your budget" has hit me with ridiculous amounts of seratonin.
People who have never been poor just do not understand what it's like when you can do something like this after never being able to before. People who are neurotypical just don't fucking understand that asking for help when you need it is not a fucking failure in itself.
Doing this will give us a significant improvement on our mental health, not to mention I'm a fucking wiz at keeping up with things once it's cleaned and organized. I just get severely overwhelmed when it comes to getting it there. And, I promise you, with this off my shoulders, it will give me back that energy that is wasted on this anxiety and allow me to do the other things I've been wanting to do.
So, yeah, that whole Boomer bullshit of "pull yourself up by your bootstraps"? It's just that, bullshit. Their excuses don't hold up these days, and it's a pretty fucking cruel way of refusing to help someone.
Humans got this far by helping each other. Do not ever feel like you failed because you need help, even if it's help you have to pay for.
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By now, anybody who has ever develop into enthusiastic about making themselves more healthy and fitter is aware of that consuming actual, entire and wholesome meals will all the time be the most suitable choice if we need to stay more healthy.However life can’t be excellent ALL the time and when it begins to get busier by the minute, it’s subsequent to not possible to search out time to make a great nutritious meal. And nutritious meals aren’t all the time low-cost and ready-made choices from corporations like Slim Quick and Nutrisystem could also be out of attain resulting from finances drawback.That’s the place high quality dietary supplements and such may also help to fill in these dietary gaps.One among my favourite dietary supplements is from LYFE Gasoline. I’ve been religiously taking two of their merchandise (which I'll get into extra element beneath) for the previous 6 months and the entire expertise has been nothing however in need of wonderful.I’ve tried numerous meal substitute shakes for breakfast prior to now however in the long run I selected to stay with LYFE Gasoline… and albeit, it’s among the best choices of my life.In the event you’re curious to know extra about LYFE Gasoline and why I’m an enormous fan, learn on beneath for every thing it's good to know concerning the model, the merchandise I swear by, and my ideas and general expertise with it .About LYFE Gasoline - an OverviewOnce I first heard about LYFE Gasoline, I assumed the homeowners have been simply attempting to promote costly protein powder altering the I in LIFE with a Y…… it seems LYFE truly stood for his or her mantra, “Stay Your Fullest On a regular basis.” Think about my thoughts blowing once I realized that a couple of months after. It’s fairly spectacular and the mantra actually motivates me to maintain at it! (1)Again in 2015, the individuals behind LYFE Gasoline discovered the well being complement business overhyped and severely missing in a variety of important vitamins – these vitamins have been ones you can solely get from entire meals.Armed with the idea that vitamin needs to be a, if not THE, main part to a wholesome way of life, the brains of the corporate started to develop a wiser strategy to gas the physique.They took a holistic strategy to wellness and centered on utilizing actual, plant-based entire meals to be the components. The model then launched its first product, the Every day Necessities Shake in 2016. (2)As seen on their web site, the model’s mission is “to encourage and empower change towards a more healthy future by producing essentially the most nutrient-dense merchandise on the planet; created by nature, rooted in science, and designed for contemporary life.” (3)LYFE Gasoline envisions to encourage everybody to not solely really feel, look, and carry out higher by means of its merchandise, however have the ability to encourage others to stay their lives to the fullest as effectively.Now, transferring on to their merchandise…LYFE Gasoline MerchandiseAs of writing, the model has launched 5 merchandise, specifically:Every day Necessities Shake;Restoration Shake;21-Day Transformation ProgramNecessities Bar; andWellness IncreaseWe’ll be reviewing the primary 3 merchandise within the record above, beginning with the Every day Necessities Shake.Lyfe Gasoline Necessities ShakeLYFE Gasoline claims their Every day Necessities Shake to be essentially the most nutritionally full gas supply on planet earth. (4)Greater than a low sodium protein powder, their Every day Necessities Shake is a whole plant-based meal you can also make in a minute or much less. They additional declare that it will possibly show you how to obtain a stronger physique, a sharper thoughts, and a greater life.A serving of the Every day Important Shake is certain to provide the vitality you want for the day whereas conserving your cravings at bay.Dietary InformationThe model boasts of offering shoppers with a lot wanted important vitamins. These important
vitamins are taken solely from actual meals components and the shake has no synthetic components.One serving or 33g of the Every day Necessities Shake accommodates the next:Energy: 110kcalFats: 2gProtein: 18gCarbs: 6gFiber: 1gSugar: 3gEach serving additionally has over 27 important nutritional vitamins and minerals, probiotics, antioxidants, and superfoods like flaxseeds, barley grass, spirulina, kale, and dandelion to spice up vitamin whereas serving to you to remain centered and full for the remainder of the day.The Every day Necessities shake is totally plant-based; the protein in it's made out of a mix of pea protein and natural rice protein. It’s additionally worthy to notice that it has no synthetic components, is low calorie, soy-free, gluten-free, and dairy-free. You possibly can devour this scrumptious shake with out worrying what is going to occur if I drink protein shakes with out figuring out.Once I first determined so as to add LYFE Gasoline to my common consumption, I used to be extra centered on merely getting my full vitamin day-after-day. To my nice shock, I bought greater than what I anticipated: it helped me keep extra awake, carry out higher, and even aided me to lose undesirable weight alongside the way in which.Style and TextureHow a meal substitute shake tastes generally is a actual dealbreaker for many people. To be frank, once I learn the dietary label , and noticed how “healthful” the components have been, it made me suppose that I used to be going to be tasting recent grass. I used to be additionally bit fearful as I assumed this won't be the suitable protein powder for my delicate abdomen.IF that was the case, I might have dropped this product instantly and moved on to a different meal shake.Fortunately, LYFE Gasoline proved me flawed (VERY WRONG) as a result of taste-wise, their Every day Necessities Shake exceeded my expectations! Whereas it nonetheless jogs my memory of a (rather more pleasant-tasting) recent inexperienced smoothie, it does not style too err… earthy.On the brilliant aspect, the style undoubtedly assured me that the shake has no synthetic components in it, what with how clear and “uncooked” it tastes. It actually jogs my memory of the shakes I make at residence with recent fruits and veggies – solely that LYFE Gasoline tastes so significantly better.The Every day Necessities Shake is available in two flavors: Vanilla Chai and Chocolate.If we’re basing it solely on taste, many shoppers favor the chocolate over the vanilla when taken with simply water or milk however favor the vanilla when blended in a smoothie or fruit shake recipe.Based mostly on my private expertise, I must agree with each sentiments. The Vanilla has a stronger “inexperienced smoothie” taste once you drink it by itself, however including it to a recipe (e.g. plant-based milk, ice, and banana), and you've got a scrumptious smoothie social gathering going!On the brighter aspect, each have simply the correct quantity of sweetness for me and doesn't give off a cool stevia aftertaste.As for texture, each flavors are very simple to down and the graceful consistency when consuming it makes me sit up for having it day-after-day. I like that the powder dissolves simply and doesn’t get lumpy whether or not you employ a shaker bottle or a blender.It’s not too runny once you add simply the correct quantity of water or milk and it blends simply with fruits and yogurt. However that’s simply my expertise – a couple of have identified that they nonetheless discover it a tad bit chalky particularly in case you’re solely utilizing a shaker bottle or water bottle.WorthYou should buy a 1.75lb bag of LYFE Gasoline’s Every day Necessities Shake straight from their web site at $70.00 for a one-time buy and at $60.00 in case you get a subscription.Basing it off the one-time buy value, every serving would value $2.9.Barely dearer than your common meal substitute shake however, once you have a look at the Every day Necessities Shake‘s record
of components and add within the firm’s dedication to offering shoppers with “nothing however the cleanest and one of the best formulation for a whole meal”, I say the worth is justified.In addition to, it’s cheaper than Shakelogy, Herbalife and different plant-based meal shakes out available in the market at present.Nice! Now, let’s head over to LYFE Gasoline’s second product, the Restoration Vitamin Shake.Lyfe Gasoline Restoration Vitamin ShakeThe Restoration Vitamin Shake, or the Restoration Shake for brevity, is not only your common outdated protein shake. Made to be extra of a post-workout excessive protein powder with out whey, it’s fastidiously formulated to assist with faster and extra optimum muscle restoration. Along with using shakes for muscle restoration, I additionally use a Theragun earlier than and after exercises to make sure that my muscular tissues are correctly recovered. This helps me to maximise the affect of my exercises whereas minimizing the chance of damage.The model claims that with the Restoration Shake, shoppers not solely construct extra muscle quicker, they get to coach tougher whereas lessening the dangers of burnout, damage, and muscle fatigue. (5)Dietary InformationLike necessities shake, the Restoration Shake is 100% plant-based with a protein mix that’s made out of pea protein isolate, brown rice protein, and quinoa.One serving or 37g of the Restoration Shake accommodates the next:Energy: 150kcalFats: 3gProtein: 25gCarbs: 6gFiber: 1gThe Restoration Shake boasts of being made out of 25 entire meals components together with Kale, Spirulina, Acai Berry, Maca Root, Mangosteen, and Gotu Kola, amongst others. To high that off, LYFE Gasoline additionally added 4.5g of BCAAs together with micronutrients resembling Magnesium and D3 in each serving of the Restoration Shake to assist in faster muscle restore.Just like the Every day Necessities Shake, it's low calorie, soy-free, gluten-free, and dairy-free.Style and TextureYou possibly can select from two flavors for the Restoration Shake as effectively: Vanilla Chai and Chocolate.The Vanilla Chai Restoration Shake tastes nearly precisely the identical because the Every day Necessities Shake in Vanilla, and I favor utilizing it as a base for a protein smoothie somewhat than consuming it by itself.The Chocolate Restoration Shake was surprisingly much less “chocolate-y” than the Every day Necessities one, however tastes good blended with simply water or added to a smoothie recipe.A variety of shoppers on Amazon have shared that whereas the Restoration Shake (notably the vanilla) feels barely chalky within the mouth. However they rapidly added that it’s one thing they may flip a blind eye to because the shake does stay as much as its promise of faster restoration time and extra vitality all through the day. (6)Whereas I wasn’t spiritual in consuming the Restoration Shake as a lot as I did with the Every day Necessities, I've to confess that the Restoration Shake did assist me see a rise in efficiency at my basement health club and through my working after leg day.I’d usually take 2-3 days off to relaxation and get well, however after having LYFE Gasoline’s Restoration Shake a couple of instances, I discovered myself keen and powerful sufficient to do biceps, triceps on the identical day and shoulders after chest day.WorthYou will get a 2lb bag of the Restoration Shake for less than $50 for one time purchases on LYFE Gasoline’s web site. In addition they provide a $10 low cost in case you get a month-to-month subscription from them.Based mostly on their one-time buy value, a serving would value you about $2.08.Final on the record is LYFE Gasoline’s newest bundle provide…The 21-Day Transformation BundleJust like the title suggests, this set of LYFE Gasoline merchandise was put collectively to assist anybody rework their lives and obtain greater than their well being targets in 21 days. (7)The 21-Day Transformation Bundle is a program that’ll take your well being
and health efficiency to higher heights with plant-based vitamin and conscious residing methods. Included within the bundle is $250 value of merchandise.They’re additionally providing home free transport and guarantees to donate 1% of their gross sales to an eco-based charity the model helps once you get the bundle.Priced at $150, the 21-Day Transformation Bundle ensures to present shoppers a a lot wanted enhance by offering a roadmap; this may be particularly useful for individuals who don’t know the place and tips on how to begin residing their LYFE to the fullest.Whereas I haven’t personally tried the bundle but, I've to say it seems to be promising! Typically it’s significantly better for us to let consultants paved the way and to comply with a results-guaranteed program as a stepping stone to reaching our well being targets and extra.Plus with all of the inclusions such because the digital app and recipe e-book, it will be exhausting NOT to be accountable and method cheaper than getting a private coach to kick off your journey to higher well being.LYFE Gasoline Various: Ka’ChavaOut of all the opposite meal shakes I’ve tried prior to now, the one model that’s at par with LYFE Gasoline when it comes to dietary advantages and high quality components is Ka’Chava. Earlier than deciding on Ka'Chava, I in contrast it to many different Ka'Chava options, resembling Vega one, Orgain, Huel, Soylenet and Shakeology. After consideration of their relative deserves, I in the end selected Ka'Chava as the most suitable choice for my dietary wants. Right here is my complete Ka'Chava overview that can show you how to decide if Kachava is the suitable selection in your dietary wants. Ka’ChavaPositively among the best vegan meal substitute shakes available in the market, it had been my go-to meal shake for some time earlier than I switched to LYFE Gasoline. (8)Whereas I did point out that each manufacturers provide superior advantages in terms of my well being, I felt I bought extra bang for my buck with LYFE Gasoline. To make issues simpler to image out, take a look at this fast comparability I made beneath:LYFE Gasoline Every day Necessities ShakeLYFE Gasoline Restoration ShakeKa’Chava Meal Shake$70 / $2.9 per serving$50 / $2.08 per serving$69.99 / $2.9 per serving24 servings24 servings15 servings110kcal150kcal240kcal18g Protein25g Protein25g Protein3g Sugar3g Sugar6g Sugar6g Carbs6g Carbs24g Carbs2 Flavors out there2 Flavors out there5 Flavors out there27 Micronutrients10 Micronutrients26 MicronutrientsEach LYFE Gasoline and Ka’Chava are vegan-friendly, soy-free, dairy-free, gluten-free, and GMO-free.Whenever you merely have a look at the chart, Ka’Chava seems to be prefer it’s a mixture of the Every day Necessities Shake and the Restoration Shake, and also you’d suppose “effectively, isn’t that significantly better than shopping for two totally different merchandise?”The reply is… it relies upon.LYFE Gasoline’s Every day Necessities Shake appeals to the low-carb viewers – say, individuals who nonetheless need to really feel full and get sufficient vitamin with out having to fret about energy and carbs. Alternatively, the Restoration Shake is developed for a selected function in thoughts: to spice up protein consumption for higher restoration and to not exchange entire meals.So sure, Ka’Chava is a good different to LYFE Gasoline in case you solely need to purchase one product based mostly on comfort. Listed here are my favourite Ka'Chava recipes you can attempt to boost the flavors.And in case you’re seeking to discover extra flavors however nonetheless need to get the identical high quality as LYFE Gasoline’s Every day Necessities or Restoration Shake, then I extremely advocate Ka’Chava.FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONSIt is like we have gone over all there's to find out about Lyfe Gasoline, proper? Nonetheless bought some questions? Listed here are a couple of extra tidbits.How lengthy do LYFE Gasoline Shakes final?LYFE Gasoline merchandise final about 2 years from their manufacturing date.
To take care of freshness, the model recommends you retailer LyfeFuel merchandise in a cool, dry place away from warmth, moisture, and direct daylight.Can I take greater than 1 serving of LYFE Gasoline Shakes?Sure, you undoubtedly can!A serving of LYFE Gasoline merchandise is sufficient to offer you the vitamin you want for the day or that can assist you get well after a productive exercise. But when your every day routine retains you far more lively than the typical particular person, then your physique may profit extra with 1 or extra servings added to your consumption.Be happy to experiment to search out the suitable steadiness that may assist fill you up and get you thru the day.Any allergens to look out for?LYFE Gasoline accommodates tree nuts from coconuts and wheatgrass however apart from that, their merchandise are dairy-free, soy-free, and gluten-free.Can LYFE Gasoline assist with weight reduction?LYFE Gasoline’s shakes are designed that can assist you reduce unhealthy meals consumption by making you are feeling full longer which might in the end lead you to a wholesome weight reduction journey. Combining LYFE Gasoline with full physique exercise each different day and wholesome consuming habits, you’ll be capable of shed that further weight and stay a stronger, more healthy life.What's LYFE Gasoline’s Return Coverage?The model is dedicated to giving high quality whereas additionally being open to fixed enchancment. LYFE Gasoline’s accepts returns inside 30 days from buy if any buyer ought to expertise any points with their merchandise or transport. Ought to product substitute be not possible, LYFE Gasoline will situation a full refund.Does LYFE Gasoline ship outdoors the US?Sure, they provide worldwide transport to Canada, New Zealand, Australia, Mexico, and the UK.So Is LYFE Gasoline Value It?At first, I used to be a bit bit skeptical of LYFE Gasoline due to how low the energy have been with each serving. A mean meal could be round 300 to 700 energy, and I used to be afraid I’d get hungry in an hour or so from taking both the Every day Necessities Shake or the Restoration Shake.Shock, shock! LYFE Gasoline didn't disappoint when it got here to conserving me satiated till my subsequent meal.Another excuse why I’ll be sticking to LYFE Gasoline is the truth that it has completely no synthetic flavors and added sweeteners, and consuming their shakes is nothing in need of a clear and inexperienced expertise for my effectively being.It might be a bit bit costly than different protein powders for smoothies however its topnotch components and the corporate’s dedication to offering a holistic and wholesome choice justifies the worth.And in case you’ve been ready for an indication to level you to among the best, if not THE BEST, full meal in a shake out available in the market at present, then that is it! Whenever you’re able to stay LYFE to the fullest, deal with your self to a ten% low cost over at LYFE Gasoline’s web site through the use of the code BENBENMAYZ once you take a look at.Disclaimer: The content material of this text is just for informational and leisure functions. All the things written right here shouldn't be deemed as licensed or skilled well being or health recommendation. The author shall not be answerable for any type of damage associated to any use of the data offered.Affiliate Code: This put up accommodates affiliate low cost codes and I could obtain a small fee at no further value to you once you use them throughout take a look at. Relaxation assured I solely promote merchandise that I actually consider in and solely based mostly on my truthful experiences with stated merchandise. Associated articlesGreatest Huel Alternate optionsSoylent Vs Guarantee: Overview & ComparabilityKachava vs. Shakeology: Which is Higher?Greatest Soylent Alternate optionsSources: #Lyfe #Gasoline #Overview #Moneys #Value
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How Long Does Orthodontic Treatment Typically Last? A Guide from the Best Orthodontic Treatment in Bhubaneswar
Orthodontic treatment can be life-changing, not only enhancing your smile but also improving oral health. However, one of the most common concerns patients have is how long the process will take. The duration of orthodontic treatment can vary depending on several factors, including the complexity of the case, the type of treatment, and the patient's commitment to following the orthodontist’s instructions. If you're considering the best orthodontic treatment in Bhubaneswar, understanding the timeline and process can help you prepare for your orthodontic journey.
In this article, we’ll explore the typical length of orthodontic treatments, factors that influence the timeline, and what you can expect during the process.
Typical Duration of Orthodontic Treatment
Orthodontic treatment duration is highly individual, but on average, most patients can expect their treatment to last between 12 and 24 months. In some cases, treatment might be completed in as little as 6 months, while more complex cases could extend to 3 years or longer.
Several factors influence the timeline, and understanding them can give you a clearer idea of how long your treatment may last.
Factors That Affect Orthodontic Treatment Duration
Type of Malocclusion The type and severity of misalignment, or malocclusion, is one of the primary factors that determine how long treatment will last. Common malocclusions include:
Overbite: Where the upper front teeth overlap the lower teeth.
Underbite: Where the lower teeth extend beyond the upper teeth.
Crossbite: A misalignment of the upper and lower teeth when the jaw is closed.
Crowded or Gapped Teeth: Teeth that are too close together or too far apart.
More severe cases of malocclusion generally require longer treatment times, as significant movement of the teeth and jaw is needed to achieve proper alignment.
Type of Orthodontic Appliance The type of orthodontic appliance you use also plays a role in how long the treatment takes. Traditional braces tend to offer more precise control over tooth movement and may be more suitable for complex cases. However, newer options like clear aligners (e.g., Invisalign) can also deliver excellent results, often in a shorter amount of time. Some treatments, like lingual braces (braces placed behind the teeth), can take slightly longer due to their unique positioning and mechanics.
Patient Age Orthodontic treatment is often more efficient in younger patients, particularly children and teenagers, as their teeth and jaws are still developing. In adults, the treatment might take a little longer since the jawbones are more rigid. That said, orthodontic treatment is highly effective at any age, with many adults achieving great results within a reasonable timeframe.
Compliance with Instructions One of the most important factors in determining treatment length is the patient’s commitment to following their orthodontist's instructions. For instance, if you're using clear aligners, wearing them for the recommended 22 hours a day is crucial for optimal results. Similarly, attending regular check-ups and following advice regarding oral hygiene and dietary restrictions can prevent delays in treatment.
Tooth Movement Rate The speed at which your teeth move is unique to you. While some people may experience faster movement, others may require more time for their teeth to adjust. Orthodontists use controlled force to gradually move the teeth into place, and it’s essential not to rush this process to avoid complications like root resorption or damage to the jaw.
Additional Procedures In some cases, orthodontic treatment may require additional procedures such as tooth extractions or jaw surgery, which can extend the overall treatment time. These procedures are typically necessary in more complex cases where there is insufficient space for teeth to align properly or when correcting severe jaw misalignment.
Phases of Orthodontic Treatment
Orthodontic treatment generally progresses through several phases, each of which contributes to the overall timeline:
Consultation and Treatment Planning The first step involves an initial consultation where your orthodontist will evaluate your teeth and jaw alignment. X-rays, photographs, and impressions may be taken to assess your specific needs. Based on this evaluation, your orthodontist will develop a customized treatment plan and estimate the expected treatment time.
Active Treatment Phase During the active treatment phase, your orthodontic appliance (braces, aligners, etc.) is placed, and regular adjustments are made to gradually move your teeth into their desired positions. This phase typically lasts 12 to 24 months, depending on the severity of your case and your compliance with the treatment plan.
Retention Phase After the active treatment phase, a retainer is used to maintain the results and prevent your teeth from shifting back to their original positions. The retention phase is crucial for long-term success and typically lasts for several months to a few years. Some patients may need to wear retainers at night indefinitely to ensure their teeth remain aligned.
Can Treatment Time Be Reduced?
While there’s no way to significantly reduce treatment time without compromising the results, there are a few strategies that may help speed up the process:
Accelerated Orthodontics: Some orthodontists offer treatments that use additional techniques, such as micro-osteoperforation or high-frequency vibration devices, to speed up tooth movement.
Consistent Compliance: Following your orthodontist's instructions—such as wearing aligners for the recommended time or avoiding hard, sticky foods that can damage braces—can help prevent delays.
Regular Check-ups: Attending scheduled appointments ensures that your treatment is progressing smoothly and allows your orthodontist to make necessary adjustments.
Conclusion
The duration of orthodontic treatment depends on various factors, including the complexity of your case, the type of appliance used, and your commitment to following your orthodontist’s instructions. On average, treatment can last anywhere from 12 to 24 months, but it can be shorter or longer depending on individual circumstances. If you’re considering the best orthodontic treatment in Bhubaneswar, it’s important to discuss your specific needs with a qualified orthodontist who can provide a detailed treatment plan and timeline.
By understanding the process and committing to your treatment, you can look forward to achieving a healthier, more aligned smile in due time.
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Your sewing machine stopped working?
If you take it into a shop to be repaired, the first things that are going to be checked to resolve your problem is if your machine is threaded incorrectly. After that, if your needle is bent, if your bobbin is the correct kind of bobbin, and if your thread is usable.
You can check all of these things at home. Your machine stopped working? Did you just change bobbins, needles, or thread? Did you hit something that could have deflected your needle. Did you resolve a jam that could have shifted a bobbin case (if you have a drop-in bobbin).
Generally, most machines (especially less expensive machines) will have two kinds of screws on them. This is going to be mostly phillips (the + kind) or torx (the * kind), and then some flathead (the - kind). This is intentional. Flathead screws, which are often used on your needle plate, your needle clamp, and your presser foot clamp, are screws to things that you should be doing as part of regular maintenance. You should be taking your presser foot ankle off if you want to attach a walking foot or another foot that doesn't snap on. You should be taking your needle out to replace it every 6-8 cumulative sewing hours. And you should be taking your needle plate off and cleaning that lint out down there.
If your machine has a plastic outer housing, there's a very good chance that it doesn't need oil in the same way an old cast iron machine needed oil. Modern technology has made permanently lubricated machines, which only need grease in specific spaces and generally where a service tech will do it. But some machines will need oil in the bobbin hook race or in the area under the bobbin casing. Check your manual and apply this oil if you are supposed to. Otherwise, don't go putting oil where your machine is not designed to be oiled. If you have a drop-in bobbin and you can't figure out where to put the bobbin case after you took it out, look at it and see if there's an orientation that sort of looks like Batman's head. Batman's ears face away from you, and there's a little bumper in the bottom right that presses against either a stop or a sensor. (more details on the upcoming Unfucking Your Bobbin Tension post)
If you like your machine and you want it to last, and if you can find a place with a good reputation and a decent guarantee on workmanship, it might be worth it to get it professionally serviced. A good service will involve stripping the machine down to clean and oil it, as well as a lot of very difficult adjustments of needle timing to hook and feed teeth height and zig zag width and tension calibration. This will make the machine last longer and run better. If you like your machine and want to keep using it, it doesn't really matter if it was a $100 machine or a $1100 machine; its value to you should be worth the service. A good service will also identify and possibly fix problems that could end your machine's life prematurely.
Even if you didn't use the machine very much in the past year, if you have a premium machine that was meant to be serviced instead of thrown out and replaced, get it serviced like once a year. The grease and oil sitting in the machine in one place can start to harden, and if you're going to be using it again, it can really benefit from having new grease put in the gear box.
If your service place has a warranty on the work (if the problem comes back within 30 days you get a second service for free, or something) then DEFINITELY take it home and try to do something with it in that time frame. It can be a little project, like a pillow case or hemming a skirt, but if the problem comes back then you want to know in the timeframe that you have to get that warranty. If you don't use it for six months, and then the first time you try the problem is still there, the service people don't have to do shit about it for free even if it's their fault.
With all of that said, a lot of people are sewing on machines that were $80 and that they're not attached to, and they want to just use them until they break. Once it breaks, you can get a new one. This is a completely fine viewpoint. This is what a lot of budget machines assume will happen. If you're just starting out sewing, this can even have an advantage, as you can find new features that fit you better as you develop your skills. You might find a new machine that really fits what you need, and be able to use it for a long time. Just remember that if you're consistently breaking inexpensive machines, it might be the world showing you that it's time to get a good machine that was not meant to be disposable. A lot of sewing machine dealerships will offer their own protection plan, and if you're breaking a Singer Start* every four months, then getting a $400 machine and its associated service plan will pay for itself very quickly, and you won't be sewing on a piece of shit without variable stitches anymore.
That said, if you want to sew lolita fashion or any fashion really, you don't NEED a fancy machine. That's not a barrier for entry. Any way that you can sew two pieces together is going to be able to let you make things, and making things is what we're all about here.
Anyway, this is a complicated and long way of saying that when you take your machine to be serviced, and they say that your problems happened because you were using the wrong type of bobbin, saying, "but I've always used that bobbin" makes you look pretty stupid, because if the machine was working, you weren't using that bobbin. A reference point for people who don't work on sewing machiens, but that's like the technician saying that your machine wasn't sewing because you didn't put thread in it, and you saying that you never use thread to sew things. It's entirely possible that you think you're right, but you're definitely not right.
___ *i take jabs at the Singer Start a lot but, in my defense, it's a bad machine.
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Pick a Luxury Fashion Brand Reading - January to March 2022 Reading
This is a general pick a card reading.
How to do this reading:
1. Stay calm. Take a few deep breaths if needed. Be in a quiet, comfortable place. Don't get distracted.
2. Look at the picture below, which has the luxury fashion brands. Pick the one that calls out to you most. Do not automatically pick one just because it's your favorite brand.
3. If you feel that more than 1 brand calls out to you, then feel free to pick another one or two more. I would not recommend picking more than 3.
4. Remember that this is a general reading so take what resonates and leave what doesn't behind.
1. Saint Laurent
January to March 2022 will feel very refreshed, yet very busy for you. New projects, clients, or situations will be coming to you. You may be starting a new job or taking on new responsibilities within your life. You may even be welcoming a new pet or a baby during this time. You will feel kind fo burdened sometimes due to the amount of things that you seem to need to do. There will be also many deadlines coming and many urgent matters that you will have to deal with.
If you are a student, you will feel like you are very pressured to achieve more or you will feel the need to try to boost your grades in this semester. If you are not a student, you will still feel stress elsewhere. This could be at work or at home or within your community.
You will probably feel more burnt out in March as the excitement of new things wear off and you are faced with more deadlines or expectations. If you slack off during the two previous months, you will feel the consequences in March or early April 2022.
2. Fendi
From January to March 2022, you may be welcoming a new relationship or forming new social circles or friends. This is a time where you will find yourself networking a lot or going out with friends more often or if that's not possible then you'll be connecting with people online.
You will feel more sociable during this period. You may also want to change your image up like change your style, cut your hair or dye it, eat cleaner and healthier, work out more and etc. You will want to also do some spring cleaning so out with the old and in with the new.
For some of you, you may even go abroad for travel or for studies. You may have some sort of foreign element within your life like making friends who are foreigners, meeting new people who are foreigners, or even learning a new language.
You may need to be careful this time because your happiness can lead you to gaining weight. You might be enjoying yourself too much that you overindulge in snacks, alcohol, or food. You may also gain a few bad habits during this period too.
3. miu miu
January to March 2022 will feel sort of nostalgic for you. You will want to revisit the past. You will also want to connect with people that you've lost touch with in the past, maybe like an ex partner or an ex best friend. You might even gain more insight about your own past like unearthing a family secret or knowing more about your past life.
January to March 2022 will also be a time for you to make amends with the past. You will be more open to forgiving others and to forgiving yourself during this time. You will also do more self-reflection during this period. You may even pick up some self-help tips, read some books about self-care or counselling or therapy, and start journalling or meditating.
At around mid to end of March 2022 and even till April 2022, you will shift towards looking forward to the future and will feel more optimistic about it.
4. Hermès
January to March 2022 will be a very chaotic period for you. Many things that you want to do will be obstructed. Many things that you thought would happen around this time would not. They may be cancelled or delayed; for example, you might have accepted a new job position that would start in January 2022, but then closer to January 2022, you get news that the employer no longer has the budget to hire you so unfortunately you have lost this position. You may experience online orders or shipments that become lost or somehow don't get delivered to you on time.
This is also a period where you are prone to making mistakes, even ones where you thought you'd never make. You will have to be careful when you fill out forms or hand in anything to anyone. There are chances that you probably have messed up somewhere and will need to re-do the forms or something again or just accept it as is.
This is also not a great time for you to be writing exams or having to do some interview or applying for a visa etc. During these times you will face a lot of obstacles and have things denied.
This is a period for you to lay low and be careful. The past is also likely going to come to you during this time, so if you've wronged someone before then they'll come back for you or if you've made some mistake before then it'll come back to you. Things that you did in the past will also be examined during this time, so people might bring up something that you did in the past and wasn't discussed or crticized but then this time around somehow it's negatively seen. If you are in a public facing role, then you will have really high chances of someone in the past sharing something about you online, which will spread like wild fire.
You will also have to be careful of your words. You will easily get into arguments with others or be offended by others. People will also like to pick at your words during this time and use them against you. If you post things online or talk to others online, people may even screenshot and use those screenshots against you. Rumors can also start about you, especially if you have some sort of following online.
You may even get into a lawsuit from January to March 2021 or something related to the law will affect you. You might get fined for some noise infringement or for illegal parking. You might somehow be sued by your former employer or you might be served with court papers by your spouse.
5. Chanel
January 2022 to March 2022 will be a relaxing time for you. This will feel like a slow period for you. You can finally take a breather from all the chaos or problems you've faced from the previous year or previous few months.
This is a time where you will be able to plan for the future. You will also be able to take the time to spend with friends, family, your crush or partner. You will finally get the quality time you've been looking for.
You will also probably learn to enjoy your life more. You might pick up a new hobby or two. You might even learn something new too. You might also start a new career or school, or move to a different place around this time. Things will start out pretty slow for you as you have time to adjust to what's around you.
6. Louis Vuitton
January 2022 to March 2022 will be a tougher time for your body. You might feel very physically or mentally drained. Some health problems in the past will probably re-surface. If you've delayed seeing a doctor or some medical professional about some issue, now is the time to go see them because your situation probably needs to be addressed.
Some of you may feel very anxious or depressed. You will probably need to seek professional help to help with your mental health. There may not be something bad that happens from January to March 2022, yet you will somehow feel very blue.
You may also experience some pain from January to March 2022. You may experience some heartache, likely from ending a romantic or a platonic relationship. You may also lose someone who is dear to you or experience some sort of loss during this period.
Others may experience trouble sleeping or have issues with their weight or diet. You may find yourself unable to sleep until like 2 am or later and then you wake at like 6 am. You might even find yourself sleeping during irregular times. Conversely, you might even sleep even more during this time like 11 hours plus per day. You may also gain more weight or somehow lose a lot of weight during this time.
From January to March 2022, you are advised to really take care of your body. It is important to stick to a healthy routine and to seek help with you need it.
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Wish Upon a Star
Our childhoods began with the magic that was found within these movies. Whether it be Disney, Pixar, or Studio Ghibli, our love has not once wavered. We’ve grown, and dare we say that we’ve matured, but there’s still a special place in our hearts for our favorite movies.
Except, these movies now have a twist.
We are no longer kids.
Welcome to Wish Upon a Star, where your favorite childhood movie finally grew up.
Disclaimer: The following stories are a combination of SFW, NSFW, or a combination of both.
Wish Upon A Star is collaboration of works containing stories based on some of our favorite movies from Disney, Pixar, and Studio Ghibli.
Writers from both the BTS Fic Hub and BTS Smut Hub servers (founded by @gukyi) have come together to write stories for the month of January. While this event is not directly affiliated with these servers, please feel free to check them out!
Name of the Game by @ggukcangetit
Movie: Anastasia
Starring: Seokjin and Reader
Summary: The Hotel - Strange, The Manager - Far Too Charming, The Situation - Dire, The One in Trouble - You.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 9th.
Two Birds, One Cake: by @pajaritojin
Movie: Brave
Starring: Prince Seokjin and Witch Reader
Summary: After Seokjin fails to return his mother to her human state because Y/N gave him the wrong spell, he is forced to release the Queen into the wilderness whilst he tracks down Y/N.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 20th.
That Famous Happy Ending by: @jinpanman
Movie: Enchanted
Starring: Seokjin and Reader
Summary: You don't know what you expected when you followed the Prince to Andalasia... but of all things, you didn't expect to fall for him and his kingdom so quickly.
Rating: SFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 21st.
The Medallion Calls by: @pajaritojin
Movie: Pirates of the Caribbean
Starring: Captain Seokjin and Governor Reader
Summary: Upon Seokjin’s wash up to shore after months of being lost in a wrecked boat, the town is attacked by a crew of pirates. Kidnapping Governor Y/L/N Y/N, the crew of pirates flee — leaving her friends and Seokjin to rescue her and keep the town at peace.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 29th.
The End of the Fucking World (or: the Alpacalypse) by: @hauntedlilies
Movie: The Emperor's New Groove
Starring: Seokjin and Reader
Summary: Over the past few years your life has been slowly falling apart. You didn't think it could get any worse — until your father comes home with a talking llama alpaca who claims he's the emperor of a lost civilization. But is he really who he says he is?
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 22nd.
The Ghosts of Daegu Town by: @cremeandsuga
Movie: Monsters Inc.
Starring: Ghost Yoongi and Phasmophobic Reader
Summary: For the last 18 years, Min Yoongi had been appointed Resident Ghoul for his Scare Ratings. He managed to scare the life out of everyone…except when your door came down before him.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 24th.
Second Star to the Right by: @thatlongspringnight
Movie: Peter Pan
Starring: Yoongi and Reader
Summary: Min Yoongi never believed in magic, but all it takes is a found shadow and one very frustrating girl to turn his world upside down. The real question remains: Will he keep that magic in his heart and choose to stay in Neverland, or will he abandon this magical world and the girl he's grown to love?
Rating: Combo
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 3rd.
Basil & Beliefs by: @cremeandsuga
Movie: Ratatouille
Starring: Sous Chef Yoongi and Heir Reader
Summary: When the long lost daughter of Gusteau reappears and gets hired at his restaurant, she is expected to stay quiet and stay out of the spotlight — but her and her server friend Seokjin can’t do anything to stay out of the eyes of the sous chef, Min Yoongi.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 14th.
A Restless Slumber by: @wwilloww
Movie: Sleeping Beauty
Starring: Yoongi and Reader
Summary: When one of you is always asleep, spending quality time together becomes easier to do in dreamworld.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 1st.
Coral Subconscious by: @hermosohoseok
Movie: Finding Nemo
Starring: Mermaid Hoseok and Mermaid Reader
Summary: When Y/L/N Y/N swims past Hoseok’s reef and saves his mother from the teeth of their terrorizing resident barracuda, he can’t help but feel indebted.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 15th.
Cactus by @hesperantha
Movie: Fantasia
Starring: Hoseok and Reader
Summary: Meeting a stranger at the club turns into an adventure. Starring Mickey!Hoseok, featuring Yensid!Namjoon.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 2nd
Bare Necessities by: @hermosohoseok
Movie: Jungle book
Starring: Bear Aspect Hoseok and Adult Mowgli Reader
Summary: After Y/N’s life is threatened by resident Tiger Aspects Yoongi and Taehyung, Y/N is forced to vacate the jungle and leave behind her friends. Along the way, she finds the bear that saved her as a baby.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 27th.
Smutocchio by @jinpanman
Movie: Pinocchio
Starring: Hoseok and Reader
Summary: You didn’t mean to fall for the growing dick man.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 13th.
A little less than 101 Meetings to fall in love: by @thatlongspringnight
Movie: 101 Dalmatians
Starring: Namjoon and Reader
Summary: Kim Namjoon has seen enough of the world to know two thing, dogs always look like their owners, and he's going to be perennially single. A chance meeting at the park changes at least one of those ideas forever.
Rating: Combo
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 10th.
The Aftermath: by @queridonamjoon
Movie: Big Hero 6
Starring: Engineer Namjoon and Friend Version Tadashi Reader
Summary: After Y/N dies in an attempt to save Namjoon, his dreams are nothing more than memories of her and their adventures together — so he builds Y/N prototypes for every scenario, in which he will always be able to save her.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 26th.
One Cube At A Time: by @queridonamjoon
Movie: Wall-E
Starring: Cyborg Namjoon and Cyborg Reader
Summary: Namjoon is the only functioning being left on planet Earth — imagine his surprise when he is made aware of a completely different world just a few galaxies away.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 11th.
Otherworldly Lovin’ by @thatmultifandomhoe
Movie: Flubber
Starring: Alien Taehyung and Human Reader
Summary: Not only did he crash land into you yard, but he also crashed right into your heart...among other places.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 6th.
In The Doghouse: by @mariposatae
Movie: Lady & the Tramp
Starring: Dog Hybrid Taehyung and Dog Hybrid Reader
Summary: After Y/N finds herself in some hot water with Jungkook and her housemates, she must trust from afar as they find a mate for her in a serial monogamist with a knack for knocking up.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 25th.
Bad Stitch 2.0: by @jinpanman
Movie: Lilo and Stitch
Starring: Taehyung and Reader
Summary: You and Taehyung finally get the house to yourselves and you’re not going to let it go to waste.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 5th.
Blood from The Emperor: by @mariposatae
Movie: Mulan
Starring: Solider Taehyung and Solider/Princess Reader.
Summary: Y/L/N Y/N is the only daughter to The Emperor, and when she escapes her luxurious life in the palace to join the military, Kim Taehyung is the one to discover her.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 12th.
Had it Been Another Day by @ggukcangetit
Movie: The Princess and the Frog
Starring: Taehyung and Reader
Summary: When the universe hated you enough to pair you with the most obnoxious guy in your class, for a project that would decide your future but had no such implications for him.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 16th
Fairy Wings: by @ezralia-writes
Movie: Tinkerbell
Starring: Taehyung and Reader
Summary: "You should have never crossed the border," he choked out, "I should've known better to stop this before it even began."
Rating: SFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 30th.
Unholy Lightning: by @sunnydelightjimin
Movie: How to Train Your Dragon
Starring: Lightfury Hybrid Jimin and Nightfury Hybrid Reader
Summary: Y/L/N Y/N was taught to soar in the clearest of skies and attack in the deadliest situations — crazy how she has a tendency to flip those in her mind.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 17th.
Chasing Waves by @magicalcrwn
Movie: The Little Mermaid
Starring: Jimin and Reader
Summary: From a young age, their curiosity grows stronger. For the human princess who has always been interested in the ocean’s secrets, for the merprince who has always been interested in the surface’s life. What would happen once they finally chase the waves to sate their curiosity?
Rating: SFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 18th.
Lava In The Afternoon: by @sunnydelightjimin
Movie: The Incredibles
Starring: Immortal Superhero Jimin and Immortal Villain Reader
Summary: Y/L/N Y/N has terrorized the City of Seoul for generations alongside her friends — and Jimin has been tired of fighting her time and time again.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 28th.
The First Snow: by @carinojungkook
Movie: Bambi
Starring: Rabbit Aspect Jungkook and Deer Aspect Reader
Summary: When the daughter of The Great Prince is presented before the forest on the day of the First Snow, Jungkook finds himself enamored with the doe eyes filled with fire.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 19th.
The Fourth Unforgivable by @ggukcangetit
Movie: The Lion King
Starring: Jungkook and Reader
Summary: Seven years is a long time. Enough to bring about many changes - new laws, dangerous associations, and the return of the one you had forced yourself to forget.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 23rd
Moves Like An Ape, Looks Like a Man by @carinojungkook
Movie: Tarzan
Starring: Tarzan Jungkook, and Animal Researcher Reader,
Summary: When animal researcher best friends Y/L/N Y/N and Kim Namjoon are sent on an expedition to gather information on the gorillas of West Africa, they aren’t expecting anything but — and yet, are met with none other than Jeon Jungkook.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 8th.
Abstract Thought: by @milktbaby
Movie: Inside Out
Starring: Emotion OT7 and Student Reader
Summary: When Y/L/N Y/N is leaving her hometown of Busan for university, she is faced with a series of unexpected events that make her realize she’s not where she needs to be.
Rating: NSFW
Being Released to a Theater Near You: January 31st.
You’re never too old to find yourself wishing upon a star.
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10 Lessons on Realistic Worldbuilding and Mapmaking I Learned Working With a Professional Cartographer and Geodesist
Hi, fellow writers and worldbuilders,
It’s been over a year since my post on realistic swordfighting, and I figured it’s time for another one. I’m guessing the topic is a little less “sexy”, but I’d find this useful as a writer, so here goes: 10 things I learned about realistic worldbuilding and mapmaking while writing my novel.
I’ve always been a sucker for pretty maps, so when I started on my novel, I hired an artist quite early to create a map for me. It was beautiful, but a few things always bothered me, even though I couldn’t put a finger on it. A year later, I met an old friend of mine, who currently does his Ph.D. in cartography and geodesy, the science of measuring the earth. When the conversation shifted to the novel, I showed him the map and asked for his opinion, and he (respectfully) pointed out that it has an awful lot of issues from a realism perspective.
First off, I’m aware that fiction is fiction, and it’s not always about realism; there are plenty of beautiful maps out there (and my old one was one of them) that are a bit fantastical and unrealistic, and that’s all right. Still, considering the lengths I went to ensure realism for other aspects of my worldbuilding, it felt weird to me to simply ignore these discrepancies. With a heavy heart, I scrapped the old map and started over, this time working in tandem with a professional artist, my cartographer friend, and a linguist. Six months later, I’m not only very happy with the new map, but I also learned a lot of things about geography and coherent worldbuilding, which made my universe a lot more realistic.
1) Realism Has an Effect: While there’s absolutely nothing wrong with creating an unrealistic world, realism does affect the plausibility of a world. Even if the vast majority of us probably know little about geography, our brains subconsciously notice discrepancies; we simply get this sense that something isn’t quite right, even if we don’t notice or can’t put our finger on it. In other words, if, for some miraculous reason, an evergreen forest borders on a desert in your novel, it will probably help immersion if you at least explain why this is, no matter how simple.
2) Climate Zones: According to my friend, a cardinal sin in fantasy maps are nonsensical climate zones. A single continent contains hot deserts, forests, and glaciers, and you can get through it all in a single day. This is particularly noticeable in video games, where this is often done to offer visual variety (Enderal, the game I wrote, is very guilty of this). If you aim for realism, run your worldbuilding by someone with a basic grasp of geography and geology, or at least try to match it to real-life examples.
3) Avoid Island Continent Worlds: Another issue that is quite common in fictional worlds is what I would call the “island continents”: a world that is made up of island-like continents surrounded by vast bodies of water. As lovely and romantic as the idea of those distant and secluded worlds may be, it’s deeply unrealistic. Unless your world was shaped by geological forces that differ substantially from Earth’s, it was probably at one point a single landmass that split up into fragmented landmasses separated by waters. Take a look at a proper map of our world: the vast majority of continents could theoretically be reached by foot and relatively manageable sea passages. If it weren’t so, countries such as Australia could have never been colonized – you can’t cross an entire ocean on a raft.
4) Logical City Placement: My novel is set in a Polynesian-inspired tropical archipelago; in the early drafts of the book and on my first map, Uunili, the nation’s capital, stretched along the entire western coast of the main island. This is absurd. Not only because this city would have been laughably big, but also because building a settlement along an unprotected coastline is the dumbest thing you could do considering it directly exposes it to storms, floods, and, in my case, monsoons. Unless there’s a logical reason to do otherwise, always place your coastal settlements in bays or fjords.
Naturally, this extends to city placement in general. If you want realism and coherence, don’t place a city in the middle of a godforsaken wasteland or a swamp just because it’s cool. There needs to be a reason. For example, the wasteland city could have started out as a mining town around a vast mineral deposit, and the swamp town might have a trading post along a vital trade route connecting two nations.
5) Realistic Settlement Sizes: As I’ve mentioned before, my capital Uunili originally extended across the entire western coast. Considering Uunili is roughly two thirds the size of Hawaii the old visuals would have made it twice the size of Mexico City. An easy way to avoid this is to draw the map using a scale and stick to it religiously. For my map, we decided to represent cities and townships with symbols alone.
6) Realistic Megacities: Uunili has a population of about 450,000 people. For a city in a Middle Ages-inspired era, this is humongous. While this isn’t an issue, per se (at its height, ancient Alexandria had a population of about 300,000), a city of that size creates its own set of challenges: you’ll need a complex sewage system (to minimize disease spreading like wildfire) and strong agriculture in the surrounding areas to keep the population fed. Also, only a small part of such a megacity would be enclosed within fantasy’s ever-so-present colossal city walls; the majority of citizens would probably concentrate in an enormous urban sprawl in the surrounding areas. To give you a pointer, with a population of about 50,000, Cologne was Germany’s biggest metropolis for most of the Middle Ages. I’ll say it again: it’s fine to disregard realism for coolness in this case, but at least taking these things into consideration will not only give your world more texture but might even provide you with some interesting plot points.
7) World Origin: This point can be summed up in a single question: why is your world the way it is? If your novel is set in an archipelago like mine is, are the islands of volcanic origin? Did they use to be a single landmass that got flooded with the years? Do the inhabitants of your country know about this? Were there any natural disasters to speak of? Yes, not all of this may be relevant to the story, and the story should take priority over lore, but just like with my previous point, it will make your world more immersive.
8) Maps: Think Purpose! Every map in history had a purpose. Before you start on your map, think about what yours might have been. Was it a map people actually used for navigation? If so, clarity should be paramount. This means little to no distracting ornamentation, a legible font, and a strict focus on relevant information. For example, a map used chiefly for military purposes would naturally highlight different information than a trade map. For my novel, we ultimately decided on a “show-off map” drawn for the Blue Island Coalition, a powerful political entity in the archipelago (depending on your world’s technology level, maps were actually scarce and valuable). Also, think about which technique your in-universe cartographer used to draw your in-universe map. Has copperplate engraving already been invented in your fictional universe? If not, your map shouldn’t use that aesthetic.
9) Maps: Less Is More. If a spot or an area on a map contains no relevant information, it can (and should) stay blank so that the reader’s attention naturally shifts to the critical information. Think of it this way: if your nav system tells you to follow a highway for 500 miles, that’s the information you’ll get, and not “in 100 meters, you’ll drive past a little petrol station on the left, and, oh, did I tell you about that accident that took place here ten years ago?” Traditional maps follow the same principle: if there’s a road leading a two day’s march through a desolate desert, a black line over a blank white ground is entirely sufficient to convey that information.
10) Settlement and Landmark Names: This point will be a bit of a tangent, but it’s still relevant. I worked with a linguist to create a fully functional language for my novel, and one of the things he criticized about my early drafts were the names of my cities. It’s embarrassing when I think about it now, but I really didn’t pay that much attention to how I named my cities; I wanted it to sound good, and that was it. Again: if realism is your goal, that’s a big mistake. Like Point 5, we went back to the drawing board and dove into the archipelago’s history and established naming conventions. In my novel, for example, the islands were inhabited by indigenes called the Makehu before the colonization four hundred years before the events of the story; as it’s usually the case, all settlements and islands had purely descriptive names back then. For example, the main island was called Uni e Li, which translates as “Mighty Hill,” a reference to the vast mountain ranges in the south and north; townships followed the same example (e.g., Tamakaha meaning “Coarse Sands”). When the colonizers arrived, they adopted the Makehu names and adapted them into their own language, changing the accented, long vowels to double vowels: Uni e Li became “Uunili,” Lehō e Āhe became “Lehowai.” Makehu townships kept their names; colonial cities got “English” monikers named after their geographical location, economic significance, or some other original story. Examples of this are Southport, a—you guessed it—port on the southernmost tip of Uunili, or Cale’s Hope, a settlement named after a businessman’s mining venture. It’s all details, and chances are that most readers won’t even pay attention, but I personally found that this added a lot of plausibility and immersion.
I could cover a lot more, but this post is already way too long, so I’ll leave it at that—if there’s enough interest, I’d be happy to make a part two. If not, well, maybe at least a couple of you got something useful out of this. If you’re looking for inspiration/references to show to your illustrator/cartographer, the David Rumsey archive is a treasure trove. Finally, for anyone who doesn’t know and might be interested, my novel is called Dreams of the Dying, and is a blends fantasy, mystery, and psychological horror set in the universe of Enderal, an indie RPG for which I wrote the story. It’s set in a Polynesian-inspired medieval world and has been described as Inception in a fantasy setting by reviewers.
Credit for the map belongs to Dominik Derow, who did the ornamentation, and my friend Fabian Müller, who created the map in QGIS and answered all my questions with divine patience. The linguist’s name is David Müller (no, they’re not related, and, yes, we Germans all have the same last names.)
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Day 6 of Pride Month interviews! Up next we’ve got the wonderful Nyehilism!
Nyehilism, author of Sentinel
Pride Month Featured Author
You’re frozen, unable to move as you meet bloodshot eyes.
You can’t breathe, can’t think. There’s an awful familiarity, and for just a moment, you feel like you’re looking in a mirror, your warped reflection snarling back at you.
Then there’s a crack, loud enough to break the spell, and the monster s c r e a m s.
A brutal murder rocks the balance of your life. An old friend is lying to you, and a stranger knows more than he’s telling. You dream of people and places you’ve never seen, of flowers and buildings and vast strange skies - and during the day, you’re hunted by a creature like nothing you’ve seen before. We all have demons, but you hadn’t expected yours to follow you through death.
Your past has caught up with you, and it has teeth.
Demo: Sentinel, Project Hadea
Tags for Sentinel: urban fantasy, horror
Tags for Project Hadea: sci-fi, +18
(INTERVIEW TRANSCRIPT UNDER THE CUT!)
Q1: Tell us a little bit about your project(s)!
Sentinel is an exploration into the idea of reincarnation & past lives – persistent consciousness is a big point of interest for me, and the idea of exploring past identities and decisions, and how those affect apparently unrelated events is something I love seeing explored in other fiction.
Project Hadea is more of an exploration of ability and self-worth – what happens when the foundation you’ve built your life on is lost? If this all makes me sound pretentious, it’s probably because I am. To be honest, as a relatively new project, I’m still waiting for the themes of Hadea to come through, but I’m looking forward to them presenting themselves to me.
Beyond that, both projects are excuses for me to mess with worldbuilding and character interactions, as well as dipping into different styles and genres.
Q2: Why interactive fiction? What drew you to the medium?
Like a lot of other IF authors, I’m a huge fan of interactive storytelling – things like D&D, Pathfinder, etc – and as a character-driven writer, I really enjoy the challenge that comes with what is, essentially, telling multiple stories in one, where a single character can drastically alter the direction of the plot. That, in combination with the inclusivity within these types of media – where the customizability of characters inherently lends itself to the creation of non-standard protagonists – really caught my attention.
Q3: Are your characters influenced by your identity? How?
My characters are almost entirely bisexual, and the ones that aren’t are some flavour of LGBT+. I don’t know how much more I can say, honestly: I’m so far gone at this point I tend to forget it’s possible to create heterosexual characters. I think in more general terms, a lot of my characters tend to take very... pragmatic? Approaches to gender and sexuality, as influenced by my own experience: I’ve always known I’m not straight, and while it’s an inherent part of my identity, I don’t think about it much.
Q4: What would you like to see more of in LGBT+ fiction?
Honestly, any and everything. More wlw, more nblw/m, more interracial non-cishet relationships, more open acknowledgement of character’s sexuality. In particular, I’d like to see more bisexual characters who are openly bisexual, without using cutsey little phrases to dance around the word. Bisexual characters in both different- and same-gender relationships, where their bisexuality is still knowledged and accepted.
Also, more non-binary characters, characters exploring and changing their identities throughout the course of the story and it not being a big deal.
Q5: What or who are some of your biggest inspirations?
I went a long time writing nothing at all – as a kid I wrote almost constantly, then for a good ten years, I wrote nothing at all. It wasn’t until I was getting into D&D (as well as a couple of live-play shows like TAZ and CR) that I started writing again, and thinking about characters and stories as something I could really control, so I think Wizards of the Coast can be directly blamed for all the writing I wave at people almost constantly now.
I can’t talk about my influences without mentioning Lord of the Rings – I was, and still am, very much one of Those people – and especially as a child I was always very into high fantasy. I’ve branched out from that now, but it definitely remains a strong influence in my work, which is always distanced in many ways from the ‘real world’; I’m also still a sucker for some good historical worldbuilding.
I try to read a lot, and in a lot of genres; I read a lot of horror, a lot of fantasy and sci-fi, and I’m very impressionable in terms of style and my approach to writing. Another childhood obsession was (and again, still dormant, occasionally awoken) Terry Pratchett & the Discworld books. A lot of my sense of humour, and honestly I think a lot of my worldview aligns with his writing, whether that’s because I read too much as a child and internalised it, or I just happened to grow up as a person who loves his writing – I think I owe a lot of my thoughts and feelings on writing to him. In particular, the importance of humour and of personal stakes in stories.
Q6: What’s a super vague spoiler for your current project?
Be careful what you wish for.
Q7: Lastly, what advice would you give to your readers?
Nothing stays the same: life won’t go the way you expect, but that’s not a bad thing. Go for the moments when you see them – whether its job or education applications, starting new projects, learning new skills – just go for it. You can get away with more than you’d think, especially if you do it with confidence.
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(Part 1) Triple W Mafia George x Fem! Y/N series
Warnings: Swearing! that’s it really (unless I've missed something then please let me know)
Word Count: 2,174
Summary: George Weasley is a renowned Mafia boss who took over from his Father Arthur once he retired, to carry on the Triple W mafia legacy. The only mafia known to be able to keep the Death Eaters (their rival mafia) at bay. However there is one item that they stole from the Triple W’s which George is determined to get back...his mothers necklace, the family heirloom. Y/N Greyback has been forced to comply with the Death Eaters wishes as her family are high up members. What happens when George and Y/N meet? And what happens when they fall in love?
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The lights were dim in the what looked like to be an old bar room, the red hue coming from the red lamp shades hitting the walls. Smoke from cigars fogging up the top half of the room barely keeping the floor below visible. At each table there were groups of men, all sitting in perfectly tailored suits, sipping on their glasses of whiskey, laughing and having a good time. At the back of the room however, sat one man, alone. His elbow propped up on the arm of his chair, his finger brushing over his top lip as if he were deep in thought. His other hand held the same glass as every other man in the bar, lazily not caring if it were to fall and smash everywhere.
The man, George Weasley, a tall ginger man who’s eyes were the dark but kind shade of brown. Although seemingly intimidating, George had a kind heart, if he seen someone being attacked or robbed in the street, everyone would end up feeling bad for the attacker by the time George was finished with him. He had no time for the scum who go out of their way to make someone else’s life a living hell in order for them to feel a small, temporary taste for a God complex.
George had only recently taken over the title of the Triple W Mafia Boss, when his father Arthur had decided it was his time to retire and pass over the family ‘business’ to one of his sons. George was one of 6 sons and one daughter within the Weasley family. His identical twin brother Fred was technically supposed to become the next Mafia boss, as he was the older twin. But, he had decided that his brother George was more fit to the job than he was. So, George gratefully took over the role and appointed Fred and his younger brother Ron, to be his sort of ‘Body Guards’ although, of course George was far from needing any form of help when it came to beating or killing a criminal, it was still always good to have a little back up sometimes.
“Hey Georgie, what’s the plan then? What we gonna do about these damn Death Eaters?”
George sat, not moving, deep in thought. ‘What was he going to do about those Death Eaters?’ He has no where to start, the bastards are constantly on the run. He was determined to find their whereabouts however, as they had stolen something very precious to him, his mother’s necklace. The Weasley family heirloom.
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In a room that was very clearly abandoned and covered in moss and mould, sat groups of men and some women in black cloaks with peculiar pointed hoods. These people, in contrast to that of which the Triple W members, appeared extremely intimidating. The members of Triple W were intimidating, but these were the sort of people no one would want to encounter in the streets, day or night. There was no smoke from cigars in this small dingy room, there was however and eye watering stench, that was so strong some of the Death Eaters swore they seen a slight foggy green haze floating around the room.
All cloaked members were sitting in a circle all surrounding their leader Tom Riddle, or as he likes to call himself ‘Voldemort’. A tall man (not as tall as George) with black, short curly hair. He wasn’t wearing a cloak like his ‘followers’ but was wearing something that looked more like a bath robe, it was all black of course to fit in with the rest. All were listening in carefully to what he was saying, all apart form Y/N Greyback, daughter of Fenrir Greyback, a man who is considered very high up in the Death Eater mafia. She was sat in the corner, wearing a contrasting blood red dress that hugged all of her curves perfectly. Her Y/H/C hair was curled at the ends in neat ringlets, and she had some makeup on but not too much so she looked ‘dolled up’.
“We all know that the Triple W are cowering out in some fancy old bar, trouble is we don’t know where, I’ve had a few out scouting round the area, unfortunately they have all been caught” Riddle speaks out gesturing and engaging with his followers.
“What do you suggest we do then sir?” Said Fenrir who was sitting right next to where Riddle was parading around the room.
“I say we send out our most valuable member, of course, real them in, make them vulnerable” he smirked
“You don’t mean…”
“Oh yes, but I do, your daughter shall make excellent bate my dear friend, for she wears what Weasley most desires” Riddle finishes
Y/N too busy sat in the corner reading an old book, didn’t even notice that every Death Eater members eyes were on her, all smiling to themselves.
This may actually work, if we send out Y/N who is wearing that incredibly expensive looking, diamond necklace, it may just lure the idiot ginger straight to us” Fenrir laughed.
So their plan was set, send Y/N as bait and hopefully George would follow.
- George still hadn’t moved from the position he was sat in, he hadn’t taken a single sip of his drink, his eyes focussed and barely ever blinking. He was seemingly ignoring every person who tried to get a word out of him for some sort of plan to take down their Rival mafia. Sure he had killed a lot of spies they had sent out, but he was getting absolutely no leads on where exactly they were coming from, Riddle was smarter than he thought. It seemed he had Death Eaters coming from all over the country in all different directions and disguises. George had to find some way in order to track down where exactly they were based.
The sounds of other members arguing, specifically Fred and Ron who were standing right next to where George was sat, started to sound like a horrible ringing noise, it was driving him insane, how could he concentrate when these buffoon’s were yelling nonsense at each other.
“WILL YOU ALL SHUT UP” He yelled now getting up from his seat and walking to the middle of the smoky room.
“I can’t fucking think when you’re all fighting and arguing with each other on what we’re going to do. I am very aware that those bastards are close to finding us, alright? They’ve gained more members in the past few months than I can count on my two hands. Problem is, they’re coming from all over the country, there is no set direction from where they’re all coming from, meaning that they aren’t coming from their base. This brings us to our next problem, what we’re going to do about it. The only thing I can suggest right now, which I believe may actually be our only two options, is either we leave and find a new base OR we send out multiple people all round the general area of here just outside the boarders of this town where the forests are. Each mile will have two of our members, armed and ready to capture and interrogate anyone that comes from outside the town. This includes anyone who seems innocent to the eye I.e. a mother and child as we all know by now there are families who have been a part of the Death Eaters for years, long enough for them to welcome their children. If you see a mother and child however, you of course don’t attack them straight away, you take them for questioning and more importantly, you look for that damn skull snake monstrosity that they all have tattooed on their left forearm.”
George stands looking between each of his guys trying to gauge what they were thinking by their faces.
“So what’s it to be? Hands up if you think we should move”
No one put their hands up and George smiled knowing that everyone in Triple W are too loyal to the town of Diagon to even consider leaving.
“Good choice boys, now” he rubs his hands together “who’s volunteering to be part of the watch team?”
- Y/N couldn’t believe her ears when she heard the plan to trick Triple W into following her back to the Death Eaters. She also had no idea that the beautiful silver diamond necklace that hung lazily round her neck was the stolen Weasley heirloom.
The actions of her family disgusted her, she knew that what they stood for and what they were doing was wrong, but putting her in harms way all over a stupid rivalry, AND tricking her into thinking that the necklace she had was a gift. She felt so stupid for believing them, Y/N had no options but to accept that she was going to have to go along with their horrendous plan and bait George and other members of Triple W into following her back into her family and Riddle’s evil grasp.
“Perfect” Riddle smiled grimly when Y/N accepted
“But of course, we can’t just lure them in, in one mere night, no, you have to spread this out over the course of a few days. Have him become intrigued by you, follow you a little while. You’ll be staying in a place called the Leaky Cauldron, don’t let him see you in there, it’ll blow your cover. Make sure he only sees you walking through the streets. Got it?”
Y/N tentatively nodded her head
“Good, and then, when the time is right, you’ll lead him straight here. We’ll be in communication with you, don’t let me down”
Y/N shakily made her way to Diagon, bags packed and the necklace still hanging round her neck. She had since changed into a black, silk dress, helping the bright silver of the necklace stand out against the dark colour of her clothes, further, of course to draw George Weasley’s attention.
Once she had settled into her room at the Leaky Cauldron, she was given specific instruction to make sure she wondered round the street at night, as that is most likely when Triple W members will come out from wherever they were hiding.
Y/N took a step out into the cold crisp night air, her heels click clacking off the stone pavements. She couldn’t help but take in the beauty of the town, cobblestone roads winding all through it, the windows on each building slightly askew but somehow didn’t seem out of place. It was as if she were walking through an old victorian town.
Snapping her thoughts back to the task at hand, she pulled her black shawl over her shoulders more and continued to wander aimlessly round, trying to find some form of clue as to were Triple W were hiding.
- George was more than satisfied with the outcome of the meeting they had today. He had 40 people on a list to keep watch each mile surrounding Diagon, meaning that all 20 miles would be covered. They all had their instructions ingrained into their heads and were ready to get to work the next day. Fred and Ron as usual would stay within Diagon with George, communicating to those who were out surrounding the area getting updates and passing round information. George had also decided to send a few extra spies out, including his younger sister Ginny to be on the look out for any Death Eater members who may still be lurking round the town.
George, Fred and Ron made their way out of the old bar room, and onto the streets. George made sure that they each had means of contacting each other. Fred whom George would normally live with, agreed that they each should have their own flats or place to stay in order to cover more of Diagon, and therefore be more accessible to those out in the forest. With their last goodbyes and a few phone calls to book places to stay, the three brothers separated all going in opposite directions.
George headed down the street, his hands becoming slightly red from the cold, and he could see his breath in the air. The dim orange streetlights barely lighting up the path as he walked past the old crooked houses and shops.
Just a George turned the corner he bumped into someone, a woman, dressed in a black dress and shawl.
“Oh I’m so sorry miss, I wasn’t looking where I was going properly, these damn street lights barely light up 2 feet in front of you. Are you alright” George asked looking into her eyes with worry
“I’m perfectly fine, sir, thank you” she smiled back and walked away
But George followed her with his eyes, more specifically he followed her neck, because what was hanging from it made him do a double take. He knew those diamonds from anywhere, they way they glistened brightly in every light. Was that, his mother’s stolen necklace?
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Do you have any tips to help someone who keeps failing? I have been trying for several years now to get started and feeling more and more hopeless every year. I have attended $$$ events, lost weight, moved closer to major cities. Then of course COVID struck and made things worse. Is there something I can do that can help me gain an "in" or are certain things just not meant for some girls.
KEEP TRYING !!!
Yes i screamed it... but that’s because thats the most important thing in succeeding.
Secondly Congrats on taking the steps and trying.....
(THIS MIGHT MAKE MAKE YOU NEUROTIC.... If you already are then DO NOT DO THIS)
The following is also important
1.) Have you asked your self why you keep failing?
Take a pen and paper and spend an entire day by yourself. Think, play things over in your head and Analyze.... This is probably the only time i truly suggested, over analyzing the crap out of your life, decisions, faliures and successes.
(a) What mistakes, do you keep making? or What mistakes do you think you keep making.
(b) what makes them mistakes
(c) Would those actions have worked out better in something else or displayed to someone else
(d) who and/or what would this action work on
2.) List your obstacles ... Every single one you could think of...
Make 3 categories
.....Obstacles you have gone through - What caused it? who caused it? (Regardless of who caused it... You owe some responsibility... so still own up to it... But remember BE KIND to yourself...)
There is a fine line between being kind to yourself and completely absolving yourself of any responsibility when owning up to the responsibility of things gone wrong
......Obstacles repeated - How do you NOT repeat this Again?
.......Obstacles Imagined and Obstacles that could still happen (based on different things, character flaws, finances, men’s personalities, race, looks, nature) Get as detailed as needed.
Man plans and God unplans ...
However, as humans we have ability to at least create contingencies... try to come up with possible contingency plan and POSSIBLE action on how to still not stand still when one of those obstacles appear... Basically figure out another way to scale through, wiggle through, swim through... whatever way (As long as there is life, health and will... there is a way.... After all people have clawed out of dungeous using only a stick or even their finger nails)
3.) What have you tried that didnt work? or keeps failing... List it
4.) What ever #3 is that didnt work... What is the alternative that you haven’t tried.
5.) Clearly you see this as an investment if you have lost weight, moved etc... What is missing in the picture? (I don’t know you, nor have I spent time with you or know your thinking process or views... So this is something even if you dont know what is missing... You have to sit and think... Sleep on it, give it time but remain introspective but be mindful to know when clarity presents itself.
Being brutally Honest with yourself is the only way to know what is missing and where you are missing.
Example: I met a gorgeous black girl A few months ago. From the get go, I knew she was hypergamous... The men also knew. But there was something missing and i couldn’t quite put my finger on it. Until we were all talking with the men present.
She carried herself as a pretty girl, sweet and bubbly... But she made the mistake of trying to emulate the white woman’s countenance... So she could be doted on same as a white woman... I can’t explain this in detail.
But while it is good to emulate things noteworthy in other people... She lost her self and her own personal spark. As a black woman... She avoided the pitfalls of a stereotypical black woman (quote on quote)... in the process, she mistakenly lost her goddess quality and blended in with the rest. The men moved on from her.
My Point is: WHAT IS MISSING... Are your run of the Mill? What is your core
6.) Standard -
Do you have set standards? expectations of yourself and of the Men and of your surroundings?
Do you keep it? Do you up hold it or do you switch or lower it under pressure?
Not to give too much information... I refused to live in the poor neighborhood when i moved off college campus. I lived in a condo and lived Smack in the center of the wealthy part of the city. I was not in this lifestyle then... But it was simply my standards... And even though it meant staying on campus longer till i got it... I did that.
Example 2: I have friends who do not care what hole they enter to get entertained (granted you can meet people anywhere)... But I am not the type that goes out very often... So why will i waste my few outings in some frat boys bar or club. So I go to high end places.
Example 3: I met a man who recently sold his company with upwards of $80 Million... I wasn’t told... I was aware of the process and listened to him through the proceess complain about delay in the closing and trying to avoid tax etc
He was deperate to meet me in person. As a matter of fact the day he closed. He flew me to his city (I went cause i was bored). Long story Short... He is the type of man that got lucky... There isn’t much in terms of comparison... Thinks he knows everything, thinks himself black people’s savior and makes comments such as “If there were black women like you”... Has some racists views he doesn’t think is racists... I met his friends... I liked one (But he just recently got remarried and was the smartest of the bunch). They had pissing games who had thr most rolex collection etc... He was crazy about me... Still is even without so much as a kiss and i spent a weekend there. (Had my own hotel room)
But, I knew while the money was there, he was generous and was crazy about me... It would drive me nuts being with him and interacting with his friends... My standard here is that I won’t deal with any man who so much as stresses me mentally especially as I am a black woman... I won’t take nonsense.
My Point is : What do you compromise on that you do? It is a long road being steadfast to your standard... But it has been worth it for me.
Do not use anyone’s standard... Create your own and work on keeping it... Men will despise you for it... But respect you all the same.... It is a weird placed to be.
7.) What type of events do you attend. When you attend events, go out etc... What do you do? How do you approach these events? Do you wing it? Do you plan it? Are you fearless and confident or shy or just pleasant enough to exchange pleasantries alone? What vibe do you give off?
How do you dress? Different styles can come across different ways... Some ooze Sexy, some ooze elegance with a hint of sexy, some basic, some regular, some say just another event person
8.) Closer to Major cities : what part of that do you live? Even if you are not in the center of things... Where do you go when you go out? How often to do go to wealthy areas, who do you interact with there?
There is a plethora of questions who have to ask yourself.
With Covid I have met people (but then, I work for myself and have more freedom to move around and also take mini vacation in other cities) And I already have a network... So, I have a leg up -
But, I know girls here and people are also still meeting people.
What is stopping you? What avenues and methods have you tried? Have you thought outside the box?
Hopeless? No... Wrong direction... As you fail you learn things that dont work so that should make you hopeful.
Also, I am a big beliver in manifestation and law of attraction. Feeling hopless will only make things more hopless...It will attract more faliure...
Find ways to think more positively, ways to turn negative things into potentially positive things... In this case you do not have to be rational... Imagine everything negative happening has a positive...
e.g : A man cancelled on you = It wasn’t meant to be... It might have turned into a terrible situation for you... Thank God or the universe for saving you from whatever it is you arent aware of.
eg : Covid happening : Time to make more money, invest. Brush yourself up, level up some more, learn new ways to meet this men and become more resilient so you come out fire when, the world isnt tupsy turvy
e.g : Getting older: Perfect, the more sure and certain you become in yourself, the more you actually find out what makes you stand apart, the more you find out who you are and realize that whatever amount a man was going to give you last year, you’ve outgrown it with age, maturity, acheivements etc.
You get the gist.... NEVER FEEL HOPELESS
You can feel sad... But not hopeless... Dust yourself up and try again...
Maybe one day i will take time out to share some of my own short comings and faliures... Cause i think we share the successes much more; that people think there aren’t mistakes and faliures and short comings... I have had them, and I continue to work and fix them.
The only thing is after my introspection... and brow beating myself and figuring it out...i don’t like to dwell on the faliures... I put my self to work updating myself. Besides I think sharing more good news brings more good news and vibes... But, there isn’t anyone that can claim to not have had obstacles and faliures.
Finally: My sister beleives everyone has a destiny... But everyone is also capable of changing theirs...
With regards to your question... About certain type of girls ...
The Answer is NO...
Some people might find it harder, or lack the resources and know how
But trying, pushing ones self, acquiring knowlegde and doing whatever it takes (of course within reason and comfines of morality ) Is what makes the difference.
As i write... I know women who took their entire savings to go to ST Barts for New Year... (Would I? NO) But some would... My point is.
You will go as far as you are capable of seeing yourself go.
So if you want a change in your pattern... You have to break the wheel... Try something new you haven’t tried yet... And a new approach.
Question for you: “Gain an in?” Into what circle do you want an in? What type of man
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