#200TruthsAboutLove

[bathobatsho]

I understand when you can’t be there. Understand the fairness then when my trust grows rare.

h.a-l

[tothenewmannequin]

Most of us remain Islands Of a solitude pursuit Because we know, it's Those we love who do Us more damage than Those we don't. — h.a-l #BecauseBlack #poetryality #200 #200truthsaboutlove

[officialkob-blog]

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[200truthsaboutlove-blog]

Why Men Keep Lying About Being Monogamous Is Dumb & Regressive.

I’ve gathered that a lot of men are scared to talk about what they really want, sexually and romantically with the women they like, want or already have.

I keep telling men to open up and be vocal about who they are. Monogamous or not and the prevalent knee-jerk reaction is the coy, “nah dog, are you crazy...?” Fear fucks with their decision making & it’s out of control.

So, men lie about who they are or tell half-truths about what they want because when a guy meets a girl it’s one or two things.

1. Damn, I really just wanna fuck this girl because she turns me on and we got a vibe going on. That’s that.

Or;

2. Damn, I really like this girl and I see myself growing with her and building something worthwhile so I’ll do and say anything to gain her trust and work it out with her as we grow.

Two of these guys are right to want this and to pursue it because that’s how they’re wired.

These two guys also fuck up a lot because they lie at the beginning of everything and sell you the sob stories, promise you the world and even go as far as introducing you to their Mama to gain your trust just so you to drop your guard so they can fuck.

Then the paint of their lies wears off because both these guys, honest as they’ve been about their intent to be with you and how they intend to, grow dissatisfied with the fact that they’re “stuck” in a monogamous relationship they didn’t plan for but, for a nut, they stuck around and lied about their lust drives.

A lot of young guys trap themselves in this and it’s not in them to stay monogamous. IT’S NOT IN A LOT OF GUYS TO WANT MONOGAMY BUT THEY DON’T TALK ABOUT IT.

Blame it on indecisiveness or nature vs nurture but I can genuinely tell you that it’s that initial failure to have a convo with you that says “I am not monogamous, nor do I want to be and a relationship won’t change that”.

The failure to say, “I just wanna fuck with you and enjoy ourselves”. Or “let’s build but I want to enjoy the freedom of other relationships...”. Or “we’ve grown in different ways and I’d like to be with other people but not sacrifice what we have or make you feel like I’m jeopardizing us. How can we make it work...?”

This fear, rears men to cheat. To stop talking to you. To detach. To act out because it makes them feel as though they are something other than what they really want to become.

And that’s what’s fucky. That’s what’s cruel. That’s our cowardice.

That’s what should change with us. To trust that a woman can handle such a conversation and have the ability and power to choose whether she wants to be with a man like that or not.

But it’s a power play to guys too. They rarely want to give a woman that power because they wanna fuck and duck when they feel stuck.

Well sirs. Prevention is better than having to be pusillanimous and cagey.

Make it known from the get-go who you are bruh.

TALK YOUR TRUTH. Cause bro, more often than not, in 2017/2018, there are more women who want EXACTLY what you want fam.

Lay it out. Don’t lie. She will give you that with added respect and still suck you dry after doing cartwheels on your dick. All you gotta do is be honourable.

Get yours. Just get it right.

— h.a-l

[mosima-r]

My Dude. There is a lot of nonsense about the image of women and what "perfect" is. You've been fed shit and maybe you should understand a few truths if you value quality in people. A black woman is perfect as is. How you find her. Not your idea of what she is or how she "should" be. She is not a fetish you've built up from all the smut you see on television, read on magazines or the ones you secretly view with shame and embarrassment from the porn collection you jerk off to. A black woman's body is none of your concern until she makes it your concern. She is not put on this earth to be gawked by you just because your favorite rapper views women in that way. Don't be pusillanimous. That weak way of thinking, that perspective is stupid and frankly utter fuckboyery. I believe in you, please don't disappoint me. Instead of whistling when you see a good woman, hold that shit back and calm your urges to be crass and idiotic. Stop your friend from talking shit about black women. Dissociate from the cool fuck shits whose only concern is racking up conquests and fucking then dumping women. Do better. Call your niggers on their bullshit instead of perpetuating the same old garbage mentality we came up on. That having more than one dime makes you it. Gets you made. That calling women names for peer approval makes you hard and a leader. A leader to what? A leader to where? Your perception of a perfect woman should be the happiness you're going to give that one lady, that one woman by the way you accept her as is, how happy you make her by the way you encourage her growth and self acceptance cause they all come with insecurities, negative nuances, shames, scars, pains from a past you probably will never hear of until you earn that sacred trust and lightning strikes that should fill you with pride when you study them. Why? Because of all men that could have her, she saw her man, her future, her truth, her life and her possibility and potential unfold beautifully with you and you alone. And she chose YOU. (And trust me, there are ten/twenty to thirty + men that can do a way better job than you out there who've either hollered and got turned down or those who've made plans to and probably will). FAM, SHE CHOSE YOU. YOU GOT HER. WORK TO KEEP THAT WEALTH.

FlexBoogie Anderson

[bathobatsho]

About love:

I’m learning to

Finish poems

I started.

I’m learning to

Relinquish hearts

I had no business

Sharing my trust

With or at first,

Being trusted with.

h.a-l

[bathobatsho]

‪The folly before ‬ ‪Was how we had‬ ‪Specifications on a ‬ ‪Black girl we wanted. ‬ ‪Hell, right now, the need‬ ‪Is more of a black woman‬ ‪Than anything. It's a necessity‬ ‪For building a better future for one and his family. His lineage matters. His truth and wellness counts more than trivial body specs that time will alter as it passes. ‬ ‪Now the importance of love isn't based on how big her ass is but how immense her love and understanding of life and black love is. This is us now. The progressive thinking and feeling black man. ‬ ‪The one who doesn't pretend or revel in his society and community's ignorance of the self. ‬ ‪She has to be black with a vengeance. Heck, everything else will be figured‬ ‪Out. ‬

[bathobatsho]

The wait is over. Hakeem Anderson-Lesolang's debut anthology #200TruthsAboutLove is finally seeing the light of day at the South African Book Fair. The long awaited collection of essays and poetry comes after a long spell of demands from (@FlexBoogie), the author's great following. Young black women from around the world have praised the poet artist's work and take on love, loving and being loved as a "remedy of affirmations and bounty", a clear sign of how necessary the author is. You can now preorder the book on www.200truthsaboutlove.com and follow the author on IG, Tumblr, Twitter & Facebook: @FlexBoogie / @BksBlk

[bathobatsho]

I went to work. In a city I love. I connected.

[bathobatsho]

Good Morning Ladies Allow yourself happiness. Just as you've allowed tears To wash away the pain & Lift the turmoils out your Heart. There's no man or Circumstance that should Ever make you feel at a low Because you're misunderstood. You. A giver who cares to care? You, a lover who loves to love And asks only to have hers be Reciprocated, ready and replicated? You, a deserving presence. A reminder of heaven's own Existence when the good Invested in you replicates Itself with excellence? How do you even stop Happiness knowledge of That. Your glow? Allow yourself an open Door to light and love And stop for no one towards Attaining that weightlessness. — h.a-l #BecauseBlack #GMLDaily @BksBlk #Truths #200 #SelfLove #200TruthsAboutLove #CrownWork #Poetryality #BlackLove #LoveAndLight #BksBlk #QueeningCall

[bathobatsho]

APRIL / #200TruthsAboutLove

[bathobatsho]

Good Morning Ladies.

From what I’ve learned,

‪There was no revolution‬ ‪In her choice to love ‬ ‪Herself. ‬

‪She just tired of watering ‬ ‪Trees that offered ‬ ‪Her no shade‬ ‪In return. ‬

So to herself, All her love, her care Was returned.

All her dreams & Goals for heaven went Back in her well.

She decided without Fatigue herself & knew then, She chose well.

‪— h.a-l ‬

📸: ayyooyluap

#BecauseBlack - #GMLDaily - @BksBlk - #200TruthsAboutLove

[bathobatsho]

On a day to day, stand up and stand proud of your blackness. Raise it's standard and define again and again it's excellence. You are God's most amazing brag.

[bathobatsho]

"The Ultimate Guide to keeping your girl happy, and kept" by author Hakeem Anderson-Lesolang (@FlexBoogie) got black women on Twitter screaming Halleluyah for getting it & encouraging brothers to outdo themselves.... ❤ Love reminders & small mercies PDF: https://www.bksblk.net/theblkshop/keep-your-girl-happy-and-kept

[bathobatsho]

Listen to the #PWRS playlist on #SoundCloud today.

[bathobatsho]

Please stop downplaying All the Glory you see on The mirror. Please stop ignoring all The love that you feel Inside. Please no longer deem Your best not good Enough. Please use your eyes Now. How many blind men's Broken hearts will you Look at yourself with And join them is Loving yourself Like they Can't? — h.a-l