#.sex ed

[butchbait4butch]

hey transfems, i don't know which of you need to hear this but it's okay to never use your penis during sex if you don't want to. it's okay to tell your partner not to touch it, to ignore it even, and hold them to respecting that boundary, no matter how many times you've had sex with them, or even if you've had sex with them with your penis involved.

you're not weird or broken for having needs or having boundaries, and you deserve lovers who respect those needs and boundaries. as someone who knows first hand, it's not worth it not to speak up.

this is a post for bottoms, switches, and tops. for subs or dom/mes. for anyone who feels like their no will go unheard or that the only reason people are sexually interested in you are those who want a woman with a dick. i promise you there are people who are out there who will listen, who will get you, and who will treat you how you deserve.

in fact? that's the absolute base line that anyone deserves during sex, and you deserve that and so much more.

[schizhoebitch]

You and your partners kinks and desires probably won't match completely, but it's important to note and respect the difference between "I'm not super into this, but I don't mind doing it for my partner" and "engaging with this causes me distress and ruins my enjoyment"

[animentality]

[mxjackparker]

It recently came to my attention that a lot of people, even those who frequently use condoms, don't know that you need to pinch the tip when you put one on or don't know why!

Leaving air in the tip will cause it to expand (and maybe break) when ejaculation happens. Also, air in the condom makes it more likely for the ejaculation to push the air down the condom and make it slip off.

Share to save someone from a condom breakage!

[fluorescentbrains]

this shit is soooooo infuriating to me like some people have trouble climaxing through NO fault of their own—maybe it’s a natural variation of their bodies maybe it’s medication side effects maybe it’s trauma—it’s actually really common and it’s something that makes a lot of people feel really ashamed and miserable… you haven’t “masturbated yourself into dysfunction” in fact masturbation often helps you get better at figuring out what makes you climax like !!!!!!! and even if you HAVE been hitting the vibe too hard recently you can always cool off for a week or two until you get in the mood again. your clit isn’t ruined forever. christ. this chewed-gum approach to sex simply does not have a basis in fact. pleasure is not a scarce resource

[gibbearish]

got a good grade in physical therapy because i ordered a sex toy life is fun

editing this in case the original is showing up in ppls based on your likes / for you tab but if you check the notes this post has a lot of information on vaginismus treatment and therapy

[incognitopolls]

We ask your questions so you don’t have to! Submit your questions to have them posted anonymously as polls.

[horny-mushroom]

Let’s not pretend doms don’t need after care too.

Ask them if they are satisfied, whether they came or not. Do they want to cum?

If they need anything to drink.

Perhaps they might be cramping from putting a lot of effort.

Tell them they did well and which parts you enjoyed the most.

Compliment them for their work.

Cuddle up to them.

Offer help for the clean up afterwards.

Order food together.

Sex can be something casual, but might be intense too. Either physical or mentally. Take care of each other and regularly communicate with each other. No question should be taboo. It’s better to be safe than sorry.

[fixing-bad-posts]

Lol Children can know and learn about sex. It's why sex ed is in SCHOOL and We absolutely should have it. And you're sick if you think otherwise. love you.

[hellyeahscarleteen]

We could use your help!

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- The Scarleteam

[bairdthereader]

There's one in every friend group (and we love them).

Bonus--Confused Nick is confused:

[schizhoebitch]

When it comes to sex and kink, it's okay to not be all in or all out. It's valid to want to suck their cock, but not want cum in your mouth. It's valid to want to be spanked, but not want to be verbally degraded. It's valid to want penetrative sex, but not be up for anal. It's valid to want to be pissed on, but not want to drink it. It's valid to want part of the package without agreeing to all of it

[kissesfemme]

a reminder that there are PEOPLE behind nsfw blogs and what they share online is a very small part of their lives. you do not know these people and they do not owe you sex, photos, messages, or a relationship. even if they have interacted with you in the past, they still don't owe you anything. posting nsfw content ≠ consent.

[whathehonestfuk]

Dustin announces his entrance to the room loudly practically shouting "what the hell are you two doing?"

Steve pulls away to hide his face in eddies neck freeing up his boyfriend to answer

"kissing"

"I know that by why are you two kissing? you're both guys" his tone arrogant like that simple statement explains everything

"Steve how could you not tell me you're a man?" Eddie gasps dramatically pulling away to place a hand over his heart and forcing Steve to address the situation instead of hiding

"eds not helping" he laughs " I don't know Henderson why do people usually kiss each other"

"for sex"

"that not, has your mom given you the sex talk yet I feel like you might need it after that statement. kissing isn't just for sex and that's actually a really shitty way of looking at it"

"okay kissing isn't just for sex and yes I've already gotten the sex talk, multiple times but that still doesn't explain why you were kissing"

Steve places a hand over eddies mouth as soon as the other man opens it "give him a second that big brain of his will catch up"

There was about a minutes pause before "ARE YOU DATING?"

[incognitopolls]

"Abstinence-focused" meaning that a large underlying message of the sex education you received was "don't have sex [before marriage]."

If you had sex ed at multiple different times, vote according to whichever was better.

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We ask your questions so you don’t have to! Submit your questions to have them posted anonymously as polls.

[florallylly]

robin buckley, freshly 21 and scheduled for her first pap smear, literally terrified of the concept of a speculum.

steve harrington, with no knowledge of the human body or medicine: don't worry we can get one together and i'll go first