#...so it's not 'women want to forcefem men :(' but 'women want you to be fucking real about who you are and not couch it'

[uncanny-tranny]

Femininity isn't even one percent as degrading as the men who police other men's perceived amount of femininity with micro-levels of scrutiny

[ryans-planet]

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Intro

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(Last updated: 9/27/2024 (updated a few things)

Hey! I’m Ryan, new to this stuff and I mostly am here to explore my kinks in a fantasy way, reclaim some part of my sexuality and have somewhere to just dump things I want/like to do!

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Abt me

22

transmasc agender

On T currently, been off and on since 2020. Due to resources.

uhhh let’s say I’m queer with no interest in cis women and folk who ID as lesbian.

Gray-romantic/Aroflux

Huge huge Switch

Audhd/chronic pain

Monogamous

My Love; @nashont-umblr His tag is #yeehaw bc I’m down bad

White

Fat (fatphobia/chasers/feederism r blocked immediately.)

DMs open to mutuals I will also give discord too if you have it!! but I am awkward and bad at replying sometimes 😭!

All posts on this blog are to be assumed mlm and most definitely about my boyfriend.

DO NOT tag my posts as wlw, or sapphic. I am a MAN. wlw are welcome to interact/follow/rb, but my stuff is by me; a man. It makes me uncomfortable for my posts to be tagged with those things.

Silly yap posts under #ryanplanetyaps Pictures under #pics of me

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Praise

Hairpulling

Biting

Choking

Edging

Overstimulation

Gun/Knife play

Breeding (only T4T/No pregnancy unless pet-play)

Wax play

Pet play

Corruption

Impact play

Force Masc

Somno

COCKWARMING 💕💕💕💕 (receiving especially)

Bondage

Intox

Anal is. Probably a no irl.

Absolute No’s

AgePlay (I’ll block you. I check almost everyone who follows/reblogs me.)

ForceFem

Nipple play (receiving)

Scat

Incest/fauxcest

Feederism

Piss

Heavy degradation

Race play (I’ll block you immediately.)

Misgendering

Heavy CNC and NonCon THIS INCLUDES RAPE PLAY. I’m fine with other cnc listed in my kinks but anything harder/extreme is a major Do FUCKING NOT.

OTHER:

Genitalia

terms to use are as follows; hole/cunt/boycunt dick/cock/tdick, Chest. Don’t use the terms tits/boobs for me (super awesome & cool if you don’t mention chest/nipples at all./srs)

Names/Titles/Compliments

that are absolutely okay are; Sir, Puppy, good boy, pretty boy, slut. Handsome. Apart from pretty boy please do not use more traditionally feminine worded compliments for me.

I have one main sexual trauma trigger, please do NOT use text emojis with /// as blush while talking to me. That’s all thank you!

DNI

Minors/ageless accounts

ED/SH blogs; have had my own issues and am in recovery.

DDLG/similar kinks

TERFS

Racists.

Fatphobes

Detrans kinks/blogs.

If you like Incest shit. I really hate it so bad, even in fantasy.

Zoophiles/p3dos

Zionists/Nazis

Chasers of any kind but especially fat and trans chasers.

Conservatives.

WLW/Sapphic only/Men DNI blogs

[velvetvexations]

on the topic of trans women being affected by transandrophobia, there has been a lot of recent discourse on twitter from TRFs over artworks that are assumed to be of trans women (but are usually of non-binary people, or a loving portrait of pre-transition trans woman drawn by her friend) appearing too “masculine.” In these discourses several butch and gender non conforming trans women have spoken up about feeling hurt to see their peers call art that looks like them (or is even explicitly *of* them) be called caricature or a troonjack. Following one of these events I saw a tweet bemoaning how butch transfems are *always* taking the “TMEs” side and betraying their sisters and that this made them “honorary transmascs who should be treated as such.”

It reminded me so distinctly of the bullying I received before I even realized I was trans for failing womanhood, and then the subsequent “gender traitor” treatment I received. I understand that trans women might not necessarily want to understand that treatment as being an extension of transandrophobia, and frankly I think the way those trans women and fems were being treated could as easily be called transmisogyny, it just made me think a lot about how transphobia can be deeply… circular I suppose in how we are punished. Now that I am broadly read as an effeminate man I deal with a lot of bullying from other men (cis and trans) that a lot of trans women could probably relate to from before they transitioned. We have a lot in common.

I'm becoming increasingly convinced that transradfems really fucking hate GNC trans women because they aren't pretty anime forcefem kink girly girls.

It would explain why they've painting other queers as obsessed with transmisogynistic caricatures their new thing, so they can make sure other trans women stay attractive to them. Hey, did you get any comfort from that post about love for butch t-girls? Yeah, sorry to break it to you, they're basically calling you Buffalo Bill. They think you're Tim Curry in RHPS. If a TME is ever nice to you it's because you're ugly and don't pass and they see you as a drag queen who they love so much more than real t-girls who of course all look like this fictional femboy I throw a raging fit about not canonically being transfem despite not even being in the fandom.

Having said that, lmfao I want to be an honorary transmasc, plllllease. I feel the most community with the transandrophobia-acknowledging part of the internet and with my experiences in life having already been extremely weighted towards interacting with AFAB trans people and cis men because I met people mostly through kin* and kink,** I have this sense of being an outsider that can't connect with people on that level.***

*actual proper "this is literally me in a past life" fictionkin are overwhelmingly AFAB to the point I don't think another AMAB person has ever even submitted an application to the server I'm in

**my kinks are weighted towards AFAB people and cis men; even with my misgendering kink I still have to wade through a billion posts for AFAB people to find one crumb of AMAB content

***still mad about that TRF who took me being sad about alienation and was like "of course no other transfem wants to talk to her she's so transmisogynistic" as though my problem with TRFs making me feel alienated from transfems is them having a problem with me and not me being proudly opposed to them

[steelestallion]

I’m sorry to ask you this if you’re just on here to mind your own business and be horny, but I have no idea where else to ask- I’m a cis woman who finds forcemasc really appealing, but I have mixed feelings about interacting with it because it seems to be a really T4T genre and I don’t want to disrespect anyone. Do you think it’s okay for cis women to be into it, or should I keep searching for a different similar label?

I find that masculinization kinks are really niche, so I’ve had trouble finding a label if you’re not a lesbian or are only interested in being hyper-masculine in the bedroom.

Howdy there,

I say anyone can to be into forcemasc. If cis men can be into sissification/forcefem stuff while not being trans, I think it’s only fair the opposite exist.

I think its mainly T4T stuff because trans dudes seem to be the epicenter of content and we like what we like. I would love for forcemasc to be as mainstream and popular as forcedfem, and think it would do really good to raise trans dudes and ftm content to the equal popularity of mtf and sissy content. This is just my opinion, but I think that any trans dude that says this kink only is only for a certain demographic is thinking backwards, so I say don’t worry.

What you mean by label I’m not sure, you can say you have a hypermasculinity kink. You can say you’re into forcemasc, it’s up to you to decide how far you take it. It doesn’t have to be a 24/7 fetish like a lot of content explores. It can be in the bedroom only and I think that’s a very interesting concept to explore in terms of loving masculinity and freeing it from the toxic societal cage it has.

You’re a cis woman and want to be the man in bed? Be the fucking man! You’re straight too? Make that guy your f****t! Make him call you daddy and say he loves your cock and enjoy how good it makes you feel. Or whatever Dominatrixes do that all the time just differently. And they’re still ladies outside of sex.

°˖⋆.°𓃗 .°˖⋆ °˖⋆.°˖⋆ *gallops away*

[cypionate60mg]

is forcemasc a response to sissy hypno? or something far different?

This is an important question with a long answer.

I don't know if I understand your distinction between "response" and "something far different", because I'd say both can be true. I'm also not quite sure what you mean by "response". I'm going to assume you mean that forcemasc is informed by the aesthetic precedents of sissy hypno.

First, let's clarify that sissy hypno is technically a subcategory of forced feminization, but has grown large enough to effect other porn genres in its own unique way. So, overall, sure, the disjointed genre of forcemasc is a response to forcefem, at the very least. And maybe also to sissy hypno. Mostly because its existence can't be ignored. Even if a forcemasc creator doesn't know about sissy hypno, its complicated presence is still felt in their work.

Sissy hypno claims that watching women get fucked by faceless masculine men will inevitably turn you into a woman, among other things. There's also particular iterations of it that lean deep into the hypno, encouraging the listener or viewer to compartmentalize these desires to get fucked and be feminine into an alter ego. In other cases, they command you to let your 'normal' self be taken over completely by your 'shadow self'. To let your desires become your identity for everybody to see. There's a unique shade of public humiliation. This anxiety that the porn you watch can be seen in the way you look.

I'm not an expert on how trans women and transfems feel about forcefem, especially sissy hypno, but I do know it's very complicated. Some of them used it to excavate their transness, and others find it to be abhorrent and disgusting. They're all entitled to their opinions, and that's a conversation I really don't feel comfortable entering.

Sissy hypno also leaves a particularly bad taste in people's mouths because of how its aesthetic elements were incorporated into gooning. Masturbating your life away until you're a manifestation of porn itself, which often includes becoming a masturbatory object for your 'goon buds'. Do you see what's happening here? The subordination of trans women, specifically, turns them into a fetishistic symbol of porn itself. They have come to represent the corruption of pornography and the failure of modern masculinity. The message is: if one fails to become or remain a man, then they are the plaything of men.

And let's be incredibly clear, this isn't based in any truth. TW/TFs, even those who participate in these fetishes, are not destined to be fleshlights. Their bodies aren't proof of their degeneracy, and their sexual dimensions are not inherently pornographic. But they are having to untangle themselves from that every single day. Any time they want intimacy, they have to navigate around this massive ideological snare.

So, your question, I'll answer it for myself, only. Is forcemasc a response? Yes, and it's intentional. I'm interested in porn that purports to transform its viewer. When you watch it, it fucks you.

So I found it interesting that trans men/transmascs were partaking in sissy hypno and forcefem. And, relatedly, some circles of TM/TMs express desires to be trans women. I'm not going to unpack that right now. Simply because it really deserves its own long post, complete with nuance. But I will say it in some ways points to a fear that sexual attractiveness cannot cohabitate with transness unless in a very particular body. And don't be mistaken, TW/TFs experience that fear too.

I don't really see how a Pinterest board of beautiful 'gender envy' men is all that different from a sissy-hypno flavored porn feed. Except for the fact that it's not explicitly pornographic. It's a particular practice of vibes-based masturbatory transition inspo collaging that all sorts of trans people partake in. We only see it associated with TM/TMs, because everybody unfairly accuses TW/TFs of only caring about aesthetics for perverse reasons.

I won't speak for others. For my attempt at forcemasc, I wanted to come at it from a different angle. How do we flip the script without just lazily making a masculinized copy of sissy hypno? Or avoid merely casting a trans filter on cis gay masculinization fetish? We have to respond, like you said, to not only sissy hypno but all sorts of other pre-existing porn genres. And the conventions apart from porn.

Here's my thought process. What if by becoming a man, you become a plaything for others? What if being masculinized brings you closer together with other people? What if a life of masculinity is possible without the subordination of femininity? Even seemingly more impossible, how do we express complicated feelings about our own feminine histories, gesture to the transphobic messaging about HRT that we receive, and fetishize our masculinization, all in one thoughtful package?

TM/TMs have a hard time envisioning where they might fit in the larger schema of desire, especially in relation to cis men. I think this is probably why so many fixate on 'roachification' and incel-type characters. (God, this could be its own long post.) I want to believe that forcemasc could be an alternative to our community's fetishization of and assimilation to male loneliness.

We're all (jacking off) in this together.

[t-dick-sapphic]

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My original text posts are filed under #starlingsays; plus #actual escapades if they’re about something I’ve actually done. Asks go under #starlingchats. My audio recordings are under #my audio. Start up a conversation with me and I might just record something just for you

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✨ FAVORITE THINGS: public / sneaky / exhibitionist sex, intox, telling my butch partner all about the slutty things i get up to, corruption kink (being corrupted but especially doing the corrupting) ✨

✅ More things I'm into: somno, light/medium cnc, fucking myself / getting fucked in skirts, girlcock, tdick, t4t of all varieties! Also rough sex (especially with tender aftercare), big messy cumshots, facefucking, ✅

🛑 NOT INTO: petplay / pup play, pregnancy, inc3st / explicit fauxcest, forcefem, raceplay 🛑

More about me under the cut

Don't expect face photos but if you want to picture me, I'm white, dark hair in an undercut, several piercings and tats, top surgery scars, small but sturdy build.

I've been on T for ~7 years now and it's given me a deeper voice, a happy trail, nice muscle tone, and...well, my username hints at my favorite part. Most of all, T has made me SO horny 😳

Genderqueer, sapphic, & mlm (kinda? I like men in a gay way but I’m not a man myself).

I’m neither butch nor femme, but enjoy butch/femme dynamics and am happy to imagine myself into them sometimes. Also into playing a twink

I'm happy to be a top or bottom / dom or sub, in charge or completely at someone's mercy, or to play outside of those kinds of dynamics entirely. (irl i default to subby bottom lol, but on here i love the chance to play as top / dom)

I have a partner, a butch I love beyond words — but that doesn't mean you can't talk dirty to me. Believe me, she doesn't mind, and I might just tell her all about your message later ;)

Language I like for myself

Love getting called pretty boy or good boy, as well as slut, whore, pervert, or getting called depraved

I'm don't love cunt or boycunt but fine if they're used occasionally, preference is hole

DON'T like pussy / boypussy

Love when you talk about my tdick / cock. "Boycock" is fine i guess, as is dick but i really prefer cock or tdick

If you try something out and I don't like it, no harm done! I'll correct you and we can move on from it

I'll tag meticulously; feel free to request I start using certain tags.

I know DNIs aren't all that effective but if I realize a transphobe / racist / antisemite / Zionist / ableist / any other kind of bigot is following me I'll fucking block you. I’ll be doing my best not to reblog from TERFs etc. but if anyone notices me accidentally do so please let me know so I can delete.

Trans women, especially all you lovely sapphic transfems and 😍 trans butches 😍 out there, I love you; let me know if there's anything I need to do to make you feel welcome here <3

[lycangrope]

forcemasc ramble. starts out as bitching but gets kinda horny at the end ig

I think the main reason why fight club is at the epicenter of a lot of forcemasc content is due to how fragile our own masculinity is as trans men (/transmasc people). that fragility leads to us finding something really attractive about destroying ourselves and others to assert masculinity. it's not too dissimilar to how cis men misinterpret it, just a bit gayer.

the messaging in the novel/movie about how fragile masculinity can lead to radicalization is left out, mostly just focusing on the narrator and tyler's dynamic before the reveal that they're the same person. however, it's also stripped from the excessive violence, so what's the point? what's the point in using this when we're not going all the way with it?

yes, my masculinity is fragile. i think more of us share that issue than we're willing to admit, seeing as this kink is based in gender confirmation and affirmation. rarely do i ever see actual force in the forcemasc genre unless another kink is involved somehow.

as people creating forcemasc, we shouldn't mindlessly copy the inverse of how we perceive forcefem content. while they both play with gender, they're still fundamentally different kinks (and neither is "better" than the other, we both have the capacity to be "cringe"). we need to get creative, though, as i see a lot of us doing this.

if you want to invoke that fight club feeling with your forcemasc, it has to be more propagandistic and violent. it has to be completely separated from women and our relationships with them. we do not want to destroy women or have them put up with us, we want to destroy ourselves.

the masculinity isn't what's destroying us. it's the desperation in your look, the inherent masochism of wanting this, it's the shame that comes when people start realizing what you really are. and it's liking every fucking second of it. you like those dog motifs? huh? fucking commit to it, then. hump the leg of your mind.

do away with the immaturity and infantilism and sexlessness that plague this tag. do away with the "masculinity = godliness" type shit as well. do away with the pathologization of the sexiest fucking thing in the world: being able to get off by wanting to fuck yourself. do away with that and create something new.

[angelofthemornings]

As far as autogynephilia goes, I want to talk to trans women, transfem spec, and questioning for a second

I am a guy. Sometimes I like to fantasize that I'm the girl having a lot of fun in bed when there's porn or if I'm jerking off thinking about fucking somebody or whatever. It's kinky for me. I kind of come from it from the angle that it's pleasurable thinking that I'm fucking this girl REALLY WELL and blowing her mind or whatever. This isn't the only fantasy that I have or even one I indulge in often, and it's not something I really do in real life, but it's fun as a sometimes thing.

However: I don't want to be forcefemmed in my fantasies, I don't want to crossdress before sex or anything IRL, I don't feel female, I don't want to go grocery shopping dressed as a girl, I don't feel any particular attraction to wlw subculture, I'm working out so I can have a muscular, masculine body, I shave so that I keep a five o'clock shadow, and as far as being perceived as a girl in general, I'm even a little annoyed when people assume I'm a "she" on the internet because I write slash fanfic or whatever. I'm really, really not female. This is what an actual male with an autogynephilia kink (in the sense of picturing himself as female during sexual fantasies) looks like (assuming there is such a word anyway and it's not just something terves made up). I really like being a man! I like masculinity and I'm really glad I'm bisexual so I can enjoy love between men.

So...*I'm* the autogynephile.

*You* are just a girl.

Also, nobody but another woman would get worried that they're degrading women with their sexual thoughts. I sure as hell don't worry about it and I'm not exactly a misogynist.

[waffliesinyoface]

Clothing ramble

so, fun fact my body has decided to forcefem me

i wanted to get some overalls, both for like. utility? (pockets for tools, doubles as an apron when working with clay, etc.) but also because i have a problem with my pants sliding down my butt sometimes, which is annoying. i hate having to adjust them, but i also hate wearing belts??

anyways, i went to walmart (because im broke), and i found some mens work overalls which were. eh. they looked like something a plumber would wear. not cute at all. i picked up an XL pair, but like. i wasnt enthusiastic about them.

so i browsed around more and found some shortalls in the womens section. i know womens clothes tend to run smaller than mens clothes, so i picked up a 2XL pair, not really expecting them to fit? like. I've seen places where 3XL womens = L mens, because fashion companies are run by demons.

anyways. i went into the changing room – walmart is fucking weird, btw. not only are the stalls gendered despite being a fucking closet, but you have to ask the attendant to unlock the room for you. bro, just let me put on some pants. jfc.

so i tried them on and… i could not get the mens ones on. at all. like, i could get them mostly on, but they were tight and uncomfortable, and one of the side buttons just would not work. very upsetting.

but, i figured, i was already in the room so i may as well see how the shortalls fit?

y'all. the 2XL women's shortalls fit perfectly.

it wasn't that i was too fat for the mens ones, it's that mens clothing is cut for people with no fucking ass.

so anyways i bought two pairs because fuck it theyre cute!!!! and i want to wear more cute clothing!!!!!! and its summertime!!!!! unfortunately this does mean i feel obligated to shave my legs again, but c'est la vie.

(sadly, due to them being shorts, i can't wear them in my jewelrymaking class for safety reasons. it might be okay if i wear leggings, but i dunno, i'll have to ask.)

TL;DR - local closeted transgirl who felt obligated to buy more practical but ugly clothing had NO CHOICE but to get cute comfy clothing instead. oh noooo

[male-pussy-mens-tits-mangirl]

[!! Currently Mass-Editing Tags for Better Organization !!]

INTRO:

hello beautiful people 💋💖

main: @yesicanbelieveitsnotbutter (so yk if i follow/follow back)

name: not important, but you can me all sorts of pet names, like: puppy, mutt, dog, slut, whore, baby, princess, prince, boy, girlie, toy, etc. 😘 get creative~

age: adult

gender: queer ftm man with a kinky dose of babygirl ; twink to bear transsexual style lol

pronouns: he/him (she/her for my "detrans"/forcefem kink*)

bodily terms: fem and masc terms accepted for all parts of my body, just be aware that I am very very hairy, so dont call me smooth (because im not 🥰💖). using pronouns (he/she) for my gentilia is also super hot, esp when paired with degradation <3

sexuality: technically ace, definitely aro - overall, strong preference for men and/or masculinity, but binary feminine women can interact if youre cool - im externally bisexual, like, in terms of what i interact with

sub** by choice, i dont like being in charge of shit - switch, but im a sucker for getting fucked within an inch of my life

(**sometimes i get in a cishetmale domineering mood but i dont post about it, idk ask me if your curious lol)

KINKS: BDSM, petplay, "breeding" (creampies), feminization/"detrans"/misgendering*, cross-dressing, slutty/"porn star" clothing, CNC, monsterfucking, denial, praise, degradation, bloodplay, mild ageplay (i like ddlg/b, so sue me), size difference

LIMITS: no pregnancy, no scat/vomit/pissplay, *no actual detransitioning talk

DNI if you got "men dni" in your bio ("cis/het/binary men dni" is fine), and dont follow me if any of my kinks are in your dni. other than, idc lol <3

block me if you dont like me, ill block you if youre an asshole 🥰

Asks and DMs are open!

TAGGING SYSTEM (Work In Progress):

*(if i tag your original post with a tag u don't like, message/ask with the post link and how u want me to tag/interact with the post, and ill update it.)*

type:

#text - text posts

#images - image posts

#video - video or gif posts

gender:

#men - images/videos of or with a focus on men/boys/masculine people

#girls - images/videos of or with a focus on girls/women/feminine people

#queer - images/videos of or with a focus on people who don't fit neatly into the above binary or if I don't know their preferred terms, or if the post overall is best described as queer

#femsub / #mascsub / #subfocus - posts with a focus on feminine/masculine/unlabeled submissives

#mascdom / #femdom / #domfocus - posts with a focus on masculine/feminine/unlabeled dominants

content:

#cnc and #dubcon - posts that play with non-consent. cnc is for more extreme violations, dubcon is for ambiguous consent

#clothes - posts for my clothing kink

#petplay - posts about petplay/being animal-like

#degradation / #praise - posts with degradation, posts with praise

#bound / #denial - posts with bondage / posts about denial

#overstim / #edging - posts about overstimulation / posts about edging

#free use - posts about free use (if there's cnc-elements, i'll also tag that)

#fat&hairy - posts about fat and/or hairy bodies

#monster - posts about monsters/monsterfucking

#shower - posts about showering, washing bodies

#cowboys - cowboy posts yeehaw

housekeeping:

#boyfriend tag - posts for my beef (bf) (boyfriend)

#serious - posts about community issues/sex education/generally non-horny blog-related posts

#out of kink - posts out of kink, usually about the realistic side of sex

#meme - meme or shitpost

#positivity - positivity posts, generally out of kink

fandom:

#fandom - horny posts from any/all fandom(s) i don't post a lot about, misc fandom posts

#disco elysium - horny posts from the disco elysium fandom

#fic - fanfiction link

[tanadrin]

Re your post about forcefem, sissy porn, and detrans kink - I'm an FtM with a solely fantasy forcefem or detrans kink, about 5 yrs on T with no intent of actually detransitioning.

Some of the impetus for the detrans kink seems heavily correlated, to me, with the same emotions around cis men who have sissy etc kinks. Feeling like a failed man in some way, wanting to be sexually desired by a partner he sexually desires in return, that sort of thing. Obviously also the same idea as SPH, but with the added dimension of having, well, no penis. I would also compare detrans kink to noncon or rape or ravishment kinks that a surprising (IMO) number of cis women have. You're probably familiar with fanfic and bodice ripping romance novels if you've spent time on Tumblr or bored out of your skull at the grocery store checkout. It's a fantasy that erases the in between steps and minutiae and consent negotiation of actually setting up e.g. a relationship with a hot bachelor billionaire and skips right to the "what if my new boyfriend paid off my mortgage AND he could fuck for hours" bit.

Society tends to assume passing trans men are cis - which is the goal most of the time in daily life - but it can get awkward when trying to date. Lots of coming out, answering questions, partners not knowing what to ask, partners not knowing how to treat you, etc. It can be freeing to think about a sexual encounter where there's no awkwardness, no pussyfooting around, no explaining medical transition when you'd rather be fucking. Just a partner realizing you're trans, instantly being attracted to you, instantly taking what they want (and what you want, in the fantasy) without all the nonsense. This is often connected with the SPH, humiliation, and forcefem sphere of kink as well, of course.

Sorry about the essay in your inbox about a post whose age I absolutely did not check lol

The post is kinda old, but that’s OK! Yours and other replies seem to strongly correlate and it’s really helping me understand the nature of this particular kink, which I find very interesting. Human sexuality is so diverse.

[lesbian-boyfag]

intro post finally

‼️IMPORTANT‼️: this is a sideblog. i follow/like with my main. please do not spread my main around. feel free to follow/interact with me on my main but i will NOT be posting anything overly nsfw there. if you do interact with me on there do not expect anything sexual. my main is pg 13.

- Neon, 19, he/him preferably but any pronouns (including neos, except she/her) are fine. masc/neutral honorifics and terms are preferred but fem ones are ok (depending on kink/my headspace)

- nonbinary transmasc whatever you wanna call it. none gender with left boy. pre everything but hoping to start t soon (next spring!!)

- sapphic lesbian bi whatever you wanna call it. only romantically attracted to women but will fuck anyone (excluding cishet men)

-t4t preferred

- switch (switch/sub to gorgeous women and dom to pretty boys)

DNI: allocishets, christians, minors, typical dni criteria(all the -ists and -phobes) and anyone who doesn’t understand the difference between a kink and real life

‼️CISHET MEN! if we do interact you will NOT be the dominant person in that scenario! i don’t date men and when i do sleep with them they’re the ones bending‼️

kinks: intox/forced intox, forcefem/forcemasc (being nb means i get to do both🤭), fauxcest(with limits), ageplay (with limits), pee (NO drinking), humiliation (giving), praise(receiving), bondage(giving), LIGHT spanking, public play (with limits)

kinks i find hot but don’t personally engage or participate in: cnc, somno, and most kinds of dubious or non consensual kinks, fantasy beastiality, detrans kinks, hypno, edging, free use

hard limits: scat, blood play, race play, irl beastiality, feederism/starvation, heavy impact play

anatomical terms: in ok a mix of both ‘female’ and ‘male’ terms so any is fine. i reeaaallyy love mixing terms w stuff like ‘boytits’ or ‘boypussy’ so those are good too

(it’s fine to interact if you’re into any of my limits, but don’t get mad if i block/unfollow if things get too intense for me to handle. don’t involve me in these kinks either, i will block you.)

asks and dms are very welcome but ill only talk to people im mutuals with/familiar with. pls don’t dm me expecting me to want to talk to a stranger.

this post will be edited frequently to add/remove relevant info

[velvetvexations]

the whole forcefem is a trans woman thing and forcemasc is trans men copying is extra weird to me because in the kink circles I'm in its the opposite.

most trans mascs are the ones doing forcefem and trans fems doing forcemasc, usually with each other

I've taken so long to get to this because Migraine, and my vexatious posts need the most focus of them all.

Warning:

Misgendering, detrans kink discussion.

That sounds like detrans kink! Recently I was looking through various misgendering kink blogs and saw something that was like "reblog to forcemasc previous" being passed around by transfems, and oooh, boy, that was hot. I've mentioned before how I'm not into detrans kink because in my horny scenario I want to remain in the role of a degenerate freak rather than turned into an alpha male or whatever, but some forcemasc posts by and for trans women into detrans kink can be sexy as hell.

One, for instance, was about like, magic cosplay that masculinized you when you took it off. So like, a tiara that makes your hair into a cheap wig, stockings that leave your legs covered in hair. That's so fucking hot, holy fuck. The only problem with it for me is that I can't imagine being a girl who's trying to pass in the first place.

This all has an interesting effect on my actual sense of gender. Lately I've been getting more and more into the fact that I have a ton of body hair. There're a lot of reasons for that, but one contributing factor is my misgendering kink, because by highlighting I'm male in a kink context it reminds me of how it highlights the unique kind of girl I see myself as. In kink, it's a sign of maleness - which then becomes simply "maleness" after I get off and the vexatiousness leaves my body, and I'm like, oh, yeah, people recognize I'm AMAB when they see me covered in body hair, that's cool and fun, I like being a male woman, my body hair is something notable about me that informs how people view my gender.

The one of us who has the misgendering kink specifically, on the other hand, is starting to think of itself as autoandrophillic...because Kuro fetishizes the way it's masculine, right, and how that contrasts with a vaguely womanthing presentation? We've said before it's gender is essentially the act of being misgendered.

So we're a system comprised of a trans woman, a cis woman, an autogynephilic man, an autoandrophilic creature, and a [@)(@#$+!@!]. Your Velvet Vexations gender takes are coming from a diverse team of experts.

[bigcatgirlcock]

pinned post!

please put your age in your bio or pinned if you don't have your age listed anywhere on your blog i will block you!!!! im not gonna try to guess your age or assume by your blog content!!!!!! this includes your main that you follow and like from!!!!!!!!!!!

I USE THE BLOCK BUTTON VERY LIBERALLY. I WILL BLOCK YOU IF YOUR BLOG CONTAINS: SISSY, DETRANS, TRANS FETISHISM, TERFS, TRANSMEDS, EXCLUSIONISTS, PEDOS, RACISTS, BLANK BLOGS, AGELESS BLOGS, CRYPTOS AND MINORS. I RESERVE THE RIGHT TO BLOCK ANYONE ELSE I CHOOSE.

CIS MEN PLEASE DNI, trans men are cool but if your bio has age and he/him and no other information im assuming you're a cis man and blocking, sorry. im most comfortable with other trans women interacting but nonbinary people are good too. cis women you're on thin ice don't be weird.

also: the word/label 'femboy' makes me viscerally uncomfortable and dysphoric and if you use that as a label please dni. im not gonna talk about why here but if you want to know ask or dm. i also will not interact with blogs or posts that have that word in it, and i try not to reblog posts that have that type of people in it for similar reasons

anyway on this blog you can most expect to see posts with trans women (positively), bdsm/pet play dynamics, gender envy, feet, cum, wholesome lesbian and trans relationship positivity, butches, bondage, worship, mild cnc, and probably furries

there will be absolutely no raceplay, knifeplay, gunplay, mentions of the word rape, watersports, scat, forcefem, detrans, misgendering, or anything else i mentioned in the dni section on this blog!! if anything of that sort does end up getting mentioned it will be tagged appropriately

i use the tag "#die op" when i see a post that i like and want to reblog but the op has slurs or stuff like trans fetishism in their url or blog content and id ordinarily love to not reblog from them but it's good art

also im super fucking taken by @sibbysippy ! don't flirt with me or send me nudes. i don't need em.

addendum: there may occasionally be incest content on here. if this makes you uncomfortable, feel free to unfollow, idc this blog is entirely self indulgent anyway. to be clear: incest kink is entirely fantasy and i do not condone unconsensual incest. those who have incest related trauma are valid. also, im gay, have no sisters, hate my mom, and am in a wonderful and lovely relationship, so there's a negative percent chance I'd do anything like that irl. god forbid trans women do anything, trans women are allowed to have problematic kinks

[velvetvexations]

I'm "TMA" and I disagree.

being visible as a transmasc does involve gaining privilege

From whom? In what situations? A stealth trans man may have privilege over others - assuming he doesn't tick any other boxes, unless you want to pretend that the average Black man has privilege over the average White woman - but generally speaking trans men are not advantaged by transitioning at all. There may be some TERFier queer spaces that are more welcoming to them than trans women, but on the other hand, trans men are often kicked out of supposedly trans friendly spaces on the grounds that their masculinity makes everyone else uncomfortable. No group of trans people consistent privilege over another.

we may feel entitled to

If someone is an asshole, I guess? The self-identified TMEs who seem to expect privilege come off as massive creeps to me, like they find the idea of being a part of the patriarchy gender validating and even empowering while claiming they recognize it purely as responsibility to their poor trans sisters. They can fuck all the way off with that weird loser shit.

The desire to have known we could have had that privilege sooner makes a grim amount of sense.

I can't even begin to engage with this so I'm going to skip it.

What many of us do not understand is that representation of TMA folks, in contrast, is usually appalling,

I mean, yes, it used to be, and it still is in many ways, but often people will inflate lists of transmisogynistic characters almost entirely with movies and TV shows from the previous century. Rep is getting better for everyone and has been for awhile, but there's this weird tendency to act like you can't watch a single piece of media without it being about a transfem serial killer, which I just find ridiculous.

trans visibility *is* beneficial as inspiration if you're transitioning away from being the subject of misogyny, as opposed to towards it.

This isn't about transitioning out of misogyny, which, by the way, is a TERF talking point, it's about the fact that if anyone is talking about transmascs literally at all they're probably trans friendly and are likely to include other forms of trans rep as well. That means that, yes, on one hand, you may have negative depictions of trans women turning some* AMAB children away from exploring their feelings, but also AFAB children being lost and having no framework to understand their feelings at all, especially in light of what limited ways women have are granted greater allowances with gender variance in less strictly conservative areas**, both having a roughly equal chance of positive rep. Neither is better or worse.

*Given the historical prevalence trans women who got into humiliating forcefem first, including myself, depictions of AMAB people wearing dresses being a bad thing did not stop many from knowing they wanted to be girls. Of course there doubtlessly were plenty of AMAB children who did not develop any such adaptation and did just fully internalize the negativity, I'm only bringing up the forcefem thing to highlight how complicated and contextual these things can be. Obviously my experience is growing up transfem, so that's why I'm talking about one of the transfem complications, but transmascs could testify to similar layers of nuance.

**Those in conservative areas are stuck in situations where women wearing pants or cutting their hair short is dangled in front of them as a possibility that should theoretically be normalized, but are nonetheless faced with immense pressure and even flat-out abuse if they try to engage with what media from outside their local bubble tells them is so permissible as to not even be even a little bit notable, which further confuses them and makes it difficult to understand or allow the things that they feel. It's interesting too that, if you look at history, there were many more "men" who acted as women out of public view, but for the longest time there were very few examples of the equivalent for "women." That's because "woman" has always been a very niche thing but behaving and being treated in a masculine way was and is simply considered the default desirable human experience - think about how toy aisle can be divided between "girl's toys" and "everything else."*** That's still an issue to this day because of transmasc invisibility.

***which I say as someone who, in coming up with that example, teared up thinking about all the times my mother told me I should be satisfied with the nine options I had and not the tenth I really wanted. Again, my point is that none of us have it better or worse than the other. I have to specify because this is apparently radical crypto-TERF shit to some people and everyone assumes I, someone who has suffered for being transfem, think transfem people don't suffer.

Trans guys / transmascs can be annoying about visibility because being visible as a transmasc does involve gaining privilege we may feel entitled to, without realizing that's what the feeling is about. The desire to have known we could have had that privilege sooner makes a grim amount of sense. What many of us do not understand is that representation of TMA folks, in contrast, is usually appalling, due to society's lens of transmisogyny coloring everyone "visible" with all shades of disgust and hate. This happens to the point of *dissuading* many women and transfems from transitioning instead of inspiring transition.

I think it's important to understand this piece of why visibility is such a "transandrophobia" talking point: trans visibility *is* beneficial as inspiration if you're transitioning away from being the subject of misogyny, as opposed to towards it.