#...so it's not 'women want to forcefem men :(' but 'women want you to be fucking real about who you are and not couch it'

[uncanny-tranny]

Femininity isn't even one percent as degrading as the men who police other men's perceived amount of femininity with micro-levels of scrutiny

[gamer-goo]

To put my feelings on forcemasc more eloquently, I feel that it forgets that the operative parts of Forcefemming are A) the sexual fetishization of transfeminized bodies(that we are sex objects first and foremost, and our presence always carries with it sexual assumptions that simply aren’t present for transgender men the same way) and B) the shame of failing at masculinity, and becoming something lesser. It operates on comparison less to the bodies of cisgender women, but to the shame of Being Transfeminized, which is to say, the sexual allure and repulsion of being a “girl” with a dick. The forcefeminized subject is rarely treated as a woman in nonsexual/sexually adjacent settings, and the allure of forcefeminization os having a man forced into the role of a woman in a bedroom, which is to say submission. Forcefem is in most forms about a man being submissive, and the shame that carries with it, largely in the form of de-gendering and third gendering as you see with trans women(this is why it’s important that we remember that neither transgender women nor a forcefeminized subject are treated as women in ways that matter! We’re something worse!)

Compare all of this to Forcemascing, which from what I’ve seen largely seems to revolve around affirmation of already masculinized subjects or like. Making cis girls take testosterone? We see that it sort of rings hollow because there’s no shame, or at least not even nearly the same amount! The social stigma of failing at masculinity into a feminized faggot of a man is something that doesn’t really exist in the other direction, we could almost consider this a sort of “failing upward” situation, there’s no stigma to becoming a man because there’s no stigma to being a man! The social pressures of “misandry” just don’t exist! And that’s why there’s no like well established Forcemascing Scenes or demand for it in sexual commodities like there is for Forcefem Porn(be it femboys, l*dyboys, trans girls with huge cocks and ridiculously big tits, etc), it’s not that it’s new! But it’s for the same reasons that it’s new, it just. Doesn’t work the same way. When you remove the shame of being feminized, it just turns into a very roundabout rape kink. Which is fine to have! But let’s call it what it is, no? Making someone take a kind of drug against their will for the purposes of fucking them and making them love it is like very textbook rape kink when we remove the shame of feminization IMHO.

And I think that’s really my problem with Forcemascing, it’s just kind of another example of tbros seeing trans girls embrace what we are and enjoy ourselves or create language to describe the contours of our oppression and they go “oh I want to have that, if the girls get it the boys should get it!” Without any further research or introspection about WHY we do these things, so they create some weird shit that relies on completely bogus frameworks. You cannot separate forcefeminization from structural and cultural transmisogyny, and just like how transmisandry isn’t real, forcemasc doesn’t really work!

[velvetvexations]

I have the forcefem meme blog blocked but someone I follow put a post of her's on my dash and she's just straight up saying "this isn't a kink blog, the way I do forcefem isn't kinky" and I swear my brain stopped working entirely for a second. I don't think there's anything wrong with kinks changing with a subculture or community or becoming memes but like. Come on. Forcefem is a kink, that's what it is. I try not to get too worked up about this blog because it's not good for me and my judgement does get clouded by the dysphoria it triggers but like, it really does genuinely worry me the way the meme-ification of forcefem has completely divorced the kink element from what is still very fucking clearly a kink. This whole "I'm not doing it in a kink way" is not a get out of kink free card, and it's a piss poor excuse for going around and flooding this website with kink stuff that now essentially cannot be avoided in trans spaces. No other kink that has like, a potentially sfw angle has a community that acts like this about it, people who do like bootblacking performances where no explicitly sexual acts take place still make it clear this is a kink thing so people can avoid it if they want, and there are huge arguments in furry communities over if you can even do "sfw" vore because vore is a kink even when no traditional sex acts are being depicted. Every other kink community gets that even when no one is fucking, a kink is still a kink and should be treated as such for the safety of everyone, why should THIS be the exception??

Ugh anyway sorry didn't want this to turn into a rant, I really don't think there's anything wrong with doing a fun sfw kind of forcefem with people who consent but like, as a kinky person who cares a lot about kink and BDSM history and communities the blatant refusal to consider forcefem a kink AT ALL is concerning. You cannot un-kink-ify it, this is a kink goddamn it and when you stop treating it as such you open up a LOT of unsafe grey areas on top of making it borderline impossible for people who are squicked out by it to avoid it because no one is going to tag for something they think is a harmless, gender-affirming, tgirl approved meme.

Idk tho maybe I'm letting my own dysphoria get in the way, feel free to check me if that's the case I will take the L with grace, but I just feel like this "It's not a kink when I do it" thing is...in poor taste, at the very least. I don't think it's intentionally malicious either I just don't like it when we stop recognizing that a kink is a kink.

I advocate tirelessly for being able to live BDSM relationships in public to the extent that "normal" relationships are allowed, but what I do not do is say I should get to snap a collar around a random girl's neck and drag her off because it's just a lifestyle. Like fuck off with "it's not a kink," IT IS, and it is NON-CON.

My biggest fan can't shut up about me supposedly calling trans women groomers because I think it's bad for trans men to say they want to cure trans women's "comphet," but you know what's also sexually coercive? Shoving your non-con fetish at people, many of whom are going to have reasons to be outright triggered by it, and then call it fine because it's so totally non-sexual.

SATIRE BEGIN

Well, okay, fine, start making indiscriminate forcemasc jokes at women. It's not a kink! There's nothing wrong with being a trans man! How could they possibly complain?

SATIRE END

That's a rhetorical question too, the answer is that they'd be massive hypocrites about it and say some dumbass shit like "transmascs just invented forcemasc to gentrify our fet I MEAN NOT A FETISH" or "trans men shouldn't care about being forcefemmed because there's nothing wrong with it but being a man is Bad."

[ryans-planet]

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[steelestallion]

I’m sorry to ask you this if you’re just on here to mind your own business and be horny, but I have no idea where else to ask- I’m a cis woman who finds forcemasc really appealing, but I have mixed feelings about interacting with it because it seems to be a really T4T genre and I don’t want to disrespect anyone. Do you think it’s okay for cis women to be into it, or should I keep searching for a different similar label?

I find that masculinization kinks are really niche, so I’ve had trouble finding a label if you’re not a lesbian or are only interested in being hyper-masculine in the bedroom.

Howdy there,

I say anyone can to be into forcemasc. If cis men can be into sissification/forcefem stuff while not being trans, I think it’s only fair the opposite exist.

I think its mainly T4T stuff because trans dudes seem to be the epicenter of content and we like what we like. I would love for forcemasc to be as mainstream and popular as forcedfem, and think it would do really good to raise trans dudes and ftm content to the equal popularity of mtf and sissy content. This is just my opinion, but I think that any trans dude that says this kink only is only for a certain demographic is thinking backwards, so I say don’t worry.

What you mean by label I’m not sure, you can say you have a hypermasculinity kink. You can say you’re into forcemasc, it’s up to you to decide how far you take it. It doesn’t have to be a 24/7 fetish like a lot of content explores. It can be in the bedroom only and I think that’s a very interesting concept to explore in terms of loving masculinity and freeing it from the toxic societal cage it has.

You’re a cis woman and want to be the man in bed? Be the fucking man! You’re straight too? Make that guy your f****t! Make him call you daddy and say he loves your cock and enjoy how good it makes you feel. Or whatever Dominatrixes do that all the time just differently. And they’re still ladies outside of sex.

°˖⋆.°𓃗 .°˖⋆ °˖⋆.°˖⋆ *gallops away*

[fite-club]

"some trans men like being feminine, so obviously that means it's okay to nonconsensually subject them to my kink and tell them I want to forcibly detransition them! I'm so progressive!"

I guess that also means that it's okay to go into the asks of butch trans women and tell them I want to force them to detransition because I have a forcemasc kink, right? They like being masculine! Clearly, they must also be okay with me threatening to turn them into men, otherwise they wouldn't be butch! /Sarcasm

See how fucking stupid you sound?

see but the thing is, i don't believe that there's more than, like, one or two weirdos who are transfems going into transmascs' ask boxes and making forcefem jokes. i wouldn't be surprised if most of the forcefem anons are TERFs, actually (pretending to be perverted predatory trans women for the reaction is a fun pastime for them). the first thing you have quoted here isn't something anyone has ever said or believed, it's a strawman so flimsy it's basically 2 pieces of straw. i think this is something being blown out of proportion so that people have "justified" reasons for being uncomfortable with transfemininity (just like baeddels). i think that this is just another classic example of transfems having fun doing their own kinky thing (that specifically arose as a consequence of/reaction to transmisogyny) that transmascs see as "exclusionary" and "transphobic" because it's about transfemininity and not transmasculinity (as if everything has to be for everyone all the time).

[actualalivecreature]

just saw some stupid ass post about how folks who are pro kink but don’t like autoandrophilia/forcemasc and similar kinks aren’t actually pro kink and im just fucking tired, man.

do you know your queer history? at all? do you know that these kinks are how pretty much every nondescript and transphobic cis person thinks trans people are and act, and that that’s played an active role in our oppression?

cis folks will look at trans people, women and men and nonbinary folks alike, and see us as crossdressers and fetishists who simply are aroused by ‘appearing as the opposite sex’. This trope has been actively used to KILL trans people. You cannot reduce trans people’s existence down to a fetish/kink, period.

So sorry, forgive me if forcemasc/forcefem kinks leave a bad taste in my mouth and I don’t want to be around them. That’s not me telling you what to do in the bedroom, that’s just me being real about how portraying this shit publicly actively affects the safety of trans people.

[fearevillikefire]

Never once in my god damn life have i ever thought or said that queer or lgbt or trans people should become more weird, or that i really love the super weird people in this community. I do not, i actually don't give a single fuck about them.. why should i care about people being weird? Why is tumblr acting like that's some sort of amazing thing that we all gotta strive for, and we gotta love and lift up everybody who's weird, and their weird shit? Like, sorry, no.. actually i don't care, and that doesn't have anything to do with me. I'm not going to hate on them or anything unless it's somehow disruptful, which is pretty rare, but i'm not gonna support it either... especially if it's some sex thing. Like... hold on, why is it on me to give a shit about your kink? Why do i need to support that? I really really DO NOT CARE... fuck does your kinks have to do with me..????? I feel this way very strongly. I especially hate when people try to make the transgender community be correlated with a stupid ass kink or other sexual thing.

Btw, Recently i've seen the most try hard, cringeworthy shit ever, have you seen this? 'Forcemasc' meant for transgender FtMs. Such a fucking.. oh my god. Nobody is jacking off to this lmfao this is nobody's kink. Not a chance i'm going to analyze why, someone else can do that, my point is that it's fake and forced asf, it's tryhard, it's copying, it's really stupid asf. Like you really wanna make a boy version of forcefem, really... do men have their own version of fucking nail salons and beauty pageants NO you dumb fucking fairies. Like how gay do you have to be to need a fucking male version of some girly ass shit... so fucking stupid. Because you know damn well nobody is getting off on this..

Where was i going with this bullshit. Oh yeah, the fact they make this fake unsexy kink just so they can be like MtFs. Like do you douchebags think that it's a GOOD thing trans women are so associated with kinky shit and pornos??? It's fucking dumb. It's not like it's only fucking trans women making their image like this, although can we be honest they are plenty guilty of playing into it. But cis people and everyone and probably trans men too all fucking feed into this weird nasty image of trans women as a sex thing instead of just part of life. Some trans women online participate in this too but if it was just them it would be nbd cause it's their choice. And that's basically how it is for trans men, just some dumb fucking idiots online doing this because it's their choice. But I don't like it cause this shit reflects bad on all of us, and you aren't even getting off on it so STOOPPP. just stop. I hate many trans men on tumblr. I thought the shit about trans males being piss babies about 'transandrophobia' was exaggerated or something since i'd never seen it, until randomly i got recommended a ton of posts with SO many whining ass crying ass comments about this. I could not fucking believe it. At this point i know what we need. We need another kalvin garrah.. yes i know it's like asking for fucking. Darth vader or something. But we need a trans man who can unite us under a new era of toxic masculinity.. an era that makes us look less like little crying incel babies who poop in their diapers... we need the transgender andrew tate. yeah i know it's the opposite extreme but that's what is needed to bring balance to the force. We need a transgender ftm to stand up and be the confident, masculine role model these young boys need.. i know that's contradictory to the two guys i was just talking about fucking kalvin garrah and andrew tate fucking lesbian looking mfs no offense to lesbians i look like a lesbian... but my point is that it seems like these lame transgender boys, many are for sure adults in their 20s and 30s but if you act like a child, you get called a boy until you grow up, anyways they just love wallowing in their own beta-ness, i've never seen anything like it. They don't even WANT to be men at this point, falling back on the theoretical shit that being transgender male makes you inherently male but then also complaining about the oppressions that come from not passing... OMFG. Get your stupid ass up, get on T, go to the gym, and for god's fucking sake, cut your hair like a man and wear men's clothing. Can you IMAGINE. Can you IMAGINE if straight, cisgender men dressed and acted the way transgender men act?!? They'd be treated exactly the fucking same! And you wanna make it about being trans! Gimme a fucking break dude oh my god

[batsarebetterthanpeople]

I genuinely had not even considered the idea that that person might think forcemasc is a kink for cis men. I truly thought they were just intentionally shitting on trans men with that comment. Like, it feels so plainly obvious to me that if forcefem is a kink for amab people that forcemasc would be a kink for afab people??? Duh???

Yeah literally. Im giving them the benefit of the doubt for being stupid. I mean some cis people do have forcefem and forcemasc kinks but they don't call them that they call it like... Bimbofication or gym kinks or whatever the fuck and they don't blog about them on Tumblr.

But like the way she was talking about it was very much giving only cis men and trans women even exist to be horny about things. The reason I say that is because she literally said "being masculine is default" which literally just isn't true! I am a feminine man, I've been punished for my femininity, but I've been punished for my male traits my entire life and I have been rewarded for being feminine at times and didn't start getting punished for it until I declared myself male. The idea that there's nobody for whom femininity is simultaneously oppressive and socially reinforced in the same way that masculinity is for trans women is just straight up erasing trans men from the equation and its so tiring to encounter this type of girl because I want to get along with and be in community with other trans people but you're literally treating me how cis people treat me and you should know better.

Also Forcemasc isn't just forcefem but opposite, like it kind of is, but it's not there to be forcefem's equal and opposite. I have both a forcefem and a Forcemasc kink and they feel different when I'm engaging in them because I am engaging in them from a trans man's perspective. For example, when I'm into forcefem I'm getting forced to inhabit the role I transitioned out of for horny reasons, it's a humiliation thing. where as when I'm doing forcemasc I'm a bit more versatile I can be the horny t boy shooting up your daughters with testosterone, it's fun to be the one making you masc, but when I'm the masc-ee there's not no humiliation there, but it's more about forcing out a side of yourself thats really there but which society doesnt want you to express. For a trans woman that would be completely flipped. So I get why they would be uncomfortable with the concept, t boy bimbofication is niche and most trans guys are uncomfortable with it. Frankly I'm uncomfortable with it outside of pure fantasy. On that basis I understand the initial ick but I don't get why you wouldn't realize "oh it's trans men doing it, well I suppose it's fun that they have their own little force gender thingy, solidarity it has nothing to do with me" instead of getting all up in arms about it.

[waffliesinyoface]

Clothing ramble

so, fun fact my body has decided to forcefem me

i wanted to get some overalls, both for like. utility? (pockets for tools, doubles as an apron when working with clay, etc.) but also because i have a problem with my pants sliding down my butt sometimes, which is annoying. i hate having to adjust them, but i also hate wearing belts??

anyways, i went to walmart (because im broke), and i found some mens work overalls which were. eh. they looked like something a plumber would wear. not cute at all. i picked up an XL pair, but like. i wasnt enthusiastic about them.

so i browsed around more and found some shortalls in the womens section. i know womens clothes tend to run smaller than mens clothes, so i picked up a 2XL pair, not really expecting them to fit? like. I've seen places where 3XL womens = L mens, because fashion companies are run by demons.

anyways. i went into the changing room – walmart is fucking weird, btw. not only are the stalls gendered despite being a fucking closet, but you have to ask the attendant to unlock the room for you. bro, just let me put on some pants. jfc.

so i tried them on and… i could not get the mens ones on. at all. like, i could get them mostly on, but they were tight and uncomfortable, and one of the side buttons just would not work. very upsetting.

but, i figured, i was already in the room so i may as well see how the shortalls fit?

y'all. the 2XL women's shortalls fit perfectly.

it wasn't that i was too fat for the mens ones, it's that mens clothing is cut for people with no fucking ass.

so anyways i bought two pairs because fuck it theyre cute!!!! and i want to wear more cute clothing!!!!!! and its summertime!!!!! unfortunately this does mean i feel obligated to shave my legs again, but c'est la vie.

(sadly, due to them being shorts, i can't wear them in my jewelrymaking class for safety reasons. it might be okay if i wear leggings, but i dunno, i'll have to ask.)

TL;DR - local closeted transgirl who felt obligated to buy more practical but ugly clothing had NO CHOICE but to get cute comfy clothing instead. oh noooo

[male-pussy-mens-tits-mangirl]

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INTRO:

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gender: queer ftm man with a kinky dose of babygirl ; twink to bear transsexual style lol

pronouns: he/him (she/her for my "detrans"/forcefem kink*)

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[velvetvexations]

Since we're talking about forcefem, here're most of the forcefem-related asks I've had in my inbox, some of which are a few days old on account of technically going in the vexatious tag if not exactly kink asks. I wanted to answer one from today on it's own which I'll get to later but I wanted to get to the older ones and also get to a few of the others from today while I was at it.

i just saw a post where a trans guy was showing some messages where someone was (unconsensually) basically roleplaying forcefemming him. despite him telling them that he did not want that and that it was very much transphobic, and he atill got a message boiling down to "you're not a man, silly, you're a girl :D" and. to be honest. this was the thing that stopped the brainworms of "what if the whole concept of transandrophobia is actually transmisogynistic and i am entirely wrong" bc at least some of these people will just say the most bog standard transphobic shit to trans guys and not register it as transphobia. so why the fuck would they be right about anything transmascs experience also on that note thank you for being so outspoken in favour of transmascs getting to discuss their oppression. it's really helpful to see trans women stand with us here, especially when it comes to aforementioned brainworms

congratulations to that transphobe for creating a new transandrobro

the 'forcemasc isnt revolutionary' shit is the most annoying iteration of stupid tumblr discourse. like im going through the tag trying to read some horny shit and oh look. theres someone being stupid and hypocritical. in my horny tag.

people are getting tribalist about kinks and it's depressing

Every time people are saying that trans men & mascs cannot possibly fathom being objectified & fetishized, I think on all of the posts I’ve seen that did that exact same thing. And yeah, some of it might have been kink, so no hate no judgement I dabble in that tag too, but I’ve also seen “get in the dress” type posts that seem to be genuinely calling for trans men to be more feminine, untagged & in the wild, enough where I’m like — am I just imagining this? Like am I crazy? Am I missing something, or was that extremely detailed post about why I MUST stay feminine — or become more — for someone else’s benefit being 100% serious? And, again — if it’s kink, all the power to them, I love that for them, I even occasionally love that for me. But I have encountered enough people who were dead serious that I sometimes want no one but trusted friends & advisors to ever witness me again. And then I look at statistics & feel genuinely ill. And yeah, I’m gnc — and there’s the rub, because while I feel genuine joy being fem as well as masc, I want it to be a Choice, not something forced upon me.

people need to be fucking normal

Yh like ik a lot of shitposts don't have any tags but people have. Really gotta tag forcefem. I've blocked a large amount of people making these jokes + filtered their names n I still see it

I'm sorry, anon. <3

Fuck thank you so much for talking so openly about forcemasc. I’m so dumb I thought there wasn’t a name for that kink that I’ve been into for years, albeit my version is way more weirder. It would be like a… forcemascfem??? Like first it’s forcemasc and then it turns into forcefem and then right back to forcemasc…. And then back to- Idk my gender is weird and my kinky fantasy for that is weird

Cross as many boundries as you want, that sounds rad. Forcefem has a lot of infrastructure to jump off of.

“I’m doing a kink in a non kink way so it’s not kink blog!” Sorry this pisses me off It’s still a kink. Like. If someone made an I-suggest-BDSM blog and tried to claim it wasn’t a kink blog I’m sure more people would see how silly this is but because it’s the transfem approved virtuous forcefem they just let it slide??? Like. You are engaging in a kink and thats fine. You can say there won’t be anything explicitly sexual! But it will still be a kink blog because it’s a blog about a kink! A kink blog if you will! It doesn’t matter if you’re not getting off to it, it’s still a kink! That you are participating in! On your blog about that kink!

It SHOULD piss you off! It's extremely fucking scummy!

what the hell? for like one solid minute(longer than that but i like saying it this way) all the forcefem on my dash was tagged and i could blissfully not have to see it every other post and then just today i had to unfollow a buncha people for an assload of untagged forcefem :/ like im transmasc i think its understandable that i do not wish to see that anyway hope your day is goin well miss velvet

yeah it's praxis to not tag kink anymore

trfs are perfectly aware what the "force" bit means when forcemasc comes up in conversation

strange how that works

[tanadrin]

Re your post about forcefem, sissy porn, and detrans kink - I'm an FtM with a solely fantasy forcefem or detrans kink, about 5 yrs on T with no intent of actually detransitioning.

Some of the impetus for the detrans kink seems heavily correlated, to me, with the same emotions around cis men who have sissy etc kinks. Feeling like a failed man in some way, wanting to be sexually desired by a partner he sexually desires in return, that sort of thing. Obviously also the same idea as SPH, but with the added dimension of having, well, no penis. I would also compare detrans kink to noncon or rape or ravishment kinks that a surprising (IMO) number of cis women have. You're probably familiar with fanfic and bodice ripping romance novels if you've spent time on Tumblr or bored out of your skull at the grocery store checkout. It's a fantasy that erases the in between steps and minutiae and consent negotiation of actually setting up e.g. a relationship with a hot bachelor billionaire and skips right to the "what if my new boyfriend paid off my mortgage AND he could fuck for hours" bit.

Society tends to assume passing trans men are cis - which is the goal most of the time in daily life - but it can get awkward when trying to date. Lots of coming out, answering questions, partners not knowing what to ask, partners not knowing how to treat you, etc. It can be freeing to think about a sexual encounter where there's no awkwardness, no pussyfooting around, no explaining medical transition when you'd rather be fucking. Just a partner realizing you're trans, instantly being attracted to you, instantly taking what they want (and what you want, in the fantasy) without all the nonsense. This is often connected with the SPH, humiliation, and forcefem sphere of kink as well, of course.

Sorry about the essay in your inbox about a post whose age I absolutely did not check lol

The post is kinda old, but that’s OK! Yours and other replies seem to strongly correlate and it’s really helping me understand the nature of this particular kink, which I find very interesting. Human sexuality is so diverse.

[nattinekomaid-blog]

(I apoligize i rebloged this with my NSFW side blog on accident at first)

Replace kink with trans

is there any good sentence that stars with “I’m normally pro-trans but”? If you think you can finish that sentence without spewing transphobia be my guest.

Now, if you are worried about the way people are treating people using kink as a shield then say that. You could rephrase this as

“We need to stop people who use forced femininity against trans men as a guise for their own transphobia. Even if the trans man enjoys it, if it comes from a place of transphobia that is dangerous. No one should assume any trans man is into forcefem. And no one should fantasize about a particular person without their consent. Too many transphobes are using forced feminity as a guise for wanting to hurt tans men”

And no one would be mad.

But instead you chose to say “this thing has been used to do harm, therefore anyone who likes it is icky.” Thats the regressive anti kink bullshit that is authoritarinizm creeping its way into this site under a guise you personally find acceptable.

And maybe people are just, you know, into a kink? Generalizing an entire kink as bad is not ok. Are some people doing forcefeming to trans men in a transphobic way? Definitely. Can you always tell at a glance whats in someone’s heart because they like something you think might cause harm? No.

Trans people experience forcefem and forcemasc and forcenby in a way that is unique to their gender identity. It can be especially empowering to say “i see you as a man/woman/other no matter what, but i wonder what it’d be like to try to push you to be something else in a safe place. Especially if its to explore the emotions you have towards a gender you left behind in a way you never got to.” And, you know, on top of all that trans men aren’t barred from wanting to be women. Trans women aren’t barred from wanting to be men. Gender isn’t set it and forget it, genderfluid people exist, and have been completely erased from society. My coping mechanism for a while before I realized i wanted to be a man sometimes was to want to masculinize fem people. Deep down, I really wanted someone to play with my gender and see me as a man. But the fear of being seen as a detransitioner made it easier for me to cope by projecting it onto other people who were interested in it. I started to meet more trans men and i got gender envy that people told me was just me fetishizing trans men. Most people are especially hesitant to engage in forcemasc to trans women, so I had to repress myself extra for years.

And then i couldn’t hide it. I am a trans woman and a transmasculine man and whatever else my goopy gender brain decides.

You know what else is valid? People who have a fetish for detransitioning trans people. Even if they are cis. And besides you can’t know someone’s entire identity history and future by one kink they have. If its done respectfully and consensually then you should shut the fuck up. You know what a lot of detransition is a cope for? The fact that genderfluid people aren’t allowed to fucking exist in our society. And sometimes its easier for a trans person to imagine detransitioning than being genderfluid because detransitioning is more socially acceptable. There is no fucking place in society for genderfluid people, and not everyone who is is strong enough to carve out their own life. Let people fucking cope with kinks. And stop moralizing predatory kinks as icky and victim kinks as ok. Because it takes fucking two.

Dont. Fucking. Kink. Shame. Call out harmful behavior when it happens. Kinks are not inherently institutional power, the people who abuse institutional power and call it a kink are not the same as people who just have a fucking kink.

#kink shaming

#orientation play#genderfluid#genderfluid phobia#Kink phobia

i'm normally pro-kink but if your kink is forcefemming trans guys maybe you're just a transphobe

[resisteverything]

People are so weird about forcemasc they’ll pretend forcefem is only done by trans women in order to call force masc misogynistic, like they’ll just ignore the cis men with trans fetishes or humiliation kinks, they’ll say force masc is just growing up as a trans woman like do you guys think trans dudes never got forced to act feminine? You do realize that some trans men even have a force fem kink, even a trans-specific one. They’re not making forcemasc because forcefem “excludes them” by being about trans women because it’s not even inherently about that.

And the claim that force masc is not transgressive like it’s fucking porn who cares if it’s genuinely edgy or rebellious it exists because people are beating their dicks to it. Also trans masculinity is transgressive. The most famous woman in britain thinks if you are a trans dude it’s because the patriarchy is abusing you. A trans man using the men’s bathroom can get arrested for it. Some forcemasc sex fantasies are exactly like nightmares conservatives have but eroticized. Masculinity is “socially acceptable” if you’re a cis man, but if you’re Afab people will think you’re disgusting if you decide not to shave your skin baby smooth today. Doctors will literally shave down your canines for a more feminine look without your consent, forcefem shit actually happens IRL but even more extreme because even forcefem porn doesn’t think your actual fucking teeth are male teeth that need to be feminized.

And kink appropriation? Are you fucking kidding me? Is it cultural appropriation for a white dude to make tentacle porn? Is it challenging gender norms to be a guy in a maid dress? Is this really the discourse you want to be having? When there are actual political issues affecting trans people that you have to just straight up ignore to make these arguments?

[lesbian-boyfag]

intro post finally

‼️IMPORTANT‼️: this is a sideblog. i follow/like with my main. please do not spread my main around. feel free to follow/interact with me on my main but i will NOT be posting anything overly nsfw there. if you do interact with me on there do not expect anything sexual. my main is pg 13.

- Neon, 19, he/him preferably but any pronouns (including neos, except she/her) are fine. masc/neutral honorifics and terms are preferred but fem ones are ok (depending on kink/my headspace)

- nonbinary transmasc whatever you wanna call it. none gender with left boy. pre everything but hoping to start t soon (next spring!!)

- sapphic lesbian bi whatever you wanna call it. only romantically attracted to women but will fuck anyone (excluding cishet men)

-t4t preferred

- switch (switch/sub to gorgeous women and dom to pretty boys)

DNI: allocishets, christians, minors, typical dni criteria(all the -ists and -phobes) and anyone who doesn’t understand the difference between a kink and real life

‼️CISHET MEN! if we do interact you will NOT be the dominant person in that scenario! i don’t date men and when i do sleep with them they’re the ones bending‼️

kinks: intox/forced intox, forcefem/forcemasc (being nb means i get to do both🤭), fauxcest(with limits), ageplay (with limits), pee (NO drinking), humiliation (giving), praise(receiving), bondage(giving), LIGHT spanking, public play (with limits)

kinks i find hot but don’t personally engage or participate in: cnc, somno, and most kinds of dubious or non consensual kinks, fantasy beastiality, detrans kinks, hypno, edging, free use

hard limits: scat, blood play, race play, irl beastiality, feederism/starvation, heavy impact play

anatomical terms: in ok a mix of both ‘female’ and ‘male’ terms so any is fine. i reeaaallyy love mixing terms w stuff like ‘boytits’ or ‘boypussy’ so those are good too

(it’s fine to interact if you’re into any of my limits, but don’t get mad if i block/unfollow if things get too intense for me to handle. don’t involve me in these kinks either, i will block you.)

asks and dms are very welcome but ill only talk to people im mutuals with/familiar with. pls don’t dm me expecting me to want to talk to a stranger.

this post will be edited frequently to add/remove relevant info