#(she’ll die before admitting it) (same vice versa)

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and by far the rarest thing to ever grace faerun, something that even the emperor brain and withers couldn't predict....

rana and gale hug :)

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Custom Toonami Block Week 187 Rundown

The Witch from Mercury: Prospera’s still trying to get Miorine in on the Human Instrumentality project but she’s not having any of it, though she’s also drawn in by the plot and mysterious promises of understanding both sides of her parental angst. Meanwhile Suletta’s prepping for the big convenient school festival Battle Royale where several of the secondary characters are vying to resolve their ongoing character arcs. The Jeturk guys are still whining, the student council guys want to do something so that I’ll know what they even are about and Chuchu struggles for relevance despite her newfound PTSD arc now that she’s had a scrape with death and is hesitating to pull the trigger knowing weapons can kill. Sophie tells Suletta if she wins she wants them to become a legal family and she’ll even behave if that’s the case but Suletta already told Miorine she won’t lose to anyone even if the terms of defeat aren’t that bad so Sophie just wants to kill Miorine now. The battle starts and it turns out Sophie uses a bunch of puppet suits as her Bits and basically swarms the field as everyone slowly realizes these are the same Gundams that blew up the space station. They take Shaddiq’s dad hostage while Sophie and Norea run amuck as a distraction. Suletta releases what I’m preemptively calling the NewType Wave, that ball thing that lets people see their own flashbacks and connects Suletta to their minds, and apparently vice versa because Sophie discovers and Prospera confirms that Eri from the pilot is actually Aerial, Evangelion style reincarnated into a Gundam (didn’t really do a great job with the name, aERIal, geez) not sure exactly how that works since Eri was an only child and alive and well at the end of the pilot but it does make a few things make some more sense. So yeah that’s some shit, Suletta’s piloting an EVA of her reincarnated sister bound to accidentally help her wife implement Human Instrumentality, was not ready for the Utena/Evangelion mashup but here we are.  

Inuyasha The Final Act: Naraku gets a fun little villain speech now that the jewel is whole again and he gets to monologue about how long he’s been planning this and how much he’s been torturing the main cast to fill it with hatred. Meanwhile we have one last check-in with Kagome where it turns out despite missing 90% of the school year she graduates AND got into high school, this just backs up what I’ve been saying about Kagome doing really well in school before all this shit started happening. I know this is probably Final Act pacing shit but it’s really weird that they just let Kagome go back for her graduation ceremony while Naraku… just stares at the jewel for a couple days I guess before transforming into a giant spider, like the transformation takes seconds but he just looks at it for a while, luckily she gets back just in time for the final battle so everyone can reflect on what’s riding on this for them as they dive into Naraku. There’s a really cool little scene where Inuyasha leaves Shippo behind and tells him if they all die then he has to grow up and form a Naraku Rebellion and become the strongest demon in the world to avenge them and it’s a fun moment of sincerity for Inuyasha and Shippo’s relationship even if Inuyasha will never admit it. Sesshomaru could of course destroy Naraku’s new spider body FMA Envy “You just gave me a bigger target” style considering Bakusaiga’s the most OP sword in the world but Naraku has Rin on active human shield Anti-Bakusaiga barrier duty and does the same when Inuyasha tries to use Meido Zangetsuha on him. Inside Naraku’s kind of cool like he gets to basically make himself a Reality Marble where he has all the time in the world to both monologue and make other guys for Inuyasha to fight which if you’ve been watching the series at all you know those are Naraku’s two favorite things in the world. Kagome tries to make a break for the jewel but because they’re in a maze that Naraku literally controls every part of, he splits them up along shipping lines and lets the dark energy of the jewel corrupt Inuyasha Lord of the Rings style to turn him into a full demon even with Tessaiga’s protection, pitting Inuyasha and Kagome against each other just like he did with Inuyasha and Kikyo, even giving Kagome a cool poison arrow like ‘here girl, free shit’ so yeah we’re basically doing the Second Movie again except for some reason Kagome doesn’t think to tell Inuyasha to Sit this time.

Castlevania: So the structure of this episode’s kinda fun, we essentially have four plots, as we’ve had for most of the season but they’re all going down simultaneously and we have two fighting plots and two fucking plots, one good and one evil of each, like some weird symmetry. You’d think this’d make things hard to follow but until the end the details are mostly with the fighting plots with occasional cutting to “Oh, Sumi’s tits are bigger than I thought they’d be” so yeah, the twins get into some incestuous hijinks with Alucard and Lenore continues her petplay with Hector and neither of these two question why these parties suddenly want  to fuck them, like maybe it’s just me because no one’s want to have sex with me ever in my life but a sudden declaration out of the blue would make me VERY suspicious, it’s slightly more forgivable on Hector’s end since Lenore’s been working the gaslighting pretty well and he doesn’t really have much option but why the fuck is Alucard just letting the twins come up and be like ‘hey let’s fuck after class’ out of nowhere, like yeah he’s lonely and shit but there’s different kinds of loneliness unless you’re trying to imply he wanted a threesome with Sypha and Trevor all through Season 2 and it just never happened. Meanwhile the fighting plots see Isaac fighting his way through the midboss who uses his mindless zombies to reenact Silver’s ultimate attack from Sonic 06 and I was kinda expecting there to be more of a revelation about who this guy is or why he’s doing this but unless there’s a twist next episode idk he’s just Some Dude I guess and Isaac now has all of his horde for fuel. Also Trevor and Sypha get to fight Seraphim demons while the Evangelion Adam demon absorbs the souls of the townsfolk to open a gateway to hell. Honestly everyone in this plot is kind of stupid, like Sypha knew what these glyphs were and what they could at least theoretically do and just… left them there to do the Central Transmutation Circle, like even if you’re not sure, scratching out the bad guys’ mysterious glyphs can only do good things why did you just let them keep carving them? Meanwhile Sala watches the demon open a portal to hell and goes “I didn’t expect opening a portal to hell would involve so much portaling to hell” and dips out. Last but not least both occasions of fucking lead to either bloody death or contractual obligations, the only outcomes there ever are to sex even without demon magic. Alucard gets crucified and is about to be stabbed by the Game of Thrones twins while Hector gets bound by Lenore’s promise ring shit which like I don’t think she even needed to do that but a little extra insurance never hurt, god forbid we show people having sex just because they want to, you know. Also Dracula hears the call of the gates of hell or some shit and is like “God DAMNIT I just found my wife guys.”

Konosuba: Kazuma and the gang get their big rewards for their recent quests and entrepreneurial endeavors and of course Kazuma and Aqua immediately become giant scumbags about it, but it’s not hurting anyone so it’s kinda nice seeing them on the upswing for once. Darkness is doing some training and gets a prophecy of destruction while Kazuma gets a similar one telling him not to rest on his laurels now that he’s found success, which is exactly the opposite of what Kazuma’s instincts are but sure. Aqua also buys a dragon egg Jack and the Beanstalk style and it may or may not be an actual dragon but because this is Konosuba I guarantee something funny’s gonna come out of there. Also Wiz is dying because of Capitalism or something. Darkness is kind of distressed between training for an endurance competition, the new prophecy and the off-screen scheme to take down her entire family, so she signs the gang up for a Hydra quest to take their minds off of it and try to keep the success rolling… except it’s a fucking hydra and now Aqua’s trapped on its head while they’re scrambling trying to figure out something big enough to beat it.

Delicious in Dungeon: The group finds that the elf mage IS changing the dungeon around them to fuck with them so they can’t get out. They fight some dryads to get a meal while waiting to figure out a pattern to the changes and a path to help them escape, meanwhile Marcille helps Laios embrace his Paladin roots and learn some basic healing magic while Senshi gives Chilchuck the birds and the bees talk despite him establishing several times he’s like thirty. Laios tries to heal Marcille and she essentially fully drains him to half-heal a minor cut and then immediately gets him to grope Senshi’s boobs but oh well. Ironically they also get attacked by a Cockatrice and Marcille has to step in and do Laios’s job while Laios is exhausted from having to do Marcille’s job, some good class-mixing, fun stuff. Marcille gets bitten in the attack and ends up petrified and the gang half-ass a bunch of different cures that I’m betting probably didn’t do anything and she kinda just gets better on her own. It’s a good little breather episode after all the shit that just went down, goofy faces, turning Marcille into a statue, creepy faces on food, more Marcille suffering, classic stuff.

Frieren: Beyond Journey’s End: It’s time for the end of the first test of the First-Class Mage Exam. We get a little followup on what I was talking about last week about Frieren not being excited about getting a spell of her choice, saying that the journey of pursuing magic is more fulfilling than simply being granted it on a whim. Frieren fights the old man and is able to no-sell his Fire Tornado because of course she did she’s fucking Frieren she eats fire tornados for breakfast. She easily beats him and then for good measure undoes the barrier made by Serie simply so Kanne can fight at full power against discount Gaara which is very in-character for her like she moves heaven and earth to help someone live up to their potential just because. The old man’s team is down for the count but like Wirbel’s team they do get a windfall of luck and just deck some dudes that had a bird and couldn’t fight back. So all the named characters pass to the next round of the Chunin Exams where we know all the fun shit starts happening and now that we’ve developed some of them we get character clashes.

Revolutionary Girl Utena: Now that the duel’s over, Utena goes to check on Wakaba who’s putting on a pretty good brave front but I wouldn’t be surprised if everything’s still bothering her. Meanwhile we’re drip-fed more of this secret council shit about whoever stands at the top of the Thought Elevator castle gets to change the world as they see fit and how the student council wants to break the world because they’re a bunch of weird rich kids and that’s just how rich people are. I tend to tune out these kinds of explanations since trying to figure them out before the big reveal episode gets confusing on a first watch through anyway but that’s the gist of it: Step 1: Magic Rings, Step 2: Duel/Marry the Girl, Step 3: ??? Step 4: Revolution. It’s funny because even the evil council don’t fully know what’s going on apparently they just get random letters from someone trying to end the world and magic shit starts happening so they just go along with it. Meanwhile Utena gets her new living arrangement which is weird because it seems like it’s like the third day of classes at this point but okay, no surprise she’s in a big empty house with Anthy and her rat Chuchu which I still can’t get over they just named the Gundam character after the rat like WTF. Still Saionji comes back all butthurt cause he got beat by half a sword and Utena isn’t really interested in all these deepstate apocalypse nonsense so she says she’ll just lose on purpose and get the hell out of dodge even if that means leaving Anthy with an abusive asshole. Still we go through the whole reused fight ascension song again and Utena finds her instincts and drive to win still kicking in, even opting for getting cut rather than losing painlessly, in the end she Yami Yugi’s some type of alter ego and wins again, saying that she just didn’t want Saionji to be mean to Chuchu anymore and Anthy smiles knowing she really did it for her. Would’ve been kinda nice for more connective tissue to that revelation though, like Utena says she’s gonna lose right up till she starts fighting and there’s never a point where she decides she wants to fight to protect Anthy from him and it almost looks like her Alter Ego won the fight without her consciously intending to but it’s still a sweet moment.

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Meeting and Dating Caroline Mulford

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- Caroline is the most popular girl in school who’s dating the most popular boy in school, everyone knows who she is, you included. But you’re practically invisible to people like her. You aren’t popular, you aren’t in their circle, the most you’ll get is a friendly wave/nod or an obligatory partnering for a project.

- That doesn’t stop you from having a crush on her ...like practically everyone else in the school. Yeah, you’ve been pining for the pretty blonde since your freshman year, but it isn’t really your fault is it? You could hardly even have a conversation with her, let alone admit you have a Sapphic crush on her. All you can do is pine.

- That all changes after one very special summer. You’d gone on a trip, gotten a bit more fashionable clothing, learned how to properly do your makeup and changed your hair; you’d even had a short fling and felt what it was like to be in a relationship. You were a new woman and it didn’t take long for people to notice.

- One of the popular boys invited you to join him and his friend group at their usual hangout spot, and you, feeling like you were in some sort of teen movie, obviously agreed. That was where she approached you.

- That's right: She approached you. Granted, she didn’t know who you were and actually started your conversation with a “You must be new! I’m Caroline.” as if you’d transferred schools but you didn’t correct her and more or less kept up the façade. You supposed you’d be a new woman in more ways than one.

- Though you did keep just about every other aspect of your life the same, you just let them think you hadn’t attended the school until now. Hey, if they didn’t recognize you that was their fault, right?

- Caroline liked you almost immediately though it was purely platonic. You were surprised to see just how sweet she was, even though you’d heard rumors and seen it for yourself on occasion. The two of you became friends that afternoon and you found yourself thrust into a life of popularity. One you only could have dreamed of until now.

- Now you’re being invited to parties and sitting at the popular table and going to the mall with Caroline; who you’re still practically obsessed with, and your life is practically perfect. You feel like you’re at the top of the world ...but then, you see her kiss Jake and you can feel yourself falling.

- You’d never realized how draining it would be to be up close. It was almost better to be far away from her, at least then you couldn’t be able to see the love shining in her eyes when she looked at him.

- Hell, you now babysat her brother while she went on dates with the boy.

- It was almost humorous, the duality of your popularity; everything could be so good and yet so bad at the same time.

- Finally, everything changed after one of Jakes; or rather her, parties. She’d gotten absolutely plastered; as per usual, and you were the only one sober enough to make sure she didn’t die during the night.

- So there you were, trying to pull drinks out of her hand and guiding her to a couch as she pawed all over you and her surroundings, giggling and stumbling the entire way there.

- Pretty much everyone had left the boys house, leaving a mess in their wake. All except you, who’d been waiting to see if Jake was going to deal with the girl before you drove yourself home.

- As the two of you sat, she sighed and laid her head in your lap, gushing about how much she cared about and loved you. You sighed and told her you cared about her too, brushing the hair from your face exasperatedly.

“No, not like that. I love, love, loveeee you.” She insisted.

- You thought nothing of it, giving her a “yep, yeah I know.” before you felt her hands on your face. Before you knew it, she’d pulled your face down and pressed her lips to yours, causing you to freeze in place.

- You quickly pulled away and shifted her out of your lap, telling her that you needed to get her home and that she was drunk. Fuck Jake. You’d deal with her this time whether he liked it or not.

- So you heaved her up and got her in your car, getting ready to drive her home before she nearly made you crash said car and insisted that you pull over. She was lucid for all of five minutes before she wound up passed out in your backseat with you. You soon followed suit and fell asleep clutching your keys and jacket.

- When you woke up in the morning, the two of you had a nice, awkward talk about what happened and she admitted that she had feelings for you and you for her. You told her that if anything was gonna happen, she’d have to break up with Jake which she agreed to.

- The two of you had your first date later that day. You went to a nice Waffle House to help with her wicked hangover and when you got back inside your car, she leaned over and gave you a real kiss to make up for the one she’d drunkenly stolen the night prior.

- And just like that, things were messily made perfect.

- Most people just think that you’re close friends so the two of you can get away with some pda; though you obviously aren’t really able to kiss in public. Regardless, even if she can’t show people that you’re a couple, she’s going to make it obvious; in one way or another, that you’re off limits. 

- Long hugs. 

- Handholding or your arm around her shoulders and her arm around your waist; or vice versa depending on your height. 

- Corner of the mouth kisses. 

- Deep, soft kisses. 

- Slow makeouts. 

- Hair petting. It’s a habit of hers. 

- There’s quite a bit of snuggling in your relationship. She likes laying her head on your shoulder or chest whenever you do, tracing patterns on your shirt while you wrap your arms around her.

- As we all know, Caroline's little brother is deaf so one can assume that she’s a bit attention starved at home. So, on that note, she always wants to be the center of your attention. God forbid you have homework to do; she’ll bother you until you take a break and give her what she wants.

- She usually just calls you some cutesy form of your given name or honey, maybe hun or babe when you’re out in public since girls can call their friends those. 

- Her parents don’t seem to be uptight in the slightest so you’re usually allowed to stay out for a long time and pretty much do whatever you want.

- Going to parties.

- Taking care of her at parties.

- Staying up until the early morning and watching the sunrise, usually while you’re both a little tipsy.

- Picnics.

- Beach dates.

- Almost always walking to class together. You’ll usually end up carrying her books because she’s a bit of a princess.

- Copying each others school and homework. If you can’t cheat off your partner, are you even dating?

- Taking photos together and of each other. She’ll take offense if you don’t have a picture of her framed on your nightstand.

- Please give her gifts; she loves them so much. You’ll never see her smile wider.

- Her asking you to get her things. She’s the girlfriend who calls you over just to ask you to go and grab her something from somewhere; usually with a cutesy little smile and a please.

- She wouldn’t be caught dead riding the bus and she sort of hates to drive so you usually end up driving her wherever she wants; or at least to and from school.

- Honestly talking about which movie stars you think are hot and would be obligated to marry if they asked.

- Going to the mall. It’s her favorite place.

- Helping her zip herself into dresses or pick things out when the two of you go shopping. She always asks you a million questions before she actually buys something.

- Popularity is pretty important to her so she’ll want the two of you to look your best when you’re out together. If you’re less stylish than her, she’s gonna wanna make you over.

- Doing each other’s nails.

- Laughing and cursing at each other as you do beauty rituals. You always have a lot of fun when you’re putting on face masks or cutting each other’s hair, etc.

- She pretty much lives at your house at this point. She comes over nearly everyday and spends more time in your room than her own.

- She becomes a part of your family whether or not your parents know that the two of you are dating. They either accept her as your girlfriend or just assume that you’re really close friends. The same goes for her family.

- I feel like she has the type of family that packs everyone up and takes them camping at least once a year so ...wanna go camping with her?

- Festive holidays. Her family probably goes skiing every winter and are really into the holidays and you; being her best friend tm, are always invited to join them.

- Staying over while she babysits her little brother. The little dude likes you a lot.

- It’s pretty funny to watch her go from her popular, cutesy teenage girl self to a mature, protective woman when she’s with her little brother. She’ll be batting her eyelashes at you one minute and doing sign language and/or watching her little brother like a hawk the next.

- She’s sort of oblivious when you’re upset and not the most considerate of your feelings but she’s trying to be better.

- That being said, she’s able to be reassuring and comforting when she realizes that she needs to be. She’s even sweeter and smarter than everyone in your school anticipated.

- She’s a bit paranoid when it comes to you and other girls so she’s definitely a pretty jealous person. She’ll usually sit in your lap; when she can, to make it clear that you’re a couple, plastering on a fake smile and greeting the other person like she hadn’t seen them there.

- She’ll later; bluntly, confront you about it, and will take your word for it but she’ll occasionally threaten the fact that she can easily find someone else.

- You’re the one who has to be protective, considering the fact that she tries to kill herself every other weekend.

- The two of you have quite a few short arguments but they’re rarely ever serious. You tend to settle them fairly quickly so you rarely ever have a “we’re in a fight” moment with your mutual friends.

- She usually tries to use cuteness to win you over; if you’re really fighting, or just concedes mid argument and accepts what you’ve said after a bit of convincing. She’ll give a real apology if her cute face doesn’t work but she’d prefer not having to do so.

- She tells you that she loves you fairly often; particularly when she’s drunk.

- She’s pretty fond of talking about the future. She makes it very obvious that’s she’s planning on staying with you for the rest of her life and it always warms your heart to hear it.

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Okay here’s some random head-canons I had about my Runner Five and Runner Eight (because I’m missing Sara, like three seasons after she went, is that normal?):

Five was a pure innocent little bean with a literal inability to swear until the apocalypse happened, she arrived in Abel and was partnered up with Runner Eight. Now she mutters one variation (usually child friendly) of a swear basically every mission.

We all know that Sara wasn’t the most trusting of Five at the start. But Five trusted her right from the off (my Five trusts people really easily, an issue which eventually came back to bite her once she met Moonchild and post series 3 she’s no longer very trusting of anyone beyond Abel). Anyway, this caused Sara to be a little annoyed by her at first but once she realised Five was legit they grew closer and after that mission Sara made it her mission to get to know Five better.

Sara was the third person to know Five’s real name after Maxine and Sam. She kept it a secret out of respect for Five, realising hearing her name might bring back painful memories.

Five regarded Sara as family. Sort of like a cross between an aunt and a mother figure. Even after her death, she regards to Sara as family.

Sara probably wouldn’t say it but I like to imagine Sara thought that Five was like the daughter she never had.

Sara taught Five to use weapons more accurately, until they were the most lethal duo in Abel Township.

With the exception of Sam, Sara was the person Five spent the most time with in Abel.

Sara KNEW about Five’s crush on Sam, she’s not stupid, she spent a lot of time with Five, there’s no way she didn’t know. Sam and Five were almost inseparable if she wasn’t training or on missions or if Sam wasn’t on comms duty. It was pretty obvious and she just wanted to bash the two of their heads together so Five could see that Sam felt the same way about her.

Poor Sara literally had to watch Five’s love sickened smile creep onto her face whenever Sam said something funny or said something reassuring.

In fact, Sara was probably the first resident of Abel township to realise that Five was falling in love with Sam, and vice versa, that Sam was falling in love with Five.

Sara once ‘threatened’ Sam once about hurting Five, just in a general ‘if you do end up with Five, and if you ever hurt her, then you’ll have to deal with me’ kind of way (even though she knew Sam would never intentionally hurt Five in any way and she also did the same to Five, Five being oblivious meant that she had no idea what Sara was on about though).

When Five and Sara met Archie and Canton Five, after being rescued by them from Van Ark, Sara immediately knew that Canton Five was somehow related to Five, since he knew her real name, shouting it when he laid eyes on them and was the first member of Abel to learn that one of Five’s parents were alive and running for New Canton. She was actually encouraging Five to go back to New Canton with her father and Archie, ‘in a do what you think is right’ way.

Canton Five offered Five the opportunity to join him and Archie back at New Canton, Sara was one of the reasons why Five refused to go with her father, she had a duty to all the runners, and so much to learn from Sara still, and Canton Five made Sara promise to look after Five.

During one mission, at some point during late season one, Five, Sara and Simon were all trapped in a pub and were struggling to think up of a plan that wouldn’t get them immediately killed. A jukebox randomly switched on and started playing ‘don’t stop me now’ and prompted Five to spring into action and make them re-enact her favourite scene from Shaun of The Dead... it somehow worked and Sara was seriously proud of her young protege.

Five never thought Sara had been bitten during the attack on Abel, but was relieved to see her on the boat alive and alright nonetheless.

Five refused to believe that Sara would betray Abel but she did doubt it briefly when Sara first pulled the gun on her and when Sara entered the room with Van Ark before she betrayed him. So she was glad when Sara turned on Van Ark, and was revealed to be a triple agent.

Five knew Sara was going to die, but refused to acknowledge it up until she collapsed on their way back to Abel with Paula.

Five started to tear up as Sara was dying, she knew she had to stay strong to be alert, but she managed to keep it mostly together as Sara died, holding her hand and kept it together long enough to promise her that she’d send Van Ark to her.

Sam was at the gates as Five and Paula arrived home and he caught Five as she broke down coming through the gates. Sara’s death was really the first significant step in Sam and Five’s relationships as they grieved her death together and became closer through it.

Five started to have outbursts of anger and crying fits after Sara’s death, she really struggled with it.

Sara’s death was also the first time anyone had seen actual vengeance in Five’s expressions and when Van Ark got blown up by Five without a second thought, it was the first time anyone actually realised just how ruthless Five could be and just how far her loyalty could stretch.

After Van Ark’s death, Five was sure she felt Sara smiling down at her as Van Ark was sent to her, and Five finally got with Sam, she could almost hear Sara saying ‘that’s my Five’

Five took the role of head runner because despite her reservations and nervousness around being a leader, she wanted to honour Sara and she was sure Sara would want her to do it if she was here.

This is somewhat canon but Five has once or twice heard Sara in deadly situations (it’s usually Moonchild, but Sara, I like to think has appeared in her head to encourage her to keep going and even though it’s happened once or twice in actual ZR, I imagine that it happens more frequently that Five would like to admit).

Five believes that she’ll see Sara again some day and that Sara is looking down on her, watching her, guiding her to make the right decisions.

Five has vowed to teach her probable future stepdaughter about her name sake (or one of them) when she’s older and tell her just how much of a legend Sara Smith, Runner Eight was.

Whatever happens, there is one thing Five is certain of, whatever state of mind she’s in and whatever comes her way, wherever she is, she’s always going to make Sara proud.

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An Analysis in Threes

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MUSE: Captain Red Handed Jessica

Three Strengths:

     Her adaptability and resourcefulness.  Is she brave, yes.  Is she lucky, also yes.   But over all, she can roll with the cards she’s been dealt in a way that many would call inhumanly clever.  Her intelligence, her perception, and her charisma are all different ingredients of this indomitable characteristic of hers.  She can see the value in just about anything and anyone, can pick up on clues and tangents few others can follow, and can remember seemingly endless details, tho unfortunately not on command.  But even then, her patchy memory seems to contribute to this adaptability as well, as it usually allows for detachment.  If she can find resources everywhere, it means she can survive everywhere. There have been countless times where the wheel of fortune has suddenly turned on her and she’d lost near everything and her response was more or less Damn, ok I need food water and shelter lets go.  No food?  Grow food.  No water?  Ask someone if they have water.  No shelter?  Sleep outside.  No money?  Steal money.  Can’t hear anymore?  Cool I can use loud weapons.  Crashed on an island?  My island now.  Shot?  Free bullet.  She knows when to push, she knows when to quit, and sometimes she knows when to gamble based on her ability ( what a man can do and what he can’t do and all that ).  Strong she may be, she knows its foolish to rely on strength.  Survival of the fittest actually rarely means survival of the strongest. ( edit; this is the theme for the entirety of her character. I will say it 50,000 times. I am very sorry ).  And as a student of philosophy and biology, she understands that phrase better than most. Leading to our next point.

     Her understanding.  As I stated, her charisma is something unmatched, and is a key element in all three of her strengths.  This charisma might not exist as prominently were it not for her ability to understand.  She has limited ( I’ll get back to that ) but deep running empathy and while not terribly observant all the time, she is always perceptive.  Not only that, but she’s personally known abuse, hardship, and uncertainty, and understands that hate or anger can be rooted in similar pain.  She was schooled lightly in both Christian and Buddhist values before diving heavily into democratic philosophy, meaning she believes all being experience suffering and therefore kindness is a powerful sign of strength, but also that suffering while free and equal is better than comfort in oppression.  And between her sweet words and beautiful face, she can get most people to open up in ways they themselves my not have expected.  Being very good with people means she can learn from them, gain something from them, lead them, and/or use them.  But Jessica isn’t a manipulator in truth; her intentions are almost always kind or healthy ones.  She absolutely uses people from time to time but not EVER without them consenting to or being made aware of such because again, unlike a manipulative person, she understands that can ruin a relationship and therefore ruin a resource.  What it makes for is an excellent leader, a beloved captain, and a trusted ally at most and an excellent conversationalist at the least.      But her understanding isn’t just social, oh no.  It’s academic as well.  Armed only with his little library and the lessons of his own teachers, Jessica’s foster father tirelessly smithed her into a not just a girl who knew a lot of things, but a truly intelligent, thinking mind. He’d die before learning he’d succeeded tenfold.  Jessica isn’t one to just except things as they are, facts or otherwise.  She usually needs to prove it, experiment, see things from a new angle.  Debates with her are fun!  She has no issue admitting she’s wrong or confessing she’s never thought of it that way, and is actually wrong a lot of the time.  It doesn’t bruise her ego, it excites her.  It means there’s more to learn.  And her ability to constantly understand new concepts paired with her ability to overwhelmingly understand people combine to make for a very powerful core idea of hers:  We are fittest to survive because we all fit together.  Our humanity, our empathy, our community are our strengths because they keep us united, which keeps us the fittest.  No one is independent, no man is an island.  People are power. And thus her final strength is just that.

     Her power.  While she and I still firmly state that strength isn’t everything don’t be disillusioned; its very goddamn important.  And it’s something Jessica has plenty of.  She is durable and clever because of her rocky early childhood, she is quick and versatile from her youth in a pirate port, she is physically strong and mighty from her years training in martial arts, and she’s an absolute crackshot after years of diligent practice with her trusty pistols.  Her true strength may lie in her brains and in her allies yes, but even without them, Red Jessica is a powerhouse of a warrior.  She can end fights extremely quickly or run from them without a prayer of catching her ( no shame in the later, both skills keep you alive ).  And it may be in bad taste to say, but ever since loosing most of her hearing, Jess swears up and down it’s made her vision better, her reaction time faster, and her quick thinking even quicker.  Yes of course she’s slowed down with age, but a bullet shoots at the same speed no matter how old you are.  And you best hope she didn’t bring her firecrackers, because while sudden loud noises will absolutely temporarily discombobulate or debilitate an opponent with healthy hearing, it’ll hardly effect her at all and suddenly, you’re a sitting duck.  You see those thighs?  You see those calves?  She can crush PINEAPPLES with them!  People have seen her do it!  Do you know how many micro-fractures broke and rebuilt those hands?  Thousands!  She can crush a trachea like a fucking beer can!  She can kick you to death!  One ill placed curb stomp and you are DECEASED.  Sometimes she’ll just psyche you out because she KNOWS you know she can kill your stupid ass!       But while her strength, mental and physical, have always been there, her power is relatively new.  As stated before, people are power.  Not knowledge, not money, not strength.  People.  She’s a fearsome warrior but she’d be useless if outnumbered.  Shes a very successful pirate, but she’d never make it out of port without a crew on her ship.  She found a gorgeous island, but it’d still be wild without those who built it’s piers and buildings.  She manages orchards and tends to them and harvests them herself, but she would loose all of her crop without the helping hands of her employed farmers.  And like I mentioned, she deeply understands this.  Freedom is not independence or vice versa.  Did you make the clothes on your back or the fabric that made those clothes?  Did you write the books you read to make you smarter or teach you that skill?  Did you plant the seed years ago that grew that orange you’re eating?  No, of course not.  Jessica didn’t either.  Another human did.  We all need each other to fill the holes in our lives that we can’t fill ourselves.  Humans are puzzle pieces in that way, there is no bigger picture or prayer for survival on our own.  And because of this, we can do anything we as a community, as a SPECIES work together to achieve.  There is no knowledge if there’s no one to learn from, there is no money if a society don’t give it value, your money is worthless if those you’re paying decide to rise against you, your role as leader only exists at the consent of those you lead, and your strength won’t save you from a sinking ship.  People are, and always will be, power.       And as someone who is exceptionally strong and exceedingly smart, Jessica has slotted herself in the humanity puzzle thusly: The strong exist to protect the weak, the smart exist to educate, and the lucky exist so the unlucky may be given aid.  And it is with this fairness and compassion that she has won the trust of so many.  She has a great many friends and allies even outside of those in her crew or on her island.  And she can make many more with ease.  That kind of power is not a power to be trifled with, even if she can kick your ass six ways to Saturday without it. 

Three Weaknesses:

     She suffers ADHD.  Now before ANY OF Y’ALL SAY ANYTHING, I myself also suffer ADHD.  And yes I do say suffer because well that’s what it causes for Jessica and I, suffering.  Yes, it is ableist language to say ‘suffering from’ rather than ‘has’ or ‘is diagnosed with’ and yes it perpetuates a stigma against us but god DAMN IT in both Jessica’s case and mine, it make life much much harder than it needs to be.  At the end of the day, Red Jessica is a fantasy of mine; I pour myself into her whether I mean to or not.  She’s the adult I wish I was, the person I might be if I had no anxiety, or brainfog, or lived in a world were I didn’t need a credit score or a degree. And even then, I can’t say I know anyone else’s problems better than my own.  So if my character has problems, by sheer osmosis they are going to reflect some of mine.  Both of the characters I write have ADHD because I have ADHD and I couldn’t even begin to know how a non-ADHD mind works to write it properly.  And no, I’m not being dramatic when I say it causes me suffering.  I can’t drive, I can’t hold down a job, I nearly flunked out of school, I still cant read very fast or spell very well, I am constantly overwhelmed by mundane things, I’m a slow learner, I forget very important things or recent things, I forget about things that mean the world to me, I forget about people, I stumble through tasks, I procrastinate hobbies and basic hygiene, and everything I do takes all goddamn day and I can only really do one important thing at a time and in order of importance.  If I have a date at 4pm, I’m dressed and ready at 11am because I’ve gotta do the important thing first or else I will forget to do the important thing.  I started typing this at a little before 5pm.  It’s 7;30.  It’ll probably be 10 o’clock at night by the time I fucking finish ( edit: l m a o its 1am bitch you thought ).  I’m 26 and am just medicated enough to barely function.  So yeah.  Suffering is the word.       Though for Jessica, perhaps suffering is a tad strong of a word.  Her ADHD affects her ability to function in far less debilitating ways ( though whether that’s a result of a less severe diagnosis than me or the result of the society, situations, and responsibilities she functions in and around are far different from mine, who’s to say ).  For her, she has very consuming hyperfixations that can last anywhere between weeks to decades, a spotty memory that is detail and memento oriented,  she’s scatterbrained more often then not but can focus with amazing clarity on her interests or in high adrenaline situations, is is ABYSMALLY bad at math and EXCRUCIATINGLY bad with numbers ( as opposed to me, who is good at numbers but shit at spelling or reading ), she can forget anything no matter how important it is to her or to anyone, she’s bad with names and dates, is COMPLETELY time-blind, has trouble prioritizing, and of course, wile not actually that materialistic, she absolutely has the ol’ magpie instinct.       While her poor memory assists in her adaptability and ability to move on, it also means she forgets things she needed to remember, like when the last time she bathed was and who this person is and what happened between her and someone else or what conversation’s shes had.  Unfortunately this means she’s a very good friend and leader... while you’re around and interacting with her on at least a weekly basis.  It’s almost a lack of object permanence in both a social and very real sense.  If something is not right in front of her, odds are she’s not going to think about it.  And while its something she constantly kicks herself for and actively tries to be better about, it applies to people too.  Face to face is the best way to interact with her; she won’t think to write you and in her modern verse she won’t think to ever call and she’ll text you back in perhaps a few days.  She doesn’t value you any less, I promise.  She’s just either distracted or overwhelmed.  Also, for someone as understanding as her, she is surprisingly self-centered.  Not selfish, self-centered.  She’ll talk about herself more than she should, and will assume people understand that she’s doing so as a form of showing empathy rather than bragging when they may not know this at all.  Actually she accidentally assumes all the time.  It was far worse when her hearing was functional; she’d finish your sentence for you or guess what it was you were going to say ( again, not to talk over, you but to show she understands you and the conversation, tho it usually came of as annoying or patronizing ).  Sometimes she mistakenly assumes you believe or know the same things she does without even realizing it.  Maybe she perceives the right idea off of someone but isn’t observant enough to notice anything past that.  And while she is willing to change her mind about things, she might change her mind a tad too quickly.  She’s an over-sharer and is horrible at keeping any kind of secret.  Romantic relationships tend to fizzle out. Her impulse control is improving but has a VERY long way to go. She’s always chasing something new.       All and all, when you’re a pirate, a librarian, or even a captain, all of these things may be irritating and inconvenient, but are overall manageable in chunks.  ...But as a governor to her island, as a leader of an entire population... oof. In the position of leadership that she’s in, she can’t afford to make too many massive mistakes, and she knows this.  ‘There is no power quite like the power of being underestimated’ is a phase you’ll hear her say a lot but for her, there is a shift in connotation.  If people expect less and you do more that’s a great upper hand in any situation but for her, it was a safety net.  Having ADHD sometimes means going months or years being fine and then eventually you fuck up and everyone around you wonders how in the world you managed to do that.  She has only barely avoided disaster more times than she’d like to admit.  Even with the resourcefulness, the understanding, and the power she wields, she’s finally starting to realize that she’s bit off more than she might be able to chew, with the entire well-beings and livelihoods of others on the line.  And she fears that one day she’ll play her cards wrong and everything she’d built, everything she’s done, will all come crashing down in ruin.

     She is Hard of Hearing.  This one is literally as simple as it sounds: she has moderate and degenerative hearing loss and tinnitus after years of canons, explosions, gunshots, and a definitive, scale tipping attack in her early 30s.  Her ears just don’t work at all like they used to.  The whole world sounds like it would if everything was underwater: she can’t pin point the location of sounds, how far off or close sounds are, and barely registers changes in volume. And it only gets worse the older she gets; one day she won’t hear anything at all.  And while yes, again, it might be very harsh and ableist to say, the truth of the matter that being deaf a “ weakness ” more often than its a strength.       That said, it very well can be a strength.  I’ve already mentioned that trick with the firecrackers and let me tell you it is a DAMN EFFECTIVE TRICK.  Shes around explosions and canons and guns all the time and now she can focus while being around them five times better than she could in the past!  But unfortunately it also means she’s very easy to sneak up on, she sometimes isn’t aware of danger until it’s nearly too late,  no one can get her attention or warn her across any distance, it’s very easy to escape from her, and it’s easy for her to be just... left out of things.  She might hear you talking, but she has little to no idea what you’re saying without sign or lipreading.  Some people don’t have the patience or even just the courtesy to speak slower, or clearer, or repeat themselves a lot.  Though, those last too thinks aren’t weaknesses of hers so much as they are the weakness of others, but they still negatively affect her self esteem and her effectiveness as a leader.       All of this has taught her to pick her battles carefully, and plan around the elements of surprise and discombobulation.  And while communication was tricky at first, it only got easier, and now she can talk to you almost like anyone can, so long as she’s looking you in the face. 

     That damn bleeding heart.  We have established a number of things that should easily add up to an overly empathetic, trusting, fight-the-good-fight, martyr-some, idealistic pushover;  she believes humanity and kindness are strengths, she has taken on the role of leader and then a provider, she has known suffering and tasked herself with ending the suffering of others to the best of her ability,  she lacks the clarity of mind to assume people aren’t just as good or capable as her automatically, she can have poor impulse control at times,  she wants to have relationships, and ( while I never stated this outright yet it can be inferred  ), she believes that being able to see yourself in others is the foundation of humanity and ( as i did say outright ) humanity is what keeps us unified and unity is what makes us fit and strong.  Keeping up?  Good. Here’s the curve ball: How can she whole hardheartedly preach and believe all of this, to the point of it being the foundation of her character, WHILE BEING A VIOLENT THIEVING AND BLOODTHIRSTY PIRATE?!  HOW, MANGO? HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE?! MAKE IT MAKE SENSE!!  Ok, fine, sure, I will. I’m sure about one half of you are looking up from the screen and going “ Oh yeah, wow I totally forgot that bit. “ and the other half got about two and a half paragraphs in before squinting and silently calling bullshit. So let me explain.      In short, she’s a detached hypocrite and is well aware and unashamed of her hypocrisy while far less aware of her detachment. I’ll cover both:  Western culture as a whole seems to be under the impression that hypocrisy, despite context or importance, is automatically bad.  I don’t know where this comes from personally ( my bet is Christianity but I have exactly 0 evidence ) but its a very... flawed idea.  Take the freedom of speech vs racism problem; say you owned a bar where all could speak their mind freely over cold drinks.  Excellent concept without context, right?  Sure. ....Then a die hard racist covered in slurs and symbols walks in and orders- what are you going to do?  The correct answer is to throw him out instantly.  Not let him sit so long as he doesn’t cause trouble, not just ignore him and hope he doesn’t return, you throw him out.  Is it hypocritical?  Yep!  Sure is!  But it is also 100% necessary to protect your other patrons because if you don’t, the racist starts feeling safe and bringing his racist buddies, literally everyone else starts feeling unsafe and starts to hang out elsewhere, and two months later, ta da!  You now own a n*zi bar and there is literally nothing you can do about it. Jessica is in a somewhat similar situation.  You as a pretend bar owner need to make a decision as who to let into your bar and who to throw out for the good of all of your patrons.  Jessica too is faced daily with that decision.  If she want’s to help as many people as possible, the only realistic way she can do that are by protecting those under her leadership... only.  She is surrounded by hateful, angry, sneaky, traitorous, abusive, or otherwise evil people.  Piracy as a profession and poverty in general can do that to a person.  Of course there is a clear difference between those down on their luck and desperate, and the truly cruel and twisted, but unfortunately both types of people yield the same wrongdoings.  It’s absolutely her nature to extend a hand to anyone and everyone but.... she just can’t anymore.  Too many times has her trust been betrayed, too many times has she gotten in peoples business trying to be helpful, only for her to absolutely bite her in the ass.  Too many time the extended hand is bitten and once or twice, she’s actually made things worse.       Now, she will only help someone she loves, someone under her leadership, or someone who seeks her out.  That’s it.  And even then, sometime it manages to bite er in the ass.  But she had to set that hard limit for herself out of necessity, one she does her absolute best to adhere too and... these days she adheres a little too well. That leads us to our next point; what I was alluding to at the beginning of her Understanding essay when I said she has limited but deep running empathy.  That detachment again, courtesy of a very unattached mother and unchecked ADHD. ( It isn’t a strong enough characteristic to even rank as a strength or a weakness but damn if it isn’t an undercurrent to a lot of her motivations and experiences. ) Strangers are fair game that she tries to ignore, but if she even perceives you as a threat, you could be in danger. Like anyone used to violence or perhaps anyone trapped in an us verses them mindset, she can just... flat... turn her empathy off.  Not on command, she’s not a socio or psychopath persay.  But she has become totally numb to the horror of violence via her warrior upbringing that, in her mind, violence can actually be rather fun. Pair that with the fact that she purposely tailored herself to only be empathetic to her allies and boom.  You get a kindhearted killer.  Cops and soldiers in our world do it literally every day.  Actually anyone can do it really, even you if you tried. You don’t have to be evil or even angry to kill or steal or lie... you just have to believe you’re right.

Three Secrets:

     WHAT SECRETS?!  LMAO this bitch is the oversharing queen!! I’ve been typing and pondering her character for literal hours ( its currently 11:16, fuck you adderall ), and I still can not think of a single goddamn secret.  There is nothing about her that at least five random people don’t fucking know about!! The only secrets she has are secrets she knows about other people and even then she is!! literally the worst!! She spills her guts left and right and yet she wants to be a mysterious bitch SO BAD like BABE I love you, you’re precious, but you are a dumbass attention seeking validation chasing adhd CLOWN girl!! Stop telling random people about your hermaphroditism or your dairy allergy or your dead dad or that time you fell asleep in a barrel like that is literally your uber driver Jessica honey come ooooon. I’m skipping this section mom holy fuck.

Three Fears:

     What if she does wrong by everyone who trusts her?  As stated at the end of the ADHD essay, she’s terrified of failing those she leads.  Where it as simple as personal failure, she’d be fine.  Ever if her entire world came crashing down on top of her she’d either die or start back from square one.  Death is a fact of life and her adaptability means she can just dust herself off and move on, so neither her death nor her failures really scare her... But it isn’t just her life and happiness at stake, is it? Not anymore, right?  What started as a leader of a small gang of rebels became a full crew, then a crew became a slew of allies, then those allies built a town and now... now she’s the governor of the Crimson Isle and there are nearly twenty five HUNDRED lives at her mercy.   HER mercy.  One really, really bad mistake could ruin their livelihoods or spark disorder and disloyalty.  And if she died?  Would whoever it is that will take her place be as good to them as she is?  Is she good enough to begin with in the first place? Every day the paperwork gets a little bit thicker, every year there’s a new baby or two.  And the isle has fertile soil sure but will it last?  Are they prepared for a raid or a hurricane?  And if Jessica trusts the wrong people, where her people right to trust her?  ...can I protect them? Can I protect them?! CAN I PROTECT THEM?!

     Who am I if I’m not interesting?  This is, literally, an entirely subconscious fear.  She’s not at all aware it exists and therefor this entry is short. But between her short time with her very unimpressed mother, her own ADHD, she is constantly hungry for attention without even realizing it.  She must be interesting and intriguing and engaging, and I did mention she wants to also be mysterious.  She wants not so much your input or even your validation - but rather if shes not perceived then.... is she really there? Remember, she is unaware of any of this.  And fortunately she’d never been starved for attention to act out over it in the first place, even when her disinterested mother was alive. Look at her; she’s radiant, she’s beautiful, and she’s 6′4 / 195 cm shredded and covered in cool scars. Without even opening her mouth, without even her colorful clothes, she’s kind of automatically interesting.  So she’s never been so desperate for attention that she acts out because she’s never been without it for very long.  But it’s there. Hungry, aching, silent.  Those years after the M branding were horrible and she could never really explain why.  She still throws parties, organizes festivals, and talks to damn near anyone who will listen.  Look at my art!  Look at my library! Listen to how much I know! Let me tell you how lovely you are! Look at my scares! Look at my hair! Look at me haha, please, please look at me. 

     GHOSTS. NOPE. No. NO. Fuck ALL of that noise. Stay dead, go to hell, eat a dick.  Red Jessica is a scientist and superstitious atheist. As an academic and somewhat bi-cultural woman she simply thinks there are far too many religions with far too much history for any of them to be considered The One True Thing You Must Believe Or ElseTM and she tends to not truly believe anything until she finds some kind of proof.  Shes not afraid of the unknown, shes thrilled by it. She’s not afraid of death or the afterlife, that’s beyond her control. She’s only superstitious because she does believe in and value luck, and also its a bit of a cultural habit. BUT IF SOME SHIT STARTS MOVING ON ITS OWN OR IF SHE SEES SOME BULLSHIT IN THE CORNER OF HER EYE THEN SHE IS OUT OF THERE. OUTIE 5000. She has heard the tales of lost souls from purgatory or the eternally ravenous Pret or dangerous Phi Tai Hong or the tragic and startling Banshees or the creepy Santa Compana and she wouldn’t believe a word of it where it not for one thing.      SHE FUCKING SAW ONE. She’ll never forget it, it was the first and last time she EVER attempted to plunder a tomb all Skyrim style and at first she thought it was one of the crewmean being creepy as shit until she got a good look and he was SEE THROUGH AS SHIT AND SKINNY AS FCUK AND SHE GOT LITERALLY CHASED THE FUCK OUT OF THAT JOINT. She does not CARE that some ghosts are just apparitions she does not CARE that some are friendly and trying to warn her of something if you are MOVING and DEAD at the SAME time get FUCKED. If any of y’all cringe try-hards bring a Ouija board to the party you are getting SENT HOME and BLOCKED. NO CAP.

Three Goals:

   She really only has one left. Listen its... almost 1am and ive been typing since like 5pm i think i covered goals somewhere in here but ive gotta throw in the towel but even then I’m kinda being serious.  Her only remaining goal is to find a suitable heir of some kind.  She wants what she’s built to fall into worthey hands but she could never seem to find a good parter and even when she did she couldn’t sustain a pregnancy ( you’d think that would be a huge deal but it hardly mattered to her oddly ).  So at 50 the option of having kids is out but there’s still plenty of hope for either adoption or a protege.  But then again, she’s so busy these days that she hardly prioritizes it like she wants to.  

                                                                               holy shit i need some water...

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Post Tfp optimus and arcee reaction to a cybertronian they knew before the war reuniting with them After so many years apart, admitting they had and still have feelings for them.

We’re just gonna all pretend Predacons Rising didn’t happen and a certain someone didn’t sacrifice himself for the millionth time 

It was difficult to remember that there were more Autobots than just the ones at base. When you spend so much time sending out signals and only ever get a couple of responses, it can be easy to assume that there aren’t that many Cybertronians left. It’s just a grim fact of war that you’re bound to lose many people. Including those you care about. It’s unfortunate, but they all had to learn how to stay strong through all that. The lives lost would be mourned, but the main goal was to repair Cybertron and find the living.

The number of Cybertronians coming back definitely boosted moral. If they was being completely honest with themselves, they hadn’t expected nearly so many. A prediction they were so grateful to be wrong about. Especially when there was a commotion coming from nearby- a happy one. Maybe someone they knew from before the war ripped everything apart?

TFP Optimus Prime

-  Given his position as a Prime, it was only natural for him to go over and properly greet the newcomer. He’d made a habit of doing so with every single Cybertronian that came back. He cherished each interaction, there was nothing more uplifting than seeing someone alive and well when you had been assuming the worst for so long. It was especially amazing when he realized it was someone he had known well before everything happened. He faltered for a moment when he saw you, briefly questioning if it was actually you or simply a lookalike. When your face lit up and you called out his name, the one from before he was a Prime, he knew he wasn’t imaging things.

- After the initial excitement dies down, you offer to help him with whatever he was working on before your arrival. The opportunity to have some quality time to catch up on all the time lost was far too enticing to let slip by. Out of everything he had expected you to talk about, he hadn’t anticipated the bold statement you brought up as soon as you had some privacy. It made sense. After spending so much time apart, you wanted to let him know right away that you’ve had feelings for him ever since you’d known him as Orion Pax. Before he could respond, you continued. Adding that you understand that with so much time apart, you are both completely different people from who you were before this happened. With a smile, you say that what you’re really asking for is the chance to get to know him as he is now, and vice versa. An offer he gladly accepted.

TFP Arcee

- Arcee wasn’t expecting to see anyone she knew. At least, not that she knew well. If she hadn’t seen them die herself, she succumbed to pessimistic thinking and assumed that anyone else she cared about was probably already dead. It was best to just accept the grim reality and move on. So, when her teammates were making a fuss about the latest arrival, she shrugged it off. It wasn’t until Bulkhead yelled for her to ‘get her aft over here’ that she meandered over. Like Optimus, she questioned if she was really seeing who she thought she was, but when you ran over to pick her up and spin her around, it was clear that it was indeed you.

- Naturally, your greeting lead to a bit of good-natured roughhousing. Arcee’s got a reputation to uphold, you can’t just be swinging her around like that (she’ll absolutely do the same to you later when you’re least expecting it). While you’re play fighting, the others quietly slip away, knowing you’ll both want some time to talk. It doesn’t take long for you to take advantage of this and use the privacy to casually drop that you’ve had feeling for her since before you all got separated during the war. It’s a lot for her to take in, but you stress that you know that it’s been a long time and that a lot has changed. You’re just saying this to get it out there now before something else can get in the way. Arcee doesn’t give a definitive ‘yes’ or ‘no’, but the promise to meet up at an oil house after one gets rebuilt is certainly a nice start.

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Hey ! Adding some Drifters content here : what kind of husbands/fathers do you think Toyohisa and Naoshi would be ? Btw, thank you for the quality content of your blog

Hello! Thank you so much for reading my blog! (*꒦ິ꒳꒦ີ) Once again, I’ll separate the headcanons for husband and fathers. I apologize for the inconvenience, but I’d like to space out Drifters content, or else my Gintama content will drown it out! I hope you like it :)

Aw shit, this is going to be long. 

Drifters Husband Headcanons:

Butch Cassidy:

Before, marriage wasn’t something Cassidy entertained very often or at all. Just didn’t figure himself the marrying type. It also didn’t particularly help that the only women in his time who were willing to hitch it with a wanted outlaw were the same types that wouldn’t think twice about stealing the lint right out of his pockets while he slept. Not exactly wife material. ‘Sides, Cassidy very much liked his arrangements with women in the past. No hassle. No baggage. Just fun and booze and sex, and then the next day, he’d be off for the next gig without a single glance backward. The arrangement suited a criminal like him just fine,

until you; the finest female he’s ever met in all of the wild west and the strange new world, from your head and to your tippy-toes and down to the funny thing they call ‘personality’. A one-night stand doesn’t even come close to what he has with you. All of the sudden, Cassidy finds himself warming up more and more to the idea of marriage. In fact, he’d be a damn fool to not put a ring on that left hand of yours!

Oh boy, does Kid get a kick outta this. Marriage? For the fellow who said that there wouldn’t be a heavy enough ring to hold him down for a single woman? That fellow? ( “Alright, alright, Kid,” Cassidy mutters. “Stop laughin’. I said stop laughing, you sonuvabitch.”) 

Kid can laugh and joke all he wants, but Cassidy can’t find a damn thing in himself that says he regrets the marriage. 

the romance will never fizzle out, never; he keeps it alive with his silver-tongue and flirty lips. Like, the compliments just keep on coming while he’s bending over the ring finger, eye winking roguishly up at your heated face as he presses a kiss to the cool metal (maybe a few nips at the surrounding skin)  

He ain’t leaving you behind to play wife while he’s gone. Nuh-uh, you’re coming everywhere with him, every corner of the world, delivering messages and supplies. Even when the action picks up and the wagon turns into a getaway vehicle, he keeps you close by, weapons drawn and deftly firing at away any enemies gutsy enough to reach for you. There are plenty enough bullets for every bastard who thinks they can touch his wife like that. 

It’s a ride-or-die. Ride-or-die.

Kanno Naoshi:

Marriage with Naoshi is calm and peaceful. 

Nah, I’m fucking with you. 

It isn’t exactly calm. Or peaceful. It’s Naoshi. 

But starting a family was something he considered to be done in times of peace, when the war is over and he can return back home without scanning the skies for any incoming bomber planes. After all, there’s no point in marrying someone and then make a widow out of her. 

And in this world, his odds of surviving are just as bad if not worse, but everything is too unpredictable, his future too murky and goddamn uncertain that it makes Naoshi snap and say fuck it-- he’s marrying you, no matter how bad his odds are, because he can’t just wait and wait forever, fretting like some sissy. He’s gonna man up and tie the knot so tight that he’ll never leave you behind. 

If there are no shinto priests around, he’ll (forcefully) dress a poor beastman or Scipio up as one, to conduct a very wack-ass replica of the wedding ceremony back home. 

You’re part of his chaotic decision-making. As belligerent as he is, the road isn’t a one-man show anymore now that you and him are married. Everything he does, he does with you. He listens to you. Your input matters. (Within reason, of course, because if you tell him something dumb, he’ll tell you it’s dumb. But vice versa, he counts on you to call him out if he does some stupid shit.)

Naoshi works even harder on his plane. He wants the thing up and running as soon as possible. He’ll be damned if he couldn’t give his wife the best view of any world-- the sky in all its glory and the earth miles down below, every tree, plant, and animal as small as ants-- he wants you beside him in the cockpit. He wants to see your eyes and face light up in wonder and happiness as you look down. He wants to see that sight for the rest of his damn life. 

As you might expect, marital fighting. If your temper is even one-tenths of his temper, the arguments are inevitable and constant. Starts as easily as breathing air and drinking water. They are mostly petty, petty things that have no real animosity behind them. Actually, arguing with him is quite therapeutically cathartic, in the sense that you know you'll never need to hold back your emotions on him. Though, once in a while, a serious argument does pop off, leaving both parties hurt and angry. Even in the worst moments, he’ll never let a sunset go down on a fight, coming to you by the end of the day to mend things in his own rough, endearing way. 

In your marriage, fighting does not break bonds, it strengthens. 

Shimazu Toyohisa: 

It’s just a part of life for Toyohisa; he never thought about it too much. In the warring states of Japan, samurai families were very much into the politically arranged marriage stuff, so there was no need for him to go out and find himself a wife. He focused all his strength and efforts on the battlefield in the name of the Shimazu Clan, and that was about as domestic as he got. 

The concept of marriage is so far from his mind, that it’ll take ages for him to even think about it even if y’all are in a relationship. You are his. He is yours. Wife or not, those are the facts, so he doesn’t need any other labels. 

I D I O T, Nobunaga hits Toyohisa over the head (”Idiot! Idiot!” Yoichi cheers from behind the scene.) Listen, you silly boy. Woman are monopolizing creatures. They want everything: your thoughts, your fidelity, and your heart. Matrimony is just one of those things. If you aren’t husband and wife, she’s going to hold it against you and never tell you about it. Eventually, one day, she’s not going to take it anymore and she’ll betray you--

Aa? Not everyone thinks twisted like you, old man! 

If he’s going to marry you, he’s not going to do it just because some paranoid warlord told him to do it. He’s going to use marriage, not as some political scheme or placation, but to symbolize that you have his thoughts, fidelity, and heart. 

husband!toyohisa is just soooooo ahhhhh

Toyohisa does have to admit, there is something about you referring to yourself as his wife to others. Oh yeah, that’s his possessive, monopolizing side talkin’. 

You have the upper hand over him in domestic situations. He’s got no clue nor talent about most of this stuff, but Toyohisa is nothing if not a trier. Full of grit, this one. 

You have his ardent loyalty and protection, without a doubt. He will defend your person and honor until his last breath. And if you’re a fighter like him (which he doesn’t approve of in the first place), Toyohisa is going to try everything in the book to get you off the field. During battle, he always goes into a higher state of consciousness to achieve that demon-like intensity and power, but the thought of you in danger makes him falter, it is too horrific and too distracting for him. This could be the hill in your marriage, that bump in the road that will take time to get across, but no matter what, remember that Toyohisa loves you.

[dadgonedeku]

Ochako Urakaka Relationship Headcanons

🌌~SFW & Gender Neutral!Reader

🌌~Just some basic hcs with our favorite gravity girl

🌌~Slight spoilers from season 4!!!!!

🌌~Happy Reading!!! :)

🌌~ She is just so shy and bubbly naturally so expect for it to be 10x worse with you at least.

🌌~ As far as we know she’s never been in a relationship before, so it’s very new to her and honestly it’s gonna take a while before she finally gets used to it.

🌌~ Let her lead with PDA to start out, she can get very uncomfortable very easily and very quickly so it would be wise to learn what’s okay with her and what’s not early on.

🌌~ She grows into a great partner, always supportive and understanding, and has the utmost amount of patience for you.

🌌~ All she has in her heart for you is love and compassion, and she appreciates everything you do for her.

🌌~ She needs help studying? You got her back. She needs cuddles? You’re on your way! She needs support and hyping up? You’re yelling her name from the sidelines.

🌌~ And she does the same for you.

🌌~ She is very earnest and honest with you, so don’t expect her to keep any secrets. If she does, it’s probably something that’s very personal and sensitive. It’s her place to tell you when she’s ready, and it’s the same vice versa.

🌌~ Respect her boundaries, she is huge on respect and honesty and she really appreciates it when you give her space when she needs, or when you don’t do things you know she might be uncomfortable with.

🌌~ She always manages to improve your mood whenever you’re down in the dumps, all you need is that cheerful smile and a few positive words and you’re good to go.

🌌~ Even though she isn’t the most financially stable, she’ll still give you small gifts and trinkets every now and then, just randomly.

🌌~ “Well I thought you’d like it so I got it for you! Do you like it?”

🌌~ The two of you love to cuddle and hang out in private, usually in her dorm.

🌌~ Loves to just hang around and snack on popcorn and pocky with you.

🌌~ Calls you ‘love’, ‘honey’, ‘sweetheart’, or just your name.

🌌~ Cherishes all of the fun and happy times, likes it when you use those happy memories to cheer her up when she’s down.

🌌~ Really appreciates when you take the time to help her train or train with her, and she loves any advice you can give on how she can better her quirk.

🌌~ A fun game you play is where she’ll just randomly make you float to who knows where, but she always makes sure you’re safe.

🌌~ Won’t hesitate to defend your honor if ever feels the need to, and will honestly protect you with her life.

🌌~ Mochi and select desserts are her favorite foods, so she loves it whenever you surprise her with them or take her out on cute cafe dates.

🌌~ She’ll ask for your hoodies or clothes occasionally, and you oblige.

🌌~ She smells of roses and honeysuckle, with a hint of lavender.

🌌~ You adore her cute habits and mannerisms, and while you won’t admit it, you find it very adorable whenever she gets flustered around you for no reason at all.

🌌~ She introduces you to Eri and you absolutely adore spending time with her!

🌌~ She promises to support you whenever you need for as long as you’ll have her, and she already dreams of the future.

🌌~ She’s loyal and would never intentionally harm you, physically or emotionally. Never.

🌌~ Urakaka is a blessed bean, you hurt her you die. Period.

[onwesterlywinds]

PROMPT #29: Paternal

Set in the timeline of @ronsenboobi​‘s Blood-Thirsting Carrion Birds, an alternate canon work in which a certain antagonist does not die at Baelsar’s Wall.

Stella was asleep in the back room of the Keane House. It was scarcely bigger than a closet and held little more than a tiny bed, a toy chest, and a plush Ananta on a shelf for good measure; its only source of light was a dusty window facing out to a brick alley. He could not fully reconcile the youthful interior with the woman standing before him, hands on her hips, glaring at him with all the righteousness of Nymeia herself: the fact that Stella now inclined her head where Ashelia Riot once had, when the Grand Steward was younger than Stella was, felt somehow strangely surreal.

"You said you would keep her from exerting herself," she accused.

"I said I would try," he corrected.

It was her husband who reacted first, with a sharp scoff.

"Well," said Ashelia, and the word hung in the air between the three of them for an extensive silence. "...Thank you for bringing her here, at least."

If it had been a shock for the Marbrand-Riots to have him knocking on their cellar trapdoor, with a barely conscious Stella in his arms, they had both hidden it relatively well. Stella had guided him through mumbled directions along the tunnels, all the way up from where they had taken to staying near the crumbling underground theater. There was little there for them by way of comfort, even compared to the rest of the Undercity, and his extended stay so close to where Morgana had kept him stashed away left him itching for a change in scenery; still, Stella seemed to know Neesa and vice versa, and Neesa kept watch without asking for much in return. His chiefmost priority was ensuring they had enough clean water on a regular basis, and that Stella could come and go safely without undue worry.

At last, he admitted, "I don't know what caused it. I've seen her go into her trances before; I know what the Echo looks like." Between Ahtynwyb and both the Arroways and all the Scions, he'd had more than his fill of conversations left unfinished by some otherworldly intervention. "This was unlike anything else."

"How so?" asked Edge.

"She was frightened. I can't speak to whether or not what she saw hurt her-" He still didn't know her well enough to understand all the times her visions caused her pain; he wouldn't put it past her to try to hide it from him. "-but her eyes were wide. She was shaking her head, and not in her usual way. As though she were saying no."

Ashelia's frown deepened, and she folded her arms across her chest. "Where was it you've been keeping her?"

"The theater. Before you ask, no - there's nothing there that would stir up vicious memories. She told me as much." Stella had already seen most of his life. If those sights had not brought about a breakdown, he scarcely wished to know what might.

"And there's no way someone could have initiated this?" said Ashelia. "Poison, or-"

Edge cast a brief glance at his wife but said nothing. Ilberd sat down at the table across from him, not waiting for an invitation. He had lugged the girl up at least a few hundred fulms in his worn boots, and his limbs felt rather as though they were made of lead. "No," he confirmed after a sigh.

"You don't think someone aims to harm her?"

"Well," he quipped, before he could stop himself, "you've been underground longer than I have, Riot. You tell me."

She set a hand down upon the kitchen counter with far more force than was necessary. "If I knew, we wouldn't be having this conversation. Especially not here."

It was not so simple a thing for him to linger in her home, either. The amenities were a far cry from what he'd known in Coldhearth - running water alone had been an impossibility - but what struck him most of all was the evidence of family, even after twenty years. It was everywhere, in the surfaces worn and battered in ways that could only signify a child's growing, and in the cushions and quilts hand-embroidered with personalized initials, and in the quiet care with which the Grand Steward absorbed every detail when he and Edge turned away for the merest moment.

He briefly wondered whether the young couple before him had yet tried to fill the house with children of their own blood, then pushed the thought firmly from his mind.

"I'm confused," said Edge. "I thought Heart-Seers weren't supposed to be attacked for any reason."

"They aren't," he and Ashelia replied in unison. Ashelia continued, "But there's rather significant precedent for neutral locations to be disregarded within the Undercity. I'm... uncertain if the same is true for neutral groups."

Ilberd gritted his teeth, biting back another remark about her lack of understanding of her own district. With Raubahn determined to keep his nose clean of the Undercity and Morgana being difficult for her own reasons, the Riot girl and her husband were like to be his only allies in Stella's safety for the foreseeable future.

"She'll stay here with you for tonight," he said. Ashelia nodded; on that point, at least, they were well in agreement. "I'll make inquiries on your behalf in the meanwhile."

"Don't be daft about it," she snapped.

If he could conceal his face and name under the burning desert sun, he could do it here. Still, he had no present wish to offer her another blade to press against his throat - and so he stood from the table and made his way back down toward the cellar.

"Keep your back to the wall," said Ashelia as a parting sentiment.

[wee-chlo]

@when-there-is-a-will @aseikh

Had an AU thought.

Before Ferris drives Halt out of Clonmel, Halt is married. Not to a Hibernian girl but a foreign princess who comes with money and connections, a Gallican. She’s not Halt’s first love, but she is one of his first friends. She’s powerful and passionate with a spine of burnished steel and a very specific image of what her life is going to be like. Harassed by her husband’s weasel of a twin brother isn’t part of it.

They have twin daughters. Princess Brigid, named for her great-grandmother on her maternal side, said to have led the charge against raiders of a neighboring kingdom and held strong until royal reinforcements arrived, and Princess Joan, named for a saint beloved by Gallican knights. They’re healthy, happy babies and the people of Clonmel breathe a sigh of relief that the line of succession is secure, that more children are sure to come, and that they are blessed with such lovely princesses.

Ferris’ feelings are mixed.

Obviously Halt having a child strengthens his position. Princesses aren’t as good for Halt and the princess-consort’s position as princes would be, but those are still heiresses, trueborn and royal with support from Gallica, however fractured and unstable the country may be, and through the girls’ grandmother on their mother’s side there are more connections to distant city-states. The girls received remarkable name day gives, jewels and maids and retainers from Gallica. The king of Gallica himself comes to visit his first grandchildren and they win him over with bubbly laughter in a way that Ferris’ grim twin would never be able to.

Ferris redoubles his efforts, and Halt eventually decides enough his enough. He tries to convince his wife to leave with him, to flee Hibernia with him and their child.

She refuses.

She is a proud Gallican princess, the mother of the next queen of Hibernia. She will not flee to live out her days in some hovel, and she will not allow her daughters to be exiles.

She and Halt argue. They part ways in anger and never see each other again. The girls stay with their stubborn, proud mother, and suddenly they are alone in a sea of grief and treachery.

The loss of the firstborn prince is devastating to his parents, who despite never really appreciating him when he was there grieve the loss bitterly. Despite this, a new question arises: Who will be the heir apparent? As the king and queen grieve and fall into a miasma of depression, factions arise. Their eldest granddaughter, Brigid, is championed by her mother. The Gallican princess-dowager makes friends wherever she can, makes promises she’ll only be able to keep if she wins, utilizes every bit of cunning and flirtation the Gallican court taught her.

Meanwhile Ferris, ever amiable and ever popular among old school Hibernian nobility, needs only to cater to the sexism of the nobles along with the more rational concern of having an infant as the ruler. Who would be regent if Princess Brigid were crowned? The Gallican woman? Heaven forbid!

By the time the king and queen can blink, the court is tearing itself apart. Before they die of influenza and grief combined, the king and queen add one more bit of fuel to the fire, a ‘compromise’ that only exacerbates issues: Ferris will be regent, and Brigid will be sole queen upon her majority.

Everyone is furious, but Ferris slightly less so than his sister-in-law. It is a blow, not being named heir, but being regent gives him power and time. Time to consolidate and oust his sister-in-law, or (less likely but still possible) get her on his side. Perhaps he could adopt his sweet nieces, who he must admit have managed to win him over a fair bit as well. 

The Gallican princess is having none of it. If she cannot be regent, then her daughter will rise to power and someone she can trust will be. She sends Joan to Gallica, trusting her with relatives should the worst happen. She and Brigid remain in Hibernia. Brigid is betrothed to the son of a loyal noble, a boy almost fifteen years older than her but popular and strong. Brigid grows in beauty, in wit, in strength. Ferris begins to fear her. He already fears his sister-in-law.

He never quite manages to get the accusation of treachery to stick. He knows she’s committing treason, but she’s good enough at it to get away with it, to play off anything she does as simply looking out for her children and for Hibernia.

Brigid and her betrothed, a powerful Hibernian lord named Brendan, marry weeks after her seventeenth birthday. Ferris begins to sweat.

Then the Outsiders land in Clonmel, and offer Ferris an opportunity. Part of their preaching begins to include discussions of gender roles, how a woman can never rule over men, nevermind a kingdom of men. It is man’s role to rule, woman’s to follow.

The Gallican is not amused.

Ferris begins using his position as regent to minimize any influence the Gallican has. He separates the Gallican from the court and brings Brigid and Brendan to Dun Kilty, ostensibly to allow the two to better acquaint themselves with the castle and the court but in reality, it’s to keep an eye on them the same way he keeps an eye on Sean. He cannot force Joan back, cannot take her hostage the same way, but she’s nothing but the second born daughter in a distant, war-torn land.

By the time the power of the Outsiders catches Halt’s attention, his first wife is dead. Some say illness, some say poison, some say a broke heart. She is given a royal funeral with all the pomp and circumstance she deserves as a princess-dowager, and it is at her funeral that civil war ignites.

Loyalists to the princess-dowager and Princess Brigid assemble alongside the Outsiders as the parade passes, knights from Gallica riding alongside men of Hibernia. At the head of the parade is Ferris, Brigid and her husband beside him. Perhaps it was only to be expected that tensions would rise from something so petty as whether or not the people of Dun Kilty would call out for a queen or a king.

The Clonmel Halt, Will and Horace enter into is one being torn apart in three directions: lands loyal to Ferris are raided by Brigid’s loyalists and vice versa, and bandits controlled by the Outsiders use the chaos to prey on people’s fears even further. Halt and Horace head towards Dun Kilty, and Will goes to find Brigid.

“You don’t want to come with me?” Will asks. “She’s-”

“Not going to want to see me,” Halt says, too matter-of-fact to be wholly honest about how it makes him feel. “You’ll have a better chance at getting an audience if I’m not with you.”

Neither Will nor Horace are quite sure that’s true, but the pain in Halt’s eyes stop any protests dead.

Halt gets the idea to put forward Horace as the Sunrise Warrior, and at first it goes off without a hitch. But then, news of another Sunrise Warrior trickles in, and Halt is baffled. He presses for more information.

A returning princess in chainmail, the Joyful Knight, the Sunrise Warrior...

Halt doesn’t get the chance to avoid meeting Joan: she and her Gallian force find them first. Horace is stunned at how much of Halt is in her face: the eyes are the same, dark and hooded; the hair is black and cut haphazardly, as if by her own dagger. She speaks with a strange hybrid accent of Hibernian and Gallican, both just gentle enough for Horace to be able to know exactly what she’s saying.

“Who are you?” She demands. She’s small but Horace can see the strength in her, the way the blade pressed against Halt’s throat doesn’t shake at all. Halt doesn’t make a move to fight back, just stares at her silently with an expression Horace hasn’t ever seen on the older man’s face. “Why do you claim this man is the Sunrise Warrior?”

Halt doesn’t say anything. Horace decides a bit of honesty is in order.

“We’re from Araluen,” he says, and her eyes go from Halt to him in a flash. He’s reminded a little of Cassandra and a lot of Will, the way her gaze is equal parts sharp and open, hiding nothing. “We’re here to help. We thought fighting a myth with a myth would be a good way to go.” 

Joan raises her eyebrow and Horace almost laughs at just how Halt the expression is.

Will gets the same jolt of recognition when he meets Brigid, a slight, willowy woman with dark hair, dark eyes, and a face that would have made his heart melt if he hadn’t already loved Alyss. 

“A Ranger,” she says flatly. “Of Araluen.”

“Yes, Your Majesty.” The proper manner of address seems appropriate. 

“Sent by... my father.”

“Yes,” Will says, instinctively more gentle. Brigid settles back in her chair and seems to ponder this. The man beside her, a tall Hibernian with red hair and bright blue eyes, eyes Will like he expects him to lunge.

Suddenly, Brigid stands. She walks over to Will; she’s shorter than he is but seems taller, stronger. He’s Araluen through and through, but still gets the impulse to kneel and kiss her knuckles. Instead, she reaches out and takes his hands in hers. The smile on her face is sharp, fierce, wild with something like excitement.

“Come, Ranger,” she says. “Let’s talk about smoking these rats out of my kingdom.”

[datleggy]

MY LAPTOP IS FUCKED FOR LIKE A MONTH (EXPECT MOBILE UPDATES D:) BUT REAL QUICK BEFORE IM STUCK ON MOBILE I NEEDED TO MAKE THIS POST BC I JUST FINISHED THE LATEST 911 EP AND JUST

SPOILERS AHEAD FOR SEASON 3 EP 12

OK OK So

1. THAT MEXICAN STANDOFF BETWEEN MADDIE AND BUCK IS ALL THE CHAOTIC SIBLING GOOF ENERGY I’VE EVER WANTED THANKU

2. JOSH DESERVES THE WORLD FUCK EVERYONE IM SO MAD

3. KNOCK ON WOOD IF BUDDIE DOESN’T HAPPEN I NEED BUCK TO TREAT JOSH RIGHT (lmao im jk!)

4. BITCH. BITCH. IF MICHAEL DOESN’T GET MAGICALLY BETTER IM THROWING HANDS

6. EDDIE MAKING HEART EYES AT THE (FOOINE ASS) ENGLISH TEACHER. OK. OK. OK. I MEAN. I GET IT. BC SAME. LIKE GADDAMN.

7. “YOU LIED” AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

8. HEN MENTIONING THE NEW BABY AND HER LIL POOPY BUTT----MY HEART IS SO SMILEY

9. CARLA SHOULD BE LISTENED TO MORE OFTEN FOR SHE IS WISER THAN THE REST (im assuming she holds the brain cell most of the time)

10. THAT LAST SCENE. THAT. LAST. SCENE. 

MY LAPTOPS ABOUT TO DIE BUT I NEED TO SAY THIS:

YA’LL CAN’T JUST MENTION BUCK IS SINGLE AS A PRINGLE IN ONE SCENE AND THEN IMMEDIATELY SWITCH TO EDDIE W/ CARLA MEETING A NEW POTENTIAL LOVE INTEREST LIKE THAT????

(SIDE NOTE: u know DAMN well eddie must’ve thought LONG and HARD about asking buck to come w him to the parent teacher thing but then was like “aaahhh that’s too much to put on buck uoregoufijdi” and chickened out last min and carla was like “alright u big baby, lets go”--------but also think of the possibilities??? imagine eddie had gotten the courage to ask him to come and buck is obv touched, like of course bro! that’s what besties are for! so they end up meeting the v hot english teacher and she’s like “edmundo, am i right?” and eddie’s like “<///< wow, how’d u guess” like  he was in the actual scene, and buck cracks a joke about how eddie told him he’d never respond to that name when they first met, and the english teacher flirts a lil w buck, like “oh, and ur name’s buck? that’s a tough one to figure out *super hot person laugh*” and buck’s like “<//< hehe, well, it’s evan actually, but uh, yeah, just call me buck, everyone does” and they actually both end up getting her number at different times (eddie while buck is in the bathroom, and buck while eddie’s getting the car from the parking lot bc even tho his leg is all healed up eddie is still overprotective about buck walking too much on it when he doesn’t need to, at least) and they end up finding out on the car ride home and they both are like “ooh, competition time to win her affection!” and they joke about it casually and are like “welp, may the best man win” and it’s thru ALL the jealousy and bs rivalry that they finally get together when the teacher’s like “uh, it kinda feels like u two would prefer to date each other, than me. all eddie talks about is u, buck, and vice versa.” iugth[ehwvnfdbs cij

AND ALSO FUCK ME SIDEWAYS, BUT BUCK IS SUCH A SASSY BOY---HE REALLY SAID “EDDIE MET SOMEONE SPECIAL BUT HE WENT AND BIT HER HEAD OFF SO SHE’LL PROLLY NEVER TALK TO HIM AGAIN AND ALSO FLUNK HIS KID” WITH A SMILE HGTOGERWSDL SIR WE GET IT, U JEALOUS, CHIIILLLLLLLLLLLLL LMAO

AND ANOTHER THING: IM SO CONVINCED BUCK IS JUST TOTALLY OBLIVIOUS TO HIS FEELINGS, LIKE, HE’S ALL “YUP, THIS IS JUST MY BEST FRIEND, WE TELL EACH OTHER EVERYTHING AND WE’RE NOT GUESTS IN EACH OTHER’S HOMES AND IM PRETTY MUCH COPARENTING HIS SON W HIM, WHO BTW I LOVE AND WOULD DO EVERYTHING IN MY POWER TO PROTECT, AND I HAVE OPENLY ADMITTED I THINK EDDIE IS STUPID HANDSOME AND HE SAID HE DOESN’T TRUST ANYONE MORE THAN ME W HIS ONLY CHILD, I PLANNED A WHOLE CHRISTMAS PARTY V LAST MIN, ALL BC CHRISTOPHER FROWNED SADLY AND I WOULD SIMPLY NOT LET THAT STAND BC HIS HAPPINESS IS MY HAPPINESS AND ALSO I ALWAYS WEAR MY CUTEST (and tightest) SWEATSHIRTS AROUND EDDIE AND OH HEY, CARLA, WOULD U MIND JUST HOLDING THIS PHONE AND FILMING THIS BEAUTIFUL FAMILY MOMENT OF ME, MY FUTURE HUSBAND AND OUR SON WHO I WILL BE ADOPTING ANY FUCKIN DAY NOW SHOWING HIM HOW TO SKATEBOARD? THANKS. ANYWAY, WE JUST BESTIES. :)”

AND EDDIE’S SOMEWHERE IN THE CLOSET HIDING ALL THE BI AND DENYING ALL HIS GAY THOUGHTS ABOUT BUCK. OK BYE.

[noqueenbutthequeeninthenorth]

hey hey i read your response to an anon about what you thought J's little smile (after S' "pretty" comment) could be in response to, and i definitely agree that he underestimated how hurt she was & where that hurt was coming from (i feel like he's constantly preaching trust but he very rarely reciprocates) (minus the obvious e.g. of him trusting the north to her... the least he could've done) (anywAY). so i'm at a point where i believe S has feelings for J, but not necessarily vice versa (1/3)

(2/3).. like to me, the “pretty” comment was her trying to gauge how he felt about D. had he shrugged it off, i don’t think she would’ve asked if he bent the knee for the north or for love, and would’ve trusted that he only had the former’s interests in mind. and his lack of response to that question + his apparent reluctance to defend D in public seems to me proof that maybe he bent the knee for both? but he knows that to admit to any feelings for D (even if he is also protecting the

(3/3).. North) would mean calling into question every decision or action he makes/has made. what i’m trying to say is i believe Sansa does love Jon, that pol!jon is alive&well but i do think i underestimated how much Jon is enthralled by D/ny (and i use the word enthralled b/c i think a lot of J’s attraction to her, and the reason he was acting weirdly in that episode, is down to that heady feeling of being wanted by someone so ridiculously powerful & being a bit in awe of them etc.)

I get what you’re saying, anon, but I think I disagree. If the showrunners knew they were going to be setting up an unrequited version of Jonsa or a strictly political alliance, then it seems wild that they would’ve written and allowed so many scenes where Jon is so clearly intensely emotionally invested in Sansa. They wouldn’t have had so many scenes where Jon loses control when men threaten Sansa, nor would they have so many where Sansa’s opinion of him very clearly means so much to him. We wouldn’t get the soft eyes, the deep sighs, the close-ups on hand touching, the forehead kiss where his eyes flicker to her lips.

Was Jon less demonstrative with Sansa this episode? For sure. But at this point I think he’s trying to keep a tight rein on his feelings. Even so, he can’t help himself: he keeps turning to Sansa for affirmation, he clearly feels hurt that she doesn’t trust and back him up. He shows up at her room and asks with heartbreak on his face whether she has any faith in him at all. If we hadn’t seen the extreme versions of this in previous seasons, then this might all just be sibling tension but imo it’s a somewhat suppressed continuation of the same tension they’ve been feeling since season 6. 

They used the last two seasons (and perhaps especially season 7) to establish Jon’s feelings. Now we’re seeing Sansa’s come to the fore, and perhaps Sansa herself is only just realizing them.

Moreover, with the reunions between Jon and his other siblings, we can see a real contrast between his relationship with Sansa and these other relationships – not a lessening in intensity, but a different atmosphere. Arya and Jon’s one-on-one is outdoors, well-lit, opens with a joke (”How’d you sneak up on me?”/”How’d you survive a knife in the heart?”), and has the awkwardness of an older brother who still sees the girl before him as the little sister he once knew. There’s still a really passionate hug and strong emotions on their faces, but it doesn’t have any weird undercurrents of intensity. Compare to the one-on-one Jon and Sansa scene is private, indoors, candlelit, and underpinned with a kind of desperation on Jon’s part to have Sansa affirm him. They’re both dressed down and move into each other’s physical space, but avoid touch. They stare deeply into each other’s eyes and discuss romantic love.

(Compare also to Jon and Sansa’s initial reunion, which was raw and physical, and even though they had people around them, it’s as if they have completely forgotten everyone else. They lose themselves in each other. The conversation that comes later only emphasizes the fact that they didn’t really know each other as children, that they are learning each other now for the first time.)

Maybe you disagree that Jon’s in love with Sansa, but to me it explains so much about the past two seasons. It explains Kit Harington’s otherwise utterly bizarre choices. It explains why the show spent time showing us again and again and again how much Jon cares for Sansa, how protective he is, the fact that he preferred to die rather than fail her in the Battle of the Bastards.

But even if Jon’s not in love with Sansa, I remain unconvinced of his genuine attraction to or even enthrallment by D/ny. If that were the case, why haven’t we gotten a single actually romantic or sexy scene between the two of them? I don’t think it’s the heady feeling of being wanted – it’s the fact that he feels like he has to do whatever it takes to keep being wanted. Even hop on a dragon in the middle of a crisis and go on a joyride. Yet notice how he still shuts down any attempt from D/ny to get him to lose himself in her or with her. “We could stay here for a thousand years,” she says. His reply? “We’d be pretty old.” This is such a flop it’s embarrassing. It would’ve been so easy to have him say something like, “I wish we could,” or “Maybe not a thousand years, but I can think of how to fill the next hour.” He could’ve looked awed that she wants to spend a thousand years with him. Instead he makes an awkward face and rejects the romantic moment.

Perhaps realizing his mistake, he flirts with D/ny a little after that and kisses her, but even then, he doesn’t lose himself in her. He never forgets that they’re not alone. He’s distracted by the dragons.

Why? Why do this? Why not show us the two of them completely stupidly infatuated or just passionate even? The closest we get is the sex scene in 7.07 but (as many have noted) it’s so undercut by the intrusion of half a dozen other people into the scene as well as the reminder of Jon and D/ny’s blood relation and rivalry, that it’s clear that they cannot become their own small bubble of passion, even for a moment.

I do think it’s possible Jon has been fooled by D/ny inasmuch as I don’t think he realized until he found out about the Tarlys just how much of a tyrant she is – from his perspective, she’s a spoiled, entitled brat, one who likes to throw out threats, and she’s shown no sign of being a competent ruler, but as far as I know he might be unaware of her actually hurting people in such a clearly tyrannical way. Maybe he didn’t want to know. But now he can’t deny it. And now he’s not just wary of her – he’s frightened.

And his reluctance to answer the question of why he bent the knee is because of his reluctance to let anyone in on his secret, because he’s trying to be a lone wolf and manage D/ny on his own. Whatever answer he gives, he’s screwed. If he says the North, then Sansa knows he doesn’t love D/ny and given Sansa’s refusal to bend to D/ny’s will, maybe he fears that she’ll even tell D/ny or let it slip. If he says for love, then he’s completely broken Sansa’s trust in him. So he doesn’t know what to say.

I could be wrong about all of this. Maybe Jon is a dumbass who’s flattered by a sexy, powerful woman being into him, but this is the Jon who resisted Melisandre, this is the Jon who constantly doubts his own worthiness and honor, this is the Jon who slept with Ygritte only to prove that he was loyal to her, even if he loved her too. If Jon has fallen for D/ny – whether he’s in love with her or just enthralled – then I’m not sure what he’s learned over the past seven seasons. If he has, then he’s still the boy and the not the man, and everything from Ygritte and the wildlings to Stannis and Mance to his murder to the retaking of Winterfell, all taught him nothing.

In that case, his character is irredeemable and I’m not sure why we spent eight seasons or five books caring about him.

Thanks for the ask, anon! Sorry this got so long!

[fair-fae]

this is nervewracking to ask, but i'm going to do it anyway. what did cyril do that was abusive? i can't see it, and honestly that just makes me scared that i do some of the same things and don't recognize it.

Hey, anon! This is a perfectly fine question and there’s nothing wrong with asking it (the issues lies in people who don’t see the abuse and then decided obviously that means it’s just not happening… and then go the extra mile of harassing the victim and their supporters). Thank you for asking! I’ll try to explain as best as I can, but the best advice I can give is to Google signs of emotional abuse and you can find a lot of lists of certain behaviors. Most are framed in terms of romantic relationships, but they can happen with friends, family, RP partners–anyone, in real life and online alike.Cut for length and general sensitive content dealing with emotional abuse and the dreaded “drama”

Here are some common ones that imo appeared in the logs:Isolation

Abusers often try to isolate victims from their friends/family and any other relations they might have. A sad and lonely victim makes for an easier target, as does one with no support network to help them escape their abuser. It also means less people around to find out about the abuser’s true nature. In the logs we see him try to cast doubt on her friends, telling her that her friends were bothering him and calling him “her keeper” or coming to him about her private conversations with them that they were displeased about (yet refusing to say who, to leave her questioning everyone), not mentioning her friends and tumblr followers were worried about her and trying to reach her until after the fact, etc.Walking on EggshellsA lot of people in abusive relationships describe it as feeling like “walking on eggshells.” They try to avoid doing things that might set off their abuser… but their abuser has to keep them from being content and confident to keep them in control, so they’ll find smaller and more irrational things to get upset at them about. Replying “if you want” to being asked about taking screenshots becomes a point of contention. “When are you going to stop being sad?” becomes an angry question. She’s blamed for deleting her own blog even though he knew she did it for her health/happiness. She’s blamed for the smallest inconvenience of people asking him if she’s okay even though she has no control over them choosing to reach out to him and for the most part didn’t even have any knowledge of it. Rather than answer them or ask them to stop contacting him, he ignores them, then blames her for him continuing to receive questions from them and the perception he believes that people think he had a falling out with her.

Gaslighting

This is what I saw the most of them in the logs and the most alarming thing. Gaslighting is turning everything around on the victim and making them doubt their own memory/sanity/intelligence/credibility. No, that didn’t really happen, you’re lying. No, what I did to you wasn’t that bad, it was normal, you’re just dramatic. No, I didn’t really say that, you’re misremembering. It’s a lot of lies, justifications, twisting words and scenarios, and taking things out of context.You can see how everything is spun as her fault and actually hurting him. Her deleting her blog is her fault. Him receiving messages about it is her fault. Her not doing anything about the messages is her fault, even though he just now told her it was bothering him, even though he just now told her he was still even receiving them past the first couple ones. Her being unhappy is her fault and a bother for him. Her not being enthused enough to do things with him is her fault, why doesn’t she appreciate that he so generously offered to hang out just to make her feel better? Obviously it’s all because she just hates him. He’s not treating her like an inconvenience, that’s just her mental illness telling her that. She tries to talk to him about her feelings and the way he’s treating her, and rather than acknowledging it, he turns it around–rather illogically and irrationally–about how he is actually the one being mistreated and inconvenienced.Passive Aggression 

A classic way to make people feel like shit but then pretend you did nothing and act like it’s all in their head. Look at the language he uses. Calling her “childish and rash” for “expecting” him to answer messages about her even though she never said she expected that. “It’s better than nothing” when she tries to do something to address the people messaging him as soon as she finds out it’s bothering him. “I don’t think you handled something well -  whatever -  people handle things in different ways” in regards to her deleting her blog for her own happiness. “I would have hoped we could resolve the problem if we’d talked it over” as if he wasn’t the obstacle in that.Those are just a few examples from the first album (the others get into less passive aggression, and more… downright aggression but still have plenty of examples, “delete them - so you don’t just repost them later without my knowledge again.”).ControllingnessThe staple of abuse is an attempt to control the victim. Look how weirdly hung up he is on her deleting her own blog and not doing it in a way he approved of (I almost wonder if he’s upset because he lost the status points of having a “tumblr famous” ship partner?). Look at how, even after they stopped being friends, he wants to keep her character on his ship page after she’d asked him to remove it and he admits to intentionally doing it to make her talk to him and give him leverage over her. Look at how he won’t let her go talk to her own friends in private for advice regarding him and shames her for it being an invasion of “privacy,” as if the logs showed some personal/RL info and not just him being unreasonable. Look at how concerned he is with people on tumblr not assuming the two of them are on bad terms. Look at how, even after they stop being friends, he browses her blogs for posts he believes are about him and tries to tell her what she can and can’t say on her own blogs.It’s evident in his branding post, as well. If people cut ties with him on terms he doesn’t like, they can’t RP having a brand–because he said so. Even if they change the story of how they received it and what character gave it to them. Even if they had that idea before they met him and asked him to RP it with them. Even if they change the look of the brand so it’s no longer his design. This isn’t even a unique idea or something he came up with on his own. Branding slaves has been a RL practice. It’s been made into a trope with… pretty much every fictional slave storyline.And while I’m generally of the opinion of the opinion that IC =/= OOC, IC does not exist within a void unaffected by OOC and vice versa. It’s just speculation since there’s nothing wrong with RPing the type of character he does, but there could very well be a reason he’s drawn to an antagonist/rapist/slaver/abuser/sadist/kidnapper type character.Lack of Care for BoundariesShe says she doesn’t want to be friends anymore, she blocks him, she asks him to delete her number, so what does he do? He not only keeps her number, but texts her because he hopes she hasn’t blocked him there, too. Not even to make an apology, just to say “I would have hoped we could resolve the problem if we’d talked it over” as if he hadn’t been an obstacle in that and “if you change your mind, I’ll be here” to put the onus of fixing the problem on her. When that doesn’t seem to get a response? He keeps their ship on his page despite her asking him to delete it and says, “I used it to make a point, since I knew that you wouldn’t continue the conversation unless I had something to get your attention.” He knows she doesn’t want to talk to him, so rather than honoring it or even finding a respectable way to approach her and make amends… he’s does something against her wishes that he know will upset her so she’ll feel compelled to reluctantly reach out to him. And when he gets that platform he wanted, does he use it to apologize? Nooope! He uses it as leverage to make her delete her screenshots of their conversation.Ultimatums How do you make someone do something they want to do? Give them an alternative that’s even worse. You want your name removed from my ship list so people don’t think you’re associated with me after you’ve realized I’m not someone you want to be around? You have to message me, delete your logs of our conversation, and not say anything about me. You don’t want me to embarrass you by posting logs of your confession to me and me rejecting you? You shouldn’t do things I don’t like, then… oh, but I’d never actually do that, don’t worry, silly! :) :) :)General Narcissism There are numerous times he demands he should be more appreciated. I did all these things to try to cheer up you, be grateful no matter how I’m treating you now. I’ve been so nice to you, how dare you say you feel like I don’t care even when I’m disregarding your feelings. Heck, look at the posts about his rules regarding his branding. He acts like it’s a revolutionary idea he came up with all his own and anyone he’s RPing with is being graced with this groundbreaking idea and if they keep some element of it in their RP after cutting ties with him they’re just “piggy-backing off" his time, effort, and energy to make up for their “lack of creativity” like srsly dude??Even though he refuses to apologize or acknowledge any wrongdoing, he really wants her to forgive and her to make things up to him, to still be his friend, to still have a positive opinion of him so he won’t lose that control. He can’t just let things die. Look at how many times he brings up being “villified” to her friends, the community, etc. He is desperate to have the world see him in a good light, which goes back to the other things mentioned. Control over the perceptions people have of him. The power of popularity and being liked to better isolate victims. Respect from the community to lend credibility that he’s trustworthy and definitely not gaslighting.

And not directed at you, anon, but in general.. for all the people trying to spin at as someone mad they got rejected who was actually terrorizing him… really? The only person who brought up her feelings in the logs was him doing it to spite her. idk I’ve dealt with a lot of admirers not taking rejection well and lemme tell you, I don’t invite them to hang out IRL (I try to avoid seeing them IRL, actually), I don’t ask them to hang out with me in game, I don’t go to lengths to contact them when they’ve blocked them, I don’t ship with them and try to parade it on my blog even after the ship has been retconned, I don’t desperately try to stay in contact with them and convince them to see me in a positive light, I don’t manipulate them into messaging me when I know they don’t want to talk, I don’t try to control their lives and their blogs, and I definitely don’t threaten them with ultimatums. Honestly, nobody deserves that in any context, even if they were a terrible person themselves.

[leta-the-strange]

Spoiler-free COG feelings/essay/thoughts before I see the movie. Spoiler-free because the movie isn’t out here til the end of the week but obviously, I’ve picked up info from trailers and interviews and things like that so sort of common knowledge stuff but I guess if you’ve avoided all the promos for the year I wouldn’t want to ruin it for you now so don’t read until after you’ve seen it if that’s the case (again, I only know basic info).

I have a lot of feelings that I’ve been sitting on for a while because frankly, large parts of the Fantastic Beasts and Harry Potter fandom terrify me. It’s why in my nineteen years (okay, thirteen years – I had to learn how to read) I’ve distanced myself from engaging in the fandom too much and when I do, I try and stick to as safe, neutral content as possible.

But I’m going to write a little bit a lot (my anxiety’s poppin off the charts right now) not to antagonise anyone or personally offend people just to get this pent up crap off my chest before I see the movie. 

I have Māori and Pākehā parentage. Although I am proud to be a Māori girl and I’m definitely not white-passing, I do acknowledge that out of my family, I was born with the lightest skin and being a lighter-skinned/mixed poc among my family and friends has made me recognise my privilege. That isn’t to say I haven’t experienced lifelong struggles with racism, bullying and discrimination but I will never experience the same micro-aggressions and experiences that they have. Although, I do have light-skinned privileges and I don’t ever want to take away the struggles of my family that I won’t experience on the same level, growing up looking a little different opened me up a lot of feelings of invalidation within my own culture. When I experienced racism as a child, I was also met with disdain for being upset about it when I wanted to talk about it. This was when I was a child and I didn’t understand lighter skinned privilege or the animosity from some of my own people. I am far more educated now, but during that confusing time I, like most children, turned to literature (which in turn is what helped me make sense of the world).

I’ve gotten a little off track – this isn’t overly important to what I’m writing about, but it is introducing my opinion as coming from a woman of colour who has experienced racism and horrible bullying, but I always feel the need to clarify my position as a lighter skinned poc before giving my opinion based on those experiences.

Obviously from my content, I love Leta Lestrange. Perhaps it started out as a matter of representation, but I feel like over the past year, I have become intrigued with her for a number of reasons. She’s striking me as a Sirius, Regulus and Andromeda Black type character. Different to her family and caught in a struggle of light and dark (magic, not skin colour). Loves magical creatures. I haven’t seen it yet but it seems like she is one of the centre point characters of the film. She seems to be connected to many of the main characters in one way or another and has always striked me as the most intriguing.

I really do hope I am wrong but the ‘other’ love interest’s in the Harry Potter universe are usually treated terribly. They experience character assassination to further the development of the canon/new interest.

I really hope this film doesn’t do the whole blow out a woc character to make the white, self-insert, classically beautiful, ‘im not like other girls’ character shine brighter.

Before everyone comes for me, I wouldn’t say I’m a Tina ‘anti’ whatever that is. There’s no like extreme hatred at all! I would say I don’t like Tina as a character, or Queenie for that matter. Not yet anyway. The new trailer gives me hope that this movie might win me over finally. It doesn’t need to be upsetting or offensive to anyone. There are lots of people out there with favourite and not-so-favourite characters. A lot of people dislike Ron, Dumbledore, Snape, even Harry…and there are people who have those characters as their favourite.  

There are a lot of reasons I don’t like Tina and Queenie. I may address them in a different post if being vague upsets people more than going in-depth but at this point, I am trying to stay as unconfrontational as possible but I have seen people get extremely furious when they don’t deem your reason for disliking them to be ‘good enough’ so if not saying exactly what I find uncomfortable about them is not as preferable as telling people then I can write it up as respectfully as possible if I’m treated the same way. All I’ll say is that I think Tina is a good person, but, in my opinion, not a great character. Queenie is the opposite. I would not like Queenie as a person but I have to admit, she’s a good character. But I’ll hold the rest of my opinions until after the second film. 

Honestly, the film adaptions leave some of my favourite book characters to be desired. Maybe if FB was a novel, I’d like Tina but I really dislike her in the movies. I have seen people blow up when this is said. I try to understand the outrage. I think one of the reasons I dislike Tina is one of the reasons why people love her. She is, at this point and in my opinion (which is ONLY an opinion), a self-insert character. Any Newt x Reader fanfiction can easily read as a Newtina fanfiction and vice versa. I know. Because I’m a FB fanfiction writer myself and tried to write her. Sometimes when you attach yourself to a character so much, it can feel personally offensive when someone says something as harmless such as they don’t like then. I don’t experience this as often. Every Reader/OC fanfiction is, perhaps unintentionally, but nearly always aimed at a white person in description. In actuality, nearly every character in literature is, intentionally or not, described with textbook white features or assumed white by the fandom/readers/watchers.

I know people are going to hate this opinion because I’ve seen people jump down other people’s throats when this gets brought up. I do believe, whether it is conscious or not, Leta not being white COULD, subconsciously, be a factor as to why she is so inherently hated. I’ve seen more hate for Leta than any other character – even the antagonist! I hate what they did to Lavender Brown, book and movie wise, but even she, being as over exaggeratedly unlikable as a romantic plot device, received and still receives far less fandom hate than Cho Chang (who was also eventually written to be ‘jealous, hysterical, unlikeable’, etc, etc – I don’t agree btw I love, understand and appreciate Cho and Lavender)  who was smart, talented, kind, traumatised, and until it was no longer convenient to the main characters romance for her to be ‘likeable’ anymore.

I wish I could enjoy going through the Leta tag but often, her and Newt can’t even be in a scene or photo together and people lose their minds with anger and hate. Literally, the comments on any scene/photo they are in are all along the lines of ‘stay away from newt!/poor tina/urgh, don’t flirt leta/leta WHAT ARE YOU DOING?’. Sorry, to break it to you guys but it isn’t a love triangle. It’s a love conga line. The only person getting in the way of ‘Newtina’ is Newt. Instagram is even worse. By worse, I mean horrible beyond belief. The better comments are the ones are the ones merely (though still grossly) comparing her to Tina and how much they dislike her, the other ones are wishes that she’ll get killed or join Grindelwald. It’s literally not even hidden the fact they wish either of these things happen so Newtina can happen faster. I’m not a Newtina shipper at all (Yet. Again, this might change if the films improve) but this would be one of the worst ways to further your ship. That is literally not going to change the fact that Newt’s still in love with her (you can have feelings for two people at the same time. The filmmakers confirmed - in fact, one of the first things about the new movie that they confirmed - that Newt is ‘absolutely still in love with her’), it just makes her conveniently unattainable. I do have a feeling that Leta might die and if it happens, it better not be because she’s unwillingly in the way of a ‘love triangle’ that people have forced these three characters into. If Newtina is going to happen in a way that isn’t awful, rushed and horrible, it will be slow-burn and it’s in own time AFTER Newt has healed and properly fixed things with Leta. You can’t be best friends and in love with someone for 15+ years and fall out of love with them immediately after they die, turn bad and settle for a woman you met for like two days and collectively spent maybe ten hours with. It might be a Ron/Hermione situation where it’s slow and eventual. That’s the only way I could possibly get on board and I think it could be done tastefully if they don’t resort to lazy writing. I do have my fingers crossed I’ll start to like the Goldsteins before this happens and I can enjoy it as much as everyone else does.

To be honest, after seeing the trailers, I see only two endings for Leta (and I hate them BOTH):

She joins Grindelwald: If this is the plot twist, it’s the shittiest plot twist ever. Pretty much 90% of the fans since seeing the first film have assumed/liked to believe she’s pure evil. Probably the characters themselves all assume she’s evil from her last name. I was worried the whole ‘haha, I was on Grindelwald’s side all along!’ situation was going to happen. We know JK hates Slytherins. My ‘Leta joins Grindelwald’ theory would be that she has always been on the good side – or trying to be – and after YEARS of oppression and discrimination and being distrusted by maybe the central characters in this film no matter how hard she tries AND maybe finally realising that Newt isn’t going to ever forgive her she just snaps and goes all ‘f*ck you guys then’ (I wouldn’t blame her tbh). HOWEVER, I doubt this. In a trailer, you literally see Leta THROW a fucking spell STANDING BY HERSELF (what u doin bby?) at Grindelwald. Trust me, if this was Tina it would have been all everyone was talking about but of course the fandom was all ‘yeah, see, she’s in the same frame as Grindelwald SHE’S EVIL’. One of the trailers is literally titled Leta vs. Grindelwald. Everything in the trailers/promos points to Queenie joining Grindelwald but *shrugs, I guess*.

Leta dies: I get this may seem the preferable way to appease the Leta haters and the Leta lovers especially if she dies after redeeming herself or heroically or whatever but urgh, no. I know everyone’s like ‘DoNt MAKe ThIS AbOUT RaCe’ when the woc character inevitably is killed but I’m sorry. To have been able to sit in a theatre as a little girl and see Leta Lestrange in the wizarding world would have blown my tiny mind. Honestly, as an older teen seeing Zoe Kravitz in that little photo frame in Newt’s case in the first film was iconic enough for me. After growing up being made to believe I was ‘unattractive’ because of how I looked, seeing total dreamboats like Callum Turner and Eddie Redmayne’s characters being all heart-eyes over Leta is, like...wow!  And I do have an uncomfortable truth for people who want Leta to die. That would possibly be the WORST thing to happen for the Newtina thing (would pretty much be the last nail in the coffin for me ever coming around to it). I’ve seen it happen in my family when someone you love dies. Your feelings for them essentially FREEZE. You can’t fall out of love with someone who is dead. That’s of course not to say that you don’t love again and just as much as the first time. But it takes time (LOTS of it) and there’s a little part of your heart that’s like…permanently sealed off. I don’t even like Newtina yet and I’m hoping for the sake of the Newtina fans that Leta doesn’t die because freakin’ yikes. Just let them heal and connect and be besties again goddammit, its POSSIBLE (and bet your ass I’ll write it my god damn self to prove it if they don’t). 

I know these are highly unpopular opinions and I HOPE that I am wrong, and they do her character justice and don’t discard her via death or the dark side.

In summary, I suppose my biggest struggle with Leta’s character is definitely the overwhelming fandom hate which I still can’t quite comprehend. I really want to believe it isn’t a race thing. Though, I have seen horrible posts about Leta, mean comments on nearly every Leta promo, Zoe Kravitz literally being called a c*nt in the comments of a Leta post on tumblr, a lot of fanfictions having her be primarily evil, selfish, manipulative, in some a rapist even, ugly, cruel, etc. But honestly, she’s literally not interfering in Newt having a relationship with anyone at all??? She’s literally been villainised because her friend can’t get over her (getting Snily nostalgia). But buggered if I’ve been able to find next to anything of that calibre about Jacob’s fiancée (literally a Queenie doppelganger) who left him, like, the day he met Queenie. I get that it was a deleted scene for those non-hardcore fans, but Leta-hate was literally kicked off by a picture in a photo frame and a comment made by a, in my opinion, kind of not-nearly-as-infallible-as-people-think character that barely knows Newt breaking into his head non-consensually (after being repeatedly told not to) who had an agenda to hook him up with her sister. Sooo…*shrugs*.

Even I personally have tried to keep out of the fandom debates, but I wrote a Leta and Newt story (still ongoing) that I stopped for a while because the kind of disgusting comments I was receiving about people hating the pairing. Which, I get. You don’t like a pairing, that’s cool? Why are you going and seeking out a piece about them and then taking the time to leave a comment? Whenever I start to read a story about Leta being this horrific monster of a person and being torn apart and compared and occasionally borderline racist, I just…click out? I know it’s only a small patch of weeds in what is likely a garden of roses, but I have never come across such an insecure fandom for a literal canon ship. If the relationship was that pure and strong, you wouldn’t feel the need to kill or villainise the (non-existent) ‘threat’. I just hope the writers feel the same way. You can write healthy closures and strong women of colour characters without casting them aside for plot development/man pain/stereotypical Caucasian romance/plot device, etc... I’m going to go into the theatre at the end of the week slightly optimistic to be fair but I’m also fully expecting to be disappointed but honestly, Leta could avada kedavra every character and she’s still going to be my favourite, I don’t make the rules. 

[ivoryandbonerpg-blog]

                                     ♔ GINNY WEASLEY ♔

( the basics. )

AGE:17 LINEAGE: Pureblood SCHOOL / ALUMNI: Hogwarts School of Witchcraft and Wizardry HOUSE: Gryffindor ALLIANCE: The Order

( personality. )

✓ / ✗ : brave, outspoken, fierce, stubborn, sarcastic, loyal, independent

( biography. )

• As the youngest in a family of seven children, Ginny Weasley has always felt the need to be the strongest and most independent of the numerous Weasley children, if only to prove herself--and as the only daughter of Arthur and Molly Weasley, she’s tried to ignore the enormous pressure that comes with being the only girl in what she privately dubbed as “a boy’s world”. Ginny loved her family, immensely so, but couldn’t deny the strange sense of emptiness she felt every time she was left out of things because she was the youngest and a girl. Since she was able to walk and talk, Ginny made a habit of proving to herself and her brothers that she could be treated as an equal and not a baby sister in need of protection. The boys quickly learned, through Ginny’s fiery disposition and inflexible nature, that she was a defiant, stubborn young girl who could roll with the biggest and the baddest of them. Ginny grew up loving her brothers fiercely, and though she was the youngest of the entire Weasley clan, she was also a formidable friend and foe...and the other boys, particularly the twins, Ron, and Percy, knew it. She played their games, tried to participate in all of their jokes, and followed her brothers around like an eager puppy.

• By the time Ron was headed off to Hogwarts, Ginny was in despair. She was the only child left who hadn’t gotten her Hogwarts letter, and while there was no doubt of her magical abilities, she was still hopelessly upset that she had to spend an entire school year alone without even Ron for company. There are two things Ginny remembers from the fateful day that she and her mother dropped her older brothers off at Hogwarts together: that she burst into tears at being left behind, despite promising herself she wouldn’t, and that Harry Potter was among the newest students at Hogwarts--and her family had been the first to spot him! Ginny was so eager to meet the world famous Harry Potter that she nearly forgot her sadness over her brothers leaving...but leave they did, and Ginny Weasley spent the next several months moping miserably over their absence. She tried to race around on her toy broomstick without them and chased the garden gnomes, despite her mother telling her not to aggravate them, but where was the fun without her brothers laughing and tagging alongside with her? Ginny couldn’t wait to head to Hogwarts herself; she wanted to immerse herself in the magic and excitement of the school; she wanted to be with her brothers again and, perhaps most importantly, she wanted to meet the real life Harry Potter!

• Though starstruck during the initial years of knowing each other, Harry Potter very soon became a staple in the Weasley family. Ginny’s crush on him surmounted with each year that passed and, whether or not she liked it, she found herself blushing irresistibly every time they were in the same room. She had been sorted into Gryffindor like all of her brothers and both of her parents before her, unsurprisingly, which meant she got to see Harry Potter more often during school than the average Hogwarts student. But all of Ginny’s excitement at school and Harry Potter trickled away to nothing when she found the formidable black journal that later became known as Tom Riddle’s personal diary. The diary became the closest friend of a disappointed Ginny Weasley, who found that her brothers were so occupied with their own friends that they often forgot about her, and that Harry Potter didn’t seem to view her as anything but Ron’s baby sister. She poured all of her clandestine feelings into the diary, surprised and comforted that it seemed to be a magical artifact that understood her pain and empathized on a strangely human level. The possession of Ginny Weasley through Lord Voldemort became a scandal that was hidden from Hogwarts authorities for nearly the entirety of the school year; helpess to Lord Voldemort’s demands, Ginny became enamored by the book--a slave to whatever it was Voldemort ordered her to do through the piece of his soul he’d hidden within the diary. Ginny was alone and afraid, terrified that if anyone found out she was the one who helped terrorize the school, she’d be thrown into Azkaban and, worst yet, that no one would believe her. It wasn’t until the chamber claimed her as a victim and she became destined to die that anyone intervened to save her--but by then, the psychological damage had already been done. 

• Her first year at Hogwarts was a petrifying, exhausting roller coaster of emotions, but Ginny Weasley persevered. Though it took her more time than she cared to admit to slowly heal in the aftermath of Lord Voldemort’s clamp on her consciousness, Ginny slowly began to revert to her previous state of normality. She was an intelligent, quick-witted young woman, who easily earned friends and was quick to defend anyone she felt had been taken advantage of unfairly. She suffers from the side effects of Lord Voldemort’s possession of her character to this day, as what feels like an everlasting torrent of PTSD-afflicted episodes that come in the dead of night, but Ginny’s strength of character has grown with each year that’s passed. She eventually told herself she needed to just get over Harry Potter, as she was convinced he’d never view her as anything more than his best friend’s kid sister, and pursued other boys and interests. Though her brothers (well, Ron) were none too pleased at the male attention she attracted, there was no denying it: Ginny Weasley was a well-liked, fiery young woman with brains, braun, and beauty to boot. Ginny had also been among the first to sign up for Dumbledore’s Army--if there was anyone who was going to fight Lord Voldemort and his army of Death Eaters for what they had done to the wizarding community, there was none more qualified than she. Even when Harry pulled away from everyone in his own PTSD-afflicted trauma, Ginny attempted to relate to him. Though the world could forget about Lord Voldemort possessing her, she couldn’t; and she refused to be silenced or overlooked for it. Even by Harry Potter. 

•  Though the world was crumbling around them and Lord Voldemort was most definitely on the rise somewhere, Ginny was also a passionate member of the Gryffindor Quidditch team, still as passionate about the sport as she had been as a child when she and her brothers had raced around on broomsticks like amateurs, playing a mock version of the world famous sport. With the wind whipping through her hair and a crowd of people cheering her own, Ginny had never felt more beautiful and confident. She felt like she had been made for this. Her relationship with Harry grew more complex as her romantic entanglements with Dean Thomas rose and fell; by the end of her fifth year, Albus Dumbledore had fallen, she had indefinitely ended things with Dean after he accused Ginny of having feelings for Harry and using their relationship to mask that, and her feelings for Harry re-emerged, like a flame that had been forcibly snuffed for years on end. Ginny realizes now more than ever, though, that a war isn’t the time for romance or relationships. She joined Neville’s initiative in 1997 to rejoin Dumbledore’s Army and strengthen it alongside her friend Luna Lovegood, but even Hogwarts became too dangerous for them. Ginny fretted over Harry constantly while he was off searching for (and failing) to find something that would hopefully defeat Lord Voldemort, but he was just one of the many things on Ginny’s list to concern herself with.

•  Now, Ginny’s first and foremost concern is the Order of the Phoenix and what she can do to improve and progress the war efforts. Ginny refuses to be a player on the sideline during what could very well determine the entire future of the wizarding war, and she’ll be damned if anyone stops her from trying.

( sexuality. )

Heterosexual

( connections. )

⚔ Harry Potter: Ginny’s relationship with Harry Potter has been a decidedly complicated one since the first day they met. Ginny has been in love with Harry for most of her life, though valiantly pretending otherwise for many years. She and Harry shared a clandestine kiss before he went off to hunt for horcruxes, but any hint of romance between them has been placed indefinitely on hold in the wake of the war. Ginny knows she shouldn’t be focusing on her feelings for Harry when they have bigger things to think about, but when they’re in the same room together, she can’t not think about him.

⚔ Neville Longbottom: Neville has remained one of Ginny’s closest and steadfast friends through the entirety of her academic career at Hogwarts. Neville was the prey of many unnaturally cruel jokes, and Ginny fiercely stood up for him like a protective mother hen. Ginny has immensely enjoyed watching Neville grow up and into himself over the last  few years and can already tell he will make a formidable opponent and great leader in this war.

⚔ Luna Lovegood: Though considered quirky and downright odd by many of their peers, Luna Lovegood has a heart of gold with overwhelming compassion and a desire to constantly do the right thing--and for that reason alone, Ginny first befriended Luna during their school years together. Many might pass Luna off as being too strange or unusual for them, but Ginny thinks Luna’s personality is a breath of refreshing air to the negativity and cynicism she combats from others on a daily basis.

⚔ Hermione Granger: Though Hermione is absolutely more so her brother and Harry’s best friend than her own, Hermione has been a good friend to Ginny over the years. Constantly providing Ginny with advice regarding her feelings for Harry (and Ginny vice versa with Hermione and Ron), the two have become fast, steady friends through Hermione’s faithful relationship with her brother and Harry. To Ginny, Hermione is like the sister she never had but always wanted. 

⚔ Dean Thomas: Things with Dean Thomas ended on a particularly sour note following their romance during her fifth year at Hogwarts, and life with Dean in safehouses and as a part of the Order has been decidedly...uncomfortable ever since. The relationship between them was very much a passionate, short-lived one, but Ginny can’t help but feel as though she and Dean don’t have proper closure with one another. And when he looks at her occasionally, with so much anger and disappointment, she feels her own irritation flare up all over again. 

the role of GINNY WEASLEY is currently CLOSED.

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Financial Dependence Is The Worst: Why Each Spouse Needs Their Own Bank Account

If you plan to get married, then you better plan not to get divorced. Otherwise, what’s the point? You’ll end up wasting money on lawyers. You’ll absolutely disrupt your finances. And if you have kids, they might have to go to therapy in order to make better sense of the cruel realities of the world.

According to a 2013 Kansas State University study of more than 4,500 couples, it found that arguments about money was by far the top predictor of divorce.

According to creditcards.com, approximately 7.2 million Americans (4.4 million men and 2.8 million women) have hidden a bank or credit card account from their live-in spouse or partner, the report found.

What’s going on? For one, if you are constantly feeling financially constraint, there’s no surprise that your relationship will suffer. Therefore, making enough money to live a comfortable lifestyle is important. Then getting 100% on the same page when it comes to spending and reaching financial targets is the obvious next step.

But even rich people go through breakups all the time. So clearly there’s something else going on after a couple starts earning a comfortable income as the hidden bank and credit card accounts survey indicates.

Welcome to the terrible world of financial dependence, where no matter how much your household earns, you’ll never feel free if you aren’t earning your own income. 

Why Every Spouse Should Have Their Own Bank Account

One of the best gifts you can give your spouse is the gift of financial independence. I’m not talking about showering your spouse with riches once you get married. I’m talking about supporting your spouse in making his or her own fortune in addition to contributing to the family fortune.

After all, financial independence by definition includes being financially independent from each other. Many of us remember the sheepish feeling of having to ask our parents for money growing up. The same feeling still exists as an adult without your own bank account.

Over the years, I’ve had over a hundred spouses tell me how they wish they had their own money to spend freely without fear of judgement from their spouses. Let me share three specific examples.

Husband of a heiress who lives in a mega mansion.

“Sam, the reason why I spend so much time trying to become a published author is because I want to make my own mark. Right now, I’m seen by strangers as just some chump who married into money. No matter how much I tell people I married for love, nobody will fully believe me. I want my own identity. I want to eat what I kill. I want to have the freedom to buy what I want without drawing from a pool of money my father-in law left us when he died. I don’t deserve it. Never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined a poor kid raised by a single mother would one day be asked to host political fundraisers at his home. I need to right the scale. “

Business school classmate who married a Google engineer back in 2007. 

“We live a comfortable life down in Menlo Park. Google’s stock is up more than 4X since we graduated back in 2006 and we feel financially secure. It’s wonderful being a full-time mother of two, but it’s exhausting as you’re now finding out. I had a great 10-year career working as a chemical engineer until we decided it was best for me to stay home. He made more and the family benefits at Google are amazing. But ever since I decided to be a SAHM in 2012, I miss the feeling of being able to make my own money and spend money on silly things without having to explain myself to my hubby.

Although we are a team, I’m always second guessing whether I should spend on even the simplest of indulgences. For example, when my back and hands were starting to kill me from having to rock my youngest to sleep for an hour each evening, all I wanted was to get an hour long massage. But instead of charging $120 on our joint credit card where he checks each line item, I decided to just spend $20 in cash on a chair massage at the mall because I was afraid he’d complain that he could easily give me a massage for free! I love my husband’s frugal ways, but his massages don’t come close to what professional hands can do.”

A reader shared one of the reasons why she got a divorce.

“We never made a lot of money, around $85,000 combined, or so I thought. He liked to handle the finances so I just let him do his thing. Then one day I found a pile of ATM withdrawal receipts stuffed in his coat pocket that totaled about $8,000 over the past three months. When I confronted him about the receipts, he admitted he had a separate account used for playing poker. He didn’t want me to worry, explaining to me poker was just a fun outlet.

It turns out he was actually a great poker player and had over $50,000 in the account! I was pretty proud of his success in the beginning, but then I realized he wasn’t always going to play poker during the nights he said he was. I won’t get into the details, but I strongly believe that if your partner isn’t completely honest about you about money, he’s probably hiding something else as well.”

Reason #1: The Release Valve

The common reason for each spouse wanting their own bank account is the desire for independence as all three examples demonstrate. There’s no greater feeling than being free to do whatever you want with your own money. Because it is impossible to 100% agree on every single aspect in life, having your own bank account provides a release valve when partners don’t completely see eye-to-eye on a particular expense so that pressure doesn’t build up to the point of explosion.

In the massage example, the husband couldn’t fully empathize why his wife would want to spend $120 + tip on a massage he thought he could provide for free. And because his wife doesn’t have a salary, she felt guilty spending $100 more than what she could get for a 25 minute chair massage at the mall.

Over time, resentment builds up by the wife, especially since taking care of two young children is way harder than going to work at Google for 10 hours a day. The husband, on the other hand, might disagree with her assessment and may begin to resent her for thinking this way given he’s purposefully shielded her from all the corporate BS he’s had to deal with.

Without a release valve, the chance for arguments and ultimately divorce increases.

Reason #2: The Insurance Policy

Having independence is just one reason why each spouse should have their own separate bank account. After all, before each partner met, each enjoyed independence for years. The other reason for having your own financial account is insurance.

Let’s say something bad were to happen to you and the legal system somehow ties up your assets in probate despite a clearly written will. Or perhaps your life insurance company decides not to pay out the claim you spent 15 years paying. Who knows what snafus await after an unfortunate event. They happen all the time.

If you have your own finances, you can more comfortably wait out the storm while the legal system makes you whole. In other words, your bank account is your worst case scenario. Knowing that my wife has her own healthy bank account let’s me die more peacefully knowing that at the very least, she’ll do just fine without me and our accumulated wealth and vice versa.

Related: How Much Life Insurance Do I Really Need?

Reason #3: The Financial Trainer

Just like how a workout buddy helps motivate you to do one more set or eat one less slice of pizza, your spouse can help motivate you to earn and save more as well.

By having separate financial accounts, you can clearly see where each of your finances stand. You can challenge each other to see who gets to a certain savings amount first. Or if your starting amounts are vastly different, you can challenge each other based on a percentage increase amount. The number of different challenges and the ways to get there are endless e.g. the many different types of side hustles and investments one can undertake to boost their income.

The ultimate goal is to push each other to achieve optimal finance performance while concurrently building a stronger financial life together. If you completely co-mingle your funds, it’s hard to tell exactly how much you’ve contributed to the household. The more murky your contribution, the easier it is to feel demotivated or be misinformed by how much you’ve contributed.

Keeping separate bank accounts also minimizes the temptation of “cheating” by overly relying on your spouse. Don’t take away your spouse’s sense of pride and accomplishment like the man in example #1.

The Horrors Of Having Separate Bank Accounts

I know by now a lot of you are completely befuddled with the idea of giving each spouse the gift of financial independence. I don’t blame you since for so long, the tradition has been for the husband to earn and the wife to stay at home. But it’s the year 2017 folks, modern up!

Believe in equality between men and women. Every little girl and boy growing up today should believe they can have a fantastic career and be financially independent on their own.

If you are financially independent, you can weather a breakup much easier. Don’t think divorce won’t ever happen to you since the statistics prove otherwise. If you are financially dependent on a person you no longer love, life won’t be easy.

But to recognize the other side, here are some aghast comments from my post, How To Overcome Money Addiction, when I wrote, “I borrowed $10,000 from my wife” to invest in an Austin, Texas real estate crowdfunding deal.

Aghast comment #1

“I will state flat out that I think everything should be shared and that I am a bit alarmed that you ‘borrowed $ from your wife’ although I don’t know your situation, I just want you to succeed, marriage and all, especially with all the baby talk on this blog as of late.”

Aghast comment #2

I hope you don’t take offense, as I have never looked into any surveys or studies on the subject, but I know several people whose marriages have ended and many of them kept separate accounts. It just seems like (to me) the two becoming one should mean everything!”

Aghast comment #3

“My wife and my finances are completely merged, so the concept of borrowing money from her is ridiculous!”

I have no problem with couples 100% mixing their finances together. I hope you have no problems with the way we’ve set up independent financial accounts and a joint account. But let me explain anyway why I used the term “borrowed.”

Since we first met, I’ve always wanted to give my wife everything I could conceivably offer. From paying off her college loans after my third year of work, to buying a house in San Francisco for both of us to live a more comfortable life while young, I’ve always had a desire to provide. Some might say these actions are the result of true love.

I owe her a lot because she has been with me since the beginning when we were broke college students. During my senior year while I was interviewing for jobs in NYC, she’d wake up at 5:30am just so she could call and make sure I wouldn’t oversleep for a 7am interview. We have a special relationship because money was never a deciding factor for why we came together. Further, I never want money to ever aversely affect our relationship.

I’m proud to say that she has never needed financial help from me. She enjoyed a fantastic 13 year career and was able to negotiate a severance in 2014 with some coaching by yours truly. She continued to work for two years after I negotiated my severance, even though she didn’t have to because she felt a great sense of accomplishment being her own financially independent woman. But after two years, I was too bored at home and wanted to spend more time with my best friend.

Because I care for her so much, I felt bad during my cash crunch to ask her for money to cover my investing addiction. I know we are life partners and share everything, but I just hate asking anybody for any money, especially someone I care about the most. Conversely, it’s easy to borrow money from a bank because you don’t nearly have the same relationship with an amorphous institution as you do your spouse.

We have separate bank accounts along with a joint bank account to provide maximum flexibility. We loved encouraging each other to save aggressively while we were both working. Now as business partners, we share profits evenly and always remind each other to mobilize our capital each month. We talk about all large financial decisions like buying a car or a house before doing anything, and for everything else, it doesn’t really matter.

The Stay At Home Spouse

So far I’ve addressed separate financial accounts between two working spouses. But how does a stay at home spouse expect to earn his or her own money if he or she doesn’t have a job? Well that’s easy. Being a stay at home parent is easily worth the median income of your city. And if you don’t believe so, then take the number of hours your stay at home spouse works and multiply it by the average hourly cost for daycare or a nanny. That is the amount of money he or she deserves to make.

Now take that monthly salary and subtract it from the day job working spouse’s salary, and that figure should be his or her income which can be spent however he or she chooses. Of course, it’s a good idea not to spend it all. The money should be allocated similarly to the way the day job working spouse’s money is allocated in terms of savings, investing, spending, and so forth.

If you believe in happiness, then you believe in financial independence for both spouses. And if you believe in financial independence, then you should not be opposed to each spouse having a separate bank account along with contributing to a joint account. The ultimate goal is to create household wealth together, while also ensuring each spouse never loses his or her freedom.

Happy Independence Day America!

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Readers, what are your thoughts about each spouse having their own bank account? If you are against financial independence, please explain. Don’t you think happier spouses result in happier marriages? What is the downside of having separate bank accounts plus a joint account?

Related:

The Average Net Worth For The Above Average Married Couple

Poor Little Rich Women (The New York Times)

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