#(reminder that the ask box is always open)

[polyamorousmood]

Tips for jealousy? I'm monogamous and the thought of my spouse being attracted to others makes me feel physically ill. Please don't be mean. I'm really struggling. I feel like I have ptsd. I need help. I don't know how to get through this. I don't think I can afford therapy. I discovered they watch porn and follow a lot of sex workers and they admitted they are attracted to many others. I had no idea. We've been together a long time. I don't want to leave them but I also don't know if I can stay if I can't stop feeling this way. I feel so bad all the time. It's been months and I'm not getting any better mentally. I'm crying all the time. I get triggered all the time when I see certain things. I don't know what to do. I love them and believe they love me. But I just can't seem to get over this.

Hey friend. It sounds like you're really struggling. Much more than what I would consider normal even for someone who is strictly monogamous. I'm really sorry it's so much for you🫂.

I'm no doctor, but that sounds like there might be a LOT of really unwarranted anxiety. If therapy isn't an option (though you should look around for places with sliding scale fees), maybe you could talk to a doctor about medication? Those are usually cheaper, and I do think you need more help than I can give.

In the meantime, here's what I can do:

I want to emphasize that your partner probably thinks nothing of being attracted to others. It is normal and involuntary. It probably didn't even occur to them it might not feel great to you until you said something. There is no betrayal in their heart, and it in no way diminishes their love for you.

While it may be reasonable to ask for certain accommodations here, it sounds like even the thought that your spouse could be attracted to anyone else is devastating for you. And they are actually, physiologically incapable of changing that. They can not mention it to you, if that would help (Give real thought to if it would, and if the answer is yes, ask it of your spouse immediately). They might be willing to cut back on how many sex workers they follow, if that would help. But they cannot promise to only have eyes for you, even if they wanted to. So this will require a lot of work on your part no matter how you slice it. It will likely continue to cause you discomfort for years to come, and because it is so normal and involuntary, I think you will have a hard time finding anyone who NEVER is attracted to anyone else, if you even do leave your spouse over it.

I have had the most progress when I have been able to really sit with my feelings, and get down to root worries. I think this worksheet does a great job breaking down how to do this with jealousy and insecurity. I highly recommend you sit down with it, with a pen and paper, and commit a 🕐lot🕑 of🕟 time🕕 to it, in multiple sessions.

That should give you a good starting point, but it will take a lot of applying that worksheet to your daily life. It will take time. It take consistency from you. It will be hard. But I believe you can do it, and find a way forward that works for you. Buckle down, sending you all the luck I can. 🍀🧧

[dark-fics-4-you]

Sooooo what are everybody’s thots on the newest chapter of Number One Fan?? 👀

[pink-heart-jam]

I can’t believe this account reached 50 followers! Happy milestone and thank you @angelselene for single-handedly making sure each and every post gets kudos 🥹

[the-regal-reginamills]

*shoves Gina in the other room so we can gossip*

Hello, lovelies! It's been a month since I started this blog.

Truthfully, I've been recurrently rewatching ouat for the last few years. (I don't think I'll ever be normal about ouat...) I knew that creating this blog after all this time would be a shot in the dark... and, honestly, I'm really glad, and maybe a little surprised, to have gotten a fairly good reception from all of you.

Although, this is my first time doing something like this (clearly!), and I was wondering if I could get some feedback on how it's going? If you can spare a moment of your time to share your thoughts, I would really appreciate it.

Honest opinions are always welcome!

Feel free to share your thoughts and add suggestions!

[hotcat37]

Here to drop in to say I absolutely loved the new chapter but the cliffhanger at the end was

EVIL

thank u <3!!!💖💖💞 Tbh the cliffhanger is Jan's fault for his lack of impulse control ☠☠ But no worries there's still 8 chapters left to fix this mess.... So glad you're enjoying the fic!! 🐻💖🦈

[mangaka-neko-chan]

Because someone over on twitter asked about my Fura, I'll share the short description of her here too.

[purplepenguintime]

If you could kill Belos, how would you do it? Show it in a sketch

Belos being stung to death by a thousand gay bees.

The bees also don’t die from stinging because I am not for the bury your gay trope

[emily-mooon]

nordegrim reminds me of good good things by descendents

I had to look this up anon as I’ve never heard of this band before (thought it was related to disneys bootleg ever after high at first!) but after listening to the song, I can confidently say you’re right!

To me it’s Neil’s perspective cause the lyrics “where were you when I was in so much trouble with myself” and “let’s see if I can get things right with you/this time around” remind me of him in the comics. There are many more too but those are the two that stood out to me the most

Anyways this song will be added to the nordegrim playlist!

Btw here’s the song for those curious (it’s a good song too)

Thank you anon for sending this ask and for giving me a new band to get into (80s alt music my beloved)

[krakenshaped]

hi sorry for the ask but r ur kofi comms still open? ^_^

My donation ones are not sadly, however right now my Valentines day comms are still open (because... I forgot to close them teehee)

I plan on updating my commissions shortly! A mutual of mine (@spaceraes) is doing commissions for Palestine and I was planning to do similar :3

You can commission me for the Valentines Commissions via my Ko-fi! But if you're looking for something smaller like an icon feel free to dm me! I could probably do icons for £10

I'll update my commission prices soon!!

[puffyducks]

hiiiii lol [kicks the floor and shuffles my feet shyly for an uncomfortably long amount of time] anyways.

shuffle your favorite playlist and post the first five songs that come up. then copy/paste this ask to your mutuals. ❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🌞🧐🌙🌙🌙🌙🌙

Hello friend you are sincerely going to regret asking to hear my music tastes but here goes nothing:

Dubidubidu - Christell (yes this is the song from the meme with the cat)

Stand Out - Powerline Tevin Campbell

Popular - The Veronicas (THIS IS STILL IN MY PLAYLIST FROM WHEN I WAS WATCHING LPS POPULAR AT AGE 9 HELP ME)

Il Vento D'oro - Yugo Kanno (from Jojo)

The Good Child and the Fox Spirit - Kikuo

Honorable mention to keep this post duck related + I need everyone to listen to this right now RIGHT NOW it's everything to me The Moon (from "DuckTales") (Orchestral Remix)

[ink-wells-and-feathers]

hey you. it doesn't make you a bad person that you're burning out on helping the world. things are really hard right now and as much as you want to help the world get better you it can feel helpless. sometimes the best thing you can do for helping is to take care of yourself. it's okay to scroll past that post. it's okay to take a break from social media. it's okay to take a pause from watching the news. it can feel really overwhelming watching the world fall apart around you. and sometimes the best you have is taking care of yourself so you can fight again soon. someone who really cares about the causes you're fighting for will never judge you for needing to take a break. unclench your jaw take a deep breath roll your shoulders and be kind to yourself today. you can't help others if you haven't looked after yourself first. and this post may get me a lot of hate, but it's also going to help some people who are struggling with the burnout that comes from caring so much in a world that is so harsh. our DMS and ask box are always open don't hesitate to reach out. you are seen. you are not bad or wrong for needing a break.

[lpsgirl109]

You know I've realized. For as much as I talk about my dearest most favorite girl Olivia Rosemary Octavius, I've never actually gone in depth here about her lore or who she is as a person. Like. At all

Olivia fans jump at me if you want her entire info dump

[madame-fear]

Weirdly enough, the other day I was listening to Just Give Me One Day by Alej and I thought "huh, that's Amira in a song" and kept writing (even the color of the cover reminds me of you kajdksj)

MY DARLING FIO 💕💕 Awww that’s so sweet Fio, I’m gonna listen to it!! You are literally such a sweetheart, Imma squish youuu 🥺🥺

COME HERE, LET ME HUG YOU TIGHTLY!! <33

[retiredcultistredux]

((3 month blog anniversary and I have. nothing cool planned oops--kinda crazy it's even been 3 months y'know. kinda in a slow point rn but hopefully can get things going again soon))

[spotlightstudios]

Hi, fun exercise for me:

Moodboard of my Favorite Danganronpa Characters in no particular order :)

[are-we-really-doing-this]

Got the acid piss again.

THANK FUCKING GOD, it’s been too long. I mean, both about the piss and the ask. What do you think did it this time, anon?