#(irls who aren’t on tumblr !!!!)

[tanjir0se]

Instagram is literally doing too much it’s genuinely so soothing on this website to know that if I randomly go down a rabbit hole about smthn random like a ship for a show im not that into or something my mutual vagued about like out of a moment of curiosity, when I return to the sanity of my own dash it’s still the same self curated content from the beloved and trusted blogs I follow and not an algorithm watching my every move and deciding I need 9,000,000 posts about whatever random shit I just looked at for a few minutes

[authenticcadence18]

why can’t my brain just. Move on. why can’t it stay moved on from things for longer than a week. I try so hard and yet I always end up sad again what is wrong with me why can’t my brain just knock it off I’m so tired of this.

[xanderisbraindead]

How to get the confidence to dress alternative in public: LONG POST {from a scene king!!}

I hear a lot of young teens online saying things along the lines of, “I would love to dress like that but I’m scared”. We’ve all been there, it takes bravery to step outside the box. Since 2020, there has been an uptick in alternative fashion, which makes things a little better, but it doesn’t mitigate the fear some people feel.

As someone who has been dressing alternative all throughout highschool and who I’d like to think has some 17 year old wisdom, this is how you can get the confidence to dress how you want. This can apply to other alternative fashion types like decora, punk, goth ect ect.

This post goes with a youtube video!! You can just watch it if you dont wanna read

Realize why you’re scared: Is it because you’re afraid of being different or picked on? Are you afraid of change? Do you think your friends/peers won’t care about you anymore? These are all valid reasons, and once you know why, you can start to tackle it. Change isn’t bad, everyone changes, change is natural. Look around at nature, seasons change, we grow and age, animals migrate and go through metamorphosis. You don’t have to be confined to one thing forever just because you weren’t born that way. As for the fear of being picked on, fuck those people. Do you know why people tease others? It’s because they’re insecure. Hurt people hurt people. When people see you being yourself and they wish they could do that, they take it out on you because in their heart, they’re jealous. You’re not the problem, they are. (If you’re afraid of being physically hurt, that is completely different and I would not advise putting your safety in jeopardy)

Start slow. While you’re still building your wardrobe, you can start slowly stepping out with small accessories and such. Add some kandi to your outfit or a tattoo choker. This is mainly to ease yourself into it. Big changes can be pretty scary and jarring, so easing into it can help you.

Have some role models. By this I mean, have people you look up to, people that are inspiration to you. Me? Some of mine here on tumblr are @xx-may4-malic3-xx , @xx-k1tsun3-k1d-xx , @xxdespairfactionashtonxx , @cigsnvalentines to name a few. Theres also some old scene queens, musicians, ect. Find whoever you want. I’m reccomending this, because when you see other people doing the same as you, it makes you go “if they can do it, so can I”. Most people probably wont even mind if you send them an ask about specific things (ik i dont, i love them).

Kinda the same point, but build a community. We have a pretty good community here on tumblr. Community is the backbone to everything. Ideally it would be someone irl, but not everyone is lucky enough to have cool irl friendz.

Fake it till you make it. Nobody has to know you’re scared but you. I’m not saying get super extroverted if you’re introverted and go around exuding confidence like a lazar beam. Dance in your mirror, hype yourself up. Take cool pictures and edit them, even if you don’t post them online. Learn to walk with your head up, again SLOWLY. As you start introducing more alternative elements into your wardrobe, wear them with pride.

Be the change you want to see. What I mean is if you want people to be kinder, you be kinder. Try to compliment someone every day. People actually aren’t as rude as you think, maybe I’m an optimist, but I think the average person isn’t terrible. Complimenting other people also makes you feel good, try it. Piggybacking off this point, don’t take things so personally. I know if can be easier to harp on the negative looks and comments you got versus the good ones, but you have to look past this. There are gonna be bad apples always, but their misdeeds can blind you from the people who think you’re pretty cool. Don’t let one bad apple ruin the bunch.

Lastly, realize being cringe is okay. Not just realize it, but internalize it. What even is cringe? Define cringe… Weird? Different? Everyone is different, everyone is weird about something. As I said earlier, some people are just too scared to be themselves. In 80 years when you’re old and looking back on your life, would you rather regret not being your authentic self, or think of all the fond memories of your life? Regret is one of the worse things in life, it’s terrible. There is nobody you can be but yourself. You’re you, so be you.

Remember that this is something that can take months or years. I feel like this past year and a half I have become fully confident in my fashion. I have been dressing alternative for 5 years for reference. I hope this could help someone.

If I wasnt clear on anything, feel free to send me an ask! Im more than happy to help!!

[woman-respecter]

genuinely the political climate on this website has gotten so bad that i’m considering leaving it entirely. so many of my mutuals/friends have fallen down the “voting doesn’t do anything, both sides are genocidal” rabbit hole and it pisses me off but I feel like i can’t speak out because they can be the nicest ppl when they’re talking about anything but politics but as soon as it gets to politics they turn to like. seriously telling people to kill themselves. people fought and continue to fight for their right to vote and you just want to throw it away? they make fun of qanon types but their bizarre insistence that harris/biden/obama/whoever are all secretly genocidal/imperialist monsters is the EXACT same thing. they act like they’re sooo well-read and sophisticated yet they dismiss all fact-based journalism as biased propaganda, getting all their political beliefs from twitter and tumblr. and the way they all throw around trump meme quotes like “many such cases” etc and call him funny makes me think that they actually hate dems more than trump… horseshoe theory proven true yet again. sCrAtCh A LiBeRaL aNd a FaScIst bLeEdS yet they’re the ones sitting idly by and refusing to vote against an Actual Literal Fascist. a post just went viral amongst tankies on here that was like “hey instead of voting for politicians why don’t we try to just shoot them in the head” and I was like ARE YOU ACTUALLY STUPID. At the very least back up your words with actions; if you’re gonna advocate for political violence then at least try to commit to your rhetoric. but we all know these hypocrites piss their pants at the thought of even leaving the house or reading anything more politically nuanced than the communist manifesto. they’ll clap and cheer for violence from behind their phone screens, but it’s painfully obvious if any irl communist revolution happened they’d fall apart immediately. i can’t stand this idea that bitterness and cynicism are morally superior to slow, incremental progress. sorry to vent like this in your inbox, but i just wanted to let you know that you are the one of the only people with good political takes on this website and also that there are tons of us who feel the same way. thank god these people aren’t a majority irl, but they still could be enough of a majority to make dems lose in key states and it’s terrifying…

literally agree 100% with everything said, its like ur reading my mind.

[fvnalgirlcomplex]

PRETTY ISN’T PRETTY ✸ J. HUGHES

and it begins!! this is irl but also mostly social media au because my tumblr is/was acting up and deleted most of what i had written and.. i’m lazy so!!! reader is referred to as ‘you’ and their looks are talked about but i tried to avoid describing looks… however… reader doesn’t have blonde hair but listen like every nhl fic uses a blonde girl for the fc so. i think its justified!! but sorry to anyone blonde reading lol. i didn’t rlly know how to end this tbh but i hope it’s still good and i hope u like it!! remember that you are beautiful! any negative things said obviously aren’t true :)

warnings: light mention/implication of an eating disorder, insecurities, hate comments, reader gets picked up (lowkey manhandled a little bit), suggestive comments (2), unedited writing

masterlist, series masterlist

fc: olivia rodrigo ( oliviarodrigo on ig )

summary: dating jack wasn’t gonna be easy, you knew that. you just thought him traveling a lot was gonna be the hardest, not being picked apart by his fans.

bought a bunch of makeup,

tryna cover up my face

i started to skip lunch,

stopped eatin’ cake on birthdays

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youruser 22!! shout out to cole caulfield

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colecaulfield thank you for the shout out. I really needed it.

youruser anything for a fan

user19 she’s so cocky omg

yourfriend the cake was so good! you should’ve had some :(

youruser the cake wasn’t very big and i don’t really like cake that much anyways lol glad you liked it though!!

jackhughes ❤️

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user373 at least she chose a blurry pic so we don’t have to see her face lmaoo

jackhughes

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jackhughes birthday girl 🎂

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_quinnhughes haps

youruser damn. not even a full sentence 😔

user14 even his brother doesn’t like her lmao 💀

user298 i hope she knows she’s public enemy #1

user63 bro could do sm better

trevorzegras big! 22! 2️⃣2️⃣

user86 the way she looks at him though 🥹

user7 no..

user329 why are you so miserable

user738 he did her so dirty with the second picture 😭 makeup can only do so much but somehow she looks even worse than i imagined with no makeup

“I didn’t know it was such a big deal—”

“It shouldn’t have to be a big deal, Jack! I asked you not to post it, I don’t understand why you don’t listen!”

Maybe you were overreacting. Maybe you were taking your insecurities out on Jack when it really wasn’t his fault. But, it’s hard to stay calm when you’ve started to hate what you see everytime you look in the mirror, or someone takes a picture of you and that’s when you have makeup on. Words couldn’t describe how gross you feel without makeup on.

“I think you look gorgeous. I don’t know what the issue is.” Jack responded, too nonchalantly for your liking.

“The issue is that I don’t think I look gorgeous so I don’t want it out in the world for all your fans to see.” Jack sighed at your response. He knew what this was about but to him, you the prettiest girl he’d ever seen. He just couldn’t grasp how someone like you could be insecure.

“Y/n…” He said softly, grabbing the sides of your face. The mood in the room had quickly changed from tense to sad as soon as the word fans was mentioned. “You’re stunning. I know you don’t believe me but, you really are. All those comments are from a bunch of teenage girls who are jealous. I know it’s hard to block out but you just have to try ‘cause I wanna show everyone how pretty my girl is, okay?” Jack finished, trying to cheer you up. It didn’t really work to be honest but still, through glass eyes, you looked up at him and nodded before he brought you into a comforting hug.

You wanted to believe him, you really did. But it wasn’t just teen fan girls. It was also grown men. Men your boyfriends age who thought you were just as hideous. They couldn’t have been doing it for the same reasons as the fan girls. They had to have just been being honest, right?

‘cause there’s always somethin’ missin’

there’s always somethin’ in the mirror

that i think looks wrong

when pretty isn’t pretty enough,

what do you do?

You loved spending time with Jack. And you also loved getting to spend time with the people he cared about. But the pressure of looking good before going knowing that pictures would be taken, with or without you knowing, made you want to puke.

You started planning out your outfits far in advance, what shoes, how you’d do you hair, your makeup. Everything. You told yourself over and over again that the outfit is cute. You asked Jack about it and he always reassured you that you would look beautiful in anything and the friends you’d ask say the same thing.

But that still wasn’t enough to stop your brain from making you think everything was wrong. No matter you were wearing, when you looked in the mirror it just looked… wrong. Like something was missing.

“Babe?” Your boyfriends voice came softly through the bedroom door. Jack had invited you to the Devils Halloween Party this year which would be your first New Jersey Devils event. Jack and Luke were wearing matching spider-man costumes with Nico and Dawson who were currently at the brothers apartment. “You ready?” He asked you as he poked his head into the bedroom before fully stepping in, closing the door behind him.

“Yeah, I was just looking for my cat ears.” Lie. You were overanalyzing yourself like you always did before you went out but you knew if you told Jack that he’d feel bad and tell you that you didn’t have to go if you weren’t comfortable.

It wasn’t clear if Jack really believed your lie but he glanced around the room for the headband anyways before finding it on the edge of the bed next to you and placing them on your head for you.

Still sitting on the edge of the bed from when you were putting on your boots before you caught a look at yourself in the mirror, you looked up at Jack, who’s hands stayed on the side of your face after gently placing the headband on you.

Words weren’t exchanged as he looked at you, his thumbs tenderly moving over cheeks. He moved down to place a lovingly soft kiss on your forehead and then your lipstick covered lips.

“You’re beautiful.” He whispered against your mouth. You almost believed him.

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njdwag.updates y/n at the halloween party with a fellow wag. she went as a black cat 🐈‍⬛

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theotherwag sweetest girl to ever exist 🩷

user273 jacks like 🥹

user33 is this a safe space?

user649 depends…

user33 i love yn. and i love yn and jack!! they’re so cute and it’s so obvious everyone that hates her is just jealous :/

user472 REAL!!! they claim to be fans of jack but hate to see him happy… like something isn’t adding up??

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user634 wait jack went as spider-man and she went as a black cat?? she’s kinda funny for that

user710 jack probably didn’t want to outright match with her 💀

user845 her standing next to another wag.. this is so sad like jack!! wake up!!

and everybody’s keepin’ it up, so you think it’s you

i could change up my body and change up my face

i could try every lipstick in every shade

but i’d always feel the same

‘cause pretty isn’t pretty enough anyways

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njdwags y/n y/l/n at her colleges football game with friends!

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user968 everytime there’s a picture of her standing next to someone it really highlights how ugly she is LMAO

user263 idk why people hate her sm she’s so pretty

user945 she’s even prettier in person! i met her at the game and she was so nice. it’s so sad to see all the hate she gets :(

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user293 we have class together!! she’s literally so sweet and smart

user683 ugly ass

user78 she chose a college football game over her boyfriends hockey game…

user537 why does she always have her tongue out 💀

and i try to ignorе it, but it's everythin' i see

it’s on the poster on the wall, it's in like every magazine

it’s in my phone, it's in my head, it's in the boys i bring to bed

it’s all around, it's all the time, i don't know why i even try

It’s like you couldn’t stop yourself from reading comments on posts about you. You knew you should ignore but it seemed impossible to ignore at this point.

You knew the comments would be negative like they always were but you always had hope they would be nice for once. And there was nice ones sometimes! But most were so overwhelmingly negative, you couldn’t even focus on the positives.

And it wasn’t just comments either, no. Not anymore at least. Since, you’ve read the comments, it’s like all the negative has leaked out of your phone and into every aspect of your life.

It was when you visited your family over winter break, you had totally forgotten about the posters you had in past years of icons from your childhood. Icons who were so how all skinny or blonde or had stunning blue eyes or all three. The break was supposed to get you away from all that and yet, you still cried yourself to sleep that first night.

Every aspect of life also included you and your boyfriend. You knew before you and Jack had started dating, he was constantly liking other girls bikini pics on instagram. And even though he had stopped doing that, you’d still seen tweets from his fans in the past joking about how he was “always at the scene of the crime” with a screenshot of his like on a picture of the most beautiful woman you’ve ever seen. And while you tried to ignore it, you noticed of a pattern with all the girls. They looked a lot like the icons from your childhood. Nothing like you.

So now, late at night, when you were supposed to be having quiet and sweet moments with your boyfriend; your boyfriend that you didn’t get to see very often at that! You spent those moments thinking about those stupid likes on those stupid pictures of those stupidly beautiful girls.

And as for you, the comments had really gotten to your head. Even when you weren’t with Jack and you weren’t on your phone or in your childhood room. You still found someone to compare yourself to. It was like some kind of superpower.

and i bought all the clothes that they told me to buy

i chased some dumb ideal my entire life

and none of it matters and none of it ends

you just feel like shit all over again

Was this silly? It feel silly.

This didn’t feel like you but a change was needed.

Jack (and Luke) had been hanging out with the team all day and you had the day off. You had decided to spend the time alone shopping for clothes that you would’ve never worn before this past month and a box of blonde hair dye.

“We’re home!”

Luke’s voice rang through the apartment, snapping you out of your trance that you were in while staring out the box of hair dye taunting you on the bathroom counter.

“Y/n?” Now it was Jacks voice that made its way through the apartment.

“Bathroom!”

You could hear his footsteps come closer to the bathroom door before a knock on the door, hesitating before opening the door before him. He slipped in before locking the door behind him.

“I was gonna jump in the shower if he wanted to join me.” Jack told you, his hands sliding around your waist with his back to the door. Naturally, your hands slipped around to rest behind his neck, forgetting about the hair dye sitting on the counter.

“I think I’m gonna have to pass this time—”

“You’re gonna dye your hair?” Jack cut you off, his eyes focused behind you.

“Oh- Yeah, I just, um, wanted a change I guess.”

Jack didn’t say anything or take his eyes off of the box of hair dye. He didn’t buy it for a second but he just didn’t understand. How could you not see how beautiful you were. Jack had known the comments were bad, he just didn’t realize they were getting to you this badly. He looked back to you, who had a guilty look in your eyes. Jack sighed before moving you over to the counter, placing you next to the box.

“Baby, if you really want to dye your hair blonde, go for for it. But I don’t think you want to.” You couldn’t even look at him. You felt embarrassed that you’d been confronted about how out of hand these insecurities have gotten, even if it wasn’t really your fault. You felt like a child being scolded. “I know we’ve talked about this before but you really have to listen to me this time okay, babe?”

Jacks hand came up to your chin, gently pushing your head up to make eye contact with him.

“You’re the most gorgeous woman I’ve ever seen. I mean that. All those assholes just want to find someone to hate more than themselves and I’m sorry that dating me has made you a target for that. But blonde hair dye isn’t gonna make them stop. I’ll say something— I should’ve said something sooner but I’ll do it now. Just- Just don’t change for them because they won’t ever be happy. Pretty isn’t pretty enough for them, okay?”

You were crying now. Because you knew he was right and you were upset you had let them drive you crazy. You continued to cry as your boyfriends arm came around your frame. You uttered apologies, not quite sure for what, while his hand rubbed your back.

After a while, your tears stopped and Jack pulled away. “I love you. And I told you, if you really want to go blonde, go for it. I mean, you’ll look hot either way—”

“Jack!”

“Okay, okay. Blonde or no blonde.” He asked with a small smile on his face, holding up the box of hair dye.

“No blonde.”

Jacks smile grew as he threw the box into the trashcan. His hands slid down to your thighs, picking you up and wrapping your legs around his waist.

“So… can we get that shower now?”

[phanfictioncatalogue]

Meeting Past/Future Self Masterlist

baby i’m howell-in’ for you (ao3) - itsmyusualphannie (itsmyusualweeb)

Summary: slapping your past self as soon as you see them probably isn't the best first impression. does meeting yourself even count as a first impression, though?

“Jesus fuck,” Dan huffed.

“What?” demanded the younger Dan, scowling up at him. “As if it isn’t weird to see my own face staring at me? But like, older and wrinklier?”

Confident (ao3) - letspartyrightnow

Summary: 2009!Dan pops up and it's up to 2017!Dan to show him the ropes to success: Confidence. (Also Phil is there, too.)

Don't You Dare (ao3) - gerardopoly

Summary: On one seemingly ordinary afternoon, Dan is met with a knock at his shared apartment’s door to someone he was not expecting in the least. Certainly there must be a reason why his twenty-one year old self has suddenly appeared from three years ago. And boy, do the two have a lot to say to each other.

2012x2015 based on Phantheraglama's art on tumblr

Experience is key (ao3) - ottertrashpalace

Summary: On a fateful late-night walk, Dan happens across two oddly familiar young men in the park.

Fuck The Past (Dan vs Phil vs Daniel) (ao3) - phandomsub

Summary: Daniel and Phil decide to mess around with a book of spells for their new video. It’s all just a good laugh, until they somehow end up transporting 18-year-old Dan from 2009 into 2017. The only logical solution is: threesome.

i must admit, i can't explain (ao3) - itsmyusualphannie (itsmyusualweeb)

Summary: dan's past self returns. dan and phil do a pretty terrible job figuring out what's going on.

“Are you real?” asked Dan.

“Of course I am. You’re the ones that aren’t real.”

“I’m real!” said Phil, offended.

It Came To Me In A Dream (ao3) - serendipnpipity

Summary: Working at Asda has its perks. He may not be the happiest to help, no matter what the words cheerfully emblazoned across the badge affixed to his shirt insist. He is, however, happy to be a nosy little prick who uses his employee privileges to inch closer and closer to the arguing pair until maybe they notice and tell him to bugger off.

It’s 8:30 am. He could use a little drama.

***

Or: Dan of 2009 meets Dan of 2024.

Maybe It's The Year (ao3) - embarrassing_myself

Summary: Dan turned around for a second and suddenly 2009 Phil has replaced his own Phil. While Dan is worried about the Phil from his own timeline, 2009 Phil has other things in mind. Which isn't always a bad thing.

Not Quite Home (ao3) - omgdatphantho

Summary: 2009!Phil meets 2016!Dan.

sleep on the floor, dream about me (ao3) - noxhsw

Summary: it's 2009. the second day of dan and phil hanging out together irl.

phil refreshes his youtube, only to mysteriously see the 2024 dan and phil games channel on his screen.

they decide to look through their future channel, introspection ensues

Time is an Illusion (ao3) - orphan_account

Summary: What happens when 2012 Dan meets 2015 Phil?

(and vice versa~)

Time is on our side (ao3) - Mysticallykai

Summary: In 2010, AmazingPhil decided to make a video trying to time travel. He ends up meeting his boyfriend Dan in the year 2023 as well as himself, and he has a lot of questions.

We will be okay (ao3) - orphan_account

Summary: Dan and Phil just returned from their tour and want to relax. But then suddenly out of nowhere 2012!Dan pops up which leads to interesting conversations.

We'll Be Okay (ao3) - analester

Summary: the fic where 2012!phil is struggling with dealing with the way 2012!dan’s treating him, and 2017!dan comes and comforts him

you are the choice i'll keep making (ao3) - maybeformepersonally

Summary: In a universe where soulmates travel forward in time once in their lifetime to be with their bonded and solidify their relationship, 23-year-old Phil jumps forward to 2019.

[skullfaced-fruitcake]

gay people meeting up for brunch look like this (in my fix-it fic world this is true)

no pressure @lcverrgirl @lemon-lime-slush @hoya-carnosa3 & open tags :3

New tag game!

Rules: eblog this post with the last photo you saved to your gallery with 3+ ppl and caption it with "gays meeting up for brunch look like this"

Gays meeting up for brunch look like this

Ntps: @l0veu2themoon @messrsbyler @italiantv @hazmatazz @bylersbear01 @foodiewithdahoodie @mikeslawyer @howtobecomeadragon @moderatelyluckypenny @myfriendmike @microwaveonwheels

[aroace-menace]

A friend recently told me that relationship anarchy was a “chronically online” term, and I wonder if any aspecs have had similar experiences. Because yes, a lot of the terminology I use to define myself is from the internet, but a large part of that is because I know so few aspecs irl. It must be easy to scoff at “chronically online” people when half the people you know share your identity. It is so much harder for those of us who’s orientations aren’t talked about or even known about to find spaces to be ourselves. I wish I knew more aspecs outside of tumblr, but I’m also infinitely grateful for the community I have found here, and for everything I have learned. I am proud of what I have done here. So maybe stop using chronically online as an insult.

[sasheneskywalker]

tumblr batfandom diagram

in honor of my second anniversary of joining the tumblr bat fandom i present to you this chart describing my observations (this is slash j, i tried to make it humorous and as even as possible)

[reads comics/doesn't ship batcest:

often looks down on fanon only fans

hates wfa

while trying to correct fanon misconceptions often overcompensates and creates an equally fanon take just in the opposite direction

incessantly complains about people mischaracterizing their faves and the general state of the fandom

has dozens of comic panels saved so they can whip them out when arguing about canon with somebody

has one blorbo they adore and one they viciously hate; every meta post will be skewed in favor of their fave but they will never admit that

posts great reading lists 👍

doesn't read comics/doesn't ship batcest:

thinks bats are a nuclear family

“bad dad bruce is ooc actually 🥺”

says “dc stands for disregard canon” but doesn’t know enough about canon to even begin disregarding it

loves wfa

the most godawful headcanons known to mankind

the most popular fics on ao3 are written by them

has one batboy that they woobify to the extreme

onyx? harold? jean-paul? who are you talking about?

overlooks female and non-white bat characters most of the time

includes non-bat characters (wally, roy, kon, jon, slade) only so they can ship them with their favorite batboy

a beginning stage for a lot of people entering the fandom

reads comics/ships batcest:

a rare category

every serious analysis of a complicated canon relationship will be filtered through shipping goggles; sees subtext and coding where there’s none

blocked by half of the fandom for shipping batcest, blocked by the other half for complaining about fanon too much

has to be very careful not to say anything weird when talking about dc comics with strangers (especially irl)

often thinks they are better because they aren’t antis AND they read comics

dislikes wfa on principle but appreciates it for the ship fodder

will know a lot more about one half of the ship and mostly focus on them, often to the detriment of the other character being shipped

writes some of the best fanfics in the whole fandom ❤️

doesn't read comics/ships batcest:

migratory slash fandom

ships mostly male bat characters, might rarely post a ship with a female character for diversity’s sake

the most godawful headcanons known to mankind but at least they are horny

flanderizes complex canon relationships so they can fit the generic ship dynamics (grumpy x sunshine, buff jock x twink nerd)

a lot of them are lurkers

the ones that aren’t lurkers post heaps of batcest fanfics and fanart (thank you 🙏)

casual wfa reader]

[wendichester]

Okay, in response to the anon who asked about Dean and his nicknames, what’re your thoughts on Sam? We don’t see him use nicknames in the same way Dean does, but my own personal headcanon is that they’re both pretty similar even in ways they aren’t aware of.

While Dean reserves ‘baby’ for the Impala, I can see Sam using it more commonly for whoever he’s close with. What’re your thoughts on it? I also have no irl supernatural friends to tap with so Tumblr is my escape lol

oh! sam, personally, is a whole different kind of nickname person than dean. where dean's nicknames are effortless and part of his personality, sam's feel more deliberate, more meaningful. i have this perception that sam would be easier to "befriend" and dean often has his guard up more often, but getting to his heart for real? i think it would be so hard to actually get to know the real sam!!!

in the beginning, when things are still fresh and most likely a little bit awkward, I see sam being more reserved. he wouldn't jump straight into a pet name. he'd likely stick to your name, maybe shorten it up if it naturally allows it. but a nickname? those would come slower, and only after you've settled into something real. he's the kind of guy that really thinks about things like that--who doesn't want to cheapen it by using a pet name that doesn't really mean anything yet.

i think, similar to dean, he would start with the basics: sweetheart, darlin'. but so so much softer. he would murmur it against your temple when he pulls you into a hug to comfort you. but I feel like these would be out of habit, because of hearing dean saying them so much. i don't think we even see this kind of affection in the show when he's with jessica. if remember correctly, he only ever throws around jess.

but once he's in deep? that's when the real ones come out. love seems like something he'd use in a way that's so soft it melts you--maybe even my love. angel could be another one, something he uses when he's feeling in awe of you, whispered in those quiet moments when he looks at you like he still can't believe you're his. i also see him use baby or babe but I feel like these would be just basic, standard pet names that he would use out of habit and not in a loving complete starstruck kinda way (if it makes sense???)

overall, to finish my essay about sammy, I do also feel like he would have some inside jokes nicknames. and that unlike dean, he would be comfortable showing affection around others. he wouldn't hide his feelings, but there would still be parts of him that are just for you, obviously. he's still a very reserved guy. but holding hands and soft kisses in front of dean? definitely, even just to get a snarky lil comment out of the big bro ehe

[ashstfu]

How about fighting the urge to start like my fourth tumblr blog after three failed attempts and a broken heart over and over again cause of online friends who simple bailed and one too many tumblr slutty boys who had nothing to offer than jerking off audios and dick pics? The urge is born out of my incessant need to have friends since i dont have any irl and the other murderous one to be someone’s someone since i’ve never been anyone to anyone… how do i fight that one, oh wise Ash?

babe look, tumblr or any online space can be a bandaid for something deeper and i think you know that. you’re craving something real and lasting and these tumblr boys or online friendships don’t cut it because they’re surface level. and lets be honest, those guys offering nothing but. well. that. are barely worth a passing thought.

the thing is, chasing validation or connection from people who are inconsistent or fleeting will always leave u feeling empty. you’ve tried it before and seen how it ends :( i think the hardest part is realizing that the kind of connection you’re looking for isn’t found by starting another blog or letting those guys in again. maybe it’s time to step back from the screen and focus on yourself for a bit. start building something solid ‘within’ before you let anyone else in. take time to really figure out who you are without the distractions, because once you’re grounded, you won’t be as easily swayed by shallow connections. you deserve more than that, so don’t let the loneliness convince you to settle for less.

when it comes to the loneliness. lean into it, don’t run from it. find comfort in ur own company. it’s hard, but once you do, you’ll stop needing validation from places or people that aren’t worth it. quality friendships come when you’re not desperate for them. be patient. take your time. you will find the right people when you’re ready, not when you’re grasping.

[koifly]

Love and appreciate my crp mutuals, especially on Tumblr bc tell me why a lot of people on Tiktok are saying that certain crp characters are bad people, NOT because they’re serial killers, but bc they have mental disorders which aren’t talked properly about in mainstream media.

Somehow they mostly try to justify their behaviour with „that’s how it works irl“, „that’s realistic“, throw around derogatory, offensive and outdated terms that were/are used to stereotype and stigmatise people with mental disorders and use psychological „facts“ which mostly rely on stigmas, stereotypes and fake information, without even TRYING to educate themselves with modern research and haven’t had any experience with people with those mental disorders. Not even experience would be necessary but literally reading through experiences, stories, articles on reliable, accurate sites on the internet would also help.

Wtf.

Also, the argument of „oh, they wouldn’t be nice/ oh, they wouldn’t act like that because they have *insert any stigmatised mental disorder* and people who have it are rude, odd and generally bad people!!!“ ????

I‘m not saying you have to agree with every headcanon or au but justifying your PERSONAL opinion by bringing down and stigmatising people with mental disorders is just really wrong and damaging.

Anyway, I love all my mutuals, yall cool as shit:3

(I‘m not complaining about specific people btw!!)

[five-thousand-loaves-of-bread]

2 and 4!

If you were to write a book (or make other media!) involving disability, what kind of book would you write?

Is there any popular disability theory that you disagree with?

2. book (etc) on disability

ooooo!!!!! feel like much would be like tumblr posts tagged as loaf screm. but more polished! with personal anecdotes but not autobiography - life too weird n not ready tell it all n be scrutinized. would have more societal analysis (like loaf screm tumblr posts) than only memoir about self, but would have live experience weave in narrative so much that not just world analysis.

want talk about much of same thing as tumblr: existing as nonverbal full time AAC n wheelchair user, I/DD, n regression. what it like not be able mouth speak, what it like not be able communicate via language irl majority of time. what it like losing your abilities n feel like stuck in limbo of not belong anywhere bc you not born this way but also you not stay way you born. the exclusion by so many people even people of own community. the disavow n throw under bus n punch down of disability community. how there more than one disability community. how privilege play into disability. so many things.

it something really! really want do!!! fantasized many many times!!! it unrealistic in moment but! maybe some day!!!! shove down people throat force world hear me >:)

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3. disability theory disagree with

this mix of theory itself n how people talk about n use it… but social model.

many people say social model say you only disabled bc society n… that not exactly right. because social model define word bit differently n separate effects of society on you n call that disability, from effects of own body on you n call that impairment. so can’t summarize it as “only disabled by society” when by disability you use common definition of experience in world AND in own body.

but in mean time. my experience of society & my experience of own body mind, not separable. nor want separate them n only call one part disability. because if look at etomology look at prefix look at construction look at dis+ability, my body mind dis my ability too.

n disagree with people who only know of medical n social model n so call social model perfect thing in world n try apply it for everything everyone n call medical model useless n oppressive for all n shouldn’t be used for all.

biopsychosocial model my beloved. but also there so many more disability models beyond these 3! n people experience so wide, no one model going be accurate for everyone in all situations!

n also giving social model a L for phrase itself so terribly.

another thing is disability studies n thus disability theory, suffer from much same problem as talk about on tumblr of social media community. it an echo chamber it elitist. it make you think you write another complicated incomprehensible theory article that keep repeat yourself in most un-plain language ever is you be hyper aware of societal power n solving it.

scholarship n theory have its uses n learn lots from it n use many ideas learn from it in own advocacy here (even if it just 1% n force to throwing away 99% that didn’t understand), but need stop treating like it will single-handedly save world n it itself so woke it so free of problems, that it n authors isolated from societal power dynamics. n other jargon used. especially if those theory stay at theory n not get read n used in practice down on ground by people who do direct work. which, honestly, sound like some of you (academics) aren’t exactly try make this happen you trying keep it locked gatekept bc you keep write incomprehensible things

ask game

[ryans-planet]

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[linskywords]

Weird question but do you have any thoughts on why there aren’t more McDrai fic writers? Like obviously the ones that do are just out of this world but as someone who lives in Edmonton and sees firs5 hand how animated the fan base is, it surprises me that’s it’s not more of a fic juggernaut

Hm, that's an interesting question! It's certainly not an UNpopular ship -- looks like there are 508 works in the ao3 tag. That's a lot smaller than, say, Sid/Geno (3.8K), but that one's been around and popular for SO much longer. I'm not sure 508 works is small for a ship that's mostly taken off in the last half-decade. But I take your point that it could be a lot bigger! I think there are a couple of main factors why it isn't:

Competing ships: MattDrai (975 works) really struck a chord with people in 2020, and that probably took some of the attention that could have gone to Connor and Leon. A lot of the more compelling stuff about McDrai just came to light in the last few years, I think, and so at the time there was nothing to oppose the lure of hot rivals with enemies-to-lovers energy. There was also McStrome (391 works), which had its heyday around/after the 2015 draft and probably prevented McDrai from gaining steam early on.

Fandom demographics: You're right about the Oilers having a huge fanbase, but I'm just not sure that the size of a team's irl fanbase is very relevant to its present in hockey RPF. So many of us found HRPF before we found hockey. We were people who liked fic, who liked RPF in general, who were part of fandom communities in the tumblr sense rather than the sports fan sense, and when we got here our favorite players and teams were determined by the players and teams we read about, which was in turn determined by the narratives that happened to get traction in our fandom's history (see, for example, the boom of Bennguin back in 2014, which vastly exceeded the Dallas Stars' actual portion of the hockey fanbase). So Oilers fans are probably underrepresented compared to their presence and fervor in the actual sports world, and Leon and Connor are less of a juggernaut as a result. But still popular -- and gaining, I think, especially now that Matthew is in Florida and the polycule has been getting so much attention.

Would be interested to know if anyone has any theories to add!

[hyakujuuou]

One thing that I think TikTok achieved better than any other social media app (of my time), and the thing that set it apart from other social media (again, of my time) was that first being the cringe app and then being *the* social media app during the pandemic created a culture of imperfection that actually allowed it to develop its own unique cosplay subculture and be the origin site for somewhere between “a lot of” and “the majority of” the memes of the past 5 years. If I were to narrow down one reason why TikTok is this popular as a social media, it would be the culture of imperfection, and I’m legitimately doubtful that this will carry over to a US-owned TikTok.

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On the other social platforms that I’ve experienced (Google+, YouTube, Tumblr, Instagram, a brief stint with Twitter), there has always seemed to be an expectation that I’m putting my best face forward, and that I’m sort of polishing my words and content, and publishing something that is as perfect as I can manage at that moment.

For cosplay specifically, it is my perception that TikTok successfully developed its own kind of subculture within cosplay as it is done in online spaces, and that it exemplifies the sort of imperfection culture that makes TikTok appealing in a way that Instagram doesn’t. On TikTok, there’s much more of an expectation of imperfection and improvement that allows much more experimentation, less immediate competition, and gives a cosplay stage to people who wouldn’t be able to access conventions for travel or money or ability reasons. On TikTok, I’m not worried about my cosplay being perfect or even being finished— it was common to present works in progress and even to not know what a ‘finished’ version of the cosplay would look like, or if one ever even wanted to finish the build. TikTok was less of a performance in the way that cosplay IRL seems to me and less of a simulation of that performance in a way that IRL cosplay carries onto other social platforms. I think the best ways to describe the energy of TikTok from the reflections posted at shutdown are as a time capsule, a photo album, and a middle school yearbook. Being an app where posting cringe was the expectation for a long time certainly didn’t give TikTok a non-judgemental atmosphere, but there was a sense of community in being cringe but being free.

I think this also reflects in the creation of memes, and also brings in the anonymity aspect of TikTok. On TikTok, people can not only remain anonymous, but aren’t encouraged to use their real names (in the way Facebook and, to a lesser extent, Instagram does) and there’s not as much pressure to connect your profile and content to other media (as with Google+ and YouTube). It wasn’t as connected to other places on the internet (as far as I know I couldn’t directly share an article from a major news source to TikTok the way I could do so via email, Twitter, Facebook). Content posted on TikTok is divorced from reflections of one’s person, in contrast to Instagram, which is much more a place to post snapshots of one’s successes. I think that this, along with the expectation of posting low-effort cringe, gave the app its appeal and unique user culture.

And I don’t know if this is going to be able to exist on a US-owned TikTok, specifically, Donald Trump’s TikTok. In addition to Trump’s ownership driving away a lot of the original “cringe” creators (cosplayers, weebs, furries, visibly queer people, alt people, etc), pro-Trump propaganda forces everybody else willing to post political content to do so in a serious manner, exactly the ‘showing your best face’ that cause other media to be less desirable (or desirable in different ways) than TikTok. When Trump uses his new propaganda toy to amplify his politics, it will push cringe culture either into a small minority of users or off the app entirely. I don’t believe that the same meme culture will be able to continue on Trump’s TikTok, both with the overbearing presence of his social agenda that he’ll be able to push and with cringe culture dying on the app.

And I have no idea what it’s going to do after that. Once it turns into a right-wing echo chamber, it’s going to shut itself off from all other audiences. On an app that pushes Trump-wing propaganda, visibly being anything else will be dangerous to impossible. Once Trump’s right-wing doesn’t have anyone else to mock or criticise, the app will cannibalise itself.

:/