#( community tab ) — nonnie

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okay but imagine subby dazai who loves to be called Princess …🙏🙏🙏

admin ( posted for the first time in a while ) but like, ur so right nonnie omg. he'd be so cute! imagine him being his brat like self, pulling a couple of pranks, pushing buttons he knows he's not supposed to push, the usual. he'd play fight you, knowing damn well he can't win. he's a bit too frail, too thin and small compared to you. there's no way he'd win, but he tries regardless, whimpering when you pin him to the wall.

his right side his pressed firmly to the wall, one leg is keeping him afoot while the other is in your hold. his left side his folded due to your arms caging his leg to his head between your arms. he's completely trapped and under your control, his arms and legs of no use, just like he wanted of course. imagine slowly pushing into him, sighing at the way his walls feel. "you just have to be irritating, hm?" you grit your teeth, buck up into his hole, smiling at the way his dick slumps downwards due to gravity. "i thought you wanted to be my princess? well—then again, princesses tend to be bratty," you whisper, pressing sloppy kisses to his neck, "guess the slipper fits."

dazai whines at the nickname, his cheeks are reddend with blush as he takes your cock like a champ. his hazel eyes catch the way your cock bulges beneath his belly button, and he almost cums from the sight. "come on, princess. be as bratty as you need to," you coo in his ear, "'m right here."

a chuckle leaves your lips when dazai practically yells your name, muttering "mhm"s and "yesyesyes," over and over again. he's a cutie!

[inevitably-johnlocked]

Hey Steph! How are you doing? Not a customary ask, I really do want to know<33

Also could you provide me with some soft Johnlock smut? Like... very emotional, not too graphic, or it could be moderately graphic if it's still emotional but like... not too hard-core, very vanilla, just them desiring and pining and loving and worshipping each other because they can't even believe they get to have this and the moment is sacred and divine, yada yada yada you know the vibe.

I'm guessing you already probably have related list somewhere so you could just link it as well. Best wishes hun.

Hi Nonny!!

Doing alright, could be better but I'm trying my best!

Hmmmmm I can't think of anything EXACTLY, but I will use your ask as an excuse to publish another list!!! YAY!! Hopefully these please you! And as per usual, if anyone has something to suggest, please do!

EMOTIONAL LOVE MAKING Pt 3

See also:

Emotional Love Making || [MOBILE POST]

Emotional Love Making Pt. 2

holding steady by darcylindbergh (E, 12,724 w., 4 Ch. || Post S4, Love Confessions, First Kiss, Growing Old, Gone Fishing, Mood without Plot, Soft Sherlock, Caring Sherlock, POV John Third Person, Anxious Sherlock, First Kiss / Time, Touching, Feeling Old, Sherlock Worship, Crying Sherlock, Cuddles, Comforting, Introspection, Retirement, Hand Holding, Forehead Kisses, Caring John, Bed Sharing, Emotional Love Making) – Sitting on a thick wool blanket at the end of a rickety dock side-by-side, legs dangling over the edge, a styrofoam container of wet, dark dirt between them, they’re fishing. John knows what this is about. This is about finally figuring it out.

Both Sides Now by Silvergirl (M, 14,724 w., 5 Ch. || Post-TEH / Reunion Fix-It, Bed Sharing, First Kiss / Time, Undercover John, Couple for a Case, Assassin Mary, Big Brother Mycroft, Norfolk Coast, Angry John, First Kiss, Worried Sherlock, Pining Sherlock, Hand Holding, Bed Sharing, Alternating POV, Infidelity, Meddling Mycroft, Emotional Love Making, Matchmaker Mycroft) – Sherlock, undercover on the Norfolk coast, texts that he needs help; John is still seething after Sherlock’s gambit in the train car, and he refuses. When Sherlock goes missing, Mycroft sends John in to pose as Sherlock’s bit on the side.

Sunday Evening 6 p.m. by Silvergirl (E, 30,712 w., 6 Ch. || Post-TRF / TEH Divergence, Grief / Mourning / Stages of Grief, Mutual Pining, Dreams, Reunion, Love Confessions, First Kiss / Time, Alternating First Person POV, Smart John, BAMF Boys, Emotional Love Making, Song Fic, Referenced Suicide, First Kiss / Time, Touching, Sleepy Sherlock, Blow Job, Villain Mary) – Six months after Sherlock jumped, he learns that John is dedicating songs to him on a requests-only radio programme. Is John just working through grief? Or is he—communicating? Fixes the hell out of S3 by pre-empting it altogether. Remember, as TAB told us, John is Pretty Damn Smart.

Spare Parts by Raina_at (E, 63,497 w., 10 Ch. || 24th Century / Futurism AU || Post TRF, Pre-TRF Relationship, Case Fic, Mutual Pining, Estrangement, Reconciliation, Science Fiction, Reunion, Nightmares, Angry John, Cybernetic John, Emotional Discussions / Heart to Heart, POV John, Scars, Past Drug Use, Forehead Touching, Emotional Lovemaking, Kissing, Apologies, Kidnapping, Rescue Mission, BAMF John, Bed Sharing, Top Sherlock) – Two years ago, Sherlock Holmes jumped off the roof of New London Hospital. Two months ago, he walked into John's clinic as if no time had passed at all. John hasn't seen him since. But then Sherlock knocks on John's door with a case he can't say no to, and while figuring out why the biggest manufacturer or synthetic limbs in the System is going after veterans, they also need to find out whether there's a way to fix what's broken between them. Part 1 of Realigning Gravity

Swallow the Night by ArwaMachine (E, 87,873 w., 15 Ch. || TSo3/Stag Night Fix It, TAB/S4 Divergence, Toplock, Mutual Pining, PWP, Drunk / Public Sex, Anal Fingering/Sex, Alcohol-Induced Amnesia, Everyone Knows Except Them, Emotional Love Confession, Demisexual Sherlock, Internalized Homophobia [John], Parentlock with Rosie, First Kiss, Drug Relapse, Infidelity, Texting, Masturbation, Oblivious John, Emotional Love Making, Angst with Happy Ending, Dreams and Nightmares) – “Do you know how long,” John panted, his cheek scraping against the wall, looking back at Sherlock through half-closed eyes, “I’ve wanted this?” Sherlock pressed himself against John’s back, biting at John’s ear. “Not nearly as long as I have,” he whispered.

Bakers with Benefits by Raina_at (E, 88,130 w., 14 Ch. || Great British Bake Off AU || Strangers to Lovers, Switchlock, Friends with Benefits, Mentions of Alcoholism / Past Drug Use, Banter, Flirting, Fluff, Light Angst, Semi-Public Sex, Past Sherlock/Victor, Mutual Pining, POV Sherlock, Obsessive Sherlock, John’s Bum) – Sherlock Holmes has a successful YouTube baking channel, but what he really wants is his own bakery. When an old friend sends him a call for the very first Great British Bake Off, he seizes the opportunity to finally win a sponsor for his bakery. Here's the plan: Win Bake Off, get the bakery, don't fall in love with the handsome Army doctor at the neighbouring station. Easy.

Drawn to Stars by Silvergirl (E, 109,272 w., 60 Ch. || S4 Compliant to TLD / TFP Doesn’t Exist, Sherlock’s Italian Adventure, Sherlock/OC and Johnlock, Jealous John, Mutual Pining, Misunderstandings, First Kiss/Time, Idiots in Love, 3 Part Story, Slow Burn, Inexperienced Sherlock, Bottom Sherlock, Introspection, Alternating First and Third Person POV, Separation and Reconciliation, Emotional Love Making, Love Confessions via Letters, Angst with Happy Ending) – After the Culverton Smith case Sherlock is clean, working, and looking for a romantic partner—since John has told him that’s what he needs. Shame John didn’t mention he was interested in that role himself, before Sherlock went off to Rome with a gorgeous Italian copper to try to fall in love and become a complete human being.  Part 1 of the Drawn to Stars series

The Lost Special: Family Matters (As Do Relationships) by ShirleyCarlton (M, 144,688 w., 40 Ch. || S4 Fix It Fic / Meta Fic, Unreliable Narrator, John’s Mind Bungalow, Friends to Lovers, Happy Ending, Demisexual Sherlock, Holmes Family, John Whump, Gay Mycroft, Misunderstandings, Drug Addiction, Parenting, TFP is a Nightmare, Virgin Sherlock, Slow Burn, Minor Character Death, Switchlock, John’s Past, Sherlock’s Past, Eurus, Love Confessions) –Sherrinford is not really the name of some high security prison. That was just a figment of John’s frantic coma dream. And Eurus is not actually Sherlock’s sister. That’s just something random she said to John before shooting him. Sherlock and John were never actually estranged. That was just their act to cover up what really happened to Mary – or Rosamund Moran, as her real name has turned out to be. Sherlock does have a secret sibling, though, and his name is Sherrinford. After finally eliminating Moran – though in a rather dramatically different way than they had envisioned – and exposing the truth about Eurus, John encourages Sherlock to delve into his past and to find out whether the reasons to keep Sherrinford away from Sherlock were the right ones, and to discover what really happened in 1981. Along the way, Sherlock and John gradually, finally, stop keeping each other at a distance, and eventually become a proper family of their own.

Sherlock Holmes Live by emilycare (E, 488,496 w., 73 Ch. || Theatre AU || Immersive Theatre, Romance, Slow Burn, Fake / Pretend Relationship, Fluff, Bisexual John, Demisexual Gay Sherlock, Alternating POV, Falling in Love, Eventual Case Fic, Soft Sherlock, Panic Attacks, Hurt/Comfort, Angst with Happy Ending, Pining John) –  Down on his luck John Watson answers an advert for a paid role in an experimental play. Enter William Scott with a most unusual proposition: help him test run a two person immersive experience, oh and by the way there is sex and romance involved.

[torchflies]

Idea in retired rock star Iceman:

Iceman has retirement ceremony and party, when he retires from navy as admiral. There are in first/last lane of seats bunch of wierd people in black with tattoos and laugting very laud, when admiral steps on podium. And everybody is like “What the hell they are doing here?”.

AHHHH!!!! Nonny, I love this!!!

Absolutely! You just know the greater rock community kept tabs on Kairo Jett and of course his close rock buddies all know where he went. He still goes to concerts under the guise of taking Bradley or one of the flyboys. Of course a bunch of them are going to show up to the big hoity toity admiral events — especially his retirement party! 🎈 That after party is going to be wild 😜

[musette22]

since tumblr has the “communities” tab thing now, would you ever be interested in starting an evanstan community? ❤️

Oohh this is a good question... I kind of like the thought of that, but I'm afraid I don't really understand what the communities thing is and what it does or what would be expected of me 😅 I have been invited to a couple, which I very much appreciate, but I still don't really know how it works 🙈 I'll try and look into it, nonnie! Thanks for the suggestion, in any case 💗

[pedrospatch]

Hey anon, high school bully behavior is anonymously bullying someone, something that YOU are doing.

This type of behavior is what drives people off of tumblr. Why more and more people pack it up and move to ao3 only or quit writing entirely. Keep it up, anon. Watch what happens, what’s already happening.

If you have an issue with someone, handle it like an adult. Not whatever this crap is. What did you think would happen, sending that rude message? That everyone would say oh yeah, this dumbass coward hiding behind an anonymous message is right. What a hero! They’re braver than all of us, bullying Vee online. Christ reincarnated. But you won’t do that, will you?

In the time it took to decide to send a rude message to someone, decide what that message would be, search for Vee’s tumblr, go into her inbox and type it up and press send, you could have done anything else and it would’ve been better. You could’ve said something nice to a friend (assuming you have any. I suppose imaginary ones count, as sad as that is) , you could have taken a few deep breaths. Perhaps made yourself a snack and calmed down. I think best of all, you could have (and should have) shut the fuck up. Never underestimate the value of shutting your mouth, anon. It’s a precious gift.

I hope someone does this shit to you and you can know how it feels. You’re clearly lacking empathy and it’d do you well to learn some. I’ll start you off with two pieces advice - If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Treat others how you want to be treated.

Vee, you are invaluable to this community and you’re worth so much more than you could ever ever know. I hope you know the positive impact you’ve had on me as an individual and countless fucking others, as well as tumblr as a whole. This flaming asshole will only ever be that - a flaming, electrified asshole. A pimple on the ass of the universe. You are a brilliant creator, friend, and member of this community. So much more than whoever this troglodyte is. I know you’re hurting, and I’m hurting for you. I hope you can heal soon. Do something nice for yourself tonight because you deserve it. You deserve it every night.

...i may or may not have had to google the term troglodyte

nonnie, thank you for your kindness, first of all. my emoji tab on my laptop decided she wanted to stop working, so here is this heart for you <33

it's kind of too late to tell you not to waste your own energy in regards to that anon, but really, let's just let them be. i've already wasted enough energy for all of us, and i really, really wish that i had been in a better headspace when that dumb ask was dropped into my inbox. if i had been, i would have just kept sipping my smoothie and writing my silly little story, which is what i had been doing when the notification came in lmao.

they caught me on a night i was already hurting, so naturally, their opinion of me did indeed hurt my feelings, and it sucks, but all the love i have gotten has certainly kept me from crawling into a hole and for that i am grateful. i think i shall take your advice and do something nice for myself tonight. <3

[atomheartz]

hope the night is treating you well! saw you mentioned kurtis conner in your latest post re: cody ko and wanted to take my moment to bring up the thing He is currently rather successfully sweeping under the rug. his (former?) best friend dean hebscher was pictured in blackface early this year, next to his other best friend jacob andrew sharp, at a halloween party where he was allegedly present. his statement about this came in the form of a community tab note where he claimed ignorance, and deleting all his videos with dean (but not jacob, as far as i am aware). this is the third separate controvery dean has been involved in since his time online including a seperate racist incident and instances of homophobic hate speech as well. to reiterate kurtis was also allegedly present at this party, though as far as i know there is no substantial evidence of this. this controvery was more widely talked about than the last two and kurtis is bigger than he was then, so he has publicly cut ties with the guy, but he clearly didn't have a problem the last time his friend was exposed as a racist and i don't know that he really cares now, given the lack of accountability he's shown.

i hope the night is treat you well as well, nonnie!

and wow, this is actually very interesting. truth be told, i was never a huge kurtis fan, so any and all controversies surrounding him are virtually unknown to me.

but you're right in saying that if these things are true, it seems like he doesn't truly care if his friends are caught up in deplorable situations. and it sucks to see because, from my understanding and the few videos i've watched/tweets of his i've read, he tends to call this stuff out when it's other people.

and your point about the statement being a comment on a community tab is also interesting. while he can claim ignorance, and as you said, his presence at the party is alleged, i personally believe that if, in the case of content creators, you've made videos or content with the guilty party, and have had them displayed on your channel for your fans to see, that's where your statement/apology/acknowledgement should also be presented, in video format.

comments can get buried, and things don't remain pinned forever. it's kind of how i believe that an apology needs to be as loud as the disrespect, not hidden away from the public eye.

[phatcatphergus]

While I definitely see how this feels out of nowhere to how qTubbo was feeling, I feel like assuming it was all done to "calm down twitter" and "appease to chat" takes away agency from ccTubbo. He could've just turn down Fred's attempts at reconnecting based on how his character felt, but he didn't. The admin and him noticed a communication issued that wasn't supposed to happen and altered it (doesn't work well with the rp but oh well)

Sure they could've gone about it in a different and more natural way, all your criticisms are really valid. I just don't get why you're mad at twitter/chat as if this isn't a Tubbo choice, he could've just not done it, he wasn't obligated to.

Sorry this isn't supposed to be mean or anything I'm just confused cause this is very clearly something the cc wants, isn't wasn't executed in the best way but at the end of the day it was his choice

Hope you're doing well thought !! English isn't my first language hopefully this sounds fine

No worries nonnie! I always appreciate it and I totally see where you are coming from.

The reason I say the main reason they did this because of chat/twitter is because of how Twitter/chat treated ccTubbo both last night and today. There were a LOT of people that convinced Tubbo that he read the book wrong and then forgot his own lore because he's dyslexic and forgetful. They called him dumb and blamed the whole thing on him when it was a mutual miscommunication.

The thing is that we ALL read the letter the same exact way and we ALL came to the same conclusions so dogpiling Tubbo into thinking HE messed up is absolutely unacceptable.

Now this goes into how the lore played out today. ccTubbo is a grown man who can make decisions himself, that is 100% true. The problem lies in Tubbo making decisions that he wants to make if that makes sense. He has a history of putting his own wants aside to play games that chat enjoys over something he would enjoy more. He's said as much on his alt streams. So for basically all of Twitter and his chat to say that he fucked up, bully him, and straight up call him dumb and that the whole thing was his fault, its not impossible for him to feel like its easier to just go with what chat wants or do smth to fix it and make up for "causing this problem" in the first place.

Also, even though they can fix the miscommunication issue through rp, there's no reason to do it NOW and there's no reason to do it how they did it today. This is a main reason I think it's a "fix-it" for Twitter.

Everything was rushed, OOC, and the whole thing with Ramon knowing Fred was at Tubchunk, Sunny immediately having the tea part reason and tubbo checking the tab list the second Fred logged on makes me think it was planned and planned quickly. There was no reason for Fred to visit or even hear rumors of Tubbo misunderstanding his letter because qtubbo didn't even know he misunderstood it!

At the end of the day, lore and rp and what goes on behind the scenes are more subjective to people than objective. I've just been watching Tubbo for a while and the treatment he's received paired with his past comments brought me to this result.

[buttercupyarnart]

I AM SO SORRY I accidentally clicked "missing community label" when I tried to open your post in a new tab. I hope it doesn't cause any issues.

Hi nonny! I haven't noticed any trouble nor gotten any notifications about it from Tumblr, so I think we're good! Accidents happen 😊

[dentedsporkofficial]

just general vent, but.

Spork is hurting the RP community more than just being a thief and a general asshole.

People will block all the people he interacts with and even if they cut ties with Spork, they will still be blocked. He and other asshole RPers are just separating everyone and making the community feel so small or non existent.

Help me understand here: you're upset that people are blocking those who interact with Spork as they're presumably within his friend circle? (/NM)

If that's what you mean? Then I get where you're coming from but if people don't want to be anywhere near Spork or the people he associates with and interacts with? They shouldn't have to be. It's not a secret he keeps tabs on people through other rpers like Boogey and makes them his mouthpiece. So like if you get your ass blocked for interacting with him then that's a risk you take by interacting with him. Sorry, but that's the truth, nonnie. 🤷 When I block a bitch I'm not going to keep tabs on who they are and aren't friends with in the future. IDGAF cuz I don't have that kind of time.

Guilty by association isn't cool but it's the approach the people hurt by people like Spork sometimes need to take to avoid getting hurt in a similar way in the future. Or getting stalked by the person and their group of asskissers. Cuz that's what people like Spork have as "friends". Asskissers.

[ninoochat]

a what community

Hey nonny. The stupid Tumblr thing, you know? The new tab on the middle. It's like a second dashboard, more boring sdfsdf

[crimsonsongbird]

i know you're a spoonie witch, so what are your favorite low energy devotional things you've done?

Hello, Nonny!

Thanks so much for this question! So for my practice, I rely heavily on low energy devotional acts or offerings, since I almost never have free energy.

A while back, I dedicated my citrus-scented shampoo & conditioner to Apollo. So whenever I wash my hair, I am performing a small devotional act for him. For Mother Hekate, I braid my hair and chant a small prayer until the braiding process is complete. For Father Hades, I save soda can tabs and all my spare change. Every time I pass my altar, I stop and praise the Theoi.

But the biggest part of my practice is music! I make devotional playlists for my deities! They contain songs that remind me of that deity or my relationship with them. Then I'll either sit or lay down and listen to these playlists with my them. Sometimes I'll sing them a song (praise their tolerance of my voice). I'll even do shufflemancy to communicate with them!

Thanks again for stopping by!

~Crimson

[inevitably-johnlocked]

Hey Steph!! Hope life is treating you well ❤️‍🩹 I'm a sucker for music playlist (love yours!) and i was wondering if you know fanfictions with playlist made for them.

Hi Nonny!!!!!

AHHHH Thank you!! I'm happy still have fans of the playlist (which, shameless promo, you can listen to on Spotify (not managed by me) or YouTube (my YouTube channel)!) and that you enjoy it!

Sadly life isn't treating me well, but I'm trying my best to make it through, LOL.

AHHHH what a great concept... severely miss my early fandom days when Song Fics were popular!!! UGGGH!!

One that I know FOR SURE has a Playlist of sorts is this fic:

Sunday Evening 6 p.m. by Silvergirl (E, 30,712 w., 6 Ch. || Post-TRF / TEH Divergence, Grief / Mourning / Stages of Grief, Mutual Pining, Dreams, Reunion, Love Confessions, First Kiss / Time, Alternating First Person POV, Smart John, BAMF Boys, Emotional Love Making, Song Fic, Referenced Suicide, First Kiss / Time, Touching, Sleepy Sherlock, Blow Job, Villain Mary) – Six months after Sherlock jumped, he learns that John is dedicating songs to him on a requests-only radio programme. Is John just working through grief? Or is he—communicating? Fixes the hell out of S3 by pre-empting it altogether. Remember, as TAB told us, John is Pretty Damn Smart.

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AND HAPPILY, I think I can recommend my Song Fics (MFLs) list I made a while ago that you will enjoy as well! It has some suggestions from other Lovelies for fics based on songs, but I don't recall for sure if any of the others have a full playlist for them.

If you have a fic with a playlist, or are an author that has a playlist for their fic, PLEASE suggest it to us!!! I would love to add it!!!

[starrkdani]

Hey Dani! Why do you think Gemini people are considered bad for relatioships? people always say they're unfaithful and two faced, but I've only met very sweet gemini people!

Hey Nonny! You came to the right blog!  * pulls out Gemini moon, Jupiter, and Venus from chart* 

 Let’s get it!

Disclaimers: please remember that are bad people of all signs. Stereotypes are bad. People are more than one placement.  

So... the ever hated sign of the Twins! Why people dislike Geminis?  Let’s talk a bit about this, right?

Adittional Disclaimer : I have a Gemini moon, conjunct Jupiter. LOTS of rambling ahead.

I think... there are some things: 

Let’s start with the basics, ne? 

Gemini is a mutable sign: Mutable signs are... well mutable. They are versatile and adaptable. They are smart. They can do well in many situations. 

Gemini is an Air sign: Air signs are all about communication, stimulation, activity.  Gemini takes an intellectual or mental approach to life. Gemini needs to communicate. It is an intellectual sign, intelligent and fair-minded. It needs constant stimulus. It needs variety.  You know that people who have friends in every social circle possible? That's the Gemini.

Gemini ruler is Mercury, or Hermes, the Messenger God, going places and telling people stuff. This is the perfect Gemini representation.

Now... here’s the thing...  Gemini people need stimuli, variety. novelty, lightness.  

That’s why Gemini people have so many interests: they need that, or they’ll wilt from the lack of stimuli. They do many things at the same time. They are excellent at multitasking. They absorb information like sponges and grow new knowledge, opinions, and tastes over that. 

Gemini lives their life in a rush. They’re everywhere. They are in their heads. They’re in everyone's head, LOL. 

A Gemini’s head... never shuts up. There are aways five tabs open, one of them is playing music (today’s kpop, tomorrow’s heavy metal, yesterday was bossa nova). There is intense mental activity: Studying various subjects at the same time, reading 2 books simultaneously, following too many tv shows. 

And everything is analyzed, and overanalyzed, again and again. Gemini is a nervous, anxious sign, so overthinking is a must. 

However, this is done in the speed of light. Very, very fast. Gemini has forgotten what they said 5 minutes ago. Geminis are scattered, so they jump from subject to subject, from conversation to conversation, too quickly. 

I’ve said this many many times here: A Gemini needs stimulation, variety, communication. All of those are natural in friendships,  and Geminis are the most adorable friends ever, but relationships... relationships are another matter.

Everything goes too fast: They fall in love fast, they fall out of love fast. And, especially with Gemini Moon and Venus, moving on is fast. They’ll analyze things, see what went wrong, and move on.

And this is why Geminis are ‘bad’ at relationships: They move on too fast. It’s hard to make them stay put. Their partner needs to learn how to run with them, or they’ll be left behind.

A Gemini’s parter will never be boring: they’ll be smart, fun, intelligent, clever, youthful. 

There is one thing though: Geminis are charming. They are lovely. They are fun.  And they don’t even notice that! It’s natural for them! It’s hard not to fall for these people. They do have flirty ways, and because they make friends to everyone... lots of hearts might be broken along the way!

They’ll be unfaithful, or two-faced of they’re... some people like to say ‘undeveloped’, or immature,  but I disagree. Astrology is not here to justify people’s mistakes. It’s to show possibilities and tendencies. 

They’ll be unfaithful and two-faced if they’re bad people. 

Happy Gemini Season!

[foxsoulcourt]

Hello! I wanted to know what is your process to write your famous comments, do you use a word processor or one of the built-in tools in AO3? I really like to find them when reading a fic and they are so comprehensive that I got curious about the process. Thanks!

Dear Nonny, Goodness what a lovely compliment wrapped up in your question! You made me blush w/that ‘famous comments’ phrase. There’s a short-enough answer to your inquiry about the technical piece and --SURPRISE!-- a longer one about my philosophy + process of crafting comments under Keep reading.

M a n y (!!!) comments have been created on my phone, but it’s hard + easy to lose or get them scrambled up, so I prefer to use a keyboard. (Ummm, please tell me about those tools built into AO3 because I don’t know about them!) I often comment as I go, cutting/pasting bits while I’m reading either because I like the word-craft, imagery or plot point, and then I slap them into the comments section to organise + respond to when I’ve finished the chapter. If it’s a long or complicated chapter/work I open the work up in two side by side tabs + then scroll down while reading in one + type comments in the other.

This isn’t technical, but/and it’s important enough to keep ‘above the fold’: my guiding principle for comments is the same as how I seek to show up in fandom: always encourage others. 

Ready for the philosophy + process part?  Grab a cuppa tea, cuz --boy howdy!-- once I started thinking about this, I had a lot to say.

STRATEGY The aspects I keep my eye on when reading are: power dynamics between characters, signposts of emotional growth, the many types of intimacy (beyond  sexual), beautiful metaphors or phrasing + things which make me laugh out loud. When reading sexy times I look for what we learn about each character in those moments. What makes them blush? Revs them up? Frightens or concerns them? Surprises and/or delights them? 

Overall I enjoy the experience of being surprised or learning something new about characters; I love it when authors highlight an idea, trait, motivation or choice I hadn’t previously thought of understood. All of the above are usually what I highlight back to the author. 

Hmmmm, why did I blush over the phrase “your famous comments”?

CONFESSION Until I got to know @fuzzballsheltiepants through Back to the Start, I was really embarrassed about them. Why did they have to be so long?!! Why did I feel the need to quote long passages back to the authors? They already knew their work, why repeat it to them?! Why couldn’t I write concise, sassy comments like so many others?! And what about the times I didn’t feel like writing long comments? Was I disappointing the author (or maybe they were relieved)? Honestly, I was afraid people might be laughing behind my back. O O F. The stories we tell our sweet selves until we decide to be who we are, not who we think others want to be. 

BACKSTORY When I got quiet to figure out why DO I write such long comments, it came down to what was going on in my life when I got into fandom. Our daughters had both just left for college in two different states + I went back to FT work at a job I thought would be a decent enough match. It was + wasn’t. I learned a ton, but/and my work partner + boss were incredibly challenging. I help people + orgs navigate change. They told me they hired me to help them do such a thing, but it turns out they wanted me to write great emails + make effective slide decks. HO HUM. I haven’t had many jobs I didn’t enjoy; this was one.

It was a disorienting time and I was utterly disoriented.

When our kids were growing up I was a youth minister in my home faith community. (Uh, and yes, ofc it’s a community which supports LGBTQIAP+ justice, among many other justice issues) C+H grew up in a multi-generational village + around a lot of teens. They saw their Mama doing what she loved + was very good at. The girls just finished 6th grade (11 y.o.) when I left ministry. Even though sometimes it was REaL L y challenging (puleez, guiding + mentoring two very different humans who were both the same age?!!! During adolescence?!!!), I enjoyed being P R E S E N T for our daughters in ways I did not experience growing up + I know not many teens get to experience. It was a gift + also a responsibility which I took to heart. 

After catching on sleep for almost a year (I’m NOT joking), I went to grad school and learned the formal theories + practices about what I have been doing since I was a teenager: helping people + groups navigate change. Grad school was A KICK!  By the time the girls went off to college I had a consulting business. When Mr FSC + I came back to the emptier home, my identity shifted from Mama/Youth Mentor/Household CEO (all jobs I loved + am very good at) to whatever the next chapter was going to be. I decided getting a FT job working for someone else would help pay those tuition bills. I remember feeling so.under.appreciated at work. UGH. It took about 18 mos there before That Whole Experience began to negatively impact my health + I ended up going on medical leave and then quitting. It didn’t help that even during the interview process I KNEW there were a lot of red flags. I own it: I chose to overlook them because HELLO?!!! 2 kids in college! I decided to take the money + deal w/the other stuff as it came up.

THE GIFT OF FANDOM However --thank goodness-- about six months into that job I joined the Tumblr village, the AFTG fandom + dove into AO3 under ZinniaGirl and ZinniaGirl2Woman or something like that. Nearly every day when I went into the office every formatting + word choice was consistently critiqued. I’m a decent writer + this totally threw me off my game. (understatement!)

Ahhhh, but writing for fandom?!! IT WAS + CONTINUES TO BE A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT + WONDERFUL EXPERIENCE!!! Here I could stretch my legs + enjoy writing WHENEVER + HOWEVER I wanted to. I decided to make up my own rules. Early on I knew I wasn’t going to be a prolific author, but that didn’t mean I couldn’t work on the craft of writing. Quickly comments + Tumblr posts became my contributions to the fandom. Enough people responded positively that I kept up with both. Over time I’ve gained acquaintances, some really close friends, all while continuing to learn more about the craft of writing from some of the best in our fandom who also happen to be top drawer human beings.

YA YA YA, SO HOW DO I COME UP WITH THOSE “famous” COMMENTS? (I’m still giggling over that word!)

When I start reading a fic, I sink into the author’s world

I start noticing whatever they notice about the charaters we love

Next comes the strategy (above)

Add in having fun 

Sprinkle in encouragement, esp for first time writers or writers having a hard time

Sometimes I’m writing a analytical literary essay, other times they’re love letters

Sometimes I’m so moved I can’t combine words into a sentence 

No matter the style, early on I decided to E N J O Y the experience of being part of this GLOBAL, NETWORKED, CREATIVE, COLLABORATIVE, SUPPORTIVE village. It has been one of the greatest gifts of my life in the past decade.

WHAT ABOUT YOU DEAR ONE?!!

What do you love about reading + commenting on fics? What thrills you about being part of the fandom? Grab your magic wand + tell me what you wish could change about it. Which guiding principle(s) are the guardrails of your participation?  

Thanks for asking such a great question + being patient while I dumped out all of this content, sorted through it + then decided what to share. 

Here’s to fandom friends, those we know + those we do not know...yet.

Love,

Cory / foxsoulcourt

[nickelkeep]

What are some signs that a boyfriend is cheating ??? I suspect mine is

Oof, first and foremost, if it turns out that he is, my apologies. Monogamous or Polyamorous, cheating is a big no-no.

That being said, the case is going to be different for everyone. Take what I say with a grain of salt, and push for communication between the two of you. I know of the times that I was cheated on (mind you, the last time that happened, I was in college) were complete opposites.

The first time I was cheated on, the ex was caught red-handed by friends and told to tell me immediately or they would come and tell me. He called me as soon as he was back from Show Choir Camp and told me. He met a girl at camp, and they were going to get married as soon as they graduated high school. I don’t know how that would have turned out, but I know I dodged a bullet. The second time I was cheated on, I noticed an extreme change in personality. My ex had suddenly become more needy, wanted to spend more time with me, he told me that he loved me... Weird as it sounds, that was the biggest red flag. 

The last time I was cheated on, I was ghosted. We went from texting non-stop, calling each other when we were free, to me having to hunt them down. Believe it or not, I am a very non-confrontational person, but when the person I love was suddenly going from constant communication to none, call me paranoid. Okay, sorry. You came to ask for signs, and I went off with my history.

The one thing that the last two have in common is the extreme change in personality. The quiet, aloof boyfriend became loving, loud, and affectionate. Then the loving, talkative SO disappeared and went radio silent. Again - I would push for more communication either way, so don’t assume if there is that significant change that it’s automatically that they’re cheating. 

I also don’t want to assume that you are or aren’t sexually active. If you are, and not using barriers, I would go get tested. That’s usually a surefire way to check.

Finally, if you have access to financials, or openly talk about finances, extreme changes in spending can also point to possible cheating. I’m not talking about one-off things either, shit happens. I’m leaning more towards “Hey Babe, can you cover the tab?” more than it had happened before. Two relationships are expensive.

Again, I’m by no means a professional. This is just stuff I’ve noticed from personal experience and friends’ experiences. I highly recommend pushing for more communication. If he has nothing to hide, he’ll be game for it. If he does... well, I’m hoping that’s not the case for you, Nonnie. Sending you all my love. <3

[imagine-loki]

Hey just a quick question: will you post imagines or submitted fics that contain endgame spoilers? And if so will it be tagged accordingly? I want to know if I need to block this blog until I've watched it

Fear not, Nonny, Imagine Loki is a spoiler free zone. 

I have made posts on this in the last two weeks but I have no issue with saying it again if it gives you and other followers peace of mind. 

For the next two weeks, though Imagine Loki will accept End game posts, there will be none published for 2 weeks to allow people to see the movie. After 2 weeks, there will be a further 2-3 weeks where all spoilers will be published but will be tagged and under "read more" tabs to prevent those who have not seen it from seeing them. 

Anyone found putting spoilers in the notes will be blocked immediately. Imagine Loki is a community and those who want to make it negative for others are not welcome. 

I hope this puts your mind at ease,

-Wolfpawn.