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bananonbinary · 1 year ago

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also worth noting that "abusive" doesn't actually mean "irredeemable" either.

there's a lot of people that have done things in the past that were bad, because they weren't taught any better, or they were in an overall toxic situation where EVERYONE was shitty (like a cult), or they were just at an especially low point and hurt others for it.

you don't have to forgive them. you don't have to ever speak to them again. you can be angry with them until you die if you want.

but society cannot function if we don't allow them to move on. to change their behavior and fuck off somewhere else and build meaningful relationships without bothering you again. we need a path for people to change, or nothing ever will.

#like re: the last post #npd SHOULDNT mean 'youre an abusive person'#but also people who have abused people in the past can still become better people in the present #you know?#and as i metioned vaguely in that post. the way we currently treat people with NPD probably CAUSES THEM to lash out at and abuse others #if u abuse someone they lash back out at you and suddenly theres fun mutual abuse happening #so they need a way out of that cycle

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uncanny-tranny · 11 months ago

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I think so many people are so deeply alienated from themselves that they have no clue how to exercise their free will and autonomy. For some, this alienation runs so deep that they are afraid of their own autonomy and humanity. It is completely understandable why one would have those feelings, but it can be worrisome.

I want to help others who feel this way, so here are small things I have done to exercise my free will:

Add "guilty pleasure" songs to playlists and actually listen to them (I have a ton of late 1990s-early 2000s music I listen to now proudly that I never listened to in the past out of shame)

Getting the décor item, bath set, bed spread, ect. in the patterns you like, even if it's "childish" (I got a dinosaur-themed wastebasket from the kids' décor section and I adore it)

Taking a new route to get to a place you go to often

Eat dessert first

Celebrate well, and often

Collect things that are "odd" or don't seem like an "acceptable" thing to collect (somebody on my "for you" page collects dandelion crayola crayons and it was so cool!!!!!!)

Incorporate one new piece in an outfit you wear frequently (e.g., a new chain, a necklace, ribbons, bracelets, ect.). Challenge yourself to add onto the outfits if you feel up for it.

Sing along to songs without worrying that you sound "good" or your intonation is completely accurate

Read a book from a genre you weren't allowed to read as a kid (comics, thrillers, mysteries, anything!)

Walk without having a specific destination or goal

Pick up a new craft without expecting yourself to master it or to ever be "good" enough. Get your hands messy.

I don't want to shame anybody for not feeling as though they have free will or that they are exempt from exercising it. However, I wanted to give ideas so that you might read this list and find your own ways to express your intrinsic autonomy and will. You deserve to be a person, to feel alive, not just living. That is what our lives are for.

#mental health #mental health support #positivity #if anybody has ideas of their own definitely include them!#i just think being stuck with this feeling that you don't have autonomy and that you ultimately aren't an equal person or a person at all..#...in comparison to other people can be a really troubling and dangerous place to be in...#...and that isn't the person's fault for feeling that way. they didn't pluck those thoughts out of thin air...#...like i have felt that exact way all my LIFE because i have been abused for. probably 2/3s of my life...#...only within these past few years have i even FELT alive. frankly it's going to take a while to repair what i have been left with...#...so i know the feeling and i want to help others feel even a LITTLE bit alive. you deserve it...#...you deserve to take in a deep breath before slowly realizing 'oh my gd this is what it feels like to be alive' and SMILE about it #i want that for you even if it is brief. even if it is small. even if it is a whisper. i want you to feel alive #unironically getting rid of the idea of 'guilty pleasures' has made my life SO much better

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fruit-trio-kins · 8 months ago

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siffrin in stars and time color picked trans flag /j

Hiya! Bit confused by this, what does the /j mean in this context..? Is this a request?? /genq

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#mod 🍊#not a request #← i think?#incomplete request #← probably better

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chloesimaginationthings · 1 month ago

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How Jeremy Fitzgerald survived the FNAF bite

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cup-o-stars · 5 months ago

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Here's a rushed, nothing post that got away from me...

Green is my favorite color.

#one piece #fanart #drawing #roronoa zoro #zoro #tony tony chopper #usopp #monkey d. luffy #luffy #cat burglar nami #nami #sanji #canonically they PROBABLY know better than to take his things #everyone thinks zoro is cool #some deeper down than others

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zillychu · 2 months ago

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get MOLTED, idiot

#genshin impact #venti #jean gunnhildr #zilly art #could he just use the wind to help? probably yeah #is he smart enough to do this? absolutely not #he either always got dvalin to lick it better. or liyue's water system get clogged #venti tries rubbing himself all over morax like a cat trying to get burs off but that rarely works #rip diluc's place would also be covered in feathers and a whiny archon #venti excuses himself to the bathroom mid-performance at angel share and promptly tells diluc he's got a mess to clean up in there #goes back to singing and drinking #diluc frantically stuffing feathers in a bag #he and jean ponder if they could make pillows with the down? sorry the pillows curse your dream with The Edlritch Horrors

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adyophene · 9 months ago

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I just wanted to draw a little bit more DnD AU familiar Husk and Sorcerer (or Warlock?) Alastor!

#hazbin hotel #hazbin art #husk #alastor #i saw some people who probably know DnD better than me say Al suits being a warlock better and- man #they were so right how did i miss that

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pangur-and-grim · 7 months ago

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oh Pangur….

#she’s is sosososoosososso scruffy #probably when she’s feeling better she’ll start grooming herself again #also anyone who reblogs or comments with Helpful Advice will be blocked. I’m sorry.#assume that I am aware of every cat grooming technique you are and that if I’m not using them there is a reason for that

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hinamie · 3 months ago

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#my art #jujutsu kaisen #jjk #jjk fanart #jujutsu kaisen fanart #gojo satoru #satoru gojo #geto suguru #satosugu #jjk gojo #eye strain/#eye horror/#like i said ik this concept has been done before and probably better than this but i hope that i did it Okay #i hope all the eye strain was not in vain gjhfgsh the amount of blue light in this image is not recommended by doctors #smh gojo ipad baby confirmed #too much screentime.png #in other news im happy i came up with smth else 2 put alongside the piece itself !!#was playing around with filters and effects and i was like ooh what does the binarization button do #makes it look like found footage is what it does i love it SO much #i almost like it better than the coloured version but i would rather die than let a day and a half of rendering go to waste #esp after i already scrapped the intended p2 #still i would have posted the full b/w one side by side but it made the post look so busy and distracting and awful #so it's just geto's face ig smile :)#happy i stuck it out w this!!!#fr all i dunk on gojo gdi his aesthetic n design works so well with glitches and messed up technology #tb to tht other gojo + teal + glitches piece i did frever ago captioned smth like 'watch what you eat'#the glitch brushes in my inventory exist fr him and him alone

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fudgecake-charlie · 4 months ago

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Dinner at Grian's

#art out the oven #grian #hermitcraft #artists on tumblr #<- this is the most 'artists on tumblr' piece i've made‚ i deserve to tag it /lh #I will reblog this with thoughts and process tomorrow probably. i spent 19 hours on this i'm allowed to ramble a little as a treat <3 #edit: made the big image a little better quality hopefully this doesn't take a year to load for people

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aerequets · 4 months ago

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I want anya to be a short queen. like loid and yor are both relatively tall, and any possible future kids kinda inherit that, but anya remains at anklebiting level. as she should

edit: apparently my handwriting is illegible. Anya's height says 5'0, NOT 5'6. I also put their cm heights (I could insert a joke about Americans not knowing metric systems or reading but I am an American too so alas)

#no name for the forger boy lol #also yeah bond is infinite years old what about it? WHAT ABOUT IT?#my left wrist is hurty :( hopefully its better when i wake up otherwise i should probably stop drawing with it.... sigh #spy x family #my art #loid forger #sxf #yor forger #twiyor #anya forger

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egophiliac · 4 months ago

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(looks at upcoming card releases)

I'm in danger :)

#art #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland spoilers #stage in playful land #stage in playfulland #smoking #my favorite horrible crime guys are back!!!!#(my hot take is that glomas had a better story but these goobers were just SO fun)#(they should be allowed to kidnap and murder(?) at least a few dozen people. as a treat.)#man i knew there was probably going to be a fellow card and yet i still did a bad job of saving my keys #and there's this year's halloween to think about too!#normally i try to avoid leaks and spoilers but i did accidentally see some stuff and if it's real then holy SHIT #on the other hand fellow attacks by basically throwing gidel at people and i desperately need this on my team #regardless of whether or not the card is actually any good #(if they change the animation to remove gidel i am going to RIOT it needs to be either exactly the same or EVEN SILLIER)#actually it would be hilarious if their stats were terrible. just the worst. and yet...#grown man and his kid with a hammer vs a bunch of teen wizards who can shoot fire #the results may shock you #(if they do the same duos-with-the-last-release as they have been with the staff cards then i will absolutely lose it)#(please twst. it would so useless to me but SO funny)#fellow: it's showtime rollo! :)#rollo: who are you

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deecotan · 5 months ago

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classic dad joke

#one piece #roronoa zoro #chopper #deeco art #idk if this is a well-known dad joke but it is in my place #probably sounds better in indonesian #'ikut ayah yuk' 'ayoo mau kemana' 'ke wc'#its zoro and chopper's silly time :)#dont worry about zoro's swords that just magically disappeared on the last panel

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beggars-opera · 1 year ago

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The fact that the Boston transit system has been a garbage fire for so long that our mascot is a sad little man who is literally stranded on the train until the end of time due to a fare increase. Charlie's desiccated corpse has been riding this train since the 1940s and everyone just sort of rolls with it it this point

#boston #history #music #I also love that the songs ends with Charlie's wife throwing a sandwich through the window every day #instead of the train fare #because she was probably better off single

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kaleidoscore · 7 months ago

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