#<- and sex repulsed

[welcometo79s]

The best way I can describe to an allo person how you feel about sex as a topic as a sex-repulsed or averse asexual is that it feels like a hype that never ends. As though Despicable Me came out and everyone around you was sending minion facebook memes to each other for years to come. The stores are full of minion themed products; they're in ads and your friends talk about them all the time. And deep in your heart you're like "I'm glad that they're able to enjoy something I personally don't like and am not interested in :3". But there is always this little voice in the back of your head that's like "If I have to see ONE MORE of these little yellow FUCKERS today then God help us all." You make an active choice to communicate only the former.

[h4zardousch3micals-m]

By the way "some aroace people still date and have sex" and "it's weird how internet spaces makes every single aroace character romance and sex favourable" can and should co-exist. Sincerely, an aroace person

[aroaceenjolras]

Anyway, fellow sex-repulsed aces with moral OCD that might be triggered by the "you MUST be horny and write porn and be sexual or else you're functionally a conservative" wave on this site, because I know it's making mine act up something fierce:

No you don't

Your discomfort with sexuality and sexual themes is morally neutral and does not make you even remotely similar to Moms for Liberty

Porn is not the only thing they're trying to censor

Porn is not the only thing they're trying to censor

One of the most challenged books of the 2020s so far is Gender Queer by Maia Kobabe, a memoir of a trans AROACE person

You do not need to write or draw things that trigger you to be a politically progressive artist

You do not need to be sexual to be a good person

You have stories that need to be told too, and your stories are as vital to fighting censorship and protecting free expression as any other queer story

We're all in this together and together is the only way we're all getting out of it

[bloggingboutburgers]

...Please don't let this be the moment where I learn that against all of my preconceptions, most people actually LIKE pornbots

(...Also I'm drawing this as humor, purity culture don't co-opt me, yadda-yadda-yadda. Just ace shower thoughts.)

[theowritercal]

Having some thoughts about compulsory sexuality, especially how posts about sex positivity vs censorship have an unfortunate tendency to cast people who are less willing to engage with sex as the cause and the symptom of puritanism when puritanical people are usually pretty pro-sex (within very narrow parameters that they weaponize against everyone else).

Tl;dr: Ending stigma around sex = Good. Implying less sexual people are losers / bad queers / oppressors = No thanks.

[satsuj1n]

this site's userbase is so sex positive that it circles back to being aphobic sometimes.

[neptune-scythe]

shout out to repulsed aces and aros who have no safe spaces in fandom because it's just everywhere you turn and it's in all the fanarts and all the fanfics and all the posts except for like ... 5% TOPS.

shout out for enduring the horrors every day for the few rare posts that have nothing to do with sex or romance

[sickness-stricken]

In honour of pride month, it is your civic duty to stop using “aroaces can still date!” as justification for your fanfic where a canon aroace character is frenching the hot twink of the cast

[panic-flavored]

Asexuality is funny sometimes

[sortingmyideas]

If you hear of a character being romance/sex repulsed and your first thought is to try to debunk or ignore it, fuck you.

If you hear of a character being aro/ace and your first thought is to say it's not canon because it wasn't explicitly stated in the media they're in (even if it was confirmed by the creator), fuck you.

If you hear of a character being romance/sex repulsed and your first thought is to say that character is boring/lonely/sad/evil because of that, fuck you.

It's almost comical how fandom is largely filled with people who claim to support aro/aces until their favorite character happens to be aro/ace. Then it's every excuse under the sun to ignore that or better yet, claim it's not canon.

A lot of you don't give that same treatment to gay characters, so you might wanna figure out why you're so okay with doing it to these ones.

[chamiryokuroi]

What level of asexual is it when you do have a sex drive but also never want to have sex yourself?

Because personally I’m like, reading/watching/drawing sex stuff? Absolutely, give me 10 of them,

Having sex with another person myself? No thank you.

[redstonedust]

i think im one of the funnier types of acearo because i think sex is awesome but kissing? awful disgusting experience 0/10 would not reccomend. i get grossed out even trying to reminisce on the times ive tried it. fanfiction makes it sound so much better than it is in reality. mouths dont even taste good.

[fun-k-boards]

M'LORD M'LORD PEOPLE ARE ASSUMING THE HUMAN EXPERIENCE REVOLVES AROUND SEX AGAIN

[the-demonhaj]

[lgbtqtext]

[weepingfireflies]

I'm actually not particularly fond of the romance/sex-favorable/neutral/repulsed division as, like, a permanent identity for me because somedays I'm frolicking in romance and smut & other days I want to explode the world if I see ppl even mention a ship at all. I think it's good for a lot of people, but it doesn't really work for me unless I'm feeling repulsed or neutral or favorable

Edit: Everyone who saw this that was wondering if there was a word for this: I've been informed about the term sex/romance-ambivalent. I suggest searching it up. Thank you to the people who mentioned it, but please stop trying to label me. Whether I decide to personally use it as a label is up to me.