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Sadness

Another vampire caught out by the increasingly-early sunrise in Australia 😭

Folks please check sunrise times before you go out for the night

~~~REBLOG TO SAVE AN UNLIFE~~~

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Astarion: You know what I always say, darling

Wyll: Don't touch me?

Astarion: No, the other thing

Wyll: Let's go kill somebody?

Astarion: 🙄 Keep a Blade close, you twit

Wyll: 🥰🥰🥰

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I love this exchange.

I've loved it for years.

Here's what I'd add.

The VERA framework is great, but when using it outside its usual context, I'd add a D at the start.

D = Decide.

Decide whether you want to engage.

You don't often have a choice with dementia patients, because they're in deep need now and they don't have the resources to work through things by themselves, or to ask in a respectful way. And if you're talking to dementia patients, this is probably your job.

Decide whether you want to do the work, and whether you're feeling up to it.

Because most other people do have a choice how to engage, and when a person you don't know comes at you with hostility, protecting yourself and your peace is your primary responsibility; not looking after them.

When we're in crisis, we have a choice in how to react, to reach out to other people.

And when someone chooses anger and negativity, it's OK for you to nope out.

It's OK for you to disengage and walk away.

Now. Is it amazing to reach back with calmness and kindness and change a life?

Yes.

Is it emotionally draining and therefore difficult if not impossible to do every day, even when it works as desired and helps someone to open their mind and heart?

Also yes.

Please don't read this and come away with the idea that you have to give away emotional labour to complete strangers who are arseholes towards you.

A dementia patient often doesn't have any choice left in how they interact with others.

A regular adult does. The way they approach you is a choice.

Remember to make yours before you start giving away emotional labour, or you'll burn out fast.

DVERA

Decide: whether you want to engage, whether you have the emotional bandwidth, whether this is a triggering situation that will hurt you, whether to shut down the potential conversation and be on your way.

Wow. The patience, kindness and calm communication skills. Outstanding.

From raindovemodel

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Daily Wyll!

Wyll: I'm glad you see my very best self. In the moments I'm any less than that, I hope I'll still find you near.

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OK, let's try this AGAIN...

All new BG3 streaming shenanigans with Dash and Wyll!

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Daily Wyll!

Wyll: Karlach's all fire and fury. I pray to the Triad it doesn't consume her.

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Daily Wyll!

Wyll: He wants mercy. I say show it to him - decisively.

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Daily Wyll!

Wyll: And that, my love, is the day we can finally be together.

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Daily Wyll!

Wyll: No. Stop. My love - We can save her. We can take her to Avernus.

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"Daily" Wyll

Wyll: Florrick spoke true. I'm a Grand Duke's son.

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Daily Wyll!

Wyll: But Karlach is dead, and Gods know how many other of my victims were people like her.

(It's been a WEEK, y'all. I'll try to get back to daily posts, bring this whole "Daily Wyll" thing back to being a non-lie 😅)

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Daily Wyll!

Wyll: Not to say I didn't develop a taste for good wine and a talent for courtly dance.

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Daily Wyll!

Wyll: All the more reason to find him. The Absolute has seized not just my father, but the future of the Sword Coast.

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Daily Wyll!

Wyll: You would've died in the attempt. But - there have been enough threats today.

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Daily Wyll!

Wyll: By the Triad, there is only one correct answer. Refuse him, and we sentence these people to die.

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Daily Wyll - bonus edition!

Because y'all need to hear how he says this line. 🥵

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Daily Wyll!

Wyll: Ah, there it is - that shiver. Our little brain-worms have made fast friends, it would seem.