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so pissed that I (a hafu) wasn't named midori because 20 years ago naming your asian kid an asian name in a non-asian country was considered weird and bullying worth but today non-asian bitches are using midori and other asian names and naming their non-asian babies those too because "it's kawaii". they either shame us for our culture or they lowkey steal it from us.

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Millenials are kinda shit at parenting. They just took their neglectful, strict and abusive parents behavior and just flipped it into an enabler, overprotective and careless education.

Letting your kids throw tantrums and behave badly without consequences is not "gentle parenting", it's teaching them that they're allowed to act badly and other people are responsible to overlook or appease them. Letting your toddler have an Ipad, your elementary age child have social media etc it's not cool, it's extremely damaging and dangerous to your child's mental health and safety. Letting your kid eat whatever they like all the time makes children picky eaters and undernourished. Being overboard with preparing healthy, thought to the minimum detail, meals, constantly sanitizing your ambient, forbidding your child to do anything that could potentially make them minimally sick or hurt etc is not protecting, is being overbearing and overprotective.

Kids are supposed to be told "no", you don't have to spank or yell at them to do that. Kids are supposed to play under the sun, exercise their brain and body, be bored and creative, socialize; not sit all day watching a screen because that's just easier. Kids are supposed to have privacy to grow. Kids are supposed to be encouraged to eat the yucky broccoli but also allowed to eat the sugary industrial crap they like too. Kids are supposed to get sick and develop their immune system, kids are supposed to get scratches and bruises and to be dissapointed or upset and learn to overcome those. Kids are supposed to learn that wounds heal, the pain stops.

There's way too many kids nowadays that I know are bound to grow into miserable, nasty adults and it's not even their fault. They were not taught otherwise, they missed guidance and I wish new parents would realize that. The media won't try to change anything because corporations know they can profits lots out of physically weak, mentally damaged people. They can sell meds and tech and what not. Hopefully, Gen Z seems to be relatively aware of that, but let's see.

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I think we're too comfortable demanding answers about other people's personal lives and sharing our own

why is it a norm to say you're dating in every social media ever and use rings and shit? "because other people should know!" why? are you more concerned about boosting your relationship status than having the right of privacy? "oh but otherwise they could cheat!" if you think a ring, bracelet, "taken ❤" in their bio oh whatever is stoping people from pursuing your partner and keeping them from cheating you're pretty naive.

the same for sexuality, if you're not interested in dating me why do I owe you the details of my sexual and romantic attraction? it doesn't change shit in your life, go outside.

mental health, it doesn't matter for you what's my mental state, it doesn't matter if I have anxiety or depression or an ED or what not. it doesn't matter if I was formally diagnosed, it doesn't matter if I'm on medication. if we're mot close enough for my mental health to directly and consistently affect your daily life it's none of your concern.

the list goes on.

people nowadays feel both so pressured to share every detail about their lives to strangers and mere acquaintances and so entitle for other people to answer their own questions, we're not allowed to just be anymore.

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i don’t think any medication at all especially not ones to manage chronic conditions should be more than like $2. but that makes me insane i guess

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funny how society can make fun of young women asking them about their relationship with their fathers but I've not once saw someone making fun of a man asking him how long has it been since he talked to his children

because apparently we live in an "equal society that doesn't need feminism anymore" but still shame and blame female victims for men's wrongdoings

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"pEoPlE tAlKiNg AbOuT pAlEsTiNe To MiNiMiZe ThE aTtEnTiOn GiVeN tO tHe PrObLeMs In UkRaInE aN-" shut up. Just shut up. Don't open your mouth if you're going to just keep perpetuating the structural racism that deems the Ukraine Russia confront as importnat but the Palestine Israel confront as unimportant. No one is taking the attention feom ukraine and do you know why? Because western mainstream media is all over it. I live in a country technically uninvolved with either of those wars. Do you know how much I heard about Palestine's and Israel's conflict outside tumblr? Once, in a geography class with a teacher who independently decided he should dedicate some few minutes of his class to sum up what's happening. Now, I hear about Ukraine everyday, at least thrice a day, from teachers, classmates, family, influences everyone. There's clearly a problem with that and the fact that we're not allowed to speak about it because we're being "bad bad ukraine haters 😖😖" speak lots about how concerned with racism society actually is.

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We poc shouldn't normalize our parents and other caretakers physical and mental abuse. We accept it a funny but no one reinforces it as wrong, in fact, a lot of memes about white parents vs black/latino/asian/etc parents point that behaviour as ideal by putting down white parents for not engaging in physical or verbal agression (even if that means being too permissive). Was it culturally okay when your parents did to you, when my parents did to me? It was, it was the normal, the standard. Now, was it right to psychologically scar us as children and call it "education"? Absolutely not.

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men: women are snakes who will have sex with you and have your children just so they can live off your child support money

also men:

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white girls (specially, but not only them) should shut up and stop trying so hard to be inserted in asian culture now that it's more popular and acessible and let actual asian girls enjoy finally fitting in