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programming things that suck:

programmed migraines

programmed seizures

programmed arousal

flood programs

spin programs

God, everything about being programmed is awful

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I wish I could say I said something actually funny to get a comment removal but somehow this got removed and it’s always made me laugh😂

i literally didnt even do anything guys

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tbh when i hear some people talk about 'breaking cycles of abuse', it becomes clear pretty quickly who has come to understand that phrase to mean 'since i was a victim of abuse/neglect by my parents/caretaker/s i will do everything to be nothing like them' and that is all. its not a completely flawed way of thinking either - something that hurt you would very likely hurt someone else; through empathy we learn to understand not to hurt others the way we were hurt too.

but what 'breaking cycles' looks like is more complicated than just not being your parents/caretakers - it's about recognizing how the things that happened to you changed you and how you can heal so you don't hurt someone else in turn. the survival skills you learned in an unhealthy enviroment often translate to poor if not unhealthy interpersonal skills in an enviroment where things ARE safe.

its a difficult pill to swallow for a lot of survivors of abuse (trust me, i know) because we have a tendency to simply want our pain to be recognized. by painting yourself as "absolutely nothing like my abuser" you can abstain from recognizing your own harmful tendencies and live comfortably in the role of victim hood for the rest of your life. it can be tempting to do this especially when so many people will do their best to deny what you experienced - almost like leaning into a stuck door that just won't budge.

the problem with this is if you never recognize that being mistreated made it so you LACK a lot of what other people learned from a loving enviroment, you can hurt people pretty badly even when doing your best just not to replicate what your parents/caretakers got wrong.

this also hurts for victims because, when it comes down to it - it's not FAIR. you were hurt for no reason, and most of us will never hear an apology or even admittance from the person who did it - so why do YOU have to change? why do YOU, the person hurt unjustly, have to put in the work?

and i mean. that's what breaking a cycle is. it means pushing against what's fair and comfortable deliberately so that you can stop something that's been repeating. it's work. its not just recognition of pain, it's the purposeful healing and treatment of it. but thats scary, and it's not fun, so a lot of people fall right back into it. its a lot easier said than done.

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not interested in getting involved in the rest of this discussion, for the most part, but to me this is a GREAT piece of advice that many people these days don't seem to be getting or understanding.

not everyone you meet or interact with is your friend, the requirements and expectations for respectful behaviour between friends is not the same as between strangers.

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jokes and humor are a form of communication like everything else. they are meant to convey a meaning of some sort, with the intention of causing amusement.

so, in terms of syscourse, it would be really appreciated if a few things were thought of.

what are you trying to say? what exactly is supposed to be amusing? what is the punch line?

the humor defense against things you say, just doesn't work. when one tries to engage with humor, it is the burden of them to have their joke connect with their audience, not the other way around. if no one but you finds your joke funny, and people are hurt by your joke, it being a joke does not and should not protect you from criticism. otherwise, on a larger scale, mean and/or bigoted jokes will become the normal state of things again.

to summarize: it would be really appreciated if some of you thought about what you were doing before you post, to really consider it. and what you say being meant to be a joke, or a satire, or a parody, doesn't make one immune to criticism of what you said.

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I think you said everything perfectly. Bait accounts of whatever form help no one and harm everyone in the process. Whether it is a syscourser making a bait account from “the other side” or someone from FDC, or someone making bait accounts about RAMCOA systems in particular, all it does is spread misinformation and misunderstandings about very vulnerable groups of people. Nobody wins, everyone loses, and it only causes more damage than if they hadn’t done so. Which, that may be some people’s goal, unfortunately. It’s best to block and ignore these accounts when you can, because negative attention and vitriol is what they want. Don’t give them that.

I was a teacher for some time and something I learned when students were purposely trying to rile a teacher up or misbehave in front of the class, it was often to draw attention to themselves and cause a ruckus in the classroom. This doesn’t make the student bad, but giving them the satisfaction of getting openly frustrated or allowing them to cause a scene often makes it worse. Shutting down the behavior calmly or even ignoring the attempts to rile you up was often the best way to get the behavior to stop. It’s like ragebaiting, but in a classroom format. They want you to react negatively, they want you to explode and rage. If you don’t give them that, the student will often realize that their attempts aren’t working and will either settle down or get frustrated and exit the classroom.

Not giving them the reaction they want is the best way to deter people from doing these things, in my opinion. I hope folks eventually realize these things aren’t helpful and are only hurtful.

Since seeing the resurgence of a certain bait account(or spoof account or satire account or whatever we are calling tricking people into interacting with you today) I thought I'd finally finish this post. And since we have had more bait accounts like Snowchester and Translucent pop up I wanted to make it clear that I started writing this post at the beginning of October last year so it was not inspired by either of them though they may influence it now.

So why are bait accounts a problem?

For one it's faking being a system and that includes those who are already systems. While role-playing being a system elsewhere does not negate the existence of your system, it is still by definition, faking being a system. Just a different one. And that is a problem. Most people who would go as far as to create a bait account don't truely understand the types of systems they are impersonating. They tend to take overt traits they hate but spread misinformation by how they portray them as it is hard to replicate someone you don't understand in every aspect.

Next all it does is make your side look bad. Because of the us vs them in syscourse when a bait account is revealed the instant response many times is eww how dare that side stoop so low. All it will do is destroy any argument for your side you try to make. Which I mean that's if anyone decides to believe someone who has been lying to them for weeks.

And lastly it is never effective at getting anything good done. I have yet to see it done in any way that is marginally effective. If you don't truely understand the people you hate enough to pretend to be you are going to be infiltrating their ranks because you stand out like a sore thumb. No one listens to the members of the community that push against the grain even if they aren't faking so if they are of course anything you'd hope to gain gets dashed by being the odd one out.

And of course most parts of the community don't support bait accounts so you are likely to be pushed out of your own side in the process too. They won't be able to trust you either. It's a lose lose. It does no good, it doesn't reach goals, it solely harms.

So now I want to hear from you. What do you see as the problems with bait accounts? Anything we missed(there probably was)?

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Okay. I just came across a post that really, really got on my nerves. It was someone who openly states they are a satire blog, which, okay, I’m glad you openly stated you were a satire blog rather than pretending you weren’t.

Some of you may be asking what they are satirizing. RAMCOA systems! Because sure, let’s make a satire blog about a group of severely traumatized individuals because it’s sooo funny when people have HC-DID caused by extreme child torture.

Normally I am not the type to blast these types of people because I don’t want anyone to get harassed. However, I want people to know who to block. Do not go harass this person, as they seem the type to *want* to rage bait and get people fired up because they want attention. And for some reason they choose to make fun of severely traumatized people to do so.

@validity-system this isn’t funny or cute. I don’t think I should have to explain to you why it isn’t funny to do stuff like this. I don’t care if you believe RAMCOA trauma or whether HC-DID systems are real or not, but at the very least, just leave us alone. We get harassment from people like you all the damn time and it is so tiring and annoying. Whether you think we exist or not, we do. You doing cringey and harmful shit like this isn’t going to change the fact that we are here and we aren’t going anywhere. Please just delete your blog and leave RAMCOA survivors alone. Let us be. We are just trying to survive each day and exist as ourselves as best we can.

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Maybe this therapy shit is working

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"No one can love you until you love yourself" is like the worst possible way of articulating "if you don't respect and value yourself, it's very easy to become attracted to people who don't treat you right and then justify their mistreatment, so be careful."

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Hello, we moved to tumblr after TikTok got banned in America. I know legion system is on here, do you happen to know their @? No I don’t support them, im just curious what their content is now

No, I have no idea. I don’t look at their content anywhere anymore. Last I heard from someone else is that it’s TERF-ier than ever. You’re not missing much.

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i think a lot of the conversation around self help is useless to anyone who isn’t financially stable. no amount of affirmations and manifestation and effort to take control of your own life can change the material reality of living to work and pay rent and scrape by. and it’s not a moral failing to be incredibly frustrated by this or even to experience depression and dysfunction because of this

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Anyone else feel like their mutuals are way out of their league? Like they follow you back and you’re just like

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new ask polly changing my life per usual

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everything in this life is temporary. except that fandom hyperfixation from when you were 14. that thang will be with you forever there's no escaping.

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Does anyone else have an list of 10-15 untouchable thoughts that if you let yourself remeber or think about them for even a second it’s excruciating or is this a me thing