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Happy Aromantic Awareness Week!!💚🤍🩶🖤

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Happy ASAW 2024, here's something about community !

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a couple arospec awareness week links!

book sales:

Cedar McCloud's Eternal Library books are on sale

In The Jaws Of An Oak is on sale

May Barros' short stories are 50% off

Six of Claudie Arseneault's books are on sale

Support the Common Bonds 2 (aromantic anthology) kickstarter! Early bird prices this week

A post from lavendersbook on arospec representation and especially this blog post which I recommend reading

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being aromantic really had made me a better person

i love deconstructing the amatonormativity and hierarchical structure of relationships the world around me as built and rejecting that expectation

i love loving my friends and family and girlfriend and people around me however i’d like outside of the norm and deviating from the romance escalator of relationships

i love the world of words and concepts the aromantic community has introduced me to in order to help me with these things i want to do as mentioned above, things that have felt so right every time i do them, but i didn’t think too much on them or think of other people like this too

i love my aromanticism and what being apart of the aromantic community has done for me

happy aromantic spectrum awareness weeks my folks, we’re cool as fuck and i love my identity

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Happy Aromantic Awareness Week!

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Asexuality and Aromanticism are a spectrum. There is no one that can tell you where you fall on it, or what does or does not qualify as aro or ace. You are the best judge of your own attraction, and you are valid no matter where you fall on these spectrums.

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Happy Aromantic Awareness Week!

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I want old aros so badly. I want a history. I want a future. I want tales of lives that I understand. I want to see myself in a future where I’m happy and comfortable.

But I don’t have that, so I’ll have to build it.

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1 sleep to discount chocolate!!

we can put off choosing violence.... for now

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(changed my mod tag to mod fractal, used the mass post editor, nobody panic)

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I have some notes and additions for each of your points!

Yes, the white aro ring is a thing, it goes on the LEFT middle finger, not the right. That way aroaces can have a ring on each hand instead of a stack of potentially thick bands (I think, this is what I have always assumed about it, that and it’s next to the wedding ring finger being a detail as well)

Eyyyyyy! There have been jokes before about how the only reason we care about Valentine’s Day is the discount chocolate the day after, so chocolate you got on sale is a good potential source of memes. (But also the ace community is more than happy to share the cake and garlic bread memes, aces have those because “cake is better than sex ¯\_(ツ)_/¯”/“bread is better than sex ¯\_(ツ)_/¯”, so really any food you personally as an aro prefer over romance would work for the joke, galaxy pour cakes just were also HUGE at the time so cakes took off in a big way between art, stimboards, etc).

There have been aro-flag arrows before, I think there might be a post like that buried on this blog somewhere…

Also the color black! Green and black together, not just black alone.

Black heart 🖤 (also I only learned about the <2 aplatonic affection emoticon last year and if anything happened to it I would kill everyone on this site and then myself <rosa_diaz_with_that_puppy.gif>)

Quick question: so the ace community has lots of different things that are considered ace, like cake, garlic bread, and dragons. Is there anything similar the aro community has? I'm arospec and ace, and on Ace Week I like to eat the related foods. Just wondering if there's anything similar I can do for Aro Week. If not, discount Valentine's Day chocolate it is.

assorted aro types of things, definitely missing some:

white aro ring

i've asked before about food, and gotten the clever response of mac-aro-ni, though that's not big... yet

lots of puns about arrows. so many. the weapon, but we could probably do things with the shape

the color green, snakes, frogs, and assorted green things

realistic heart emoji, <2, green heart emoji

i'm so missing things but this is what my brain is giving me, public aro comments, go!

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the driver who took me to/picked me up from my dentist appointment today was a nice black woman who i had a lot of fun talking to. she mentioned at one point that she had been in a relationship for 10 years with 1 person who ended up ruining everything they had by causing unnecessary drama. she told me she just wants peace, so she decided. not doing that anymore. and stopped partnering and dating altogether.

she said she's been single for years and couldn't be happier. she told me that she has so much more freedom and independence. she can finally travel and live her life.

while i'm not going to claim i know how she identifies, i just thought this might be nice to show other aromantics and non partnering people to prove that not partnering really isn't misery at all if that's not what you want. you can live a very happy life without a partner! it's not required if that doesn't work for you. live your life the way you want to. you don't have to involve yourself with someone else if you really don't like it. you don't have to conform to amatonormativity

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i have a question abt lovelessness! i really like the idea, bc im on the aro spectrum and i dont like how everyone always insists that humans have to feel love in some way to be human.

but also, i do like describing the way i feel about things as love? like i like saying i love cats and i love crocheting etc.

would i still be able to call myself loveless or would it be better to just use lovequeer (also a cool concept!) and just say i support lovelessness?

Friend there are no rules! Do whatever feels good!

Personally I ping-pong in between lovequeer and loveless. Both perspectives help me understand myself and my relationship to love as an aromantic & neurodivergent person. You can engage with these terms, on your terms. They were made to help aromantic people express and explore themselves and how they relate to "love", because amatonormative society so heavily restricts us and gives us no tools or words to communicate our experiences.

If these words help you, they help you. If they comfort you, they comfort you. That's their role. That's what they were made for. You don't need mine or anyone's permission to use them for yourself as you see fit. Be both, or either one whenever you need to be! Go wild! Do whatever you want forever!

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I’m a gray-biromantic asexual lesbian. I date like a demi, so I vibe with demi, but quoiromantic/WTFromantic is the most accurate. Maybe aroflux. I am in a relationship that is both romantic and sexual.

By “date like a demi”: both of my serious relationships started as friendships that just kept increasing in intensity and intimacy until suddenly we were both like “wait are we in a romantic relationship now?”

I don’t like going out and talking over a meal. Feeling pressured to talk about the relationship or to try and force deeper intimacy by asking a bunch of questions is just. Not romantic to me at all.

Romance is the little sigh they make when I curl in closer while they’re asleep. Romance is them remembering my preferences at all the different restaurants we go to. Romance is all the little inside jokes, watching a show and a character coincidentally saying something one of us said earlier and just pointing at the screen and staring at each other comically to push back our individual paranoias. Romance is sensing that they had a rough day and pushing through my own chronic pain to help them get to resting a bit quicker.

They compliment me, bring me flowers, write me poems. But I feel most loved when I feel seen and understood, and that’s not something a partner can just gift to me.

Im sorry but being aromantic and/or asexual is such a beautiful, complex identity that opens up almost endless possibilities and interpretations about sex and romance and relationships and struggles within those,

and i will always absolutely LOATHE how both the outside and the aro/ace community itself have boiled these identities down to just "doesnt have sex" and "doesnt date"

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every time you tag an aromantic post that only talks about aromanticism as "#asexual" or "#ace" i punch you in the astral plane. when you call a character that's not interested in romance "asexual", i punch you in the astral plane. calling aromantic people asexual when they don't refer to themselves as such earns you one hundred astral punches. and so on and so forth