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What every girl needs to know:

• Get that degree: no one can take education away from you.

• Get that bag: Whether it'a a full time job or a side hustle, always make some money.

• Get princess treatment: a man should make your life easier, not harder.

• Gain more knowledge: Read more books, get to know yourself, it will only make you smarter

• Gain more skills: cooking skills, makeup skills, communication skills.... always learn something new

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take a bubble bath—complete with candles and calming music

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Do you ever feel lonely? Or like no one actually cares about your wellbeing?

I type this alone in my car at lunch. It sucks because I have 15minutes before I need to be back inside but just typing this out already has me in tears that I'm struggling to choke back. I know my mood is probably off because I was just changed from viibryd to prozac and lamotrigine and it'll take my body time to adjust.. but it doesnt change I'm still experiencing these feelings. I feel lonely with my mental illness, it feels like it isolates me. When I talk about it, or try to, with friends it seems most don't respond. When I talk about it and no one responds, it feels like it cements the loneliness within me. I know realistically my friends are probably busy with their own worries and lives, but when messenger shows the little 'seen' notification and they never reply I can't help but to feel this way. Truth is today I've been really struggling mentally and emotionally so I reached out in our group chat about it, one person replied but the rest just opened the message and I guess closed it. I know they are probably busy, but selfishly I wish they could carve out a minute of their time for me.

In the mean time I guess I will type a vent post and sit alone with my feelings and thoughts.

Do you ever feel lonely? Like no one actually cares about your wellbeing?

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stop worring about things you can't control, at the end of the day everything works out in your favor!

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Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) is not a medical diagnosis but a way of describing a type of emotional dysregulation.

An intense emotional sensitivity to (perceived) criticism or rejection

Often seeing neutral or vague reactions as rejection or as silent criticism

Difficulty starting tasks, projects, or goals when there's a chance of failure

Often experienced by those with ADHD, Autism, Social Anxiety, or trauma

Experiencing severe anxiety, avoidance, or big emotions before an anticipated rejection

Inability to regulate emotional responses to feelings of failure and rejection

Rejection triggers huge feelings of depression, rage, anger, or severe anxiety

Often people-pleasers to avoid being criticized

Fear of rejection negatively affects your life and relationships

RSD

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You’re not in trouble. I know you may feel very deeply that you must be, that you have committed a secret wrong you need to fix. It’s very hard to deal with these feelings in our body, but you’re not in trouble. Take a moment to breathe and remind yourself that you are safe. Look at those around you and remember they are not secretly upset with you. It will all be okay.

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How Might Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria Show Up

Neurodivergent_lou

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Long story short? No sorry, your options are:

Long Story

Long Story Longer

Long Story Triple Feature

Short Story Long

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What Does ADHD Look Like?

The Mini ADHD Coach

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nobody talks about the fact that you can have all this crazy shit in your head, and want to open up and talk about your feelings but no matter what, you just can't make out the right words and properly put your thoughts and emotions into words

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Abilities that will forever benefit you

The ability to walk away

The ability to manage your time

The ability to remain consistent

The ability to self analyze

The ability to learn how to learn

The ability to understand others

The ability to listen

The ability to express your thoughts and feelings

The ability to break down tasks

The ability to adapt

The ability to control your mind

The ability to ask for help

The ability to act upon facts not feelings

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Executive Dysfunction

I swear executive dysfunction is going to be the death of me. I hate knowing I need to do so many things, but not being able to do any of them because I can't focus or motivate myself.

Logically I know that all I need to do is take one baby step towards like...ANYTHING on my list of stuff to do, but trying to figure out where to start gets me overwhelmed and its like my brain short circuits. Instead of being able to take one step at a time it's like I just look at the proverbial staircase ahead of me and get stressed out to the point of paralysis.

It makes my head hurt, and I feel so anxious and guilty for not doing anything. Then of course my depression worsens because I feel like I'm not being productive and that I'm going nowhere just spinning in my own anxious thoughts.

I really want to work on this, I honestly think this is one of my biggest set backs.

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Small ways to activate your "happiness" chemicals

DOPAMINE: the reward chemical

• Complete a task

• Doing self care activites

• Eating some food

• Celebrating your little wins.

OXYTOCIN: the love hormones

• Playing with a dog

• Playing with a baby

• Holding hands

• Hugging someone

• Giving someone else a compliment

SEROTONIN: the mood stabiliser

• Meditating

• Running

• Be in the sun

• Walk in nature

• Swimming

ENDORPHIN: the pain relief

• Laughing exercises

• Essential oils

• Eating dark chocolate

• Running

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Today, I did everything for myself💕