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Joy lives in what is, not what isn't. (...) I've got to befriend this stuff because the work I'm embroiled in is thick with it and I can’t afford to waddle around full of hate all the time. The point I am trying to make is in the midst of all this hardship, every single one of us needs to figure out how to find joy in the world we are in, not waste away yearning for the world it is not. Because this one is here now and ready to squash all of us if we aren’t vigilant, and the next one is going to make us bloody getting to. So let's make the best of this one. And keep fighting for the next.

Life Isn’t All Hard Luck And Trouble | Chris La Tray (An Irritable Métis)

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Sometimes he sat on the bed and we cried together. “I feel so inadequate. I can’t do anything to help you,” he apologized, not understanding that the shared tears were the greatest gift he could have given.

When My Spouse Unexpectedly Became My Caregiver | N. Ranson

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The desperation of kids to always connect. The sense of disorientation they feel when they can't connect with their friends by some electronic means. It's not a technological problem, it's an attachment problem. Those kids have been disconnected from the adults in their lives, because the adults are not there for them - they can't be, they're too stressed. Stressed parents - not unloving parents - but stressed parents, simply are not as attuned to the emotional cues of their kids as they'd like to be. (...) That's what UCLA researcher Ellen Shore calls proximal separation: "when a parent is physically there, but emotionally unavailable because they are too stressed or too distracted. That's what my children experienced when they were small, because I was a workaholic physician. And this society rewards workaholism, they tell you what a great guy you are, they reward you for the very thing that undermines the health of your family. For a lot of people, it's not even the question of a choice (considering systemic + political frameworks).

Dr Gabor Maté - Why Capitalism Makes Us Sick (quote begins @ 16min 20sec)  

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It's important to remember that architecture, fashion, and even language don't live in a vacuum. They're contextual and evolve along with our society.

Here's What 'Antebellum' Really Means...

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Heartbreaking. Hopeful. Life. 

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In the Shadow of the Pines | 8min 2 sec | Filmmaker Anne Koizumi explores the childhood shame she felt about her Japanese immigrant father, who worked as a janitor at her school.

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reminders from Anne Enright

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I like incidents of that sort, when forces that are usually so sneaky and hard to point out slither out of the grass and are as obvious as, say, an anaconda that’s eaten a cow, or an elephant turd on the carpet.

Men who explain things 

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Liberation is a contagious project (...)  So I don’t wish I were a man. I just wish we were all free.

Rebecca Solnit “ 

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Uncertainty in times of crisis breeds fear and anxiety, but it can also uncover opportunities for greater connection and attention to the threads of relationship that so deeply connect us. In asking how best to respond to the crisis at this time, we feel that it is important to find new ways to come together as a community and to create spaces for support, creativity, and inspiration.

Emergence Magazine

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The West is not in the West. It is a project, not a place.

Reading Colonialism in "Parasite" | Tropics of Meta

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Sociologists, beginning perhaps most prominently with Ray Oldenburg in the 1980s, in his book, “The Great Good Place,” have analyzed the importance of the “third place’’ in the urban world. Home is the first place, and work is the second place. But it is this additional realm, he argues, of informal sociality, that is so crucial to the maintenance of civic engagement and just civility. Cafes, butcher shops, bakeries, gyms, bookstores and churches are all third places. In more recent years, another sociologist, Eric Klinenberg, has written about their position in the social infrastructure of cities, the “set of physical places and organizations that shape our interactions,” and that when neglected or lost, can foster a dangerous strain of isolation. The act of turning grocery shopping into an occupation threatens something larger — we are losing a way to bridge differences in a world already collapsing from its stratification. The guy who walks into a Starbucks to pick up his pre-ordered flat white as he conference calls into his AirPods doesn’t have to exchange a single word with the worker behind the counter or really even acknowledge her. He grabs his drink and gets on with it.

What We Lose By Hiring Someone To Pick Up Our Avacados For Us

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From Jenny George’s THE DREAM OF REASON

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The secret museum in every city is a grocery store.

R Morgan, New York Times Travel (HT L Olin)

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It is an act of rebellion to remain present, to go against society’s desire for you to numb yourself, to look away. But we must not look away.

https://www.vogue.co.uk/article/florence-welch-on-addiction-and-sobriety

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Sensibility is informed by what the world has made of you and your own relationship—obedient, belligerent, anxious, etc.—to that making.

My Year of Writing Anonymously (HT Creative Mornings)

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Cascade.

A Frank Chimero joint