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Super excited to finally announce The Good Girl Advice! I'm a little late because of some developing issues but always feel free to pop in and chat to me, or ask for advice on @goodgirladvice !

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The Good Girl Mantra + Updates

Good girls, finally an update from my radio silence! I've extended my holiday with reason, because I was taking extra time to think about the plan going forward for the Good Girl Guides. Before I get into the content of my post, the first thing I want to establish is the mantra of being a good girl:

Always try and understand your feelings instead of shutting them out — even if that means writing them messily on a piece of paper or screaming them out.

Crying is not a sin. Cry when you want to, you're not weak for showing emotion. People who don't show emotion and try to be strong are usually the weakest.

Never, ever take revenge into your own hands. Instead, make them regret when they see you unfazed by their childish antics.

Always affirm yourself, even at your worst. Remember that you never have bad moments, only lessons that improve you.

Have a Good Girl Playlist with affirming songs that you play whenever you feel down. (Would you be interested in hearing mine??)

Starting up the new year with a little change is always fun so my first announcement would be:

I'm opening an advice column on tomorrow at 8AM GMT+02 time.

I'll be accepting all sorts of questions and messages from you all but make sure to remain respectful so that I don't need to remind you all the mantra for being a good girl.

And my second announcement is:

More posts about my childhood like requested are coming out soon.

If you have any topics you would be interested in hearing me talk about, never hesitate to drop an ask or send me a message, I don't bite at all.

That's about it for now, but I'll see you good girls soon!

As always, it was lovely having you here and I hope to see you again soon and remember, be a good girl.

XOXO, Good Girl Guides.

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So i've been thinking over the holiday about the Good Girl Guides moving forward and I really wanted to know your opinion on something. Would you guys prefer more posts about what i've learnt during childhood living with parents who were emotionally abusing me or would you prefer more cosmetic/aura building based posts?

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A Good Girl's Guide to Becoming Attractive

Grow your mind before focusing on your body. There have been various posts and quotes saying that the sexiest part of your body is your mind, and I wholeheartedly agree. Rather than wanting someone to think you're beautiful because of your outward appearance, attract them by your mind. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so of course having a beautiful body does matter, but what is on the inside will come out eventually. Which means that having a beautiful or educated mind will lead to having a beautiful outward appearance.

To create a beautiful mind, you need to become well-versed in various subjects and constantly educate and improve yourself. Find something that you're interested in, even if you're the worst at it, and start learning about it. Using myself as an example, I am not the best at medicine and scientific subjects but seeing that I am interested, I learn about it continually and grow my mind with more knowledge about it. Read books, watch videos or take courses on subjects that you are interested and when anyone happens to ask you anything about it, you are well versed in it and able to give detailed explanations.

Here are a few books that definitely benefit me when learning and growing my mind:

The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene

Rich dad, Poor dad by Robert Kiyosaki and Sharon Letcher

The Art of People by Dave Kerpen

The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene

Here are also a few that I have in my reading list to start soon:

The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane

The Art of War by Sun Tzu

A Guide to Elegance by Genevieve Antoine Dariaux

Adding on top of that, make sure to learn languages, especially if you are interested in them.

Focus on your health and habits. Of course, by growing and developing your mind, you are already a step to becoming more attractive, but you have to make sure that you focus on your health and habits as well. One thing I must point out is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Your body may not look like hers and her body may not look like yours but that's alright because we are all beautifully unique in our own way. Think of how weird earth would be if we all had the same body and physique without one single difference. Everyone is unique and nobody is exactly the same.

Focusing on the topic, creating a daily routine that includes working out as well as habit trackers that can help you drop the bad habits and incorporate the good habits in your life. If you are interested in workouts that really provide results (speaking from experience) targeting any area, the following are a few options:

ABS

LEG SLIMMING

ARM SLIMMING & TONING

After creating a daily routine to get the body you desire, focus on your habits and making sure that you are putting in seed to what you want to harvest. Remove bad habits and pick up good ones while on your road to becoming the woman you want to be.

The following journal is recommended and created by me to help you develop yourself and it includes a weekly habit tracker, book library, water tracker and daily workout routine planner. If you're interested, find the link attached here: The Good Girl Guides, Vol 2.

As always, it was lovely having you here and I hope to see you again soon and remember, be a good girl.

XOXO, Good Girl Guides.

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A Good Girl's Guide to Getting Over Childhood Abuse

Get over yourself and recognise where you are.

It sounds harsh but get over your emotions and realise where you are and how you got there. Operating and acting on your emotions will never get you anywhere. And you have to get over that. Get out a journal and write down everything that traumatized you from start to finish and burn it up. This is to show that you recognise where you are and choose to move forward from it.

Notice their wrongs and start doing it right.

One of the root causes of people who struggle with having healthy relationships generationally is because no one tries to fix it. Something that we have to realise is that nothing is ever going to change until you take it and decide to fix it. Choose what sort of life you want to live and make the decision that you are not going to screw up every relationship because of your trauma.

Being a person who has been in quite an abusive relationship with my parents, I had to make the choice that this is not the life I want to live or have my generations live either.

Never, ever numb yourself.

From what I've learned from all the years of being emotionally and mentally abused, there's a difference between numbing yourself and simply being unbothered by their comments. Do not numb yourself, no matter how bad it is. Instead, cultivate the mentality that their perception of you is a reflection of themselves. Take pity on that instead and don't waste important time worrying about it. Numbing yourself turns you into an unfeeling person which will not better you into becoming the best version of yourself.

Take the chance to learn and better yourself.

My last post describes the perfect woman, which is what we should aim to be. This sort of woman is one that will make your abuser see that whatever they did to you was worthless. Rather than taking revenge into your own hands and ruining them with your words, make them regret it by becoming the most you can be. Using your words against them will lead to nothing at the end of it all and it makes you as bad of a person as they are, so remember, the best revenge is becoming more than they could ever be and more than what they limited you to be.

As always, it was a pleasure having you and remember: Be a good girl.

XOXO, Good Girl Guides.

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perfect hair, exceptional grades, beautiful body, is always right, attractive, beauty with brains, clean and fresh, sexy no matter how she feels, well spoken, well mannered, intelligent, unmatchable aura, trendsetter, scandalous with limit, unbreakable confidence, belief in herself and in others, gives love and deserves even more back, ultimately the perfect woman and goal.

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A Good Girl's Guide to Carrying Whatever Aura Whenever

A girl's aura is the magnetic pull that brings people to her. Of course, not disregarding her personality and all the good points that make her attractive. But specifically, we're talking about her aura here.

Since a lot of people (including myself) struggle to carry the right aura in the right place, ask yourself these questions:

What aura do I carry online right now? - Private (Personal chats, DMs) - Public - In groups

What aura do I want to carry online? - Private (Personal chats, DMs) - Public - In groups

What aura do I carry in-person right now? - What are people's reactions/body language when they see me? Both men and women.

What aura do I want to carry in-person? - What I want people's reactions/body language to be when they see me? Both men and women.

Then take parts that you already have and incorporate it along with the ones that you want to have.

Besides the reflection, let's get to the part of how to actually do it.

Have you ever been getting ready to go somewhere and had a song to go with it? If you haven't, start doing it.

Different music brings a different feeling through you, and we usually match music with an emotion that you're feeling or one that you want to feel. Which means if you want to feel like a pretty badass businesswoman, you make a playlist or pick a song that embodies that feeling that helps you execute it better.

I hate sounding like a music freak, but music is one of the most powerful tools we've been given besides our minds. Your mind and your music work together to create a perfect atmosphere which also leads to the perfect aura.

First, manage your music. Don't just listen to anyone because it's fun, try your best to listen to music that will empower you rather than depress you. Especially when you begin developing into who you want to become.

Second, make a playlist that embodies the aura you want to carry and carefully choose the songs that go in it. Rather than having to pick out music out of nowhere, create a playlist that you can listen to every morning during your affirmations, whenever you're doing your work/schoolwork or whenever you feel down and want to feel more like yourself.

Third, use ChatGPT as an empowering tool. This sounds like I decided to abort the mission of finding your aura, but surprisingly enough, ChatGPT can be used to help you find out more of yourself. Start by taking a song or songs you want to embody that carry a similar aura and ask ChatGPT this question, "I want to embody ____ by ____, what can I do to get that alluring and mysterious but confident vibe? The style, tone of voice etc." And ask it to elaborate more on parts you don't understand. Always feel free to differentiate your friendly aura and your business/serious aura with different music, using the tips I've given you.

If it makes it easier for you instead of referring to this blog post, the following journal I have created is solely for this journey and includes all the questions and more as well as a section to document your progress regularly.

Find the link for the journal attached here: The Good Girl Guides, Volume 1.

Don't forget to ask ChatGPT to give you a guide that you can follow daily and before you know it, you'll be able to embody whatever aura you want, whenever.

As always, it was a pleasure having you and remember: Be a good girl.

XOXO, Good Girl Guides.

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