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Father's Day When You're Father Was an Abusive Narcissist

Father’s Day is a really hard time of year for me, and a lot of the articles I have found online talk about ‘remembering the good things, and sending him a card or giving him a call anyway’. I tried that over the last few years, and it triggered me and led me to relapse, every year, at this time of year. The years before that, when I had remembered how nasty he was and validated myself and not…

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the tears will be there, they just won’t be coming out

Proving a point to my boyfriend.

PLEASE REBLOG if you (male or female) believe it is perfectly okay and natural for a guy of any age to cry

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“You should date a girl who reads. Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes, who has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve. Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she has found the book she wants. You see that weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a secondhand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow and worn. She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book. Buy her another cup of coffee. Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice. It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas, for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry and in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does. She has to give it a shot somehow. Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world. Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who read understand that all things must come to end, but that you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two. Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series. If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are. You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype. You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots. Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads. Or better yet, date a girl who writes.”

Rosemarie Urquico (via amargedom)

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SOME THINGS DON’T LAST FOREVER, BUT SOME THINGS DO. LIKE A GOOD SONG, OR A GOOD BOOK, OR A GOOD MEMORY YOU CAN TAKE OUT AND UNFOLD IN YOUR DARKEST TIMES, PRESSING DOWN ON THE CORNERS AND PEERING IN CLOSE, HOPING YOU STILL RECOGNIZE THE PERSON YOU SEE THERE.

Sarah Dessen, This Lullaby (via disbar)

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“Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, then it’s not the end.”

Fernando Sabino (via disbar)

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“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.”

Elbert Hubbard (via disbar)

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Me as Venus de Milo by Botticelli Redefining Renaissance beauty standards 😋

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so cute!!

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Watch: As Blythe’s poem ends, it’s clear what we must do in the face of rape culture and “pocket feminism.”

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This is not sexual. This is freedom; this is raw; this is simply my back.

Why is it that we tell women to censor themselves rather than telling the rest of the world to stop sexualizing absolutely every part of the female body? Why are people still so shocked that woman have breasts and bare skin under their clothes?

I remember a time when I couldn’t bare look at my naked body. Human bodies are just as natural as the body of a dog or bird. It is a beautiful creation of nature. Nature is so intricate.. Every body has it’s own unique curves and marks. If we became more accepting of this, maybe we’d all feel a bit more comfortable in our own skin.

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so cute!!

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« Je faisais du skate, des compétitions, j’étais commandité pis toute. À un moment donné j’ai senti que j’avais deux choix, et j’ai fait le mauvais. J’ai continué à vivre dans la débauche. Je trippais sur le punk-rock et le monde du skate, c’est tout le temps le party, et j’ai choisi de suivre ça au lieu de suivre le côté sérieux que j’avais : j’aime beaucoup les livres, je lis tout le temps, et je collectionnais les vieux livres, des vieilles éditions. Mais j’ai suivi les mauvaises influences ; je dis mauvaises influences, mais en fait c’était à moi de choisir si je les suivais ou non. Là ça fait trois ans en ligne que je suis dans la rue. J’ai passé deux ans sans aide sociale, et là je viens de réussir à la ravoir. Donc je vais essayer de me trouver une place pour l’hiver, je ne veux pas repasser un hiver dans la rue. »

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“I used to skate, do competitions, I was sponsored and all. At one point I felt I had two choices, and I made the wrong one. I kept on living in debauchery. I was really into punk rock and the skateboard world, it’s always a party, and I chose to follow this instead of the more serious side of me: I really love books, I read all the time, and I used to collect old books, old editions. But I followed some negative influences; I say negative influences, but it was really up to me to choose whether I followed them or not. Now I’ve been in the street for three years straight. I’ve spent two years without social welfare, and I just managed to get it back. So I’m gonna try to find myself a place for the winter, I don’t want to spend another winter in the street.”

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#Repost @chavon_lysandra ・・・ #Repost @societymenace ・・・ Petition in my bio 📝 This movie is about White Saviors going into the Amazon to protect the rain forest (Another #WSF Film) but the turn in events the uncontacted tribes of the Amazon end up eating them. This film portrays them as cannibals. Films like this have always portrayed negative stereotypes against indigenous people as primitive brute savages. These films have psychological effect as indigenous people have been through colonial trauma assimilating to white culture being taught self hate. This tribe has been taken advantage of by Hollywood influence. .

Amazon Watch to Eli Roth: “Westerners are unfortunately ignorant about Amazonian indigenous cultures and depicting them in such a violent story dehumanizes their peoples and couldn’t be farther from reality. Shame on you. As a storyteller you hold a great responsibility to influence others. Propagating such hate towards peoples who have been ravaged and raped for decades by white supremacist culture is not constructive in our fight to save the Amazon. Most indigenous communities are more in tune with nature than you’ll ever be, and would never conceive of such violence for profit. It’s a shame, we should be creating stories than accurately depict indigenous way of life which is holistic, sustainable, spiritual and harmonious with our earth and brothers and sisters. If you want to save the Amazon and stop China from buying leases to drill oil, make a story depicting the corporate shills for the murderers that they really are. You don’t have to create racist, offensive, inaccurate crap to get people to care about the most biodiverse place on the earth. And if you really want to make a difference, give your money to organizations like ours who are the people on the ground standing up for indigenous rights and making tangible change. Indigenous peoples are the key to preserving the Amazon. If we don’t respect and empower them, we will lose the lungs of our planet. They should be honored and respected.” - @amazonwatch (Please sign and share.) #BoycottGreenInferno