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Not Leo, but Crimson here today for my queer experience.

Now I’m a gay man. Although my bodys sex does not match my gender I still consider myself cis. I’m a fictive. I was a man before and after I introjected. I am and have always been a man. Nothing changed, so I feel no need to call myself trans.

We have headmates who are similar to me but choose to label themselves as transmasc for whatever reason, and I find the diversity of alter experiences beautiful. Gender can be complex when you’re plural, but it’s still a personal thing. Your identity is your own, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

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Sometimes I accidentally reblog scarian art in this account…. Something something fagdykes kissing.

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everyone talks about how transphobic cis men can get but no one listens when you talk about how viciously transphobic towards trans men that cis women are. It's that benevolent sexism stuff fr. "A cis women could never be as bad a men" sure Jan.

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Not to be patronizing, but I’m convinced some of y’all don’t know what radfems actually are. Every time I try to speak about how dangerous and reductive radical feminism is as an ideology, I get paragraphs upon paragraphs written trying to “errm actually” me and defending them, so let me clear things up.

Radical feminism’s core belief centers around a form of gender essentialism: that men are inherently violent oppressors and that the patriarchy is to blame for every problem that befalls women and fems. This is not to say that the patriarchy isn’t a major contributor to misogyny, but it completely excludes intersectionality from the equation and dovetails into TERFy rhetoric very easily.

In blaming every issue on the patriarchy alone, radical feminism erases the very real contributions of racism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, etc from our struggles in society. Oppression and privilege are extremely complex and fed into by many biases and phobias upheld by our societal systems, not just the “boys vs girls” mentality that radfems emphasize. The main pitfall of this ideology is the way it places all men and all women on an equivalent level of privilege or oppression respectively, rather than the unfortunate reality: for example, a cishet man having inherent privilege and hypothetical oppressing power over a queer or trans man, or an abled woman having privilege over a disabled woman.

Radical feminism also tends to veer into a defeatist mindset: men are inherently oppressive and women are inherently at the bottom of the societal totem pole, so what’s the point of trying to dismantle these systems? The radfem “solution” is to ignore the nuances of intersectionality and create divisions between men and women as a “safety measure” which, as mentioned earlier, opens the door for TERF-like ideologies to take root (bathroom bans and label politics come to mind). The “solution” of creating purely woman-only spaces fails to acknowledge that women can also be oppressive toward other women, but it’s still viewed through the lens of “the patriarchy can’t affect things here because we’re all on the same level of disadvantage”.

I don’t write all this to accuse all self-proclaimed radfems of being knowingly malicious or bigoted, but it seems that not many people fully understand the true implications and reductiveness of what radical feminism really is. If you managed to get through this whole post (congratulations!), I invite you to examine your own ideologies and the biases and faults behind them, and hopefully grow, change, and become a more nuanced and open-minded person from there.

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i desperately need people to realize there's a difference between "women need to coddle (cis) men's feelings even when they're being misogynistic uwu" and "we shouldn't tolerate misogyny but actively keeping men separate from women and treating them like they're inherently dangerous to women is only going to worsen the problem (and also this mindset causes IMMEASURABLE harm to nonbinary, trans, and intersex people, who are already incredibly at risk right now)" and i need people to realize that NOW

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"fat privilege" I'm gonna need you to take a step back and think about the stupid ass thing you just said

"Similarly, “fat privilege” is another concept that recognizes that individuals who are considered overweight or obese may also experience privilege in certain situations. This privilege can manifest in various ways, such as not being subjected to the same level of scrutiny or judgment regarding their appearance as individuals who are underweight or meet conventional beauty standards." medium has lost it's goddamn mind. this article was written by the skinniest of bitches wtf. I was looking up how being fat bars you from obtaining any actual privilege from being pretty, because we're always seen as fat first. and this motherfucker makes an article just lying lol Fat people aren't subjected to the same level of scrutiny?

that's right, we're subjected to more. literally wtf the article i'm referring to was written just 4 months ago, and not infact, 2005

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Hey, don’t cry. Trans men and trans women holding hands forever, okay?

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transhet people are absolutely lovely. straight trans women & straight trans men have a beautiful experience. straight aro and ace people are still queer and live queer lives. straight non binary, genderqueer, gnc, bigender, genderfluid, intersex, two spirit and other queer people are a blessing to our community. any straight queer person belongs, no matter what. cis people can be queer, so can straight people. queer hets belong all the same

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i can't believe "lesbians can be trans" is a controversial statement in 2024 but here we are, somehow

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I finally made the meme I've had in my head for over a year

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i just wanted to say if you're a bi/multigender, genderfluid, genderqueer, intersex, two spirit, non binary, gnc, butch, stud, or other trans woman who isn't a 100% binary trans woman, society owes you so fucking much. there's no wiggle room in transfemininity under our cisheteronormative patriarchal panopticon. people freely and openly misgender you for their comfort and then act like you were the problem to begin with. people love to silence and invalidate your identities every day for the sake of their own mental "wellbeing". and it's not your fault and you don't fucking deserve it.

here's to every non binary trans woman who gets told they're not feminine enough. here's to every trans lesbian who gets told they're "invading" lesbian spaces. here's to every gnc trans woman who gets told they "dress too masc to be a trans woman". here's to every genderfluid trans woman who gets told being a man sometimes makes them not a woman. here's to every genderqueer trans woman who gets told they can't be masc or it invalidates their womanhood. here's to every butch trans woman who gets misgendered and told they're "just a man". here's to every bigender trans woman who gets told identifying as a man as well as a women isn't a thing, and that being a man cancels out being a woman.

here's to every trans woman who gets told how to be their own gender.

you are the arbiter of your own lived experience. you don't deserve constant unsolicited advice on your gender. you know what transfemininity looks like for you. you know who you are and you don't deserve a constant barrage of invalidation. society does you so dirty, you deserve so much better. your experience with gender is beautiful and deserve to be talked about, not silenced and spoken over. hang in there. you know who you are. you don't have to listen to anyone else tell you how you identify or who you "Really" are- you're the only one who knows that.

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Reminder it is:

Intersex Day of Remembrance

Check on your intersex friends and family. If you're also intersex, take care of yourself today. Research Herculine Barbin and intersex history. Support organizations local and worldwide that fight for intersex rights. I know there's a lot else going on right now but please don't let today be forgotten.

They want us erased.

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Sorry I’ve just seen a whole lot of 4b shit and, that doesn’t solve anything. It’s just hatred. Not dating or having sex with men won’t fix anything. And so many people on tiktok are falling for it now that Trump won. A lot of these people are trans, like these people hate you. Radfeminism will only screw you over.

I hate you radfems.

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I hate you radfems.

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garden variety conservative transphobia is going to get worse but radical feminism is also going to get worse. if youre a cis women terfs are going to try to recruit you and make you believe that the reason your rights are at stake is because of trans people. they're going to tell you that all men are your violent oppressors and they're going to include trans women in that category. they're gonna tell you about women who are gender traitors and joined the enemy and they're going to point to trans men. don't believe them. trans people are not your enemy, we have no power over you, and we desperately need your support and your solidarity.

be aware of radfem pipelines and dog whistles too. be skeptical of anyone that talks about the divine feminine or correlates birthing, menstruating, or female reproductive organs with womanhood. be especially skeptical of people who use those biological things as reasons to why women are more spiritual, or more in tune with nature, or just that they're better than men (read: anyone they decide is a man)

radical feminism is an expected reactionary outcome from cis women who are being oppressed by conservatives, especially when all they practice is ciscentric, liberal, white feminism. they feel the need to be radicalized but don't have the experience and information to pinpoint the true source of their suffering. trans people are not your enemy, AMAB people are not your enemy, anyone who identifies as a man is not your enemy. we're all being crushed under the same stone

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If you are trans I need you to stay alive.

Stay alive for every other trans person fighting, stay alive for every trans person who is no longer here, and most importantly stay alive for yourself.

They don’t get to erase us! They don’t get to take away our rights, and treat us as less than human. Don’t let them erase us, and don’t let them make you a statistic. Don’t let them win.

Stay alive

If you won’t do it for yourself, then do it for others. Do it out of spite.