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If you are trans I need you to stay alive.

Stay alive for every other trans person fighting, stay alive for every trans person who is no longer here, and most importantly stay alive for yourself.

They don’t get to erase us! They don’t get to take away our rights, and treat us as less than human. Don’t let them erase us, and don’t let them make you a statistic. Don’t let them win.

Stay alive

If you won’t do it for yourself, then do it for others. Do it out of spite.

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Please stop ignoring that white supremacy is a huge core element of radfem/terf ideology.

Like yes they hyperenforce gender roles and stereotypes on all cis women, but it is primarily women of color that they target and accuse of being predatory and "not real women" when they're targeting cis women.

The metrics of "real woman vs trans woman" that terfs love to share are almost all just white eurocentric beauty standards. Small nose, thin fine hair, little/no body hair, petite but somehow curvy, hell I've even seen a post saying skin lightness is a determiner.

Terf/radfem circles are racist at their core. You cannot separate radical feminism from it's violently white supremacist roots. You can't have "anti-racist radical feminism", that's a fucking oxymoron. There is a very clean path from terfs to tradfems/tradwifes, to just straight up conservative republican women.

Yes yes always, terfs are super misogynistic. They hurt all women by forcing them back into the little impossible painful boxes that they claim they're fighting. But one of their biggest targets other than trans women is black women. Not to mention ignoring, discrediting, or just straight up trying to erase all the hard work that black trans women did for queer rights.

Radical feminism is very much transphobic, homophobic, and misogynistic. I'm not saying stop addressing it as such. Don't ever do addressing it as such!

But radical feminism is white supremacy in a coat of pink paint. Please never forget that when talking about how it hurts us all.

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Link for full article below.

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sorry since realizing my gender i have zero tolerance for the whole “man hating” angle of being queer i hate i hate it i hate you. stop. you are hurting people.

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You don't need to know why you're a system. You don't need to know your origin. You're still worthy of acceptance without knowing

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Saw this video on Reddit today of a trans man debating Ben Shapiro re: abortion and trans rights (very based and poggers and managed to shut Benny Boy up which is impressive) (actually I have some quibbles with the trans guy's argument as well but that's neither here nor there)

So I take a looksie at the comments, right? And for SOME FUCKING REASON, there are MULTIPLE people in the comments going "Wow, he totally owned him, but he also missed the opportunity to bring up bathroom bills and ask Ben if he really wanted a manly-looking masculine man like him in the women's room with little girls!"

YOU. PEOPLE. NEED. TO. STOP. If I hear this "gotcha" one more time I am going to retreat into the ocean and become a cuttlefish ffs.

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Oh wonderful! Little tumblr user is discussing the harms of toxic masculinity! They are explaining how it’s harmful and.. and oh no! Little tumblr user is equating all masculinity to toxic masculinity! They… they are saying transmen actively benefit from toxic masculinity… oh little tumblr user no….

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Shoutout to women who are also men and men who are also women btw

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Oh btw this account supports honeybee transfems/coffee bean transmascs.

Whether you are intersex, multigender, plural, or any other reason. It is your identity, nobody else’s. Be proud of who you are.

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Just saw someone saying nonbinary tme people oppress nonbinary tma people 😭

we're just saying whatever now

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non binary, gnc and trans butch lesbians are a blessing. non binary, gnc, and trans femme lesbians are a blessing. the lesbian community is way too full of people who are ready and welcome to exclude every trans person they can. it's been a mad dash for lesbians to gladly regurgitate rad feminism in order to create a "safe" lesbian community. this creates a hostile unsafe environment that benefits no one

where are the trans, genderqueer, intersex and non conforming lesbians supposed to go? why out of any queer identity should the lesbian community be so hostile and unaccepting of genderqueer and trans people? there are trans gay people, trans bisexual people, trans pansexual people, trans asexual people, trans polyamorous people, and so on. why should lesbians specifically be "protected from" trans people? nonbinary people? intersex people?

we cannot allow this to continue. diversity in lesbian, dyke and sapphic spaces is what makes them beautiful and powerful. we must celebrate all lesbians and dykes no matter how much their identities differ from our own. there's no good reason to throw transfem & transmasc butches out for somehow being a "threat". there's no reason to throw out non binary lesbians for not being women. there's no reason to deny trans men a place in the community when we've been here all along

there's no reason to allow people to gladly repeat rad feminist rhetoric for the sake of keeping the lesbian community "safe" (read: pure). this behavior has very dangerous roots. the lesbian community doesn't need to be "protected" (read: cleansed). lesbians are NOT in any danger being around other types of queer people. lesbians do not need to be protected from the world. lesbians are not in danger the second they're around a different type of queer person (or even cishet people).

encourage and embrace lesbian diversity. our community is built off the backs of genderqueer, genderfluid, gnc, transfeminine, transmasculine, non binary, intersex, two-spirit, transsexual, and ftm butch lesbians. all the lesbians that came before us were just as diverse as the ones we find now. we are stronger the more diverse we are. more lesbians is always a good thing. celebrate the fact that there are even more dykes than you initially realized. more dykes is always a good thing

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people refusing to accept pre or never transition, "loud", dominant, assertive, gender non conforming, and even masculine trans women because they're a "threat" to you... i see you, only wanting to accept trans women if we take up as little space as possible. we can see right through you

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The specifics of how Tumblr forces genderqueer and non-binary people into boxes changes by the year.

But it always comes back to Boy-Box or Girl-Box.

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a lot of you hate men and masculinity and it REALLY shows in the way that you treat trans men and transmasc people btw

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Begging you to stop degendering multigender people.

Begging you to stop using they/them when I’ve told you my pronouns are he/she.

Begging you to stop acting like I can’t relate to women experiences because I’m a man.

Begging you to stop acting like I can’t relate to men experiences because I’m a woman.

Begging you to treat me like my genders.

Begging you to realize the girl part of boygirl is as trans as the boy part.

Begging you to stop grouping multigender people as girl multigender or boy multigender.

Begging you to recognize multigender people who aren’t binary genders.

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20 plurality lukewarm takes

(aka I don’t consider these to all be hot takes, because some of them are, in my opinion, warranting of a “well, duh”.)

Not every system has to be miserable to be valid

Endogenic systems are valid

Traumagenic but nondisordered systems are valid

Mixed origins systems are valid

Systems who have no fucking clue where their system came from are valid

Tiny systems are valid

Gigantic systems are valid

Systems that are all Brainmade are valid

Systems that are mostly introjects are valid

Introjects are not their source

Systems whose alters are different as night and day are valid

Systems whose alters are similar are valid

Anti-endos are ableist

Willogenics are not “roleplaying DID”

IT IS NOT FAKING A DISORDER IF YOU ARE NOT CLAIMING TO HAVE A DISORDER.

Plurality should be more informed about— it should be normalized to be accommodating of plurals

Final fusion is not a necessary step of the recovery process

Being a system can be hard. Being a system can be happy. The two can coexist.

You should always respect what different systems want to be called; some like alters. Some like parts. Some like headmates. Whatever their preference, respect it.

HEADMATES WHO SEE THEMSELVES AS PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE.