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If You’re Wondering If He Loves You, These 9 Signs Will Tell You

If You’re Wondering If He Loves You, These 9 Signs Will Tell You

Your friends tell you that your boyfriend treats you very well and that he’s always there when you need him, but you just can’t seem to be able to fall in love with him as quickly as they did when they started dating their boyfriends. Is he really the right guy for you?

Or are there simply too many red flags popping up in your relationship to let yourself fall in love fully? Here are nine signs that will help you realize if your guy really loves you or if he’s just using you.

Talks To You About Future Plans

Men who love you will talk about future plans with you. He may not be ready to set a date just yet, but he’ll be interested in planning for it. If he tells you his goals and he wants your input on them — that means he needs you. Men who love their partners want to be around them for as long as possible, so talking about your future together is an indicator of his commitment to a relationship with you.

Talking about us time versus me time is an indication of how much time and energy they’ll put into a relationship. For example, if he asks you what kinds of vacations or activities you like or would like to try — and then gives that some thought himself before coming back to tell you what he thinks might be fun — chances are good he’s thinking about building something special with you.

Also, when men really care about someone, they have a tendency to over-help or do too much: driving all over town looking for just the right thing for their loved one; doing endless errands without letting her lift a finger; etc. When women start expressing frustration at these attempts at service (especially if things are starting to pile up), men need to hear more than stop being helpful. Instead, encourage him by saying things like Thank you so much!

Is Jealous

It’s natural to want to be someone’s one and only. There are few feelings worse than discovering that your man has been talking to other women behind your back. Jealousy could mean that he feels threatened by other women or is afraid of losing you; if he feels secure in your relationship, he shouldn’t get upset when he sees you talking to other men at a party.

If you notice jealousy is an issue in your relationship, try reassuring him by pointing out how much fun it is to go on double dates or hanging out with his friends as a couple.

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Does Nice Things For Others With No Expectation Of Something In Return

When you’re dating someone and wondering if he loves you (or she does), it’s important to pay attention to those little gestures of kindness. A boyfriend or girlfriend who is just using you for your money will make sure that everything appears on paper as though you’re both in a fair relationship, but their actions won’t match up with what they say.

When someone has genuine feelings for you, they’ll do nice things for others as an act of generosity and because they know how to make others happy. At its core, love is not just about receiving something; it’s about being able to give something.

Accuses You Of Cheating

This isn’t necessarily a deal-breaker in and of itself. However, if your partner regularly accuses you of cheating on him or her (or you accuse your partner), it might be time to reevaluate whether it’s really worth all that stress. After all, being constantly suspicious is stressful and rarely ends well.

And if he or she always sees you as a potential cheat—even when there’s no evidence of cheating—it might mean that he doesn’t trust you and isn’t respecting you. And yes, we said he or she. Anyone can accuse his or her significant other of cheating; it has nothing to do with gender.

Values Your Opinions

It’s a common misconception that men only love women who listen to them. It may sound somewhat sexist (and we’re not saying it isn’t) but men don’t need you to be their therapist; they just want you to make them feel like they matter. No one likes talking to someone who doesn’t care about what they have to say, so show your partner that you value his opinion by asking him how he feels and actually listening (not just waiting for your turn to talk). We promise he’ll appreciate it more than you know. In fact, if there’s anything men crave more than affection, it might be appreciation.

Once again, sounds slightly chauvinistic (but whatever), but remember: Ladies first! What woman wants to jump into bed with her man every night if she knows she’s going to get ignored? And after you’ve been dating long enough, sex won’t always trump conversation as much as it used to…be patient. You may find yourself having some pretty in-depth conversations before too long.

Flirts With Other People In Front Of You

Men who are only in it for a quick fling are actually more respectful. They know their limits and don’t go too far. A man who flirts with other women right in front of you is not ready to settle down. No matter how much he says he loves you, or calls you his woman—if he doesn’t respect your space, then he is not truly committed to a long-term relationship with you. Trust me on that one!

Flirting with other people makes him feel powerful. I’ve been doing research on what men really want from relationships, one of which is power and superiority over other women. By flirting with others around you, he’s subconsciously letting you know that even though he’s with you now – there are always going to be others out there vying for his attention as well.

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Makes Time For You After A Long Day At Work

It doesn’t matter if he has to leave early for a business trip—he’ll still find time for you. Maybe it means you get some time on your own to unwind after a long day at work or go out with friends before he picks you up later that night.

The point is, he takes care of his obligations and then makes sure he’s with you. This will be true from beginning to end (i.e., if there are children involved). He commits—no matter what. A man who loves you will try as hard as possible to keep his commitments and make time for what’s important: being with you! And guess what?

Gives More Than He Takes

Guys may not always be able to give you as much affection as you want or as much attention as you’d like. But if he does things like staying up with you late at night when you have a bad headache, or listening to your work problems over dinner and offering advice, that’s huge. It means he wants to see you succeed and will do whatever it takes to help. A sign of love is someone who actually listens and cares about what you have to say—not just in bed but in life too.

So even if he doesn’t spend every waking moment doting on you, keep an eye out for whether his words are show-don’t-tell. And by that we mean: Does he talk more about his own interests than yours? Does he neglect to ask questions when talking with you? Chances are, yes—and that’s a big warning sign that’s definitely worth keeping an eye on.

Holds Your Hand

There are lots of ways to show affection, but nothing says love like a simple touch. It doesn’t matter if it’s in public or if you’re just hanging out with your friends—if he holds your hand for no reason at all it means he cares about you.

That might sound like a little thing, but there’s a lot more to physical contact than casual observers realize. Holding hands is actually much more intimate than people think; in fact, it’s one of two things you can do (along with kissing) that sparks activity in those feel-good dopamine receptors. No wonder holding hands leads to better relationships and overall happiness!

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