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btw your homophobic republican grandma is not a radfem. no, the conservative woman talking about “womanly brain” & being explicitly anti-abortion isn’t a radfem, either. no… the spiritual woman telling young girls to “return to their divine feminine” & selling out cheap dating instructions & “tips” & promoting the idea of “female-specific” emotions, thoughts, and feelings, most likely isn’t a radfem. your radical christian mom that disowned you for being trans isn’t a radfem. please. PLEASE LEARN what radical feminism is. i am BEGGING you.

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La gente que menosprecia el feminismo radical de esa manera burlona y polarizante que parece reducirlo a poco más que los berrinches de mujeres blancas sin nada que hacer siempre me ha parecido muy misógina. Ahora que salió la noticia de las acusaciones de vilencia sexual de Neil Gaiman, no puedo evitar pensar en cómo él siempre se posicionó como uno de esos críticos de Rowling que iba más allá de expresar su desacuerdo con la teoría feminista radical y se centraba en pintarla a ella como una histérica y a él mismo como un caballero andante de la rectitud moral.

Por muchos años lo leí y lo sentía mi heroe y mi principal inspiración. Es frustrante ver mis propios cuentos y dibujos y pensar que incluso si nunca más volviese a leerlo a él, hay una partecita de él en mi. También es extraño ver que en las denuncias de violación y abuso hay testimonios de experimentación sexual que tendía hacía lo queer, el fetichismo y una supuesta emancipación sexual anti-puritana. Es extraño porque la sexualidad oscura de los textos de Gaiman me ayudó mucho a sentirme menos alien en mi propia sexualidad. Cuando era una adolescente entrando a la pubertad no tenía referencias que mostrasen a mujeres jóvenes deseando, sólo mujeres jóvenes amando, algo muy noble desde cierto punto de vista, pero que desde otro ángulo tendía a ser tan puritano que me hacía sentir grotesca. Leer los cuentos y novelas de fantasía de Gaiman, tan románticas y tiernas como lo podía ser Narnia o El Señor de los Anillos, pero que además incluían escenas explícitas de sexo, deseo y hasta de experiencias no normativas, ya sea la homosexualidad o el fetichismo, se sentía recomfortante. Lo podía interpretar como las páginas del libro diciéndome "eres normal, tu escritor favorito que es tan bueno y noble lo demuestra".

Pero cuando crecí y empecé a tener parejas reales que iban más allá de la fantasía de las novelas me comencé a dar cuenta de que el sexo sí necesitaba ese lado algo crítico y sentimental que en mi adolescencia había rechazado. Porque cuando no lo tenía me sentía agredida, herida, despreciada.

Gaiman se ha manifestado tantas veces como un defensor de todo aquello que no es normativo, lo lgbt, lo queer, incluso los fetiches eróticos, la fealdad física (en contraste con los estándares de belleza) que parecía ser el autor más noble habido y por haber... pero su posicionamiento político ha sido tan radical, que a veces ha caído en la burla y el menosprecio hacía quienes no comparten sus opiniones. Va más allá de estar en desacuerdo, como decía antes, porque llega al extremo de tachar de ridículas a las mujeres que no comparten su postura polítca.

Ahora salen muchas mujeres a denunciarlo y no puedo decir que me sorprenda, porque pareciera que la evidencia de que este horror es real estaba plasmada en las mismas historias que me hacían sentir tan comprendida y aceptada.

Es dificil creer que la postura ideológica de Gaiman y sus agresiones sexuales están desvinculadas, porque su postura política en los últimos años ha expresado más y más rechazo por la autnomía de las mujeres, al mismo tiempo que sus acciones personales han atropellado más y más a las jovencitas que llegaban a él con ilusión en sus ojos.

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Femininity has two meanings:

- The social construct imposed on the female body

- The things done or lived by any female person

The first one, for example, is when a child is forced to wear pink without her knowledge because she was born with female body.

The second one is assuming that blue is as much of a femenine color just for the fact that some women choose to wear it.

How we interpret this word implies a completely different debate when we ask the question "what things are femenine and which are not?"

So... Are bloody, gross, and painful periods femenine or not?

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Demanding that everyone around you "treats you as the opposite sex" implies that you know that people treat women and men differently and that you want them to keep being sexist.

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(Lenin’s wife, for those that don’t know)

can’t believe nothing’s changed in over a hundred years

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I think it also relates to the fact that "woman" is seen as dependant of other categories of men, and never as a category in itself. Women are never seen as an autonomous social class. We're always seen as part of whatever social class the men arround us are part of.

despise this trend of acting like black men are inherently victims because they are affected by racism when they are just as much misogynistic and oppressing women as white men. if you were actually anti racist you would center black women and not yap about misandry and act like misandry is racist because it also „affects“ black men. racialised fetishisation and the othering and dehumanisation of black men is not misandry, its racism. which is evidenced by the fact black women too are fetishised, othered and dehumanised this way. meanwhile the same people act like white women are not victims of misogyny because of white privilege. what this really shows is that nobody takes misogyny seriously; if they did, they would recognise how black women are especially affected by it and victimised also at the hands of black men. when they imagine misandrists, they must imagine a white woman or they would not act like misandry is an actual issue. like this whole „women who hate men are racist because some men are not white“ argument only works if you only consider white women. what if a black woman hates men? is she racist? lmao

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Some of you genuinely think a woman can be so privilleged that she stops being oppressed on the basis of being a woman, and that a man can be so oppressed he can stop having access to male privilege. And that's not how it works.

It's especially scary from those of you who insist loudly on being intersectional liberal socialists etc because I'm forced to worry about what else you think works that way.

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Recuerdo que en el 2020, antes del confinamiento por la pandemia, las noticias se sentían igual de terribles que las de hoy en día. Recuerdo haber visto las fotos censuradas de Ingrid, y sentir que la vida no tenía sentido, que todo era odio y crueldad y desesperación.

La marcha violeta, el bloque negro, las miles de mujeres que parecían Jacarandas se sintió como un abrazo. Como que había esperanza. Como que podíamos luchar.

Por qué será que habiendo tantos horrores hoy en día se siente una impotencia infinitamente peor que la de entonces?

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Its sad that liberal feminists will see no problems with this behavior.

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Different eras have found different ways to classify pushback against misogyny as a sign of mental illness

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@ all my vampire friends who worry they aren’t “real vampires”: you are vlad

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from the abhorrent sex crimes in south korea, to femicide in the united kingdom, to women and girls in afghanistan losing the right to be seen and heard in public. misogyny is the most prevalent form of oppression around the world, yet, is the one that is the least taken seriously by governments and society as a whole.

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Also they share this idea that being of the opposite gender is the same as rejecting one's birth sex, but... No cis man could ever empathize with their experience

Tragic that these women think that the reality of female puberty being traumatic is a) an uncommon experience and not actually the norm for girls b) reflective of a personal failing and not a deeply sexist society and c) evidence that they need to attempt to change their biology!

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Regarding JK Rowling

My issue with the radfem/trans discourse has always been how trans adyacent viewpoints build ecochambers where discussion is frowned upon. I've always hated the idea that you either have to move towards conservative spaces to express your ideas or be shuned away from liberal spaces if you dare criticize trans activism or queer theory. Specially when conservative spaces only let you express your opinon when it is about lgbt issues, but you better keep quiet about abortion, femicide, glass cieling or rape. I've always supported the idea of constructive criticism and compassion towards any oppressed community, but hated the idea that we can't have mature debates when we disagree about queer topics.

Being honest, when the whole olympics debacle started, I never agreed with her takes on Imane Khelif. One of the main radfem arguments I agree with is the idea that masculinity in women shouldn't be seen as a motive to push them to transition, that women are diverse and that we don't owe femininity to no one, that masculine women shouldn't be forced to identify as men just because they don't fit in with patriarchal standards. So treating a masculine boxer as a man because of physical traits that were mostly talked about as gossip and not as fact always felt anti radfem to me.

But I hate that JK Rowling never got the chance to actually debate her points within a feminist and left leaning space, I hate that the solution to the discomfort that she made so many people feel just got resolved through censorship instead of dialogue. Instead of actually debating with other feminist about these issues and questioning why these topics are so contentious to many of us, public feminists like her just get shuned away from any mature conversation.

And at the end of the day, echo chambers are never a liberal or left wing concept. "Political correctness" is just a neoliberal tool to make sure people won't stop buying products because of political debates. The only reason Rowling is being pushed into silence is because Warner is getting worried their products won't sell well. No one really cares about political correctness in the sense of empathy, critical thinking or protection of vulnerable groups, at the end of the day it's just a tool to make brands seem safe.