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[yourpreciousrose]

Did you know that you can believe systemic misandry on its own isn't real while also believing marginalized men are in fact oppressed in a unique way due to their manhood intersecting with their marginalized status... woa.. waow.. wow... and.. maybe they should have words for that..

Not to mention. Not allowing marginalized men to have words for specific kinds of bigotry they face further perpetuates the patriarchal idea that male experiences are 'the default'.

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It was an important step for trans communities when the popular understanding of someone being trans shifted from "person who transitions sex and/or gender" to "person whose gender differs from the one assigned at birth" to leave transmedicalims in the dirt and be inclusive of "non-transitioning" trans people but i really think it's about time for a shift to "Being trans is a subversion of what gender is expected of you by cisnormative society" (as @status-quo-hater put it) to stop assigning significance to assigned sex/gender and be inclusive of trans intersex experiences that don't fit the current binary many perisex trans people cling to of "transfem = amab & transmasc = afab"

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Yes, absolutely dismantle the gender binary. BUT dont forget to dismantle the sex binary too. Intersex people exist and they regularly get ignored in both queer and non-queer spaces. There are NOT only two sexes, and us perisex trans people CAN NOT forget that or else we will become like our oppressors, people who say there are only two genders and that what you are born as is what you must stay as. Intersexism must be stopped.

Love you all and have fun destroying society’s utterly limiting expectations of our minds and bodies 🫰

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Woke up to "well intersex people need to work on being less transmisogynistic if they want us to be less intersexist" and I'm going to fucking puke acid in someone's eyes I swear

Us being "transmisogynistic" is saying intersex trans people (women, men, and beyond) can look different from perisex trans people in lived experience and physical attributes and that we can identify however the fuck we want regardless of what perisex trans ppl think. Yall being intersexist is upholding the medical and social eradication of intersex people. Fuck all the way off.

You all are afraid of what has happened to us happening to you. So you uphold our eradication hoping you won't be fucking next, thinking we have power over you. Intersex people survey to have worse quality of life overall in every aspect than perisex trans people of every comparible group. Y'all are fucked towards intersex people and do not want to do better.

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The progression from "I don't think afab people can be transfem" to "I don't think intersex people can be trans" is absolutely fascinating to watch unfold

Alternatively, it can also go from "I don't think afab people can be transfem" to "Intersex people existing is an inherent threat to trans people" which is scary to watch unfold

Like the amount of shit I've gotten about me "sounding like conservative propaganda" because I've talked about my experiences with being coersively reassigned male and being put on hormones. Or me having a complicated relationship with my sex and gender being used to call me a T*RF.

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edit: forgot to say this when first writing the post, but this method is not viable for folks on t!

edit 2: perhaps “not viable” wasn’t the right way to phrase it i just want to make people aware. do what you want just be careful and stay aware of the risks 👍

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intersex childrens book

I have been working on my intersex childrens book this year and it's almost ready to be published, I'm worried though bc it will be banned 100%. I also need the funds to help pay to get as many copies as I can before they prevent that from happening.

if you have the means to and would like to support an intersex author, I have pins/stickers available, I have art available, and I also have donations open.

its also intersex day of solidarity/rememberance so...

also if you want notifications about my book bc you're interested in purchasing it, you can sign up on my website

[yourpreciousrose]

"your absence from historical records is hilarious" is the most vile and disturbing thing that you could say about any group of marginalized people, yet someone really thought that was okay to say about trans men. absolutely revolting.

[yourpreciousrose]

Perisex people making AGAB synonymous with a person's "actual sex"/body parts has been a horrendous blight on recent queer theory.

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I hope this year when policy comes down hurting intersex people that the rest of the queer community will stand with us and protect us. we are not treated well by the government and especially not by the right wing government. they do not like us. when they create exceptions in trans policy for us that is not to help intersex people it is to allow our continued abuse- they do so because they hate us. when they don't create exceptions for us they are also doing so because they hate us. I am sure they will also pass bills targeting exclusively intersex people. we are not immune here, we have targets on our backs too.

the intersex community is small and invisible. we have very few allies both inside and outside of the queer community. many people don't even know what the word "intersex" means. we desperately need solidarity.

so build connections with intersex people, check in on your intersex friends, and most of all fucking stand with us

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Can perisex people actually shut up for 2 seconds instead of invalidating, harassing and denying intersex people the simple basic function of acknowledging intersex isn't RARE. Every time one of you calls us "DSD" or similar words an angel should come down and throw a bag of hammers at you. Acknowledging PCOS is under the intersex umbrella does not mean we're calling you broken women, it doesn't mean we're calling you men, it doesn't mean you're disordered now, it doesn't mean you aren't cis. intersex people can be whatever they want, cis, trans, both, neither, etc.

You don't have to personally identify as intersex for you to let others exist with the term and community. I'm going to combust! focus on other things that isn't chanting your intersexist views!

"Woah you're so aggressive" whenever we try to be calm, gentle and patient we get verbally stomped on or straight up told we shouldn't exist. i think its time we got mean - 🪽

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“straight people don’t belong at pride” is incredibly intersexist as its core and no one talks about it enough

[yourpreciousrose]

Reminder it is:

Intersex Day of Remembrance

Check on your intersex friends and family. If you're also intersex, take care of yourself today. Research Herculine Barbin and intersex history. Support organizations local and worldwide that fight for intersex rights. I know there's a lot else going on right now but please don't let today be forgotten.

They want us erased.

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I haven’t seen a post considering the impact of the election on intersex people, so I’m making my own.

If you’re intersex, live in the US, and on hormones, please remember that this legislation will likely impact you, too, even if you’re not trans.

Our bodily autonomy and ability to decide what our bodies look like and what hormones we run on will be threatened the moment a doctor thinks you’d be better on another hormone. It doesn’t matter what your AGAB is or how long you’ve been taking them. All that matters is what the doctor thinks. Just in case, stock up. Make sure you have enough to last.

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[yourpreciousrose]

things i experience or have experienced due to being and growing up intersex

painful intercourse, to the point there are times i cant ignore it and we have to stop, this leads to me feeling insecure and feeling like im disappointing my partners.

extremely painful periods, to the point i went to the hospital almost every time i got one

intersexism and internalized intersexism

i grew up with no gender marker on any of my legal documents

painful cysts on my ovaries

being made fun of by sexual partners for having abnormal genitalia

having intimate photos of myself shared because AND I QUOTE “you just look weird down there”

never feeling like i fit in with the girls or boys

not feeling like im trans enough because i was never female to start so im technically not even FTM trans

having to argue with doctors because they used to acknowledge i was intersex and refuse to diagnose me as such

people not understanding when i say im intersex and having to explain my diagnosis every single time because people wont let it be at just “im intersex, that means im not male or female” and they always want more details

people staring at my genitalia, people taking photos up my skirts and asking to see my body

being made fun of when i was little for being too masculine and having male features

being excluded from the LGBT community

long story short i get stared at every time i go out all because i have tits a dick and im currently growing facial hair.

shits rough out here i just wanted to being awareness to some of the things intersex people go through on a regular basis.

feel free to add on or make your own post :3

[yourpreciousrose]

I swear we trans and intersex folks could be such AMAZING allies for each other, because so many of us are intersex and trans, but first we gotta have this whole discussion (which we've done ad nauseum), about how it's not okay to co-opt intersex lived experiences to justify or explain being trans.

Well, we need trans people, especially the youth, to effing listen to us about it, because CO-OPTING INTERSEX MAKES YOU LESS SAFE AS A TRANS PERSON, INCLUDING IN MEDICAL SITUATIONS BECAUSE HOLY CRAP WE FACE A LOT OF DISCRIMINATION THERE,.TOO. HEAR US WHEN WE SAY IT DOES NOT HELP YOU, AND ACTIVELY HARMS US.